Key Takeaways

• Chronic stress can masquerade as hormonal or age-related decline. Brain fog, physical fatigue, and poor sleep are often signs of years of accumulated stress rather than simply getting older.
• Nobody is coming to save you. Change only happened for Daniel when he stopped waiting and started creating the conditions for it, beginning with a spontaneous 30-minute meditation in Bali inspired by Dr Joe Dispenza.
• The world does not have an information problem, it has an understanding problem. We are bombarded constantly, but rarely given tools to filter what is actually relevant to us personally.
• Social media is not relaxation. Scrolling feels passive but it is controlled, addictive, and designed to keep you buying. Becoming conscious of that is the first step to taking back control.
• Personality shapes your health journey. Two people given the same health plan will get different results if it does not account for how they individually think, make decisions, and stay motivated.
• We are building a diagnostic tool together rooted in behavioural intelligence that creates a personalised health roadmap based on who you are, not just what you should do.
• Meditation gave Daniel the answer to a business problem he could not crack logically. Quieting the mind creates space for solutions that thinking harder never will.

Timestamps

00:09 Introduction and how Daniel felt a year ago
01:15 Chronic stress, brain fog and waking up exhausted
02:30 Realising nobody is coming to save you
04:41 The Bali moment and discovering Dr Joe Dispenza
06:10 Jo's experience at a Joe Dispenza retreat in Dallas
08:00 Heart rate, measurement and the value of meditation
09:30 The world's information problem vs understanding problem
11:00 How social media controls what you see and why
13:00 Introducing profiletest.ai and behavioural intelligence
16:30 The frightening reality of ill health in later life
17:15 The diagnostic tool we are building together
21:00 Why personalised pathways beat generic advice
24:00 Measuring progress and predicting outcomes over time
26:30 Social media as false relaxation and the dopamine trap
29:00 How meditation unlocked a major business breakthrough
31:00 What is coming next and where to follow the podcast

About This Episode

We are officially in pre-holiday mode and could not be more excited. In this episode, we walk you through our upcoming three-stage South of France adventure — a proper bucket list trip involving an Aston Martin, a Harley Davidson, lavender fields, Michelin-level dining, and a villa with views that go both ways across the peninsula. We cover the full itinerary, the five things we are each most looking forward to, and the challenges (some of them genuinely stressful) we have had to navigate just to get here.

Key Takeaways

• Sometimes you have to stop waiting for the "right time" and just do the thing — especially when funerals start reminding you that rainy days are not guaranteed
• Packing for three completely different modes of travel (sports car, motorbike, villa) in one trip is a logistical challenge nobody warns you about
• A golf ball through the rear window of an Aston Martin, handled by the wrong windscreen company, can spiral into a two-month ordeal and a Skoda Fabia as a courtesy car
• The "I've got nothing to wear" crisis hits differently when your entire wardrobe has to fit in a motorcycle pannier
• Taking your partner to places you have only ever been to with your mates is both exciting and slightly terrifying

Timestamps

00:10 – Introduction and why we are calling this Part One

00:45 – The three-stage holiday overview: Aston Martin road trip, Harley Davidson tour, villa wind-down

01:30 – Bucket list thinking: do it now before the runway runs out

02:32 – Full itinerary breakdown: Folkestone to Burgundy, Provence, Gorges du Verdon, lavender fields, Isle sur la Sorgue, Bandol, and the villa near Saint-Tropez

09:33 – Day one detail: the Eurotunnel, EES nerves, and the long haul south

12:01 – First day on the Harley: Whispering Angel vineyard, Gorges du Verdon, and 38-degree heat in bike gear

16:39 – Call to action: please like, follow, subscribe and share

17:30 – Top five things we are each most looking forward to: meals, unique activities, places, views, surprises, and the wind-down

23:34 – Chateau de la Massadier, Matsuhisa restaurant, and why this venue is about to be very famous (White Lotus fans, take note)

26:00 – The Chateau Leoub discovery: Daylesford, a coffee table book, and a beach club lunch that became a must-do

29:00 – Pre-holiday wardrobe crises, packing in miniature, and the bikini vs swimsuit debate

32:59 – The golf ball incident: how a shattered rear window nearly derailed the entire trip

35:30 – Wrap-up and what to expect in Part Two when we report back on whether it all lived up to the hype

Key Takeaways

• 25% of late night venues in the UK closed between 2020 and 2025, largely in the wake of COVID
• The V&A's Lost Music Venues exhibition (on until summer 2027, second floor) celebrates 50 significant UK venues that are gone forever
• Several iconic London venues including the Astoria, LA2 and the Borderline were lost to the Elizabeth line development
• Festival lineups from the late 90s and early 2000s were genuinely extraordinary compared to today
• The Somerset area around Frome, Bruton and Pilton is seeing a revival of smaller, intimate gig venues
• The best way to do a festival? Five-star hotel or a rock star motorhome. Camping is optional.

Timestamps

• 00:00 - Introduction: Glastonbury's fallow year explained
• 02:32 - The V&A Lost Music Venues exhibition
• 03:30 - The Astoria, Borderline and venues lost to the Elizabeth line
• 04:00 - Brixton Academy, Simon Parkes and being filmed in a Frankie Goes to Hollywood video
• 08:00 - Sydney in the 80s: intimate venues and celebrity encounters
• 10:30 - Hammersmith Palais and Knebworth 1986 (Queen, Big Country, Status Quo)
• 13:00 - Glastonbury 1987: sneaking in through farmers' fields, a police roadblock and a friend who later became a vicar
• 19:00 - V Festival 1997: an insane two-day lineup and a snoring tent companion
• 21:00 - Rock en Seine, Paris: the bougie festival experience done right
• 25:30 - V Festival 2002 stag do: Fatboy Slim and Zoe Ball's Glastonbury motorhome
• 29:30 - Reading Festival 2002: one song into the Foo Fighters and a tactical retreat
• 33:00 - The Somerset venue revival and upcoming Jo Whiley gig in Frome

Key Takeaways

• Rivals (Disney+) is the nostalgic 80s romp we didn't know we needed, with a killer soundtrack and a Waitrose food collab to match
• Alice and Steve (Disney+) tackles age gap relationships with award-winning credentials before it even lands
• Ted Lasso Season 4 (Apple TV+) is back with a feel-good twist, this time centred around a women's squad
• Ride or Die (Amazon Prime, 15 July) sees Hannah Waddingham go full action hero, and it sparked a streaming platform bidding war

Timestamps

00:09 - Introduction and what inspired today's episode

01:00 - Rivals (Disney+): overview, cast and 80s nostalgia

05:00 - The Rivals soundtrack, brand partnerships and Waitrose collab

07:30 - Characters we love in Rivals, fashions we did (and didn't) wear

11:30 - Alice and Steve (Disney+): plot, cast and why we're excited

14:00 - Who is Jermaine Clement? Flight of the Conchords and What We Do in the Shadows

16:30 - Age gap relationships and why this show goes there

17:30 - Please like, follow and subscribe! And tell us what you're watching

18:10 - Ted Lasso Season 4 (Apple TV+): the women's squad twist, cast and big unanswered questions

22:30 - Ride or Die (Amazon Prime): Hannah Waddingham as an international spy, Bill Nighy guest stars, out 15 July

If there is a series you think we have missed, drop us a message and tell us what you are watching and why you love it. Find us on Spotify, Apple, Deezer, Audible and YouTube.

Key Takeaways:

• Sleep problems in midlife aren't always hormonal. Chronic high cortisol can suppress melatonin and tank your neurotransmitters (dopamine, serotonin) long before your HRT needs adjusting
• The Dutch test (dried urine comprehensive hormone panel) reveals cortisol patterns, neurotransmitter impact and sex hormones together, giving a far clearer picture than standard blood work
• High-intensity evening exercise spikes cortisol right when your body needs to wind down. Swap it for strength training or yoga
• Your first hour after waking matters: skip immediate coffee, get natural light and eat before you exercise
• Progesterone is chronically underprescribed in the UK. Low progesterone means low GABA, which means an overactive brain at 3am
• Fatty liver disease affects an estimated 70% of midlife people and largely goes undiagnosed. Ask for markers at your next blood test or request a look during any abdominal ultrasound
• Women spend roughly 25% of their lives in poor health. Decisions made in your 40s and 50s directly shape your health span

Timestamps:

• 00:09 Introducing Kate Thompson, the Hormone Geek
• 01:10 Kate's backstory: city career, fertility, perimenopause, and retraining
• 02:24 What a first consultation looks like; why women present with weight gain but leave with a fuller picture
• 03:30 The Dutch test explained: cortisol, sex hormones, and neurotransmitters in one panel
• 04:45 Jo's case: blood sugar monitor ruled out, Dutch test ordered
• 05:45 What Jo's results actually showed (spoiler: it wasn't the HRT)
• 07:20 Progesterone, GABA and the 3am wide-awake brain
• 09:16 Four weeks in: real-world results amid a genuinely stressful period
• 13:00 Why midlife changes everything: oestrogen drop, visceral fat, cortisol receptors, muscle mass
• 14:10 A male CEO case study: what late-stage burnout actually looks like
• 16:00 The exercise problem: why HIIT addicts are often the most cortisol-depleted
• 17:30 Strength training for women and men: testosterone, decision-making, and longevity
• 18:32 Success stories and the 12-week programme philosophy
• 19:45 Simple morning habits: light, smoothie, then coffee; no phone as your first screen
• 21:30 Evening routine: dimmed lights, early eating, no late cardio
• 23:09 8,000 steps and why walking without your phone is stress medicine
• 25:00 The Diet Coke trap: why artificial sweetness makes you crave the real thing
• 26:00 New research on food texture and post-lunch sugar cravings
• 28:00 Longevity vs health span: women live longer but spend more years unwell
• 29:30 Fatty liver disease: the silent midlife epidemic and how to check for it

https://www.instagram.com/thehormonegeek/

https://www.thehormonegeek.co.uk/

Key Takeaways

Black isn't always your friend. As skin softens with age, black absorbs light and creates shadows around the face, accelerating the appearance of aging. Navy blue is the universal alternative that works for virtually everyone.

Know your undertone. The key question is whether your skin tone is warm or cool, which determines whether you reach for ivory or pure white, olive green or teal, warm reds or cool blues.

A capsule wardrobe is simpler than you think. Aim for 25 to 40 core pieces built around 4 to 5 investment colours that all work together, then layer in statement pieces on top.

About 70% of most people's wardrobes go unworn. A wardrobe edit cuts the noise, reveals what you actually have, and often generates more outfits from fewer pieces.

Smart casual is where people struggle most. Most people can do formal and casual, but the middle ground is where a stylist adds the most value.

Fit and fabric matter more than trends. As men age cut and quality of fabric become the priority. A well-tailored classic piece will outlast any trend.

