<![CDATA[Grounded]]>Grounded is a marriage with the lights on. Mensa and Lady Afya have been at this long enough to know the polished version is boring, so they don't tell it. What you get instead is the archive: the fights that actually mattered, the season that nearly ended it, the repair nobody photographs, and the intimacy that got better only after they stopped being polite about it. This is a grown conversation. Sex, desire, and the appetite most couples only discuss in the dark. Money, roles, and respect, plus the quiet negotiations that decide whether a home runs or just survives. Culture, faith, family, and the particular weight of building a life between two worlds. Every episode is a story first and a lesson second. Some weeks they open their own history. Other weeks they take a listener's situation apart on the table and hand it back assembled. No scripts. No performance. No pretending they got it right the first time. Pour something good. Sit down. This one is for the ones building something worth keeping. New episodes weekly.

]]>www.bythewayitsmensa.comRiverside.fm (https://riverside.com)Tue, 13 Oct 2026 17:02:25 GMTSun, 26 Jul 2026 16:29:58 GMT60Mensa & Lady Afya<p>Grounded is a marriage with the lights on. Mensa and Lady Afya have been at this long enough to know the polished version is boring, so they don't tell it. What you get instead is the archive: the fights that actually mattered, the season that nearly ended it, the repair nobody photographs, and the intimacy that got better only after they stopped being polite about it. This is a grown conversation. Sex, desire, and the appetite most couples only discuss in the dark. Money, roles, and respect, plus the quiet negotiations that decide whether a home runs or just survives. Culture, faith, family, and the particular weight of building a life between two worlds. Every episode is a story first and a lesson second. Some weeks they open their own history. Other weeks they take a listener's situation apart on the table and hand it back assembled. No scripts. No performance. No pretending they got it right the first time. Pour something good. Sit down. This one is for the ones building something worth keeping. New episodes weekly.</p>episodicMensa & Lady Afyam52tmsgpvy@privaterelay.appleid.comyes<![CDATA[Cover Your Husband's Nakedness]]>Cover your husband's nakedness. If you can talk down about the person you're still married to, that says more about you than them.

We get into why men want to know your sexual history and the fear sitting underneath the question. Whether experience means variety or just wanting something different. Why divorce being an available exit stops couples from ever getting adventurous with each other. And whether daily sex is realistic when your head is already full of two hundred things.

Grown love, told out loud.

New episodes weekly.

#Grounded #MarriageTalk #IntimacyInMarriage #BodyCount #BlackMarriage #GhanaianPodcast #CouplesTalk #MarriageAdvice

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]]>18790dc0-e132-4c73-a828-85306781ddc7Mon, 27 Jul 2026 02:23:49 GMT<p>Cover your husband's nakedness. If you can talk down about the person you're still married to, that says more about you than them.</p><p>We get into why men want to know your sexual history and the fear sitting underneath the question. Whether experience means variety or just wanting something different. Why divorce being an available exit stops couples from ever getting adventurous with each other. And whether daily sex is realistic when your head is already full of two hundred things.</p><p>Grown love, told out loud.</p><p>New episodes weekly.</p><p>#Grounded #MarriageTalk #IntimacyInMarriage #BodyCount #BlackMarriage #GhanaianPodcast #CouplesTalk #MarriageAdvice</p><p></p><p>body count conversation, sexual history relationship, intimacy in marriage, sex in marriage, how often should married couples, marriage advice, divorce mindset, cover your husband, marriage privacy social media, black marriage podcast, ghanaian couple, married couple podcast, communication about sex, relationship advice, adventurous in marriage, KJ Mensah, Lady Afya, Grounded podcast</p>yes00:31:34Cover Your Husband's Nakednessfull<![CDATA[If Your Marriage Had An Expiration Date, Would You Renew It?]]>If your marriage certificate had an expiration date, would you renew it? We both said yes. But the answer matters less than what you do if it's no. Choosing a spouse is one of the biggest decisions in life and people treat it like a joke, picking on what they can see. We talk about trust built from starting at the bottom, why anything destructive is always the easy option, why a wife comes before a mother and why people lost it when I said that, and why our community still treats therapy like an abomination. Grown love, told out loud. New episodes weekly.

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0:00 Nobody learns from other people's divorces

2:17 The biggest decision people treat like a joke

4:46 Trust, and the rough patch we came through

7:04 We started at the bottom

11:15 Trusting him with me and the kids

14:53 Would you pick the same person again?

18:06 Say it, don't store it

20:13 If your marriage certificate expired, would you renew it?

24:02 Everything bad is easy

24:51 Your wife comes before your mom

28:02 Money, going broke, and how a partner reacts

31:01 Why Ghanaians won't go to therapy

34:12 Reading people before they tell you anything

37:49 The ones who are only performing

44:00 Social media rewards the worst information

46:21 I knew she'd betray you

#Grounded #MarriageAdvice #ChoosingAPartner #BlackMarriage #GhanaianPodcast #TherapyStigma #WifeComesFirst #CouplesTalk

