<![CDATA[Don Talk - Conversations with Mike Turner]]>Welcome to Don Talk — Conversations with Mike Turner, where real men have real conversations about life, legacy, leadership, and everything we carry in between.

I’m Mike Turner, and this is a space for conversations that challenge us to think deeper, heal stronger, grow intentionally, and become better men.

Because being a Don isn’t about power. It isn’t about ego or pretending to have all the answers. It’s about responsibility. It’s about growth. It’s about showing up—for ourselves and for the people we love.

We’re talking relationships, mental health, fatherhood, purpose, faith, culture, success, failure, and the things men experience but don’t always know how to say out loud.

And ladies, you’re invited into the conversation too. Because sometimes understanding the men in your life starts with hearing the conversations they don't always have in front of you.

This is Don Talk — Conversations with Mike Turner.

Real Men. Real Talk. Real Life.

]]>https://www.youtube.com/@official_DonTalkRiverside.fm (https://riverside.com)Fri, 11 Sep 2026 00:53:59 GMTThu, 19 Feb 2026 12:43:06 GMT60Don Talk<p>Welcome to <b>Don Talk — Conversations with Mike Turner</b>, where real men have real conversations about life, legacy, leadership, and everything we carry in between.</p><p>I’m Mike Turner, and this is a space for conversations that challenge us to think deeper, heal stronger, grow intentionally, and become better men.</p><p>Because being a Don isn’t about power. It isn’t about ego or pretending to have all the answers. <b>It’s about responsibility. It’s about growth. It’s about showing up—for ourselves and for the people we love.</b></p><p>We’re talking relationships, mental health, fatherhood, purpose, faith, culture, success, failure, and the things men experience but don’t always know how to say out loud.</p><p>And ladies, you’re invited into the conversation too. Because sometimes understanding the men in your life starts with hearing the conversations they don't always have in front of you.</p><p>This is <b>Don Talk — Conversations with Mike Turner.</b></p><p><b>Real Men. Real Talk. Real Life.</b></p>episodicDon Talkofficialdontalk@gmail.comno<![CDATA[We Don’t Have a Black Boy Problem — We Have an Adult Problem]]>What happens to a young Black boy when everyone recognizes what he can DO—but nobody helps him understand who he IS?

Dr. Brian Dinkins went from graduating high school with a 1.9 GPA and arriving at Purdue University focused almost entirely on football to earning five degrees from four universities and dedicating his career to emotional intelligence, education, and helping Black boys thrive.

But that transformation came at a cost.

In this episode of Don Talk — Conversations with Mike Turner, Brian and Mike reconnect decades after their Purdue days for a powerful conversation about identity, athletics, childhood trauma, fatherhood, emotional intelligence, discipline, education, and what Black boys actually need from the adults responsible for developing them.

Brian opens up about losing his football identity, struggling to figure out what came next, discovering the impact of childhood experiences later in adulthood, and learning how emotional intelligence changed the way he understood himself.

The conversation also tackles a bigger question:

Do we really have a problem with children—or do we have a problem with adults who haven't been equipped to understand and develop them?

Brian explains the four components of emotional intelligence, why discipline without emotional awareness can fail children, how men can create healthier emotional outlets, and why Black boys need more than expectations—they need relationships, support, emotional skills, and exposure to identities beyond athletics and entertainment.

This isn't just a conversation about Black boys.

It's about the men they become.

TIMESTAMPS

00:00 — We Don't Have a Child Issue—We Have an Adult Issue
01:52 — Welcome to Don Talk: Dr. Brian Dinkins
03:19 — Purdue Football, Childhood & a 1.9 GPA
06:56 — When Football Becomes Your Entire Identity
09:04 — The Emotional Cost of Waiting for Your Opportunity
10:54 — From 1.9 GPA to Five Degrees
11:55 — “What Did It Cost You?”
12:43 — Men, Mental Health & the “Suck It Up” Generation
14:31 — Finding Purpose After Football
16:28 — What Happens When the Game Ends?
18:49 — Turning an Athlete's Work Ethic Into a Career
20:25 — Discovering Trauma & Emotional Intelligence
22:38 — Becoming What He Needed as a Child
24:34 — The Child We Carry Into Adulthood
26:34 — Mike's Own Journey of Understanding His Younger Self
30:58 — Can Emotional Intelligence & Strict Discipline Coexist?
31:29 — The Four Skills of Emotional Intelligence
35:04 — Why We're Living Through a “Trust Recession”
36:02 — Dr. Dinkins as a Husband & Father
40:23 — Why Men Need Other Men They Can Be Vulnerable With
41:28 — Men, Crying & Emotional Release
43:58 — Finding Healthy Outlets for Anger
45:17 — Knowing When to Walk Away
46:45 — Why Black Men & Black Women Need Better Conversations
49:30 — Understanding Experiences Different From Our Own
51:43 — Locker Room vs. Classroom: Rapid Fire
56:44 — What Football Can Teach Educators
58:03 — What Teachers Can Teach Football Coaches
59:34 — What Do Black Boys Actually Need?
1:02:40 — “We Have an Adult Issue”
1:05:23 — Final Thoughts & Closing

If this conversation gives you something to think about, like the episode, subscribe to Don Talk, and share it with someone who needs to hear it.

Real men. Real talk. Real life.

