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Chris and Will - Black Men and Respect

Bryant Goodine — Sun, 03 Apr 2022 23:00:00 GMT

Recently the world witnessed a shocking event. At the Oscars, the world watched a comedian make a joke and the resulting action. Initially, the world reacted two ways. Some said Chris deserved to get slapped, and others said Will was wrong. This goes deeper than right or wrong. We witnessed two Black men, or brothers, experiencing a traumatic event in different ways.

Initially, we did not want to talk about this. However, this is what the Iron Table was designed for. We are here to talk about issues that are more than what the surface shows. If we did not provide our take, we would be doing our listeners a disservice.

WHO Picked This Movie?!

Bryant Goodine — Fri, 19 Mar 2021 15:00:00 GMT

2020 is the "Year of Streaming" with so many options from Netflix, Hulu, Disney +, etc., there is plenty to watch. Today's episode focuses on what's currently on our watchlist and what types of movies\tv shows we don't care for. Also, one of our hosts finally confronts the guest about something they did to them over 20+ years ago that left a lasting mark...

What is Manhood?

Bryant Goodine — Sun, 21 Aug 2022 01:00:00 GMT

What is the definition of manhood? Is it a definition derived from personal experiences? Is it something observed or passed down? Can manhood be taught in adulthood? What are some of the characteristics a man should have if they are to be considered a man? How should a man, who possesses traits of manhood, treat a woman and allow themselves to be treated?

In this episode, we discuss the definition of manhood and the character traits of a man. Is the definition we grew up on still relevant today?

Life On The Other Side of the Fence?

Bryant Goodine — Tue, 22 Mar 2022 23:00:00 GMT

Culture it's a multilayered word. For some, it could mean their ethnicity. For others, their identity. Our cultural upbringing shapes us all. Whether it is stories and activities passed down or observing individuals who look similar to us, we all are influenced by our culture. Through triumphs and struggles, we have achieved great things. However, one has to wonder, if the playing field was level, would we be as unique, creative, and innovative as we are now? This episode talks about Black culture and how it has shaped us.

We have this question for you... If you could go back in time and re-write history, where you are a member of the then-dominant race, would you give up your current culture for a life of privilege and entitlement?

Brotherhood: The Iron Table Origin Story

Bryant Goodine — Tue, 26 Jul 2022 14:00:00 GMT

In the 80s a rap group named Whodini released a track called "Friends". It had me thinking about who are my friends and how rare is it that I still have the same friends from grade school. Double that by including friends from grade school, that I talk to on a regular basis. Regular being at times multiple times a week.

In this episode, I brought in my closest friends. Interesting point, this group was the reason I developed the Iron Table. I wanted to show the world that Black men could support each other's growth even during adulthood, marriage, divorce, and parenthood.

Why Can't We Be Friends Pt. 2 AND Seat at The Table

Bryant Goodine — Fri, 23 Apr 2021 14:00:00 GMT

In this episode, the hosts close out on a previously discussed topic, navigating touchy relationships. The conversation then shifts, and we get into the core of why the Iron Table came to be. If you want to know why The Iron Table came to be, you don't want to miss this episode.

Why Strength Is Not Control And Silence Is Not Weakness

Bryant Goodine — Tue, 25 Nov 2025 03:00:00 GMT

Start with the correction. That’s how trust is built—and how this conversation finds its spine. From there we face a brutal story out of Chicago: kids attacking a pregnant mother while her son tried to shield her. We talk about the collapse of a neighborhood code that once protected elders and parents, and whether the reflexive “Where are the fathers?” helps or hides the deeper problems. Presence matters, but presence is not just a body in a house; it’s boundaries, guidance, and the courage to say no when the internet says yes.

We press into what healthy manhood looks like under pressure. Leadership is not domination; many men want peace, not power. Meekness is not weakness—calm is a choice, and restraint is strength. We share how men are punished for both standing firm and staying quiet, and how that double-bind can turn love into war. We also unpack provision as more than money. One of us chased a “pay it all” script until it almost broke him. The fix wasn’t a rigid 50/50; it was fairness matched to strengths, season by season, with respect replacing comparison to mom or dad.

Then we ask when “figuring it out” ends and foundational responsibility begins. If people depend on you, your dream may need a pause—not a funeral. Stabilize, then rebuild with margin. We challenge the rise of consequence-free childhoods and how social media rewards attention over character. Consequences introduced early, with love, become guardrails later. Finally, we revisit success in a world where college isn’t a guarantee, predatory schools sold dead ends, trades are thriving, and content creation is real but unforgiving. The path is wider now, but discipline still wins.

Pull up a chair at The Iron Table, where iron sharpens iron. If this conversation moved you, share it with a friend, hit follow, and leave a quick review with one takeaway you’ll practice this week. Your voice helps more people find the table.

You Versus You: Redefining Men's Health Beyond Nostalgia

Bryant Goodine — Sun, 06 Jul 2025 02:00:00 GMT

Ever wondered why that "dad bod" creeps up on men after 40? Our fascinating conversation with fitness expert Ronald Quick dives deep into the psychology and physiology behind middle-aged men's struggle with health and fitness.

Quick brings twenty years of physical education experience to the table as he challenges our nostalgic attachment to our younger athletic selves. "You can't outwork a bad diet," he reminds us, sharing the sobering reality that fitness isn't fair—those cookies that take seconds to eat require significant exercise to burn off. But rather than discouraging listeners, this truth serves as a wake-up call.

The most profound insight? Stop competing with others or with your younger self. "Write down where you are right now...beat that person, because that's the only person you're competing with," Quick advises. This shift from external comparison to internal improvement provides a revolutionary framework for men's fitness after 40.

We explore how social dynamics enable fitness decline—married couples often gain weight together, mutually accepting physical changes—and how today's youth, unaccustomed to physical exertion, will face even greater challenges maintaining health in middle age. The solution? Finding activities that require "effort but not exhaustion" and creating sustainable routines rather than exhausting regimens that lead to burnout.

Quick exposes fitness industry secrets, warning against gimmicky equipment and fad diets while encouraging each man to treat his body as a personal "science fair project"—discovering which foods and activities work specifically for his unique physiology. This customized approach, combined with honest accountability partners who won't sugarcoat feedback, forms the cornerstone of lasting health improvements.

Whether you're struggling with your own fitness journey or supporting someone who is, this conversation offers practical wisdom, tough love, and the encouragement needed to make sustainable lifestyle changes. Ready to stop romanticizing your 20-year-old self and start improving today's version of you? This episode is your starting point.

Make Holiday Memories, Not Minimum Payments

Bryant Goodine — Sat, 20 Dec 2025 03:00:00 GMT

The holidays can bring out the best in us—and the worst in our budgets. Around the Iron Table, we get real about why so many men overspend this time of year, how social media and buy-now-pay-later schemes crank up the pressure, and what to do when you’re tempted to prove love with a receipt. We shift the focus toward intentional giving, clear boundaries, and the kind of everyday consistency that keeps December from becoming a high-stakes exam.

We share honest stories: dental chairs and car repair surprises, the quiet win of a truly helpful gift, and the deep satisfaction of planning experiences that become family lore. Think candle-making dates, racetrack laps, and a professional stretch session for the back that’s been hurting for months. If money is tight, we talk about turning intention up—free rituals, thoughtful notes, favorite meals, or asking a trusted friend for intel instead of guessing. Listening is a gift; follow-through is love.

Nostalgia weaves through the conversation—Temptations’ Rudolph, the Vince Guaraldi Trio, the plastic-scent memory of a first Nintendo, the soul-shaking tug of Polar Express. We explore how kids today face an abundance of information but a shortage of surprise, and how we can bring back a little magic with traditions that last longer than the wrapping. We also set healthy lines at home: agreeing on spending caps, naming non-negotiables (even about pets), and resisting the urge to start fights as an escape hatch from expectations.

Pull up a chair for laughs, practical tools, and a reset on what makes this season meaningful. If this conversation helps you breathe a little easier and give a little wiser. Tap subscribe, share it with a friend who needs it, and leave a review with your most meaningful low-cost gift idea.

Walking While Black: Men's Journey to Validation

Bryant Goodine — Sun, 28 Sep 2025 18:00:00 GMT

What happens when a simple health journey becomes a battleground for racial bias? Bryant opens up about a deeply troubling experience that shook his daily walking routine at work. After losing 26 pounds through consistent exercise and better nutrition, his progress was suddenly threatened when a white coworker reported feeling "unsafe" by his presence in the building - despite his 24 years working there and wearing proper identification.

The raw emotion Bryant shares - breaking down in his supervisor's office, feeling the weight of yet another racial microaggression - sparks a profound conversation about how men process trauma. The brothers at the Iron Table dive deep into why men often suffer in silence, internalizing pain rather than seeking support. They explore the concept of validation - what it means, how it differs for each person, and why it's essential for emotional wellbeing.

Keith offers powerful insight: "A lot of men have been broken and stripped down to the point where they don't even feel or they're made to feel bad for needing validation." The group unpacks how society expects men to "take hits on the chin" without acknowledgment of their experiences. They challenge listeners to consider what validation looks like in their own lives - is it problem-solving together, simply being heard, or something else entirely?

