Waiting to feel ready is one of the most common ways women delay the life they actually want — and in this episode of How to Lose the 'WAIT,' life coach Holly Toscanini explains how to stop waiting to feel ready and start moving forward anyway. Readiness isn't a state you achieve before action. It's something that's revealed through it.

Holly walks through where the habit of waiting comes from — including Good Girl Syndrome and the conditioning that taught women to over-prepare before entering any room — and reframes what readiness actually means. Then she shares how to recognize the quiet nudge that tells you it's time, and three types of yes that build self-trust from the ground up.

In this episode:

• Why readiness rarely arrives before action — and what does instead
• The internal HP statistic on women, confidence, and over-preparing
• What Good Girl Syndrome is and where it comes from
• How to tell the difference between fear of danger and fear of growth
• Why confidence comes after action, not before
• Tiny, medium, and big yeses — and why the small ones matter most
• How to identify one yes you can practice this week

Resources mentioned:

The "What's Next?" Self-Coaching Session (free):
https://withme.so/hollytoscanini/lead_542

When You Can't Stop Second-Guessing Yourself, a 5-day private podcast
https://withme.so/hollytoscanini/dm_7519

#StopWaiting #SelfTrust #WomenOver50 #Readiness #HowToLoseTheWait

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Holly walks through where the pull to people-please comes from, including Good Girl Syndrome and the fawn response, why it tends to get louder when your role changes, and what it quietly costs you. Then she shares three small practices to start this week: noticing your script, setting one low-stakes boundary, and letting guilt become useful information.

In this episode:

• Why people-pleasing often gets stronger after the kids leave, during menopause, or in a career change
• What Good Girl Syndrome is and where it comes from
• A 2010 study on why women apologize more than men
• How the fawn response makes a reasonable boundary feel physically scary
• Three simple phrases for saying no without over-explaining
• How small boundaries build self-trust over time

Resources mentioned:

The "What's Next?" Self-Coaching Session (free): https://withme.so/hollytoscanini/lead_542

When You Can't Stop Second-Guessing Yourself, a 5-day private podcast https://withme.so/hollytoscanini/dm_7519

Chapters

00:00 When life changes but your yes stays the same

01:29 Good Girl Syndrome and the rules behind people-pleasing

03:26 Why women may apologize more often

04:24 How transitions give old rules new places to land

05:52 The costs: lost preferences, lopsided relationships, and guilt

07:18 How the body signals an automatic yes

08:47 Practice 1: Notice the script

09:23 Practice 2: Try one small boundary

10:21 Practice 3: Let guilt be information

11:20 Build self-trust and choose your next chapter

Research referenced: Schumann, K., & Ross, M. (2010). Why women apologize more than men: Gender differences in thresholds for perceiving offensive behavior. Psychological Science. The fawn response is a term from therapist Pete Walker.

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Fatigue, bloating, brain fog, and the 3 p.m. crash often get brushed off as part of getting older. In this episode of How to Lose the 'WAIT,' life coach Holly Toscanini talks with wellness coach Karli Blackwell about gut health after 40 and what those everyday symptoms may be telling you.

Karli spent nearly twenty years with digestive issues, saw five GI doctors, and tried every diet from SlimFast to Weight Watchers before she started asking why her body felt the way it did. She now works with clients on three areas she calls the pillars of health: gut health, inflammation, and blood sugar balance. She and Holly talk about why so many women push through symptoms for years, how these three areas show up in perimenopause and menopause, and how to start listening to your body again after decades of following someone else's food rules.

In this episode:

• Why Karli started asking "why" after her fifth GI doctor diagnosed IBS
• The difference between symptoms that are common and symptoms you have to live with
• Everyday signs your gut could use more support, including sugar cravings and mood
• What inflammation has to do with how you feel day to day
• Why blood sugar matters for energy, cravings, and sleep even if you aren't diabetic
• How gut health, inflammation, and blood sugar show up in midlife and menopause
• How to start trusting your body's signals after years of dieting
• Why a human coach can see things a midnight Google search can't
• One micro move for this week: track your energy for a few days

Connect with Karli Blackwell:

Instagram: @loving.my.gut https://www.instagram.com/loving.my.gut

FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/p/Loving-My-Gut-100077920909689/

WEBSITE: https://karlibguthealthcoach.wixsite.com/mysite

Resources from Holly:

The "What's Next?" Self-Coaching Session (free): https://withme.so/hollytoscanini/lead_542

When You Can't Stop Second-Guessing Yourself, a 5-day private podcast ($37): https://withme.so/hollytoscanini/dm_7519

This episode is for educational purposes and is not medical advice. Talk with your doctor before making changes to your health care, medications, or supplements.

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If you've been putting something off until your body looks right or you feel young enough, this episode is for you.

Holly Toscanini looks at where body insecurity really comes from, why ageism makes it louder in midlife, and how self-trust helps you stop waiting. You'll get three practices to start this week and one honest question to sit with.

Try "What's Next?”, Holly's free self-coaching tool: https://whats-next.hollytoscanini.workers.dev/

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I draw on decades of dieting history and my years working in intuitive eating and body acceptance to explore why health-promoting habits & restrictive thinking can look so alike from the outside, & why the better question is what's driving a habit & what it's costing you. 

The Honest Answer Coach

If you'd like help finding your one honest next step, try The Honest Answer Coach, my free self-coaching tool. You tell it what you've been feeling, and it asks a few thoughtful questions to help you get to what's underneath and leave with a next step that fits your actual life.

https://holly-toscanini-f50a.mykajabi.com/the-honest-answer-coach

If You Need Support

If food, exercise, or your body are taking up more space in your life than you'd like, you deserve support from someone who specializes in this. The National Alliance for Eating Disorders offers a free helpline staffed by licensed therapists at 866-662-1235 (Monday through Friday, 9 a.m. to 7 p.m. Eastern), and a treatment directory at findEDhelp.com. The helpline isn't a crisis line. If you're in crisis, call or text 988, the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline.

Related Episodes

Episode 134: Hormone therapy and sexual health with Dr. Jennifer Roelands

Episode 133: You're Not Becoming Invisible. You're Becoming Harder to Ignore.

Research Mentioned

National Alliance for Eating Disorders, "Eating Disorders in Midlife and Beyond" (about 13 percent of women 50 and older report at least one current eating disorder symptom)

2023 analysis in Menopause estimating midlife eating disorder prevalence at roughly 3.5 percent, with individual symptoms more common (summarized by LifeStance Health)

#menopause #perimenopause #menorexia #bodyimage #womenover50 #bodyacceptance #intuitiveeating #midlifewomen #howtolosethewait

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I think the framing is off.

Not because the experience isn’t real — it is. But because there’s a question nobody is asking before the style tips arrive: what kind of visible were you? And is that what you actually want back?

In this episode of How to Lose the ‘WAIT’, I'll draw a distinction most conversations about midlife invisibility miss: the difference between the genuine experience of being dismissed or overlooked, and the loss of a conditional visibility that required women to perform, accommodate, and make themselves useful in order to be seen.

Those aren’t the same thing. And treating them the same leads to the wrong solution.

What you’ll learn:

• Why the experience of feeling invisible in midlife is real and worth taking seriously — without a list of style tips
• The two very different experiences women conflate when they say they feel invisible
• The question that changes everything: what were you visible as?
• What conditional visibility actually cost — and why its fading might not be entirely a loss
• What the most compelling, clear-eyed women in midlife have in common
• The specific waiting pattern the invisibility experience activates
• Why the visibility that actually sustains you doesn’t come from being confirmed by the right people

Subscribe for weekly episodes on self-trust, honest communication, and what it actually looks like to stop waiting and start living.

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It’s not a confidence problem. It’s not a mindset problem. According to today’s guest, it’s something more specific — and something that most healing and growth approaches never reach.