#DonTalk #BlackBoys #EmotionalIntelligence #MensMentalHealth #BlackMen

]]>8bc5b4dd-d2c4-41f9-af92-88b9b53d826eThu, 10 Sep 2026 13:04:54 GMT<p>What happens to a young Black boy when everyone recognizes what he can DO—but nobody helps him understand who he IS?</p><p></p><p>Dr. Brian Dinkins went from graduating high school with a 1.9 GPA and arriving at Purdue University focused almost entirely on football to earning five degrees from four universities and dedicating his career to emotional intelligence, education, and helping Black boys thrive.</p><p>But that transformation came at a cost.</p><p></p><p>In this episode of <b>Don Talk — Conversations with Mike Turner</b>, Brian and Mike reconnect decades after their Purdue days for a powerful conversation about identity, athletics, childhood trauma, fatherhood, emotional intelligence, discipline, education, and what Black boys actually need from the adults responsible for developing them.</p><p></p><p>Brian opens up about losing his football identity, struggling to figure out what came next, discovering the impact of childhood experiences later in adulthood, and learning how emotional intelligence changed the way he understood himself.</p><p></p><p>The conversation also tackles a bigger question:</p><p><b>Do we really have a problem with children—or do we have a problem with adults who haven't been equipped to understand and develop them?</b></p><p></p><p>Brian explains the four components of emotional intelligence, why discipline without emotional awareness can fail children, how men can create healthier emotional outlets, and why Black boys need more than expectations—they need relationships, support, emotional skills, and exposure to identities beyond athletics and entertainment.</p><p></p><p>This isn't just a conversation about Black boys.</p><p>It's about the men they become.</p><p></p><p><b>TIMESTAMPS</b></p><p>00:00 — We Don't Have a Child Issue—We Have an Adult Issue<br />01:52 — Welcome to Don Talk: Dr. Brian Dinkins<br />03:19 — Purdue Football, Childhood &amp; a 1.9 GPA<br />06:56 — When Football Becomes Your Entire Identity<br />09:04 — The Emotional Cost of Waiting for Your Opportunity<br />10:54 — From 1.9 GPA to Five Degrees<br />11:55 — “What Did It Cost You?”<br />12:43 — Men, Mental Health &amp; the “Suck It Up” Generation<br />14:31 — Finding Purpose After Football<br />16:28 — What Happens When the Game Ends?<br />18:49 — Turning an Athlete's Work Ethic Into a Career<br />20:25 — Discovering Trauma &amp; Emotional Intelligence<br />22:38 — Becoming What He Needed as a Child<br />24:34 — The Child We Carry Into Adulthood<br />26:34 — Mike's Own Journey of Understanding His Younger Self<br />30:58 — Can Emotional Intelligence &amp; Strict Discipline Coexist?<br />31:29 — The Four Skills of Emotional Intelligence<br />35:04 — Why We're Living Through a “Trust Recession”<br />36:02 — Dr. Dinkins as a Husband &amp; Father<br />40:23 — Why Men Need Other Men They Can Be Vulnerable With<br />41:28 — Men, Crying &amp; Emotional Release<br />43:58 — Finding Healthy Outlets for Anger<br />45:17 — Knowing When to Walk Away<br />46:45 — Why Black Men &amp; Black Women Need Better Conversations<br />49:30 — Understanding Experiences Different From Our Own<br />51:43 — Locker Room vs. Classroom: Rapid Fire<br />56:44 — What Football Can Teach Educators<br />58:03 — What Teachers Can Teach Football Coaches<br />59:34 — What Do Black Boys Actually Need?<br />1:02:40 — “We Have an Adult Issue”<br />1:05:23 — Final Thoughts &amp; Closing</p><p></p><p>If this conversation gives you something to think about, <b>like the episode, subscribe to Don Talk, and share it with someone who needs to hear it.</b></p><p>Real men. Real talk. Real life.</p><p></p><p>#DonTalk #BlackBoys #EmotionalIntelligence #MensMentalHealth #BlackMen</p>no01:06:39114We Don’t Have a Black Boy Problem — We Have an Adult Problemfull<![CDATA[Why Men Say “I’m Good” When They’re Not | Carl Donaldson]]>Why do men say “I’m good” when they’re exhausted, angry, overwhelmed, or struggling in their relationships? In this episode of Don Talk, Mike Turner sits down with Dr. Carl Donaldson to explore what happens when men spend years surviving instead of addressing what they’re carrying.

From the pressure to provide and the fear of vulnerability to childhood experiences, fatherhood, and the need for approval, this conversation examines how unresolved stress can become a normal part of everyday life. Mike also shares a personal story about his father, his athletic career, and how seeking approval affected his identity.

Carl discusses his approach to traditional Chinese medicine, Qigong, meditation, and reconnecting with yourself. The conversation also explores the difference between coping and healing, the importance of asking for help, and why taking care of yourself matters for the people who depend on you.

In this episode, we discuss:

  • Why men hide behind “I’m good”
  • Survival mode and the pressure Black men carry
  • Emotional stress, self-awareness, and forgiveness
  • Fatherhood, approval, and breaking generational patterns
  • Qigong, meditation, and traditional Chinese medicine
  • Journaling versus talking things out
  • Sleep, nutrition, and building healthier habits
  • What it means to live according to your own purpose

CHAPTERS
00:00 Why men say “I’m good”
02:12 Rapid-fire: What is real self-care?
08:32 Are men just moving stress from one place to another?
10:35 Surviving versus processing emotions
11:38 Forgiveness and personal responsibility
16:14 Survival mode and the Black male experience
21:43 Carl Donaldson’s background and medical training
24:29 Moving from survival toward thriving
28:25 What the body may reveal about stress
34:27 When prolonged stress starts to feel normal
37:03 Asking for help and exploring healing approaches
41:02 The Alchemy Project and emotional healing
43:17 Generational trauma and epigenetics
45:56 Recognizing patterns that need attention
47:54 Mike’s personal story about seeking approval
51:15 Breath, movement, and Qigong
54:30 “This isn’t going to pay the bills”
55:27 What “I’m good” can really mean
59:00 Healthy or not: Therapy, meditation, and sleep
1:04:15 Golf, Qigong, and taking time for yourself
1:05:15 Journaling versus talking it out
1:21:01 Nutrition and the challenges of changing habits
1:28:47 Closing reflections
1:29:19 The meaning of your birthright

Don Talk is about giving men language for the things they carry in silence. Women are invited into the conversation, too, because understanding each other starts with honest dialogue.

If this conversation resonates, share it with someone who always says they’re good. Subscribe, like, and leave a comment: What is one thing you’ve been carrying that you haven’t made time to address?

Subscribe to Don Talk — Conversations with Mike Turner for more conversations about men’s mental health, relationships, fatherhood, identity, and personal growth.

This episode features the guest’s personal perspectives and traditional medicine practices. It is intended for conversation and education, not as a substitute for qualified medical or mental health care. Do not discontinue prescribed treatment based on this discussion.