The conversation weaves through thought-provoking territory, from the importance of self-validation to how social media has warped our understanding of human connection. As Bryant contemplates returning to his walking routine, his brothers rally around him with both compassion and practical wisdom. Join us for this powerful discussion about racial awareness, emotional resilience, and the courage it takes to speak your truth in a world that often expects men to remain silent.

Death Doesn't Play Fair: Why The Good Get Taken & Bad Left Alone?

Bryant Goodine — Sun, 27 Jul 2025 02:00:00 GMT

Death doesn't play fair. It takes the good, leaves the wicked, and rarely provides explanations. How do we make sense of loss when nothing seems to make sense?

As we face an increasing wave of loss—from celebrities we've watched our whole lives to beloved friends and family members—the men of The Iron Table dive deep into grief, faith, and the questions that keep us awake at night. This raw, honest conversation explores why it often feels like good people die young while others get a pass, and how we can navigate the murky waters of mourning without drowning in despair.

The hosts share personal reflections on recent losses, including Malcolm-Jamal Warner, while examining the biblical perspective on suffering. Does God take certain people because He knows their passing will wake us up to our own mortality? Is death designed to push us closer to faith or further away? Keith offers a powerful distinction between "questioning God" and "asking God questions," giving listeners permission to bring their honest pain before the Creator without feeling spiritually inadequate.

Drawing from scripture, personal experience, and counseling wisdom, the conversation offers practical guidance for those who grieve. Danny reminds us that "the path to comfort comes through mourning," while Steve encourages listeners to develop a relationship with God before tragedy strikes rather than trying to build that foundation in the midst of pain. The hosts acknowledge that grief becomes particularly difficult when death doesn't make sense, yet even in those moments, community support and faith can sustain us.

Whether you're currently walking through the valley of the shadow or want to prepare for the inevitable losses that come with living, this episode provides both comfort and challenge. Join Bryant, Keith, Danny, and Steve as they demonstrate how iron truly sharpens iron through life's most difficult conversations.

When Sucking It Up Just Won't Do: Navigating Grief

Bryant Goodine — Mon, 14 Apr 2025 00:00:00 GMT

Grief lives in the shadow of masculinity, often unacknowledged until it erupts in destructive ways. In this deeply reflective episode, Bryant, Keith, and Steve unpack the complex relationship men have with loss and emotional pain.

The conversation opens with raw accounts of workplace trauma—mass layoffs leaving empty cubicles where colleagues once sat, creating what Bryant describes as "survivor's remorse." This launches an honest exploration of how men typically process grief: through internalization rather than expression, often leading to physical health problems or unhealthy coping mechanisms like substance abuse.

We examine the generational differences in grief processing, noting how older men were conditioned to "suck it up" while younger generations might be more willing to seek help—though still facing significant barriers. The hosts share powerful stories illustrating how cultural conditioning teaches men that showing emotion equals weakness, leaving many ill-equipped to handle significant losses when they inevitably come.

Particularly poignant is the discussion about the Black community's relationship with grief, described as "unhealthy survival tactics" passed down through generations. The conversation touches on how trauma is often worn as a "badge of honor" rather than something to be processed and healed, and questions whether this approach serves anyone well.

The hosts offer practical wisdom for supporting someone experiencing grief, emphasizing consistent check-ins rather than just immediately after a loss. Their message is clear: there's no single "right way" to grieve, professional help is valuable, and acknowledging your emotions doesn't make you weak—it makes you human.

Why not join us at the Iron Table, where men can speak openly about the challenges we all face? Subscribe, share, and add your voice to this important conversation about emotional well-being.

Beyond Husband/Wife Status: The Continuous Elevation of Marriage

Bryant Goodine — Sun, 16 Mar 2025 15:00:00 GMT

What does it truly mean to elevate someone to spouse status? In this thought-provoking episode, we dive deep into the misconception that marriage is simply a destination rather than the beginning of a profound journey.

The conversation begins when one host shares a question from an engaged couple he's counseling: "Is the highest level a man can elevate a woman to wife status?" This seemingly straightforward question ignites a powerful discussion about the nature of marriage beyond the honeymoon phase. We challenge the fairytale notion that marriage automatically leads to "happily ever after," revealing instead how committed relationships are designed to expose our character flaws and catalyze personal growth.

Throughout our discussion, we make crucial distinctions between potential and actual relationship growth. Many couples remain stuck seeing what their partner could become rather than accepting who they are right now. We explore the psychological trap of "sunk cost bias" – staying in unfulfilling relationships simply because we've already invested significant time – and offer practical guidance for determining when it's time to move forward versus when to part ways.

Perhaps most valuable is our conversation about establishing healthy communication boundaries. We share practical strategies for resolving conflicts, including creating a "statute of limitations" on past issues to prevent them from being weaponized in future disagreements. These tools create space for genuine healing rather than continuously reopening emotional wounds.

Whether you're single, dating, engaged, or married for decades, this episode offers profound insights about what it truly means to grow together. Subscribe now to join our journey of iron sharpening iron, as we navigate the complex terrain of relationships with honesty, vulnerability, and a commitment to continuous improvement.

Leadership Illusion: Why She's Not on Board

Bryant Goodine — Sat, 28 Dec 2024 05:00:00 GMT

This episode explores the essence of true leadership beyond titles, emphasizing the inner qualities and personal growth necessary for leadership in all areas of life. The hosts discuss the importance of self-leadership, fostering trust in relationships, and the collaborative nature of effective leadership, offering reflections and insights as they prepare for 2025.

• Reflections on personal growth and experiences throughout season four
• The evolving definition of leadership: qualities over titles
• Importance of self-leadership before guiding others
• The role of effective communication and vulnerability in relationships
• Challenges faced by men in defining their leadership roles
• Shared leadership dynamics and mutual trust in partnerships
• The need for humility and openness to feedback in leadership
• Learning from the past year to prepare for a meaningful 2025

Thank you for being with us this year and we look forward to bringing you more engaging discussions in 2025!

Don't Talk, JUST Listen: Incentives or Consequence, What Motivates a Man!

Bryant Goodine — Sun, 27 Oct 2024 18:00:00 GMT

What truly motivates a person—rewards or repercussions? Join Bryant, Keith, Danny, and Steve as we tackle this age-old debate by sharing candid personal stories and laugh-out-loud moments from daily life. From dissecting the incentives that make chores bearable to the looming consequences that push us to excel at work, we unravel the complex threads of motivation. You'll hear how incentives and consequences are not just about carrots and sticks but about understanding what truly drives change and growth in our lives.

As the conversation flows, we delve into the shifting sands of relationships and the intrinsic motivations that steer our actions over the years. Ever wondered why some people stay in relationships and others stray? We reflect on the core values that evolve as we age, the role of genuine incentives over fear, and how religious and philosophical teachings can offer surprising insights into love and fidelity. It's a discussion that challenges you to rethink what fulfillment means in the context of personal development and partnerships, offering fresh perspectives on familiar themes like trust and companionship.

Finally, we navigate the labyrinth of communication with humor and honesty, examining why saying "I'm sorry" isn't as simple as it sounds. From the art of timing to the strategy of setting relationship rules, we share practical advice that can help you foster a healthier partnership. Our talk is peppered with anecdotes and insights into the dynamics of appreciation, misunderstandings, and conflict resolution—highlighting the essence of true communication as seeing through a loved one's eyes and hearing with their ears. So, if you're ready for a meaningful conversation that sharpens your understanding of human connection, pull up a chair at The Iron Table and join the discussion.

Redefining Success Beyond Degrees and Dollars

Bryant Goodine — Fri, 23 Aug 2024 10:00:00 GMT

What happens when you balance humor, thought-provoking discussions, and a dash of fatherly wisdom? Welcome to the Iron Table, where we kick off with an engaging check-in among Bryant, Keith, Danny, and Steve. From Danny's cryptic classified assignment to Steve's hilarious experiences at recent car events, there's no shortage of laughs and personal updates. You'll hear about the challenges and joys of aging, especially when it comes to playing basketball with their sons, and the reflective moments that come with passing the torch to the next generation.

Ever felt frustrated when an organization changes its fundraising plans without informing you? We get into the nitty-gritty of trust and accountability in charitable donations, drawing parallels to biblical stories to underscore the importance of transparency. The ethical implications of not keeping donors in the loop are vast, and we emphasize the moral duty organizations have to communicate changes and offer choices for redirecting support. This segment serves as a powerful reminder of the necessity of honesty and integrity in maintaining donor trust.

Higher education debt and the evolving definition of success are hot topics that we tackle head-on. We explore the societal pressures pushing young adults into expensive four-year colleges and the financial strains that follow. But what if success isn't just about a degree or a high-paying job? We highlight alternative pathways like community colleges and trade schools, emphasizing personal growth, freedom, and holistic well-being over material wealth. Our conversation spans from redefining success in faith relations to navigating different expectations within relationships, all while stressing the importance of communication, spiritual alignment, and mutual respect. Join us for an episode packed with humor, reflections, and invaluable life lessons, right here at the Iron Table.

She's Independent and.... ALONE? Are Men Really Afraid of an Independent Woman?

