<![CDATA[Speak Easy Doctors]]>Speak Easy Doctors is your invitation to see the world differently—through the lens of communication. Hosted by Dr. D and Dr. J, best friends with PhDs in communication and a passion for real, unfiltered conversations, this show breaks down the why behind what we say, how we say it, and the meanings we don’t even realize we’re making.

Together, we dive into the communication theories and real-world skills that shape everything — your relationships, your confidence, your identity, your choices, and the stories you tell yourself and others. No boring lectures. No textbook fluff. Just relatable discussions, aha-moments, and honest talk.

If you’ve ever wondered how to handle conversations better, read people more clearly, feel more understood, or make your voice match your intention, you’re in the right place. This is where communication stops being something you do and becomes something you master.

So take a moment, get comfortable, and join us as we explore how communication shapes every part of life.

]]>https://linktr.ee/dc_inpracticeRiverside.fm (https://riverside.com)Mon, 02 Nov 2026 14:13:20 GMTThu, 25 Sep 2025 20:52:24 GMT60DeAnne Canieso, PhD & James Perez, PhD<p><b>Speak Easy Doctors</b> is your invitation to see the world differently—through the lens of communication. Hosted by Dr. D and Dr. J, best friends with PhDs in communication and a passion for real, unfiltered conversations, this show breaks down the <i>why</i> behind what we say, <i>how</i> we say it, and the <i>meanings</i> we don’t even realize we’re making.</p><p>Together, we dive into the communication theories and real-world skills that shape everything — your relationships, your confidence, your identity, your choices, and the stories you tell yourself and others. No boring lectures. No textbook fluff. Just relatable discussions, aha-moments, and honest talk.</p><p>If you’ve ever wondered how to handle conversations better, read people more clearly, feel more understood, or make your voice match your intention, you’re in the right place. This is where communication stops being something you <i>do</i> and becomes something you <i>master.</i></p><p>So take a moment, get comfortable, and join us as we explore how communication shapes every part of life.</p><p></p>episodicDeAnne Canieso, PhD & James Perez, PhDdr.dcanieso@gmail.comno<![CDATA[The Attachment Trap: Invisible Patterns Controlling Your Relationships]]>Why do some people crave reassurance while others pull away when relationships get too close? In this episode of Speakeasy Doctors, Dr. D and Dr. J explore the four attachment styles (secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized) and how our early experiences shape the way we connect, communicate, and navigate relationships. Blending psychological research, personal stories, humor, and honest reflections, they discuss how attachment patterns influence emotional intimacy, conflict, trust, and vulnerability. Most importantly, they explore how attachment styles can evolve over time, reminding us that our past does not have to define how we love and connect today.

]]>d019b21d-ebd0-4001-af97-f20e14d01f51Tue, 27 Oct 2026 10:45:00 GMT<p>Why do some people crave reassurance while others pull away when relationships get too close? In this episode of <i><em>Speakeasy Doctors</em></i>, Dr. D and Dr. J explore the four attachment styles (secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized) and how our early experiences shape the way we connect, communicate, and navigate relationships. Blending psychological research, personal stories, humor, and honest reflections, they discuss how attachment patterns influence emotional intimacy, conflict, trust, and vulnerability. Most importantly, they explore how attachment styles can evolve over time, reminding us that our past does not have to define how we love and connect today.</p>no00:46:0624The Attachment Trap: Invisible Patterns Controlling Your Relationshipsfull<![CDATA[Wait…That’s Not What I Expected! Why We React When People Break the “Rules”]]>We all have expectations for how people should behave, even when we’ve never actually said them out loud. So what happens when someone suddenly breaks those unwritten rules?

In this episode of Speak Easy Doctors, Dr. D and Dr. J explore Expectancy Violations Theory and how our experiences, relationships, culture, and social norms shape what we expect from other people. They unpack unexpected behavior, and how it can grab our attention, trigger surprisingly strong reactions, and sometimes lead us to assume the worst (even when the situation itself seems small).

Through everyday examples, personal stories, and a little catastrophizing over a beeping dryer, they explore how we decide whether an unexpected interaction is positive or negative, and why curiosity and authenticity may help us respond differently.

Because sometimes it’s not just what someone did that bothers us. It’s that they didn’t do what we expected.

