<![CDATA[Not Good Enough Stuff]]>Who would you be if nobody had ever told you who you were supposed to be?

If you've spent your life feeling like you're not good enough, wondering why you don't know who you are, struggling to recognize your own needs, or feeling like you're living a life that doesn't quite fit, you're in the right place.

I'm Mary Beth Fox, Licensed Professional Counselor.

You weren't born believing you weren't enough. Those messages were planted by family, society, culture, sometimes religion, and life experiences. Over time, they shaped the voice in your head, your identity, your self-worth, your relationships, your decisions, and nearly every part of your life.

Using the Not Good Enough Stuff Framework, we'll trace those messages back to their roots so you can understand how you became who you are, why you see yourself the way you do, why your own needs can feel so difficult to recognize, and how to separate who you truly are from who you were shaped to be.

We'll question the childhood messages that shaped your self-worth, fueled negative self-talk, left you carrying shame, made boundaries feel difficult, and convinced you that you had to earn love, approval, or your worth.

Sometimes we'll call bullshit on those messages.

Because they deserve to be questioned.

This podcast isn't about becoming someone new.

It's about returning to your True Soul Identity.

You are not lost.

Your True Soul Identity became covered by the layers of family, society, culture, sometimes religion, and life experiences.

Together, we'll peel back those layers, trace the roots that shaped your identity, and uncover the truth about who you've been all along.

Whether you're trying to understand your inner child, emotional neglect, childhood experiences, self-worth, relationships, emotional needs, identity, or the voice in your head, Not Good Enough Stuff will help you understand how you got where you are so you can return to who you truly are.

]]>https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/Riverside.fm (https://riverside.com)Tue, 13 Oct 2026 14:16:33 GMTTue, 30 Jun 2026 01:49:35 GMT60Mary Beth Fox<p>Who would you be if nobody had ever told you who you were supposed to be?</p><p>If you've spent your life feeling like you're not good enough, wondering why you don't know who you are, struggling to recognize your own needs, or feeling like you're living a life that doesn't quite fit, you're in the right place.</p><p>I'm Mary Beth Fox, Licensed Professional Counselor.</p><p>You weren't born believing you weren't enough. Those messages were planted by family, society, culture, sometimes religion, and life experiences. Over time, they shaped the voice in your head, your identity, your self-worth, your relationships, your decisions, and nearly every part of your life.</p><p>Using the Not Good Enough Stuff Framework, we'll trace those messages back to their roots so you can understand how you became who you are, why you see yourself the way you do, why your own needs can feel so difficult to recognize, and how to separate who you truly are from who you were shaped to be.</p><p>We'll question the childhood messages that shaped your self-worth, fueled negative self-talk, left you carrying shame, made boundaries feel difficult, and convinced you that you had to earn love, approval, or your worth.</p><p>Sometimes we'll call bullshit on those messages.</p><p>Because they deserve to be questioned.</p><p>This podcast isn't about becoming someone new.</p><p>It's about returning to your True Soul Identity.</p><p>You are not lost.</p><p>Your True Soul Identity became covered by the layers of family, society, culture, sometimes religion, and life experiences.</p><p>Together, we'll peel back those layers, trace the roots that shaped your identity, and uncover the truth about who you've been all along.</p><p>Whether you're trying to understand your inner child, emotional neglect, childhood experiences, self-worth, relationships, emotional needs, identity, or the voice in your head, <b>Not Good Enough Stuff</b> will help you understand how you got where you are so you can return to who you truly are.</p>episodicMary Beth Foxmarybeth@theinnerchildtherapist.comyes<![CDATA[Why Do I Never Feel Good Enough? 7 Questions Answered]]>Why do you feel like one mistake proves something is wrong with you? Why is it so easy to recognize other people's worth but so difficult to believe in your own? And why, no matter how much you accomplish, do you still feel like you're not good enough?

In Episode 14, licensed professional counselor Mary Beth Fox answers seven thought-provoking questions submitted by subscribers about self-worth, childhood experiences, guilt, anger, trust, and the inner critic.

We explore why childhood messages can become deeply held beliefs about who we are, how perfectionism and people-pleasing develop, and why understanding the origins of our struggles doesn't always mean those struggles disappear.

You'll discover:

  • Why making a mistake can trigger shame and feelings of inadequacy
  • Why compliments are harder to believe than criticism
  • Why disappointing someone can create guilt even when you've done nothing wrong
  • Why accomplishments never seem to make you feel good enough
  • How to recognize the difference between your authentic voice and messages learned growing up
  • Why anger can resurface when you feel dismissed, silenced, or disrespected
  • How to begin rebuilding trust in yourself and others after repeated betrayal

Through the Not Good Enough Stuff framework, Mary Beth explores how learned messages shape our identity and influence the patterns we carry into adulthood.

The central question: What if the way you see yourself isn't actually who you are, but who you learned to believe you were?

You don't have to keep proving your worth to deserve it.

Listen, reflect, and share: Which of these seven questions resonates most with you?

The voice in your head wasn't born with you.

Timestamps:

00:00 Why do mistakes feel like proof of inadequacy?

01:15 Why is it hard to believe good things about ourselves?

09:26 Guilt when disappointing others: What's really happening?

13:28 Why do we keep trying to prove we're enough?

17:40 Distinguishing your inner voice from learned messages

21:21 Managing anger when feeling shut down

28:23 Rebuilding trust after betrayal and self-betrayal

35:31 The common thread: Evaluating ourselves through old messages

Resources & Links:🌐 Visit: https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/

Download your FREE Not Good Enough Guide here: https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/free-guide-to-feeling-enough/

Connect with Me:


▶️ YouTube: @notgoodenoughstuff


📸 Instagram: https://instagram.com/theinnerchildtherapist


🎵 TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@theinnerchildtherapist


📘 Facebook: https://facebook.com/TICT.MaryBethFox


If this episode resonated with you, please follow the podcast, leave a review, and share it with someone who needs to hear it. Every share helps more people begin questioning the messages they never chose to believe.

Disclaimer: The information shared in this podcast is for educational and personal growth purposes only. It is not a substitute for therapy, mental health treatment, or medical advice, and listening does not create a therapist-client relationship. If you need support for your unique situation, please connect with a licensed mental health professional in your area. Music Attribution: Music licensed through SoundstripeCode: CDAA5GJA2635SEHS

]]>ace4f14c-32fc-4723-b978-216ad75d5ec2Tue, 13 Oct 2026 12:00:00 GMT<p>Why do you feel like one mistake proves something is wrong with you? Why is it so easy to recognize other people's worth but so difficult to believe in your own? And why, no matter how much you accomplish, do you still feel like you're not good enough?</p><p>In Episode 14, licensed professional counselor Mary Beth Fox answers seven thought-provoking questions submitted by subscribers about self-worth, childhood experiences, guilt, anger, trust, and the inner critic.</p><p>We explore why childhood messages can become deeply held beliefs about who we are, how perfectionism and people-pleasing develop, and why understanding the origins of our struggles doesn't always mean those struggles disappear.</p><p><b><strong>You'll discover:</strong></b></p><ul><li>Why making a mistake can trigger shame and feelings of inadequacy</li><li>Why compliments are harder to believe than criticism</li><li>Why disappointing someone can create guilt even when you've done nothing wrong</li><li>Why accomplishments never seem to make you feel good enough</li><li>How to recognize the difference between your authentic voice and messages learned growing up</li><li>Why anger can resurface when you feel dismissed, silenced, or disrespected</li><li>How to begin rebuilding trust in yourself and others after repeated betrayal</li></ul><p>Through the <i><em>Not Good Enough Stuff</em></i> framework, Mary Beth explores how learned messages shape our identity and influence the patterns we carry into adulthood.</p><p><b><strong>The central question:</strong></b> What if the way you see yourself isn't actually who you are, but who you learned to believe you were?</p><p>You don't have to keep proving your worth to deserve it.</p><p><b><strong>Listen, reflect, and share:</strong></b> Which of these seven questions resonates most with you?</p><p><b><strong>The voice in your head wasn't born with you.</strong></b></p><p><b><strong>Timestamps:</strong></b></p><p>00:00 Why do mistakes feel like proof of inadequacy?</p><p>01:15 Why is it hard to believe good things about ourselves?</p><p>09:26 Guilt when disappointing others: What's really happening?</p><p>13:28 Why do we keep trying to prove we're enough?</p><p>17:40 Distinguishing your inner voice from learned messages</p><p>21:21 Managing anger when feeling shut down</p><p>28:23 Rebuilding trust after betrayal and self-betrayal</p><p>35:31 The common thread: Evaluating ourselves through old messages</p><p><b><strong>Resources &amp; Links:</strong></b>🌐 Visit: <a href="https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/</a></p><p><b><strong>Download your FREE Not Good Enough Guide here: </strong></b><a href="https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/free-guide-to-feeling-enough/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/free-guide-to-feeling-enough/</a></p><p><b><strong>Connect with Me:</strong></b>
</p><p>▶️ YouTube: @notgoodenoughstuff
</p><p>📸 Instagram: <a href="https://instagram.com/theinnerchildtherapist" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">https://instagram.com/theinnerchildtherapist</a>
</p><p>🎵 TikTok: <a href="https://tiktok.com/@theinnerchildtherapist" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">https://tiktok.com/@theinnerchildtherapist</a>
</p><p>📘 Facebook: <a href="https://facebook.com/TICT.MaryBethFox" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">https://facebook.com/TICT.MaryBethFox</a>
</p><p>If this episode resonated with you, please follow the podcast, leave a review, and share it with someone who needs to hear it. Every share helps more people begin questioning the messages they never chose to believe.</p><p><b><strong>Disclaimer:</strong></b> The information shared in this podcast is for educational and personal growth purposes only. It is not a substitute for therapy, mental health treatment, or medical advice, and listening does not create a therapist-client relationship. If you need support for your unique situation, please connect with a licensed mental health professional in your area. Music Attribution: Music licensed through SoundstripeCode: CDAA5GJA2635SEHS</p>no00:41:5814Why Do I Never Feel Good Enough? 7 Questions Answeredfull<![CDATA[Life Coach vs. Therapist: Who’s Qualified to Help You Heal?]]>Does “certified trauma coach” mean someone is qualified to treat trauma? What’s the difference between a life coach and a licensed therapist, and why does it matter when you’re looking for help?

