In this episode of Uncontainable, we’re talking about the difference between being the person everyone depends on and being the leader who teaches people how to think for themselves.

Sometimes the best thing you can say when someone comes to you with a problem isn’t the answer—it’s:

“What do you think?”

We’re getting into how constantly rescuing people can unintentionally create dependence, why leaders can become the bottleneck on their own teams, and what it looks like to coach people into confidence instead of making yourself indispensable.

Because leadership isn’t about being the smartest person in the room.

It’s about making the room stronger because you were in it.

🎙️ Uncontainable with Jessica Pilgrim

In this episode of Uncontainable, we’re talking about the uncomfortable truth that time passing isn’t an apology.

Distance doesn’t equal accountability. Silence doesn’t equal growth. And just because months—or even years—have passed doesn’t mean the hurt magically disappeared or that someone automatically gets access to you again.

We’re talking forgiveness, boundaries, reconciliation, and the difference between genuinely healing and simply pretending something never happened because enough time has gone by.

You can forgive someone and still require change.
You can love someone and still have boundaries.
You can heal without reopening a door God helped you close.

And sometimes the healthiest thing you can do is stop measuring healing by whether a relationship went back to the way it was.

Because time can create distance.

But time passing isn’t an apology.

🔥 Stay wild. Stay honest. Stay Uncontainable.

A quick note before you listen: We experienced some unexpected audio issues during this recording, but this conversation with Pamela was simply too good not to share. You may notice a few changes in audio quality along the way. Thanks for hanging with us—and trust us, the message is worth it.

What if the question keeping you stuck isn’t the answer you’re looking for—but the question you keep asking?

In this episode of Uncontainable, Jessica sits down with Pamela Jean Brady, CEO and founder of A New Life Coaching Co., entrepreneur, business owner of more than 30 years, and High Performance Coach.

Pamela shares the powerful message behind her new book, Why Not Me? The Question That Changes Everything: the question you repeatedly ask yourself becomes the direction of your life.

For years, we can live in “Why me?”—Why did this happen to me? Why is my life this way? Why can’t I move forward? But what happens when we change the question?

Why NOT me?

Pamela and Jessica talk about the meaning we attach to our stories, getting unstuck, doing the work to recognize the beliefs that have held us back, and choosing to live the life God has for us.

Pamela’s message is simple:

“If I can do it, so can you. We all have a story, and the meaning we attach to our story is a game changer.”

📖 Why Not Me? The Question That Changes Everything releases September 15, 2026, along with a companion Journal and Workbook—making it a great option for individual growth, small groups, or your next book club.

Connect with Pamela Jean Brady:
🌐 pamelajeananewlife.com
📧 pamelajean.anewlife@gmail.com
📚 Find Why Not Me?, the Journal, and the Workbook on Amazon beginning September 15.

If you've been living in “Why me?”, maybe it's time to ask a different question:

Why not me? 🔥

In this episode of Uncontainable, Bethany shares a story that isn’t neat, polished, or perfect—it’s real. From growing up fast and surviving an abusive marriage to miscarriage, single motherhood, unhealthy relationships, alcohol, questioning God, and trying to numb pain she didn’t know how to heal, there were seasons when Bethany wondered if her life would ever look different.

But her story didn’t end there.

We talk about what it actually looks like to rebuild your life, the difference between numbing pain and healing it, learning to forgive yourself, breaking generational cycles, redefining family, and finding your way back to God when you’ve spent a long time wondering where He was.

Bethany also shares the shift that changed the way she walks through hard seasons: instead of only asking, “Why is this happening to me?” she began asking, “Lord, what are You teaching me through this?”

This isn’t a story about a perfect life after pain.

It’s a story about redemption.

It’s about looking back at the darkest chapters and realizing God was still writing—even when you couldn’t see Him.

If you’re currently living in a chapter you desperately wish you could skip, this episode is for you.

Your past can be part of your story without getting the final say in your future.

Before you label someone as lazy, unmotivated, difficult, or “just a bad employee,” there’s an uncomfortable question every leader needs to ask:

What if I’m part of the problem?

In this episode of Uncontainable, Jessica dives into what it really means to create an environment where people can grow—without lowering expectations or eliminating accountability.