]]>2dcf8cc2-ada0-4c23-8a03-c541661e217dTue, 13 Oct 2026 11:00:00 GMT<p>We all have expectations for how people <i><em>should</em></i> behave, even when we’ve never actually said them out loud. So what happens when someone suddenly breaks those unwritten rules?</p><p>In this episode of <b><strong>Speak Easy Doctors</strong></b>, Dr. D and Dr. J explore <b><strong>Expectancy Violations Theory</strong></b> and how our experiences, relationships, culture, and social norms shape what we expect from other people. They unpack unexpected behavior, and how it can grab our attention, trigger surprisingly strong reactions, and sometimes lead us to assume the worst (even when the situation itself seems small).</p><p>Through everyday examples, personal stories, and a little catastrophizing over a beeping dryer, they explore how we decide whether an unexpected interaction is positive or negative, and why curiosity and authenticity may help us respond differently.</p><p>Because sometimes it’s not just what someone did that bothers us. <b><strong>It’s that they didn’t do what we expected.</strong></b></p>no00:43:2423Wait…That’s Not What I Expected! Why We React When People Break the “Rules”full<![CDATA[Who Are You When You Don’t Fit In? The Psychology of Belonging]]>Have you ever changed how you act, speak, or even think just to feel like you belong? In this episode of Speakeasy Doctors, Dr. D and Dr. J dive into the fascinating psychology of social identity theory and the invisible ways our social groups influence who we become.

Through personal stories of growing up as outsiders, navigating cultural identities, and finding their place in the world, they unpack the psychology behind fitting in, feeling excluded, and discovering who we really are. From sports rivalries to cultural expectations, this conversation explores how our identities evolve—and why sometimes, not fitting in might be exactly what helps us grow.

]]>da8056c7-f4a5-435d-91cf-a5fcae450768Tue, 29 Sep 2026 14:31:20 GMT<p>Have you ever changed how you act, speak, or even think just to feel like you belong? In this episode of Speakeasy Doctors, Dr. D and Dr. J dive into the fascinating psychology of social identity theory and the invisible ways our social groups influence who we become.</p><p>Through personal stories of growing up as outsiders, navigating cultural identities, and finding their place in the world, they unpack the psychology behind fitting in, feeling excluded, and discovering who we really are. From sports rivalries to cultural expectations, this conversation explores how our identities evolve—and why sometimes, not fitting in might be exactly what helps us grow.</p>no00:40:4422Who Are You When You Don’t Fit In? The Psychology of Belongingfull<![CDATA[We’re Back: 27 Years, Two Perspectives, a New Season]]>After almost a year away from the podcast, we’re back! In this episode, we reintroduce ourselves, reflect on 27 years of friendship, and talk about how our first impressions of each other have evolved over time. We explore the paths that led us into communication, mental health, and therapy, and share how our personal and professional experiences have shaped who we are today. We also give listeners a glimpse of what’s ahead this season: deeper conversations about communication, relationships, mental health, work, culture, and the complexities of being human.

]]>112af754-9ff1-41af-8609-91f6a915bd16Sun, 20 Sep 2026 03:48:49 GMT<p>After almost a year away from the podcast, we’re back! In this episode, we reintroduce ourselves, reflect on 27 years of friendship, and talk about how our first impressions of each other have evolved over time. We explore the paths that led us into communication, mental health, and therapy, and share how our personal and professional experiences have shaped who we are today. We also give listeners a glimpse of what’s ahead this season: deeper conversations about communication, relationships, mental health, work, culture, and the complexities of being human.</p>yes00:40:4321We’re Back: 27 Years, Two Perspectives, a New Seasonfull<![CDATA[What Happened to Real Human Connection? ]]>In this reflective end-of-year episode of Speak Easy Doctors, Dr. D and Dr. J explore a question many of us are quietly carrying: what happened to real human connection? Framed around sociologist Robert Putnam’s influential concept of Bowling Alone, the conversation examines the steady decline of social capital—our shared sense of community, trust, and meaningful engagement with one another.

This discussion is a thoughtful analysis of how factors such as risk and fears of opposing persepctives, media, and digital convenience have reshaped the way we relate. From the loss of “third spaces” like libraries, coffee shops, and community centers to the rise of attention and digital capital, Dr. D and Dr. J unpack how modern life has quietly trained us to connect less while scrolling more.

Ultimately, this conversation is not about nostalgia for the past, but about possibility for the future. With warmth, humor, and humility, Dr. D and Dr. J argue that human connection is a muscle—one that can be rebuilt through intention, presence, and shared spaces that honor our need to belong. As they close out the year, they leave listeners with a gentle but powerful reminder: no digital substitute can replace the healing, regulating, and deeply human experience of sitting across from another person and being seen.