Clothes are a confidence tool, not a vanity project. Particularly through menopause and major life transitions, what you wear directly affects how you carry yourself and how others respond to you.

Start with the basics, literally. Underwear, bra fit and t-shirt weight are the foundation everything else is built on.

Timestamps

00:11 Introduction and why we all love black

02:32 The ageing effect of black and why navy wins

04:47 How knowing your colours shortcuts the shopping experience

07:09 Starting a wardrobe edit: body shape, underwear, and investment pieces

09:29 Kevin's colours, warm vs cool skin tones, and the role of hair colour

11:54 Jo's colour palette and why navy is the most versatile neutral

13:30 How clothes transform confidence, especially post-menopause

16:35 Dressing your age vs dressing for your body now

18:29 Common mistakes men make and where style tends to slip

20:49 Smart casual as the trickiest category and how to nail it

23:10 How a wardrobe edit actually works, start to finish

27:47 The emotional weight of clothes and how Emma handles it

32:19 The ripple effect of a style transformation on those around you

33:30 How many pieces make a capsule wardrobe

34:45 Go-to high street brands for men and women

37:09 Why shopping in person still matters and where to find Emma

 https://emma-davison.co.uk/

Key Takeaways

• Activity creates connection; men in particular open up when united around something physical
• Making friends as an older adult is awkward, and that's normal; push through it anyway
• The Top 10 aren't a checklist; pick what works for you, and use them to support others too
• Shared experience > proximity; it's not having friends, it's actually spending time with them

Timestamps

00:09 — Welcome & intro: Mental Health Awareness Week 2025 theme is Action

00:45 — The charity ball: Stop Breathe Think; free, instant counselling for under-21s who can't afford it

02:10 — Snow Camp: using skiing & snowboarding to build life skills and support young people's mental health

02:36 — What is the Distinguished Gentleman's Ride? Retro bikes, vintage threads, raising funds for prostate cancer research and men's mental health (Movember)

04:53 — The Guildford ride by numbers: 1,392 riders, ~£100k raised, second biggest ride in the world this year

06:00 — The friendship backstory: why socialising with people your own age gets complicated over the decades

09:40 — Making new friends in your 60s: the vulnerability of putting yourself out there and why it's worth it

13:00 — What the ride unlocked: deep conversations, a WhatsApp group, and plans for future rides together

14:30 — Top 10 Mental Health Foundation tips begin

• 14:30 1. Plan something to look forward to
• 16:45 2. Eat well, avoiding sugar spikes and cortisol crashes
• 18:00 3. Get closer to nature, daily walks, woods vs pavements
• 19:13 4. Get good sleep, told straight
• 20:00 5. Get creative, a guitar deadline and a hired drummer at the ball
• 21:36 6. Move regularly, steps, yoga, Pilates, high-intensity cycling
• 22:30 7. Try mindfulness, hot yoga, barefoot on grass, being present
• 24:01 8. Make time for friends, shared experiences vs an unused contact list
• 25:00 9. Be kind, gratitude and appreciating small moments
• 25:45 10. Talk things over;  courage, survival mode, and the friends who've sat through it all

https://www.mentalhealth.org.uk/our-work/public-engagement/mental-health-awareness-week

https://gentlemansride.com/

https://www.stopbreathethink.org.uk/

Key Takeaways

·       Menopause is technically one single day, 12 months after your last period. Everything else is peri or post, and post-menopause can last decades.

·       HRT can be life-changing but getting the balance right takes time. Oestrogen, progesterone and testosterone all play a role and the combination matters enormously.

·       Symptoms are not always obvious as menopausal. UTIs, anxiety, heart palpitations, poor sleep and mood swings can easily be mistaken for stress or personality.

·       Men who educate themselves make a tangible difference. Kev's prior experience meant he recognised the signs, suggested HRT and coached Jo through the worst of it without shame or blame.

·       Feeling chosen and emotionally safe allowed Jo to open up about what she was going through. Security matters as much as knowledge.

·       Only 26% of men in a recent survey attributed their partner's symptoms to menopause rather than ageing. 11% did nothing at all.

·       The responsibility should not fall entirely on women to explain what is happening to them.

Timestamps

00:09 Introduction and what menopause actually is

01:30 What we learned from a previous relationship going through menopause and HRT 03:30 Weight gain, libido, mood swings and separating stress from symptoms

05:00 Was she able to voice what was happening?

06:00 How Jo felt entering the relationship post-menopausal and low in confidence

07:45 The emotional chaos of menopause and not knowing who you are 09:00 The catfishing incident and the rocky early months

10:30 The blind date in Covent Garden and the moment a choice was made

12:30 How that moment changed what Jo felt able to share

14:00 Jo's symptoms: UTIs, palpitations, anxiety and sleep disruption

15:30 Suggesting HRT and why prior experience made that possible

17:00 The driveway tantrum, the forgotten laptop and two weeks off the patch

19:00 A previous relationship stops being a threat and becomes a gift

21:00 What changed after HRT: confidence, mood, sleep and playfulness

23:00 Louise Newson's 10 tips for partners and how we had already lived them

27:00 What men get wrong about menopause

28:30 The MATE survey and some sobering stats on men's attitudes and inaction

30:00 Why post-menopause is a long road and can actually be great

Louise Newson https://www.newsonhealth.co.uk/

MATE Mens attitude to menopause https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/31188286/

• Quality over quantity. Research suggests 4–5 deep friendships is all you need
• Loneliness isn't about being alone — it's the gap between the connection you want and what you have
• Midlife is the hardest time to make friends, but also when they matter most
• Intentionality is everything — good friendships don't happen by accident anymore
• Don't interpret silence as rejection — everyone is busy and overwhelmed
• Audit your circle: use the Friendship MOT to decide where to invest your time
• Start now. There's no better moment to reach out

KEY TAKEAWAYS

Housing: By 30, 50% of Boomers owned a home. First-time buyers today pay £73,800 in their first five mortgage years vs £41,500 for Boomers. The price-to-salary ratio has gone from 4.2x in 1975 to 7.6x today. Boomers had high rates but MIRAS tax relief softened the blow. Jo's 1988 Silvertown flat cost £85k — it's now £400k.

Wages: Under-20s are up 20% in real terms thanks to minimum wage rises. Ages 20–27 are flat. Above 27, wages are down. 45% of unemployed 24-year-old Gen Z have never held a job, and graduate oversupply is squeezing entry-level roles.

Consumer goods: Milk took 8 working minutes to earn in 1975, now 2. LCD TVs dropped from £4,500 to £279. But lifestyle creep absorbs the gains — one daily Starbucks is £225/month, and subscription stacking adds hundreds more.

Relationships: UK marriages fell from 400,000 in 1973 to 224,400 in 2023. Average marriage age has risen a full decade in two generations. Birth rates dropped from 2.93 in 1964 to 1.41 in 2024. Silver divorce is also on the rise.

Retirement: Boomers with final salary pensions had it best. Gen X were first to face defined contribution schemes — only 54% have adequate savings. Gen Z need £1,600/month to reach a £3m retirement pot. Their lifeline: the biggest intergenerational wealth transfer in history, if it survives inheritance tax changes.

Verdict: Boomers won. Gen X feel the pension pinch. Gen Z face delayed milestones but may inherit on an unprecedented scale. The generation game is not over.

TIMESTAMPS

• 00:09 Welcome and intro to the generation debate
• 01:30 Defining the four generations: Boomers, Gen X, Millennials, Gen Z
• 02:28 Housing: mortgage costs compared across generations
• 05:30 MIRAS, stamp duty wars and the race to complete in the 80s
• 07:14 Wages vs house prices: the salary multiple then and now
• 08:00 Jo's real-world test: his first flat in 1988 vs today
• 10:30 Low-skilled workers and homeownership rates by generation
• 11:30 Gen Z, university degrees and the graduate jobs squeeze
• 14:00 Wages by age group: who's up, flat and down in real terms
• 15:30 Consumer goods: the milk test (8 minutes vs 2 minutes)
• 17:10 Tech prices: LCD TVs from £4,500 to £279
• 19:00 Eating out: genuinely cheaper than 35 years ago
• 20:30 Coffee culture and the £225-a-month Starbucks habit
• 22:30 Subscriptions: the hidden drain no generation faced before
• 24:30 Marriage stats: volume halved, age risen a decade in two generations
• 26:00 Falling birth rates and the drift toward a one-child family
• 28:00 Silver divorce, no-fault legislation and changing social norms
• 30:31 Retirement: final salary pensions vs the defined contribution cliff edge
• 32:30 Auto-enrolment from 2012 and the savings gap it exposed
• 33:50 Gen Z's retirement challenge: the £3 million pot
• 35:20 Inheritance as Gen Z's potential lifeline and the IHT threat
• 37:13 Final verdict: who wins the generation game?

Episode Description

Jo sits down with sleep psychologist Dr Maja Schaedel to unpack everything nobody tells you about snoring, sleep apnoea and ageing. From why women approaching menopause are increasingly at risk, to whether sleeping in separate bedrooms might actually save your relationship, this conversation covers the practical, the awkward and the surprisingly funny.

Key Takeaways

•        Snoring disrupts partners more than snorers themselves. Sleeping apart is not the beginning of the end. •        Women approaching menopause are increasingly likely to snore and develop sleep apnoea due to hormonal and physical changes in the throat.

•        Sleep apnoea in women often looks different to men. Watch for fatigue, lethargy, dry mouth and broken sleep rather than obvious snoring.

•        Alcohol worsens snoring. Move your drinks earlier in the evening so your body has time to process it before bed.

•        There are multiple types of snoring. The BSSAA free interactive sleep test can help identify which type you have before you see a GP.

•        A CPAP is still the gold standard for sleep apnoea. Less severe cases may be treated with a mandibular advancement device.

•        Magnesium might improve sleep by about 15 minutes. CBT for insomnia (CBT-I) is far more evidence-based. Apps like Sleepio and Sleepful are a good starting point.

•        Power naps work best at 15 to 20 minutes. Beyond 30 minutes, you risk sleep inertia and feeling worse than before.

•        Sleep quality naturally declines after 55 for both men and women.

•        Poor sleep costs the average person around £5,000 a year. 