Bryant Goodine — Fri, 06 Sep 2024 19:00:00 GMT

Have you ever wondered what triggers instant anger among Black people and why respect holds such immense value? Join us at the Iron Table as we kick things off with a hilarious story about the strategic move of buying a 50-piece nugget meal and the immediate form of betrayal from a child: tattling. As unpredictable as Michigan weather, our conversation shifts to deeper territories, diving headfirst into the cultural nuances of respect. From the high regard for respect in Japan to the often unconscious disrespect in America, we unpack these contrasting perspectives with humor, honesty, and accountability.

Respect and hypocrisy take center stage as we examine societal norms and personal boundaries among Black men, touching on historical civil rights movements and the personal limits of non-violent resistance. Ever wondered about the serious nature of actions like spitting or the financial entanglements that come with lending money? We tackle these topics head-on, reflecting on the balance of courtesy and the repercussions of perceived disrespect. The conversation continues with an insightful look into gender roles and relationships, shedding light on the impact of incarcerated fathers on their daughters and the dual parental roles mothers often assume.

Independence and interdependence within relationships are dissected through personal anecdotes and societal observations. From the complexities of maintaining individuality in a partnership to the societal pressures that shape our views on marriage and divorce, we leave no stone unturned. The importance of mutual respect, the consequences of hurtful words, and the evolution of gender roles are explored in depth, emphasizing the need for communication and understanding in fostering healthy relationships. Join us for a thought-provoking journey that balances humor and honesty, offering a fresh perspective on life's various facets.

She Only Hit You Because She Knows You Won't Hit Her Back - Pt. 1

Bryant Goodine — Mon, 15 Apr 2024 11:00:00 GMT

On April 10, 2024, Orenthal James Simpson (OJ) died after dealing with cancer. His achievements in life, Hiesman, NFL, TV, film, all took a backseat as the world watched in horror as be was being charged with the killing of his ex-wife and another man. His slow-speed chase even preempted the NBA Playoffs that year.

I can remember as I sat riveted watching the O.J. Simpson verdict unfold, the collective exhale of a nation grappling with race and justice was palpable. That moment, seared into the American consciousness, serves as the backdrop for our latest discussion at the Iron Table, where my brothers Keith, Danny, and Steve join me to dissect the complex legacy left by Simpson's acquittal. We navigate the tangle of emotions and societal ripples that emerged from a trial that became a watershed moment in our nation's history, with ramifications touching on everything from celebrity culture to the persistent disparities in the justice system.

There's an unspoken tension that weaves through the fabric of America, often erupting when we least expect it. This episode goes beyond the surface to examine the deep-seated notions of race and identity that influence our experiences and perceptions. From the courtroom to the streets, we scrutinize the constructs of black and white, considering how these artificial divisions shape our reality. We confront uncomfortable truths — like the circumstances, if any, where violence becomes justifiable — and wrestle with the implications for both men and women caught in the web of domestic unrest.

Finally, we turn the lens inward, reflecting on the personal and spiritual dimensions of conflict resolution within relationships. The conversation becomes intimate as we share our own insights on setting boundaries and the power of truth and accountability. It's a candid examination of where faith intersects with personal responsibility, and how the toughest challenges in our relationships can lead to profound growth. Join us for an episode that isn't just about sharing thoughts — it's about igniting a spark for change and understanding in the complex world we navigate together.

We Aren't United and Mind Your D@mn Business

Bryant Goodine — Mon, 29 Apr 2024 12:00:00 GMT

Would you know how to navigate the choppy waters if a family member's private life suddenly became very public on a platform like OnlyFans? Join us at the Iron Table, where Bryant, Keith, Danny, and Steve dissect the entangled web of family dynamics and the digital age's adult content platforms. We're not just talking about the shock and the why; we’re peeling back layers on the societal shifts that are redefining employment, privacy, and the very essence of public versus private lives. Our candid conversation also highlights how some people are turning to unconventional means to pay the bills, from selling feet pics to the gig economy's wilder shores, and what that says about our culture today.

This episode is a deep dive into the heart of our communities, assessing the effectiveness of different forms of protest and the role of reparations. We question whether financial compensation can truly address systemic inequalities or if empowering solutions like education and economic strategy are the key to lasting change. As we examine the strategies that unite us and fuel collective action, we also recognize the enduring spirit of resilience and entrepreneurship in the Black community, challenging stereotypes and celebrating the divine qualities inherent in all of us. It's a discussion that spans from the civil rights movement to Colin Kaepernick's knee, highlighting both the power of unity and the necessity of personal accountability.

As we wrap up this thought-provoking session, the Iron Table serves you a final course of introspection and a call to action. We stress the importance of improving ourselves first before seeking change externally. Reflecting on historical lessons and the infinite potential of proactive leadership, we leave you with an empowering nudge: disconnect from the digital noise and engage with enriching experiences that could reverberate through your own community. It's about shaping a stronger, united path forward, and it starts with you, our listeners, right here at the Iron Table.

Slices of Life at the Intersection of Family, Film, Legacy and Philosophy

Bryant Goodine — Sat, 23 Mar 2024 18:00:00 GMT

When the everyday chaos of fatherhood meets the ironclad bonds of brotherhood, you know you're in for a treat. Join the brothers, minus our beloved Danny, for a heartwarming and occasionally side-splitting romp through the potholes and triumphs of parenting, the costs of daycare that leave us with lighter wallets and heavier hearts, and the quest to maintain our essence within the whirlwind of family life. We're serving up slices of life, and while Danny's absence is felt, his spirit is with us as we share get-well wishes alongside our storied escapades and parenting paradoxes.

Have you ever tried to pick a favorite movie from the golden days of your youth? It's like trying to choose your favorite child - impossible, but we give it a shot anyway. We invite you to stroll through the corridors of memory as Keith, Steve, and I debate the merits of cinematic classics and recount the misadventures that can only happen in a movie theater. From Keith's infamous spit-take during "Top Gun" to Steve's unplanned snooze fest, we probe the depths of nostalgia and uncover the magic that keeps us returning to films like "Ghostbusters 2."

As our conversation deepens, we venture into the realms of philosophy and theology, grappling with weighty topics like legacy and redemption, and the intricate tapestry of free will versus predestination. We navigate these profound waters with humor and honesty, pondering the questions we'd ask historical figures and the possibility of altering our paths with the foreknowledge of our fates. Wrapping up, we touch on the importance of strengthening marital bonds through spirituality and highlight the value of truth and accountability. So pull up a chair, and let's sharpen each other at the Iron Table, where every exchange is a chance to grow and connect.

Spiritual Struggles: Men's Journey in Love, Faith, and Community

Bryant Goodine — Sun, 28 Jul 2024 01:00:00 GMT

Can romantic music teach us about the evolution of love? Join us at "The Iron Table" as Bryant, Keith, and Steve kick off our return from summer hiatus with a warm and reflective conversation. We catch up on our summer adventures—Steve’s journey to mindfulness, Keith’s balancing act with work and back-to-school hustle, and Bryant’s family-centric summer celebrations. We also embark on a nostalgic trip, comparing the heartfelt croons of Jodeci to today’s explicit love songs, pondering what this transformation means for modern relationships.

Why do so many men feel disengaged from church communities? Our discussion shifts to this pressing question, exploring the disconnect that many men experience with traditional church settings. We delve into the need for men-centric activities like sports leagues and the importance of genuine emotional connections. Past experiences and superficiality often leave men disinterested, but we examine how different perceptions between men and women shape their responses to church leadership, ultimately seeking ways to foster a sense of belonging and purpose within these communities.

How do you grapple with anger towards God when life gets tough? This episode dives deep into the spiritual and emotional struggles of faith. Reflecting on the story of Job, we discuss the trials that test our faith and provoke challenging emotions like anger and shame. We emphasize the importance of believing in God’s promises, even in the absence of guarantees, and how therapy or open conversations can help process these feelings. As we wrap up, we stress the critical role of community and vulnerability, urging men to engage actively and support one another in their spiritual journeys. Tune in for a rich, thought-provoking dialogue and remember, "iron sharpens iron, so should men sharpen men.

Resolutions, Relationships, and Healing: Navigating Life's Pitfalls with Humor and Growth

Bryant Goodine — Sun, 14 Jan 2024 15:00:00 GMT

Ever caught yourself chuckling over your own botched New Year's resolution? You're in good company at The Iron Table, where we swap tales of resolutions gone awry and the comical trials we endure. Imagine navigating the temptations of Facebook Marketplace or the siren call of pepperoni pizza while trying to stay true to our healthier ambitions. We've been there, and in this episode, we're baring it all - the missteps, the mishaps, and the strategies we've crafted to dodge those all-too-familiar pitfalls. And just when you think it's all about the laughs, we pivot to the serious business of seizing opportunities and health—because, as we've learned, there's no time like the present to keep our bodies and aspirations in tip-top shape.

Gift-giving and relationships go hand in hand, yet they can be a minefield of miscommunication and bruised egos. Join us at the table as we dissect the delicate art of expressing gratitude for that... interesting present without causing a domestic struggle. It's about finding the right balance between honesty and tact. But we don't stop there. We dive deeper into the gestures that say "I care," beyond the financial contributions—like those just-because flowers that can earn you some serious relationship brownie points. It's these nuggets of wisdom about love languages and appreciation that could be the game-changer your partnership needs.