]]>458822b2-eaaa-461b-b24b-ad8edbbefd02Mon, 22 Dec 2025 20:49:22 GMT<p>In this reflective end-of-year episode of <i>Speak Easy Doctors</i>, Dr. D and Dr. J explore a question many of us are quietly carrying: <b>what happened to real human connection?</b> Framed around sociologist Robert Putnam’s influential concept of <i>Bowling Alone</i>, the conversation examines the steady decline of social capital—our shared sense of community, trust, and meaningful engagement with one another.</p><p></p><p>This discussion is a thoughtful analysis of how factors such as risk and fears of opposing persepctives, media, and digital convenience have reshaped the way we relate. From the loss of “third spaces” like libraries, coffee shops, and community centers to the rise of attention and digital capital, Dr. D and Dr. J unpack how modern life has quietly trained us to connect less while scrolling more.</p><p></p><p>Ultimately, this conversation is not about nostalgia for the past, but about <b>possibility for the future</b>. With warmth, humor, and humility, Dr. D and Dr. J argue that human connection is a muscle—one that can be rebuilt through intention, presence, and shared spaces that honor our need to belong. As they close out the year, they leave listeners with a gentle but powerful reminder: no digital substitute can replace the healing, regulating, and deeply human experience of sitting across from another person and being seen. </p>no00:40:2518What Happened to Real Human Connection? full<![CDATA[Micro-Expressions: The Secrets Your Face Keeps Leaking]]>In this episode of Speak Easy Doctors, Dr. D and Dr. J explore “leaked emotions” and micro-expressions—the tiny, often unconscious facial and bodily cues that reveal what we’re really feeling. Drawing on the work of Anna Wierzbicka, Paul Ekman, and Haggard & Isaacs, they discuss whether emotions and expressions are truly universal or shaped by culture, with a few detours into primatology, anthropology, and sociolinguistics. They unpack how sadness and fear often get hidden behind smiles or flat affect, how our bodies (jaw clenching, tight shoulders, fidgeting) “tell on us,” and how some modalities use these somatic signals in therapy. Ultimately, they invite listeners to see micro-expressions as a pathway to deeper connection—with ourselves and with others.

]]>bb1931cb-c8e0-4b2a-a2b8-eb027b7c0117Sun, 16 Nov 2025 12:04:39 GMT<p>In this episode of <b>Speak Easy Doctors</b>, Dr. D and Dr. J explore “leaked emotions” and micro-expressions—the tiny, often unconscious facial and bodily cues that reveal what we’re really feeling. Drawing on the work of Anna Wierzbicka, Paul Ekman, and Haggard &amp; Isaacs, they discuss whether emotions and expressions are truly universal or shaped by culture, with a few detours into primatology, anthropology, and sociolinguistics. They unpack how sadness and fear often get hidden behind smiles or flat affect, how our bodies (jaw clenching, tight shoulders, fidgeting) “tell on us,” and how some modalities use these somatic signals in therapy. Ultimately, they invite listeners to see micro-expressions as a pathway to deeper connection—with ourselves and with others.</p><h5></h5>no00:39:3517Micro-Expressions: The Secrets Your Face Keeps Leakingfull<![CDATA[The Confusing Thing About Anger]]>In this Speak Easy Doctors episode, Dr. D and Dr. J extend their conversations around “love languages” by testing a pop-psych spinoff: the five “anger languages” which include righteousness, indignation, retribution, distraction, and justification. Using personal history and a communication lens, they question whether these are truly “anger” or broader reaction styles triggered by unmet needs. By the end, the hosts agree on a few anchors: anger is complex, often effective in the short term but costly over time; compassion can be equally effective but demands more skill and patience; and body awareness is a powerful early warning system. They also spar (playfully) over morality highlighting Dr. D’s “moral fluidity” vs. Dr. J’s rule-bound comfort—illustrating how definitions shape what we call “anger” in the first place. Stay for the real-talk takeaways: spot what’s under your “anger,” use DBT Wise Mind to pause before you hit send, and try compassion for long-game wins. Listen now.

]]>4a6eab50-ad9e-44fd-904b-7fb3d4c23bd0Sat, 08 Nov 2025 04:38:52 GMT<p>In this Speak Easy Doctors episode, Dr. D and Dr. J extend their conversations around “love languages” by testing a pop-psych spinoff: the five “anger languages” which include righteousness, indignation, retribution, distraction, and justification. Using personal history and a communication lens, they question whether these are truly “anger” or broader reaction styles triggered by unmet needs. By the end, the hosts agree on a few anchors: anger is complex, often effective in the short term but costly over time; compassion can be equally effective but demands more skill and patience; and body awareness is a powerful early warning system. They also spar (playfully) over morality highlighting Dr. D’s “moral fluidity” vs. Dr. J’s rule-bound comfort—illustrating how definitions shape what we call “anger” in the first place. Stay for the real-talk takeaways: spot what’s under your “anger,” use DBT Wise Mind to pause before you hit send, and try compassion for long-game wins. Listen now.</p>yes00:36:0116The Confusing Thing About Angerfull<![CDATA[The Dark Side of Love Languages]]>In this candid chat, Dr. D and Dr. J revisit Gary Chapman’s five love languages—words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time, and physical touch—then flip the script to examine the “dark side.” Through personal stories (from grocery runs and mountain getaways to orchids and the Northern Lights), they explore how childhood, culture, religion, and generational norms shape what we crave and how we give love—and how those patterns can become blind spots that fuel miscommunication.