Timestamps

00:00  Welcome and introducing Dr. Maja Schaedel and the problem of snoring

01:15  Why partners suffer more than snorers

03:07  Why people snore, menopause, hormones and the snoring link

04:06  Sleeping apart: stigma, reality and relationship benefits

07:04  Sleep apnoea symptoms in women versus men

07:50  How insomnia and sleep apnoea feed each other

10:02  National Stop Snoring Week and the BSSAA

11:05  Sleep position, alcohol and easy lifestyle tweaks

12:35  Types of snoring and the BSSAA sleep test

14:56  What to do if you suspect sleep apnoea

16:30  CPAP, mouth guards and treatment options

18:30  Perimenopause, hormones and disrupted sleep

20:58  Why sleep declines after 55 for everyone

22:16  The perfect power nap (and when it backfires)

24:02  The hidden £5,000 a year cost of bad sleep

25:29 Magnesium, melatonin and what the research actually says

26:10  CBT-I, sleep apps and where to get real help

Links

British Snoring and Sleep Apnoea Association: britishsnoring.co.uk

The Good Sleep Clinic: goodsleep.clinic/

sleepio.com

sleepful.me

Whether you're in the thick of solo parenting, watching your kids slowly stop needing you or about to open the front door to a 22-year-old with a suitcase, this one will hit home.

IN THIS EPISODE

•        The brutal pragmatics of setting up as a single parent: schools, commutes, custody logistics and money

•        How your identity quietly disappears when you're the primary carer and how long it takes to get it back

•        The surprising emotional gut-punch of empty nesting, even when you thought you were prepared

•        From two houses to one: the financial and emotional decision to downsize and move in together

•        The week we bought a two-seater Aston Martin... and both kids said "Can I come home?"

•        Why we wrote actual house rules before the kids arrived and what made the list

KEY TAKEAWAYS

•        Nearly 58% of 21-24 year olds and 34% of 24-35 year olds currently live at home with parents. The boomerang effect is real and growing

•        Every life stage feels permanent until it suddenly isn't

•        The shift from parent to host is a genuine identity challenge

•        Setting expectations upfront (yes, in writing) can save a lot of friction

•        Short-term stays: skip the rent conversation. Longer-term: consider saving contributions as a deposit fund

TIMESTAMPS

00:09  Intro & why this episode is happening right now

02:32  Single parenting after divorce; logistics, finances, identity

09:44  Rebuilding yourself outside the parent role

14:21  Empty nesting: when it hits, even when you saw it coming

19:06  Downsizing from two houses to one life

26:53  Life as a couple with zero kids at home

29:12  The boomerang call… and the Aston Martin timing

31:33  The house rules document

36:15  How to handle money when adult kids move back in

Key Takeaways

•        It's never too late to start running. Begin with lots of walking and a little running, take it slowly, and find a guide who understands you emotionally as well as physically.

•        The belief that recovery takes longer as you age is just that, a belief. Mindset and narrative around pain can spiral things down as much as the injury itself.

•        Blue Zones (Japan, Sardinia, Okinawa, Loma Linda, Ikaria) show us a different model of communities living well into their 100s through movement, plants, purpose and community.

•        Running as meditation: the goal is non-attachment to outcome. Aiming for something AND letting go of the result is the ultimate practice.

•        Staying visible as you age is a choice. You can disappear into it, or you can keep showing up with energy.

•        If you're starting to exercise later in life, the goal isn't pace or distance; it's whether you enjoyed it. That's the measure of success.

•        Reactivity is an arrow to past wounding. Real stillness in running and in life means not reacting from old patterns.

Timestamps

00:09  Meet Julia: 50 years of coaching, running since age 6

02:34  How to start running later in life

04:59  Miracles in recovery: real stories

07:24  Jo's deadlift injury and healing journey

09:52  Blue Zones, aging myths and the beliefs we're fed

14:36  Being the oldest in the gym (and why it's great)

16:51  Making yourself invisible  and how to stop

19:11  Julia's spiritual path and the running-meditation connection

26:04  How Julia would coach Jo to start running

29:00  The Happiness Curve and the striving trap

33:13  Where to find Julia + Jo might actually take up running!

Find Julia

https://juliachitaylor.com

Rosie's story is one of the most honest midlife reinventions you'll hear. Perimenopause and the empty nest landed at the same time, she started disconnecting from everything she'd worked hard to build and found her way back through music, TikTok and a whole lot of not giving a f**k what anyone thinks.

From borrowing her brother-in-law's decks to building a TikTok following as Roo's Renaissance, putting on the UK's first 80s modern remix dance event and planning to swap a country house for a one-bed in Hackney, Rosie is proof it's never too late to start over.

Key Takeaways

•        Perimenopause and empty nesting can collide and that identity crash is real

•        You don't need a course to start something new; YouTube and borrowed kit will do

•        Your existing friends might not get it. That's okay. Go find your tribe

•        Reinvention puts pressure on relationships, talking (and therapy) can get you through

•        The daytime rave scene is growing and it's genuinely multi-generational

•        Success looks different in midlife: happiness and freedom over money and status

•        Don't wait for permission. Try the thing. Don't give a f**k what anyone thinks

Timestamps

01:55 — Introducing Rosie + the midlife pressure points

04:10 — How the DJ journey started

06:10 — From borrowed decks to TikTok and paid gigs

08:03 — The 80s modern remix concept and live event

10:41 — Why creativity beat career: the total escape moment

11:48 — “ Bit old to do that aren’t you?”

12:45 — Finding a new tribe when your old one doesn’t get it

15:23 — Day raving and the multi-generational club scene

16:27 — Partner and kids: how family reacts to your reinvention

19:42 — Downsizing: letting go of your old identity

22:21 — Empty nest: how the boys are handling the move

25:35 — What’s next: Rue’s Renaissance as a brand and community

29:00 — Rosie’s advice if you’re standing on the edge of change

Find Rosie

TikTok: @roos_renaissance Instagram @rosiefresh

Event: 80s Modern Remix Dance Party — 18th April, Bermondsey Social Club, London, 2pm–9pm

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What does it actually mean to be fit and fabulous in your 50s and beyond? Jo and Kev dig into the science of why fitness matters more than ever at midlife, covering strength, cardio, and flexibility, while getting real about the overwhelming amount of conflicting advice out there. They celebrate some genuinely inspiring role models (and debate whether their abs are achievable), break down why you wake up feeling like a broken robot, and share practical tips for getting your body moving in the morning without a complete overhaul of your life.

Key Takeaways

•        Strength, cardio, and flexibility all matter, but you don't have to do everything. Pick what works for you.

•        Morning stiffness has actual science behind it: tendons and ligaments shorten with age, and your joints produce less synovial fluid. It's not just you being lazy.

•        Hydration is more important than most people realise; your muscles and ligaments are 70% water.

•        Maintaining weight loss is harder (and less glamorous) than losing it in the first place.

•        A simple morning routine; box breathing, knee hugs, hot shower, ankle rotations can genuinely help.

Timestamps

00:09  Why fitness matters over 50, strength, cardio, flexibility

02:34  The benefits: bone density, muscle mass, mental health, sleep

03:20  Inspiring role models; Mel C, Gwyneth, JLo, Gillian Anderson

09:43  Dylan Jones on male style and fitness over 50

14:33  Alison Cork's 10 tips for maintaining weight loss

21:23  Jo's progress and why it's harder than expected

23:47  Why you wake up stiff: the science explained

25:00  Morning mobility routine to fix it

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Jo sits down with Louise Pode, a ski mindset coach based in the UK, for a frank and funny conversation about why so many women over 45 quietly stop doing the things they love and what it actually takes to get back out there. Louise shares her own journey from chronically anxious skier with two replaced hips to leading an international coaching practice and explains how psychology plays a far bigger role on the slopes than most people realise. If skiing has ever terrified you, made you feel like the oldest, slowest person on the mountain or left you questioning why you even bothered, this one's for you.

Key Takeaways

•        Your 'why' is everything. Before technique or training, Louise asks every client why they want to ski. That emotional anchor is what gets you through fear on the mountain.

•        Women over 45 are more likely to step back than step forward and it's not just about menopause. Decades of prioritising others, cultural expectations and internalised self-doubt all play a role.

•        Anxiety physically changes how you ski. Rigidity, leaning back, bracing; fear creates the very instability you're trying to avoid.

•        Learning to ski as an adult is genuinely hard. Expecting to crack it in a week sets you up to feel like a failure. Feeling comfortable on skis after a few days is already a win.

•        Environment matters enormously. Busy Christmas resorts with packed slopes are the worst place to learn or relearn. A quiet Italian resort beats Courchevel every time.

•        Men have anxiety too, they're just less likely to ask for help. Louise's one-to-one clients are almost exclusively women, but men do turn up at group masterclasses.

•        Overcoming anxiety is liberating beyond the slopes. Being able to look at a scary run and walk away with your head held high…that's the real goal.

Timestamps

00:57  Louise's background: physiotherapy, hip replacements and a love-hate relationship with skiing

02:06  The accident that changed everything and the sliding doors moment that followed

04:31  Why women 45+ tend to step back, not forward

06:52  Male-dominated slopes and the intimidation factor

08:57  How anxiety physically distorts your skiing

11:24  What good learning actually looks like and why your instructor matters, it’s less stressful

12:56  The coaching process; finding your 'why' before anything else

15:45  Louise's own moment of panic at the top of Mont Vallon and how she talked herself down

17:43 The hybrid skiing model for families of mixed abilities

20:06  Do men seek coaching? (Spoiler: sort of)

22:53  What Louise offers - five-session programmes, power-hours and a new online course

25:08  Masterclasses at Tamworth and Hemel Hempstead and what a full day looks like

27:28  Jo's experience and the best advice for anyone thinking of going back

Find Louise

•        Website: www.louisepode.com

•        Instagram: @coachingwithlou

•        Masterclasses coming soon in Hemel Hempstead

We also get into delayed adult development, why young adults are struggling to launch, how we might be making it worse and why letting go is the kindest thing you can do. For them AND for you. Plus: the love letter that made Jo emotional, the Mother's Day plan that backfired spectacularly and what David Beckham got right about letting your kids fail.

Timestamps

•        00:45 — The real origins of Mother's Day

•        02:12— Why mums need to feel valued

•        04:20 — The love letter from Jo’s daughter

•        06:34 — Delayed adult development & the stats

•        09:54 — How our generation parents differently

•        10:48 — Tying our self-worth to our kids' outcomes

•        14:14 — Mother’s Day isn’t good for everyone

•        17:11 — The case for a day to yourself and Kev’s plan backfired

•        19:42 — Expectations vs reality

•        21:40 — Letting them fail…David Beckham

•        23:00 — Why you can't control the outcome

•        25:30 — How to detach without losing the relationship

•        26:45 — Finding your third chapter – the beginning of your post-parenthood

Key Takeaways

•        Mother's Day started as a 16th-century religious festival; the commercial version is a modern invention

•        Around 58% of 21-24 year olds currently live at home; independence is arriving 5-7 years later than in previous generations

•        Our generation ties its self-worth to our kids' outcomes more than any generation before us

•        Shielding your kids from every failure actually delays their ability to function independently

•        Detaching isn't about loving them less, it's about freeing you both to move forward

“When Our Grown Kids Disappoint Us” by Jane Adams

Key Takeaways

•        Second & third careers, partial work & financial independence

•        FIRE movement (Financial Independence, Retire Early) is reshaping how people think about work & money

•        The PLSA estimates that a comfortable retirement in UK £60K pa after tax

•        Build your retirement budget from the bottom up.

