<![CDATA[Living The Third Way]]>Family is complicated. 

Even the people we love most can hurt us... and we can hurt them. 

Sometimes it feels like the only way to protect yourself is to either run away from it all — or stuff everything down and pretend you’re fine.


We get it. Because we’ve lived it.


We’re Shae and Adrian Misiak — Catholic mentors and mental health professionals — doing the hard and beautiful work of healing family wounds while raising a family of our own.


If you’ve ever felt stuck between cutting off a parent to survive,
or staying quiet to keep the peace… we’re here to tell you: there’s another way.

And this podcast explores what that actually looks like.


Here are some of the themes you’ll hear us talk about:

  • the messy reality of family life
  • navigating difficult relationships with integrity
  • forgiveness that doesn’t ask you to forget the past
  • grief that doesn’t require you to shut down love
  • where and how God is working in the places that feel most broken


These episodes will meet you where you are and walk with you toward where God is inviting you to go.

You'll find honest conversations about becoming whole in real time, as we learn to love with both courage and compassion.


If you’re trying to build a healthier family than the one you came from,
or if you simply want to stop carrying all of this alone…

put us in your earbuds and listen along.


Walk with us as we explore what it takes to live the Third Way —
where joy is found, right alongside the hard and holy work of healing.

]]>https://www.buzzsprout.com/2550402Riverside.fm (https://riverside.com)Mon, 25 May 2026 03:34:19 GMTMon, 18 May 2026 17:29:27 GMT60Shaelyn and Adrian Misiak<p>Family is complicated. </p><p>Even the people we love most can hurt us... and we can hurt them. </p><p>Sometimes it feels like the only way to protect yourself is to either run away from it all — or stuff everything down and pretend you’re fine.</p><p><br /></p><p>We get it. Because we’ve lived it.</p><p><br /></p><p>We’re Shae and Adrian Misiak — Catholic mentors and mental health professionals — doing the hard and beautiful work of healing family wounds while raising a family of our own.</p><p><br /></p><p>If you’ve ever felt stuck between cutting off a parent to survive,<br />or staying quiet to keep the peace… we’re here to tell you: there’s another way.</p><p>And this podcast explores what that actually looks like.</p><p><br /></p><p>Here are some of the themes you’ll hear us talk about:</p><ul><li>the messy reality of family life</li><li>navigating difficult relationships with integrity</li><li>forgiveness that doesn’t ask you to forget the past</li><li>grief that doesn’t require you to shut down love</li><li>where and how God is working in the places that feel most broken</li></ul><p><br /></p><p>These episodes will meet you where you are and walk with you toward where God is inviting you to go.</p><p>You'll find honest conversations about becoming whole in real time, as we learn to love with both courage and compassion.</p><p><br /></p><p>If you’re trying to build a healthier family than the one you came from,<br />or if you simply want to stop carrying all of this alone…</p><p>put us in your earbuds and listen along.</p><p><br /></p><p>Walk with us as we explore what it takes to live the Third Way —<br />where joy is found, right alongside the hard and holy work of healing.</p>episodicShaelyn and Adrian Misiakhello@adrianandshae.comno<![CDATA[Welcome to The Third Way]]>Torn between protecting your heart and staying close to the people you love? There’s another way — and it starts here.

Join us to start healing family dysfunction by restoring order, finding freedom, and living in joy. This trailer introduces the Third Way — a path to wholeness right in the middle of the messy, beautiful work of family life.

Connect with Shae and Adrian: 

Website: adrianandshae.com 

Email: hello@adrianandshae.com 

Instagram: @adrianandshae


]]>Buzzsprout-18077587Sun, 26 Oct 2025 21:00:00 GMT<p>Torn between protecting your heart and staying close to the people you love? There’s another way — and it starts here.</p><p>Join us to start healing family dysfunction by restoring order, finding freedom, and living in joy. This trailer introduces the Third Way — a path to wholeness right in the middle of the messy, beautiful work of family life.</p><p><b>Connect with Shae and Adrian:</b> </p><p>Website: adrianandshae.com </p><p>Email: hello@adrianandshae.com </p><p>Instagram: @adrianandshae</p><p><br /></p>no00:03:05Welcome to The Third Waytrailer<![CDATA[Healing From Within: What the Incarnation Teaches Us About Being Human]]>At Christmas, we celebrate a God who does not heal from a distance, but enters fully into our humanity. In this episode, we explore what the Incarnation reveals about the way real healing unfolds — not through bypassing emotion, body, or relationship, but through inhabiting them with truth and love.

