<?xml version="1.0" encoding="UTF-8"?><rss xmlns:dc="http://purl.org/dc/elements/1.1/" xmlns:content="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/content/" xmlns:atom="http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom" version="2.0" xmlns:itunes="http://www.itunes.com/dtds/podcast-1.0.dtd" xmlns:psc="http://podlove.org/simple-chapters" xmlns:podcast="https://podcastindex.org/namespace/1.0"><channel><title><![CDATA[Girl, What Was I Thinking?]]></title><description><![CDATA[Girl, What Was I Thinking?<p><b><strong>With Zada Monroe | A Girl2Woman Podcast</strong></b></p><p><b><strong>We're grown women. But are we really living like we know who we are?</strong></b></p><p>Girl, let's talk about it.</p><p><i><em>Girl, What Was I Thinking?</em></i> is a podcast for women over 30 who are tired of questioning their worth, settling for less, overgiving, and losing themselves in relationships, friendships, and everybody else's expectations.</p><p>Because here's the thing: <b><strong>Just because we grew up doesn't mean we were taught how to become women who truly know, love, and respect themselves.</strong></b></p><p>Hosted by Zada Monroe, this is a space for honest conversations about the childhood conditioning, unspoken expectations, and survival habits that shaped the women we've become. We're unpacking the good-girl programming, people-pleasing, unhealthy relationship patterns, and limiting beliefs that have followed us well into adulthood.</p><p>We'll reflect on the lessons life has taught us (sometimes the hard way), question the behaviors we've normalized, and explore practical ways to build self-worth, establish healthy boundaries, develop emotional maturity, and reconnect with who we are outside of everyone else's needs.</p><p>Expect real stories, uncomfortable truths, a little humor, and actionable habits to help you stop operating on autopilot and start becoming a woman you genuinely respect.</p><p>This isn't about having it all figured out. It's about finally asking ourselves the questions we should've been asking years ago.</p><p><b><strong>We're recognizing the patterns, reflecting on the lessons, and reinventing the woman.</strong></b></p><p>And girl, we're not gatekeeping what we've learned along the way.</p><p>Welcome to <i><em>Girl, What Was I Thinking?</em></i></p><p><b><strong>Recognize. Reflect. Reinvent.</strong></b></p><p>A Girl2Woman Podcast | Girl2Woman.co</p>]]></description><link>https://www.girl2woman.co</link><generator>Riverside.fm (https://riverside.com)</generator><lastBuildDate>Fri, 13 Nov 2026 09:08:03 GMT</lastBuildDate><atom:link href="https://api.riverside.com/hosting/KH5ZO7MN.rss" rel="self" type="application/rss+xml"/><author><![CDATA[Zada Monroe]]></author><pubDate>Sun, 11 Oct 2026 00:47:29 GMT</pubDate><copyright><![CDATA[2026 Zada Monroe]]></copyright><language><![CDATA[en]]></language><ttl>60</ttl><category><![CDATA[Self-Improvement]]></category><itunes:author>Zada Monroe</itunes:author><itunes:summary>Girl, What Was I Thinking?&lt;p&gt;&lt;b&gt;&lt;strong&gt;With Zada Monroe | A Girl2Woman Podcast&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;b&gt;&lt;strong&gt;We&apos;re grown women. But are we really living like we know who we are?&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Girl, let&apos;s talk about it.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;i&gt;&lt;em&gt;Girl, What Was I Thinking?&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/i&gt; is a podcast for women over 30 who are tired of questioning their worth, settling for less, overgiving, and losing themselves in relationships, friendships, and everybody else&apos;s expectations.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Because here&apos;s the thing: &lt;b&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Just because we grew up doesn&apos;t mean we were taught how to become women who truly know, love, and respect themselves.&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Hosted by Zada Monroe, this is a space for honest conversations about the childhood conditioning, unspoken expectations, and survival habits that shaped the women we&apos;ve become. We&apos;re unpacking the good-girl programming, people-pleasing, unhealthy relationship patterns, and limiting beliefs that have followed us well into adulthood.