•        Keeping mentally active matters

•        Helping kids is a newer, growing part of strategy

•        Start checking your pension now

Timestamps

•        00:45 — 4 stages of retirement, what it brought up for Kev

•        02:20 — Mortality reality check: losing parents, becoming head of family

•        03:10 — Triggers: empty nest, mortgage renewal, the oldest at work

•        04:30 — Introducing Richard Squire

•        04:59 — What does retirement mean today

•        06:09 — FIRE movement: Financial Independence, Retire Early explained

•        07:15 — Final salary pensions vs. modern approaches

•        08:09 — Keeping your brain active, why Kev worries about doing sod all

•        09:08 — Leaving a legacy vs spending it all

•        12:04 — Pension briefings at work

•        12:38 — Kev's 1st retirement budget, Jo's verdict: f**king ridiculous

•        13:39 — PLSA figures: what a comfortable retirement actually costs

•        15:00 — Why bottom-up personal budgeting beats mythical averages

•        16:38 – The go-go, slow-go and no-go years of retirement explained

•        18:30 – 3 approaches to planning: advisor, coach or DIY

•        22:25 – Kev's experience trying to move money out of a defined benefit pension

•        23:40 – The British Steelworkers DB scandal

•        24:30 – Where to start if you want to take control •        26:46 – Why getting pension decisions right first time matters

•        27:53 – What Richard's cashflow forecasting tool does

•        30:04 – Treat retirement planning like project management

https://myfinancefuture.com/learn-more

MyFinanceFuture: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u3tke_J8HrY

Kev is a seasoned snowboarder heading to Méribel in his 60s. Jo learned to ski at 57... under protest. We share our honest, sometimes hilarious experiences, plus practical advice for midlifers considering winter sports for the first time (or for the first time in a while).

Key Takeaways

·       Why the 2025 Winter Olympics felt so inspiring for older viewers

·       The 2030 Winter Olympics in France: 7 centres including Nice, Courchevel & Méribel

·       Why the average age of a new ski school student in Canada is 45

·       The real reason older beginners struggle; it's psychological, not physical

·       The physical and social benefits of skiing and boarding in midlife

·       Ski trips designed specifically for the over-50s

·       What to do when one partner loves it and the other... really doesn't

·       The rules: never teach your partner yourself

·       How to sweeten the deal and find the right resort for mixed-ability couples

·       Jo's ongoing negotiations about whether she'll ever ski again

Coming up: Jo talks to a coach who specialises in helping women over 45 rebuild their confidence on the slopes.

TIMESTAMPS:

00:44 – The Winter Olympics were inspiring

03:15 – What makes the 2026 Milan-Cortina Olympics different; multiple locations

04:25 – The 2030 Winter Olympics in France: 7-centre breakdown

07:00 – Kev heads to Méribel; two men over 60 on the mountain

08:00 – Jo's ski history (it's not pretty)

10:05 – The family Christmas ski trip to Méribel

11:20 – Jo learns to ski at 57 (under duress)

12:22 – Stats: average age of new skiers is 45 and cognitive ability at 50+

13:10 – The fear of falling problem

14:01 – Physical & social benefits of skiing in midlife

15:22 – Jo admits her fears of falling and her blocks

16:28 – Over-50s ski organisations & group holidays

19:00 – Club Med do social skiing for adults in term time, could this be the answer?

20:33 – Options when partners have different enthusiasm and skill levels

21:55 – Choices for going to a ski resort, rules and Golden rules: don't teach your partner; be back for après

25:25 – The infamous lost children incident in Méribel

28:45 – Will Jo ever ski again? Watch this space

RESOURCES MENTIONED: The Ski Gathering | Snow Camps Europe | Ski World Over 50s | Ski Club of Great Britain – Fresh Tracks (over 60s) | AARP 50+ Ski Club | Club Med social skiing

KEY TAKEAWAYS

·       Retirement coaching focuses on the emotional, social, and psychological changes - not finances

·       The first 6 months feel amazing, then many people experience anxiety and depression

·       Without planning, it takes 2 years on average to figure out retirement happiness

·       The four stages: Honeymoon → Lost → Exploration → Reinvention

·       You need to replace: routine, intellectual stimulation, purpose and social connections

·       Create a "curiosity list" of things to explore without judging if you'll be good at them

·       Join industry associations to mentor others

·       Quality of relationships is the #1 predictor of happiness

·       Society tells retirees to "be small"

TIMESTAMPS

00:52 - What is a Retirement Coach? Dawn explains the non-financial side of retirement coaching and why it's needed

01:40 - Why the first six months of retirement feel fantastic

02:03 - The "Now What?" Moment. When boredom and anxiety set in

03:13 – Why am I not having the time of my life?

04:02 - Key Elements for Retirement Success

04:33 - Dawn compares retirement boredom to the end of summer holidays as a kid

05:40 - DIY Jo discusses people who think they'll paint the house repeatedly (the Severn Bridge analogy)

06:45 - Most people feel lost 6 months to a year after retiring

07:56 - The Four Stages of Retirement

08:22 - The Reinvention Stage

08:43 - Giving Back Through Your Passions

09:44 - Why some people never reach the reinvention stage

10:02 - When grandchildren grow up and don't need you anymore - then what?

11:45 - UK retirement age is rising to 67-70, meaning 15-20 years to fill

13:00 - How removing structure without replacement can cause depression

14:20 - Baby Boomers & The Retirement Crisis

15:04 - The Introvert-Extrovert Marriage Challenge

16:00 - Why men particularly struggle when all their friends were at work

16:44 - Kev's Retirement Plans, he is considering snowboard instructor training to manage the transition

18:32 - The Need for Intellectual Stimulation

19:09 - Dawn's coaching technique: brainstorm things you're curious about

19:42 - Using your career expertise to mentor others after retirement

22:00 - Dawn recommends public speaking to share expertise

23:45 - Culture "be small" in retirement

24:17 - Tony Robbins' Six Human Needs

25:19 - Research shows relationship quality is the #1 indicator of happiness at any age

27:19 - Joining Organizations, finding people who enjoy what you enjoy to build new social connections

28:09 - Dawn's Book: "Filling the Blank Page"- practical guide to building a retirement of passion and purpose

30:00 - New Website Launch dawnmarcotte.com

30:30 - Dawn offers to help UK listeners find coaches i

KEY TAKEAWAYS

The "Brat-ult" Phenomenon: Privileged young adults publicly cancelling parents

Entitlement vs. Legitimate Conflict: The difference between healthy boundaries and entitled behaviour

1st Marriage Milestone: Parents in their mid-50s/early-60s typically experience their first child's wedding

The Partner Question: Do you express concerns about your child's relationship

Power Struggles Are Real: Wedding planning can become a battleground between families

"Us" Matters: Supporting your adult child's relationship means accepting their partner is their priority

Prenup: Best done when couples are in love and with wealth inequality

Grandchildren Pressure: Being obsessive about grandchildren

Independence Is Healthy: Teaching children self-sufficiency early creates better boundaries

The Divorce Reality: With a 48% divorce rate, statistical concerns about marriage are valid but tricky

Let Them Make Mistakes: Adult children need to make their own choices

TIMESTAMPS

00:30 Brat-ults, cancelling parents and wedding conflicts

00:59 - What are "brat-ults"? Dr. Elizabeth McCain's article on privileged young adults in conflict with their parents

01:53 - Celebrity examples: Brooklyn Beckham and Prince Harry

03:00 - Jo's frustration with Brooklyn’s entitled behaviour and public family feuds

04:38 - The psychology of spoiled children and parental guilt

06:43 - Social media's role in normalising parent cancellation, by the rich and famous

07:08 - The immaturity of public family conflicts

08:22 - Brooklyn Beckham's wedding as the catalyst

09:26 - Plot twist: When did the Spice Girls get old?

09:52 - Parents in their 50s/60s experiencing their first child's wedding

10:24 - Power struggles behind the scenes at the Beckham wedding

10:57 - The new family dynamic: Your kid is no longer a kid

12:06 - Do you like your child's partner? What if you think it won’t last?

13:30 - The importance of "the us" in relationships

14:15 -Jo's take on not being married herself

15:05 - Mother's sense of loss when a child marries

16:43 - Jo's parenting style: Independence from an early age

17:23 - Single parenting and teaching self-sufficiency

18:33 - In-law relationships: Does it really matter if you don't click?

19:20 - Power struggles over the wedding ceremony itself

19:35 - Mumzilla vs. bridezilla: Jo's prom dress experience

20:33 - Making mistakes and learning independence

20:52 - The grandchildren pressure problem

22:11 - Kev's statistical approach to marriage advice for his boys

23:01 - The prenup debate: When does it make sense?

23:47 - Deed of trust: Jo's experience with wealth protection

24:33 - Wealth inequality and prenup timing

25:20 - Kev - Would you tell your child you don't like their partner?

26:06 - Malevolence vs. minor annoyances

27:17 - Wedding planning involvement

28:52 - Final thoughts: Freedom, boundaries and respecting choices

Forget just celebrating Valentine's Day, we're celebrating a full year of podcasting! In this milestone episode, we reflect on our journey from starting with different co-hosts to building an audience (slower than expected!), going viral with 200K views and even getting nominated for a Pro-Ageing Podcast Award.

But the heart of this episode is about love after 50. We explore the three types of people on Valentine's Day (singles, established couples, and newly dating), confess how we nearly let Valentine's Day slide after 8 years together and share what people actually prioritise when dating post-50: intelligence, humour, honesty and kindness.

We get brutally honest about the challenges of dating later in life, the baggage everyone brings, financial compatibility conversations, health considerations and the reality that 35-40 years of habits won't change. From joint bank accounts (we don't have one) to understanding your partner's "money language," we cover the conversations you need to have before fully committing.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

Podcasting reality check: We overestimated Year 1 success and learned listeners dip in and out rather than following.

 Valentine's serves as a reminder to invest effort in your relationship, not just celebrate on one specific date.

Post-50 dating priorities shift: Intelligence, humour, honesty and kindness matter most (men add facial attractiveness; women add dependability).

Everyone over 50 has baggage; we think it's actually a red flag if they don't.

The comfort zone trap is real: Cohabitation can lead to taking each other for granted if you're not careful

Money means different things: Safety, control, freedom, or love, understanding your partner's "money language" is crucial

We took 4.5 years before moving in together, there's no rush when you're building something real

TIMESTAMPS

00:27 - Introduction & First Anniversary
01:54 - Year One Highlights and Surprises: Viral Posts & Award Nominations

02:49 – Lessons Learnt from Our First Year
04:10 - The Three Categories of Dating for People over 50 on Valentine's Day

05:41 – The Evolution of Our Valentine’s Day
06:18 - The Comfort Zone Trap: How We Nearly Let Valentine's Slide
10:15 - What People Over 50 Actually Look For in Partners
11:29 - The Baggage Factor: Everyone Has a History
14:07 - Blended Families & Why We Had It Easier

14:55 – Our Primary Motivation When We Started Dating Each Other in Our Mid 50s
16:21 - Health & Wealth: The Delicate Conversations – Do you want to be a nursemaid?