In this episode of Not Good Enough Stuff, I’m Mary Beth Fox, a licensed professional counselor, explaining the differences in education, clinical training, credentials, confidentiality, and professional accountability.

You’ll learn:
• What training is required to call yourself a life coach
• Why certified does not mean licensed
• How coaching experience differs from supervised clinical training
• Why being trauma-informed does not automatically qualify someone to treat trauma
• What to question when someone promises to heal your inner child, rewire your brain, or fix what years of therapy couldn’t
• What to ask before trusting someone with your mental health

Coaching can be valuable. Consumers also deserve to understand what someone’s qualifications actually prepare them to do. If you’ve tried therapy and still feel not good enough, a compelling promise deserves careful questions.

Mental health professionals can email me to request the slides featured in this episode. Please credit Mary Beth Fox and Not Good Enough Stuff and keep the slides unaltered.

Share this episode with someone deciding between therapy and life coaching, and follow Not Good Enough Stuff for more conversations about the roots of why you feel not good enough.

00:47 Therapist vs. Life Coach: What’s the Difference?

02:44 What Training Does a Life Coach Need?

04:36 What Does It Take to Become a Licensed Therapist?

06:42 Coaching Hours vs. Clinical Training Hours

09:22 Certified Does Not Mean Licensed

10:38 Who Regulates Life Coaches?

13:23 Licensing Boards and Professional Accountability

14:57 What Does Confidential Actually Mean?

16:21 Trauma-Informed vs. Qualified to Treat Trauma

17:42 Coaching and Therapy Are Different Services

18:50 Life Coaching Marketing Claims Worth Questioning

21:09 When “Therapy Didn’t Work” Becomes a Sales Pitch

25:02 Knowing About Trauma vs. Being Qualified to Treat It

26:28 Questions to Ask Before Hiring Someone

27:37 Know Their Training, Credentials, and Accountability

29:17 How Mental Health Professionals Can Request the Slides

Resources & Links: 🌐 Visit: https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/

Download your FREE Not Good Enough Guide here: https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/free-guide-to-feeling-enough/

Connect with Me:


▶️ YouTube: @notgoodenoughstuff


📸 Instagram: https://instagram.com/theinnerchildtherapist


🎵 TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@theinnerchildtherapist


📘 Facebook: https://facebook.com/TICT.MaryBethFox


If this episode resonated with you, please follow the podcast, leave a review, and share it with someone who needs to hear it. Every share helps more people begin questioning the messages they never chose to believe.

Disclaimer: The information shared in this podcast is for educational and personal growth purposes only. It is not a substitute for therapy, mental health treatment, or medical advice, and listening does not create a therapist-client relationship. If you need support for your unique situation, please connect with a licensed mental health professional in your area.

Music Attribution: Music licensed through Soundstripe Code: CDAA5GJA2635SEHS

]]>a07d8f44-5eec-451e-8e92-118ff4159d3cTue, 06 Oct 2026 12:45:00 GMT<p>Does “certified trauma coach” mean someone is qualified to treat trauma? What’s the difference between a life coach and a licensed therapist, and why does it matter when you’re looking for help?</p><p>In this episode of Not Good Enough Stuff, I’m Mary Beth Fox, a licensed professional counselor, explaining the differences in education, clinical training, credentials, confidentiality, and professional accountability.</p><p>You’ll learn:<br />• What training is required to call yourself a life coach<br />• Why certified does not mean licensed<br />• How coaching experience differs from supervised clinical training<br />• Why being trauma-informed does not automatically qualify someone to treat trauma<br />• What to question when someone promises to heal your inner child, rewire your brain, or fix what years of therapy couldn’t<br />• What to ask before trusting someone with your mental health</p><p>Coaching can be valuable. Consumers also deserve to understand what someone’s qualifications actually prepare them to do. If you’ve tried therapy and still feel not good enough, a compelling promise deserves careful questions.</p><p>Mental health professionals can email me to request the slides featured in this episode. Please credit Mary Beth Fox and Not Good Enough Stuff and keep the slides unaltered.</p><p>Share this episode with someone deciding between therapy and life coaching, and follow Not Good Enough Stuff for more conversations about the roots of why you feel not good enough.</p><p>00:47 Therapist vs. Life Coach: What’s the Difference?</p><p>02:44 What Training Does a Life Coach Need?</p><p>04:36 What Does It Take to Become a Licensed Therapist?</p><p>06:42 Coaching Hours vs. Clinical Training Hours</p><p>09:22 Certified Does Not Mean Licensed</p><p>10:38 Who Regulates Life Coaches?</p><p>13:23 Licensing Boards and Professional Accountability</p><p>14:57 What Does Confidential Actually Mean?</p><p>16:21 Trauma-Informed vs. Qualified to Treat Trauma</p><p>17:42 Coaching and Therapy Are Different Services</p><p>18:50 Life Coaching Marketing Claims Worth Questioning</p><p>21:09 When “Therapy Didn’t Work” Becomes a Sales Pitch</p><p>25:02 Knowing About Trauma vs. Being Qualified to Treat It</p><p>26:28 Questions to Ask Before Hiring Someone</p><p>27:37 Know Their Training, Credentials, and Accountability</p><p>29:17 How Mental Health Professionals Can Request the Slides</p><p><b><strong>Resources &amp; Links:</strong></b> 🌐 Visit: <a href="https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/</a></p><p><b><strong>Download your FREE Not Good Enough Guide here: </strong></b><a href="https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/free-guide-to-feeling-enough/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/free-guide-to-feeling-enough/</a></p><p><b><strong>Connect with Me:</strong></b>
</p><p>▶️ YouTube: @notgoodenoughstuff
</p><p>📸 Instagram: <a href="https://instagram.com/theinnerchildtherapist" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">https://instagram.com/theinnerchildtherapist</a>
</p><p>🎵 TikTok: <a href="https://tiktok.com/@theinnerchildtherapist" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">https://tiktok.com/@theinnerchildtherapist</a>
</p><p>📘 Facebook: <a href="https://facebook.com/TICT.MaryBethFox" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">https://facebook.com/TICT.MaryBethFox</a>
</p><p>If this episode resonated with you, please follow the podcast, leave a review, and share it with someone who needs to hear it. Every share helps more people begin questioning the messages they never chose to believe.</p><p><b><strong>Disclaimer:</strong></b> The information shared in this podcast is for educational and personal growth purposes only. It is not a substitute for therapy, mental health treatment, or medical advice, and listening does not create a therapist-client relationship. If you need support for your unique situation, please connect with a licensed mental health professional in your area.</p><p>Music Attribution: Music licensed through Soundstripe Code: CDAA5GJA2635SEHS</p>no00:30:4413Life Coach vs. Therapist: Who’s Qualified to Help You Heal?full<![CDATA[Why Do I Feel Not Good Enough No Matter What I Do? | The Inner Critic and Childhood Messages]]>You reached the goal you thought would finally make you feel good enough. So why is your inner critic already telling you it doesn’t count?

In this episode of Not Good Enough Stuff, I explore how messages from family, society, and culture can shape what we believe about ourselves in childhood. We may not realize we’re still carrying those messages as adults. They can show up in our work, relationships, boundaries, and even our ability to rest.

I share how childhood comments about my appearance followed me into adulthood, and why accomplishments couldn’t change what I had come to believe about myself. Then I offer a place to start: noticing when your inner critic turns something that happened into a statement about who you are.

What’s one thing your inner critic says about you that you’re beginning to wonder if you learned?

Timestamps:

00:00 Why reaching achievements doesn't always boost self-worth

00:35 The roots of not good enough feelings

01:02 Exploring childhood influences on self-image

01:40 The metaphor of the tree and its roots

02:14 How environment shapes our beliefs

02:41 Messages from family, school, and society

04:52 Beliefs as roots and their visible branches

05:29 The impact of childhood messages on adult life

08:45 Messages as reflections of identity

09:42 Recognizing messages versus who we are

11:16 Healing childhood messages about appearance

15:34 Challenging the inner critic and beliefs

17:27 Practical steps to question your inner critic

18:20 The importance of self-acceptance and healing

🌐 Visit: https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/

Download your FREE Not Good Enough Guide here: https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/free-guide-to-feeling-enough/

Connect with Me:


▶️ YouTube: @notgoodenoughstuff


📸 Instagram: https://instagram.com/theinnerchildtherapist


🎵 TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@theinnerchildtherapist


📘 Facebook: https://facebook.com/TICT.MaryBethFox


If this episode resonated with you, please follow the podcast, leave a review, and share it with someone who needs to hear it. Every share helps more people begin questioning the messages they never chose to believe. 

Disclaimer: The information shared in this podcast is for educational and personal growth purposes only. It is not a substitute for therapy, mental health treatment, or medical advice, and listening does not create a therapist-client relationship. If you need support for your unique situation, please connect with a licensed mental health professional in your area.