In this episode, Holly is in conversation with Christine Agro, founder of the Intrinsic Energy® Institute and the woman who identified and named Patriarchal Encodement™ — an energetic conditioning so embedded in women’s experience that it shapes how they think, feel, speak, and relate to themselves, often without any awareness that it’s happening.

In this conversation, Holly and Christine cover:

• What Christine was observing in her clients that led her to identify Patriarchal Encodement™ — and the moment she realized it was systemic, not individual
• What Patriarchal Encodement™ is — and what makes it different from how we usually talk about patriarchal conditioning
• Why women continue to struggle with the same patterns despite years of therapy, personal growth, and healing work — and what most approaches miss
• The specific experiences women have learned to tolerate: self-doubt, over-giving, difficulty setting limits, guilt, staying silent to keep the peace
• What is actually happening when a woman knows what she wants to say and still can’t say it
• How this conditioning shapes a woman’s relationship with her body
• What it means to clear something at its energetic roots — and why that produces a different result

Free resource from Christine:

Patriarchal Encodement™ Workbook — download free at:

https://www.christineagro.com/peworkbook

Christine Agro — Intrinsic Energy® Institute:

https://christineagro.com/

Instagram: @christineagro

https://www.instagram.com/christineagro

Facebook: @christineagro

https://www.facebook.com/christineagro

YouTube: youtube.com/christineagro

https://www.youtube.com/christineagro

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You’ve noticed changes in your sleep, your energy, your mood, your body, or your sex drive — and you’ve been wondering whether you simply need to push through them — today’s conversation may help you ask a better question- What if you don’t have to keep waiting to feel like yourself again?

Holly’s guest is Dr. Jennifer Roelands, a board-certified OB-GYN and Integrative Medicine specialist with 17 years of active clinical practice at Precision Health MD in Orange County, California. She has spent nearly two decades watching women be dismissed, misdiagnosed, and undertreated — and built her practice around the conviction that women over 35 deserve the clinical explanation their 15-minute appointment never has time for.

Her book PIVOT | You Are Not Crazy: Perimenopause Edition releases October 15, 2026.

• What it means to become the SHE-EO of your health when you feel overwhelmed or talked over in the exam room
• The PIVOT framework from Dr. Roelands’ new book — and the step women most often skip
• The most persistent myths about hormone therapy that still keep women from having an informed conversation
• Why sexual health is still treated as optional rather than a core part of women’s healthcare
• How to talk with a partner about changes in desire, discomfort, or how you feel in your body
• How to think about long-term health without making aging another exhausting standard to meet

Resources from Dr. Roelands:

Free guide — How to Talk to Your Doctor:

https://drjenniferroelands.com/perimenopauseguide/

PIVOT | You Are Not Crazy: Perimenopause Edition (releases October 15, 2026):

https://drjenniferroelands.com/pivotbook/

Precision Health MD:

https://drjenniferroelands.com/

YouTube — Dr. Jen MD:

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCC16IWACsU9FPpkYlLENEjg

Instagram: @dr.jenniferroelands

https://www.instagram.com/dr.jenniferroelands/

#perimenopause #womenshealth #womenover40 #drjenniferroelands #selftrust #PIVOTbook #womenover50 #menopause

Additional Resources Mentioned:

Dr. Kelly Caspern- You Are Not Broken
https://www.youtube.com/@kellycaspersonmd

Emily Morse- Sex with Emily

https://sexwithemily.com/

Dr. Emily Nagoski- Come As You Are

https://www.emilynagoski.com/

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You know something needs to change. You may even know what the change is. But taking action still feels strangely difficult.

Holly’s guest today, Embodied Integration Coach Natasha Ramlall, has a phrase that explains why: “You can’t think your way out of an overthinking problem.”

Change isn’t only happening in your thoughts. Your body is part of the conversation too.

After making her own pivot following a 25-year career, Natasha became deeply interested in the disorienting in-between — the space between who you’ve been and who you’re becoming. Her work now centers on Identity Rupture and Grounded Expansion: creating enough internal stability to experience the grief, uncertainty, possibility, and growth that come with real change.

What you’ll learn in this conversation:

What Identity Rupture means — and why it’s more precise than saying you’re “going through a transition”

What it looks like for a woman who appears completely functional from the outside

Why being highly capable can make major transitions harder, not easier

What women do during this period that unintentionally makes the disorientation worse

Why more thinking, planning, and self-improvement often keeps you stuck

What somatic safety means in plain language — and how to recognize it

How Grounded Expansion helps women move forward without rushing into a new identity

Why grief and possibility need to coexist during a real identity shift

How to tell the difference between a grounding pause and avoidance

What aligned action feels like compared to action driven by pressure or panic

Free Guided Resourcing Audio:

https://humanistcoaching.eo.page/free-resourcing-audio

Learn more about Natasha’s work:

https://www.humanistcoaching.ca/

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What decision did you expect to have made by now?

Not this year specifically — just by now. There’s something you’ve been circling. A direction you thought you’d have committed to. A conversation you’d have had. A change you’d have made. And every time September rolls around, the gap between where you thought you’d be and where you actually are becomes a little harder to ignore.

In this episode, Holly Toscanini uses September’s natural transition energy to help you name one overdue decision — not to reinvent your life or start over, but to stop postponing one specific thing that already matters.

Register for the free live class — Stop Waiting to Feel Ready — on September 12, 2026 at 10 AM PDT.

https://holly-toscanini-f50a.mykajabi.com/stop-waiting-to-feel-ready-workshop

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You said the thing you’d been avoiding. Before you finished explaining what’s been bothering you, the other person said, “That’s not fair,” or “I didn’t mean it that way,” or “Why are you bringing this up now?”

And suddenly you’re no longer talking about the problem. You’re reassuring them that you don’t think they’re a bad person. By the end of the conversation, the concern you worked so hard to raise has almost disappeared.

Starting an honest conversation requires courage.

Staying connected to what you need after the other person becomes defensive requires self-trust.

Those are not always the same skill.

In this episode — part three of the honest conversation arc — I'll name what actually happens when defensiveness takes over a conversation and how to remain present and clear without either shutting down or losing the point.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why defensiveness changes the conversation so quickly — and why understanding someone’s reaction doesn’t require you to let it replace your concern
• When the conversation shifts to your delivery: how to acknowledge what’s true without letting your communication style become the entire subject
• The urge to prove you’re reasonable — and why you don’t need identical interpretations before a problem can be addressed
• A simple structure for staying grounded: acknowledge their response, then return to the issue
• The difference between intent and impact — and why one doesn’t cancel the other
• What to do when someone brings up your grievances to redirect the conversation
• How to handle withdrawal and silence without chasing the conversation or giving up the issue
• When to pause a conversation — and what a pause looks like versus avoidance

Practice for this week: Think about a conversation you need to have and the defensive response you’re already expecting. Notice what you usually do when that happens. Choose one different response. Write down the central issue in one sentence and the line you’ll use to return to it.

Book an Honest Conversation Session — a focused 60-minute session to clarify what you need to say, prepare for the places where you’re most likely to lose your footing, and identify your next step.

The Honest Conversation Session

Book your session (five spots available):

https://calendly.com/hollytoscanini/honest-conversation?month=2026-07

Or send me a message on Instagram @hollytoscanini with the words “honest conversation.”

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Sometimes the hardest relationships to leave are the ones that don’t look obviously harmful from the outside. There may not be a single incident you can point to or a piece of evidence that makes everyone around you immediately understand what you’re feeling. Instead, there’s withdrawal, punishment, confusion, and a growing sense that you can’t trust your own interpretation of what’s happening anymore.

My guest today, Ama K. Karikari, spent fifteen years experiencing chronic silent treatment in marriage before recognizing it as a form of emotional harm. Today she helps other women and mothers find language for experiences they may have struggled to explain even to themselves.