17:19 - It Is Important to do Things Together
19:00 - Financial Compatibility: Joint Accounts vs. Independence
21:21 - Emotional Transparency, Past Relationship Trauma & Understanding Your Own “Money Language”
23:34 - Our Relationship Journey  & Philosophies to Dating
25:53 - Our Opinion on Dating post 50

RESOURCES MENTIONED

• Anthony Robbins quote on Year 1 vs. Year 5 expectations
 • Sunday papers article on dating characteristics post-50
 • Research on financial compatibility in couples
 • Love languages and attachment styles theory
 • Previous viral episode: Should Adult Children Spend Christmas With Us?

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Forget the leather jacket and motorcycle stereotype! The Times Magazine has declared the traditional midlife crisis dead and replaced it with FIVE new archetypes. Join us hilariously dissect each one;from the LinkedIn Thought Leader to the Midlife Clubber and (reluctantly) admit which stereotypes we have fallen into.

But this episode goes deeper than stereotypes. We break the taboo around sex after 50 with eye-opening statistics: 85% of men aged 60-69 are sexually active, 45% of over-50s are having the best sex of their lives, and 1 in 8 are doing it at least 5 times a week!

Inspired by the BBC series "Riot Women" and our own midlife experiences, we explore why society doesn't want to see older people as sexual beings, what happens when the kids leave home and the surprising kinks dominating the over-50s bedroom.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

The old midlife crisis stereotype (motorbike, affair, leather jacket) has been replaced by 5 new archetypes

 The Midlife Clubber is real and we are living proof (daytime clubbing, anyone?)

45% of people over 50 report having the best sex of their lives RIGHT NOW

Media representation of sex after 50 is virtually non-existent (67% say it's rarely/never shown)

Empty nesters experience significant improvements in their sex lives (48% report better intimacy)

33% of over-50s are open to multiple sexual partners

Confidence and self-acceptance increase with age, leading to more sexual exploration

TIMESTAMPS

00:43 - The Times redefines the Old Midlife Crisis Stereotype and a look at the 5 new stereotypes
02:20 - Kev's Confession: Living the Stereotype Early
04:04 - Stereotype #1: The Thought Leader (Kyle with his LinkedIn insights)
06:20 - Stereotype #2: The Psychedelic Dabbler (Emma's mushroom journey)
08:05 - Stereotype #3: The Camper Van Fan (Kath's van life obsession)
09:54 - Stereotype #4: The Midlife Clubber – We could be guilty!
12:57 - Stereotype #5: The Open Relationship Advocate (Polyamorous Debs)
14:30 - Sex After 50: Breaking the Taboo
16:07 - Shocking Statistics: Sex Lives of Over-50s
20:16 - The Lelo Survey: Best Sex of Their Lives
23:12 - The Great British Sex Experiment Discussion
25:27 - Top 5 Kinks for Over-50s Revealed
26:20 – Do We Need to Re-do Our Bucket List?
26:33 - Which Stereotype Do We Relate to?
30:17 - Creating Their Own Stereotype & Next Episode Preview

RESOURCES MENTIONED

• BBC Series: Riot Women
• Times Magazine Article on midlife crisis stereotypes
• Lelo Survey: Sex Lives of Over-50s
• Previous guests: Suzanne Noble (sex advice for seniors)and Dr. Elliott Justin
• Previous episode: The Happiness Curve & Midlife Malaise

NEXT EPISODE

Valentine's Day Special - February 6, 2026

#MidlifeCrisis #AgeingUnapologetically #SexAfter50 #MidlifeReinvention #PodcastOver50 #AgeingWell #MidlifeClubbing #Perimenopause #RiotWomen #SexualWellness #Over50AndThriving

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Along the way, the conversation turns deeply personal: drinking habits, relationships, sex, sobriety, ageing bodies, and the symbolic end-of-day drink. The episode concludes with a passionate tribute to one of January’s most iconic sons, David Bowie, and why his legacy still matters across generations.

 Key Takeaways

• Bucket lists don’t expire - sometimes timing is everything.
• Alcohol is deeply symbolic, especially in relationships and daily rituals.
• Stopping (or questioning) drinking later in life is emotional, not just physical.
• Ageing invites honesty - about bodies, habits, sex and self-image.
• David Bowie remains timeless, influencing generations long after his death.
• January isn’t about perfection - it’s about reflection.

Timestamps

00:53  Our Bucket List Update, The Masquerade Ball - Venice, Versailles, eye-watering ticket prices and alternative

02:15 Kev finally ticks off a 23-year-old dream and the emotional backstory involving Jeremy Clarkson, fatherhood, guilt and timing

05:56 Kev’s Post-Christmas stubborn weight and why January hasn’t magically fixed anything

06:45 Drinking Maths – Kev is drinking 50–70 units a week, 4,000 calories, NHS guidelines and the uncomfortable truth behind “I don’t want to eat less”

08:11 He is considering “dry something” because 17.5M people in the UK are doing Dry January

09:11 The over-55s are least likely to question alcohol intake, Kev will do a month dry

10:16 Jo’s Sobriety Story, why she gave up alcohol over 20 years ago, being a single parent- fear, responsibility and choosing pain over pleasure

13:15 Jo & Kev have questions for each other from a recent article

13:36 Kev asks if she thinks he is drinking too much

15:40 When was the last time we had sober sex

16:20 If Kev gives up drinking, there is a possibility that he might be miserable

18:43 Kev predicts irritability, garage cleaning and losing the symbolic “end of the day” drink.

20:30 Celebrities of our age who have given up alcohol

22:10 David Bowie gave up alcohol in 1993

23:07 David and Elvis were massive icons

24:27 Ziggy Stardust was a redhead

24:55 The first airplay of “Heroes” played by John Peel, in the same year as Elvis died

26:05 Bowie’s cultural impact, he is timeless. He died 10 years ago, he released Black Star. Was that orchestrated?

29:20 Bowie was a nonconformist; he shaped music and fashion

29:54  A recent article said 10 bands wouldn’t exist without Bowie, including Sex Pistols, Joy Division, The Cure, Suede, Pulp, Placebo and The Kooks

38:37 We promise to report back on Dry January/February

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From black-and-white TVs to ChatGPT, VHS barcode pens to Alexa paranoia, we explore how different generations adapt (or don’t), whether AI really threatens jobs or humanity itself and why fatigue, scepticism, and “I just can’t be arsed” might be the most honest response of all.

Funny, sharp and unfiltered this is a real conversation about ageing, tech, fear, curiosity, and knowing when to lean in… and when to say no.

Key Takeaways

• AI feels revolutionary, but so did the internet, mobile phones and Sky TV
• Change fatigue is real, especially after decades of adapting
• AI will replace easy work, not human judgment
• Critical thinking will matter more than ever
• AI poses risks around misinformation, fraud, and emotional manipulation
• The biggest danger may not be Skynet, but the exploitation of vulnerable people
• You don’t have to love AI to accept it’s here
• Curiosity beats panic (and denial)

Timestamps

• 00:29 – Our attitudes to change, in particular to AI
• 01:25 – Kev admits he’s an AI Philistine, he agrees he should know more
• 02:32 – Growing up without phones, internet, or streaming and with black & white TVs
• 03:29 – VHS recorders, barcode pens & early tech miracles
• 04:28 – People said the internet “would never catch on”
• 05:14 – Home automation – The internet of things
• 06:52 – Change fatigue: “How many times can we relearn everything?”
• 07:50 – AI at work: productivity tools & human oversight
• 08:40 – Will AI take our jobs? The “easy work” argument
• 10:30 – AI hallucinations and critical thinking
• 11:24 – What the “big boys” are worried about
• 11:57 – Creativity, charts & AI-generated music, what is real
• 13:16 – AI avatars, grief & replacing dead loved ones
• 14:02 – Kev’s glamourous AI version of Jo
• 15:00 –Useful for the elderly
• 16:06 – Humanoid robots and avatars
• 16:54 – Fraud, FaceTime scams & the elderly
• 17:54 – Cold War fears vs AI panic
• 22:05 – The race to AGI & East vs West
• 24:26 – Medical AI, wearables & privacy dilemmas
• 27:23 – When tech fails the people it’s meant to help
• 28:35 – Jo’s real-life AI uses for podcasts & business
• 31:41 – Kev’s current use of AI and his commitment for 2026

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In this episode of When the F**k Did I Become Old?, we dive into the surprising science behind happiness and why life often feels hardest in midlife but better on the other side of it.

Sparked by a viral Christmas clip that racked up over 163,000 views and ignited fierce debate, our conversation moves into the World Happiness Report, the Cantril Ladder and the research behind the so-called midlife malaise.

Kev shares insights from The Happiness Curve by Jonathan Rauch, revealing why happiness follows a U-shaped curve; dipping in our 40s and 50s before rising again as we age. Together we unpack expectations, resilience, gratitude, emotional intelligence and why getting older may actually be something to look forward to.

This is an honest, funny, and deeply reassuring episode for anyone who’s ever wondered:
Is this it?
(Spoiler: no, it really isn’t.)

Key Takeaways

• Happiness follows a U-shaped curve, not a steady climb
• Midlife is often the lowest point — and that’s normal
• Young people are optimistic but unrealistic about happiness
• Midlife pressure comes from expectations, responsibility, and comparison
• After 50, people become more resilient, emotionally intelligent, and grateful
• Older adults cope better with stress and uncertainty
• Life shifts from striving to being
• Ageing isn’t the end — it’s often the most fulfilling chapter
• Reinvention and “encore careers” are common and powerful after midlife

Timestamps

00:45 – Christmas without children & why it went viral
02:40 – Introducing the topic: happiness
03:24 – The World Happiness Report & how happiness is measured
03:58 – The Cantril Ladder explained
05:30 – Happiest and unhappiest countries in the world
06:40 – The Happiness Curve & the surprising U-shape
08:28 – Why young people are happier (and more optimistic)
09:00 – The optimism bias & unrealistic expectations
12:06 – The hedonic treadmill: chasing “more”
12:50 – Kev’s personal happiness graph experiment
16:17– Midlife malaise vs the myth of the midlife crisis
16:50 – How longer lifespans changed everything
19:46 – Divorce, redundancy & pressure in midlife
20:35 – Glass ceilings and career reality checks
22:33 – Illness, mortality & emotional turning points
24:26 – Reframing and why life feels lighter after 50
26:45 – Why comparison changes and people believe they are happier
27:38 – Gratitude, perspective & comparison traps
28:41 – Increased emotional intelligence, resilience & compassion
30:21 – “Having what you want” vs “wanting what you have”
31:57 – Encore careers & reinvention after 50
33:15 – Why ageing isn’t the disaster we were sold

📚 Resources Mentioned

• The Happiness Curve – Jonathan Rauch
• World Happiness Report
• Cantril Ladder of Life Satisfaction

Supporting organisations

https://www.oddfellows.co.uk/

https://www.workingtransitions.com/

https://www.proage.org/

In this honest, funny and refreshingly unfiltered episode we challenge everything we’ve been told about January self-improvement.