 

Music Attribution:

Music licensed through Soundstripe

Code: CDAA5GJA2635SEHS

]]>75fb3afe-bd6d-4d1f-b30e-4ae05a4c1d6bTue, 29 Sep 2026 12:00:00 GMT<p>You reached the goal you thought would finally make you feel good enough. So why is your inner critic already telling you it doesn’t count?</p><p>In this episode of <i><em>Not Good Enough Stuff</em></i>, I explore how messages from family, society, and culture can shape what we believe about ourselves in childhood. We may not realize we’re still carrying those messages as adults. They can show up in our work, relationships, boundaries, and even our ability to rest.</p><p>I share how childhood comments about my appearance followed me into adulthood, and why accomplishments couldn’t change what I had come to believe about myself. Then I offer a place to start: noticing when your inner critic turns something that happened into a statement about who you are.</p><p>What’s one thing your inner critic says about you that you’re beginning to wonder if you learned?</p><p><b><strong>Timestamps:</strong></b></p><p><b><strong>00:00 Why reaching achievements doesn't always boost self-worth</strong></b></p><p><b><strong>00:35 The roots of not good enough feelings</strong></b></p><p><b><strong>01:02 Exploring childhood influences on self-image</strong></b></p><p><b><strong>01:40 The metaphor of the tree and its roots</strong></b></p><p><b><strong>02:14 How environment shapes our beliefs</strong></b></p><p><b><strong>02:41 Messages from family, school, and society</strong></b></p><p><b><strong>04:52 Beliefs as roots and their visible branches</strong></b></p><p><b><strong>05:29 The impact of childhood messages on adult life</strong></b></p><p><b><strong>08:45 Messages as reflections of identity</strong></b></p><p><b><strong>09:42 Recognizing messages versus who we are</strong></b></p><p><b><strong>11:16 Healing childhood messages about appearance</strong></b></p><p><b><strong>15:34 Challenging the inner critic and beliefs</strong></b></p><p><b><strong>17:27 Practical steps to question your inner critic</strong></b></p><p><b><strong>18:20 The importance of self-acceptance and healing</strong></b></p><p>🌐 Visit: <a href="https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/</a></p><p><b><strong>Download your FREE Not Good Enough Guide here: </strong></b><a href="https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/free-guide-to-feeling-enough/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/free-guide-to-feeling-enough/</a></p><p><b><strong>Connect with Me:</strong></b>
</p><p>▶️ YouTube: @notgoodenoughstuff
</p><p>📸 Instagram: <a href="https://instagram.com/theinnerchildtherapist" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">https://instagram.com/theinnerchildtherapist</a>
</p><p>🎵 TikTok: <a href="https://tiktok.com/@theinnerchildtherapist" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">https://tiktok.com/@theinnerchildtherapist</a>
</p><p>📘 Facebook: <a href="https://facebook.com/TICT.MaryBethFox" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">https://facebook.com/TICT.MaryBethFox</a>
</p><p>If this episode resonated with you, please follow the podcast, leave a review, and share it with someone who needs to hear it. Every share helps more people begin questioning the messages they never chose to believe. </p><p><b><strong>Disclaimer:</strong></b> The information shared in this podcast is for educational and personal growth purposes only. It is not a substitute for therapy, mental health treatment, or medical advice, and listening does not create a therapist-client relationship. If you need support for your unique situation, please connect with a licensed mental health professional in your area.</p><p> </p><p>Music Attribution:</p><p>Music licensed through Soundstripe</p><p>Code: CDAA5GJA2635SEHS</p>yes00:21:32Why Do I Feel Not Good Enough No Matter What I Do? | The Inner Critic and Childhood Messagesfull<![CDATA[Why You Can’t Move On After an Argument When You Don’t Feel Heard]]>Have you ever walked away from an argument and replayed it for hours? Thinking about what you should've said, wondering how they could possibly not understand you, or waiting for them to make things okay?

Sometimes the argument is over, but something in you still doesn’t feel resolved.

In this episode of Not Good Enough Stuff, I’m talking about what happens during and after disagreements when you don’t feel heard or understood. Why do we explain more, get louder, cry, get angry, shut down, or apologize just to make it end? Why is it so hard to move on afterward?

We’ll explore how conflict can bring us back to younger versions of ourselves when a disagreement touches old experiences of not being heard, believed, or allowed to have feelings and needs.

I also share a personal story about realizing an adult disagreement had taken me emotionally back to about 4 years old, and how I gave that younger part of myself the repair I wasn’t getting from the other person.

There’s a difference between wanting someone to understand you and needing them to understand you before you can feel okay.

An argument ending is not the same thing as an argument being repaired.

If certain disagreements stay with you long after they’re over, this episode helps you understand what you’re actually waiting for and where that need began.

Timestamps:

00:00 Introduction
01:53 When the fight becomes about being heard
02:11 Wanting vs. needing someone to understand you
03:22 Why we revert to younger ages during conflict
04:16 My experience of becoming my 4-year-old self
07:12 How to recognize the age you revert to
10:21 Overexplaining, shutting down, and replaying arguments
13:01 When your inner child is waiting for repair
17:42 Ending an argument vs. repairing it
18:09 When the other person won’t repair with you
19:37 Learning to validate your own experience
20:34 How to recognize this in your own conflicts

Resources & Links:

🌐 Visit: https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/

Download your FREE Not Good Enough Guide here: https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/free-guide-to-feeling-enough/

Connect with Me:


▶️ YouTube: @notgoodenoughstuff


📸 Instagram: https://instagram.com/theinnerchildtherapist


🎵 TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@theinnerchildtherapist


📘 Facebook: https://facebook.com/TICT.MaryBethFox 

If this episode resonated with you, please follow the podcast, leave a review, and share it with someone who needs to hear it. Every share helps more people begin questioning the messages they never chose to believe.

Disclaimer: The information shared in this podcast is for educational and personal growth purposes only. It is not a substitute for therapy, mental health treatment, or medical advice, and listening does not create a therapist-client relationship. If you need support for your unique situation, please connect with a licensed mental health professional in your area.

Music Attribution:

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]]>8ca84573-0069-45d4-bf19-ea743b47f9a1Tue, 22 Sep 2026 12:00:00 GMT<p>Have you ever walked away from an argument and replayed it for hours? Thinking about what you should've said, wondering how they could possibly not understand you, or waiting for them to make things okay?</p><p>Sometimes the argument is over, but something in you still doesn’t feel resolved.</p><p></p><p>In this episode of <i>Not Good Enough Stuff</i>, I’m talking about what happens during and after disagreements when you don’t feel heard or understood. Why do we explain more, get louder, cry, get angry, shut down, or apologize just to make it end? Why is it so hard to move on afterward?</p><p>We’ll explore how conflict can bring us back to younger versions of ourselves when a disagreement touches old experiences of not being heard, believed, or allowed to have feelings and needs.</p><p></p><p>I also share a personal story about realizing an adult disagreement had taken me emotionally back to about 4 years old, and how I gave that younger part of myself the repair I wasn’t getting from the other person.</p><p>There’s a difference between wanting someone to understand you and needing them to understand you before you can feel okay.</p><p></p><p>An argument ending is not the same thing as an argument being repaired.</p><p>If certain disagreements stay with you long after they’re over, this episode helps you understand what you’re actually waiting for and where that need began.</p><p></p><p>Timestamps:</p><p>00:00 Introduction<br />01:53 When the fight becomes about being heard<br />02:11 Wanting vs. needing someone to understand you<br />03:22 Why we revert to younger ages during conflict<br />04:16 My experience of becoming my 4-year-old self<br />07:12 How to recognize the age you revert to<br />10:21 Overexplaining, shutting down, and replaying arguments<br />13:01 When your inner child is waiting for repair<br />17:42 Ending an argument vs. repairing it<br />18:09 When the other person won’t repair with you<br />19:37 Learning to validate your own experience<br />20:34 How to recognize this in your own conflicts</p><p></p><p><b>Resources &amp; Links:</b></p><p>🌐 Visit: <a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/" target="_blank">https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/</a></p><p><b>Download your FREE Not Good Enough Guide here: </b><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/free-guide-to-feeling-enough/" target="_blank">https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/free-guide-to-feeling-enough/</a></p><p></p><p><b>Connect with Me:</b></p><p>
▶️ YouTube: @notgoodenoughstuff
</p><p>📸 Instagram: <a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://instagram.com/theinnerchildtherapist" target="_blank">https://instagram.com/theinnerchildtherapist</a></p><p>
🎵 TikTok: <a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://tiktok.com/@theinnerchildtherapist" target="_blank">https://tiktok.com/@theinnerchildtherapist</a>
</p><p>📘 Facebook: <a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://facebook.com/TICT.MaryBethFox" target="_blank">https://facebook.com/TICT.MaryBethFox</a> </p><p>If this episode resonated with you, please follow the podcast, leave a review, and share it with someone who needs to hear it. Every share helps more people begin questioning the messages they never chose to believe.</p><p></p><p><b>Disclaimer:</b> The information shared in this podcast is for educational and personal growth purposes only. It is not a substitute for therapy, mental health treatment, or medical advice, and listening does not create a therapist-client relationship. If you need support for your unique situation, please connect with a licensed mental health professional in your area.</p><p></p><p>Music Attribution:</p><p>Music licensed through Soundstripe</p><p>Code: CDAA5GJA2635SEHS</p>yes00:22:4611Why You Can’t Move On After an Argument When You Don’t Feel Heardfull<![CDATA[Why Do You Still Remember Who Bullied You? Why Childhood Bullying Still Affects You as an Adult]]>Why can you still remember the name of the kid who bullied you, what they said, and exactly how they made you feel, even decades later?

Childhood bullying doesn’t always stay in childhood. The comments about your appearance, the names you were called, or the ways you were made to feel different can become part of how you see yourself long after the bullying stops. Eventually, their voice can become part of your own inner critic.

In this episode, I’m talking about how childhood bullying can follow us into adulthood, how another child’s words can become beliefs about who we are, and why we may still carry those messages 20, 30, or 40 years later.

I also share my own experiences with bullying and how being made fun of for my appearance affected my self-image well into adulthood. Then I take this conversation somewhere you may not expect and look at childhood bullying from a very different perspective.

What if some of what you learned to believe about yourself was never really about you?

We’ll talk about childhood bullying, the inner critic, self-image, feeling not good enough, why children bully, and what healing can look like without excusing what happened or requiring you to forgive the person who hurt you.

By the end, I want you to ask yourself one question:

What did someone who bullied me teach me to believe about myself, and do I still believe it today?

Chapters:

00:00 Introduction to Childhood Bullying and Memory

01:21 Understanding Why Bullies Act Out

03:04 The Role of External Voices in Inner Critic Formation

03:27 Healing and Loving Your True Self

04:27 Connecting Bullying to Not Good Enough Feelings

05:23 The Influence of Childhood Environment

06:00 The Importance of Context in Behavior

06:38 Reflecting on Personal Bullying and Its Roots

07:29 The Power of Understanding and Compassion

08:20 Healing and Moving Forward

Resources & Links:

🌐 Visit: https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/

Download your FREE Not Good Enough Guide here: https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/free-guide-to-feeling-enough/

Connect with Me:
▶️ YouTube: @notgoodenoughstuff
📸 Instagram: https://instagram.com/theinnerchildtherapist
🎵 TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@theinnerchildtherapist
📘 Facebook: https://facebook.com/TICT.MaryBethFox
💼 LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/marybethfox

 

If this episode resonated with you, please follow the podcast, leave a review, and share it with someone who needs to hear it. Every share helps more people begin questioning the messages they never chose to believe.