#DonTalk #MensMentalHealth #CarlDonaldson #BlackMensMentalHealth #PersonalGrowth

]]>a4ae6e86-0cc7-40b1-bb66-44b3669dcf1fWed, 09 Sep 2026 20:59:54 GMT<p>Why do men say “I’m good” when they’re exhausted, angry, overwhelmed, or struggling in their relationships? In this episode of Don Talk, Mike Turner sits down with Dr. Carl Donaldson to explore what happens when men spend years surviving instead of addressing what they’re carrying.</p><p></p><p>From the pressure to provide and the fear of vulnerability to childhood experiences, fatherhood, and the need for approval, this conversation examines how unresolved stress can become a normal part of everyday life. Mike also shares a personal story about his father, his athletic career, and how seeking approval affected his identity.</p><p></p><p>Carl discusses his approach to traditional Chinese medicine, Qigong, meditation, and reconnecting with yourself. The conversation also explores the difference between coping and healing, the importance of asking for help, and why taking care of yourself matters for the people who depend on you.</p><p></p><p><b>In this episode, we discuss:</b></p><ul><li>Why men hide behind “I’m good”</li><li>Survival mode and the pressure Black men carry</li><li>Emotional stress, self-awareness, and forgiveness</li><li>Fatherhood, approval, and breaking generational patterns</li><li>Qigong, meditation, and traditional Chinese medicine</li><li>Journaling versus talking things out</li><li>Sleep, nutrition, and building healthier habits</li><li>What it means to live according to your own purpose</li></ul><p></p><p><b>CHAPTERS</b><br />00:00 Why men say “I’m good”<br />02:12 Rapid-fire: What is real self-care?<br />08:32 Are men just moving stress from one place to another?<br />10:35 Surviving versus processing emotions<br />11:38 Forgiveness and personal responsibility<br />16:14 Survival mode and the Black male experience<br />21:43 Carl Donaldson’s background and medical training<br />24:29 Moving from survival toward thriving<br />28:25 What the body may reveal about stress<br />34:27 When prolonged stress starts to feel normal<br />37:03 Asking for help and exploring healing approaches<br />41:02 The Alchemy Project and emotional healing<br />43:17 Generational trauma and epigenetics<br />45:56 Recognizing patterns that need attention<br />47:54 Mike’s personal story about seeking approval<br />51:15 Breath, movement, and Qigong<br />54:30 “This isn’t going to pay the bills”<br />55:27 What “I’m good” can really mean<br />59:00 Healthy or not: Therapy, meditation, and sleep<br />1:04:15 Golf, Qigong, and taking time for yourself<br />1:05:15 Journaling versus talking it out<br />1:21:01 Nutrition and the challenges of changing habits<br />1:28:47 Closing reflections<br />1:29:19 The meaning of your birthright</p><p></p><p>Don Talk is about giving men language for the things they carry in silence. Women are invited into the conversation, too, because understanding each other starts with honest dialogue.</p><p></p><p>If this conversation resonates, share it with someone who always says they’re good. Subscribe, like, and leave a comment: <b>What is one thing you’ve been carrying that you haven’t made time to address?</b></p><p>Subscribe to Don Talk — Conversations with Mike Turner for more conversations about men’s mental health, relationships, fatherhood, identity, and personal growth.</p><p></p><p><i>This episode features the guest’s personal perspectives and traditional medicine practices. It is intended for conversation and education, not as a substitute for qualified medical or mental health care. Do not discontinue prescribed treatment based on this discussion.</i></p><p></p><p>#DonTalk #MensMentalHealth #CarlDonaldson #BlackMensMentalHealth #PersonalGrowth</p>no01:33:29114Why Men Say “I’m Good” When They’re Not | Carl Donaldsonfull<![CDATA[Do Men Lose Themselves When They Become Fathers?]]>Do men lose themselves when they become fathers?

Becoming a dad can be one of the greatest experiences of a man’s life — but nobody talks enough about what fatherhood can cost you emotionally.

Your priorities change. Your freedom changes. Your relationships change. And somewhere between providing, protecting, parenting and trying to be the man your family needs, you may start wondering:

Who am I outside of being a father?

In this episode of Don Talk — Conversations with Mike Turner, we have an honest conversation about the side of fatherhood men don't always say out loud.

We talk about:

• Losing your sense of identity after becoming a father
• The anxiety and pressure that comes with raising children
• Why dads sometimes feel guilty for wanting time for themselves
• Balancing fatherhood, relationships and personal fulfillment
• How our own childhood experiences shape the fathers we become
• The emotional support fathers often don't receive
• Whether becoming a parent means giving up part of your freedom
• The complicated feelings of sacrifice, responsibility and even regret
• Why taking care of yourself can actually make you a better father

Fatherhood can give a man tremendous purpose. But that doesn't mean the transition is easy.

Sometimes becoming a good father requires figuring out how to remain a whole man at the same time.

So here's the question:

Can you be a great father without losing the man you were before you had children?

Drop your answer in the comments. Fathers especially — what changed most about YOU after having kids?

If conversations like this matter to you, subscribe to Don Talk and join us for real conversations about fatherhood, relationships, identity, mental health and the things men carry but don't always say.

CHAPTERS

00:00 Reflections on Fatherhood & Future Aspirations
25:00 Parenthood, Identity & Self-Discovery
42:16 The Anxiety of Parenthood
42:59 Fatherhood: A Different Kind of Fun
53:08 The Truth About Parenthood
1:28:41 Self-Care, Guilt & Personal Fulfillment
1:43:23 What Society Expects From Fathers
2:05:28 Regret, Responsibility & Parenthood

#Fatherhood #MensMentalHealth #DadLife #Parenting #BlackFathers #MensHealth #FatherhoodJourney #ModernFatherhood #DonTalk #MikeTurner

]]>a3e72081-399b-463a-ba6f-f279d5dc1a12Thu, 03 Sep 2026 19:25:45 GMT<p>Do men lose themselves when they become fathers?</p><p>Becoming a dad can be one of the greatest experiences of a man’s life — but nobody talks enough about what fatherhood can cost you emotionally.</p><p></p><p>Your priorities change. Your freedom changes. Your relationships change. And somewhere between providing, protecting, parenting and trying to be the man your family needs, you may start wondering:</p><p><b>Who am I outside of being a father?</b></p><p></p><p>In this episode of <b>Don Talk — Conversations with Mike Turner</b>, we have an honest conversation about the side of fatherhood men don't always say out loud.</p><p></p><p>We talk about:</p><p>• Losing your sense of identity after becoming a father<br />• The anxiety and pressure that comes with raising children<br />• Why dads sometimes feel guilty for wanting time for themselves<br />• Balancing fatherhood, relationships and personal fulfillment<br />• How our own childhood experiences shape the fathers we become<br />• The emotional support fathers often don't receive<br />• Whether becoming a parent means giving up part of your freedom<br />• The complicated feelings of sacrifice, responsibility and even regret<br />• Why taking care of yourself can actually make you a better father</p><p></p><p>Fatherhood can give a man tremendous purpose. But that doesn't mean the transition is easy.</p><p>Sometimes becoming a good father requires figuring out how to remain a whole man at the same time.</p><p></p><p><b>So here's the question:</b></p><p>Can you be a great father without losing the man you were before you had children?</p><p></p><p>Drop your answer in the comments. Fathers especially — <b>what changed most about YOU after having kids?</b></p><p></p><p>If conversations like this matter to you, <b>subscribe to Don Talk</b> and join us for real conversations about fatherhood, relationships, identity, mental health and the things men carry but don't always say.</p><p></p><p><b>CHAPTERS</b></p><p>00:00 Reflections on Fatherhood &amp; Future Aspirations<br />25:00 Parenthood, Identity &amp; Self-Discovery<br />42:16 The Anxiety of Parenthood<br />42:59 Fatherhood: A Different Kind of Fun<br />53:08 The Truth About Parenthood<br />1:28:41 Self-Care, Guilt &amp; Personal Fulfillment<br />1:43:23 What Society Expects From Fathers<br />2:05:28 Regret, Responsibility &amp; Parenthood</p><p></p><p>#Fatherhood #MensMentalHealth #DadLife #Parenting #BlackFathers #MensHealth #FatherhoodJourney #ModernFatherhood #DonTalk #MikeTurner</p>no01:14:05113Do Men Lose Themselves When They Become Fathers?full<![CDATA[Stay Strong Bro: The Phrase We Need to Rethink]]>The conversation delves into the importance of male friendship and support, the struggles of finding community and purpose, and the exploration of self-worth and value in relationships. It highlights the need for deeper connections and the impact of societal expectations on self-perception. The conversation delves into the pressure to stay strong, the struggle to find a sense of home and belonging, and the need for emotional outlets. It also explores the themes of seeking purpose and connection, highlighting the challenges and experiences of individuals in navigating these aspects of life.