From overcrowded gyms and guilt-driven goal setting to the pressure to “start fresh” on January 1st, we explore why traditional New Year’s resolutions often fail and why optimism, agency and having something to look forward to matter far more as we age.

Drawing on insights from geriatric psychiatry, lived experience and bucket-list thinking for over-50s, this episode reframes ageing as a time for renewal, curiosity and choosing goals that genuinely make life more vibrant, not just more “virtuous”.

Key Takeaways

• Why looking forward to the future is vital for mental health in later life
• New Year’s resolutions vs bucket lists and which actually works
• Motivation, fitness and goal-setting after 50
• Why “boring but sensible” goals don’t always inspire change
• How hobbies, travel, social connection and curiosity keep life meaningful
• Choosing one achievable goal that makes life richer

If you’re over 50, questioning ageing, fed up with guilt-based self-improvement or simply want to feel more excited about what’s ahead, this episode is for you.

Timestamps

00:48 - Do either of us actually do resolutions? Kev has traditionally had projects planned.
04:07 - Are any of Jo’s regimes cyclical/planned for January 1st?
04:38 - Why don’t we do New Year's Resolutions?
05:50 - What is a New Year’s resolution and why is it important to make them?
09:45 - Christmas is a natural pause, which allows us to reflect
10:27 - Optimism and agency  give you the feeling of being in control
11:37 - The top 10 New Year’s resolutions for seniors, including exercise, mental health and diet
16:35 - Bucket lists vs resolutions: what’s the difference?
18:26  -Bucket list ideas for over-50s that actually excite us -Travel dreams, hobbies & new experiences
22:03 - Build something amazing
22:30 - Our joint bucket list wish list
25:40 - The benefits of goals that make a positive change for 2026
27:35 - Our goals for 2026

https://lifeconnect24.co.uk/blogs/hobbies/50-bucket-list-ideas

What is happening to my skin, hair and teeth?

Episode Summary:

In this episode Paul and I discuss what happens to your skin, hair and teeth when you get older. We discuss Jo’s hair and skin changes and Paul discusses his long teeth journey.

Key Takeaways:

Keep skin hydrated

Hair changes

Losing teeth and teeth treatment

Timestamps:

[01:09] – Changes to our skin

[08:44] – The 75 day hard

[11:44] – Hair loss

[17:26] – Teeth 

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In this episode we introduce our guest Craig Goldblatt, where we discuss the purpose of life. We talk in depth about finding our internal world and beliefs and how important these are. We discuss purpose, the meaning of purpose and Craig’s view of it.

Key Takeaways:

Thoughts become a belief

A purpose is doing something that fulfils us inside

Who we spend our lives with is how we will become

Timestamps:

• [01:46] – Finding our sense of purpose

• [05:00] – How to spend more time inside

• [08:48] – Our internal world

• [13:33] – Feeling fulfilled

• [15:28] – Our beliefs change everything

• [23:35] – Does purpose need to be massive

• [28:03] – Craig’s finishing statement 

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Episode Summary

In this candid and humorous episode, we dive into the realities of winter health for people over 60, from flu jabs and COVID boosters to Seasonal Affective Disorder, sleep struggles, hydration, exercise, Christmas weight gain and what truly defines wellbeing in later life. We explore how older adults can stay physically and mentally strong during the darkest months of the year.

Key Takeaways

• Maintaining winter health is a combination of lifestyle, sunlight exposure, exercise, sleep, and nutrition.
• Flu jabs significantly reduce hospitalisations in people over 65 — but decisions are personal.
• SAD is more common than people realise and often goes undiagnosed.
• Christmas weight gain isn't the problem — not losing it afterwards is.
• The biggest predictors of wellbeing in later life are:
• cognitive engagement, social connection, physical activity, and housing stability.
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Timestamps

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01:53 Flu jabs: Should we get them?

03:34 If I am fit, do I need one?

04:59 COVID vaccinations are no longer free? How do you know if you have it?

07:43 Herd mentality vs personal choice

08:59 Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD): What it is & why it hits in winter

09:30 Symptoms of SAD in everyday life

10:40 Fixing winter fatigue: Light, sleep, and routine

12:40 The Ultimate Energy Edge Challenge with Ben Price; go outside

15:17 The reality of winter exercise

16:56 Ben Price’s advice on sleep and sleep patterns

17:38 Christmas weight gain: truth, myths & personal disasters

20:57 The recommended steps to not putting on weight at Christmas

22:43 Avoid stress eating as a response to bad sleep, sugar cravings, sleep & emotional eating

26:00 Kev once made the mistake of having a medical after Christmas eating

28:07 Wellbeing in later life: What the new Age UK index reveals

29:50 Age UK suggestions on how to improve wellbeing at 60+

32:00 Exercise; padel, gyms, social connection & staying active

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Takeaways

Ageing narratives need to be disrupted to reflect reality.

Community support is vital for seniors facing challenges.

Sexuality does not diminish with age; it evolves.

Communication about sexual health is crucial for pleasure.

Many seniors lack information about sexual wellness.

Desire and libido are complex and influenced by many factors.

Lube and other aids should be normalised in conversations.

Ageing brings unique challenges that require attention from policymakers.

The importance of celebrating achievements in ageing through awards.

Everyone's experience of ageing and sexuality is unique.

Timestamps

01:14 Suzanne is on a mission to smash the stereotypes around ageing and sex

02:11 Media narrative around ageing

03:03 The Journey of Advantages of Age

06:42 Start up School for Seniors – to help people over 50 start a new business

08:43 Sex Advice for Seniors explained

09:53 This age group used to be sorted

13:12 Any surprises?

14:22 Getting back into sex in her 60s and reactions

17:17 Desire and libido are complex

19:30 Exploring Pleasure Beyond Penetration

23:40 Interesting interview(s) on Sex Advice for Seniors

21:04 How easy is it to communicate about sex with your partner?

24:59 Dr Elliot Justin – Penis Ring

Suzanne's Links

https://advantagesofageawards.com/

https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/pegging-and-the-older-man-how-to

https://myfirmtech.com/collections/firmtech

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Takeaways

Ageing is influenced by both mindset and physical factors.

Attitude plays a significant role in how we perceive ageing.

Emotional memory can affect our physical vitality as we age.

Belief in oneself can lead to positive physical changes.

Language and self-talk are crucial in shaping our ageing experience.

Cultural perspectives can impact how ageing is viewed and respected.

Mindfulness can help us stay present and aware as we age.

We have the power to choose our attitude towards aging.

Ageing is a complex interplay of various factors, not just mindset.

The freedom that comes with ageing can be liberating.

Timestamps

01:32 Mel Robbins podcast episode with De Ellen Lnager

02:46 The Mind-Body Connection in Ageing

03:40 Attitude and Ageing: A Complex Relationship

05:53 Emotional Memory and Its Impact on Ageing

09:50 Belief and Perception: Shaping Our Ageing Experience

13:40 How do Faith, Gender, Culture impact your Belief

14:46 Negativity around age

15:30 Cultural Perspectives on Ageing, how we make it more interesting and fun

16:37 The Role of Language and Mindfulness in Ageing

21:10 Belonging and Being Accepted

17:52 The Power of Choice in the Ageing Process

25:57 Is there Something Liberating about Getting Old

29:13 We Have a Choice

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In this episode we are going to talk about some of the different changes we go through including children leaving home and retirement. We discuss taking risks, having choices and how to manage change. 

Key Takeaways: 

Who do we become when the kids leave home? 

Making active choices.  

Managing change. 

Timestamps: 

• [00:53] – Transiting from one role to another 
• [08:49] – Accepting getting older 
• [09:56] – How to get a choice if you feel like you don’t have one 
• [11:22] – Taking risks 
• [14:23] – How to manage change 
• [18:40] – Consciously aware of what is going on 

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How Erectile Dysfunction Affects Women

Episode Summary:

In this episode we talk about how the blue pill affects women, especially as we get older, how it doesn’t supply the desire just the erection and how that affects relationships. We talk about the importance of communication, why don’t we tell our partners we are using pills for erections or pessaries for dryness? We discuss what the equivalent is for women and how this affects women. We are looking for questions for our guest on July 3rd and would love for people to message in if they have been affected by the blue pill, either positively or negatively.

Key Takeaways:

Questions before 3rd July for Dr Elliot Justin

The blue pill is purely functional

Why don’t we talk about this?

Women’s equivalent to Viagra

Timestamps:

•                         [01:01] – Effects of Viagra on women

•                         [06:55] – You both need to be aroused

•                         [08:50] – Worried about telling partners

•                         [13:30] – Penetrative Sex

•                         [15:49] – Female equivalent to Viagra

•                         [16:43] – Testosterone

•                         [17:50] – Pills for women

•                         [22:15] – Please share women’s experiences

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Episode Summary:

In this episode we talk about navigating older parents, talking about support and help for you and for the aging parents. We discuss putting parents into homes and how to make challenging decisions.

Key Takeaways:

Looking after older parents

Asking for help

Having relationships with your adult children

Timestamps:

• [01:04] – Navigating older parents

• [05:52] – How to get support

• [10:13] – Help

• [15:43] – Hide them in a home

• [21:36] – How to have a relationship with your adult children

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In this episode we introduce our amazing guest Gina Gardiner, she discuss her accident and what pathways she took after. We talk about her motivation and her having a sense of purpose throughout life. Gina has also written 37 books and 3 of them have been number 1 best sellers.

Key Takeaways:

Focus on what you can do

Happiness is a choice

Believe in someone even when they don’t believe in themselves

Timestamps:

• [00:55] – Introducing our guest Gina and her story

• [12:47] – Where do you get your motivation from

• [18:20] – Sense of purpose in retirement

• [24:11] – Is aging a challenge 

Gina’s book https://genuinely-you.co/page/books

To lead others, you first need to transform into the best version of yourself and lead from a place of wholeness. In a new era of leadership, most are finding that there’s a deeper meaning to their overall purpose and reason for existing. This expands far beyond the approaches that have been taught in the traditional paradigms or even some of the most leading-edge programmes. Enlightenment, personal and spiritual mastery and leadership refinement are the core components required for creating a new landscape of leadership.