Drawing from Catholic anthropology and the Third Way framework, we reflect on why God chose flesh and blood, what that means for our nervous systems, our family relationships, and our longing for peace, and how healing happens slowly, relationally, and from the inside out. We explore how integration, rather than control or avoidance, is at the heart of both the spiritual life and relational restoration.

If you find yourself caught between staying connected and staying whole, this conversation offers a hopeful path forward.

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As mentioned, we invite you to join us for our upcoming webinar, where we’ll explore how to disentangle from family patterns without cutting people off or losing yourself. You can register here: https://unmeshed.online

And for those longing for deeper, ongoing accompaniment, our daily mentorship offers a space to walk this path with support, clarity, and presence — the kind of healing the Incarnation itself points us toward. You can find out more here: https://adrianandshae.com

Connect with Shae and Adrian: 

Website: adrianandshae.com 

Email: hello@adrianandshae.com 

Instagram: @adrianandshae


]]>Buzzsprout-18396483Mon, 22 Dec 2025 06:00:00 GMT<p>At Christmas, we celebrate a God who does not heal from a distance, but enters fully into our humanity. In this episode, we explore what the Incarnation reveals about the way real healing unfolds — not through bypassing emotion, body, or relationship, but through inhabiting them with truth and love.</p><p>Drawing from Catholic anthropology and the Third Way framework, we reflect on why God chose flesh and blood, what that means for our nervous systems, our family relationships, and our longing for peace, and how healing happens slowly, relationally, and from the inside out. We explore how integration, rather than control or avoidance, is at the heart of both the spiritual life and relational restoration.</p><p>If you find yourself caught between staying connected and staying whole, this conversation offers a hopeful path forward.</p><p>--------------------</p><p>As mentioned, we invite you to join us for our upcoming webinar, where we’ll explore how to disentangle from family patterns without cutting people off or losing yourself. You can register here: https://unmeshed.online</p><p>And for those longing for deeper, ongoing accompaniment, our daily mentorship offers a space to walk this path with support, clarity, and presence — the kind of healing the Incarnation itself points us toward. You can find out more here: https://adrianandshae.com</p><p><b>Connect with Shae and Adrian:</b> </p><p>Website: adrianandshae.com </p><p>Email: hello@adrianandshae.com </p><p>Instagram: @adrianandshae</p><p><br /></p>no00:41:1514Healing From Within: What the Incarnation Teaches Us About Being Humanfull<![CDATA[Is Tending to Yourself Sinful? Self-Love, Family Wounds, and the Catholic Case for Interior Attentiveness]]>Something one participant said near the end of their first group cohort stopped Shae and Adrian in their tracks: tending to the self doesn't just feel selfish — it feels sinful. In this episode, they unpack why that belief is so common, where it comes from, and why they believe the opposite is true: that interior attentiveness is not a detour from holiness but the very ground it grows from.

In this episode:

  • Why the fear that self-focus is sinful is so deeply formed — and why it masquerades as virtue
  • What self-abandonment actually looks like in everyday life: people-pleasing, lack of boundaries, resentment, numbness, and the "dam breaking"
  • The difference between emotional neglect that's dramatic and the kind that quietly stacks up over time in otherwise loving families
  • Why that internal voice that says "they did their best" or "other people have it worse" isn't always the voice of maturity
  • What true emotional maturity actually holds: that someone tried their best and fell short, and that both things are real
  • The Lenten/Easter framework: why we aren't meant to skip over the suffering to get to the resurrection
  • Luigi Giussani's concept of "the I" and why losing touch with your interior life means losing touch with where God actually meets you
  • The difference between processing and weaponizing — and why it matters for healing
  • What it looks like to begin tending to yourself in practical, ordinary terms
  • How self-love, rightly ordered, is what makes the free gift of self actually possible

Reflection prompt from this episode: This week, notice one moment when you're talking yourself out of the way you actually feel. Don't shame yourself for it. Just notice. That's where this practice begins.