Takeaways

  • Importance of male friendship and support
  • Struggles with finding community and purpose
  • Self-worth and value in relationships Seeking purpose and connection
  • Struggles with finding a sense of home and belonging
  • The pressure to stay strong and the need for emotional outlets

Chapters

  • 00:00 The Importance of Male Friendship
  • 02:58 Struggles with Finding Community and Purpose
  • 10:11 Self-Worth and Value in Relationships
  • 33:03 The Pressure to Stay Strong
  • 36:20 Struggles with Finding Home and Belonging
  • 45:01 Seeking Purpose and Connection
]]>14c74377-aad7-4d9f-8d08-1b81ae5ee43bTue, 01 Sep 2026 08:55:37 GMT<p>The conversation delves into the importance of male friendship and support, the struggles of finding community and purpose, and the exploration of self-worth and value in relationships. It highlights the need for deeper connections and the impact of societal expectations on self-perception. The conversation delves into the pressure to stay strong, the struggle to find a sense of home and belonging, and the need for emotional outlets. It also explores the themes of seeking purpose and connection, highlighting the challenges and experiences of individuals in navigating these aspects of life.</p><p></p><p>Takeaways</p><ul><li>Importance of male friendship and support</li><li>Struggles with finding community and purpose</li><li>Self-worth and value in relationships Seeking purpose and connection</li><li>Struggles with finding a sense of home and belonging</li><li>The pressure to stay strong and the need for emotional outlets</li></ul><p></p><p>Chapters</p><ul><li>00:00 The Importance of Male Friendship</li><li>02:58 Struggles with Finding Community and Purpose</li><li>10:11 Self-Worth and Value in Relationships</li><li>33:03 The Pressure to Stay Strong</li><li>36:20 Struggles with Finding Home and Belonging</li><li>45:01 Seeking Purpose and Connection</li></ul>no01:07:1218Stay Strong Bro: The Phrase We Need to Rethinkfull<![CDATA[Why Some Men Struggle to Love | Love Languages vs. Survival Languages]]>The conversation delves into personal well-being, financial concerns, self-care, and the impact of societal expectations on self-worth. It also explores the concept of love languages in relationships and the alignment of love languages between partners. The conversation delves into the importance of effective communication, the impact of love languages and survival languages on relationships, and the significance of self-love. It also explores the role of upbringing in shaping one's understanding of love and the distinction between survival and love in relationships. The conversation delves into the nature of love and pain, exploring the concept of survival versus thriving in relationships. It touches on the impact of past experiences, parenting, societal influences, and gender roles on the perception of love and survival mentality. The shift from survival to thriving is emphasized as a key factor in fostering love and growth in relationships.

Takeaways

  • Love languages and survival languages
  • Understanding love languages in relationships Effective communication is key
  • Love languages and survival languages impact relationships Love and pain
  • Survival vs Thriving

Chapters

  • 00:00 Introduction and Co-host Banter
  • 01:08 Checking In: How Are You Doing Today?
  • 02:06 Personal Well-being and Financial Concerns
  • 03:06 Balancing Investments and Family Support
  • 04:16 Prioritizing Self-care and Personal Growth
  • 07:01 Reflection on Achievements and Future Outlook
  • 08:05 Reframing Expectations and Self-worth
  • 10:20 Value Beyond Productivity and Societal Expectations
  • 15:37 Love Languages and Survival Languages Discussion
  • 43:28 Survival vs. Love: Impact on Relationships
  • 46:23 The Nature of Love and Pain
  • 47:48 Pain as a Sign of Growth
  • 49:45 Learning and Growth from Experience
  • 51:07 Shift in Perception of Love and Survival Mentality
  • 53:03 Parenting and Shifting Perspectives on Love and Survival
  • 54:15 Survival Mentality and Parenting
  • 56:27 Forced Survival by Design
  • 58:01 Gender Roles and Survival Mentality
  • 01:01:12 Conflicting Ideologies in Relationships
  • 01:02:05 Thriving and Love
  • 01:06:24 Reflection and Growth in Relationships
]]>1b8982c6-667a-4267-ad55-818216ac8d0dMon, 31 Aug 2026 23:47:56 GMT<p>The conversation delves into personal well-being, financial concerns, self-care, and the impact of societal expectations on self-worth. It also explores the concept of love languages in relationships and the alignment of love languages between partners. The conversation delves into the importance of effective communication, the impact of love languages and survival languages on relationships, and the significance of self-love. It also explores the role of upbringing in shaping one's understanding of love and the distinction between survival and love in relationships. The conversation delves into the nature of love and pain, exploring the concept of survival versus thriving in relationships. It touches on the impact of past experiences, parenting, societal influences, and gender roles on the perception of love and survival mentality. The shift from survival to thriving is emphasized as a key factor in fostering love and growth in relationships.</p><p></p><p>Takeaways</p><ul><li>Love languages and survival languages</li><li>Understanding love languages in relationships Effective communication is key</li><li>Love languages and survival languages impact relationships Love and pain</li><li>Survival vs Thriving</li></ul><p></p><p>Chapters</p><ul><li>00:00 Introduction and Co-host Banter</li><li>01:08 Checking In: How Are You Doing Today?</li><li>02:06 Personal Well-being and Financial Concerns</li><li>03:06 Balancing Investments and Family Support</li><li>04:16 Prioritizing Self-care and Personal Growth</li><li>07:01 Reflection on Achievements and Future Outlook</li><li>08:05 Reframing Expectations and Self-worth</li><li>10:20 Value Beyond Productivity and Societal Expectations</li><li>15:37 Love Languages and Survival Languages Discussion</li><li>43:28 Survival vs. Love: Impact on Relationships</li><li>46:23 The Nature of Love and Pain</li><li>47:48 Pain as a Sign of Growth</li><li>49:45 Learning and Growth from Experience</li><li>51:07 Shift in Perception of Love and Survival Mentality</li><li>53:03 Parenting and Shifting Perspectives on Love and Survival</li><li>54:15 Survival Mentality and Parenting</li><li>56:27 Forced Survival by Design</li><li>58:01 Gender Roles and Survival Mentality</li><li>01:01:12 Conflicting Ideologies in Relationships</li><li>01:02:05 Thriving and Love</li><li>01:06:24 Reflection and Growth in Relationships</li></ul>no01:13:1717Why Some Men Struggle to Love | Love Languages vs. Survival Languagesfull<![CDATA[Code Switching & Identity: Who Are You When You Stop Performing?]]>The conversation explores the concept of code-switching and its impact on personal and professional interactions. It delves into the experience of reverse code-switching and cultural adaptation, highlighting the challenges and nuances of navigating different cultural contexts. The discussion also addresses the changing standards of professionalism and the evolving nature of qualifications and standards in various domains. The conversation delves into the complex topic of code switching, exploring its impact on identity, survival, and cultural authenticity. It also addresses the importance of self-acceptance and the wisdom gained from life experiences. The discussion highlights the role of language, gender, and cultural suppression in the context of code switching, offering valuable insights into the human experience.