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;We&apos;ll reflect on the lessons life has taught us (sometimes the hard way), question the behaviors we&apos;ve normalized, and explore practical ways to build self-worth, establish healthy boundaries, develop emotional maturity, and reconnect with who we are outside of everyone else&apos;s needs.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Expect real stories, uncomfortable truths, a little humor, and actionable habits to help you stop operating on autopilot and start becoming a woman you genuinely respect.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;This isn&apos;t about having it all figured out. It&apos;s about finally asking ourselves the questions we should&apos;ve been asking years ago.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;b&gt;&lt;strong&gt;We&apos;re recognizing the patterns, reflecting on the lessons, and reinventing the woman.&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;And girl, we&apos;re not gatekeeping what we&apos;ve learned along the way.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Welcome to &lt;i&gt;&lt;em&gt;Girl, What Was I Thinking?&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/i&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;b&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Recognize. Reflect. Reinvent.&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;A Girl2Woman Podcast | Girl2Woman.co&lt;/p&gt;</itunes:summary><itunes:type>episodic</itunes:type><itunes:owner><itunes:name>Zada Monroe</itunes:name><itunes:email>ms.zadamonroe@gmail.com</itunes:email></itunes:owner><itunes:explicit>yes</itunes:explicit><itunes:category text="Education"><itunes:category text="Self-Improvement"/></itunes:category><itunes:image href="https://hosting-media.riverside.com/media/podcasts/67e7b771-cba5-4165-86ab-257ad1f77ef2/logos/ca2f06ba-67ff-41ec-9e96-798abac0a8a6.png"/><item><title><![CDATA[EP. 4  Why You Struggle to Speak Up in Family & Relationships]]></title><description><![CDATA[Afraid of Conflict? Why Speaking Up Feels So Scary in Family &amp; Love<p><b><strong>Have you ever stayed silent just to keep the peace, even when something was hurting you?</strong></b></p><p>Maybe you avoid difficult conversations because you don't want someone to get angry, reject you, misunderstand you, or accuse you of being disrespectful.</p><p>But what happens when keeping the peace with everyone else means constantly betraying yourself?</p><p>In this episode of <i><em>Girl, What Was I Thinking?</em></i>, Zada Monroe explores the <b><strong>fear of conflict</strong></b>, why so many women struggle to speak up for themselves, and how childhood experiences can shape the way we handle confrontation in adulthood.</p><p>For some of us, speaking up wasn't encouraged growing up. We were taught to respect authority, stay quiet, avoid talking back, and accept treatment that made us uncomfortable. Sometimes, the very people who were supposed to protect us were the people we feared upsetting the most.</p><p>And without realizing it, we carried those same patterns into our friendships, family dynamics, and romantic relationships.</p><p><b><strong>In this episode, we're talking about:</strong></b></p><ul><li>Why conflict feels threatening, even when you're simply expressing your feelings.</li><li>How growing up with critical, controlling, or emotionally unpredictable caregivers can affect your ability to speak up.</li><li>The connection between people-pleasing, fear of rejection, and conflict avoidance.</li><li>Why you feel guilty for setting boundaries or telling someone they've hurt you.</li><li>How fear of someone's reaction can keep you accepting disrespect.</li><li>The difference between healthy disagreement and emotional intimidation.</li><li>How to start finding your voice without feeling responsible for everyone else's emotions.</li></ul><p><b><strong>Here's something to remember: You can be a loving, respectful, compassionate woman and still disagree, say no, express disappointment, and stand up for yourself.</strong></b></p><p>Someone else's discomfort does not automatically mean you've done something wrong.