In this conversation, you'll learn:

• What the silent treatment actually is — and the critical distinctions between it, a cooling off period, and involuntary stonewalling
• Why the silent treatment triggers the same neurological pain centers as physical violence
• Why it’s so hard for others — friends, family, even clinicians — to recognize it as abuse when there’s no visible evidence
• How chronic silent treatment erodes self-trust over time and causes women to doubt their own perception
• The four potential outcomes of staying in a narcissistic relationship, according to research
• The one safest first step for a woman who still feels confused or afraid to trust her own experience
  

Ama’s free resources

Find both in the links below.

Website: https://www.amakkarikari.com/

Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/amakkarikari/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/amakarikariyawson/

eBook — Silenced to Soaring: Heal from Chronic Silent Treatments, Toxic Relationships and Abuse: https://www.amakkarikari.com/

Soaring Sisters Community — guided lessons, practical exercises, community webinars, and optional weekly peer support circles: https://www.skool.com/silenced-to-soaringmoms/about

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You’ve spent weeks thinking it through. You’ve paid attention to what keeps coming up, considered the consequences, and finally reached a place where the decision feels clear. Then you share it, and the other person goes quiet — or tells you they’re hurt, worried, or disappointed.

Within minutes, your certainty begins to disappear.

For many women, making a decision is one form of self-trust. Remaining connected to what you know after someone reacts is another. That second part is often much harder.

In this episode, I’m telling you exactly what happens when someone else’s disappointment becomes louder than everything you knew before the conversation began — and how to stay grounded in what you actually know without dismissing the people you love.

In this episode, we’ll cover:

• Why another person’s disappointment can feel so destabilizing — especially when you were raised to be dependable, agreeable, and aware of everyone else’s needs
• How decisions get diluted through small adjustments until the original need is almost impossible to recognize
• The critical difference between disappointing someone and harming them
• How to tell the difference between new information that deserves attention and someone’s discomfort with the change
• The second decision: whether you’ll remain connected to your choice when someone else reacts
• A pause before backpedaling — what to ask yourself before revising a decision under pressure
• Specific language for staying warm and clear when the other person is visibly upset
• What it means when a relationship only works while you ignore what you know
• A personal reflection on seeking approval as a condition for self-trust — and why that keeps so many women waiting
  

Practice for this week: Think of one decision you’ve made, or almost made, that you keep reopening because someone else may be disappointed. Write down what you knew before anyone reacted. Name what you’re afraid their disappointment will mean about you. Notice where you’re tempted to dilute the decision. Then give yourself 24 hours before making another adjustment.

This week, try this sentence completion prompt:

“I know I need to __________, but I keep reopening the decision when __________ is disappointed.”

Share your answer in the YouTube comments or send Holly a message — names and private details not required.

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You’ve rehearsed this conversation dozens of times. You’ve anticipated the objections, prepared the explanation, and found the words that should help them understand. Then the moment comes and you decide it isn’t the right time.

The problem is still there. And now resentment is starting to grow around it.

In this episode, I’m naming what’s actually happening in the space before a difficult conversation begins — and why the challenge usually isn’t knowing what to say. It’s trusting yourself to say it without minimizing it, over-explaining it, or changing it the moment the other person becomes uncomfortable.

In this episode, we’ll cover:

• The pre-conversation you’re already having — mentally playing both roles, softening the message until the real issue is hard to hear
• Why avoidance doesn’t remove the discomfort, it postpones it while adding resentment
• The question that brings your attention back to what belongs to you: what do I know I want to say before I start managing how they might react?
• How to find the first honest sentence — and why it only needs to do one job: begin
• What weakens the opening before you’ve even spoken: apologies, preemptive reassurances, and objections the other person hasn’t made yet
• Why you can understand someone’s reasons and still need a different arrangement
• How to stay connected to your own point once the other person responds
• A personal reflection on trying to find language that protects against being misunderstood — and why that’s not your responsibility

Practice for this week: Think of the conversation you keep rehearsing. Write the first sentence you want to say — before you start managing the other person’s reaction. Then notice what you feel compelled to add, and take those parts out of the opening.

Book one of five private Honest Conversation Sessions — a focused 60-minute session to clarify what you need to say, find a grounded way to begin, and identify the next step after the conversation.

Book your session (five spots available):

https://calendly.com/hollytoscanini/honest-conversation?month=2026-07

Or send Holly a message on Instagram @hollytoscanini with the words “honest conversation.”

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You want to make a thoughtful decision.

So you research.

You read the article, listen to the podcast, compare options, ask for advice, save the post, and maybe sign up for another free training.

At first, research can be useful. It can help you understand the cost, the timeline, the risks, the next step, and what you need to know before moving forward.

But there’s a point where research stops helping you make a grounded decision and starts protecting you from the part where your decision becomes visible.

Ready to learn why you're still waiting? Take the free Unwaiting Audit

https://holly-toscanini-f50a.mykajabi.com/the-5-minute-midlife-confidence-quiz

In this episode of How to Lose the ‘WAIT,’ Holly Toscanini explores how to know when you have enough information to take action—and when more research has become a way to avoid exposure, judgment, rejection, disappointment, or the vulnerability of being a beginner.

This episode is for the woman who keeps telling herself she needs to learn more before she starts, but somewhere inside knows she may already have enough information to take the next honest step.

You’ll learn how to tell the difference between clarifying research and avoidant research, why information can create the feeling of progress without the risk of action, and why some answers are only available after you begin.

Holly also explains why the goal isn’t reckless action or a dramatic leap. The goal is to identify the smallest honest step that puts your idea, decision, project, or conversation in contact with real life.

Because self-trust isn’t built by researching every possible outcome in advance.

It’s built when you take a grounded step and stay with yourself through what happens next.

The question to consider this week

Complete this sentence:

I keep researching __________, but the action I may be avoiding is __________.

You can reply to the email that brought you to this episode or send Holly a direct message on Instagram at @hollytoscanini.

One honest sentence is enough.

Next week

How to Hear Yourself When Everyone Else Is in Your Head

Sometimes the voices influencing your decision belong to people actively giving you advice. Sometimes they’re people whose reactions you’re trying to predict. And sometimes they’re old expectations you’ve carried for so long that they now sound like your own thoughts.

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You made the decision and felt relieved.

Then doubt arrived.

Now you’re replaying the conversation, imagining everything that could go wrong, and wondering whether your uncertainty means you made the wrong choice.

Doubt after a decision can feel convincing, especially when you’ve spent years trying to make careful, responsible choices. You may assume that a good decision should leave you feeling calm and certain. When guilt, fear, sadness, or someone else’s disappointment appears instead, the whole decision can end up back under review.

In this episode of How to Lose the ‘WAIT,’ I’ll explain why doubt doesn’t automatically mean a decision was wrong and why the path you didn’t choose can suddenly look so appealing once the path you did choose becomes real.

You’ll learn how to recognize the difference between useful new information and the ordinary discomfort that often follows a meaningful decision. I’ll also explore why second-guessing can keep you emotionally stuck between two choices, even after you’ve technically moved forward.

This episode will help you understand why reassurance rarely creates lasting self-trust, why hindsight can make your original decision look careless, and how to give a choice enough time to teach you something before reopening it.

The goal isn’t to cling stubbornly to every decision you make. It’s to stop treating every wave of doubt, guilt, or fear as proof that you need to begin the entire decision-making process again.

The question to consider this week

Complete this sentence:

I made the decision to __________, but I keep reopening it because __________.

You can send me a direct message on Instagram at @hollytoscanini or email holly@hollytoscanini.com

One honest sentence is enough.

Next week

How to Hear Yourself When Everyone Else Is in Your Head

Sometimes the voices influencing your decision belong to people who are actively giving you advice. Sometimes they’re old expectations you’ve carried for so long that they now sound like your own.