Takeaways

  • Code-switching as a form of adaptation
  • The evolving nature of qualifications and standards Code switching as a means of survival
  • The importance of authenticity and self-acceptance

Chapters

  • 00:00 Evolving Qualifications and Standards
  • 32:29 The Art of Code Switching
  • 36:15 The Scene in Roots
  • 42:20 Navigating Gender and Identity
  • 48:26 Cultural Suppression and Success
  • 59:58 The Wisdom of Experience
]]>92e16195-fb9e-4301-a615-2c7ff8288450Mon, 31 Aug 2026 23:42:03 GMT<p>The conversation explores the concept of code-switching and its impact on personal and professional interactions. It delves into the experience of reverse code-switching and cultural adaptation, highlighting the challenges and nuances of navigating different cultural contexts. The discussion also addresses the changing standards of professionalism and the evolving nature of qualifications and standards in various domains. The conversation delves into the complex topic of code switching, exploring its impact on identity, survival, and cultural authenticity. It also addresses the importance of self-acceptance and the wisdom gained from life experiences. The discussion highlights the role of language, gender, and cultural suppression in the context of code switching, offering valuable insights into the human experience.</p><p></p><p>Takeaways</p><ul><li>Code-switching as a form of adaptation</li><li>The evolving nature of qualifications and standards Code switching as a means of survival</li><li>The importance of authenticity and self-acceptance</li></ul><p></p><p>Chapters</p><ul><li>00:00 Evolving Qualifications and Standards</li><li>32:29 The Art of Code Switching</li><li>36:15 The Scene in Roots</li><li>42:20 Navigating Gender and Identity</li><li>48:26 Cultural Suppression and Success</li><li>59:58 The Wisdom of Experience</li></ul>no01:06:4316Code Switching & Identity: Who Are You When You Stop Performing?full<![CDATA[Code Switching to Survive: The Hidden Cost of Being Black in America]]>The conversation delves into the topic of code-switching, exploring its origins, impact, and the need to navigate two worlds. It touches on the concept of safety, the pressure to prove belonging, and the necessity of code-switching in colonized spaces. The speakers share personal experiences and insights, highlighting the challenges and complexities of code-switching. The conversation delves into the concept of code-switching and its impact on personal and professional interactions. It explores the influence of children in shaping behavior, the intersection of professionalism and cultural identity, and the definition of success in different contexts.

Takeaways

  • Safety and the need for acceptance drive the practice of code-switching.
  • Code-switching is a mechanism for success and survival in colonized spaces.
  • The pressure to prove belonging and the impact of code-switching on personal identity are significant aspects of the experience. Code-switching is influenced by the presence of children and the desire to maintain authenticity in their eyes.
  • Professionalism is subjective and often influenced by Eurocentric standards, leading to a lack of authenticity in professional settings.
  • Success is defined differently for each individual, with personal experiences and survival often shaping one's perception of success.

Chapters

  • 00:00 Navigating Two Worlds
  • 32:09 The Influence of Children
  • 33:45 The Impact of Code-Switching on Behavior
  • 35:03 The Art of Cold-Switching and Professionalism
  • 38:04 The Authenticity of Cultural Identity
  • 44:02 The Subjectivity of Professionalism and Success
]]>2a20ff27-54b2-4d06-a9c3-bafedbbd8698Mon, 31 Aug 2026 23:36:00 GMT<p>The conversation delves into the topic of code-switching, exploring its origins, impact, and the need to navigate two worlds. It touches on the concept of safety, the pressure to prove belonging, and the necessity of code-switching in colonized spaces. The speakers share personal experiences and insights, highlighting the challenges and complexities of code-switching. The conversation delves into the concept of code-switching and its impact on personal and professional interactions. It explores the influence of children in shaping behavior, the intersection of professionalism and cultural identity, and the definition of success in different contexts.</p><p></p><p>Takeaways</p><ul><li>Safety and the need for acceptance drive the practice of code-switching.</li><li>Code-switching is a mechanism for success and survival in colonized spaces.</li><li>The pressure to prove belonging and the impact of code-switching on personal identity are significant aspects of the experience. Code-switching is influenced by the presence of children and the desire to maintain authenticity in their eyes.</li><li>Professionalism is subjective and often influenced by Eurocentric standards, leading to a lack of authenticity in professional settings.</li><li>Success is defined differently for each individual, with personal experiences and survival often shaping one's perception of success.</li></ul><p></p><p>Chapters</p><ul><li>00:00 Navigating Two Worlds</li><li>32:09 The Influence of Children</li><li>33:45 The Impact of Code-Switching on Behavior</li><li>35:03 The Art of Cold-Switching and Professionalism</li><li>38:04 The Authenticity of Cultural Identity</li><li>44:02 The Subjectivity of Professionalism and Success</li></ul>no00:58:0115Code Switching to Survive: The Hidden Cost of Being Black in Americafull<![CDATA[Men - Would You Move for Love?]]>The conversation delves into the impact of relocation on relationships, exploring the dynamics of moving for love and career. It highlights the challenges and decisions involved in relocating, as well as the long-term effects on personal and professional lives. The conversation delves into the challenges and personal growth associated with moving for love, as well as the importance of self-acceptance and understanding in relationships. It explores the emotional impact, struggles, and sacrifices involved in making such a move, as well as the significance of personal motivation and self-encouragement. The themes of acceptance, support, and individuality in relationships are also highlighted, along with the power of words and the impact of conditional love and acceptance.

Takeaways

  • Relocating for love and career
  • The impact of relocation on relationships Moving for love
  • Personal growth and self-acceptance

Chapters

  • 00:00 Relocating for Love and Career
  • 01:02:25 Personal Growth and Self-Reflection
]]>4214d3da-9697-47d1-8ed9-30e6840967b6Mon, 31 Aug 2026 23:29:29 GMT<p>The conversation delves into the impact of relocation on relationships, exploring the dynamics of moving for love and career. It highlights the challenges and decisions involved in relocating, as well as the long-term effects on personal and professional lives. The conversation delves into the challenges and personal growth associated with moving for love, as well as the importance of self-acceptance and understanding in relationships. It explores the emotional impact, struggles, and sacrifices involved in making such a move, as well as the significance of personal motivation and self-encouragement. The themes of acceptance, support, and individuality in relationships are also highlighted, along with the power of words and the impact of conditional love and acceptance.</p><p></p><p>Takeaways</p><ul><li>Relocating for love and career</li><li>The impact of relocation on relationships Moving for love</li><li>Personal growth and self-acceptance</li></ul><p></p><p>Chapters</p><ul><li>00:00 Relocating for Love and Career</li><li>01:02:25 Personal Growth and Self-Reflection</li></ul>no01:03:1014Men - Would You Move for Love?full<![CDATA[Daughter, Women and the Way We Show Up]]>The conversation delves into the impact of daughters on men's self-perception and the dynamics of fatherhood in relation to daughters. It explores the transformative effect of daughters on men's self-perception and the unique challenges and responsibilities of fatherhood in raising daughters. The conversation delves into the philosophy of parenting and the importance of inclusion, openness, and interaction in a child's development. It also explores the impact of childhood experiences on adult behavior and the process of self-reflection and growth. The dialogue highlights the significance of vulnerability and the role of impactful words in shaping personal growth. The conversation delves into the impact of past experiences on relationships, highlighting a pivotal moment that changed the approach to women. It also explores the power of a woman's words and the influence of a daughter on personal growth and resilience.