</p><p>And keeping the peace should never require you to abandon yourself.</p><p>If you've spent years swallowing your feelings, walking on eggshells, or avoiding difficult conversations, this episode is for you.</p><p><b><strong>Let's talk about it, woman to woman.</strong></b></p><p>💬 <b><strong>Join the conversation:</strong></b> Have you ever been afraid to speak up because you worried about how someone would react? Share your experience in the comments.</p><p><b><strong>Connect with Girl2Woman</strong></b></p><p>Explore self-worth, healthy boundaries, dating clarity, and personal reinvention.</p><p>Website: <a href="https://girl2woman.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">https://girl2woman.co</a></p><p>Podcast: <i><em>Girl, What Was I Thinking?</em></i> with Zada Monroe</p><p>Recognize. Reflect. Reinvent.</p><p>#FearOfConflict #PeoplePleasing #SettingBoundaries #SelfWorth #FamilyRelationships #HealthyRelationships #FearOfConfrontation #Girl2Woman</p>]]></description><guid isPermaLink="false">ef25825e-9332-4139-a168-0dc10a50a5ac</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Zada Monroe]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Mon, 02 Nov 2026 23:00:00 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://api.riverside.com/hosting-analytics/media/f1a45cf673c412e90cb99113f518114b373e71fad6571bb04871477987c32fa3/eyJlcGlzb2RlSWQiOiJlZjI1ODI1ZS05MzMyLTQxMzktYTE2OC0wZGMxMGE1MGE1YWMiLCJwb2RjYXN0SWQiOiI2N2U3Yjc3MS1jYmE1LTQxNjUtODZhYi0yNTdhZDFmNzdlZjIiLCJhY2NvdW50SWQiOiI2YWM2NmExMzhmZDhkMjVlYzZlNTVmN2QiLCJwYXRoIjoibWVkaWEvY2xpcHMvNmFlOTA2MTg5ZjZkZWM0NjU5ZmNjMDI4L3phZGEtbW9ucm9lcy1zdHVkaW8tMjAyNi0xMS0yX18yMi00Mi00NC5tcDMifQ==.mp3" length="38618740" type="audio/mpeg"/><podcast:transcript url="https://hosting-media.riverside.com/media/podcasts/67e7b771-cba5-4165-86ab-257ad1f77ef2/episodes/ef25825e-9332-4139-a168-0dc10a50a5ac/transcripts.txt" type="text/plain"/><itunes:summary>Afraid of Conflict? Why Speaking Up Feels So Scary in Family &amp;amp; Love&lt;p&gt;&lt;b&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Have you ever stayed silent just to keep the peace, even when something was hurting you?&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Maybe you avoid difficult conversations because you don&apos;t want someone to get angry, reject you, misunderstand you, or accuse you of being disrespectful.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;But what happens when keeping the peace with everyone else means constantly betraying yourself?&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;In this episode of &lt;i&gt;&lt;em&gt;Girl, What Was I Thinking?&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/i&gt;, Zada Monroe explores the &lt;b&gt;&lt;strong&gt;fear of conflict&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/b&gt;, why so many women struggle to speak up for themselves, and how childhood experiences can shape the way we handle confrontation in adulthood.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;For some of us, speaking up wasn&apos;t encouraged growing up. We were taught to respect authority, stay quiet, avoid talking back, and accept treatment that made us uncomfortable. Sometimes, the very people who were supposed to protect us were the people we feared upsetting the most.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;And without realizing it, we carried those same patterns into our friendships, family dynamics, and romantic relationships.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;b&gt;&lt;strong&gt;In this episode, we&apos;re talking about:&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;ul&gt;&lt;li&gt;Why conflict feels threatening, even when you&apos;re simply expressing your feelings.&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;How growing up with critical, controlling, or emotionally unpredictable caregivers can affect your ability to speak up.&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;The connection between people-pleasing, fear of rejection, and conflict avoidance.&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;Why you feel guilty for setting boundaries or telling someone they&apos;ve hurt you.&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;How fear of someone&apos;s reaction can keep you accepting disrespect.