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Have you ever noticed how quickly a simple decision can turn into a referendum on your personal growth?

You start out trying to decide whether to take an opportunity, apply for something, or say yes to a request. Then somewhere along the way, the decision becomes much bigger. It has to solve the situation in front of you while also proving that you’ve healed, grown, and learned the lesson.

That’s a lot to ask of one decision.

In this episode I name what happens when self-awareness turns into self-evaluation, when personal growth becomes a performance standard, and what actually shifts when you stop treating yourself as a project and start working with yourself instead.

In this episode, we’ll cover:

• How the expectation of emotional clarity and consistency becomes another form of waiting
• Why self-trust doesn’t require you to feel the same way every day — it requires you to stay in relationship with yourself while different feelings move through
• The difference between listening to a feeling and letting it make the decision for you
• How to bring a decision back to its actual size by naming what you’ve attached to it
• Why self-trust develops from staying present for what happens next, not from guaranteeing the right outcome

Journal Prompt:

Complete this sentence and share it with me on Instagram @hollytoscanini

I’ve been treating the decision about __________ as proof that I’m __________.

Send me a DM or email with your answer.
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Have you ever had a moment of complete clarity about yourself?

You finally understood why you keep overthinking decisions, saying yes when you mean no, researching instead of beginning, or waiting until you feel more confident.

For a moment, the insight felt like the change.

Then the situation happened again—and you responded in the same familiar way.

The gap between understanding a pattern and responding differently is one of the most frustrating places a self-aware woman can find herself. You know what you are doing. You may even know why you are doing it. So why do you keep repeating it?

In this episode of How to Lose the ‘WAIT,’ I’ll explain why insight and behavioral change are different skills, where old patterns tend to take over, and how to practice a different response without waiting for the discomfort to disappear first.

You will also learn how to identify the hidden condition underneath your delay—the feeling, information, approval, or guarantee you believe you need before you can move.

You'll learn:

• Why understanding a pattern does not automatically change your response
• How insight can feel like progress even when no behavior has changed
• Why old responses are often faster simply because you have practiced them longer
• The specific moment when insight tends to collapse under real-life pressure
• Why discomfort does not necessarily mean you are making the wrong choice
• How to identify what you are requiring yourself to feel, know, or guarantee before acting
• How to find the exact moment when your waiting pattern takes over
• How one small Micro-Pivot can help you practice a different response
• Why repeating an old pattern is information—not a verdict about your ability to change

The question to consider this week:

What do you understand about yourself that you are still struggling to act on?

Then complete this sentence:

I know I need to __________, but I keep waiting because __________.

Reply to the email that brought you to this episode, or send Holly a direct message on Instagram at @hollytoscanini.

One sentence is enough. Your response will help shape future episodes around the real decisions, conversations, and changes women are postponing.

Next week:

Episode 124: The Difference Between Working on Yourself and Working With Yourself

What changes when you stop treating yourself as an endless improvement project and begin learning how to work with the woman who is already here?

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Self-trust isn't a mood that arrives one morning. It’s not a wave of certainty that announces you’re finally ready. And it doesn’t build through better thoughts or a nicer script in your head.

Self-trust is built the same way any real trust is built: through follow-through. Through watching yourself do what you said you would do. Through noticing that even when you were afraid, unsure, or the old pattern was very loud — you still made one honest move.

In this episode — the final episode of the 12-week W.A.I.T. Framework series — Holly Toscanini teaches Evidence Over Emotion™: the practice of building a current track record that your inner critic cannot erase, because you wrote it down and it actually happened.

In this episode, Holly covers:

• Why feelings alone aren’t enough to build self-trust — and how the inner critic uses emotional shifts against you
• What Evidence Over Emotion™ actually means: not overriding your feelings, but stopping a passing feeling from erasing the proof of who you’re becoming
• Why many women don’t have a follow-through problem — they have a recovery problem
• The Evidence Log: a simple daily practice (one sentence) that shifts the archive your nervous system runs on
• What counts as evidence — including the return after the wobble, the repair, and the moment you chose not to use a hard day against yourself
• Two practical examples: the boundary pause and the minimized desire

Holly closes by recapping the full 12-week W.A.I.T. arc and inviting listeners to join the waitlist for The Unwaiting Method™ — the eight-week group coaching program launching September 2026.

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Here’s the difference — and what to do with the grief of the years you spent waiting before you finally started to move.

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Something happens when women start to move.

After all the work of naming the patterns and interrupting the loop and taking the first imperfect, honest actions — something unexpected shows up alongside the momentum. Grief. The particular ache of looking back at the years spent waiting and feeling the weight of how long it took to get here.

That grief is real. It deserves to be named. And it deserves something better than “it’s never too late” — which is true but often lands as dismissal rather than comfort.

In this episode — the first in the T-phase (Trust) of the W.A.I.T. Framework series — Holly Toscanini names the grief of the years spent waiting without minimizing it, offers the reframe that changes what those years mean, and introduces the Evidence over Emotion™ concept that carries into the final episode of the series.

In this episode, Holly covers:

• Why the grief that surfaces when you finally start to move is not a problem — it’s proof that you understand what the waiting cost
• Four specific griefs named: the body-image years, the role-performance years, the desire-silencing years, and the waiting-pattern years
• The difference between “behind” and “overdue” — and why this reframe is precise, not consolatory
• How to use the Signals vs. Spirals™ filter to distinguish grief that is a signal from grief that has become a new waiting condition
• Why the years spent waiting were not wasted — and what they were actually doing
• An introduction to Evidence over Emotion™: why the inner critic builds its case on feeling, and how receipts dismantle it
  

Holly closes with the Unwaiting Map and The Unwaiting Method™ waitlist for September 2026.

Next week: Episode 122 — Evidence Over Emotion™: Self-Trust Is a Track Record

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Most women who want to change their lives don’t fail because they lack motivation. They fail because they’re waiting for the change that looks like change — the big decision, the dramatic pivot, the transformation that makes a good story.

And while they wait for that version, the Conditional Living Loop keeps running.

In this episode — the final week of the Initiate phase of the W.A.I.T. Framework series — Holly Toscanini teaches the Micro-Pivot: the smallest honest action that interrupts a waiting pattern. Not a watered-down substitute for the real thing. Not settling. The specific, survivable move that your nervous system can actually sustain — and that, compounded over time, is what a changed life is actually made of.

In this episode, Holly covers:

Why the all-or-nothing trap keeps the Conditional Living Loop running — and what it actually produces

How real change compounds through small, honest actions rather than dramatic leaps

The precise definition of a Micro-Pivot: the smallest honest action that interrupts a pattern

Micro-Pivot examples across five areas: voice, body, creativity, relationships, and work

How every Micro-Pivot is a direct counter-move to a specific condition you’ve placed on your own life

How to choose your Micro-Pivot: name the condition, find the action on the other side of it, and capture the evidence

Holly closes with an invitation to download the free Intuitive Pivot Planner and an introduction to The Unwaiting Method™ — an eight-week group coaching program launching September 2026 for midlife women who are done living in preparation mode.

Next week: Episode 121 — Feeling Behind in Life? Why It’s Not Too Late — and What to Do With the Years You Can’t Get Back

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Most women are waiting for the wrong thing first.

They believe the sequence is: feel confident, then act. But confidence is not what starts the process. It’s what grows at the end of it. And waiting for confidence to arrive before you move is the one strategy that guarantees you never build it.

In this episode — week two of the Initiate phase of the W.A.I.T. Framework series — Holly Toscanini teaches the Courage-Confidence Sequence: the actual order of operations that produces self-trust and, eventually, genuine confidence.

This episode also names the full arc of the Conditional Living Loop™ — the five-stage pattern that keeps women waiting — and shows exactly how the Courage-Confidence Sequence interrupts the final stage: the belief that confidence has to arrive before action is possible.