 

Disclaimer: The information shared in this podcast is for educational and personal growth purposes only. It is not a substitute for therapy, mental health treatment, or medical advice, and listening does not create a therapist-client relationship. If you need support for your unique situation, please connect with a licensed mental health professional in your area.

 

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]]>5851dc43-edbb-4b61-b3a5-713d1ae20119Tue, 15 Sep 2026 12:00:00 GMT<p>Why can you still remember the name of the kid who bullied you, what they said, and exactly how they made you feel, even decades later?</p><p></p><p>Childhood bullying doesn’t always stay in childhood. The comments about your appearance, the names you were called, or the ways you were made to feel different can become part of how you see yourself long after the bullying stops. Eventually, their voice can become part of your own inner critic.</p><p></p><p>In this episode, I’m talking about how childhood bullying can follow us into adulthood, how another child’s words can become beliefs about who we are, and why we may still carry those messages 20, 30, or 40 years later.</p><p></p><p>I also share my own experiences with bullying and how being made fun of for my appearance affected my self-image well into adulthood. Then I take this conversation somewhere you may not expect and look at childhood bullying from a very different perspective.</p><p>What if some of what you learned to believe about yourself was never really about you?</p><p></p><p>We’ll talk about childhood bullying, the inner critic, self-image, feeling not good enough, why children bully, and what healing can look like without excusing what happened or requiring you to forgive the person who hurt you.</p><p></p><p>By the end, I want you to ask yourself one question:</p><p><b>What did someone who bullied me teach me to believe about myself, and do I still believe it today?</b></p><p></p><p><b>Chapters:</b></p><p>00:00 Introduction to Childhood Bullying and Memory</p><p>01:21 Understanding Why Bullies Act Out</p><p>03:04 The Role of External Voices in Inner Critic Formation</p><p>03:27 Healing and Loving Your True Self</p><p>04:27 Connecting Bullying to Not Good Enough Feelings</p><p>05:23 The Influence of Childhood Environment</p><p>06:00 The Importance of Context in Behavior</p><p>06:38 Reflecting on Personal Bullying and Its Roots</p><p>07:29 The Power of Understanding and Compassion</p><p>08:20 Healing and Moving Forward</p><p></p><p><b>Resources &amp; Links:</b></p><p>🌐 Visit: <a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/" target="_blank">https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/</a></p><p><b>Download your FREE Not Good Enough Guide here: </b><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/free-guide-to-feeling-enough/" target="_blank">https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/free-guide-to-feeling-enough/</a></p><p><b>Connect with Me:</b>
▶️ YouTube: @notgoodenoughstuff
📸 Instagram: <a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://instagram.com/theinnerchildtherapist" target="_blank">https://instagram.com/theinnerchildtherapist</a>
🎵 TikTok: <a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://tiktok.com/@theinnerchildtherapist" target="_blank">https://tiktok.com/@theinnerchildtherapist</a>
📘 Facebook: <a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://facebook.com/TICT.MaryBethFox" target="_blank">https://facebook.com/TICT.MaryBethFox</a>
💼 LinkedIn: <a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://linkedin.com/in/marybethfox" target="_blank">https://linkedin.com/in/marybethfox</a></p><p> </p><p>If this episode resonated with you, please follow the podcast, leave a review, and share it with someone who needs to hear it. Every share helps more people begin questioning the messages they never chose to believe.</p><p> </p><p><b>Disclaimer:</b> The information shared in this podcast is for educational and personal growth purposes only. It is not a substitute for therapy, mental health treatment, or medical advice, and listening does not create a therapist-client relationship. If you need support for your unique situation, please connect with a licensed mental health professional in your area.</p><p> </p><p>Music Attribution:</p><p>Music licensed through Soundstripe</p><p>Code: CDAA5GJA2635SEHS</p>yes00:16:3810Why Do You Still Remember Who Bullied You? Why Childhood Bullying Still Affects You as an Adultfull<![CDATA[Why Are You Afraid to Speak Up? The Childhood Roots of Silencing Yourself]]>Why does speaking up feel so uncomfortable, even when you know you have every right to say what you think?

Maybe you soften your opinions before you say them. You over-explain your boundaries. You worry that disagreeing makes you difficult. Or you finally speak up, then replay the conversation for hours afterward.

What if that fear didn't begin in adulthood?

In this episode of Not Good Enough Stuff, licensed professional counselor Mary Beth Fox explores the childhood roots of self-silencing and how early messages about being nice, polite, agreeable, and respectful can shape people-pleasing, boundaries, conflict avoidance, self-doubt, and the fear of speaking up later in life.

We tell people to “find their voice” and stand up for themselves. But there's a question we don't ask nearly enough:

What did speaking up once cost you?

Maybe the question isn't why you're afraid to use your voice.

Maybe it's where you learned to be afraid of it.

00:00 Introduction: The societal view of women's voices

01:05 How girls are taught to be polite and agreeable

02:51 The roots of self-doubt and silence in women

04:35 Internalized beliefs about being liked and accepted

06:36 The tree metaphor: roots and branches of beliefs

08:19 The double bind: confidence versus politeness

10:00 Respect versus obedience in communication

11:35 Questioning the rules learned about having a voice

12:54 Reflecting on personal beliefs and empowering change

Resources & Links:

🌐 Visit: https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/

Download your FREE Not Good Enough Guide here: https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/free-guide-to-feeling-enough/

Connect with Me:
▶️ YouTube: @notgoodenoughstuff
📸 Instagram: https://instagram.com/theinnerchildtherapist
🎵 TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@theinnerchildtherapist
📘 Facebook: https://facebook.com/TICT.MaryBethFox
💼 LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/marybethfox

 

If this episode resonated with you, please follow the podcast, leave a review, and share it with someone who needs to hear it. Every share helps more people begin questioning the messages they never chose to believe.

 

Disclaimer: The information shared in this podcast is for educational and personal growth purposes only. It is not a substitute for therapy, mental health treatment, or medical advice, and listening does not create a therapist-client relationship. If you need support for your unique situation, please connect with a licensed mental health professional in your area.

 

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]]>346818b3-430f-452b-aa03-57351509495aTue, 08 Sep 2026 12:00:00 GMT<p><b>Why does speaking up feel so uncomfortable, even when you know you have every right to say what you think?</b></p><p></p><p>Maybe you soften your opinions before you say them. You over-explain your boundaries. You worry that disagreeing makes you difficult. Or you finally speak up, then replay the conversation for hours afterward.</p><p></p><p>What if that fear didn't begin in adulthood?</p><p></p><p>In this episode of <i>Not Good Enough Stuff</i>, licensed professional counselor Mary Beth Fox explores the childhood roots of self-silencing and how early messages about being nice, polite, agreeable, and respectful can shape people-pleasing, boundaries, conflict avoidance, self-doubt, and the fear of speaking up later in life.</p><p></p><p>We tell people to “find their voice” and stand up for themselves. But there's a question we don't ask nearly enough:</p><p><b>What did speaking up once cost you?</b></p><p></p><p>Maybe the question isn't why you're afraid to use your voice.</p><p><b>Maybe it's where you learned to be afraid of it.</b></p><p></p><p>00:00 Introduction: The societal view of women's voices</p><p>01:05 How girls are taught to be polite and agreeable</p><p>02:51 The roots of self-doubt and silence in women</p><p>04:35 Internalized beliefs about being liked and accepted</p><p>06:36 The tree metaphor: roots and branches of beliefs</p><p>08:19 The double bind: confidence versus politeness</p><p>10:00 Respect versus obedience in communication</p><p>11:35 Questioning the rules learned about having a voice</p><p>12:54 Reflecting on personal beliefs and empowering change</p><p></p><p><b>Resources &amp; Links:</b></p><p>🌐 Visit: <a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/" target="_blank">https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/</a></p><p><b>Download your FREE Not Good Enough Guide here: </b><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/free-guide-to-feeling-enough/" target="_blank">https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/free-guide-to-feeling-enough/</a></p><p><b>Connect with Me:</b><br />▶️ YouTube: @notgoodenoughstuff<br />📸 Instagram: <a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://instagram.com/theinnerchildtherapist" target="_blank">https://instagram.com/theinnerchildtherapist</a><br />🎵 TikTok: <a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://tiktok.com/@theinnerchildtherapist" target="_blank">https://tiktok.com/@theinnerchildtherapist</a><br />📘 Facebook: <a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://facebook.com/TICT.MaryBethFox" target="_blank">https://facebook.com/TICT.MaryBethFox</a><br />💼 LinkedIn: <a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://linkedin.com/in/marybethfox" target="_blank">https://linkedin.com/in/marybethfox</a></p><p> </p><p>If this episode resonated with you, please follow the podcast, leave a review, and share it with someone who needs to hear it. Every share helps more people begin questioning the messages they never chose to believe.</p><p> </p><p><b>Disclaimer:</b> The information shared in this podcast is for educational and personal growth purposes only. It is not a substitute for therapy, mental health treatment, or medical advice, and listening does not create a therapist-client relationship. If you need support for your unique situation, please connect with a licensed mental health professional in your area.</p><p> </p><p>Music Attribution:</p><p>Music licensed through Soundstripe</p><p>Code: CDAA5GJA2635SEHS</p>yes00:14:539Why Are You Afraid to Speak Up? The Childhood Roots of Silencing Yourselffull<![CDATA[Why Do I Never Feel Like I’ve Done Enough? Productivity, Guilt & Self-Worth]]>Why does it feel like no matter how much you accomplish, it is never enough?

You finish one thing and immediately think about what comes next. You sit down to rest and feel guilty about everything you should be doing instead. You look at other people and somehow it seems like they are managing their careers, homes, families, friendships, health, and lives better than you are.

In this episode of Not Good Enough Stuff, Mary Beth Fox explores why productivity can become tangled up with self-worth and why accomplishing more rarely makes that “not enough” feeling disappear for very long.