&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;The difference between healthy disagreement and emotional intimidation.&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;How to start finding your voice without feeling responsible for everyone else&apos;s emotions.&lt;/li&gt;&lt;/ul&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;b&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Here&apos;s something to remember: You can be a loving, respectful, compassionate woman and still disagree, say no, express disappointment, and stand up for yourself.&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Someone else&apos;s discomfort does not automatically mean you&apos;ve done something wrong.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;And keeping the peace should never require you to abandon yourself.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;If you&apos;ve spent years swallowing your feelings, walking on eggshells, or avoiding difficult conversations, this episode is for you.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;b&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Let&apos;s talk about it, woman to woman.&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;💬 &lt;b&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Join the conversation:&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/b&gt; Have you ever been afraid to speak up because you worried about how someone would react? Share your experience in the comments.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;b&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Connect with Girl2Woman&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Explore self-worth, healthy boundaries, dating clarity, and personal reinvention.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Website: &lt;a href=&quot;https://girl2woman.co/&quot; rel=&quot;noopener noreferrer nofollow&quot;&gt;https://girl2woman.co&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Podcast: &lt;i&gt;&lt;em&gt;Girl, What Was I Thinking?&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/i&gt; with Zada Monroe&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Recognize. Reflect. Reinvent.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;#FearOfConflict #PeoplePleasing #SettingBoundaries #SelfWorth #FamilyRelationships #HealthyRelationships #FearOfConfrontation #Girl2Woman&lt;/p&gt;</itunes:summary><itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit><itunes:duration>00:20:07</itunes:duration><itunes:image href="https://hosting-media.riverside.com/media/podcasts/67e7b771-cba5-4165-86ab-257ad1f77ef2/logos/ca2f06ba-67ff-41ec-9e96-798abac0a8a6.png"/><itunes:title>EP. 4  Why You Struggle to Speak Up in Family &amp; Relationships</itunes:title><itunes:episodeType>full</itunes:episodeType></item><item><title><![CDATA[EP.3 Why Am I Never Enough? | How to Overcome Fear of Abandonment/Loneliness]]></title><description><![CDATA[<p><b><strong>EPISODE 3: Why Am I Never Enough? — Understanding the Fear of Abandonment</strong></b></p><p>Have you ever found yourself doing everything possible to keep someone from leaving, even when the relationship was costing you your peace?</p><p>Maybe you overgive. Maybe you become anxious when someone pulls away. Maybe you accept inconsistency because deep down, you're afraid that asking for more will cause you to lose the connection altogether.</p><p>But what happens when the fear of being abandoned causes you to abandon yourself?</p><p>In this episode of <i><em>Girl, What Was I Thinking?</em></i>, we're unpacking the fear of abandonment, how childhood conditioning and past relationships can influence our sense of worth, and why we sometimes become attached to people who cannot give us the emotional security we desire.</p><p>We'll explore people-pleasing, anxious attachment, relationship patterns, and the importance of learning to trust ourselves instead of constantly seeking reassurance from others.</p><p>Because the goal isn't to become someone nobody will ever leave.</p><p><b><strong>The goal is to become a woman who knows she will not abandon herself, regardless of who stays or goes.</strong></b></p><p>It's time to recognize, reflect, and reinvent.