If you would like Gina’s blueprint either https://enlightenedleadership.co/page/free-blueprint or  ginagardinerandfriends@gmail.com with "Blueprint" in the subject title

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In this unapologetically honest episode, we dive into the exploding world of cosmetic surgery, injectables and weight-loss drugs, especially for people over 50. From facelifts to Ozempic, celebrity transparency and the reality of loose skin, we explore what’s real, what’s taboo and what’s becoming completely normal.

We also discuss how Gen X is redefining aging, why social media is both inspiring and exhausting and the huge rise in both men and women seeking aesthetic treatments.

Topics Discussed

• Why celebrities finally admitting surgery helps everyone
• Cosmetic procedures growing rapidly in men (up 70% since 2021)
• The difference between surgery in the 2000s vs today
• Zoom culture and the rise of self-criticism
• Top cosmetic procedures for men vs women
• Jo’s personal experience with surgery & Botox
• Kev’s reconstructive surgery story
• Are facelifts still taboo? Why they shouldn’t be?
• Brad Pitt rumours (has he or hasn't he?)
• Fitness culture, shredding and the pressure to look “ageless”
• Weight loss drugs (Ozempic/Wegovy/Mounjaro) becoming mainstream
• The truth about side effects: sickness, muscle loss & long-term risk
• Loose skin after weight loss and why it’s driving more facelifts
• Gen X refusing to “act old” and how culture is shifting
• Confidence, comparison and the expectations placed on women over 50

Timestamps

• 01.45 – Celebrity honesty & why it matters
• 04:13– Kev’s reconstructive surgery background
• 06:48 – Zoom culture and self-image after 50
• 08:05 – Men vs women: top 5 cosmetic procedures
• 11:05 – Kev on ageing, weight, and “could I be bothered?”
• 13:48 – Jo on Botox, implants & considering a facelift
• 14:48 – “Glamour pusses” over 50: Liz Hurley, Aniston, Kidman
• 18:32 – Gen X is ageing differently, here’s why
• 22:34 – What men really think about women having surgery
• 24:38 – Facelifts in Turkey & risks vs results
• 28:00 – The weight-loss drug boom
• 31:49 – Side effects, muscle loss & poor dosage
• 33:00 – Weight loss → loose skin → facelift trend
• 34:20 – Weight loss drugs and cosmetic work are no longer taboo

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In this episode, Jo Parker and Corrine Franceschi discuss the challenges and realities of living with Parkinson's disease, particularly from the perspective of a caregiver. Corrine shares her personal experiences with her partner's diagnosis, the emotional and physical toll of caregiving, and the importance of awareness and support systems. They explore the impact of the disease on relationships, the necessity of maintaining one's identity, and practical advice for those newly diagnosed. The conversation emphasizes the need for greater understanding and resources for both patients and caregivers.

Takeaways

• Parkinson's affects everyone differently, with over 40 symptoms.
• Early onset Parkinson's tends to progress more slowly.
• There is a lack of awareness about Parkinson's as a growing neurological condition.
• Caregiving can lead to emotional detachment as a protective mechanism.
• Support systems are crucial but often lacking in understanding of Parkinson's.
• The impact of Parkinson's extends to family and relationships.
• Maintaining personal identity is vital for caregivers.
• Practical advice includes understanding treatment options and side effects.
• Finding joy and personal fulfillment is essential for caregivers.
• Establishing lasting power of attorney is important for managing care.

Timestamps

01:34 Introduction to Parkinson's Disease

02:36 Understanding Parkinson's: Symptoms and Progression

07:40 The Emotional Toll of Caregiving

12:00 Navigating Healthcare and Support Systems

16:04 The Impact on Relationships and Family

20:34 Not Feeling Guilty, Finding Joy and Maintaining Identity

22:22 Depression and Dignitas

24:23 Going into a Care Home

26:12 Lasting Power of Attorney

28:09 Practical Advice for New Diagnoses

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Episode Summary:

In this episode we discuss the early days of retirement with our guest Paul Rolfe. We talk about how the process feels and what regrets you may have. We go into the money side of retirement and when and what to think about at younger ages.

Key Takeaways:

Finances in retirement

Regrets before retirement

How retirement makes you feel

Paul Rolfe’s new podcast, called Happy Money, is due to be released end of May

Timestamps:

·      [00:14] – Introducing guest Paul Rolfe

·      [01:12] – How you finding retirement 4 months in?

·      [04:51] – Does retirement feel like freedom or a slow march toward irrelevance?

·      [09:30] – What are you doing to push yourself out of your comfort zone?

·      [13:23] – What gets you out of bed in the morning?

·      [15:48] – Biggest lie society tells us about retirement

·      [24:28 ] – Paul’s podcast release date

·      [25:54] – What would your advice be to 40-year-old you?

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Finding yourself after divorce...post 50

Episode Summary:

In this episode we talk about getting a divorce in later life and finding your identity again. We discuss getting back into doing things we love and making new friends along the way.

Key Takeaways:

40% of marriages end in divorce

Everything has an end to it

Finding your identity

Timestamps:

• [01:36] – Kev’s divorce

• [05:10] – Identity

• [10:00] – Getting back into motorcycling

• [18:44] – Kev going to India

• [24:25] – What you do creates your identity

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They unpack identity loss, loneliness and why retirement is far more than finances and how LivOn is redefining what this next chapter can look like.

Key Takeaways

Retirement is a whole new chapter, not an ending

So much of “good retirement” is down to luck

Identity loss is a huge, hidden problem

Live On is like a retirement coach in your pocket

Special support for men & the newly “forced” retired

The app is free, with a “tech for good” mission

Timestamps

01:38 - What is LivOn

02:04 - Retirement Comes Down to Luck

02:40 - Amanda’s Parents’ Journey

04:28 - The Difficulty of Finding Activities After 60

05:34 - 1 in 3 People Struggle with Retirement

06:04 - We Are Living Much Longer

06:20 - What LivOn Offers (Overview)

07:25 - The Personality Test, designed to help the individual

07:53 - How the App Recommends Activities

09:30 - Helping Introverts or the Newly Alone Make Friends

10:26 - Partnerships & Trusted Sources

11:25 - Supporting Men in Retirement

12:33 - Can Users Add Their Own Groups or Events?

13:42 - If the App Is Free, How Will It Make Money?

14:32 - What Might the Premium Version Include?

15:15 - The Gap in the Market

17:08 - Who Is the App For? (55+ and beyond)

18:35 - Why Aren’t We Emotionally Prepared for Retirement?

19:38 - Jo Talks About Kev’s Forthcoming Retirement Process

22:22 - Why Live On Avoids Health & Finance Advice (For Now)

23:40 - Anonymous Chat Groups (Reddit-Style)

25:56 - The Bigger Mission

28:24 - When Is the App Launching? January 2026

28:46 - Early Testers Wanted

Website: www.livon.ai (people can sign up for early access and learn a bit more about what we’re building.)

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In this episode, we discuss tolerance and intolerance and how these change as you get older. We talk about how things changing around us affect our tolerance and the difference between tolerance and being moody.

Key Takeaways:

What we tolerate and don’t tolerate

How getting older changes what we tolerate

Is moody being intolerant?

Timestamps:

• [01:20] – Do you think its fear?

• [02:33] – Are you finding yourself more intolerant?

• [04:04] – What is tolerance?

• [8:17] – Understanding the new way of living

• [11:54] – How do we maintain our boundaries?

• [16:05] – Express your boundaries without being offensive

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In this episode we welcome our guest David Puglsey (64) who opens up about his retirement coach. He talks about having a fear that he would retire and die, and how the coach is working with him on this. He discusses his little notebook and what this does to help him and open to new possibilities.

Key Takeaways:

Looking at you in coaching

Being open to possibility, possibilities will come to you

Timestamps:

[00:58] – Introducing guest David Pugsley

[04:00] – Retire and die

[07:26] – Getting a coach

[09:56] – Looking at you

[13:04] – David’s little notebook

[17:42] – What prompted you to start the book

[21:49] – Opening yourself up 

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Key Takeaways

Christmas with adult children brings new challenges.

Creating new traditions is essential as families evolve.

Emotional responses to children not being home for Christmas are common.

Parents must adapt to their children's changing preferences.

The pressure of parental expectations can affect holiday gatherings.

Open communication is key to understanding children's needs.

Christmas celebrations should reflect the current family dynamics.

It's important to allow children to create their own holiday experiences.

Financial considerations play a role in hosting Christmas.

Navigating adult relationships requires flexibility and understanding.

Time Stamps

01:14 Our first Xmas with no kids at home

01:38 Remembering Xmas as a child

06:04 Creating New Christmas Traditions for our kids

10:55 How it felt when my daughter asked if she could spend Xmas with her friends

13:15 Pros and cons of having Xmas with adult children

16:29 Managing expectations

17:58 Shifting Dynamics of Family Gatherings

18:23 Hosting Xmas is expensive

20:41 We think we might be invited for Xmas soon

21:21 We have to let our kids create their own Xmas

22:00 Main reasons adult children don’t want to spend Xmas with their parents

24:24 New Year’s Eve

27:35 Is this the last year we go clubbing on New Year’s Eve?

29:10 Get to know your children as adults

30:14 Redefining Christmas CelebrationsSubscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify

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In this episode we talk about Jo’s HRT Journey, the side effects she has had from menopause including sleepless nights, anxiety and hair loss and how the HRT has helped with some of these. We discuss the changes you go through in your menopause. Gaylin opens up and talks about her HRT journey.

Key Takeaways:

Chasing a level of normality

Side effects of menopause

Has HRT helped?

Timestamps:

•                         [00:17] – Jo’s HRT journey

•                         [02:23] – HRT specialist

•                         [08:10] – What are we chasing

•                         [10:55] – Hair loss

•                         [14:24] – Is mood better now on HRT

•                         [18:32] – Gaylin’s HRT journey

•                         [22:21] – Post menopause

•                         [28:50] - What will happen moving forward

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Episode Summary:

In this episode we welcome our guest Chris Daems who is the founder of Cervello (Financial Planning)and hostof the oodcast called What Happens Next.? We talk about how important it is be financially independent, have a good social wellbeing and physical wellbeing. We discuss how retirement has changed over the years and how there has been a mindset shift.

Key Takeaways:

What happens next podcast

Find your people

Book – Designing your life bu Bill Burnett

Timestamps:

• [01:03] – Introducing guest Chris Daems

• [02:06] – What happens next

• [08:33] – What are people doing in the transition

• [11:01] – Coaching people in life

• [13:01] – Greatest Challenges • [16:00] – Has retirement changed

• [19:58] – What is Chris’ what happens next

• [28:54] - Recurring themes

• [35:32] – Mindset shift

This is Chris

https://www.cervellofp.co.uk/

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Books

Designing Your Life by Bill Burnett

Bowling Alone by Robert D Putnam

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In this episode we explore the concept of a 'second childhood', emphasising the importance of embracing creativity, passion, and a sense of wonder akin to that of a child. We discuss how allowing oneself to experience these feelings can lead to personal growth and self-discovery.