Connect with Shae and Adrian: 

Website: adrianandshae.com 

Email: hello@adrianandshae.com 

Instagram: @adrianandshae


]]>Buzzsprout-18992859Fri, 10 Apr 2026 10:00:00 GMT<p>Something one participant said near the end of their first group cohort stopped Shae and Adrian in their tracks: tending to the self doesn't just <em>feel</em> selfish — it feels <em>sinful</em>. In this episode, they unpack why that belief is so common, where it comes from, and why they believe the opposite is true: that interior attentiveness is not a detour from holiness but the very ground it grows from.</p><p><b>In this episode:</b></p><ul><li>Why the fear that self-focus is sinful is so deeply formed — and why it masquerades as virtue</li><li>What self-abandonment actually looks like in everyday life: people-pleasing, lack of boundaries, resentment, numbness, and the "dam breaking"</li><li>The difference between emotional neglect that's dramatic and the kind that quietly stacks up over time in otherwise loving families</li><li>Why that internal voice that says <em>"they did their best"</em> or <em>"other people have it worse"</em> isn't always the voice of maturity</li><li>What true emotional maturity actually holds: that someone tried their best <em>and</em> fell short, and that both things are real</li><li>The Lenten/Easter framework: why we aren't meant to skip over the suffering to get to the resurrection</li><li>Luigi Giussani's concept of "the I" and why losing touch with your interior life means losing touch with where God actually meets you</li><li>The difference between processing and weaponizing — and why it matters for healing</li><li>What it looks like to begin tending to yourself in practical, ordinary terms</li><li>How self-love, rightly ordered, is what makes the free gift of self <em>actually possible</em></li></ul><p><b>Reflection prompt from this episode:</b> This week, notice one moment when you're talking yourself out of the way you actually feel. Don't shame yourself for it. Just notice. That's where this practice begins.</p><p><b>Connect with Shae and Adrian:</b> </p><p>Website: adrianandshae.com </p><p>Email: hello@adrianandshae.com </p><p>Instagram: @adrianandshae</p><p><br /></p>no01:11:4418Is Tending to Yourself Sinful? Self-Love, Family Wounds, and the Catholic Case for Interior Attentivenessfull<![CDATA[Embracing Conflict in Marriage: The Power of Self-Gift and Vulnerability]]>Discover how fighting can be a gateway to deeper intimacy and growth in marriage. Shae and Adrian share raw stories, frameworks, and spiritual insights on how conflict, when approached with tenderness and self-awareness, transforms into a gift that reveals the true depth of love.

In this episode:

  • Why conflict is a normal and essential part of marriage, not the enemy
  • How childhood wounds and past experiences shape our reactions in disagreements
  • The importance of vulnerability and raw honesty in building trust
  • The role of nervous system patterns and self-protection in arguments
  • Practical steps for fighting to understand, not to defend
  • The symbolism of cruciformity: marriage as a path of surrender and resurrection
  • Encouragement to give up the illusion of perfect understanding or control
  • How to practice tenderness and curiosity during conflict
  • Personal stories revealing the messiness and beauty of real relationship
  • Resources for ongoing growth and connection


Resources & Links:


Remember: Marriage is a journey of cruciform love — embracing vulnerability, suffering, and resurrection. Fight with purpose. Keep fighting to understand and be understood, because you are worth it.

Connect with Shae and Adrian: 

Website: adrianandshae.com 

Email: hello@adrianandshae.com 

Instagram: @adrianandshae


]]>Buzzsprout-18803674Mon, 09 Mar 2026 05:00:00 GMT<p>Discover how fighting can be a gateway to deeper intimacy and growth in marriage. Shae and Adrian share raw stories, frameworks, and spiritual insights on how conflict, when approached with tenderness and self-awareness, transforms into a gift that reveals the true depth of love.</p><p><b>In this episode:</b></p><ul><li>Why conflict is a normal and essential part of marriage, not the enemy</li><li>How childhood wounds and past experiences shape our reactions in disagreements</li><li>The importance of vulnerability and raw honesty in building trust</li><li>The role of nervous system patterns and self-protection in arguments</li><li>Practical steps for fighting to understand, not to defend</li><li>The symbolism of cruciformity: marriage as a path of surrender and resurrection</li><li>Encouragement to give up the illusion of perfect understanding or control</li><li>How to practice tenderness and curiosity during conflict</li><li>Personal stories revealing the messiness and beauty of real relationship</li><li>Resources for ongoing growth and connection</li></ul><p><br /></p><p><b>Resources &amp; Links:</b></p><ul><li><a href="http://adrianandshae.com" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">adrianandshae.com</a></li></ul><p><br /></p><p><b>Remember:</b> Marriage is a journey of cruciform love — embracing vulnerability, suffering, and resurrection. Fight with purpose. Keep fighting to understand and be understood, because you are worth it.</p><p><b>Connect with Shae and Adrian:</b> </p><p>Website: adrianandshae.com </p><p>Email: hello@adrianandshae.com </p><p>Instagram: @adrianandshae</p><p><br /></p>no01:09:5217Embracing Conflict in Marriage: The Power of Self-Gift and Vulnerabilityfull<![CDATA[Self-Reliance Is a House of Cards: Why “manifesting” can’t save you and what actually can]]>Self-reliance often begins as survival and slowly becomes a prison.