We talk about where the pressure to constantly achieve can begin, how childhood messages about success, responsibility, mistakes, and rest can follow us into adulthood, and why comparing our real lives to the “fairy tale” lives we imagine other people have keeps us feeling perpetually behind.

This episode is not about giving up ambition or your goals. It is about asking a much harder question: Can you stop? Can you leave something unfinished and still believe you did enough today?

You’ll also hear why your life cannot keep waiting until the to-do list is finished, why unfinished tasks are not proof that you are failing, and what you may be missing while trying to become the person you think you are supposed to be.

What are you missing in your actual life while trying to prove that you are doing enough?

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Resources & Links:

🌐 Visit: https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/

Download your FREE Not Good Enough Guide here: https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/free-guide-to-feeling-enough/

Connect with Me:
▶️ YouTube: @notgoodenoughstuff
📸 Instagram: https://instagram.com/theinnerchildtherapist
🎵 TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@theinnerchildtherapist
📘 Facebook: https://facebook.com/TICT.MaryBethFox
💼 LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/marybethfox

 

If this episode resonated with you, please follow the podcast, leave a review, and share it with someone who needs to hear it. Every share helps more people begin questioning the messages they never chose to believe.

 

Disclaimer: The information shared in this podcast is for educational and personal growth purposes only. It is not a substitute for therapy, mental health treatment, or medical advice, and listening does not create a therapist-client relationship. If you need support for your unique situation, please connect with a licensed mental health professional in your area.

 

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]]>6fd5eae8-08f9-44d3-a8f5-cdd51d1b45afTue, 01 Sep 2026 12:00:00 GMT<p>Why does it feel like no matter how much you accomplish, it is never enough?</p><p></p><p>You finish one thing and immediately think about what comes next. You sit down to rest and feel guilty about everything you should be doing instead. You look at other people and somehow it seems like they are managing their careers, homes, families, friendships, health, and lives better than you are.</p><p></p><p>In this episode of <i>Not Good Enough Stuff</i>, Mary Beth Fox explores why productivity can become tangled up with self-worth and why accomplishing more rarely makes that “not enough” feeling disappear for very long.</p><p></p><p>We talk about where the pressure to constantly achieve can begin, how childhood messages about success, responsibility, mistakes, and rest can follow us into adulthood, and why comparing our real lives to the “fairy tale” lives we imagine other people have keeps us feeling perpetually behind.</p><p></p><p>This episode is not about giving up ambition or your goals. It is about asking a much harder question: Can you stop? Can you leave something unfinished and still believe you did enough today?</p><p></p><p>You’ll also hear why your life cannot keep waiting until the to-do list is finished, why unfinished tasks are not proof that you are failing, and what you may be missing while trying to become the person you think you are supposed to be.</p><p></p><p>What are you missing in your actual life while trying to prove that you are doing enough?</p><p></p><p>End of description:</p><p><b>Resources &amp; Links:</b></p><p>🌐 Visit: <a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/" target="_blank">https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/</a></p><p><b>Download your FREE Not Good Enough Guide here: </b><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/free-guide-to-feeling-enough/" target="_blank">https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/free-guide-to-feeling-enough/</a></p><p><b>Connect with Me:</b>
▶️ YouTube: @notgoodenoughstuff
📸 Instagram: <a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://instagram.com/theinnerchildtherapist" target="_blank">https://instagram.com/theinnerchildtherapist</a>
🎵 TikTok: <a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://tiktok.com/@theinnerchildtherapist" target="_blank">https://tiktok.com/@theinnerchildtherapist</a>
📘 Facebook: <a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://facebook.com/TICT.MaryBethFox" target="_blank">https://facebook.com/TICT.MaryBethFox</a>
💼 LinkedIn: <a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://linkedin.com/in/marybethfox" target="_blank">https://linkedin.com/in/marybethfox</a></p><p> </p><p>If this episode resonated with you, please follow the podcast, leave a review, and share it with someone who needs to hear it. Every share helps more people begin questioning the messages they never chose to believe.</p><p> </p><p><b>Disclaimer:</b> The information shared in this podcast is for educational and personal growth purposes only. It is not a substitute for therapy, mental health treatment, or medical advice, and listening does not create a therapist-client relationship. If you need support for your unique situation, please connect with a licensed mental health professional in your area.</p><p> </p><p>Music Attribution:</p><p>Music licensed through Soundstripe</p><p>Code: CDAA5GJA2635SEHS</p><p></p><p></p>yes00:20:478Why Do I Never Feel Like I’ve Done Enough? Productivity, Guilt & Self-Worthfull<![CDATA[Why Does Rejection Hurt So Much? When Someone Doesn’t Like You]]>Why does it hurt so much when someone doesn’t like you, even when you know not everyone is going to?

In this episode of Not Good Enough Stuff, Mary Beth Fox explores why rejection can feel so personal and how childhood messages about being nice, agreeable, and liked can teach us to believe that someone else’s rejection means there is something wrong with us.

You’ll hear how fear of rejection can show up as replaying conversations, questioning what you did wrong, changing yourself to gain someone’s approval, or staying in friendships and relationships that no longer feel right because you’re afraid of hurting someone else.

We’ll also look at the other side of rejection: learning that you are allowed to decide someone isn’t right for your life, and other people are allowed to make that same decision about you.

Rejection can hurt. The goal isn’t to stop caring altogether. It’s learning to feel disappointed without turning someone else’s opinion or decision into evidence that you aren’t good enough.

In this episode:

  • Why being disliked can feel like proof that something is wrong with you
  • Childhood messages that teach us everyone should like us
  • Why ambiguous behavior can trigger a rejection spiral
  • How fear of rejection feeds people-pleasing and self-doubt
  • Why you may stay in friendships or relationships you don’t actually want
  • The difference between rejecting someone and deciding you aren’t a good fit
  • How to experience rejection without making it mean you aren’t good enough

A question to sit with:
Can I be disappointed that someone doesn’t like me without making their opinion evidence that something is wrong with me?

Resources & Links:

🌐 Visit: https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/

Download your FREE Not Good Enough Guide here: https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/free-guide-to-feeling-enough/

Connect with Me:
▶️ YouTube: @notgoodenoughstuff
📸 Instagram: https://instagram.com/theinnerchildtherapist
🎵 TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@theinnerchildtherapist
📘 Facebook: https://facebook.com/TICT.MaryBethFox
💼 LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/marybethfox

 

If this episode resonated with you, please follow the podcast, leave a review, and share it with someone who needs to hear it. Every share helps more people begin questioning the messages they never chose to believe.

 

Disclaimer: The information shared in this podcast is for educational and personal growth purposes only. It is not a substitute for therapy, mental health treatment, or medical advice, and listening does not create a therapist-client relationship. If you need support for your unique situation, please connect with a licensed mental health professional in your area.

 

Music Attribution:

Music licensed through Soundstripe

Code: CDAA5GJA2635SEHS

]]>2133f9f9-0d45-4161-bf9b-54718ee22b41Tue, 25 Aug 2026 12:00:00 GMT<p>Why does it hurt so much when someone doesn’t like you, even when you know not everyone is going to?</p><p></p><p>In this episode of <b><i>Not Good Enough Stuff</i>,</b> Mary Beth Fox explores why rejection can feel so personal and how childhood messages about being nice, agreeable, and liked can teach us to believe that someone else’s rejection means there is something wrong with us.</p><p></p><p>You’ll hear how fear of rejection can show up as replaying conversations, questioning what you did wrong, changing yourself to gain someone’s approval, or staying in friendships and relationships that no longer feel right because you’re afraid of hurting someone else.</p><p></p><p>We’ll also look at the other side of rejection: learning that you are allowed to decide someone isn’t right for your life, and other people are allowed to make that same decision about you.</p><p></p><p>Rejection can hurt. The goal isn’t to stop caring altogether. It’s learning to feel disappointed without turning someone else’s opinion or decision into evidence that you aren’t good enough.</p><p></p><p><b>In this episode:</b></p><ul><li>Why being disliked can feel like proof that something is wrong with you</li><li>Childhood messages that teach us everyone should like us</li><li>Why ambiguous behavior can trigger a rejection spiral</li><li>How fear of rejection feeds people-pleasing and self-doubt</li><li>Why you may stay in friendships or relationships you don’t actually want</li><li>The difference between rejecting someone and deciding you aren’t a good fit</li><li>How to experience rejection without making it mean you aren’t good enough</li></ul><p><b>A question to sit with:</b><br />Can I be disappointed that someone doesn’t like me without making their opinion evidence that something is wrong with me?</p><p></p><p><b>Resources &amp; Links:</b></p><p>🌐 Visit: <a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/" target="_blank">https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/</a></p><p><b>Download your FREE Not Good Enough Guide here: </b><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/free-guide-to-feeling-enough/" target="_blank">https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/free-guide-to-feeling-enough/</a></p><p><b>Connect with Me:</b>
▶️ YouTube: @notgoodenoughstuff
📸 Instagram: <a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://instagram.com/theinnerchildtherapist" target="_blank">https://instagram.com/theinnerchildtherapist</a>
🎵 TikTok: <a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://tiktok.com/@theinnerchildtherapist" target="_blank">https://tiktok.com/@theinnerchildtherapist</a>
📘 Facebook: <a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://facebook.com/TICT.MaryBethFox" target="_blank">https://facebook.com/TICT.MaryBethFox</a>
💼 LinkedIn: <a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://linkedin.com/in/marybethfox" target="_blank">https://linkedin.com/in/marybethfox</a></p><p> </p><p>If this episode resonated with you, please follow the podcast, leave a review, and share it with someone who needs to hear it. Every share helps more people begin questioning the messages they never chose to believe.</p><p> </p><p><b>Disclaimer:</b> The information shared in this podcast is for educational and personal growth purposes only. It is not a substitute for therapy, mental health treatment, or medical advice, and listening does not create a therapist-client relationship. If you need support for your unique situation, please connect with a licensed mental health professional in your area.</p><p> </p><p>Music Attribution:</p><p>Music licensed through Soundstripe</p><p>Code: CDAA5GJA2635SEHS</p>yes00:22:247Why Does Rejection Hurt So Much? When Someone Doesn’t Like Youfull<![CDATA[Have You Ever Been So Mad You Could Cry? What’s Really Underneath Your Anger]]>Have you ever gotten so angry over something small that even you were confused by your reaction? Or felt ashamed afterward and wondered, Why did I react like that?

