<![CDATA[Not On The List]]>Not on the List is a podcast about executive function: what gets in the way of doing things, what support exists, and how people find their way to it.

Executive function is what gets things started and finished. When it isn't working, the problem isn't motivation. It's initiation, working memory, task switching, time perception, and how much capacity you have on a given day.

Each episode is a conversation with a clinician about their work and their own experience. Host Sheela Ivlev is a neurodivergent occupational therapist who works with adults on executive function and daily life.

Episodes are 30 minutes or less, so listening is doable.

For those of us with never-ending lists.

More at www.todoish.app

]]>https://www.todoish.app/Riverside.fm (https://riverside.com)Tue, 29 Sep 2026 16:31:01 GMTWed, 09 Sep 2026 08:49:34 GMT60To Do-ish<p>Not on the List is a podcast about executive function: what gets in the way of doing things, what support exists, and how people find their way to it.</p><p></p><p>Executive function is what gets things started and finished. When it isn't working, the problem isn't motivation. It's initiation, working memory, task switching, time perception, and how much capacity you have on a given day.</p><p></p><p>Each episode is a conversation with a clinician about their work and their own experience. Host Sheela Ivlev is a neurodivergent occupational therapist who works with adults on executive function and daily life.</p><p></p><p>Episodes are 30 minutes or less, so listening is doable.</p><p></p><p>For those of us with never-ending lists.</p><p></p><p>More at <a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="http://todoish.app" target="_blank">www.todoish.app</a></p>episodicTo Do-ishhello@todoish.appno<![CDATA[When Your Therapist Gets It: The Power of Neurodiversity Affirming Care with Shelby Nolan, LPC]]>Executive dysfunction isn't a discipline problem, and the advice you've already tried failing isn't your fault.

Shelby Nolan, LPC, is a queer and neurodivergent therapist in Colorado and the owner of A Divergent Lens Counseling, where she specializes in complex trauma and works with queer and neurodivergent clients, nonmonogamous and disabled folks, and clients on Medicaid. She was trained to sit still, follow the client's lead, and not take notes in session. None of it worked for her.

In this conversation she talks about what she changed, what she teaches newer clinicians about which rules actually have consequences, and what shifted when she started treating herself like a neurodivergent person.

We cover:

  • What neurodivergence includes beyond ADHD and autism
  • Why frequency and intensity matter more than whether a behavior is universal
  • Anxiety as an effective but costly coping strategy for executive dysfunction
  • What ableism looks like inside clinical training
  • Capital R rules and lowercase r rules, at work and at home
  • Unmasking as a dial rather than a switch
  • How to find a therapist, and what to ask in a consultation

Information for Shelby Nolan, LPC and A Divergent Lens Counseling: 

Website: adivergentlenscounseling.com

Mentioned in this episode:
Psychology Today: psychologytoday.com
ND Therapists: ndtherapists.com
Inclusive Therapists: inclusivetherapists.com

Outcare: outcarehealth.org


Not on the List is about executive function, support, and the things we don't talk about. Hosted by Sheela Ivlev, occupational therapist. More at todoish.app

These conversations are for education. They are not medical advice, therapy, or diagnosis, and listening does not create a clinical relationship with the host or any guest. If something here sounds like you, take it to your own provider.

If you need help here are U.S. based Crisis Lines (24/7):