In this episode of Living the Third Way, Shae and Adrian explore how self-reliance forms in families where it wasn’t safe to struggle, need help, or fail. What begins as a protective adaptation can quietly turn into a belief that you must carry life alone and that suffering means you’re doing something wrong.

They examine how modern manifestation culture and New Thought spirituality reinforce this pattern by promising control over reality, while subtly placing the full weight of healing, happiness, and meaning back onto the individual. When pain can’t be “thought away,” it easily becomes personal failure.

Through the lens of Catholic anthropology and personalism, Shae and Adrian offer a different path: healing that happens in relationship, identity that is received rather than constructed, and a vision of the human person as a mind–body–soul unity. This episode invites listeners to lay down the exhausting work of doing life alone and to discover why dependence, rightly understood, is not weakness, but mercy.


Interested in deeper support?

We offer daily mentorship for individuals navigating family wounds, emotional overwhelm, and the slow work of healing in relationship. You can find out more at our website: https://adrianandshae.com 

We’re also currently building a waitlist for the next cohort of our group program, Unmeshed, which guides participants through disentangling from family enmeshment and reclaiming their God-given identity through psychological and spiritual integration. Email us to express interest or be notified about the next cohort: hello@adrianandshae.com

Referenced in this episode

Connect with Shae and Adrian: 

Website: adrianandshae.com 

Email: hello@adrianandshae.com 

Instagram: @adrianandshae


]]>Buzzsprout-18605303Mon, 02 Feb 2026 11:00:00 GMT<p>Self-reliance often begins as survival and slowly becomes a prison.</p><p>In this episode of Living the Third Way, Shae and Adrian explore how self-reliance forms in families where it wasn’t safe to struggle, need help, or fail. What begins as a protective adaptation can quietly turn into a belief that you must carry life alone and that suffering means you’re doing something wrong.</p><p>They examine how modern manifestation culture and New Thought spirituality reinforce this pattern by promising control over reality, while subtly placing the full weight of healing, happiness, and meaning back onto the individual. When pain can’t be “thought away,” it easily becomes personal failure.</p><p>Through the lens of Catholic anthropology and personalism, Shae and Adrian offer a different path: healing that happens in relationship, identity that is received rather than constructed, and a vision of the human person as a mind–body–soul unity. This episode invites listeners to lay down the exhausting work of doing life alone and to discover why dependence, rightly understood, is not weakness, but mercy.</p><p><br /></p><p><b>Interested in deeper support?</b></p><p>We offer <b>daily mentorship</b> for individuals navigating family wounds, emotional overwhelm, and the slow work of healing in relationship. You can find out more at our website: <a href="https://adrianandshae.com" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">https://adrianandshae.com</a> </p><p>We’re also currently building a waitlist for the next cohort of our group program, <b>Unmeshed</b>, which guides participants through disentangling from family enmeshment and reclaiming their God-given identity through psychological and spiritual integration. Email us to express interest or be notified about the next cohort: hello@adrianandshae.com</p><p><b>Referenced in this episode</b></p><ul><li><a href="https://bookshop.catholicpsych.com/products/the-mindful-catholic-finding-god-one-moment-at-a-time" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">The Mindful Catholic</a> by Dr. Greg Bottaro</li></ul><p><b>Connect with Shae and Adrian:</b> </p><p>Website: adrianandshae.com </p><p>Email: hello@adrianandshae.com </p><p>Instagram: @adrianandshae</p><p><br /></p>no01:08:1016Self-Reliance Is a House of Cards: Why “manifesting” can’t save you and what actually canfull<![CDATA[Why We're Launching on All Saints Day: Communion, Community, and the Work of Healing]]>We launched on All Saints Day because we want the saints’ intercession over this work—and because their lives show us what integrated, grace-filled healing looks like. In this first conversation, we unpack the Communion of Saints, what healthy community is meant to give us (love, belonging, formation), and why so many of us feel isolated in a culture of dis-integration—often beginning in the family, the “cell of society.” We name the pain without getting stuck in blame. Adrian shares a personal story, and together we explore how owning our woundedness—rather than fixing, minimizing, or avoiding it—opens real relationship with one another and with those who’ve gone before us.