</p><p>Hosted by Zada Monroe | Girl2Woman</p><p>Explore more: <a href="https://girl2woman.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">https://girl2woman.co</a></p>]]></description><guid isPermaLink="false">1c315582-c012-4f1c-b645-4fca59eaf543</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Zada Monroe]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Mon, 26 Oct 2026 03:21:42 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://api.riverside.com/hosting-analytics/media/b93fea6991bd3a28543b999490d3eac15a7f7f8729e14567bce6aedc68d07e86/eyJlcGlzb2RlSWQiOiIxYzMxNTU4Mi1jMDEyLTRmMWMtYjY0NS00ZmNhNTllYWY1NDMiLCJwb2RjYXN0SWQiOiI2N2U3Yjc3MS1jYmE1LTQxNjUtODZhYi0yNTdhZDFmNzdlZjIiLCJhY2NvdW50SWQiOiI2YWM2NmExMzhmZDhkMjVlYzZlNTVmN2QiLCJwYXRoIjoibWVkaWEvY2xpcHMvNmFkZWM3OGIzYjRmYmUyNmM4NmRmYWMwL3phZGEtbW9ucm9lcy1zdHVkaW8tMjAyNi0xMC0yNl9fMy0yMi01Mi5tcDMifQ==.mp3" length="43895057" type="audio/mpeg"/><podcast:transcript url="https://hosting-media.riverside.com/media/podcasts/67e7b771-cba5-4165-86ab-257ad1f77ef2/episodes/1c315582-c012-4f1c-b645-4fca59eaf543/transcripts.txt" type="text/plain"/><itunes:summary>&lt;p&gt;&lt;b&gt;&lt;strong&gt;EPISODE 3: Why Am I Never Enough? — Understanding the Fear of Abandonment&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Have you ever found yourself doing everything possible to keep someone from leaving, even when the relationship was costing you your peace?&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Maybe you overgive. Maybe you become anxious when someone pulls away. Maybe you accept inconsistency because deep down, you&apos;re afraid that asking for more will cause you to lose the connection altogether.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;But what happens when the fear of being abandoned causes you to abandon yourself?&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;In this episode of &lt;i&gt;&lt;em&gt;Girl, What Was I Thinking?&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/i&gt;, we&apos;re unpacking the fear of abandonment, how childhood conditioning and past relationships can influence our sense of worth, and why we sometimes become attached to people who cannot give us the emotional security we desire.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;We&apos;ll explore people-pleasing, anxious attachment, relationship patterns, and the importance of learning to trust ourselves instead of constantly seeking reassurance from others.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Because the goal isn&apos;t to become someone nobody will ever leave.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;b&gt;&lt;strong&gt;The goal is to become a woman who knows she will not abandon herself, regardless of who stays or goes.&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;It&apos;s time to recognize, reflect, and reinvent.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Hosted by Zada Monroe | Girl2Woman&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Explore more: &lt;a href=&quot;https://girl2woman.co/&quot; rel=&quot;noopener noreferrer nofollow&quot;&gt;https://girl2woman.co&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</itunes:summary><itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit><itunes:duration>00:22:52</itunes:duration><itunes:image href="https://hosting-media.riverside.com/media/podcasts/67e7b771-cba5-4165-86ab-257ad1f77ef2/logos/ca2f06ba-67ff-41ec-9e96-798abac0a8a6.png"/><itunes:season>1</itunes:season><itunes:title>EP.3 Why Am I Never Enough? | How to Overcome Fear of Abandonment/Loneliness</itunes:title><itunes:episodeType>full</itunes:episodeType></item><item><title><![CDATA[EP.2 What if They Judge Me? How to Build Trust In Yourself]]></title><description><![CDATA[<p>Why Do I Trust Everyone Else's Opinion More Than My Own?</p><p><b><strong>How many dreams have you talked yourself out of because somebody else didn't believe in them?</strong></b></p><p>Girl, let's talk about it.</p><p>Have you ever been excited about a decision, a dream, or a new direction in your life—until you shared it with your parents, family, friends, or partner? Suddenly, their doubts became your doubts. Their fears became your fears. And before you knew it, you were questioning the very thing you once felt so sure about.