Drawing from our own experiences in evangelical spaces, we talk about how our formation shapes the way we show up in hard conversations today.

At the heart of this episode is an invitation to build a life that reflects your actual values, not just inherited or aspirational ones. 

This season has been about learning how to live and relate in complicated times with integrity, curiosity, and care.

Thanks for listening from the Side Aisle. 

A special thanks to all of our paid subscribers on Substack for making it possible for us to have these kinds of conversations. Thanks, too, to Dan Koch for the music and Nate Sahr for audio engineering. 

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Not everything meaningful is meant to be shared, and not every story is ready to be told. Instead of asking what will resonate most online, we consider a deeper question: what is actually ours to share?

We think through how vulnerability can create real connection, and how easily it becomes performative when shaped by likes, attention, and immediate feedback.

We also connect this to vocation, understanding how our sense of calling should guide how we show up publicly.

Plus, listener questions. 

A special thanks to all of our paid subscribers on Substack for making it possible for us to have these kinds of conversations. Thanks, too, to Dan Koch for the music and Nate Sahr for audio engineering. 

Submit your questions for us to discuss on thesideaisle.com

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In this episode, hosted by Amanda, Lore, Sara, and Kendall get honest about their own church histories. including formative moments and the tension of engaging politically and spiritually in communities that don't always make it easy.

The group talks about what it actually takes to create space where people with genuinely different views can stay in the room together and stay curious.

If you've ever felt the friction of faith and politics colliding inside a community you love, this one is for you. Plus, listener questions. 

A special thanks to all of our paid subscribers on Substack for making it possible for us to have these kinds of conversations. Thanks, too, to Dan Koch for the music and Nate Sahr for audio engineering. 

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Order Sara's new book Nervous Systems

Order Kendall’s newest book Bake and Pray

Order Amanda’s latest book, Holy Unhappiness

Order Lore’s latest book, The Understory

(All books linked to support independent bookshop, Nooks)

Find Lore on Sayable and Instagram

Find Amanda on Provisions and Instagram

Find Sara on Bitter Scroll and Instagram

Find Kendall on Edible Theology and Instagram

We chat about how social media has become one of the most powerful forces shaping our definitions of fulfillment, often presenting polished versions of life that may or may not reflect reality.

What values are we actually absorbing, and are they genuinely serving us? To explore that, we unpack two cultural phenomena shaping these conversations right now, the tradwife movement, which celebrates a return to traditional domesticity, and the manosphere, online male communities grappling with shifting gender dynamics, often in divisive ways.

Though they seem like opposites, both are rooted in a longing for traditional values and reflect our broader cultural tension. We get into the nuance and contradictions, as we think it through together. Hope you'll join us.

Plus, listener questions. 

A special thanks to all of our paid subscribers on Substack for making it possible for us to have these kinds of conversations. Thanks, too, to Dan Koch for the music and Nate Sahr for audio engineering. 

Submit your questions for us to discuss on thesideaisle.com

Order Sara's new book Nervous Systems

Order Kendall’s newest book Bake and Pray

Order Amanda’s latest book, Holy Unhappiness

Order Lore’s latest book, The Understory

(All books linked to support independent bookshop, Nooks)

Find Lore on Sayable and Instagram

Find Amanda on Provisions and Instagram

Find Sara on Bitter Scroll and Instagram

Find Kendall on Edible Theology and Instagram

There's the tension a lot of us are sitting with right now: Do you cut off connection for the sake of your own wellbeing? Or do you stay connected no matter what? We talk about what it could look like to stay in relationship, when it's safe to, while maintaining healthy boundaries. 

This is a conversation about asking better questions and finding that even when political alignment is off the table, there might be something worth building across the divide.

Plus, listener questions. 

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A special thanks to all of our paid subscribers on Substack for making it possible for us to have these kinds of conversations. Thanks, too, to Dan Koch for the music and Nate Sahr for audio engineering. 

Submit your questions for us to discuss on thesideaisle.com

Order Sara's new book Nervous Systems

Order Kendall’s newest book Bake and Pray

Order Amanda’s latest book, Holy Unhappiness

Order Lore’s latest book, The Understory

(All books linked to support independent bookshop, Nooks)

Find Lore on Sayable and Instagram

Find Amanda on Provisions and Instagram

Find Sara on Bitter Scroll and Instagram

Find Kendall on Edible Theology and Instagram

Books mentioned:

Parker Palmer, A Hidden Wholeness, Chapter Ten, A Third Way

Submit your questions for us to discuss on thesideaisle.com

• Order Sara's new book Nervous Systems
• Order Kendall’s latest book Bake and Pray
• Order Amanda’s latest book, Holy Unhappiness
• Order Lore’s latest book, The Understory

(All books linked to support independent bookshop, Nooks)

• Find Lore on Sayable and Instagram
• Find Amanda on Provisions and Instagram
• Find Sara on Bitter Scroll and Instagram
• Find Kendall on Edible Theology and Instagram

A special thanks to our paid subscribers on Substack for making it possible for us to have these kinds of conversations.

Thanks, too, to Dan Koch for the music and Nate Sahr for audio engineering. 

The Side Aisle is a conversation between four friends — Sara Billups, Amanda Held Opelt, Kendall Vanderslice, and Lore Wilbert — about struggling to live in this contentious cultural moment with both grace and conviction in our families, our churches, our communities, and online.  Where do you find belonging when your values have led you out of the mainstream and into the margins...a place we call the side aisle. 

The first episode in this limited series drops Wednesday, March 18. Listen anywhere you get your podcasts.