What we cover

  • Why All Saints Day matters for this podcast and our mission
  • A simple, lived explanation of the Communion of Saints
  • Community as a human necessity (beyond basic needs: love & belonging)
  • How cultural disintegration shows up first in families—and what that means
  • Moving from victimhood to responsibility without self-shame
  • Adrian’s personal example of taking ownership and choosing repair
  • How acknowledging wounds becomes the doorway to deep communion
  • Closing intercessory prayer asking a few saints who’ve shaped our story to pray with us

Three takeaways

  1. You’re made for communion. Isolation isn’t just uncomfortable—it’s contrary to who you are.
  2. Naming the wound is not failure. It’s the start of healing and real connection.
  3. Responsibility is freedom. Refusing blame narratives gives you the power to love with integrity.

Try this this week

  • Name one pattern in your family story without judgment.
  • Ask a favorite saint to intercede for you specifically in that place.
  • Take one small step of responsibility (a boundary, an apology, a request for help).

Resources & links

  • Our website: adrianandshae.com
  • Say hello or send questions/feedback: hello@adrianandshae.com

Support the show

If this episode served you, please rate, review, and share the podcast with a friend who needs hope before the holidays. Your support helps others find this work.

Connect with Shae and Adrian: 

Website: adrianandshae.com 

Email: hello@adrianandshae.com 

Instagram: @adrianandshae


]]>Buzzsprout-18113056Sat, 01 Nov 2025 19:00:00 GMT<p>We launched on All Saints Day because we want the saints’ intercession over this work—and because their lives show us what integrated, grace-filled healing looks like. In this first conversation, we unpack the <b>Communion of Saints</b>, what healthy <b>community</b> is meant to give us (love, belonging, formation), and why so many of us feel isolated in a culture of dis-integration—often beginning in the <b>family</b>, the “cell of society.” We name the pain without getting stuck in blame. Adrian shares a personal story, and together we explore how <b>owning our woundedness</b>—rather than fixing, minimizing, or avoiding it—opens real relationship with one another and with those who’ve gone before us.</p><p>What we cover</p><ul><li>Why All Saints Day matters for this podcast and our mission</li><li>A simple, lived explanation of the <b>Communion of Saints</b></li><li>Community as a human necessity (beyond basic needs: love &amp; belonging)</li><li>How cultural disintegration shows up first in families—and what that means</li><li>Moving from <b>victimhood to responsibility</b> without self-shame</li><li>Adrian’s personal example of taking ownership and choosing repair</li><li>How acknowledging wounds becomes the doorway to <b>deep communion</b></li><li>Closing intercessory prayer asking a few saints who’ve shaped our story to pray with us</li></ul><p>Three takeaways</p><ol><li><b>You’re made for communion.</b> Isolation isn’t just uncomfortable—it’s contrary to who you are.</li><li><b>Naming the wound is not failure.</b> It’s the start of healing and real connection.</li><li><b>Responsibility is freedom.</b> Refusing blame narratives gives you the power to love with integrity.</li></ol><p>Try this this week</p><ul><li><b>Name one pattern</b> in your family story without judgment.</li><li>Ask a favorite <b>saint to intercede</b> for you specifically in that place.</li><li>Take one <b>small step of responsibility</b> (a boundary, an apology, a request for help).</li></ul><p>Resources &amp; links</p><ul><li>Our website: <b>adrianandshae.com</b></li><li>Say hello or send questions/feedback: <b>hello@adrianandshae.com</b><br /><br /></li></ul><p>Support the show</p><p>If this episode served you, please <b>rate, review, and share</b> the podcast with a friend who needs hope before the holidays. Your support helps others find this work.</p><p><b>Connect with Shae and Adrian:</b> </p><p>Website: adrianandshae.com </p><p>Email: hello@adrianandshae.com </p><p>Instagram: @adrianandshae</p><p><br /></p>no00:36:5811Why We're Launching on All Saints Day: Communion, Community, and the Work of Healingfull<![CDATA[Inside the Story That Started Third Way Mentorship (plus some holiday survival tips!)]]>In this episode, we pull back the curtain on the real beginning of Third Way Mentorship — long before we ever had a name for it.