In this episode, Holly covers:

The five stages of the Conditional Living Loop™: condition, delay, disconnection, self-doubt, and more waiting

Why “I’ll move when I feel confident” is the most seductive stage of the loop — and why it guarantees the loop continues

The Courage-Confidence Sequence: Courage → Action → Evidence → Self-Trust → Confidence

Why courage is the first self-trusting move you make before confidence has any evidence to stand on

How to tell the difference between courageous action and reactive recklessness using the Signals vs. Spirals™ filter

The evidence practice: why writing down what happened after a courageous action is the most important step most women skip

Holly closes with an invitation to use the Intuitive Pivot Planner — a free resource for identifying the specific courageous action that interrupts your version of the Conditional Living Loop and turning it into one clear, doable move.

Next week: Episode 120 — The Micro-Pivot: The Small Honest Move That Changes the Pattern

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It’s about protection. Here’s how to recognize when you’re hiding — and take one honest step before you feel ready.

There’s a version of hiding that looks nothing like hiding.

It looks like preparation. It looks like diligence. It looks like caring enough to get it right. And on the inside, it sounds like this:

“I’m not hiding. I’m preparing.” “I’m not afraid. I’m being thoughtful.” “I’m not stalling. I’m making sure it’s right.” “I’m not avoiding visibility. I’m improving the plan.”

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Every one of those sentences is technically true. And every one of them is covering for the same thing: the fear of what imperfect action might cost you. Not the imperfect action itself — what it might cost you. The judgment. The embarrassment. The possibility of being seen wanting something and not quite landing it. The voice that asks: who does she think she is?

Perfectionism is not a standard. It is a stall — specifically, a visibility protection strategy. And in this episode, the first in the Initiate phase of the W.A.I.T. Framework series, Holly Toscanini names exactly how it works and what it takes to move through it.

In this episode, Holly covers:

• The difference between high standards (about the work) and perfectionism (about protection from being seen imperfectly)
• The real fear underneath the perfectionism trap: not failing, but being seen wanting something and not succeeding
• How perfectionism becomes a W.A.I.T. pattern through conditional living: “I’ll be visible when I’m sure it’s good enough”
• How every deferral to the Inner Council’s verdict erodes self-trust rather than building it
• The 80% Start: a new named practice for taking one honest action before reaching the perfectionist’s standard of 100%
• Why Evidence over Emotion™ is the bridge — and why done at 80% serves you better than perfect at never

Holly closes with an invitation to use the Intuitive Pivot Planner — a resource for turning the impulse to act into an actual next step.

Next week: Episode 119 — Courage Before Confidence: The Order of Operations for Self-Trust

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Download your copy of Activate Your Intuition eBook

You were not born believing you had to earn rest.

That belief was taught.

It arrived through thousands of small, consistent signals: praise for the child who helped without being asked, warmth for the girl who stayed busy and never complained, approval for the woman who kept going long after anyone else would have stopped.

By the time most women reach midlife, this belief no longer feels like conditioning. It feels like personality. It feels like just who they are.

But here’s what it actually sounds like when it’s running:

“I’ll rest when everything is done.” “I’ll slow down when things calm down.” “I’ll choose myself when everyone else is okay.” “I’ll matter when I’ve handled enough.”

Every one of those sentences is a condition placed on your own life. A condition that sounds responsible. A condition that, by design, can never fully be met.

In this episode — week two of the Attune phase of the W.A.I.T. Framework series — Holly Toscanini names how the guilt-around-rest pattern develops, how it becomes a waiting cycle, and what it looks like to begin removing the condition underneath it.

This episode is not about doing less. It’s about something more specific: the belief that your worth is contingent on your usefulness, and the particular brand of waiting that belief creates.

In this episode, Holly covers:

• How the belief that usefulness equals worth gets established — and why it’s so hard to recognize as conditioning rather than character
• The five W.A.I.T. sentences that reveal how this pattern becomes a waiting cycle
• The real fear underneath the productivity trap: if I’m not doing, who am I?
• Why high-achieving women hit a wall when the output no longer delivers the feeling of being enough
• How to name the condition out loud and make it examinable
• How to use Three Micro Desires as a daily practice in receiving without earning

Download the Activate Your Intuition eBook — a practical resource for hearing your own signal beneath the noise of constant productivity.

Next week: Episode 118 — Why You Keep Getting Ready But Never Start: The Perfectionism Trap

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You get quiet enough to actually hear yourself. A voice shows up and says something true — this job isn’t right anymore, this relationship needs to change, this is the thing I’ve been filing under someday.

And then, almost immediately, another voice shows up. What if I’m wrong? What if I regret it? What if I’m not ready? What if I ruin everything?

Now you have two voices. Both sound like you. And you have no idea which one to trust.

This is one of the most common places women get stuck after they start questioning their lives — not because they don’t have inner wisdom, but because they can’t tell it apart from their anxiety. And so they wait. Not for clarity. For certainty that never quite arrives.

In this episode — the first in the A-phase (Attune) of the W.A.I.T. Framework series — Holly Toscanini teaches her signature Signals vs. Spirals™ framework: how to distinguish the quiet, consistent voice of your inner wisdom from the loud, urgent, looping voice of your anxiety. And why that distinction changes every decision you make.

In this episode, Holly covers:

• Why intuition gets so hard to hear — and the specific conditioning, diet culture, and perfectionism patterns that crowd it out
• The four qualities of a signal: calm, consistent, directional, yours
• The four qualities of a spiral: urgent, catastrophic, controlling, looping
• A practical four-question filter to tell them apart in real time
• Why the condition “I’ll trust myself when I’m 100% sure” keeps the waiting cycle running — and how to remove it
• How to use the Three Micro Desires practice as a daily signal-training exercise to rebuild self-trust from the inside out
  

Holly closes with an invitation to explore the Activate Your Intuition eBook — a practical resource for reconnecting with your inner knowing at this stage of the work.

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It’s not bad. Nothing is wrong, exactly. You have enough. Things are functional. By every external measure, life is fine. Just fine.

And underneath the fine, something is going flat.

Not dramatically. Gradually. The way a slow leak works — you don’t notice until you realize you’ve been running on empty for longer than you can remember, and you’ve stopped even noticing the loss.

In this episode — the final week of the W.A.I.T. Framework’s Witness phase — Holly Toscanini names the just fine Trap: the pattern where life becomes so tolerable that you stop questioning it, and the things that once mattered quietly go flat while you’re busy managing everything else.

In this episode, Holly covers:

What the just fine Trap actually is — and how it develops so gradually you stop noticing the cost

The difference between tolerable and enough — and why conflating them keeps you stuck

Why gratitude can become a silencing mechanism instead of a spiritual practice

A preview of the Four Clarity Questions from the Unwaiting Quick Start Guide — a simple practice to uncover what you actually want when the noise clears

Why this isn’t about burning your life down — it’s about seeing it honestly

Holly closes with an invitation to take the Unwaiting Quick Start Guide and Mini-Course — a short, focused experience to take what surfaced in the four questions and turn it into one honest next step within 24 hours.

Next week: Episode 116 — Signals vs. Spirals™: A Practical Guide to Hearing Your Wisdom

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Take the Free Unwaiting Audit- a short assessment that identifies exactly where in the W.A.I.T. Framework you’re currently stuck.

You have something you want to do. And you’ve attached a condition to it.

I’ll do it when the kids are older. When work settles down. When I feel more ready. When the timing is right.

The desire is real. The condition sounds reasonable. And the thing itself stays exactly where it’s been for months — sometimes years.

This is the someday cycle. And in this episode — week three of the W.A.I.T. Framework series — Holly Toscanini names the specific structure that keeps it running, explains why the condition is almost never genuinely the issue, and teaches you how to use two Unwaiting Method tools to start loosening the pattern’s hold.