Finally, we get raw and real with the lasting scars of childhood bullying and how these early experiences can cast long shadows over our adult lives. Are confrontations with past bullies cathartic, or do they simply reopen old wounds? We share our personal encounters and the tough, yet healing discussions that have shaped us. Plus, we look at the power of letting go of grudges, especially when they hinder the harmony in our current relationships. So, join us for an episode that's as much about reflection and growth as it is about camaraderie and chuckles. It's all happening right here, where every voice is heard and every story truly matters.

When One Lies, Why Do We All Suffer?

Bryant Goodine — Mon, 31 Jul 2023 23:00:00 GMT

Why is it that when a person of color makes a mistake, it's like we all made it? When we take one step forward and are "Almost There," something happens, and we are back at the starting line. Why is it that other groups who do that don't get ridiculed or scrutinized like us?

The previous week there was an incident where some claimed to have been abducted and were missing for a couple of days, only to return, and so many questions were left unanswered.

In this episode, we discuss that incident and how it correlates to relationship honesty and support.

Playing the Loan Game in Life

Bryant Goodine — Sun, 03 Apr 2022 22:00:00 GMT

There are plenty of games in life. We all have our favorites, card games, board games, and video games. They all have rules and instructions that come in the box. Yet the game of life seems to have so many restrictions and modifications. Yet how can you win when the directions are not in the box? Here we talk about the loan game. We try to level the playing field and give tips on playing the game of life; to win!

But We're On the SAME TEAM!

Bryant Goodine — Wed, 18 Oct 2023 22:00:00 GMT

When you think of teams, what comes to mind?

We tend to think about sports and how a team comprises more than one individual. Team sports include Tennis, Basketball, Baseball, Football, Soccer, etc. The common theme is there is more than one person involved. Do teammates always get along all day, every day... No. Do they get on each other's nerves from time-to-time...yes!

Yet, throughout the highs and lows, they still are working towards a common goal... winning. Do they always win every game... no. Do they quit on one another... one would hope not.

Did you know you and your partner are teammates? Don't you share the common goal of having a thriving relationship? Yet somehow, life throws curve balls, interceptions, and unnatural things to derail that goal. Sometimes it's them, sometimes it's even you. Yet all teams thrive on respect, and when you've done someone wrong or they've wronged you, what typically comes next is an apology. But what if you don't get one? Have you wondered why it's so hard to get one? What if it comes differently, and you fail to recognize it? Does it seem like one sex apologizes more than the other? Does love ever have to say, "I'm Sorry?"

If you've had those thoughts, we discuss that and more in this episode!

When Was The Last Time You Heard...

Bryant Goodine — Mon, 27 Mar 2023 02:00:00 GMT

When was the last time you heard or felt that you were enough? Do you think that your value is only in what you offer? Do you have a community that pours into you? Do you have someone that is pulling for you? Do you have someone that is pushing you in the right direction?

It's hard sometimes to feel that you are worthy of love, that you deserve someone's love. It's easy to think that your only value is determined by how others see you. Well, that's not the case. This episode discusses if it is crucial to be acknowledged by your peers. Also, we try to answer the question, "Do men really need to be told they are enough?"

Iron Table Short: Top 5 While Waiting for a Flight

Bryant Goodine — Sat, 06 May 2023 01:00:00 GMT

The great Scottish Poet Robert Burns once said, "The best-laid plans of mice and men sometimes go awry." So did one of our frequent guests of The Iron Table. In this episode, Bryant & Keith try to cheer up their friend Danny, who is stuck at the airport (he flew Spirit), with a random conversation about Top 5s. Will their tactics work? Will Danny "eventually" get to his destination? For those answers and more, tune in!

Dating After Divorce

Bryant Goodine — Sun, 15 May 2022 04:00:00 GMT

Statistics say that over 50 percent of marriages end in divorce. Yet life doesn't stop at divorce. Over time, a person may desire to get back into the dating scene. But is that too soon? Has enough time passed that the heart has had a chance to heal? For men, how do we process life after divorce? How do we approach dating after such an experience?

In this episode, we quickly dive into life after divorce. This is transparency at its finest. Hear from men who've experienced divorce and what goes through their minds when broaching the topic of dating.

Student Loans: What We Wish They Would Have Told Us

Bryant Goodine — Fri, 19 Mar 2021 16:00:00 GMT

Student Loans... When many hear those two words, their mood instantly changes. Many have had to sign on the dotted line, to be able to stay within the school and, once done, face the reality of repayment. It’s almost a necessary evil. Here we discuss the impact student loans have on the economy and the current & future workforce.

Men's Health - Vasectomy - Stories of the Great Snip

Bryant Goodine — Sat, 20 Feb 2021 18:00:00 GMT

Your Hosts are at it again, bringing you critical yet taboo topics. In this episode, we discuss the topic of Vasectomy using our personal experiences with this medical procedure. We talked about the circumstances that brought us to consider getting a vasectomy. We highlight the two ways the operation can be done, the recovery process, AND our thoughts during that process.

We invited some guests to help us discuss this topic. This is one episode you don't want to miss!

Cheatin' Love Songs...

Bryant Goodine — Thu, 09 Dec 2021 21:00:00 GMT

Music is the universal language. The beat with the words can take us from incredible highs (Rock, Classical, Hip Hop, and R&B) to significant lows (Blues, Country, Instrumentals). If I said the title, some songs would take you back to when life could have been simpler. Maybe it's a first kiss, family cookout, the birth of a child, etc. But those same songs can have a subliminal effect. In this episode, we discuss some familiar songs known as all-time greats, but when you take away the bass, guitar, drums, cymbals and are left with the words, you see a different picture. Does it mean these songs should be "canceled"? Not necessarily; however, it does highlight the effect music can have on a subconscious. So pull up a chair, sit for a few, for the main course for tonight is TRUTH!

Roommates and Has Social Media KILLED Dating?

Bryant Goodine — Wed, 11 Aug 2021 18:00:00 GMT

Roommates. Most of us have had one. For some, it started at home with siblings. For others, it began in high school and college. We've all had to join financial forces to survive, or maybe we didn't want to be alone. In this episode, we discuss the joys and sorrows of roommate life. Somehow, the conversations shape into growing and nurturing a relationship in this digital social media age.

One Way a Men Ask for Help...

Bryant Goodine — Fri, 25 Nov 2022 16:00:00 GMT

As men, we have been conditioned to "tough it out" or "suck it up." However, is that a healthy way to communicate our needs? Are we even communicating our needs at all if we stay silent? This episode discusses the subtle and not-so-subtle ways men ask for help. This is only the beginning. The hardest step is the first!

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Switch or Belt - Time Out is Only for Rest

Bryant Goodine — Fri, 22 Oct 2021 13:00:00 GMT

Whether it’s the hand, switch, belt, or even vacuum cleaner cord, we've all had stories of being disciplined by our parents, aunts & uncles, and grandparents. I even remember when you could get a spanking in school and a whoopin' at home! We all know the sheer fear of hearing our parents come home and KNOWING it was about to go down. We'd hide anywhere, inside, outside, and not sure who you are, but I contemplated running away from home to escape one time. Regardless we've all had some form of discipline, from active (objects used) to passive (objects taken away). Today, we talk about discipline in the black home and why it is necessary, even when not appropriate.

Top 5 R&B Love Songs of All Times

Bryant Goodine — Wed, 11 Aug 2021 19:00:00 GMT

Top 5's in anything is always debatable. Whether it’s sports players, cars, iconic personalities, or even basic cereal, they are often used as conversation starters and harmless fun. Well, today's episode is just that. Your two hosts talk about their Top 5 R&B love songs of all times and why. Now feel free to talk back to us with your Top 5 (too bad we can't hear you) but still share!

Black Identity, Patriotism, and Uniting for Change

Bryant Goodine — Sat, 24 Feb 2024 03:00:00 GMT

Have you ever stood at the crossroads of patriotism and cultural identity and wondered where you fit in? That's the heart of our Black History Month episode, where we, Bryant, Keith, Danny, and Steve, gather at the Iron Table to stir up a rich dialogue blend, celebrating black men's resilience and diversity. Anchoring our conversation in personal experiences and the nuances of our identities, we dissect the cultural reverberations of Usher's Super Bowl performance and the complex dance of family life in the pandemic era, infusing our introspection with humor and a deep sense of historical significance.

Navigating through the symphony of our nation's anthems, we debate the inclusion of the Black National Anthem at the Super Bowl, pondering its ability to either bridge gaps or widen them. The NFL's attempts at engaging with its Black fan base post-Kaepernick become a canvas for us to paint our thoughts on patriotism's multifaceted challenges. We carry this tune into discussions of systemic inequalities, the bittersweet symphony of civil rights, and the power of collective action. Personal tales open windows to previous generations' struggles as we underscore the vital role of storytelling in shaping the future.