Takeaways

  • Fatherhood and daughter relationships
  • The impact of daughters on men's self-perception Parenting with openness and inclusion
  • Reflecting on childhood experiences The impact of past experiences on relationships
  • The power of a woman's words

Chapters

  • 00:00 The Impact of Daughters on Men's Self-Perception
  • 03:42 Fatherhood and Daughter Relationships
  • 23:09 Parenting Philosophy and Inclusion
  • 26:24 Teaching Life Skills Through Interaction
  • 27:38 Parenting Styles and Self-Reflection
  • 30:01 Recognizing Flaws and Growth
  • 35:40 Vulnerability and Self-Improvement
  • 42:13 Impactful Words and Personal Growth
  • 48:12 The Impact of Past Experiences
  • 55:48 The Power of a Woman's Words
  • 01:09:54 The Influence of a Daughter
]]>ab99fb29-3de3-4ffa-b1c9-bc3086ae44a2Mon, 31 Aug 2026 23:22:44 GMT<p>The conversation delves into the impact of daughters on men's self-perception and the dynamics of fatherhood in relation to daughters. It explores the transformative effect of daughters on men's self-perception and the unique challenges and responsibilities of fatherhood in raising daughters. The conversation delves into the philosophy of parenting and the importance of inclusion, openness, and interaction in a child's development. It also explores the impact of childhood experiences on adult behavior and the process of self-reflection and growth. The dialogue highlights the significance of vulnerability and the role of impactful words in shaping personal growth. The conversation delves into the impact of past experiences on relationships, highlighting a pivotal moment that changed the approach to women. It also explores the power of a woman's words and the influence of a daughter on personal growth and resilience.</p><p></p><p>Takeaways</p><ul><li>Fatherhood and daughter relationships</li><li>The impact of daughters on men's self-perception Parenting with openness and inclusion</li><li>Reflecting on childhood experiences The impact of past experiences on relationships</li><li>The power of a woman's words</li></ul><p></p><p>Chapters</p><ul><li>00:00 The Impact of Daughters on Men's Self-Perception</li><li>03:42 Fatherhood and Daughter Relationships</li><li>23:09 Parenting Philosophy and Inclusion</li><li>26:24 Teaching Life Skills Through Interaction</li><li>27:38 Parenting Styles and Self-Reflection</li><li>30:01 Recognizing Flaws and Growth</li><li>35:40 Vulnerability and Self-Improvement</li><li>42:13 Impactful Words and Personal Growth</li><li>48:12 The Impact of Past Experiences</li><li>55:48 The Power of a Woman's Words</li><li>01:09:54 The Influence of a Daughter</li></ul>no01:16:4313Daughter, Women and the Way We Show Upfull<![CDATA[Breaking the Strong Black Male Myth]]>The conversation delves into the myth of the strong black man and the impact of societal expectations on emotional expression. It explores the origins of emotional suppression, the impact of emotional suppression on mental health, the role of emotional expression in relationships, and the societal and cultural influence on emotional expression. Additionally, it discusses the need for emotional intelligence and support, the challenge of societal expectations, the importance of emotional release, and the response to emotional expression. The conversation delves into the importance of embracing and expressing emotions for a meaningful life. It explores the role of strength, protection, and emotional security, as well as the biblical perspective on emotions. The discussion also highlights the need for emotional support and empathy among men, challenging traditional gender norms. The conversation delves into the importance of open and honest communication, the impact of isolation, the role of friends in decision-making, the influence of media and music, the importance of real conversations, and the definition of true friendship. It emphasizes the need for supportive and understanding friendships and the significance of vulnerability in relationships.

Takeaways

  • Emotional suppression in men
  • Impact of societal expectations on emotional expression Embracing and expressing emotions is essential for a meaningful and full life.
  • Men are often taught to be protectors and providers, but emotional security is equally important. Importance of open and honest conversations
  • The need for supportive and understanding friendships