In this episode, Holly covers:

• The Desire + Condition structure — the specific shape of the someday cycle and why the condition is chosen to stay just out of reach
• Three versions of the pattern: the moving goalpost, the condition swap, and desire dilution — the slow erosion of a desire through repeated deferral
• What’s really underneath the condition (and why it’s almost never about readiness)
• How to use Micro-Moves to bypass the condition entirely and start building evidence that movement is possible
• The someday-specific flavor of the Wobble — “Who am I to want this?” — and how to hold through it without folding
  

Next week: Episode 114 — Fear with a Planner: Is Your Careful Planning Actually Fear in Disguise?

Take the Free Unwaiting Audit- a short assessment that identifies exactly where in the W.A.I.T. Framework you’re currently stuck.

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You have a pattern.

Here’s how to break it.

You’re not doing nothing. You’re very busy, actually.

Reading about it. Listening to podcasts about it. Saving articles, watching videos, taking notes, joining the free webinar. You are gathering information. You are being thorough.

And the thing itself — the actual move, the actual decision, the actual change — is exactly where it was six months ago.

This is the Research Loop. And it’s one of the most sophisticated ways a capable woman can keep herself exactly where she is while feeling like she’s making progress.

In this episode — week two of the W.A.I.T. Framework series

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Holly Toscanini names the Research Loop precisely, explains why smart women are particularly susceptible to it, and teaches you how to apply two existing Unwaiting Method tools to break the pattern.

Next week: Episode 113 — The Permission Problem: Why Your Desires Are Still on the Someday List.

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You have a sense of what you want to do. And then, almost automatically, you start consulting everyone else before you let yourself act on it.

What would my partner think? What does my doctor say? What would my mother say? What do the women I respect think about this kind of choice?

By the time the consultation is over, your original instinct has been overruled, diluted, or buried — and you genuinely can’t tell anymore what you actually wanted.

This isn’t just a decision-making habit. It’s a pattern called outsourcing your authority. And for most high-achieving midlife women, it runs so deep and so automatically that it doesn’t feel like a pattern at all. It just feels like being thorough.

In this episode — the first in the 12-week W.A.I.T. Framework series — Holly Toscanini names this pattern precisely and gives you a framework for seeing it clearly in your own life.

Chapters

• 00:00 Outsourcing Authority
• 05:08 The Inner Council of Voices
• 10:25 Reclaiming Your Authority

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You've probably had the experience of committing to a change, feeling genuinely motivated for about a week, and then watching it quietly dissolve back into your routine.

It's not a willpower problem. It's a design problem.

Most approaches to personal change ask for too much, too fast, with no built-in recovery — and for midlife women who are already carrying full lives, that model reliably leads to burnout, not breakthrough.

In this episode, Holly Toscanini introduces a different approach: the 30-day unwaiting experiment. Not a resolution. Not a transformation. A deliberate, low-pressure test — with a specific focus, three types of sustainable action, and a tracking practice designed to build self-trust rather than shame.

You'll learn

• Why 30-day experiments work better than open-ended resolutions — and why the framing of "experiment" changes everything
• How to choose your one focus area from five options: voice, body, creativity, relationships, or work
• Three types of actions to mix each week — micro-brave, micro-rest, and micro-pleasure — and why you need all three
• How to track your progress in a way that builds evidence of self-trust instead of feeding your inner critic
• What to do when the experiment gets disrupted (and it will) without abandoning the whole thing

Unwaiting Quick Start Mini Course:

https://holly-toscanini-f50a.mykajabi.com/the-unwaiting-quick-start-guide

Chapters

• 00:00 The Problem with Resolutions
• 05:25 Choosing a Focus Area
• 12:29 Tracking the Experiment

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You've done the work. You know your patterns. You're self-aware — and you're still waiting.

Still waiting to speak up. Still waiting to make the change you've been circling. Still watching other women move while you stay exactly where you've been.

If that sounds familiar, it's probably not a lack of insight. It's a set of invisible rules — absorbed early, followed automatically, and so deeply embedded they stopped feeling like rules a long time ago. They just feel like you.

In this episode, Holly Toscanini names five of the most common good girl conditioning rules that keep midlife women stuck in a waiting cycle — and offers one small, honest experiment to try for each one. Not an overhaul. Just one move.

In this episode, Holly covers:

Why self-awareness alone doesn't break the waiting cycle — and what's actually still running in the background

The five good girl rules that most commonly keep high-achieving midlife women postponing their own lives

How each rule shows up in everyday situations — in your relationships, your work, and the way you talk to yourself

What each rule is quietly costing you — in voice, aliveness, energy, and self-trust

One small "rule reversal" experiment for each rule that you can try this week

Why the guilt and discomfort after breaking a rule (the "good girl hangover") doesn't mean you did something wrong — and how to get through it without folding

Holly closes with an invitation to take the Unwaiting Audit — a quick, free tool to identify which stage of the unwaiting journey you're in right now, and what your most practical next step is.

Unwaiting Audit:

https://holly-toscanini-f50a.mykajabi.com/the-5-minute-midlife-confidence-quiz

#goodgirlconditioning, #peoplepleasing, #midlife women, #self-trust #goodgirlrules, #womenover40 #personalgrowth

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That's exactly what today's episode is about.

Holly sits down with Kym Coco — author, yogi, kinesiology expert, and creator of Swagtail.com — to talk about what it really takes to rebuild your sense of self after a major life shift. Kym lost her husband and teaching partner, Stephen Thompson, and found herself having to figure out who she was and how to move forward when the life she'd built had changed completely.

What she found — on a mountainside and in the years that followed — became her book Miracle on the Mountainside and the foundation of the tools she now teaches.

In this episode, you'll hear: why feeling frozen after a big life change isn't weakness — it's your nervous system doing its job, and what to do instead. How to tell the difference between fear and intuition when you genuinely can't trust your own instincts. What rebuilding self-trust looks like before it feels possible. Simple nervous system tools that work in under three minutes on the hardest days. And the one thing Kym wants every woman in transition to hear.

This one is for the woman who is done waiting to feel like herself again — and ready to find out who she's becoming.

Website  Swagtail.com  

Facebook https://facebook.com/swagtailyoga

Instagram https://instagram.com/swagtailyoga

Pinterest https://pinterest.com/swagtail

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Book Miracle on the Mountainside https://swagtail.com/miracle-on-the-mountainside-book/

Freebie: Swagtail.com/podcastbonus (a training on boosting focus and overcome fear that arises in transitions)

#midlifewomen #selftrustjourney #rebuildingmyself #lifeaftergrief #midlifereinvention #howtolosethewait #womenover40 #intuitiveliving #nervousystemhealing #midlifepodcast

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Join me as we explore why those internal negotiations matter and how to reclaim your energy and time. By the end, you’ll know how to hold boundaries without sacrificing your peace!

Click here to take The Unwaiting Audit

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Discover 5 practical micro strategies to set healthy boundaries without sacrificing your self-trust. Perfect for women wanting to reclaim their time and energy.

Setting boundaries can often feel overwhelming, especially when you’re used to being the reliable person in every situation. Have you ever found yourself saying yes to something you really didn’t want to do? If so, you’re not alone. In this post, we’ll explore how to establish healthy boundaries that honor your needs without feeling difficult or confrontational. 

#SelfTrust #MicroBoundaries #WomenEmpowerment #HealthyBoundaries #PersonalGrowth

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She emphasizes the significance of starting small, consistency, and doing what doesn't hurt. Her approach focuses on building momentum and finding joy in movement.

The conversation covers topics related to posture, nutrition, energy, stress, sleep, body image, and self-care for midlife women. Heike Yates shares insights on standing tall, healthy eating, protein intake, stress management, rest, and overcoming perfectionism.