In this episode of Not Good Enough Stuff, I explore what may be underneath that anger: sadness you learned to hide. If you grew up hearing “stop crying,” “you’re fine,” or that crying was weak, you may have learned to suppress sadness long before you understood what you were doing.

We’ll talk about how childhood messages about emotions can follow us into adulthood, why sadness can show up as anger, and how the cycle of exploding, feeling ashamed, and pushing your feelings back down can continue.

Instead of asking, “Why am I so angry?” what might change if you asked, “What might be underneath my anger that I never learned how to feel?”

Timestamps:

00:00 The Roots of Crying and Childhood Conditioning

06:57 The Consequences of Repressed Emotions

13:32 Redefining Strength: The Power of Vulnerability

20:25 Healing Through Understanding: The Impact of Childhood Lessons

Resources & Links:

🌐 Visit: https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/

Download your FREE Not Good Enough Guide here: https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/free-guide-to-feeling-enough/

Connect with Me:
▶️ YouTube: @notgoodenoughstuff
📸 Instagram: https://instagram.com/theinnerchildtherapist
🎵 TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@theinnerchildtherapist
📘 Facebook: https://facebook.com/TICT.MaryBethFox
💼 LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/marybethfox

 

If this episode resonated with you, please follow the podcast, leave a review, and share it with someone who needs to hear it. Every share helps more people begin questioning the messages they never chose to believe.

 

Disclaimer: The information shared in this podcast is for educational and personal growth purposes only. It is not a substitute for therapy, mental health treatment, or medical advice, and listening does not create a therapist-client relationship. If you need support for your unique situation, please connect with a licensed mental health professional in your area.

 

Music Attribution:

Music licensed through Soundstripe

Code: CDAA5GJA2635SEHS

]]>f6b936a4-eeec-426f-8f34-cdb59cbf4396Tue, 18 Aug 2026 12:00:00 GMT<p>Have you ever gotten so angry over something small that even you were confused by your reaction? Or felt ashamed afterward and wondered, Why did I react like that?</p><p></p><p>In this episode of <b><i>Not Good Enough Stuff</i></b>, I explore what may be underneath that anger: sadness you learned to hide. If you grew up hearing “stop crying,” “you’re fine,” or that crying was weak, you may have learned to suppress sadness long before you understood what you were doing.</p><p></p><p>We’ll talk about how childhood messages about emotions can follow us into adulthood, why sadness can show up as anger, and how the cycle of exploding, feeling ashamed, and pushing your feelings back down can continue.</p><p></p><p>Instead of asking, “Why am I so angry?” what might change if you asked, “What might be underneath my anger that I never learned how to feel?”</p><p></p><p><b>Timestamps: </b></p><p>00:00 The Roots of Crying and Childhood Conditioning</p><p>06:57 The Consequences of Repressed Emotions</p><p>13:32 Redefining Strength: The Power of Vulnerability</p><p>20:25 Healing Through Understanding: The Impact of Childhood Lessons</p><p></p><p><b>Resources &amp; Links:</b></p><p>🌐 Visit: <a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/" target="_blank">https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/</a></p><p><b>Download your FREE Not Good Enough Guide here: </b><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/free-guide-to-feeling-enough/" target="_blank">https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/free-guide-to-feeling-enough/</a></p><p><b>Connect with Me:</b>
▶️ YouTube: @notgoodenoughstuff
📸 Instagram: <a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://instagram.com/theinnerchildtherapist" target="_blank">https://instagram.com/theinnerchildtherapist</a>
🎵 TikTok: <a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://tiktok.com/@theinnerchildtherapist" target="_blank">https://tiktok.com/@theinnerchildtherapist</a>
📘 Facebook: <a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://facebook.com/TICT.MaryBethFox" target="_blank">https://facebook.com/TICT.MaryBethFox</a>
💼 LinkedIn: <a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://linkedin.com/in/marybethfox" target="_blank">https://linkedin.com/in/marybethfox</a></p><p> </p><p>If this episode resonated with you, please follow the podcast, leave a review, and share it with someone who needs to hear it. Every share helps more people begin questioning the messages they never chose to believe.</p><p> </p><p><b>Disclaimer:</b> The information shared in this podcast is for educational and personal growth purposes only. It is not a substitute for therapy, mental health treatment, or medical advice, and listening does not create a therapist-client relationship. If you need support for your unique situation, please connect with a licensed mental health professional in your area.</p><p> </p><p>Music Attribution:</p><p>Music licensed through Soundstripe</p><p>Code: CDAA5GJA2635SEHS</p><p></p>yes00:23:216Have You Ever Been So Mad You Could Cry? What’s Really Underneath Your Angerfull<![CDATA[Why Do We Listen to Our Inner Critic?]]>Why do we listen to our inner critic, especially when it tells us we’re not good enough?

In this episode of Not Good Enough Stuff, I’m talking about where that critical voice actually comes from and why messages we learned from family, society, culture, and other people can eventually become so familiar that we mistake them for our own voice.

We’ll look at how other people’s unhealed Not Good Enough Stuff can become part of the way we see ourselves, why hearing something repeatedly doesn’t make it true, and how to begin questioning the negative messages you’ve carried for years.

The goal isn’t to eliminate your inner critic. It’s to understand where it came from, question whether what it’s telling you is actually true, and begin turning down its volume.

What is your inner critic telling you that you’re ready to start questioning?

New episodes of Not Good Enough Stuff every Tuesday.

Timestamps:

00:00 Introduction to the inner critic and its importance

00:58 How family, society, and culture shape our inner critic

01:55 The roots of negative self-beliefs from childhood

03:09 The influence of unhealed, unhealthy people on our self-image

04:40 Why we continue to listen to unhelpful voices

07:05 The impact of repeated negative messages from others

11:14 Understanding the triggers and roots of inner critic messages

15:10 Questioning the truth of negative beliefs and compliments

18:03 Unlearning harmful messages from unhealed people

21:06 Recognizing and challenging the inner critic's influence

23:23 Practical steps to heal and diminish the inner critic

 

End of description:

Resources & Links:

🌐 Visit: https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/

Download your FREE Not Good Enough Guide here: https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/free-guide-to-feeling-enough/

Connect with Me:
▶️ YouTube: @notgoodenoughstuff
📸 Instagram: https://instagram.com/theinnerchildtherapist
🎵 TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@theinnerchildtherapist
📘 Facebook: https://facebook.com/TICT.MaryBethFox
💼 LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/marybethfox

 

If this episode resonated with you, please follow the podcast, leave a review, and share it with someone who needs to hear it. Every share helps more people begin questioning the messages they never chose to believe.

 

Disclaimer: The information shared in this podcast is for educational and personal growth purposes only. It is not a substitute for therapy, mental health treatment, or medical advice, and listening does not create a therapist-client relationship. If you need support for your unique situation, please connect with a licensed mental health professional in your area.

 

Music Attribution:

Music licensed through Soundstripe.

Code: CDAA5GJA2635SEHS

]]>198f99ba-3e4e-4e05-9548-413524c9a7c5Tue, 11 Aug 2026 12:00:00 GMT<p><b>Why do we listen to our inner critic, especially when it tells us we’re not good enough?</b></p><p>In this episode of <i>Not Good Enough Stuff</i>, I’m talking about where that critical voice actually comes from and why messages we learned from family, society, culture, and other people can eventually become so familiar that we mistake them for our own voice.</p><p>We’ll look at how other people’s unhealed Not Good Enough Stuff can become part of the way we see ourselves, why hearing something repeatedly doesn’t make it true, and how to begin questioning the negative messages you’ve carried for years.</p><p>The goal isn’t to eliminate your inner critic. It’s to understand where it came from, question whether what it’s telling you is actually true, and begin turning down its volume.</p><p>What is your inner critic telling you that you’re ready to start questioning?</p><p></p><p><b>New episodes of Not Good Enough Stuff every Tuesday.</b></p><p></p><p><b>Timestamps:</b></p><p>00:00 Introduction to the inner critic and its importance</p><p>00:58 How family, society, and culture shape our inner critic</p><p>01:55 The roots of negative self-beliefs from childhood</p><p>03:09 The influence of unhealed, unhealthy people on our self-image</p><p>04:40 Why we continue to listen to unhelpful voices</p><p>07:05 The impact of repeated negative messages from others</p><p>11:14 Understanding the triggers and roots of inner critic messages</p><p>15:10 Questioning the truth of negative beliefs and compliments</p><p>18:03 Unlearning harmful messages from unhealed people</p><p>21:06 Recognizing and challenging the inner critic's influence</p><p>23:23 Practical steps to heal and diminish the inner critic</p><p> </p><p>End of description:</p><p><b>Resources &amp; Links:</b></p><p>🌐 Visit: <a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/" target="_blank">https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/</a></p><p><b>Download your FREE Not Good Enough Guide here: </b><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/free-guide-to-feeling-enough/" target="_blank"><b>https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/free-guide-to-feeling-enough/</b></a></p><p><b>Connect with Me:</b>
▶️ YouTube: @notgoodenoughstuff
📸 Instagram: <a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://instagram.com/theinnerchildtherapist" target="_blank">https://instagram.com/theinnerchildtherapist</a>
🎵 TikTok: <a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://tiktok.com/@theinnerchildtherapist" target="_blank">https://tiktok.com/@theinnerchildtherapist</a>
📘 Facebook: <a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://facebook.com/TICT.MaryBethFox" target="_blank">https://facebook.com/TICT.MaryBethFox</a>
💼 LinkedIn: <a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://linkedin.com/in/marybethfox" target="_blank">https://linkedin.com/in/marybethfox</a></p><p> </p><p>If this episode resonated with you, please follow the podcast, leave a review, and share it with someone who needs to hear it. Every share helps more people begin questioning the messages they never chose to believe.</p><p> </p><p><b>Disclaimer:</b> The information shared in this podcast is for educational and personal growth purposes only. It is not a substitute for therapy, mental health treatment, or medical advice, and listening does not create a therapist-client relationship. If you need support for your unique situation, please connect with a licensed mental health professional in your area.</p><p> </p><p>Music Attribution:</p><p>Music licensed through Soundstripe.</p><p>Code: CDAA5GJA2635SEHS</p>yes00:25:385Why Do We Listen to Our Inner Critic?full<![CDATA[Your Life Experiences Are Not Your Identity | Why Your Worth Was Never Based on Your Story]]>What if the hardest things you've lived through aren't actually who you are?