As our episode crescendos, we explore the profound influence an individual can wield, likening it to a pebble casting ripples across the fabric of society. The simple act of smiling in public, especially as black men, becomes a provocative yet powerful catalyst for fostering unity as we unravel the significance of this gesture in our closing chapter. We part with a reminder that truth and accountability are not just part of our vocabulary but the foundation of our brotherhood at the Iron Table—where we stand firm in the belief that we, as men, are here to sharpen one another.

Why Are My Friends Always Asking for a Discount?

Bryant Goodine — Sat, 23 Jan 2021 02:00:00 GMT

As an entrepreneur, one of the hardest things to do is deal with family and friends always asking for a discount when they a product or service you're providing. We discuss this issue and constructive ways to address those individuals who seemingly always want something "FOR FREE" that "COSTS YOU" to provide.

So What Have YOU Been Doin'

Bryant Goodine — Wed, 26 Jan 2022 03:00:00 GMT

Podcast experts say that you do not get into your groove until the 20-25th episode range. This is Season 2, Episode 1. In this episode, our hosts reconnect for the 1st time in 2022. So much has happened individually since the last episode of 2021, and we take a moment to reconnect and catch up. This is a more personal look at your host, and we've added some new segments we know will catch on. So pull up to the table, and let's talk and chill for a while...

Why Can't We Be Friends... Part 1

Bryant Goodine — Fri, 23 Apr 2021 14:00:00 GMT

We've all been down this road. We've all had exes. Whether you’re in your teens or approaching a century, you've had a relationship end. Sometimes the breakup is smooth, and you both can be cordial when you see each other. Sometimes you break up, and your paths may never cross again. But what if you can't have a peaceful breakup? OR what if you still have strings attached (kids). How can you navigate that minefield of a relationship without setting off bombs? Is there an answer to navigating this touchy, but you don't want to touch, situation? Your hosts are willing to navigate these muddy waters searching for a reply...

We Need to Talk About Guns!

Bryant Goodine — Thu, 22 Dec 2022 14:00:00 GMT

A friend once told me that back in the day, boys were told to avoid two things: Girls and Guns. We weren't told why and now look at society. Men are running around with a lack of information on girls, and they are running around with little to no information on guns. We are left to fend for ourselves from the types of firearms, ways to obtain guns, gun safety, and local laws legally. How good has that job been? The media has saturated our community with wrong depictions of African Americans owning guns. Misinformation has been passed down simply because we don't know how to ask questions.

This is an episode I have wanted to do for months. In this episode, I bring brothers in my community who are well-versed in firearms to the table. Their training, profession, ownership, and historical knowledge lead to their credibility.

Here at the Iron Table, we are about establishing a community whose foundation is built on truth and knowledge. We need to talk about guns!

Iron Table Short: THIS Fight Isn't About You

Bryant Goodine — Sat, 13 May 2023 22:00:00 GMT

Fighting. We've all fought or seen a fight at school, on the playground, and, unfortunately, sometimes at home. Usually, fights are the result of miscommunication. It would be nice if fights were only on TV; however, that is not life.

Miscommunication has its roots. It goes back further than your relationship, your parent's relationship, and your parents-parents' relationship. In this brief episode, the origins of miscommunications are revealed. Just know THIS fight isn't about YOU, yet we all are watching it unfold and will be the winner's prize.

This is an Iron Table Short. A Nugget of truth for everyday use!

What if Rittenhouse was Black...

Bryant Goodine — Sat, 27 Nov 2021 00:00:00 GMT

Recently the verdict of the Rittenhouse trial had us thinking. Would he have had the same considerations as the shooter if he was a Black man? If he was a Black man who shot and killed two White men and injured another, would the trial have taken this long? Regardless of his age, the facts state that he secured an AR-15 rifle, was driven crossed state lines by his mother and used a weapon on three individuals. These facts resulted in a Not Guilty, sending shockwaves in the country but only from one view...

How many times have we watched the scales of justice be so skewed that what no one could fathom happening happens and then is not a shock to one race of people? Does the blindfold need to come and the scales readjusted to no longer favor one race above another? We discuss this topic and share our opinions on the next steps for the Black community and those seeking justice and equity.

We Talkin' First Date... FIRST DATE!

Bryant Goodine — Sun, 29 Oct 2023 23:00:00 GMT

Recently, a video spread on social media about a woman and a man who ran into a problem on their first date. They approached a restaurant, and the woman felt she was above said restaurant based on her appearance and who she was. The gentleman explained that he had other plans that fell through because of her timeliness in getting ready. This was their first date. This was all over social media, and while it was a fictitious dramatization, this happens a lot. There are two sides to this story: a woman's worth vs. his valuation of that worth.

In this episode, we discuss that subject and how first dates have evolved. We have generations behind us who are facing the question of their value and worth to the opposite sex. Here at the Iron Table, we attempt to set things straight. Is there any hope for the teens and young adults for today?

Big Spoon - Little Spoon

Bryant Goodine — Sun, 03 Dec 2023 23:00:00 GMT

In this episode of The Iron Table, we talk about roles within marriage and how it's easy to get into specific roles and gender norms. A man typically is to provide and protect, but what if the woman is putting herself in harm's way time and time again? Just as a woman is typically the nurturing caregiver, what if her man tends to ignore suggestions and keeps getting sick?

We discuss gender norms in relationships and dating. Oh, and we answer whether a man can be the little spoon in bed...

Community Engagement LIVE a the Barbershop

Bryant Goodine — Sat, 19 Mar 2022 01:00:00 GMT

The Iron Table is on the road! We set up shop inside the MECCA of Black men communication - The Barbershop. The barbershop where men talk about all things life. It could be relationships, child raising\rearing, work habits, culture, and current events. This episode starts a new series where the Iron Table will go into the Barbershop to chop it up with people within the community. We wanted to allow the community to share their gripes and, more importantly, share what they feel the community; NO WHAT WE, need. We are in this together. These issues aren't only a less fortunate person's issues, but they affect those doing okay and well-off. We ALL are a part of one community or another. The only difference between you and me is... opportunity.

Iron Table Short: Dating... from Extra Value Meal to Sublimotion

Bryant Goodine — Sun, 02 Jul 2023 18:00:00 GMT

This is an Iron Table Short, a nugget of truth for everyday use. Dating has changed from the days of drive-in movies, walks in the park, skating, and going to a house party. The activities have morphed into expensive meals costing $50 a plate, concert tickets, and lavish activities. Often, men have to do this on the first date! Yet what does it get you? Men are now diminishing themselves and their value outside of their bank accounts. They are going deep into credit debt for what? This episode highlights the evolution of dating and the pitfalls well-intentioned men face in trying to play that game.

Interesting fact Sublimotion is the most expensive restaurant in the world.

The Women on the Other Side of the Table

Bryant Goodine — Fri, 30 Dec 2022 14:00:00 GMT

We've come to the last episode of 2022. It's been an incredible year. We are grateful that you have stood with us for two years. This episode brings to the table two women who have stood by our sides and supported this venture. It's interesting who this is Season 2, Episode 14.

2/14, or February 14th, is recognized as Valentine's Day, the day the world recognizes love. However, we wanted to end the year on this very topic - "Black Love." They have challenged, supported, believed in, and loved us. Without these two, where would we be?

This episode is about us acknowledging them, and our listeners see just who these phenomenal women are. This is about Black Love!

Tell Me the Truth, NOT My Truth!

Bryant Goodine — Wed, 22 Jun 2022 21:00:00 GMT

Dating in the 20th Century... No, wait, this is the 21st Century. Let's just say dating that way; this is relevant to yesterday, today, and tomorrow.

Now, as I was saying, dating, many of us have been there, done that, and will likely do it again. It is a necessary activity that one must do if they are heading in the direction of marriage. Those whose culture practices arranged marriage are excluded.

Yet when you're dating, are you honest with yourself? Do you accept constructive feedback when it comes to dating? Or do you run to the same individuals who constantly sing your praises? Do you have a community of trusted advisors, or are you left to your own devices?

Don't give up hope. We continue our dating series to talk about dating truths. We discuss the impact of Kevin Samuels and discuss what truth is and what is fiction. Who do you and should you go to hear the truth about you in a relationship? We answer that question and more. We also talk about the verdict between Johnny and Amber and its impact on domestic abuse in relationships.

Spiritual Intimacy - Vulnerability or Transparency in Relationships?

Bryant Goodine — Mon, 08 Feb 2021 15:00:00 GMT

Spiritual Intimacy - When you hear that term, do you wonder if that means you must become vulnerable or transparent to your mate? Have you wondered why your significant other might struggle with this issue? Well, look no further. We look at this topic and highlight it from a males' point of view. We talk about what thoughts could go through his mind and steps that can help address a critical aspect of any vital relationship.

Aging Gracefully Embracing New Challenges in Sports and Life

Bryant Goodine — Thu, 23 Jan 2025 16:00:00 GMT

What happens when the underdog embraces its spirit and topples the favorite? That's the thrilling narrative we explore as we recount the Washington Commanders' electrifying victory over the NFL's top-ranked team. Alongside Keith, Danny, and Steve, we unravel the raw emotions, strategic leadership, and unexpected turns that made this game unforgettable for both Washington and Detroit fans. Discover how the Commanders' "nothing to lose" mentality paved the way for a stunning upset, capturing the essence of unpredictability that keeps us all glued to sports.