]]>c2f77b8e-168f-49d3-b187-d8812a21af35Sat, 01 Nov 2025 16:03:26 GMT<p>In this candid chat, Dr. D and Dr. J revisit Gary Chapman’s five love languages—words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time, and physical touch—then flip the script to examine the “dark side.” Through personal stories (from grocery runs and mountain getaways to orchids and the Northern Lights), they explore how childhood, culture, religion, and generational norms shape what we crave and how we give love—and how those patterns can become blind spots that fuel miscommunication. </p>no00:41:1015The Dark Side of Love Languagesfull<![CDATA[The Communication Rules that Make and Break Reality]]>On this episode of Speak Easy Doctors, Dr. D and Dr. J explore how everyday conversations don’t just exchange information, they also shape who we are and the world we live in. Using the Coordinated Management of Meaning (CMM) as a lens, and drawing on Bakhtin’s idea of the dialogical self, they unpack how “voices” from family, culture, and childhood become the rules we carry into adulthood. From strict upbringings and internalized negativity to clashing conflict styles in marriage, they show how constitutive rules (what something means) and regulative rules (what we do next) are learned, negotiated, and, crucially, can be broken and rewritten.

]]>84e48628-5028-4c7e-b8d5-ba27f3c58ad8Fri, 24 Oct 2025 22:25:19 GMT<p>On this episode of <i>Speak Easy Doctors</i>, Dr. D and Dr. J explore how everyday conversations don’t just exchange information, they also shape who we are and the world we live in. Using the Coordinated Management of Meaning (CMM) as a lens, and drawing on Bakhtin’s idea of the dialogical self, they unpack how “voices” from family, culture, and childhood become the rules we carry into adulthood. From strict upbringings and internalized negativity to clashing conflict styles in marriage, they show how constitutive rules (what something means) and regulative rules (what we do next) are learned, negotiated, and, crucially, can be broken and rewritten.</p>no00:35:4514The Communication Rules that Make and Break Realityfull<![CDATA[The Codes We Speak: How We Adapt, Connect, and Belong]]>In this episode, the hosts dive deep into the art and complexity of code switching—the ways people adjust their language, tone, and behavior depending on who they’re speaking to and the setting they’re in. Through personal stories and cultural reflection, they unpack the historical roots of this phenomenon, exploring how identity, generational, and social expectations shape the ways we communicate. Listeners will hear candid insights about the emotional labor behind constant adaptation and the ongoing challenge of staying authentic while navigating different worlds.

]]>4b1db77e-3d95-4c49-8188-b740db2a4d6aSat, 18 Oct 2025 18:54:07 GMT<p>In this episode, the hosts dive deep into the art and complexity of <b>code switching</b>—the ways people adjust their language, tone, and behavior depending on who they’re speaking to and the setting they’re in. Through personal stories and cultural reflection, they unpack the historical roots of this phenomenon, exploring how identity, generational, and social expectations shape the ways we communicate. Listeners will hear candid insights about the emotional labor behind constant adaptation and the ongoing challenge of staying authentic while navigating different worlds.</p>yes00:36:2913The Codes We Speak: How We Adapt, Connect, and Belongfull<![CDATA[How Communication Shapes Who We Are]]>In this conversation, Dr. D and Dr. J delve into the complexities of identity through the lens of communication theory. They explore personal experiences that shape identity, the influence of cultural and community factors, and the evolution of self-worth over time. The discussion highlights the multifaceted nature of identity, emphasizing how it is personal, enacted, relational, and influenced by societal expectations. Through personal anecdotes, they illustrate the challenges and transformations in their own understanding of identity from childhood to adulthood.

]]>3ed72376-16eb-4c63-bb40-3aacc6db096bSat, 11 Oct 2025 20:13:14 GMT<p>In this conversation, Dr. D and Dr. J delve into the complexities of identity through the lens of communication theory. They explore personal experiences that shape identity, the influence of cultural and community factors, and the evolution of self-worth over time. The discussion highlights the multifaceted nature of identity, emphasizing how it is personal, enacted, relational, and influenced by societal expectations. Through personal anecdotes, they illustrate the challenges and transformations in their own understanding of identity from childhood to adulthood.</p>no00:39:1612How Communication Shapes Who We Arefull<![CDATA[Introducing Speak Easy Doctors]]>Get to know your hosts Dr. D and Dr. J as they talk about their hopes for the show, how they came to be BFFs, and how communication can impact us daily.

]]>1b103b44-01cd-4d71-aad6-776faf44b8c0Sun, 28 Sep 2025 03:40:32 GMT<p>Get to know your hosts Dr. D and Dr. J as they talk about their hopes for the show, how they came to be BFFs, and how communication can impact us daily. </p>no00:40:0511Introducing Speak Easy Doctorsfull