Many of us unknowingly build our identity around trauma, chronic illness, childhood wounds, career roles, relationships, or accomplishments. Over time, those experiences become the lens through which we see ourselves.

In this episode of Not Good Enough Stuff, I share how I made my car wreck, childhood experiences, and Ehler's Danlos Syndrome part of my identity and why healing required separating my story from who I truly am.

You'll learn why your worth has never depended on what you've survived, what you've achieved, or what you've lost.

If you've ever wondered who you are beneath the labels, diagnoses, trauma, or expectations, this episode is for you.

In this episode:

✔ Why we confuse experiences with identity
✔ How trauma, illness, and life roles become who we think we are
✔ Why your worth existed before anything happened to you
✔ The hidden connection between identity and Not Good Enough Stuff
✔ How to begin separating your story from your true self

00:00 Introduction

00:49 16 Years Since My Car Wreck

02:25 When Trauma Becomes Your Identity

04:10 Why Your Worth Existed Before Your Pain

05:35 How Not Good Enough Stuff Shapes Identity

07:20 Why We Attach Our Identity to Our Story

09:30 When Your Identity Disappears

11:20 Your Worth Was Never Earned

12:50 Who Are You Without Your Story?

15:05 Your Story Is Not Your Identity

16:55 Final Thoughts

Resources & Links:

🌐 Visit: https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/

Download your FREE Not Good Enough Guide here: https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/free-guide-to-feeling-enough/

Connect with Me:
▶️ YouTube: @notgoodenoughstuff
📸 Instagram: https://instagram.com/theinnerchildtherapist
🎵 TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@theinnerchildtherapist
📘 Facebook: https://facebook.com/TICT.MaryBethFox
💼 LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/marybethfox

 

If this episode resonated with you, please follow the podcast, leave a review, and share it with someone who needs to hear it. Every share helps more people begin questioning the messages they never chose to believe.

 

Disclaimer: The information shared in this podcast is for educational and personal growth purposes only. It is not a substitute for therapy, mental health treatment, or medical advice, and listening does not create a therapist-client relationship. If you need support for your unique situation, please connect with a licensed mental health professional in your area.

 

Music Attribution:

Music licensed through Soundstripe

Code: CDAA5GJA2635SEHS

]]>ddeb80d2-daab-4486-9d42-4a0ea6fbff5eTue, 04 Aug 2026 12:00:00 GMT<p><b>What if the hardest things you've lived through aren't actually who you are?</b></p><p>Many of us unknowingly build our identity around trauma, chronic illness, childhood wounds, career roles, relationships, or accomplishments. Over time, those experiences become the lens through which we see ourselves.</p><p>In this episode of <b><i>Not Good Enough Stuff</i>,</b> I share how I made my car wreck, childhood experiences, and Ehler's Danlos Syndrome part of my identity and why healing required separating my story from who I truly am.</p><p>You'll learn why your worth has never depended on what you've survived, what you've achieved, or what you've lost.</p><p>If you've ever wondered who you are beneath the labels, diagnoses, trauma, or expectations, this episode is for you.</p><h3>In this episode:</h3><p>✔ Why we confuse experiences with identity<br />✔ How trauma, illness, and life roles become who we think we are<br />✔ Why your worth existed before anything happened to you<br />✔ The hidden connection between identity and Not Good Enough Stuff<br />✔ How to begin separating your story from your true self</p><p></p><p>00:00 Introduction</p><p>00:49 16 Years Since My Car Wreck</p><p>02:25 When Trauma Becomes Your Identity</p><p>04:10 Why Your Worth Existed Before Your Pain</p><p>05:35 How Not Good Enough Stuff Shapes Identity</p><p>07:20 Why We Attach Our Identity to Our Story</p><p>09:30 When Your Identity Disappears</p><p>11:20 Your Worth Was Never Earned</p><p>12:50 Who Are You Without Your Story?</p><p>15:05 Your Story Is Not Your Identity</p><p>16:55 Final Thoughts</p><p></p><p><b>Resources &amp; Links:</b></p><p>🌐 Visit: <a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/" target="_blank">https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/</a></p><p><b>Download your FREE Not Good Enough Guide here: </b><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/free-guide-to-feeling-enough/" target="_blank">https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/free-guide-to-feeling-enough/</a></p><p><b>Connect with Me:</b>
▶️ YouTube: @notgoodenoughstuff
📸 Instagram: <a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://instagram.com/theinnerchildtherapist" target="_blank">https://instagram.com/theinnerchildtherapist</a>
🎵 TikTok: <a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://tiktok.com/@theinnerchildtherapist" target="_blank">https://tiktok.com/@theinnerchildtherapist</a>
📘 Facebook: <a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://facebook.com/TICT.MaryBethFox" target="_blank">https://facebook.com/TICT.MaryBethFox</a>
💼 LinkedIn: <a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://linkedin.com/in/marybethfox" target="_blank">https://linkedin.com/in/marybethfox</a></p><p> </p><p>If this episode resonated with you, please follow the podcast, leave a review, and share it with someone who needs to hear it. Every share helps more people begin questioning the messages they never chose to believe.</p><p> </p><p><b>Disclaimer:</b> The information shared in this podcast is for educational and personal growth purposes only. It is not a substitute for therapy, mental health treatment, or medical advice, and listening does not create a therapist-client relationship. If you need support for your unique situation, please connect with a <b>licensed </b>mental health professional in your area.</p><p> </p><p>Music Attribution:</p><p>Music licensed through Soundstripe</p><p>Code: CDAA5GJA2635SEHS</p>no00:20:234Your Life Experiences Are Not Your Identity | Why Your Worth Was Never Based on Your Storyfull<![CDATA[Why You Don't Know What You Need (And Where That Started)]]>Why don't you know what you need?

If identifying your needs feels impossible, the problem isn't that you're broken. It may be that you learned your needs didn't matter long before you were old enough to question that belief.

In this episode of Not Good Enough Stuff, licensed professional counselor Mary Beth Fox explores how unmet childhood needs shape adulthood, why so many people become people-pleasers or hyper-independent, and how these early experiences become part of the Not Good Enough Stuff we mistake for who we are.

If you struggle with people-pleasing, hyper-independence, setting boundaries, understanding your emotional needs, or feeling like you're never enough, this episode will help you understand where those patterns began and how to start changing them.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• Why you struggle to identify your needs
• How childhood experiences shape your identity and relationships
• The hidden connection between people-pleasing and unmet emotional needs
• Why hyper-independence develops
• How to begin recognizing and expressing your needs

If you've ever thought:

"I don't know what I need."

"I feel guilty asking for help."

"I take care of everyone else before myself."

...this episode is for you.

🎁 Download your FREE Not Good Enough Stuff Guide:
https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/free-guide-to-feeling-enough/

📖 Download your FREE Inner Child Workbook:
https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/free-inner-child-workbook/

🌿 Learn more:
https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com

If this episode helped you see yourself differently, please follow the podcast, leave a review, and share it with someone who needs to hear it. Every share helps more people begin questioning the messages they never chose to believe.

Remember, you are good enough. You always were and you always will be.

Disclaimer: The information shared in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not a substitute for therapy, mental health treatment, or medical advice, and listening does not create a therapist-client relationship. If you need support for your unique situation, please connect with a licensed mental health professional in your area.

Music Attribution: 

Music licensed through Soundstripe.

Code: CDAA5GJA2635SEHS

]]>72ed773a-3ed7-41a1-aaea-cad2b6218323Tue, 28 Jul 2026 12:00:00 GMT<p><b>Why don't you know what you need?</b></p><p>If identifying your needs feels impossible, the problem isn't that you're broken. It may be that you learned your needs didn't matter long before you were old enough to question that belief.</p><p>In this episode of <b>Not Good Enough Stuff</b>, licensed professional counselor <b>Mary Beth Fox</b> explores how unmet childhood needs shape adulthood, why so many people become people-pleasers or hyper-independent, and how these early experiences become part of the <b>Not Good Enough Stuff</b> we mistake for who we are.</p><p>If you struggle with people-pleasing, hyper-independence, setting boundaries, understanding your emotional needs, or feeling like you're never enough, this episode will help you understand where those patterns began and how to start changing them.</p><h3>In this episode, you'll learn:</h3><p>• Why you struggle to identify your needs<br />• How childhood experiences shape your identity and relationships<br />• The hidden connection between people-pleasing and unmet emotional needs<br />• Why hyper-independence develops<br />• How to begin recognizing and expressing your needs</p><p>If you've ever thought:</p><p>"I don't know what I need."</p><p>"I feel guilty asking for help."</p><p>"I take care of everyone else before myself."</p><p>...this episode is for you.</p><p></p><p>🎁 <b>Download your FREE Not Good Enough Stuff Guide:</b><br /><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/free-guide-to-feeling-enough/" target="_blank">https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/free-guide-to-feeling-enough/</a></p><p>📖 <b>Download your FREE Inner Child Workbook:</b><br /><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/free-inner-child-workbook/" target="_blank">https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/free-inner-child-workbook/</a></p><p>🌿 <b>Learn more:</b><br /><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com" target="_blank">https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com</a></p><p></p><p>If this episode helped you see yourself differently, please follow the podcast, leave a review, and share it with someone who needs to hear it. Every share helps more people begin questioning the messages they never chose to believe.</p><p>Remember, you are good enough. You always were and you always will be.</p><hr /><p><b>Disclaimer:</b> The information shared in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not a substitute for therapy, mental health treatment, or medical advice, and listening does not create a therapist-client relationship. If you need support for your unique situation, please connect with a licensed mental health professional in your area.</p><p></p><p>Music Attribution: </p><p>Music licensed through Soundstripe.</p><p>Code: CDAA5GJA2635SEHS</p>yes00:26:013Why You Don't Know What You Need (And Where That Started)full<![CDATA[How Childhood Messages Shape Your Identity]]>Why do so many of us grow up believing we're not good enough?