Transitioning from triumphs on the field to personal battles with aging, we tackle the emotional and physical challenges that come with athletic decline. Using personal anecdotes and reflections, we discuss how aging athletes, like Michael Jordan and Vince Carter, adapt to changing roles and capabilities. This dialogue shifts between sports and life, emphasizing the importance of adjusting expectations, embracing new roles, and finding new ways to enjoy the games we love. The journey from participation to competition serves as a metaphor for the broader challenges we face as our bodies and perspectives shift with time.

Celebrating victories big and small, we reflect on the mindset of gratitude and personal growth. Drawing from childhood influences and the invaluable insights shared by our team, we highlight the importance of camaraderie and support. With a nod to the humorous and heartfelt moments that make this podcast journey so rewarding, we express our appreciation for the insights and contributions of our co-hosts. Join us for a blend of sports analysis, personal reflection, and the joy of embracing life’s triumphs with an open heart and a winning mindset.

Iron Table Short: Life Lessons Learned from Trying to Go Solar

Bryant Goodine — Sat, 13 May 2023 01:00:00 GMT

Recently, I started to look into the option of going solar for energy use. There are a lot of benefits to going solar, the effects on the environment, potential utility savings, etc. There are also negatives to going solar. It may not be for everyone.

In doing the research, sitting through presentations, and going through the facts and figures, I realized that there was a life lesson learned in the phases of going through the process.

This is an Iron Table Short, a five to fifteen-minute podcast providing relevant lessons from seemingly unrelated stories.

Unplugging the Heart: Navigating Relationships in the Social Media Age

Bryant Goodine — Tue, 12 Mar 2024 19:00:00 GMT

Have you ever found yourself yearning for the simpler times when relationships unfolded in the analog world? Together with my brothers Keith, Danny, and Steve, we're pulling up a chair at the iron table to dissect the convoluted ways social media has redefined our connections with one another. From the haunting grip of past relationships that refuse to fade into the digital ether to the voyeuristic habits social media engenders, we're laying it all on the table.

This heart-to-heart takes a turn down nostalgia lane, reminiscing the symbols of bygone eras—like the "Hershey stick" emblematic of classroom authority—and the tactile joy of physical media over ephemeral MP3s. But it's not just about waxing nostalgic; we're confronting the less savory aspects of the digital age. The conversation probes into the illusion of friendship social media peddles, the jealousy it stokes, and the concerning new norms around privacy, infidelity, and the search for validation that it seems to have normalized in a way that's reshaping the very fabric of society.

And as the night wanes, we're not shying away from the bigger questions that linger in the quiet moments away from the screens. How do we preserve our mental and emotional well-being in an age that demands constant connectivity? We explore the tools and strategies necessary for managing our digital diet, the significance of discernment, and the profound implications these have on the sacred vows of marriage. It's a late-night investment into the heart of our culture and into the essence of what it means to navigate life authentically in the digital era. Join us as we sharpen our insights and fortify our resolve to emerge wiser and more grounded in who we are amid the online tumult.

When Men Break, Families Pay The Price

Bryant Goodine — Tue, 21 Apr 2026 00:00:00 GMT

Two shocking headlines hit the country within days, and we couldn’t just scroll past them. We sit down as four brothers and talk plainly about domestic violence, intimate partner violence, and what’s happening when a relationship conflict turns into control, threats, and tragedy. The facts are heavy, but the goal is clear: name what’s real, stop pretending men are fine, and push back on the silence that lets pressure build until somebody explodes.

We dig into why it feels like these cases are climbing, and how social media and the internet can make it worse by feeding comparison, outrage, and reckless “get them back” advice. We connect the dots between stress, shame, isolation, and the way many men were raised without the words to process rejection, loss, or fear. When emotions stay trapped, they don’t disappear. They leak into irritability, drinking, stalking, jealousy, and that dangerous moment where logic shuts off and people make permanent decisions over temporary pain.

We also talk about warning signs loved ones can watch for, and what healthy interruption looks like: checking in early, asking better questions, creating safe spaces to vent without judgment, getting professional help, and leaning on faith when your mind is spiraling. If you’re in a losing season, we want you to hear this clearly: a loss doesn’t mean you’re a loser, and it’s not the end of your story.

If this conversation helps, subscribe, share it with someone you care about, and leave a review so more people can find it when they need it most.

Return to Sender: Even Free Things Have a Cost

Bryant Goodine — Sun, 10 Nov 2024 20:00:00 GMT

What if marriage came with its own safety net, much like your car or home? Join Bryant, Keith, Danny, and Steve at the Iron Table as we explore the groundbreaking concept of marriage insurance—a potential lifeline for couples navigating the tumultuous waters of modern relationships. As we unravel the layers of this intriguing idea, we ponder whether such a framework could offer couples stability and protection, just as roadside assistance does for drivers. With personal reflections and shared experiences of divorce, we dive into how marriage insurance could reshape the landscape of marital commitments and support.

Our conversation doesn't shy away from the challenges Black men face in today's political climate and how these societal perceptions impact relationships. We humorously tackle the sensitive subject of what women might find unacceptable for their partners to receive from others, like a homemade meal, highlighting the parallels to acts of intimacy. As relationships continue to evolve, we emphasize the importance of setting rules and boundaries, exploring how past traumas and modern distractions like social media and technology can influence relationships' dynamics. Whether it's knowing when to reevaluate contentious partnerships or understanding the critical role of communication, we offer insights that aim to strengthen the bonds between partners.

In a world where societal pressures push people toward quick marital decisions, we stress the importance of understanding your partner truly before making lifelong commitments. From establishing guidelines for phone and social media usage to navigating financial independence, we delve into the norms that couples today must negotiate. With a focus on marrying for the right reasons and not just to satisfy age-related or societal expectations, we encourage couples to embrace continuous growth and learning. Tune in for a candid, humorous, and insightful discussion that promises to leave you with a fresh perspective on relationships and the innovative idea of marriage insurance.

Marriage Readiness Checklist for Men: Are You Ready?

Bryant Goodine — Sun, 05 Jan 2025 16:00:00 GMT

Ever found yourself wondering if you'd let Usher feed your partner cherries at a concert? Join us as we kick off 2025 with a laugh as we look at the topic of trust and temptation.

In this episode, we use our signature wit to discuss marriage readiness for men and explore celebrity encounters that test personal boundaries, keeping things light-hearted and thought-provoking.

Are you truly ready for marriage, or do you only find out by jumping in? We believe readiness is a journey, and each journey has a different map. You couldn't use a map of tourist attractions in DC while you were in Cali. Remember when you used to have a checklist for your trip? Why not the same to prepare you for marriage?

Through self-reflection and openness, we highlight how maintaining healthy-trustworthy connections outside of marriage can help sidestep the frustration of unmet expectations and foster healthier, more balanced relationships.

Money talks, but we’re here to ensure it doesn't overshadow love. Exploring financial dynamics, we discuss the value of unity regardless of income disparities and the pitfalls of viewing finances as separate. Through personal stories and pop culture, we stress the importance of redefining winning in relationships—not by competing but by creating meaningful connections. Whether it’s effective communication or overcoming personal blind spots, this episode reminds us that honest conversations and shared joy are the true victories.

The Influence of Positive Male Role Models

Bryant Goodine — Tue, 12 Sep 2023 23:00:00 GMT

Today, young boys are bombarded with the media, portraying them as threats as early as the 3rd grade. Society has shown them few alternatives outside of prison and the grave. The media has such a hold on them that when someone who cares approaches them with concern, they instantly get aggressive and defensive. For some, they are doomed from the start. What is missing? What is needed to stop the cycle of dysfunction?

Men. Not just any type of man. What is needed is the intervention of positive male role models who speak the language of men... respect! There are a lot of young boys out there who have no positive male influence in their life. I'm not talking about the absence of men, for they may have uncles and neighborhood men around, but are these men of good standing character?

A mother can only do so much and take a young boy so far on the road to manhood. She needs help. She needs quality men who only aim to see young boys thrive and survive in this environment. As men of high moral standards, we need to step up and step in the gap.

In this episode, I bring two brothers to The Iron Table, who share their stories and how some influential men poured into them and helped shape them into the men they are today.

Wash Your Nasty Behind!

Bryant Goodine — Sun, 07 Mar 2021 19:00:00 GMT

Remember when soap and water were all you needed to be clean? You could jump in the shower, get dressed, and go. That was then; this is now. You need more than just the old tried and true these days. You currently have to build a routine if you want to be clean. As we get older, so do our bodies and scent. Learn what you can do to keep her close or what has kept her away.

These Teachers are TIRED!!!

Bryant Goodine — Thu, 09 Dec 2021 22:00:00 GMT

Its been about 20 months since the start of the COVID-19 pandemic. This pandemic has affected our families, the healthcare system, the industry, supply chains, and many other facets of life. But rarely does anyone talk about the Education system. Sure we are focused on our children having to wear masks or someone not wanting them to wear masks. But what about the teachers, social workers, school psychologists, special education workers, and administrators? We rarely get to hear from them? Do we care? Do we realize they have families?