</p><p>Sound familiar?</p><p>In this episode of <i><em>Girl, What Was I Thinking?</em></i>, we're unpacking the fear of judgment, the need for approval, and how years of people-pleasing can condition us to trust everyone else's opinions more than our own intuition.</p><p>Because here's the thing: <b><strong>You can love and respect the people in your life without handing them the authority to make your decisions.</strong></b></p><p>We're getting into:</p><ul><li>Why we fear disappointing the people closest to us.</li><li>How childhood conditioning and people-pleasing affect our confidence and decision-making.</li><li>The difference between seeking advice and seeking permission.</li><li>Why fear of failure and hearing "I told you so" keeps us playing small.</li><li>How to stop second-guessing yourself and start rebuilding self-trust.</li><li>Learning to make decisions even when the people you love don't understand or support them.</li></ul><p>If you've been waiting for someone to believe in you, approve of your choices, or give you permission to pursue the life you actually want, this conversation is for you.</p><p><b><strong>Your dreams don't require a unanimous vote. And trusting yourself doesn't mean you'll never make a mistake. It means you trust yourself enough to navigate whatever comes next.</strong></b></p><p>It's time to stop shrinking your life to fit other people's expectations.</p><p>Recognize. Reflect. Reinvent.</p><p><b><strong>Welcome to Girl, What Was I Thinking? with Zada Monroe.</strong></b></p><p>Explore more conversations, resources, and self-worth tools at <b><strong>girl2woman.co</strong></b>.</p>]]></description><link>http://www.girl2woman.co</link><guid isPermaLink="false">9687a476-63e8-47bd-8720-59d65dde88ba</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Zada Monroe]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Sun, 18 Oct 2026 22:00:00 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://api.riverside.com/hosting-analytics/media/920a81a9090693493fd9340fb89811891a1c236a2ff4acf5f19d4ebb99e18182/eyJlcGlzb2RlSWQiOiI5Njg3YTQ3Ni02M2U4LTQ3YmQtODcyMC01OWQ2NWRkZTg4YmEiLCJwb2RjYXN0SWQiOiI2N2U3Yjc3MS1jYmE1LTQxNjUtODZhYi0yNTdhZDFmNzdlZjIiLCJhY2NvdW50SWQiOiI2YWM2NmExMzhmZDhkMjVlYzZlNTVmN2QiLCJwYXRoIjoibWVkaWEvY2xpcHMvNmFkNTI2NDdlMDBkZjhmODBmMzY4YTQ0L3phZGEtbW9ucm9lcy1zdHVkaW8tMjAyNi0xMC0xOF9fMjAtMjctNC5tcDMifQ==.mp3" length="84502299" type="audio/mpeg"/><podcast:transcript url="https://hosting-media.riverside.com/media/podcasts/67e7b771-cba5-4165-86ab-257ad1f77ef2/episodes/9687a476-63e8-47bd-8720-59d65dde88ba/transcripts.txt" type="text/plain"/><itunes:summary>&lt;p&gt;Why Do I Trust Everyone Else&apos;s Opinion More Than My Own?&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;b&gt;&lt;strong&gt;How many dreams have you talked yourself out of because somebody else didn&apos;t believe in them?&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Girl, let&apos;s talk about it.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Have you ever been excited about a decision, a dream, or a new direction in your life—until you shared it with your parents, family, friends, or partner? Suddenly, their doubts became your doubts. Their fears became your fears. And before you knew it, you were questioning the very thing you once felt so sure about.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Sound familiar?&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;In this episode of &lt;i&gt;&lt;em&gt;Girl, What Was I Thinking?&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/i&gt;, we&apos;re unpacking the fear of judgment, the need for approval, and how years of people-pleasing can condition us to trust everyone else&apos;s opinions more than our own intuition.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Because here&apos;s the thing: &lt;b&gt;&lt;strong&gt;You can love and respect the people in your life without handing them the authority to make your decisions.&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;We&apos;re getting into:&lt;/p&gt;&lt;ul&gt;&lt;li&gt;Why we fear disappointing the people closest to us.&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;How childhood conditioning and people-pleasing affect our confidence and decision-making.