Suicide & Crisis Lifeline - call or text 988 

The Trevor Project - call 1-866-488-7386 or text START to 678-678

Trans Lifeline - call 1-877-565-8860

]]>647c3797-e85c-40bb-9113-9cdddea923a2Sun, 27 Sep 2026 08:31:16 GMT<p>Executive dysfunction isn't a discipline problem, and the advice you've already tried failing isn't your fault.</p><p>Shelby Nolan, LPC, is a queer and neurodivergent therapist in Colorado and the owner of A Divergent Lens Counseling, where she specializes in complex trauma and works with queer and neurodivergent clients, nonmonogamous and disabled folks, and clients on Medicaid. She was trained to sit still, follow the client's lead, and not take notes in session. None of it worked for her.</p><p>In this conversation she talks about what she changed, what she teaches newer clinicians about which rules actually have consequences, and what shifted when she started treating herself like a neurodivergent person.</p><p><b><strong>We cover:</strong></b></p><ul><li>What neurodivergence includes beyond ADHD and autism</li><li>Why frequency and intensity matter more than whether a behavior is universal</li><li>Anxiety as an effective but costly coping strategy for executive dysfunction</li><li>What ableism looks like inside clinical training</li><li>Capital R rules and lowercase r rules, at work and at home</li><li>Unmasking as a dial rather than a switch</li><li>How to find a therapist, and what to ask in a consultation</li></ul><p><b><strong>Information for Shelby Nolan, LPC and A Divergent Lens Counseling: </strong></b></p><p>Website: adivergentlenscounseling.com</p><p><b><strong>Mentioned in this episode:</strong></b><br />Psychology Today: psychologytoday.com<br />ND Therapists: ndtherapists.com<br />Inclusive Therapists: <a href="http://inclusivetherapists.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">inclusivetherapists.com</a></p><p>Outcare: <a href="https://www.outcarehealth.org/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">outcarehealth.org</a></p><p><br /></p><p>Not on the List is about executive function, support, and the things we don't talk about. Hosted by Sheela Ivlev, occupational therapist. More at todoish.app</p><p>These conversations are for education. They are not medical advice, therapy, or diagnosis, and listening does not create a clinical relationship with the host or any guest. If something here sounds like you, take it to your own provider.</p><p>If you need help here are U.S. based Crisis Lines (24/7):</p><p>Suicide &amp; Crisis Lifeline - call or text 988 </p><p>The Trevor Project - call 1-866-488-7386 or text START to 678-678</p><p>Trans Lifeline - call 1-877-565-8860</p>no00:25:342When Your Therapist Gets It: The Power of Neurodiversity Affirming Care with Shelby Nolan, LPCfull<![CDATA[Why executive dysfunction isn't always ADHD with Dr. Shayla Buckler, psychiatric nurse practitioner]]>This episode briefly discusses suicide and self-harm.

Executive dysfunction isn't always ADHD, and "try harder" is rarely the answer.

Not on the List is about executive function: what gets in the way of doing things, and how people find support. This first episode starts where most people start, which is not knowing who to ask.

Most people know two routes to mental health care: a psychiatrist or a therapist. There's a third that rarely comes up. A psychiatric mental health nurse practitioner can assess, diagnose, treat, and prescribe.

Dr. Shayla Buckler is a board-certified psychiatric mental health nurse practitioner, an assistant clinical professor, and the owner of The Calming Mind Psychiatry Group in Mansfield, Texas. When someone comes to her saying they can't get anything done, she doesn't just start with an ADHD screening. She explains what she looks at first, what an assessment actually involves, and how to find a provider who fits. She is licensed in the states of TX, AR, MI, IL, MN, TN, and MA.

We cover:

  • What a psychiatric nurse practitioner is, and how the role differs from a psychiatrist, therapist, or primary care doctor
  • What gets ruled out before ADHD
  • Why a whole-person assessment matters more than a single screening tool
  • What to expect when receiving care from a psychiatric nurse practitioner
  • How to find a provider and how to filter for identity and affirming care
  • Why supplements need medical oversight even though they aren't prescriptions

Dr. Buckler also shares what led her into psychiatric care, and her closing message: it's okay not to be okay, but it's not okay not to get the help you need.

Information for Dr. Shayla Buckler and The Calming Mind Psychiatry Group: 

Website: Thecalmingmindpsychiatrygroup.org

Instagram: @thecalmingmindpsychiatrygroup 

TikTok: @thecalmingmindpsychiatry 

Facebook: facebook.com/share/1Esfx5yh1d

Mentioned in this episode:

ZocDoc: www.zocdoc.com

Psychology Today: ww.psychologytoday.com

Not on the List is about executive function, support, and the things we don't talk about. Hosted by Sheela Ivlev, occupational therapist. More at todoish.app

These conversations are for education. They are not medical advice, therapy, or diagnosis, and listening does not create a clinical relationship with the host or any guest. If something here sounds like you, take it to your own provider.