We start with a simple question we get all the time:
 What is mentorship, and how did we end up doing this work?
We share how daily accompaniment became not just a professional calling, but the very thing that transformed our lives, our marriage, and the way we relate to the people we love most.

Inside this episode, we explore:

• What mentorship actually is

• How our own mentorship journeys changed our marriage

• How moving into my parents guesthouse forced us to face wounds we had avoided

• How that season became the kickstarter for Third Way Mentorship

• And lastly, what to do when the holidays feel heavy or complicated

You’ll leave this episode with a deeper understanding of where our work comes from — not an abstract theory, but real relationship, real wounds, and real healing that unfolded in the pressure cooker of family life.

If you’ve ever wondered whether change inside your family is possible…
If you’re longing for a more connected, grounded holiday season…
Or if you simply want to understand the heart behind Third Way Mentorship…

This episode is for you.

__________

As mentioned in the episode — join us on November 23rd for our webinar!

We’re hosting a free live webinar where we’ll teach you how to navigate family dynamics without losing yourself, shutting down, or blowing up.

The Way of Unmeshment: How to Find Peace With Your Family Without Cutting Them Off

🗓 Sunday, November 23
 ⏰ 7pm CST / 8pm ET
 🎟 Save your seat → [Register Here]

____________

If this episode resonates with you and you want support as you navigate your own family dynamics — especially heading into the holidays — you can learn more or book a free call with us at adrianandshae.com.


Connect with Shae and Adrian: 

Website: adrianandshae.com 

Email: hello@adrianandshae.com 

Instagram: @adrianandshae


]]>Buzzsprout-18220600Wed, 19 Nov 2025 22:00:00 GMT<p><b>In this episode, we pull back the curtain on the real beginning of Third Way Mentorship — long before we ever had a name for it.</b></p><p>We start with a simple question we get all the time:<br /> <b>What </b><b><em>is</em></b><b> mentorship, and how did we end up doing this work?</b><br />We share how daily accompaniment became not just a professional calling, but the very thing that transformed our lives, our marriage, and the way we relate to the people we love most.</p><p>Inside this episode, we explore:</p><p><b>• What mentorship actually is</b></p><p><b>• How our own mentorship journeys changed our marriage</b></p><p><b>• How moving into my parents guesthouse forced us to face wounds we had avoided</b></p><p><b>• How that season became the kickstarter for Third Way Mentorship</b></p><p><b>• And lastly, what to do when the holidays feel heavy or complicated</b></p><p>You’ll leave this episode with a deeper understanding of where our work comes from — not an abstract theory, but <b>real relationship, real wounds, and real healing that unfolded in the pressure cooker of family life.</b></p><p>If you’ve ever wondered whether change inside your family is possible…<br />If you’re longing for a more connected, grounded holiday season…<br />Or if you simply want to understand the heart behind Third Way Mentorship…</p><p><b>This episode is for you.</b></p><p>__________</p><p><b>As mentioned in the episode</b> — join us on November 23rd for our webinar!</p><p>We’re hosting a <b>free live webinar</b> where we’ll teach you how to navigate family dynamics <em>without losing yourself, shutting down, or blowing up</em>.</p><p><b>The Way of Unmeshment: How to Find Peace With Your Family Without Cutting Them Off</b></p><p>🗓 Sunday, November 23<br /> ⏰ 7pm CST / 8pm ET<br /> 🎟 <b>Save your seat → </b><a href="https://unmeshed.online/webinar-registration-page" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow"><b>[Register Here]</b></a></p><p>____________</p><p>If this episode resonates with you and you want support as you navigate your own family dynamics — especially heading into the holidays — you can learn more or book a free call with us at <a href="https://adrianandshae.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow"><b>adrianandshae.com</b></a>.</p><p><br /></p><p><b>Connect with Shae and Adrian:</b> </p><p>Website: adrianandshae.com </p><p>Email: hello@adrianandshae.com </p><p>Instagram: @adrianandshae</p><p><br /></p>no01:17:05Inside the Story That Started Third Way Mentorship (plus some holiday survival tips!)full<![CDATA[Advent, Waiting, and the Slow Work of Becoming Whole]]>Advent draws us into a kind of waiting that’s active, hopeful, and deeply human. In this episode, we explore how holy waiting mirrors the slow, interior work of healing — in ourselves, in our relationships, and within our families.

We share how waiting became a core part of our own story: navigating old patterns, living in the tension of the “not yet,” and learning to trust that God works in hidden places long before change becomes visible.