&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;The difference between seeking advice and seeking permission.&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;Why fear of failure and hearing &quot;I told you so&quot; keeps us playing small.&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;How to stop second-guessing yourself and start rebuilding self-trust.&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;Learning to make decisions even when the people you love don&apos;t understand or support them.&lt;/li&gt;&lt;/ul&gt;&lt;p&gt;If you&apos;ve been waiting for someone to believe in you, approve of your choices, or give you permission to pursue the life you actually want, this conversation is for you.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;b&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Your dreams don&apos;t require a unanimous vote. And trusting yourself doesn&apos;t mean you&apos;ll never make a mistake. It means you trust yourself enough to navigate whatever comes next.&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;It&apos;s time to stop shrinking your life to fit other people&apos;s expectations.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Recognize. Reflect. Reinvent.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;b&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Welcome to Girl, What Was I Thinking? with Zada Monroe.&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Explore more conversations, resources, and self-worth tools at &lt;b&gt;&lt;strong&gt;girl2woman.co&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/b&gt;.&lt;/p&gt;</itunes:summary><itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit><itunes:duration>00:44:01</itunes:duration><itunes:image href="https://hosting-media.riverside.com/media/podcasts/67e7b771-cba5-4165-86ab-257ad1f77ef2/logos/ca2f06ba-67ff-41ec-9e96-798abac0a8a6.png"/><itunes:season>1</itunes:season><itunes:episode>2</itunes:episode><itunes:title>EP.2 What if They Judge Me? How to Build Trust In Yourself</itunes:title><itunes:episodeType>full</itunes:episodeType></item><item><title><![CDATA[Episode 1 You Survived Without Knowing Your Worth. Now What? ]]></title><description><![CDATA[<p>Survival taught you how to get through life. Self-worth teaches you how to stop abandoning yourself while living it. In this episode we are recognizing the survival identity for who she is so that we can move forward with less baggage and a clean slate to do better. </p>]]></description><guid isPermaLink="false">759b6997-5a50-492a-a955-ea60dcd95fe4</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Zada Monroe]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Sun, 11 Oct 2026 01:17:21 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://api.riverside.com/hosting-analytics/media/35341893f64217a02076e66bdcb6574a76850f3a71e712362522281eae5fe19c/eyJlcGlzb2RlSWQiOiI3NTliNjk5Ny01YTUwLTQ5MmEtYTk1NS1lYTYwZGNkOTVmZTQiLCJwb2RjYXN0SWQiOiI2N2U3Yjc3MS1jYmE1LTQxNjUtODZhYi0yNTdhZDFmNzdlZjIiLCJhY2NvdW50SWQiOiI2YWM2NmExMzhmZDhkMjVlYzZlNTVmN2QiLCJwYXRoIjoibWVkaWEvY2xpcHMvNmFjYWQ5M2Y4OWRjMGQ2YTU2YTJmODgyL3phZGEtbW9ucm9lcy1zdHVkaW8tMjAyNi0xMC0xMV9fMS0xNy0yMS5tcDMifQ==.mp3" length="19993643" type="audio/mpeg"/><podcast:transcript url="https://hosting-media.riverside.com/media/podcasts/67e7b771-cba5-4165-86ab-257ad1f77ef2/episodes/759b6997-5a50-492a-a955-ea60dcd95fe4/transcripts.txt" type="text/plain"/><itunes:summary>&lt;p&gt;Survival taught you how to get through life. Self-worth teaches you how to stop abandoning yourself while living it. In this episode we are recognizing the survival identity for who she is so that we can move forward with less baggage and a clean slate to do better. &lt;/p&gt;</itunes:summary><itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit><itunes:duration>00:10:25</itunes:duration><itunes:image href="https://hosting-media.riverside.com/media/podcasts/67e7b771-cba5-4165-86ab-257ad1f77ef2/logos/ca2f06ba-67ff-41ec-9e96-798abac0a8a6.png"/><itunes:season>1</itunes:season><itunes:episode>1</itunes:episode><itunes:title>Episode 1 You Survived Without Knowing Your Worth. Now What? </itunes:title><itunes:episodeType>full</itunes:episodeType></item></channel></rss>