She emphasizes the importance of self-love and self-acceptance, offering practical tips for movement and mindset.

Takeaways

• Empowerment through fitness
• Starting small and building momentum Posture and body language impact confidence and energy.
• Eating protein with every meal can improve energy and reduce cravings.
• Rest and recovery are essential for overall well-being.

Website: https://heikeyates.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pursueyourspark

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heikeyates/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/heike-yates/

Substack: https://substack.com/@heikeyates

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCQIeOesGLGAOD5RhI2KYjcA

Podcast - Pursue Your Spark: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/pursue-your-spark-midlife-fitness-nutrition-mindset/id1231586317

Book - Pursue Your Spark: https://amzn.to/4mD5xL7 

Chapters

• 00:00 Empowerment Through Fitness
• 09:53 The SPARK Framework
• 15:04 Consistency and Joy in Movement
• 24:54 Building Momentum and Finding Joy
• 30:17 Nutrition and Energy
• 42:09 Overcoming Perfectionism
• 48:16 Movement and Self-Respect

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Holly unpacks why so many midlife women feel foggy, stuck, or “blank” when it comes to their own desires—even though they’re sharp, self-aware, and great at knowing what everyone else needs.

You’ll learn why “I don’t know what I want” is usually a protective pattern, not a lack of purpose or intelligence, and how to gently reconnect with what you actually want in your real life right now.

👉 Get the Unwaiting Quick Start mini course + guide here:

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#midlifewomen, #selftrust, #feelingstuck, #womensempowerment, #midlifereinvention, #personalgrowth, #womenover40, #womenover50, #intuition, #unwaiting

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desire, self-awareness, women, personal growth, emotional health, self-discovery, life changes, self-trust, practical steps, coaching

 Takeaways

Not knowing what you want is not a personality flaw.

Women often suppress their desires due to societal pressures.

Desire doesn't come with a pre-packaged plan.

Jealousy can be a signal pointing to unacknowledged desires.

Every time you admit what you want, you're building self-trust.

Start with small, manageable desires to rebuild the connection.

Your 'someday' list is a map of your unlived life.

Recognizing patterns in your desires can lead to clarity.

It's important to honor even the smallest desires.

You are trained to act like you don't know what you want.

Chapters

00:00 The Inconvenient Truth of Desire

02:01 Understanding the Roots of Confusion

06:34 Recognizing the Signals of Desire

09:09 Practical Steps to Reconnect with Desire

13:38 Embracing Your True Desires

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Today, I’m joined by the insightful Kate Williams Stone, a non-diet health and life coach dedicated to empowering women in perimenopause.

Kate opens up about her holistic approach to wellness, emphasizing the importance of intuitive eating and hormone-honoring health habits.

She shares her wealth of knowledge and personal experiences, providing invaluable insights for women navigating the often challenging waters of perimenopause.

Key Takeaways:

Debunking Diet Myths: Kate challenges the widespread myths about diets and health in midlife, encouraging women to embrace a more intuitive and liberating approach to eating.

Empowerment in Perimenopause: Discover how Kate’s approach empowers women to take control of their health and wellness during perimenopause, a time often marked by confusion and misinformation.

Holistic Health Habits: Learn about the hormone-honoring practices that Kate advocates for, which not only address physical health but also encompass emotional and spiritual well-being.

Intuitive Eating Journey: Gain insights into how intuitive eating can transform your relationship with food, especially during the significant life changes in midlife.

Breaking Free from Restrictive Narratives: Kate discusses the importance of breaking free from the restrictive narratives of diet culture, offering a path towards a more fulfilling and self-compassionate life.

Join us in this enlightening conversation with Kate Williams Stone, and get ready to challenge what you thought you knew about health and wellness in midlife. Tune in to Episode #34 for an episode that promises not just insights but a roadmap to empowerment and truth.

Connect with Kate at www.KateWilliamsStone.com

Instagram at @katewstone

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Listen to the Self-Compassion Meditation

This mindfulness practice highlights the importance of self-compassion and taking a gentle, understanding approach to any pain or tension we may experience. Through the Compassionate Body Scan, we should bring attention and awareness to different parts of our body, recognizing our imperfections and providing comfort to ourselves. Instagram @hollytoscanini Website www.hollytoscanini.com

Randi shares her inspiring journey from Weight Watchers counselor to non-diet advocate, emphasizing self-acceptance and self-care for mothers.

We discuss body image and dieting in children, the importance of setting boundaries and reconnecting with passions, and the parallels between oppressive diet culture and societal expectations of mothers.

Join us as we empower listeners to define what it means to be a kickass mom and embrace the messy beauty of motherhood. Ready to stop letting motherhood kick you in the ass, and become a kick-ass mom?

With a background in non-diet life coaching and a passion for helping women improve their body image, Randi Cox is all about helping you ditch the shoulds and rules society throws at moms.

Say goodbye to mom guilt and hello to more fun mom feels! Together, you’ll flip the script on motherhood, reclaim your identity, prioritize self-care, and live life on your own terms.

Don’t forget to check out the links to Randi’s website, Instagram, podcast, and her free audio course on dismantling mom guilt and finding joy in motherhood.

Let’s ditch the guilt and bring in more kickass energy! Website https://randicox.com/

Instagram @randicoxcoaching

Podcast: Thick Thighs and Confident Vibes

Kristina shares her personal and professional journey of overcoming body struggles to find a place of peace and acceptance.

She opens up about her early struggles with body image and how these challenges set the stage for her journey towards healing and self-discovery.

The episode is packed with practical advice and compassionate wisdom for anyone looking to embark on a journey of self-acceptance, healing, and finding peace with their body. Tune in to this compelling episode to discover how you too can embark on a transformative path towards body peace and holistic wellness.

Key Takeaways:

Holistic Approach to Healing: Kristina discusses how her work in massage therapy, Reiki, and yoga not only aids others in their healing journeys but also plays a critical role in her own path to wellness.

Journey into Intuitive Eating: Kristina shares her transformative experience with intuitive eating, explaining how it helped her develop a healthier relationship with food and her body.

Integrating Mind, Body, and Spirit: A key focus of the conversation is on the integration of mind, body, and spirit in achieving overall wellness. Kristina provides insights into how this holistic integration can lead to a more balanced and fulfilled life.

Empowering Others Through Personal Experience: Drawing from her own experiences, Kristina talks about how she uses her journey to inspire and empower others facing similar struggles, especially in her practice as a wellness coach. Work With Kristina https://www.goldensoulwi.com/

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Drawing inspiration from the works of philosopher and author Kate Manne, Holly explores how societal standards and biases shape our perceptions and treatment of women’s bodies.

This episode isn’t just about understanding these issues; it’s a call to action for personal empowerment and societal change.

Holly emphasizes the psychological and emotional toll these societal pressures can have on women. She provides practical strategies for individuals to challenge internalized beliefs about body image and self-worth, highlighting the importance of self-compassion, self-care, and resilience. Holly also discusses the critical role of collective action, encouraging listeners to critically evaluate media messages, engage in advocacy and education, and support one another in the journey toward body positivity and inclusivity.

Key Takeaways

Understanding Misogyny and Fatphobia

Psychological Impact Strategies for Personal Empowerment Importance of Collective Action Empowerment Leads to Societal Change

This episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to understand and challenge the deep-seated biases against women’s bodies and embrace a journey of self-love and collective empowerment.

Unshrinking: How to Face Fatphobia by Kate Manne

https://www.katemanne.net/unshrinking.html

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In this episode of How to Lose the ‘WAIT’, Holly Toscanini explores a powerful truth: reinvention isn’t just about becoming someone new—it’s about releasing everything that’s no longer aligned. From emotional clutter and perfectionism to identity fatigue and invisible obligations, Holly breaks down the hidden reasons so many women feel stuck, exhausted, and disconnected.