In this episode, we discuss:

  • What Advent teaches us about waiting with expectation
  • The difference between holy waiting and passive endurance
  • Why healing unfolds slowly and why that’s aligned with Catholic anthropology
  • What is and isn’t worth waiting for in your own healing
  • How to stay grounded when transformation feels delayed

Referenced:

Shadow & Light Advent Reflection: https://www.tshoxenreider.com/advent

Advent Calendar: https://shopstoryofthislife.com/

If the waiting in your own life has been stirring things up…
We’d love to walk with you. Join us for our upcoming webinar where we’ll explore how to disentangle from family-of-origin patterns without cutting people off or losing yourself. Save your free seat at the link below:

https://unmeshed.online/webinar-registration-page

Connect with Shae and Adrian: 

Website: adrianandshae.com 

Email: hello@adrianandshae.com 

Instagram: @adrianandshae


]]>Buzzsprout-18338489Fri, 12 Dec 2025 06:00:00 GMT<p>Advent draws us into a kind of waiting that’s active, hopeful, and deeply human. In this episode, we explore how holy waiting mirrors the slow, interior work of healing — in ourselves, in our relationships, and within our families.</p><p>We share how waiting became a core part of our own story: navigating old patterns, living in the tension of the “not yet,” and learning to trust that God works in hidden places long before change becomes visible.</p><p><b>In this episode, we discuss:</b></p><ul><li>What Advent teaches us about waiting with expectation</li><li>The difference between holy waiting and passive endurance</li><li>Why healing unfolds slowly and why that’s aligned with Catholic anthropology</li><li>What <em>is</em> and <em>isn’t</em> worth waiting for in your own healing</li><li>How to stay grounded when transformation feels delayed</li></ul><p><b>Referenced:</b></p><p>Shadow &amp; Light Advent Reflection: https://www.tshoxenreider.com/advent</p><p>Advent Calendar: https://shopstoryofthislife.com/</p><p><b>If the waiting in your own life has been stirring things up…</b><br /> We’d love to walk with you. Join us for our upcoming webinar where we’ll explore how to disentangle from family-of-origin patterns without cutting people off or losing yourself. Save your free seat at the link below:</p><p>https://unmeshed.online/webinar-registration-page</p><p><b>Connect with Shae and Adrian:</b> </p><p>Website: adrianandshae.com </p><p>Email: hello@adrianandshae.com </p><p>Instagram: @adrianandshae</p><p><br /></p>no01:12:5613Advent, Waiting, and the Slow Work of Becoming Wholefull<![CDATA["Where Are You?" What God's Question to Adam Taught Us About Repairing With Our Kids]]>What do a soaking-wet bathroom floor, a three-year-old's meltdown, and the first question God asks after the Fall have in common?

In this episode, Shae and Adrian walk through a real rupture-and-repair moment with their son. From the chaos of a bath time blow-up to an unexpectedly tender conversation that left Adrian standing outside the door whispering something unprintable to himself. What started as a parenting story became a window into one of the most fundamental questions in all of human experience: Where are you?

In this episode, you'll hear:

  • Why "nip it in the bud" often backfires — and what to do instead when everyone's too activated to talk
  • The difference between a consequence and a punishment (and why it matters more than you think)
  • How Shae used parts language with a three-year-old to move him from shame and shutdown to real conversation
  • What "Grumpy Gill" taught them about separating identity from behavior
  • Why God's first question to Adam after the Fall wasn't "What did you do?"  and what that reveals about how love actually works
  • The many ways we've all learned to hide: workaholism, doom scrolling, defensiveness, distancing from prayer
  • And the question worth sitting with: Who in your life is willing to come looking for you in the bushes?

This episode is for anyone who has ever confused what they've done with who they are and for every parent trying to love their kid back to themselves after a hard moment.