In this episode of Not Good Enough Stuff, I explore how the messages we receive from our families, both spoken and unspoken, shape our beliefs about ourselves. Even well-meaning caregivers can unintentionally send messages that become part of our identity, influencing our self-worth, relationships, confidence, and the way we move through life.

You'll learn:
• How childhood messages become lifelong beliefs
• Why your inner voice often reflects messages from your past
• The difference between who you truly are and what you learned to believe about yourself
• Why awareness is the first step toward lasting change

If you've ever found yourself asking, "Where did I learn to believe this about myself?" this episode is for you.

Timestamps:

00:00 The Impact of Family Messages on Self-Perception

05:32 Understanding Achievement and Worth

12:13 Exploring Emotions and Relationships

20:24 Identity, Appearance, and Safety

21:30 Money Mindset and Self-Worth

Resources & Links:

🌐 Visit: https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/

Download your FREE Not Good Enough Guide here: https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/free-guide-to-feeling-enough/

Connect with Me:
▶️ YouTube: @notgoodenoughstuff
📸 Instagram: https://instagram.com/theinnerchildtherapist
🎵 TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@theinnerchildtherapist
📘 Facebook: https://facebook.com/TICT.MaryBethFox
💼 LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/marybethfox

If this episode resonated with you, please follow the podcast, leave a review, and share it with someone who needs to hear it. Every share helps more people begin questioning the messages they never chose to believe.

Disclaimer: The information shared in this podcast is for educational and personal growth purposes only. It is not a substitute for therapy, mental health treatment, or medical advice, and listening does not create a therapist-client relationship. If you need support for your unique situation, please connect with a licensed mental health professional in your area.

]]>e6e8b77c-8c71-424c-88ee-a65027e6fb88Tue, 21 Jul 2026 12:00:00 GMT<p>Why do so many of us grow up believing we're not good enough?</p><p>In this episode of <b><i>Not Good Enough Stuff</i>,</b> I explore how the messages we receive from our families, both spoken and unspoken, shape our beliefs about ourselves. Even well-meaning caregivers can unintentionally send messages that become part of our identity, influencing our self-worth, relationships, confidence, and the way we move through life.</p><p></p><p><b>You'll learn:</b><br />• How childhood messages become lifelong beliefs<br />• Why your inner voice often reflects messages from your past<br />• The difference between who you truly are and what you learned to believe about yourself<br />• Why awareness is the first step toward lasting change</p><p>If you've ever found yourself asking, <i>"Where did I learn to believe this about myself?"</i> this episode is for you.</p><p></p><p><b>Timestamps:</b></p><p>00:00 The Impact of Family Messages on Self-Perception</p><p>05:32 Understanding Achievement and Worth</p><p>12:13 Exploring Emotions and Relationships</p><p>20:24 Identity, Appearance, and Safety</p><p>21:30 Money Mindset and Self-Worth</p><p></p><p><b>Resources &amp; Links:</b></p><p>🌐 Visit: <a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/" target="_blank">https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/</a></p><p><b>Download your FREE Not Good Enough Guide here: </b><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/free-guide-to-feeling-enough/" target="_blank">https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/free-guide-to-feeling-enough/</a></p><p></p><p><b>Connect with Me:</b><br />▶️ YouTube: @notgoodenoughstuff<br />📸 Instagram: <a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://instagram.com/theinnerchildtherapist" target="_blank">https://instagram.com/theinnerchildtherapist</a><br />🎵 TikTok: <a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://tiktok.com/@theinnerchildtherapist" target="_blank">https://tiktok.com/@theinnerchildtherapist</a><br />📘 Facebook: <a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://facebook.com/TICT.MaryBethFox" target="_blank">https://facebook.com/TICT.MaryBethFox</a><br />💼 LinkedIn: <a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://linkedin.com/in/marybethfox" target="_blank">https://linkedin.com/in/marybethfox</a></p><p></p><p><b>If this episode resonated with you, please follow the podcast, leave a review, and share it with someone who needs to hear it. Every share helps more people begin questioning the messages they never chose to believe.</b></p><p></p><p><b>Disclaimer:</b> The information shared in this podcast is for educational and personal growth purposes only. It is not a substitute for therapy, mental health treatment, or medical advice, and listening does not create a therapist-client relationship. If you need support for your unique situation, please connect with a licensed mental health professional in your area.</p>yes00:24:592How Childhood Messages Shape Your Identityfull<![CDATA[Understanding the Inner Critic]]>Understanding the Inner Critic 

In this first episode of Not Good Enough Stuff, licensed professional counselor Mary Beth Fox explains how your inner critic develops, why the voice in your head wasn't born with you, & how childhood, family, culture, & life experiences shape your sense of self. Learn how messages from childhood, family, culture, religion, & society become internalized, shaping the way you see yourself, your relationships, & your life. This episode will help you begin questioning the beliefs you never chose so you can start discovering your authentic voice.

Key Topics:

  • The concept of "Not Good Enough Stuff" & how it shapes our self-perception
  • How family, culture, religion, society, & life experiences shape the inner critic
  • How repetitive negative messages become internalized & influence identity
  • The link between inner critic messages and depression, relationship dynamics, & career choices
  • Practical ways to recognize, question, & respond differently to your inner critic
  • The importance of recognizing that your true voice is separate from learned beliefs
  • Ongoing healing & the truth about eliminating the inner critic
  • Examples of how societal expectations impact personal expression & confidence
  • Practical steps in questioning & shifting negative self-talk
  • Encouragement to affirm your worth & develop a new vision of self

Timestamps:

00:00 Introduction

01:02 How the inner critic develops

04:05 How beliefs become identity

06:24 My personal story

08:48 Questioning negative self-talk

11:37 Your true identity

13:00 Discovering your authentic voice

15:29 Managing the inner critic

18:12 Finding your voice

21:09 You were always enough

22:37 Final thoughts

Resources & Links:

Visit: https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/

Download your FREE Not Good Enough Guide here: https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/free-guide-to-feeling-enough/

Connect with Me:

YouTube: @notgoodenoughstuff

Instagram: https://instagram.com/theinnerchildtherapist

TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@theinnerchildtherapist

Facebook: https://facebook.com/TICT.MaryBethFox

LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/marybethfox

If this episode resonated with you, please follow the podcast, leave a review, & share it with someone who needs to hear it. Every share helps more people begin questioning the messages they never chose to believe.

Disclaimer: The information shared in this podcast is for educational & personal growth purposes only. It is not a substitute for therapy, mental health treatment, or medical advice, & listening does not create a therapist-client relationship. If you need support for your unique situation, please connect with a licensed mental health professional in your area.

Music Attribution: 

Music licensed through Soundstripe.

Code: CDAA5GJA2635SEHS

]]>d108217a-e073-4597-ad67-944ce896d116Tue, 14 Jul 2026 12:00:00 GMT<p><b><i>Understanding the Inner Critic</i> </b></p><p>In this first episode of Not Good Enough Stuff, licensed professional counselor Mary Beth Fox explains how your inner critic develops, why the voice in your head wasn't born with you, &amp; how childhood, family, culture, &amp; life experiences shape your sense of self. Learn how messages from childhood, family, culture, religion, &amp; society become internalized, shaping the way you see yourself, your relationships, &amp; your life. This episode will help you begin questioning the beliefs you never chose so you can start discovering your authentic voice.</p><p><b>Key Topics:</b></p><ul><li>The concept of "Not Good Enough Stuff" &amp; how it shapes our self-perception</li><li>How family, culture, religion, society, &amp; life experiences shape the inner critic</li><li>How repetitive negative messages become internalized &amp; influence identity</li><li>The link between inner critic messages and depression, relationship dynamics, &amp; career choices</li><li>Practical ways to recognize, question, &amp; respond differently to your inner critic</li><li>The importance of recognizing that your true voice is separate from learned beliefs</li><li>Ongoing healing &amp; the truth about eliminating the inner critic</li><li>Examples of how societal expectations impact personal expression &amp; confidence</li><li>Practical steps in questioning &amp; shifting negative self-talk</li><li>Encouragement to affirm your worth &amp; develop a new vision of self</li></ul><p></p><p>Timestamps:</p><p>00:00 Introduction</p><p>01:02 How the inner critic develops</p><p>04:05 How beliefs become identity</p><p>06:24 My personal story</p><p>08:48 Questioning negative self-talk</p><p>11:37 Your true identity</p><p>13:00 Discovering your authentic voice</p><p>15:29 Managing the inner critic</p><p>18:12 Finding your voice</p><p>21:09 You were always enough</p><p>22:37 Final thoughts</p><p><b>Resources &amp; Links:</b></p><p>Visit: <a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/" target="_blank">https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/</a></p><p>Download your FREE Not Good Enough Guide here: <a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/free-guide-to-feeling-enough/" target="_blank">https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/free-guide-to-feeling-enough/</a></p><p><b>Connect with Me:</b></p><p>YouTube: @notgoodenoughstuff</p><p>Instagram: <a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://instagram.com/theinnerchildtherapist" target="_blank">https://instagram.com/theinnerchildtherapist</a></p><p>TikTok: <a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://tiktok.com/@theinnerchildtherapist" target="_blank">https://tiktok.com/@theinnerchildtherapist</a></p><p>Facebook: <a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://facebook.com/TICT.MaryBethFox" target="_blank">https://facebook.com/TICT.MaryBethFox</a></p><p>LinkedIn: <a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://linkedin.com/in/marybethfox" target="_blank">https://linkedin.com/in/marybethfox</a></p><p></p><p>If this episode resonated with you, please follow the podcast, leave a review, &amp; share it with someone who needs to hear it. Every share helps more people begin questioning the messages they never chose to believe.</p><p></p><p><b>Disclaimer: </b>The information shared in this podcast is for educational &amp; personal growth purposes only. It is not a substitute for therapy, mental health treatment, or medical advice, &amp; listening does not create a therapist-client relationship. If you need support for your unique situation, please connect with a licensed mental health professional in your area.</p><p></p><p>Music Attribution: </p><p>Music licensed through Soundstripe.</p><p>Code: CDAA5GJA2635SEHS</p>yes00:24:231Understanding the Inner Criticfull