If you’ve been craving clarity, energy, and permission to finally let go, this conversation is your invitation to begin again—without guilt, without apology, and without waiting for the “right” time.

You’ll learn:

• What “identity fatigue” really is—and how it’s quietly draining your energy
• Why letting go is a form of power, not failure
• How to make micro-pivots that lead to massive transformation
• The key question to ask yourself before stepping into your next chapter

This episode is your reminder that the next version of you isn’t built on pressure—it’s built on permission.

Resources + Links Mentioned:

Download the free Intuitive Pivot Clarity Breakthrough Planner

Register for  the Masterclass The Midlife Reinvention Blueprint 

Build Confidence Without Conditions, and Map Your Next Chapter Now

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Please take a moment to rate, review, and share it with another woman who needs this message.
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As a fat, queer, asthmatic personal trainer with knee and shoulder injuries, Deanna brings a unique and inclusive perspective to fitness and wellness.

Her journey challenges conventional fitness norms and highlights the importance of creating a space where all bodies are welcomed and celebrated.

Deanna Beaton’s insights and experiences are not just transformative for those in the fitness world but are also deeply resonant for anyone looking to embrace a more accepting and compassionate approach to health and wellness.

Her story is a powerful reminder that fitness is for everyone, and health can be pursued in a way that honors and celebrates our unique bodies and journeys.

Key Highlights: Inclusive Fitness Philosophy: Deanna shared her vision for a fitness world that embraces all body types and abilities. She emphasizes the importance of rejecting the one-size-fits-all approach to fitness and instead, creating personalized and adaptable workout routines.

Challenging Toxic Fitness Culture: Deanna spoke passionately about the need to dismantle the harmful aspects of traditional fitness culture, which often promotes unrealistic and exclusionary standards of health and beauty.

Holistic Approach to Wellness: She underscored the interconnectedness of physical, mental, and emotional health in her coaching methods. Deanna believes in empowering her clients to listen to their bodies and find joy in movement, rather than focusing solely on weight loss or aesthetic goals.

Empowerment Through Acceptance: A significant part of our discussion revolved around building self-acceptance and trust in one’s own body. Deanna’s approach is centered on empowering individuals to find fitness routines that are enjoyable and sustainable.

Deanna Beaton Website https://deannabeaton.com/

Instagram @deannabeaton

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After a decade in the fitness industry, Kim witnessed first-hand the detrimental cycle of weight loss obsession and body shaming.

Her personal and professional experiences led her to a powerful realization: there’s more to fitness and health than meets the eye. Moving beyond the traditional focus on aesthetics, Kim embraced a holistic approach, prioritizing strength, capability, and mental well-being.

Together we’ll explore Kim’s transformative path, her unique approach to fitness and nutrition, and how she’s helping women everywhere to redefine what it means to be fit and healthy. So, let’s dive into this inspiring conversation with Kim and discover how to turn what some of us might consider our worst enemy into our greatest ally.

Key Takeaways:

1. Redefining Fitness and Health: Kim’s journey underscores the importance of moving beyond aesthetic goals in fitness, focusing instead on strength, capability, and overall well-being.

2. The Detrimental Cycle of Diet Culture: Kim highlighted how the focus on weight loss and body shaping in the fitness industry often leads to a harmful cycle of starting and stopping, contributing to feelings of failure and moving people further from true health.

3. Empowerment Through Holistic Wellness: Kim’s approach to training and nutrition emphasizes mental and emotional health, along with physical fitness, demonstrating the need for a holistic approach to wellness.

4. Breaking Free from Unhealthy Obsessions: Her personal experience with an unhealthy obsession with diet and exercise serves as a powerful reminder of the need for balance and self-compassion in our fitness and nutritional endeavors.

5. Challenging Societal Norms and Misconceptions: Kim passionately addresses and challenges the misconceptions around body size and health, advocating for a more inclusive and accepting understanding of fitness and wellness.

Kim Hagle – Certified Personal Trainer, Registered Holistic Nutritionist, and Body Image Coach.

Website https://radiantvitality.ca/

Instagram @radiantvitalitywellness

Email kim@radiantvitality.ca

You Tube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCeCejjFy1TXkdvrPfX-arSw

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Host Holly Toscanini explores the therapeutic power of creativity, highlights inspiring women artists, and offers practical tips for embracing your body through artistic expression.

Perfect for women looking to break free from diet culture and celebrate body diversity.

Tune in for insightful discussions on body positivity, self-love, and the healing power of art.

Key takeaways:

Art as a Powerful Tool for Body Acceptance: Art offers a unique and liberating way to explore and express feelings about your body. Engaging in creative activities can help shift your perception and foster a deeper sense of self-love and body acceptance, whether through painting, photography, writing, or movement.

Challenging Societal Norms Through Creativity: Many women artists are using their work to challenge narrow societal beauty standards and promote body diversity. By embracing art as a form of resistance, you can contribute to a broader movement that celebrates all bodies and encourages a more inclusive view of beauty.

Overcoming Barriers to Creativity: You don’t need to be a professional artist to benefit from the healing power of art. Start small, embrace imperfections, and remember that the process of creating is more important than the final product. Engaging in creative expression is a journey toward self-discovery, empowerment, and body positivity.

Resources:

Dianne Bondy @diannebondyyogaofficial https://diannebondy.com/ https://yogaforeveryone.tv/catalog

Megan Jayne Crabbe @bodyposipanda https://www.meganjaynecrabbe.com https://www.instagram.com/meganjaynecrabbe/?hl=en

Michelle Elman (@scarrednotscared) https://michelleelman.com/ https://www.instagram.com/michellelelman/?hl=en

Sally Hewett @sally_hewett https://www.instagram.com/sally_hewett/?hl=en

Teri Hofford @terihofford https://terihofford.com https://www.instagram.com/terihofford/?hl=en

Visithra Manikam @vissyarts https://www.visithra.com/ https://www.instagram.com/vissyarts/?hl=en

Toyin Ojih Odutola @toyinojihodutola https://www.instagram.com/toyinojihodutola/?hl=en https://toyinojihodutola.com

Jessamyn Stanley @mynameisjessamyn https://jessamynstanley.com/ https://theunderbelly.com/

Taynee Tinsley @tayneetinsley https://www.tayneetinsley.com

Connect with Holly: Instagram: @hollytoscanini Facebook: HollyToscanini Website: www.hollytoscanini.com

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Holly explores how reconnecting with our intuition can guide us in making better decisions about food, movement, and self-care.

You’ll learn why diet culture disconnects us from our natural instincts and how to rebuild trust in our inner wisdom.

She'll also introduce the new free eBook, “Unlock Your Intuition: Five Keys to Reconnecting with Your Body,” which provides comprehensive insights into the Five Pillars of Intuitive Reconnection—Intuitive Eating, Mindful Movement, Emotional Resilience, Body Neutrality, and Spiritual Wellness.

Download the free eBook, “Unlock Your Intuition: 5 Keys to Reconnecting with Your Body”

Key Takeaways:

Understanding Intuition: Intuition is your inner compass, a natural and inherent ability to know what’s best for you without needing logical explanations. It’s not mystical; it’s based on your subconscious knowledge and past experiences.

Overcoming Fear: Fear, especially ingrained by diet culture, can prevent you from listening to your intuition. Practicing self-compassion, mindfulness, and challenging negative beliefs are essential steps to overcoming fear and accessing your inner wisdom.

Building Self-Esteem and Trust: High self-esteem is crucial for developing and trusting your intuition. Celebrate your strengths, practice positive affirmations, set boundaries, and seek support to build confidence and self-trust. Practical Steps to Strengthen Intuition: Engage in mindful practices such as meditation, body scans, and journaling. Pay attention to your bodily sensations and emotional signals to cultivate a deeper connection with your intuition.

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