Connect with Shae and Adrian: 

Website: adrianandshae.com 

Email: hello@adrianandshae.com 

Instagram: @adrianandshae


]]>Buzzsprout-19196894Mon, 18 May 2026 17:00:00 GMT<p>What do a soaking-wet bathroom floor, a three-year-old's meltdown, and the first question God asks after the Fall have in common?</p><p>In this episode, Shae and Adrian walk through a real rupture-and-repair moment with their son. From the chaos of a bath time blow-up to an unexpectedly tender conversation that left Adrian standing outside the door whispering something unprintable to himself. What started as a parenting story became a window into one of the most fundamental questions in all of human experience: <em>Where are you?</em></p><p><b>In this episode, you'll hear:</b></p><ul><li>Why "nip it in the bud" often backfires — and what to do instead when everyone's too activated to talk</li><li>The difference between a consequence and a punishment (and why it matters more than you think)</li><li>How Shae used parts language with a three-year-old to move him from shame and shutdown to real conversation</li><li>What "Grumpy Gill" taught them about separating identity from behavior</li><li>Why God's first question to Adam after the Fall wasn't <em>"What did you do?"</em>  and what that reveals about how love actually works</li><li>The many ways we've all learned to hide: workaholism, doom scrolling, defensiveness, distancing from prayer</li><li>And the question worth sitting with: <em>Who in your life is willing to come looking for you in the bushes?</em></li></ul><p>This episode is for anyone who has ever confused what they've <em>done</em> with who they <em>are</em> and for every parent trying to love their kid back to themselves after a hard moment.</p><p><b>Connect with Shae and Adrian:</b> </p><p>Website: adrianandshae.com </p><p>Email: hello@adrianandshae.com </p><p>Instagram: @adrianandshae</p><p><br /></p>no00:39:2319"Where Are You?" What God's Question to Adam Taught Us About Repairing With Our Kidsfull<![CDATA[Self-Stewardship, Not Self-Improvement: What If This Year Is an Experiment?]]>The start of a new year often brings resolutions, pressure, and quiet disappointment when we don’t live up to our plans. But what if there’s a different way to begin?

In this episode, we propose an alternative to self-improvement: self-stewardship. Rather than fixing or optimizing yourself, what if this year became an experiment — a chance to see whether caring for the self you’ve been given actually leads to more freedom, presence, and life?

We explore what it looks like to tend to your interior life with curiosity instead of pressure. We reflect on how small shifts in attention, care, and responsibility can quietly reshape not only your own experience, but also the way you show up in relationships — including family life.

This conversation is an invitation to begin the year without urgency, guilt, or grand promises — and instead, to stay long enough with yourself to discover what’s truly life-giving.

____________

If this conversation resonates, we invite you to continue the exploration with us. Our upcoming free webinar offers space to look more closely at how self-stewardship and relational healing intersect, especially within family dynamics.

You can find out more here: https://unmeshed.online

And for those longing for deeper, ongoing accompaniment, our daily mentorship is a place to heal and practice this way of relating to yourself and others with support, clarity, and presence.

You can find out more here: https://adrianandshae.com

Connect with Shae and Adrian: 

Website: adrianandshae.com 

Email: hello@adrianandshae.com 

Instagram: @adrianandshae


]]>Buzzsprout-18466518Wed, 07 Jan 2026 06:00:00 GMT<p>The start of a new year often brings resolutions, pressure, and quiet disappointment when we don’t live up to our plans. But what if there’s a different way to begin?</p><p>In this episode, we propose an alternative to self-improvement: <b>self-stewardship</b>. Rather than fixing or optimizing yourself, what if this year became an experiment — a chance to see whether caring for the self you’ve been given actually leads to more freedom, presence, and life?</p><p>We explore what it looks like to tend to your interior life with curiosity instead of pressure. We reflect on how small shifts in attention, care, and responsibility can quietly reshape not only your own experience, but also the way you show up in relationships — including family life.</p><p>This conversation is an invitation to begin the year without urgency, guilt, or grand promises — and instead, to stay long enough with yourself to discover what’s truly life-giving.</p><p>____________</p><p>If this conversation resonates, we invite you to continue the exploration with us. Our upcoming <a href="https://unmeshed.online" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow"><b>free webinar</b></a><b> </b>offers space to look more closely at how self-stewardship and relational healing intersect, especially within family dynamics.</p><p>You can find out more here: <a href="https://unmeshed.online" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">https://unmeshed.online</a></p><p>And for those longing for deeper, ongoing accompaniment, our <a href="https://adrianandshae.com" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow"><b>daily mentorship</b></a> is a place to heal and practice this way of relating to yourself and others with support, clarity, and presence.</p><p>You can find out more here: <a href="https://adrianandshae.com" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">https://adrianandshae.com</a></p><p><b>Connect with Shae and Adrian:</b> </p><p>Website: adrianandshae.com </p><p>Email: hello@adrianandshae.com </p><p>Instagram: @adrianandshae</p><p><br /></p>no00:55:1015Self-Stewardship, Not Self-Improvement: What If This Year Is an Experiment?full