Irretrievable Breakdown: All Things Divorce

Who Pays for College After Divorce in Connecticut? Educational Support Orders Explained

Matthew Dolan — Fri, 19 Jun 2026 23:27:20 GMT

In this episode of Irretrievable Breakdown: All Things Divorce, Matt Dolan and Nicole Bikakis of Dolan Divorce Lawyers, PLLC discuss how Connecticut courts handle college expenses after divorce, including educational support orders in divorce, custody, and child support cases.

Many parents assume that college contribution only comes up in divorce cases, but Connecticut courts may also address post-secondary educational support when parents were never married or when a child support case is involved. Matt and Nicole explain when a court can order parents to contribute toward a child’s college education, vocational school, tuition, room and board, books, and related expenses.

This episode covers the key legal standard: whether it is more likely than not that the parents would have contributed to college if the family had remained intact. Matt and Nicole also discuss why it is important to preserve the court’s jurisdiction over college expenses during a divorce or custody case, especially when children are still young and college decisions are years away.

Listeners will learn about important limits on Connecticut educational support orders, including the cap based on the cost of attending the University of Connecticut, the age limit of 23, the four-year undergraduate limit, and why these orders generally do not apply to graduate school. Matt and Nicole also explain how courts may consider 529 accounts, college savings, scholarships, financial aid, the child’s academic standing, each parent’s financial circumstances, and whether both parents were included in the college decision-making process.

Whether you are going through a Connecticut divorce, negotiating a custody or child support agreement, saving for your child’s college education, or facing a dispute over who should pay for college, this episode offers practical guidance on what parents should know before college costs become an issue.

Learn more about Dolan Divorce Lawyers, PLLC:
Website: https://dolanfamilylaw.com/
Contact: https://dolanfamilylaw.com/contact-us/
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Email: info@dolanfamilylaw.com
Phone: 203-902-8395

This podcast is for informational purposes only and does not constitute legal advice. Listening to this podcast does not create an attorney-client relationship. For advice about your specific situation, contact a qualified family law attorney.

Best Interest of the Child in Connecticut Custody Cases: What Judges Consider

Matthew Dolan — Fri, 12 Jun 2026 04:24:29 GMT

In this episode of Irretrievable Breakdown: All Things Divorce, Matt Dolan and Nicole Bikakis of Dolan Divorce Lawyers, PLLC explain what “best interest of the child” means in a Connecticut divorce or custody case.

When Connecticut judges decide legal custody, physical custody, parenting time, or custody modifications, they use the best interest of the child standard. Matt and Nicole discuss how courts may evaluate a child’s physical and emotional safety, developmental needs, relationship with each parent, sibling relationships, school and community stability, each parent’s ability to meet the child’s needs, and each parent’s willingness to support the child’s relationship with the other parent.

This episode also explains the difference between legal custody and physical custody. Legal custody involves major decisions about a child’s health care, education, religion, and general welfare. Physical custody involves the parenting schedule and where the child lives. Matt and Nicole discuss how Connecticut courts may approach both issues when parents cannot reach an agreement.

Listeners will also learn why a child’s preference may matter, especially as the child gets older and more mature, but why children do not simply get to decide custody. The episode also covers the role of a Guardian ad Litem, family relations evaluations, custody agreements, court orders, contempt issues, and why keeping children out of parental conflict is so important.

Whether you are going through a Connecticut divorce, custody dispute, parenting plan negotiation, or post-judgment custody modification, this episode offers practical insight into what judges may consider when deciding what is in a child’s best interest.

Learn more about Dolan Divorce Lawyers, PLLC:
Website: https://dolanfamilylaw.com/
Contact: https://dolanfamilylaw.com/contact-us/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dolandivorcelawyerspllc7203
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dolanfamilylaw/
Email: info@dolanfamilylaw.com
Phone: 203-902-8395

This podcast is for informational purposes only and does not constitute legal advice. Listening to this podcast does not create an attorney-client relationship. For advice about your specific situation, contact a qualified family law attorney.

Should You Move Out During Divorce? What to Know Before Leaving the House

Matthew Dolan — Fri, 05 Jun 2026 07:25:00 GMT

In this episode of Irretrievable Breakdown: All Things Divorce, Matt Dolan and Nicole Bikakis of Dolan Divorce Lawyers, PLLC discuss one of the most common questions people face during a Connecticut divorce: Should you stay in the house or move out while your divorce is pending?

Moving out during divorce can feel like the easiest way to reduce stress, avoid conflict, or create space. But before leaving the marital home, it is important to understand how that decision may affect custody, parenting time, marital home equity, property division, financial obligations, temporary orders, and your ability to keep the house after divorce.

Matt and Nicole explain why both spouses generally have the right to remain in the marital home while a divorce is pending unless there is a court order saying otherwise. They also discuss why changing the locks, forcing a spouse out, or making the home unbearable can create serious legal problems.

This episode also covers how moving out may impact child custody in Connecticut, especially if there is no written parenting plan or court order in place. If you want shared parenting time, primary physical custody, or the ability to keep the marital home after divorce, moving out too soon can create a new status quo that may affect your case.

Listeners will also learn about the financial side of leaving the house during divorce, including mortgage payments, utilities, household expenses, automatic orders, renting a second home, and why it is important to have a financial plan before moving out.