If you need help here are US based Crisis Lines (24/7):

Suicide & Crisis Lifeline - call or text 988 

The Trevor Project - call 1-866-488-7386 or text START to 678-678

Trans Lifeline - call 1-877-565-8860

]]>aada5bc8-c712-405b-b91f-e0c51fed38fcWed, 09 Sep 2026 09:03:05 GMT<p>This episode briefly discusses suicide and self-harm.</p><p></p><p>Executive dysfunction isn't always ADHD, and "try harder" is rarely the answer.</p><p></p><p>Not on the List is about executive function: what gets in the way of doing things, and how people find support. This first episode starts where most people start, which is not knowing who to ask.</p><p></p><p>Most people know two routes to mental health care: a psychiatrist or a therapist. There's a third that rarely comes up. A psychiatric mental health nurse practitioner can assess, diagnose, treat, and prescribe.</p><p></p><p>Dr. Shayla Buckler is a board-certified psychiatric mental health nurse practitioner, an assistant clinical professor, and the owner of The Calming Mind Psychiatry Group in Mansfield, Texas. When someone comes to her saying they can't get anything done, she doesn't just start with an ADHD screening. She explains what she looks at first, what an assessment actually involves, and how to find a provider who fits. She is licensed in the states of TX, AR, MI, IL, MN, TN, and MA.</p><p></p><p>We cover:</p><ul><li>What a psychiatric nurse practitioner is, and how the role differs from a psychiatrist, therapist, or primary care doctor</li><li>What gets ruled out before ADHD</li><li>Why a whole-person assessment matters more than a single screening tool</li><li>What to expect when receiving care from a psychiatric nurse practitioner</li><li>How to find a provider and how to filter for identity and affirming care</li><li>Why supplements need medical oversight even though they aren't prescriptions</li></ul><p></p><p>Dr. Buckler also shares what led her into psychiatric care, and her closing message: it's okay not to be okay, but it's not okay not to get the help you need.</p><p></p><p><b>Information for Dr. Shayla Buckler and The Calming Mind Psychiatry Group: </b></p><p>Website: <a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="http://Thecalmingmindpsychiatrygroup.org" target="_blank">Thecalmingmindpsychiatrygroup.org</a></p><p>Instagram: @thecalmingmindpsychiatrygroup </p><p>TikTok: @thecalmingmindpsychiatry </p><p>Facebook: <a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="http://facebook.com/share/1Esfx5yh1d" target="_blank">facebook.com/share/1Esfx5yh1d</a></p><p></p><p><b>Mentioned in this episode</b>:</p><p>ZocDoc: <a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="http://www.zocdoc.com" target="_blank">www.zocdoc.com</a></p><p>Psychology Today: <a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="http://ww.psychologytoday.com" target="_blank">ww.psychologytoday.com</a></p><p></p><p>Not on the List is about executive function, support, and the things we don't talk about. Hosted by Sheela Ivlev, occupational therapist. More at <a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="http://todoish.app" target="_blank">todoish.app</a></p><p></p><p>These conversations are for education. They are not medical advice, therapy, or diagnosis, and listening does not create a clinical relationship with the host or any guest. If something here sounds like you, take it to your own provider.</p><p></p><p>If you need help here are US based Crisis Lines (24/7):</p><p>Suicide &amp; Crisis Lifeline - call or text 988 </p><p>The Trevor Project - call 1-866-488-7386 or text START to 678-678</p><p>Trans Lifeline - call 1-877-565-8860</p>no00:26:361Why executive dysfunction isn't always ADHD with Dr. Shayla Buckler, psychiatric nurse practitionerfull