In some cases, they are the teacher, nurse, 2nd parent, and maybe in some cases, the first parent. We here at The Iron Table care. We wanted to sit down with various players in the education system and get their take on life during the pandemic. There are some pluses and minuses. This is one episode that looks deeper than grades. Deeper than progress reports. It humanizes the education position, and just maybe, after hearing this, you might walk away with a different perspective.

What to Do When Your Normal Isn't Normal Anymore

Bryant Goodine — Sun, 02 Mar 2025 16:00:00 GMT

Change can feel daunting, leaving us on shaky ground and questioning what we once considered normal. In the latest episode of our podcast, we gather around the Iron Table to explore the nuances of navigating life's ups and downs together. From physical challenges like back pain to emotional struggles at work, we dive into the complexities of modern life while maintaining our humor and camaraderie.

Our candid discussion emphasizes the importance of vulnerability and mental health. We acknowledge the pressures men face in addressing their feelings and how these moments of discomfort can lead to significant growth. Opening up about our experiences not only fosters a supportive community but also encourages others to share their struggles as well.

Throughout our conversation, we reflect on the fears related to job security, navigating tumultuous work environments, and embracing the discomfort that comes with change. Asking questions—especially of God—becomes a vital tool in our efforts to reclaim our sense of agency amidst uncertainty.

By the end, we drive the point home: while change is inevitable, leaning on those around us and sharing our journeys can turn trials into testimonies of resilience. Tune in for an episode filled with laughter, hope, and crucial takeaways about community, support, and faith in the midst of life’s challenges. We welcome you to join the conversation and reflect on how to keep moving forward, no matter where life leads you.

The Origins of Cancel Culture

Bryant Goodine — Wed, 14 Dec 2022 23:00:00 GMT

"Cancel Culture," as defined by Merriam-Webster, is the practice or tendency of engaging in mass canceling to express disapproval and exert social pressure.

Cancel Culture first hit the mainstream in the late 2010s, becoming the norm in the early 2020s. It happens when a person states an opinion or viewpoint that goes against the norm. It may even offend a group that uses its influence to reduce the person's influence, finances, and popularity.

Yet why is there even a cancel culture? Doesn't the 1st Amendment (Freedom of Speech) protect us against being "canceled"? Are we really in threat of being canceled or suffering the consequences of our freedoms when they conflict with someone else's belief system?

We discuss this controversial topic in this episode!

Courtship Vs. Dating

Bryant Goodine — Mon, 31 Jan 2022 05:00:00 GMT

The saying goes, "Married people should continue to date," but what does that mean? What activities fall under actions while "dating," and what activities fall under the category of "courting"? Our hosts look at this statement from two different lenses in this episode. Is there a right or wrong answer? Should married couples change the way they look at outings after marriage? If single, how do you know you're ready to enter into the courting phase? What exactly is courting, and does it exist or is it a term only used by Baby Boomers and older generations? In this episode, we dive into this topic and more!

Unmasking Media Influence: A Discussion on Society and Entertainment

Bryant Goodine — Wed, 13 Dec 2023 23:00:00 GMT

Who decides how our culture should be? And why is it that wealth has become more important than cultural identity in our society? This is the kind of introspective discussion we, your hosts Bryant, Keith, Danny, and Steve, will have in today's episode. Exploring our personal experiences - we'll share how these encounters have reshaped our perspectives, leading us to question the societal shift in values and its impact on us all.

Imagine living in a world where the media didn't dictate societal norms or create cultural expectations. Sounds surreal, right? We often underestimate the media's power in shaping our perceptions, and that's what we will be dissecting today, inspired by Malcolm X's powerful quote about media manipulation. The objectification of women in the entertainment industry, the pressure to maintain appearances, the ignored talent of artists who don't fit the commercial mold - these are some of the issues we'll be addressing. On a deeper note, we'll analyze the representation of the African-American community in the media, pondering why it allows itself to be misrepresented. Our historical exclusion and the desperate need for money and attention, perhaps?

As we move towards the latter part of the discussion, we'll highlight the importance of what we consume, especially in music. Have you ever considered how the devilish influence of music and entertainment subtly shapes our thoughts and actions? It's time we did. And as we wrap up, remember the virtues of truth and accountability are always free and within reach. All it takes is a conscious decision to embrace them. So, sit back, tune in, and remember, sharing it with others is the best way to support our podcast.

Welcome to The Iron Table.

Father's Day Special

Bryant Goodine — Tue, 06 Jul 2021 01:00:00 GMT

Why is it that Mother's Day gets all the attention and effort? Moms get flowers, fancy dinners, gift cards to actual stores, and just about anything with numbers in front of the decimal place. Yet when it comes to Father's Day, it’s a chore. Dad has to get up and start the grill for his day. He gets ties (we've been a pandemic, so when will he wear them?), homemade cards, and coupons that, while they never expire, can't be cashed in when he wants them. If you wondered what Fathers (and men in general) thought, this is the EPISODE.

We brought in a special guest Jamar Moore, a licensed Clinical Therapist skilled in individual and couples therapy, to join Keith and I. Jamar stopped by to provide his validated and educated opinion on Father's Day, the male psyche, and tips to enhance the communication in your relationships. This is one episode you don't want to miss!

Project: Protect Our Black Boys!

Bryant Goodine — Fri, 22 Oct 2021 13:00:00 GMT

Dr. Jawanza Kunjufu's book "Countering The Conspiracy to Destroy Black Boys" talks about making a concerted and deliberate effort to break the cycle of black boys being labeled - disruptive, challenging, and developmentally delayed. In the school systems, our black boys are labeled as having ADHD or ADDD and being placed in special classes to drive their love for education further away, leaving nothing but young men who hate education. Yet it doesn't stop at our school systems; there are other areas where black boys can easily be mislabeled. In this episode, we discuss one of those situations and talk about what we can do to stop the conspiracy. Also, we briefly talk about another system that has and can rob the Black community of self-pride and ambition if left unchecked.

Someone Lied To US: Being Nice & Morality in Politics Don't Always Mix

Bryant Goodine — Sun, 24 Nov 2024 23:00:00 GMT

Can masculinity embrace both kindness and strength, or must a man choose between the two? Join us at the Iron Table, as Bryant, Keith, Danny, and Steve reunite to explore this age-old balance. We kick off with personal updates, including Bryant's experience with the Iron Table basketball squad, as we discuss the challenges of maintaining health while embracing competition. The conversation then shifts to the shifting work landscape, where government employees face the transition back to office life after long periods of remote work. This change significantly impacts work-life balance and reshapes urban economies as cities adjust to the new financial realities of decreased local spending.

Our discussion ventures into politics, where we dissect the power dynamics that influence societal tensions, particularly affecting black and brown communities. We dive into the complexities of political allegiances and how faith-based voters navigate decisions fraught with moral dilemmas and policy alignments. Through candid reflections, we examine the emotional rollercoaster of political loyalty and the gender dynamics that surface within communities, especially during election seasons. The conversation unveils how these political divides can mirror personal relationships, often forcing individuals to weigh assertiveness against niceness in leadership and in life.

In closing, we delve into the heart of masculine identity — the ongoing quest for balance and self-awareness. Through personal stories and biblical insights, we explore the challenges men face in embodying both kindness and authority, emphasizing the need for setting healthy boundaries and seeking personal fulfillment. We touch upon the role of humor and effective communication in relationships, underlining the significance of laughter and honesty. Join us as we share insights, laughter, and camaraderie, reaffirming the importance of shared experiences on the journey toward personal growth.

THE 50th Episode: Unlocking Emotional Connections: Exploring Male Vulnerability in Relationships

Bryant Goodine — Mon, 05 Aug 2024 02:00:00 GMT

What if the simple act of feeling comfortable enough to call your partner "girl" could unlock the secrets to deeper emotional connections? Join us as we celebrate our milestone 50th episode at the Iron Table with hosts Bryant, Keith, Danny, and Steve. Reflecting on our journey from humble beginnings, this episode is rich with personal updates, exploring challenges and triumphs from entrepreneurship to self-care. Revel in the lessons learned through our professional and personal experiences, and discover the power of accountability, truth, and continuous self-improvement.

Ever wonder how past traumas shape our ability to be vulnerable in relationships? We dive into the male perspective on vulnerability, discussing the impact of past experiences and the cultural conditioning that often prevents men, particularly Black men, from expressing their emotions and seeking help. Practical steps to foster healthier relationships are laid out, including the importance of therapy, understanding personal and family history, and creating safe, judgment-free zones. By being quicker to listen and slower to speak, we can build stronger bonds and navigate the fine line between seeking advice and oversharing.

The complexities of trust, communication, and emotional intelligence in relationships are also on the table. We tackle the importance of establishing boundaries and rules of engagement, especially during conflicts, to maintain emotional safety and foster genuine apologies. Through stories and reflections, we examine societal issues, the role of media, and the importance of viewing one's partner as a teammate in fostering growth. Join us for an episode filled with insights, reflections, and practical advice to help you build stronger, healthier relationships. Thank you for being part of our journey, and we look forward to connecting in the next episode.