Matt and Nicole also discuss important exceptions involving domestic violence, safety concerns, restraining orders, exclusive use of the marital home, and emotional well-being. In some cases, moving out may be the safest or healthiest option, but it should be done carefully and with legal advice.

Whether you are considering divorce, already in the divorce process, worried about custody, or unsure whether to leave the marital home, this episode offers practical guidance on what to consider before making a major decision.

How to Tell Your Spouse You Want a Divorce: Protecting Your Kids and Your Future

Matthew Dolan — Fri, 29 May 2026 21:40:22 GMT

In this episode of Irretrievable Breakdown: All Things Divorce, Matt Dolan and Nicole Bikakis of Dolan Divorce Lawyers, PLLC discuss one of the hardest parts of the divorce process: how to tell your spouse you want a divorce and how to share the news with your children.

For anyone considering divorce in Connecticut, this episode explains why the way you start the conversation can affect the tone of the entire divorce. Matt and Nicole discuss when it may make sense to speak with a Connecticut divorce lawyer, therapist, financial advisor, or discernment counselor before making a final decision. They also explain why a divorce attorney is not there to decide whether you should stay married, but to help you understand what the divorce process may look like legally and financially.

The conversation covers practical guidance for telling your spouse you want a divorce, including why it is important to avoid threats, avoid serving divorce papers at work when possible, be thoughtful about timing, and understand when safety concerns, domestic violence, financial dissipation, or custody concerns may require a different legal strategy. Matt and Nicole also discuss automatic orders in Connecticut divorce, including protections related to marital assets and removing children from the state.

This episode also focuses on how to tell your children about divorce in a careful, age-appropriate way. Matt and Nicole explain why parents should avoid putting children in the middle, avoid using children as messengers, reassure children that the divorce is not their fault, and work together whenever possible before sharing the news. They also discuss how involving a therapist, teacher, or other trusted professional may help parents protect their children during a divorce.

Whether you are preparing to file for divorce, considering mediation, worried about custody, or trying to understand the right way to begin a Connecticut divorce, this episode offers a practical and compassionate discussion about how to approach difficult conversations with your spouse and children.

The Myth of No-Fault Divorce in Connecticut: Why Fault Can Still Matter

Matthew Dolan — Thu, 21 May 2026 21:23:57 GMT

In this episode of Irretrievable Breakdown: All Things Divorce, Matt Dolan and Nicole Bikakis of Dolan Divorce Lawyers, PLLC discuss the myth of no-fault divorce in Connecticut and explain why “no fault” does not always mean fault is irrelevant.

Many people assume that because Connecticut is a no-fault divorce state, judges cannot consider why the marriage ended. Matt and Nicole break down what no-fault divorce actually means, including irretrievable breakdown of the marriage, and explain how Connecticut courts may still consider the cause of the breakdown of the marriage when deciding issues like property division, alimony, marital assets, and spousal support.

This episode also explores how fault-based issues may affect a Connecticut divorce, including adultery, infidelity, dissipation of marital funds, substance abuse, gambling, abandonment, emotional abuse, physical abuse, and financial misconduct. Matt and Nicole discuss why evidence matters, how judges may view bad behavior during a marriage, and why fault does not always “move the needle” as much as people expect.

Listeners will also learn why most divorce filings in Connecticut still cite irretrievable breakdown, even when there are serious issues in the marriage, and why starting a divorce with aggressive fault allegations can increase conflict, attorney’s fees, and emotional stress. The conversation also covers why settlement is often preferable to trial, especially because judges have broad discretion and outcomes can be difficult to predict.

Whether you are considering divorce, dealing with adultery or financial misconduct, concerned about alimony, or trying to understand how fault can affect divorce in Connecticut, this episode offers a practical and honest look at what no-fault divorce really means.

Prenups Explained: Separate Property, Alimony, and Divorce Protection

Matthew Dolan — Fri, 15 May 2026 23:45:54 GMT

In this episode of Irretrievable Breakdown: All Things Divorce, Matt Dolan and Nicole Bikakis of Dolan Divorce Lawyers, PLLC discuss prenuptial agreements in Connecticut and what couples should know before signing a prenup.

A Connecticut prenuptial agreement can play an important role in divorce and family law planning. Matt and Nicole explain what a prenup can cover, including property division, premarital assets, inheritances, family business interests, debt, and alimony. They also discuss what a prenup generally cannot decide in advance, including child custody and child support, because those issues are based on the best interests of the child at the time of divorce or separation.

This episode also covers who may benefit from a premarital agreement, including people entering a second marriage, individuals with children from a prior relationship, those with significant premarital property, family wealth, trusts, business interests, or major debt. Matt and Nicole also talk about the difference between a thoughtful prenup and a risky or one-sided agreement, including concerns around alimony waivers, financial imbalance, and agreements that keep everything separate during the marriage.

Listeners will also learn about common enforceability issues under Connecticut family law, including full financial disclosure, voluntary agreement, independent legal counsel, timing before the wedding, and whether a prenup could be challenged as unconscionable.

Whether you are considering marriage, protecting inherited assets, planning around a family business, or trying to understand how a prenup may affect divorce in Connecticut, this episode offers a practical conversation about what prenuptial agreements are designed to do — and what couples should be careful about before signing.

This podcast is for informational purposes only and does not constitute legal advice. Listening does not create an attorney-client relationship.