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]]>6078f6eb-9d1c-4b41-b6df-7688c3d92d73Mon, 27 Jul 2026 02:12:11 GMT<p>If your marriage certificate had an expiration date, would you renew it? We both said yes. But the answer matters less than what you do if it's no. Choosing a spouse is one of the biggest decisions in life and people treat it like a joke, picking on what they can see. We talk about trust built from starting at the bottom, why anything destructive is always the easy option, why a wife comes before a mother and why people lost it when I said that, and why our community still treats therapy like an abomination. Grown love, told out loud. New episodes weekly.</p><p></p><p>TIMESTAMP</p><p>0:00 Nobody learns from other people's divorces </p><p>2:17 The biggest decision people treat like a joke </p><p>4:46 Trust, and the rough patch we came through </p><p>7:04 We started at the bottom</p><p> 11:15 Trusting him with me and the kids </p><p>14:53 Would you pick the same person again? </p><p>18:06 Say it, don't store it</p><p> 20:13 If your marriage certificate expired, would you renew it? </p><p>24:02 Everything bad is easy </p><p>24:51 Your wife comes before your mom </p><p>28:02 Money, going broke, and how a partner reacts </p><p>31:01 Why Ghanaians won't go to therapy </p><p>34:12 Reading people before they tell you anything</p><p> 37:49 The ones who are only performing </p><p>44:00 Social media rewards the worst information </p><p>46:21 I knew she'd betray you</p><p></p><p>#Grounded #MarriageAdvice #ChoosingAPartner #BlackMarriage #GhanaianPodcast #TherapyStigma #WifeComesFirst #CouplesTalk</p><p></p><p>marriage advice, choosing a spouse, would you marry them again, trust in marriage, wife or mother first, in laws and marriage, black marriage podcast, ghanaian couple, therapy stigma africa, marriage counseling, communication in marriage, married couple podcast, reading people, betrayal, money problems in marriage, african marriage, KJ Mensah, Lady Afya, Grounded podcast, relationship advice couple</p>yes00:42:44If Your Marriage Had An Expiration Date, Would You Renew It?full<![CDATA[Men Cheat,What's Actually Worse.]]>A man cheated, then moved her into the family home. We start there and it goes everywhere. Our first real sit-down in about a year. Why men still cheat when they have a wife doing everything. Lady Afya's answer isn't the one you expect: the cheating isn't the dealbreaker, the decision-making is. Then: why people run instead of repair. The manosphere, the red pill, and what created them. The 50/50 argument and who actually decides when one person holds the money. The business that failed, six figures gone, and the door that closed right after. And the thing our culture never trained us to talk about, including the part where women admit they don't finish and never say so. Grown love, told out loud. New episodes weekly.

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0:00 A year since we last sat down 2:09 Roles, or friendship? 3:32 The manosphere and the red pill 6:10 Did feminism create this? 10:10 Why people run instead of repair 12:59 He moved her into the house 13:28 It's the decision making, not the cheating 19:16 The different versions of me 23:32 The failure I still can't put down 26:00 Everything fell apart after we'd already paid 27:07 Six figures gone 29:54 The 50/50 problem and who actually decides 33:20 Asking for a drink at my own engagement 36:44 Stuck in Colorado snow with no jackets 38:03 Sex, and why nobody taught us how to talk about it 48:03 The women who never finish and never say so 51:00 Losing the language, teaching the kids

#Grounded #MarriageTalk #WhyMenCheat #BlackMarriage #RelationshipPodcast #CouplesTalk #GhanaianPodcast #MarriedLife

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]]>e5edc4b9-f74d-49fe-9fcb-cfb482b2c411Sun, 26 Jul 2026 23:11:30 GMT<p>A man cheated, then moved her into the family home. We start there and it goes everywhere. Our first real sit-down in about a year. Why men still cheat when they have a wife doing everything. Lady Afya's answer isn't the one you expect: the cheating isn't the dealbreaker, the decision-making is. Then: why people run instead of repair. The manosphere, the red pill, and what created them. The 50/50 argument and who actually decides when one person holds the money. The business that failed, six figures gone, and the door that closed right after. And the thing our culture never trained us to talk about, including the part where women admit they don't finish and never say so. Grown love, told out loud. New episodes weekly.</p><p></p><p>TIMESTAMP</p><p>0:00 A year since we last sat down 2:09 Roles, or friendship? 3:32 The manosphere and the red pill 6:10 Did feminism create this? 10:10 Why people run instead of repair 12:59 He moved her into the house 13:28 It's the decision making, not the cheating 19:16 The different versions of me 23:32 The failure I still can't put down 26:00 Everything fell apart after we'd already paid 27:07 Six figures gone 29:54 The 50/50 problem and who actually decides 33:20 Asking for a drink at my own engagement 36:44 Stuck in Colorado snow with no jackets 38:03 Sex, and why nobody taught us how to talk about it 48:03 The women who never finish and never say so 51:00 Losing the language, teaching the kids</p><p></p><p>#Grounded #MarriageTalk #WhyMenCheat #BlackMarriage #RelationshipPodcast #CouplesTalk #GhanaianPodcast #MarriedLife</p><p></p><p>why men cheat, cheating in marriage, married couple podcast, marriage advice, relationship advice, side chick, infidelity, should i leave after cheating, red pill, manosphere, feminism and relationships, 50 50 relationship, who pays in a relationship, black marriage podcast, ghanaian couple, marriage after business failure, talking about sex in marriage, sexless marriage, communication in marriage, divorce vs repair, KJ Mensah, Lady Afya, Grounded podcast, couples real talk</p>yes00:51:39Men Cheat,What's Actually Worse.full