Chapters

  • 00:00 The Myth of the Strong Black Man
  • 02:58 The Origins of Emotional Suppression
  • 06:02 The Impact of Emotional Suppression
  • 09:06 The Role of Emotional Expression in Relationships
  • 11:52 The Societal and Cultural Influence on Emotional Expression
  • 15:09 The Need for Emotional Intelligence and Support
  • 17:57 The Challenge of Societal Expectations
  • 21:05 The Importance of Emotional Release
  • 23:56 The Response to Emotional Expression
  • 27:35 Embracing Emotions for a Meaningful Life
  • 28:32 Teaching Emotional Resilience to Children
  • 29:21 The Importance of Allowing Emotions
  • 30:13 Supporting Emotional Expression
  • 38:25 The Role of Strength and Protection
  • 40:40 The Biblical Perspective on Emotions
  • 42:26 Defining Protection and Emotional Security
  • 45:37 Perception and Self-Image
  • 50:31 The Need for Emotional Support Among Men
  • 52:13 The Need for Vulnerability
  • 52:45 The Impact of Isolation
  • 53:14 The Role of Friends in Decision-Making
  • 56:36 The Influence of Media and Music
  • 57:36 The Importance of Real Conversations
  • 01:14:33 The Definition of True Friendship
]]>32465699-7a51-4b3f-8ef4-5a3039104414Mon, 31 Aug 2026 23:07:13 GMT<p>The conversation delves into the myth of the strong black man and the impact of societal expectations on emotional expression. It explores the origins of emotional suppression, the impact of emotional suppression on mental health, the role of emotional expression in relationships, and the societal and cultural influence on emotional expression. Additionally, it discusses the need for emotional intelligence and support, the challenge of societal expectations, the importance of emotional release, and the response to emotional expression. The conversation delves into the importance of embracing and expressing emotions for a meaningful life. It explores the role of strength, protection, and emotional security, as well as the biblical perspective on emotions. The discussion also highlights the need for emotional support and empathy among men, challenging traditional gender norms. The conversation delves into the importance of open and honest communication, the impact of isolation, the role of friends in decision-making, the influence of media and music, the importance of real conversations, and the definition of true friendship. It emphasizes the need for supportive and understanding friendships and the significance of vulnerability in relationships.</p><p></p><p>Takeaways</p><ul><li>Emotional suppression in men</li><li>Impact of societal expectations on emotional expression Embracing and expressing emotions is essential for a meaningful and full life.</li><li>Men are often taught to be protectors and providers, but emotional security is equally important. Importance of open and honest conversations</li><li>The need for supportive and understanding friendships</li></ul><p></p><p>Chapters</p><ul><li>00:00 The Myth of the Strong Black Man</li><li>02:58 The Origins of Emotional Suppression</li><li>06:02 The Impact of Emotional Suppression</li><li>09:06 The Role of Emotional Expression in Relationships</li><li>11:52 The Societal and Cultural Influence on Emotional Expression</li><li>15:09 The Need for Emotional Intelligence and Support</li><li>17:57 The Challenge of Societal Expectations</li><li>21:05 The Importance of Emotional Release</li><li>23:56 The Response to Emotional Expression</li><li>27:35 Embracing Emotions for a Meaningful Life</li><li>28:32 Teaching Emotional Resilience to Children</li><li>29:21 The Importance of Allowing Emotions</li><li>30:13 Supporting Emotional Expression</li><li>38:25 The Role of Strength and Protection</li><li>40:40 The Biblical Perspective on Emotions</li><li>42:26 Defining Protection and Emotional Security</li><li>45:37 Perception and Self-Image</li><li>50:31 The Need for Emotional Support Among Men</li><li>52:13 The Need for Vulnerability</li><li>52:45 The Impact of Isolation</li><li>53:14 The Role of Friends in Decision-Making</li><li>56:36 The Influence of Media and Music</li><li>57:36 The Importance of Real Conversations</li><li>01:14:33 The Definition of True Friendship</li></ul>no01:18:1512Breaking the Strong Black Male Mythfull<![CDATA[Manhood, Relationships, and Trauma]]>The conversation delves into the impact of childhood experiences on adult behavior, the role of communication in relationships, recognizing and addressing triggers, personal views on infidelity and marriage, and the influence of family on views of marriage and relationships. The discussion highlights the importance of honesty in relationships and the lasting impact of childhood experiences on adult behavior. The conversation delves into the deep emotional journey of two individuals, exploring vulnerability, reframing masculinity, and navigating emotional growth. It uncovers past trauma, addresses the impact of father-son relationships, and emphasizes the healing power of forgiveness. The meaning of 'Don Talk' is revealed, and personal stories are shared, aiming to uplift and inspire others.

Takeaways

  • Honesty in relationships
  • Impact of childhood experiences on adult behavior Embracing vulnerability
  • Reframing masculinity
  • Navigating emotional growth

Chapters

  • 00:00 Influence of Family on Views of Marriage and Relationships
  • 33:29 The Bond Between Two People
  • 34:23 Uncovering Past Trauma
  • 36:27 Father-Son Relationship
  • 39:23 Dealing with Traumatic Experiences
  • 40:25 The Need for Expression
  • 44:03 The Healing Power of Forgiveness
  • 51:15 Facing Fear and Overcoming It
  • 55:56 The Meaning of 'Don Talk'
  • 01:02:05 Sharing Personal Stories
  • 01:05:56 Redefining Masculinity
]]>b99fec1a-8002-4091-848c-eb597295729bMon, 31 Aug 2026 23:00:11 GMT<p>The conversation delves into the impact of childhood experiences on adult behavior, the role of communication in relationships, recognizing and addressing triggers, personal views on infidelity and marriage, and the influence of family on views of marriage and relationships. The discussion highlights the importance of honesty in relationships and the lasting impact of childhood experiences on adult behavior. The conversation delves into the deep emotional journey of two individuals, exploring vulnerability, reframing masculinity, and navigating emotional growth. It uncovers past trauma, addresses the impact of father-son relationships, and emphasizes the healing power of forgiveness. The meaning of 'Don Talk' is revealed, and personal stories are shared, aiming to uplift and inspire others.</p><p></p><p>Takeaways</p><ul><li>Honesty in relationships</li><li>Impact of childhood experiences on adult behavior Embracing vulnerability</li><li>Reframing masculinity</li><li>Navigating emotional growth</li></ul><p></p><p>Chapters</p><ul><li>00:00 Influence of Family on Views of Marriage and Relationships</li><li>33:29 The Bond Between Two People</li><li>34:23 Uncovering Past Trauma</li><li>36:27 Father-Son Relationship</li><li>39:23 Dealing with Traumatic Experiences</li><li>40:25 The Need for Expression</li><li>44:03 The Healing Power of Forgiveness</li><li>51:15 Facing Fear and Overcoming It</li><li>55:56 The Meaning of 'Don Talk'</li><li>01:02:05 Sharing Personal Stories</li><li>01:05:56 Redefining Masculinity</li></ul>no01:08:3511Manhood, Relationships, and Traumafull<![CDATA[Survival Mode is Destroying Men and Most Don't Even Know They're In It]]>The conversation explores the concept of survival mode and its impact on men's lives. It delves into the signs and characteristics of survival mode, as well as the methods for recognizing and addressing it. The guests share their personal experiences and approaches to dealing with survival mode, offering insights and strategies for self-assessment and transformation. The conversation delves into the impact of survival mode on individuals, the correlation between achievement and survival mode, and the long-term health effects of staying in survival mode. It also explores the emotional and physical toll of survival mode, the importance of self-care, and the need for regular health screenings.

Takeaways

  • Survival mode can manifest as feeling mentally overloaded, avoiding important decisions, overthinking simple choices, and struggling to rest without guilt.
  • Recognizing the signs of survival mode and understanding its impact is crucial for self-assessment and transformation.
  • Approaches to addressing survival mode include self-assessment tools, therapy, and a structured program for rebuilding and reinforcing new behaviors. Survival mode can have a significant impact on an individual's emotional and physical well-being.
  • Achievement can serve as an umbrella that hides individuals behind survival mode, and long-term health effects of staying in survival mode can be detrimental.