Great leadership isn’t about rescuing people from every failure. It’s about providing clarity, training, honest feedback, room to make mistakes, and the opportunity to become better.

Because you can’t hold someone accountable for expectations you never clearly communicated. You can’t demand ownership while constantly taking control back. And you can’t expect people to take risks, ask questions, or admit mistakes when correction feels like humiliation.

But there’s another side to it: you can create incredible soil and someone can still choose not to grow.

Your responsibility as a leader is to create the environment, set the standard, teach people how to reach it, and hold them accountable when they don’t.

Their responsibility is deciding what they’re going to do with the opportunity.

Your job as a leader isn’t to make people grow. Your job is to make sure you’re not the reason they can’t.

I’m Not Too Much: Becoming Unapologetically Me

What if you were never “too much”? What if you’ve just spent too much time trying to fit into spaces that required you to be less?

In this episode of Uncontainable, Jessica gets personal about learning to stop shrinking herself to make other people comfortable. She talks about outgrowing labels, pursuing more than one calling, setting boundaries, taking up space, and finally becoming comfortable with the woman God created her to be.

Being unapologetically yourself doesn’t mean refusing correction or believing you never need to change. It means being willing to grow without being ashamed of who you are along the way.

You can be grateful for your life and still want more. You can be a mom and have big dreams. You can love Jesus and still have a big personality. You can change your mind, outgrow rooms, pursue new callings, and stop waiting for everyone else to understand.

Maybe you’re not scattered. Maybe you’re becoming.

Maybe you’re not too much.

Maybe you were just never meant to be contained.

Takeaways

• Forgiveness and access are not the same thing
• Boundaries are biblical and essential for protecting what's entrusted

Chapters

• 00:00 Chaos and Forgiveness
• 03:36 The Meaning of Forgiveness
• 07:36 Forgiveness and Access
• 09:49 Boundaries and Forgiveness
• 12:26 Protecting What's Entrusted
• 13:45 Fractures and Weakness
• 17:30 Moving Forward with Forgiveness

How many times have you been frustrated because someone didn't meet your expectations... only to realize you never actually communicated them?

In this episode of Uncontainable, Jessica challenges one of the biggest leadership mistakes we all make: assuming.

We assume people know.
We assume they've been taught.
We assume they should "just get it."

But assumptions don't create great teams—they create confusion, frustration, and broken trust.

Whether you're leading a business, managing employees, coaching a team, parenting, or mentoring others, this episode will challenge you to rethink the way you teach, communicate, and lead.

Jessica shares real-life examples from leadership and nursing to explain why experience must be developed, why communication matters more than assumptions, and why the best leaders don't expect perfection—they intentionally build people.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• Why assumptions quietly destroy trust
• The difference between intelligence and experience
• How poor training is often mistaken for poor performance
• Why every person learns differently
• The leadership question every manager should ask before becoming frustrated
• How intentional communication creates stronger teams and healthier relationships

Remember: Your expectations only become expectations once they've been communicated.

If this episode encouraged you, share it with a leader, coworker, teacher, coach, or parent who needs this reminder.

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Takeaways

• Juggling multiple projects and personal growth
• Embracing change and challenging the status quo

Chapters

• 00:00 Season Two Kickoff
• 00:58 Juggling Multiple Projects
• 02:20 Gratitude and Reflection
• 03:26 Personal Growth and Transformation
• 04:23 Uncontainable Season Two Preview
• 05:20 Embracing Change and Growth
• 06:23 Challenging the Status Quo
• 07:28 Excitement for the Future

This episode started with a simple thought while listening to The Live Out Loud Podcast… and quickly turned into something much deeper.

What labels have people placed on you over the years? Control freak. Too much. Emotional. Anxious. Difficult. Broken.

At what point do repeated words stop sounding like opinions… and start becoming identity?

In this raw and honest episode of Uncontainable, Jessica talks about the weight labels carry, how they shape the way we see ourselves, and why so many women are living under names God never actually gave them. Through personal stories, scripture, and even lessons from working in the ICU, this episode challenges listeners to stop building their lives around labels and start reclaiming their true identity.

Because just because it was spoken over you… doesn’t mean it belongs to you. 🔥