What's in His Marriage Wishlist?

Bryant Goodine — Mon, 02 Jun 2025 00:00:00 GMT

What truly matters to men in a marriage? Beyond the clichés and stereotypes lies a more nuanced reality that the Iron Table podcast explores with remarkable candor and insight.

During this revealing conversation, the hosts unpack the five essential qualities men seek in marriage partners. While physical attraction might spark initial interest, lasting marriages demand much more substantial foundations. As one host poignantly shares, he specifically sought a partner who could complement his weaknesses—someone capable of setting boundaries where he struggled to do so himself.

The discussion navigates through deeply personal territory as the group examines how sexual intimacy creates a unique bond between spouses. They emphasize that physical connection requires thoughtful compromise and communication from both partners. This frank exploration highlights how neglecting this aspect of marriage can lead to resentment or vulnerability to outside temptations.

A surprising revelation emerges around the concept of "coachability"—the willingness to receive feedback and grow together. The hosts agree that marriages thrive when both partners maintain growth mindsets and remain open to constructive criticism. This quality enables couples to evolve together rather than growing apart when facing life's inevitable challenges.

Perhaps most touching is the conversation about affirmation. Men deeply value partners who believe in them and express that belief both privately and publicly. This affirmation becomes a powerful motivator, helping them pursue goals with confidence. The hosts also acknowledge their responsibility to provide the same encouragement to their wives—creating reciprocal support systems.

The episode concludes with wisdom about maintaining a "we" perspective in marriage. By viewing relationships as partnerships where both people work toward common goals, couples can truly "conquer the world" together. Sometimes this means simply being present for your spouse, even during activities you might not naturally enjoy.

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Dating Past Your 20s: The Peace He Really Wants Isn't Always Your Ass

Bryant Goodine — Tue, 30 Jun 2026 21:00:00 GMT

Dating feels louder than ever, but a lot of people still end up lonely and stuck in the “we’re just talking” zone. We sit down as four brothers and get honest about why so many men seem fine keeping things casual, what makes commitment feel risky, and how the standards and incentives of modern dating have changed the whole playing field.

We connect everyday life and humor with deeper relationship truth: the way you argue matters, tone matters, and “peace” is not code for silence. We talk about what peace actually looks like during disagreement, why time and place can save a relationship, and how words can either empower a man or slowly tear him down. We also address a common misunderstanding head-on: a woman's credentials, income, and status might impress on a resume, but they do not automatically create attraction or emotional safety for men.

Then we zoom out and look at the bigger system. When sex becomes easy to get without commitment, supply and demand shift, expectations shift, and overstimulation makes comparison feel endless. Our goal is not to shame anybody, but to name what is happening and offer practical ways to build real connection: humility, character, good conversation, and affirmation that feels sincere.

If you’ve ever wondered why dating keeps stalling, hit play, then share this with a friend and leave a review. What do you think is the biggest reason commitment feels harder now?

Am I My Brothers Keeper - YES I AM!

Bryant Goodine — Tue, 16 Nov 2021 22:00:00 GMT

This episode is different. First, we've taken The Iron Table on the road. During the getaway weekend, there was an opportunity to share experiences in dating and put in perspective topics, including:

· Dating with Kids

· Responsibilities and Roles in Dating

· Dating after Divorce

· Following His plan for your dating life

· Dating While Recovering from Personal Pain

· Loving You

We have special guests this time. In this episode, I bring my family to the table, and we have a heart-to-heart and mind-to-mind talk. This is one episode you don't want to miss and is the foundation of why The Iron Table started and will continue to have a place setting for anyone who wants to take a seat!

Bad Advice We Believed About Marriage, Money, And Manhood

Bryant Goodine — Tue, 20 Jan 2026 21:00:00 GMT

What if the most repeated relationship advice is also the most misleading? We take a hard look at slogans like “happy wife, happy life” and explain why outsourcing your peace to someone else’s mood wrecks connection. Instead, we make the case that happiness is an inside job and that two healthy individuals create the conditions for a healthy relationship—not the other way around.

We share how that plays out in real life, drawing on John Gottman’s research about perpetual problems and the power of repair, friendship, and honest conflict. No fairy tales here: many issues are manageable rather than solvable, and that’s okay when respect and skills are in place. We also push back on the pressure to “just get married,” especially when marriage is treated like a fix for pregnancy or conflict. Slow is smooth and smooth is fast. Clarity, feedback, and readiness beat rushing every time.

Money and humility get a much-needed rethink too. We talk about unlearning the fear of ambition, why accurate self-knowledge isn’t bragging, and how financial stewardship supports families and communities. On faith and generosity, we call for storehouse practices that actually meet local needs—rent, groceries, light bills—so giving becomes visible care. And we close with the tools that keep us grounded: vulnerability as courage, being approachable to correction, turning off the noise when anxiety spikes, and choosing therapy and brotherhood to break old loops.

If this conversation sparked something, tap follow, share it with a friend who needs the nudge, and leave a quick review to help more people find the Iron Table. What myth about love or life are you dropping this year?

Co-Parenting Challenges, Toxic Gender Norms, and the Magic of Arcade Nostalgia

Bryant Goodine — Mon, 14 Oct 2024 17:00:00 GMT

What happens when the chaos of modern life meets the nostalgia of classic arcade games? Join us at The Iron Table as we reconnect after a long hiatus, exploring everything from Steve's insights gained during his overseas travels to Keith's unexpected journey into the world of mental health clients. We reflect on the challenges of balancing increased responsibilities and the emotional landscape of co-parenting after divorce. Through candid stories, we dive into the intricacies of co-parenting after divorce and the impact on children while highlighting the importance of processing emotions early to prevent future conflicts.

Have you ever wondered about the real implications of toxic masculinity and femininity? Our discussion takes a bold turn as we examine societal expectations and their impact on behavior, revealing patterns that can harm both genders. We address fathers' struggles in co-parenting dynamics, particularly when navigating accusations and negative narratives. This episode is packed with personal insights and anecdotes illuminating the resilience required to maintain fatherhood roles amidst challenging relationships and systemic biases.

Finally, walk with us down memory lane as we reminisce about the communal magic of arcade gaming and the evolution of gaming technology. From the fun of sharing quarters to the stark contrasts with today's digital landscape, these stories underscore the importance of community and support systems. Wrapping up with the power of silence, we encourage listeners to practice restraint and thoughtful responses in challenging scenarios, leaving you with laughter, nostalgia, and plenty to ponder.

Don't Move

Bryant Goodine — Sat, 26 Apr 2025 01:00:00 GMT

What does a man truly need to feel ready for intimacy as he ages? The Iron Table dives headfirst into this vulnerable territory, exploring the profound shift that occurs in men's emotional and physical needs after 40.

The conversation begins with a candid examination of the Shannon Sharp controversy, using it as a springboard to discuss why successful men sometimes risk everything for relationships with much younger women. The hosts suggest this behavior often stems from an internal void that men are desperately trying to fill, sometimes at the cost of their reputation and peace.

As the discussion evolves, the group tackles a reality rarely addressed in public forums: how men's need for emotional connection increases with age. The days of purely physical intimacy fade as men discover they need to feel heard, appreciated, and understood before they can be physically present. "I never thought I would hear myself say, 'No, I need to talk about this first,'" one host admits, capturing this transformation perfectly.

The podcast explores how communication styles significantly impact intimacy, particularly when women use "absolutes" like "you never" or "you always" during conflicts. The hosts share practical strategies for men to avoid emotional reactivity and maintain their equilibrium when faced with triggering statements from their partners. They also discuss society's shifting expectations around physical intimacy, with men now feeling increased pressure to prioritize their partner's satisfaction.

Whether you're struggling with changing emotional needs, curious about how other men navigate these waters, or simply want to understand the male perspective better, this episode offers honest, sometimes humorous, and always thoughtful insights. Join us for a conversation that normalizes men's emotional evolution and offers pathways to deeper connection.

Ready to gain a new perspective on male intimacy? Listen now and discover what men really need beneath the surface.

Snitches Get Cupcakes And Side Eyes

Bryant Goodine — Thu, 04 Jun 2026 19:00:00 GMT

Somebody’s partner pulls you aside and asks the question you never want to hear: “Do you know if he’s cheating?” Now what? We sit down at The Iron Table and put the bro code on trial, because loyalty is easy when it costs nothing, and complicated when the truth could blow up a marriage, a friendship, and your peace.

We talk through the real-life mechanics of getting cornered by direct questions, why “that’s none of my business” is sometimes a boundary and sometimes a dodge, and how to respond without becoming the messenger. We break down practical deflections that keep you honest while pushing the conversation back where it belongs: between the two people in the relationship or in counseling. And yes, we say the quiet part out loud: we are not going to hell for anybody’s lie.

Then we zoom out to the psychology behind suspicion. Why do people tap phones, chase clues, and beg for one last confirmation when they already feel it in their gut? We connect it to grief, denial, anger, and the slow path toward acceptance, plus the hard question that changes everything: are you ready to hear the answer you’re asking for? We close with a reminder that grown men can still affirm each other, show gratitude, and keep sharpening iron even when the conversation gets uncomfortable.

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