Chapters

  • 00:00 Introduction and Sipping on Beverages
  • 01:19 Life and Well-Being Check-In
  • 04:53 The Impact of Survival Mode
  • 20:48 Recognizing Survival Mode
  • 26:27 The Impact of Survival Mode
  • 35:11 Achievement and Survival Mode
  • 43:24 Long-Term Health Effects
]]>30f79de4-0437-4203-b708-204e20db8250Mon, 31 Aug 2026 20:00:28 GMT<p>The conversation explores the concept of survival mode and its impact on men's lives. It delves into the signs and characteristics of survival mode, as well as the methods for recognizing and addressing it. The guests share their personal experiences and approaches to dealing with survival mode, offering insights and strategies for self-assessment and transformation. The conversation delves into the impact of survival mode on individuals, the correlation between achievement and survival mode, and the long-term health effects of staying in survival mode. It also explores the emotional and physical toll of survival mode, the importance of self-care, and the need for regular health screenings.</p><p></p><p>Takeaways</p><ul><li>Survival mode can manifest as feeling mentally overloaded, avoiding important decisions, overthinking simple choices, and struggling to rest without guilt.</li><li>Recognizing the signs of survival mode and understanding its impact is crucial for self-assessment and transformation.</li><li>Approaches to addressing survival mode include self-assessment tools, therapy, and a structured program for rebuilding and reinforcing new behaviors. Survival mode can have a significant impact on an individual's emotional and physical well-being.</li><li>Achievement can serve as an umbrella that hides individuals behind survival mode, and long-term health effects of staying in survival mode can be detrimental.</li></ul><p></p><p>Chapters</p><ul><li>00:00 Introduction and Sipping on Beverages</li><li>01:19 Life and Well-Being Check-In</li><li>04:53 The Impact of Survival Mode</li><li>20:48 Recognizing Survival Mode</li><li>26:27 The Impact of Survival Mode</li><li>35:11 Achievement and Survival Mode</li><li>43:24 Long-Term Health Effects</li></ul>no00:51:0419Survival Mode is Destroying Men and Most Don't Even Know They're In Itfull<![CDATA[The Silent Struggle of Dads No One Talks About]]>What happens to a man's identity when he becomes a dad? We often discuss how men raise their children, but we rarely talk about what fatherhood does to the man himself.
In this episode of Don Talk, hosts Mike Turner and Dar’Ron sit down with R. Manasseh Thornton—author of Uncharted Territory, social-work professional, and longtime stay-at-home dad. Together, they dive into a funny, vulnerable, and uncomfortable conversation about modern fatherhood, identity loss, sacrifice, purpose, and men's mental health.
Manasseh describes becoming a father as the ultimate "murdering of the ego"—a moment when personal dreams, freedom, and mental health take a back seat to the responsibilities of being a provider and protector. Years later, as his sons grow up, he faces the silent struggle many men experience: "Who am I now?"
If you have ever felt like you lost yourself in parenting, or wondered how to balance being a good father with pursuing your own goals, this episode is for you. You can love your children and still miss your pre-kid freedom.

🕒 CHAPTERS / TIMESTAMPS
0:00 - What happens to a man when he becomes a father?
02:15 - The stay-at-home dad reality & identity loss
05:40 - Overcoming anxiety, pressure, and the "murdering of the ego"
09:10 - Raising teenagers and breaking generational trauma in parenting
13:35 - Marriage, money, sports, and the rising cost of raising kids
17:20 - How to find your purpose and dream again after kids grow up

📌 WHAT WE TALK ABOUT IN THIS EPISODE:

* Losing and rediscovering your identity after becoming a dad
* Why fathers put their dreams on hold for their families
* The reality of being a stay-at-home father and dealing with isolation
* Fatherhood, responsibility, anxiety, and finding your purpose
* Why becoming a dad makes a man more serious, driven, and protective
* Raising teenagers and learning to parent differently than your own father did
* Missing your pre-kid freedom without regretting your children
* Finding the courage to dream again when your kids no longer need you the same way

Once his children became self-sufficient, Manasseh began searching for that creative "wind" again. This isn't a conversation about fathers abandoning responsibility. It's about recognizing that Dad is still a man underneath the title.
💬 JOIN THE CONVERSATION:

* Fathers: Who were YOU before you became a dad, and how much of that man still exists today? Drop your thoughts below.
* Women: Ask the father in your life this question, and really listen to his answer.

🎙️ ABOUT DON TALK:
Real Men. Real Life. Real Talk. Subscribe for honest conversations about men's mental health, fatherhood advice, relationship dynamics, modern masculinity, identity, purpose, emotional healing, and the silent struggles men carry.

#Fatherhood #MensMentalHealth #DadLife #MensMentalHealthMatters #DonTalk #FatherhoodJourney #ParentingTipsForDads #StayAtHomeDad #Masculinity #IdentityCrisis #DadsOfInstagram #NewDad Tips #RaisingTeenagers #MensCoaching

]]>202806af-ec91-4310-9565-4c6346a5b570Mon, 31 Aug 2026 16:02:59 GMT<p>What happens to a man's identity when he becomes a dad? We often discuss how men raise their children, but we rarely talk about what fatherhood does to the man himself.<br />In this episode of Don Talk, hosts Mike Turner and Dar’Ron sit down with R. Manasseh Thornton—author of Uncharted Territory, social-work professional, and longtime stay-at-home dad. Together, they dive into a funny, vulnerable, and uncomfortable conversation about modern fatherhood, identity loss, sacrifice, purpose, and men's mental health.<br />Manasseh describes becoming a father as the ultimate "murdering of the ego"—a moment when personal dreams, freedom, and mental health take a back seat to the responsibilities of being a provider and protector. Years later, as his sons grow up, he faces the silent struggle many men experience: "Who am I now?"<br />If you have ever felt like you lost yourself in parenting, or wondered how to balance being a good father with pursuing your own goals, this episode is for you. You can love your children and still miss your pre-kid freedom.<br /><br />🕒 CHAPTERS / TIMESTAMPS<br />0:00 - What happens to a man when he becomes a father?<br />02:15 - The stay-at-home dad reality &amp; identity loss<br />05:40 - Overcoming anxiety, pressure, and the "murdering of the ego"<br />09:10 - Raising teenagers and breaking generational trauma in parenting<br />13:35 - Marriage, money, sports, and the rising cost of raising kids<br />17:20 - How to find your purpose and dream again after kids grow up<br /><br />📌 WHAT WE TALK ABOUT IN THIS EPISODE:<br /><br />* Losing and rediscovering your identity after becoming a dad<br />* Why fathers put their dreams on hold for their families<br />* The reality of being a stay-at-home father and dealing with isolation<br />* Fatherhood, responsibility, anxiety, and finding your purpose<br />* Why becoming a dad makes a man more serious, driven, and protective<br />* Raising teenagers and learning to parent differently than your own father did<br />* Missing your pre-kid freedom without regretting your children<br />* Finding the courage to dream again when your kids no longer need you the same way<br /><br />Once his children became self-sufficient, Manasseh began searching for that creative "wind" again. This isn't a conversation about fathers abandoning responsibility. It's about recognizing that Dad is still a man underneath the title.<br />💬 JOIN THE CONVERSATION:<br /><br />* Fathers: Who were YOU before you became a dad, and how much of that man still exists today? Drop your thoughts below.<br />* Women: Ask the father in your life this question, and really listen to his answer.<br /><br />🎙️ ABOUT DON TALK:<br />Real Men. Real Life. Real Talk. Subscribe for honest conversations about men's mental health, fatherhood advice, relationship dynamics, modern masculinity, identity, purpose, emotional healing, and the silent struggles men carry.<br /><br />#Fatherhood #MensMentalHealth #DadLife #MensMentalHealthMatters #DonTalk #FatherhoodJourney #ParentingTipsForDads #StayAtHomeDad #Masculinity #IdentityCrisis #DadsOfInstagram #NewDad Tips #RaisingTeenagers #MensCoaching</p>no01:06:30110The Silent Struggle of Dads No One Talks Aboutfull