Takeaways

The idea of second childhood, in a way, it is a second childhood.

Allowing yourself to have the same creativity and passions.

Absorption in things and awe and wonder as a little two and a half year old.

What is wrong with that?

Embracing creativity can lead to personal growth.

Passion is essential for a fulfilling life.

Awe and wonder can be rediscovered at any age.

Self-discovery is a lifelong journey.

Creativity should not be limited by age.

Allowing oneself to feel like a child can be liberating.

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Key Takeaways:

Changes as you get older

Discussing Ailments all time

Blue zones

What can we do instead of complaining

Timestamps:

• [00:39] – Talking about Ailments

• [02:51] – Age 60

• [08:47] - Blue Zones

• [13:00] – We need to be shifting

• [16:53] – Behind naming the podcast

• [17:22] – Aging gracefully or not

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Episode Summary:

In this episode we discuss different ways of being playful and the importance of being playful. We talk about being judged for being playful and accepting who we are and being whoever we want to be. Finding new things to do to be playful and inviting people to be playful with you.

Key Takeaways:

How to play in your 60’s

Playing is youthful

Being Judgemental and being judged

Timestamps:

• [01:04] – How do we play in our 60’s

• [02:00] – Gaylon puts on bunny ears

• [03:05] – Judgement

• [11:23] – Play is youthful

• [17:36] – Gaylon really doesn’t care what anyone thinks

• [19:58] – We need to feel like we belong

• [21:47] – Behind closed doors

• [25:46] How do we approach the playfulness

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Episode Summary:

In this episode we talk about being humans, being judgemental and taking it back to who we are instead of what we are. We discuss viewing each other as humans and not viewing on a material level; age gender, looks. What would the world be like if we all looked the same?

Key Takeaways:

Being Humans

Accepting People for as they are

Why is aging unattractive

Timestamps:

• [00:36] – What do we mean about being humans

• [06:04] – Is people not liking age more of a western thing

• [07:32] – Belonging and changing rules

• [12:06] – New website launch

• [13:15] - What would happen if we all had the same face.

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We discuss what trauma is and how it impacts our lives. Are boys having a hard time now? Is the masculine-feminine argument old? Can the masculine be caring and compassionate too?

The importance of taking ownership of ourselves, clearing up our shit and starting to live more aligned, Sharon talks us through connecting with our inner wisdom.

Key Takeaways

Facing our trauma, big or small

Owning our shit

The importance of the feminine

Connecting with our inner wisdom

Timestamps

• 01:50 – Visibility and the impact of Trauma
• 04:39 – Cultural conditioning and gender dynamics
• 08:23 – Working with women: Empowerment and voice
• 10:23 – Therapeutic approaches to self and rediscover
• 13:50 – The journey of becoming The Wilder Elder
• 16:23 – The importance of spreading wisdom
• 18:05 – Masculinity, femininity and emotional expression
• 23:30 – Addressing societal issues through therapy
• 26:20 – Connecting with your wild soul
• 27:40 – Sharon talks me through connecting with our inner wisdom

Our Guest

https://thewildelder.com/

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This is the space where we explore post-menopause challenges, together.

We would love you to join in.

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Episode Summary:

In this episode, we have a guest, Ali Creelman, who is a personal trainer and wants to share a different view on ageing men and women than the one in episode 9,  we discuss her opinion on many topics related to aging.

We talk about men and women’s skin, fitness, how to look after yourself and having a good balance.

Key Takeaways:

Different view on aging Men and Women

How looking after your skin is important

Exercise, hydrate and eat well

Timestamps:

• [00:18] – Introducing Guest Ali

• [00:42] – You don’t agree with everything we said in episode 9

• [04:53] – How do we look after our skin

• [11:10] – How to start looking after yourself

• [22:34] – Menopause

• [27:25] – You are a result of your childhood

• [28:57] – Choice

• [33:23] – Calories

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In this episode we talk about everything linked to sexuality, how this has changed over the years, being comfortable in yourself and energy shifting. We discuss how sexuality changes as you get older and the importance of self-love.

Key Takeaways:

Being comfortable and confident in yourself.

Physical energy shifts

Self-love

Timestamps:

• [00:27] – What does Sexuality mean.

•[02:34] – Being comfortable in yourself.

•[04:18] – How has our sexual and physical energy changed in our 60’s.

•[05:18] – Less vivid orgasms in our 60s or not.

•[09:42] – Masturbation.

•[16:47] – Once you open our legs, you open your heart.

•[21:12] – Relationship with yourself is the most important thing. 

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In this episode we look at how being curious helps maintaiin a youthful outlook. We discuss ways of being curious and taking ourselves out of our comfort zones.

Try anything once (within reason), change rountines and ask questions.

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Staying up to date with Thomas Power

Episode Summary:

In this episode we welcome our guest Thomas to discuss how to stay relevant with AI, Chat GPT and all the new tech and trends. Thomas gives his personal and professional takes on using AI and how this benefits everyone in all aspects of our lives.

Key Takeaways:

How AI is changing the way we work

Staying relevant

Timestamps:

• [01:01] – Introducing guest Thomas Power

• [03:05] – Staying on the edge

• [06:18] – How does a man like you stay curious

• [10:38] – What can we do to not get left behind?

• [14:10] – Integrating AI into your daily life and work life.

• [16:41] – How will AI change relationships

• [24:06] – Replacing people

• [29:55] - To old to try something new

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Key Takeaways:

Why do we celebrate Mother’s Day?

The pressure of Mother’s Day

The commercial impact behind Mother’s Day

Timestamps:

• [00:38] – What do you think of Mother’s Day

• [02:23] – Who is Mother’s Day being done for?

• [07:16] – How has your relationship with your mother changed over the years?

• [12:36] – How does the younger generation view Mother’s Day

• [13:33] – Why are we celebrating Mother’s Day

• [20:07] – All mother’s fuck up

• [29:22] – How do you encapsulate Mother’s Day

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Investment F**k Ups

Episode Summary:

Season 2 and we are introducing new co-hosts in this season. In this 1st episode we welcome our guest and new co-host for the next few weeks Paul Rolfe to discuss investments and fuck ups we have both done. Paul and I open up about scams we have been involved in and investments that didn’t work out.

This episode shares our personal experiences with investing, including the mistakes. It is not financial advice. Investments carry risks and what worked (or didn’t work) for us may not be right for you. Always seek independent, professional guidance from a qualified Independent Financial Adviser (IFA) before making any investment decisions.

Key Takeaways:

Only invest what you can afford to lose

Do your research

Timestamps:

• [01:01] – Exploring new co-hosts and welcome Paul

• [01:50] – Fuck ups I have made in investments

• [04:38] – Paul’s fuck ups

• [11:48] – Scams

• [15:50] – How do you avoid getting scammed

• [21:57] – Jo’s Investment

• [29:52] – Paul’s risky investments

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Episode Summary:

In this episode we talk about dating with apps, setting expectations, getting naked, the "fuck of death" and so much more. We explore our own personal experiences and what it was like dating before social media. 

Key Takeaways:

Ask yourself why you are dating and what are you looking for in the relationship.

Don’t judge people on appearance.

Be curious, be open and no expectations.

Timestamps:

·      [00:38] – Dating Apps

·      [02:36] – Why are you dating? / What are you looking for?

·      [13:30] – How do we date in later life?

·      [27:31] - Setting Expectations.

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I have decided to replay this episode (for those of you who missed it) following last week's interview on Sex Advice for Seniors with Suazanne Noble, as she refers to the penis ring and is the UK distributor.

This is with Dr Elliot Justin who invented an erection ring that not only helps maintain an erection but also provides data on your erection health, which is an indication of other health issues. He talks in depth about the benefits of the erection ring and how people have responded to it.

Key Takeaways:

Dr Elliot Justin and the Erection Ring

Designing a device for women

How the erection ring can help you

Rock harder, last longer and have more intense orgasms put a ring on it

Timestamps:

• [00:27] – Introducing guest Dr Elliot Justin

• [01:39] – The Erection ring

• [11:04] – Not to call it Erectile Dysfunction

• [14:18] – How Women have been described

• [16:45] – Database

• [21:06] – Partner's response to the erection ring

• [26:02] – Shame and secrecy

• [31:56] - Device for women

• [32:54] – Your mission

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Don’t downsize just find the right size

Episode Summary:

In this episode we are joined by the amazing Sally Rule who is an incredible Homeologist. We talk with her about what a Homologist does and how she helps people in later life. She discusses why people call her in and the importance of finding the right size home. By the way Sally is our sponsor!

Key Takeaways:

How can a Homeologist help you

It’s not downsizing it’s find the right size for you

Less is more

Timestamps:

• [01:01] – Introducing guest Sally Rule

• [01:39] – What does a Homologist do?

• [04:12] – How do you help in the later life?

• [10:23] – Downsizing

• [12:50] – Declutter

• [16:50] – Why do people call you in?

• [21:10] – Bringing in Family Members

• [22:55] - Leaving it too late

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Put an Erection Ring on it

Summary:

In this episode we have an amazing guest Dr Elliot Justin who has invented an erection ring that not only helps maintain an erection but also provides data on your erection health, which is an indication of other health issues. He talks in depth about the benefits of the erection ring and how people have responded to it.

Key Takeaways:

Dr Elliot Justin and the Erection Ring

Designing a device for women

How the erection ring can help you

Rock harder, last longer and have more intense orgasms put a ring on it

Timestamps:

• [00:27] – Introducing guest Dr Elliot Justin

• [01:39] – The Erection ring

• [11:04] – Not to call it Erectile Dysfunction

• [14:18] – How Women have been described

• [16:45] – Database

• [21:06] – Partner's response to the erection ring

• [26:02] – Shame and secrecy

• [31:56] - Device for women

• [32:54] – Your mission

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Episode Summary:

In this episode we discuss everything about friendships, how these change

in later life, what we need from a friendship and how to make new friends.

We talk about long term friends and new friends and also what friendship

means to us.

Key Takeaways:

What is friendship about?

What are you wanting from a friendship

The 4 assumptions

Timestamps:

• [00:18] – Talking about friendship and relationships for women.

• [03:45] – How do you make friends

• [07:51] – Worried about being judged

• [13:56] – Do you have anything in common with your husband

• [18:23] – As an older person what do you want out of your friendship.

• [21:45] – What does friendship mean to you

• [26:12] – The 4 assumptions

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Episode Summary:

In this episode we discuss if we will ever retire with the changes of age, who do we become when we retire and if we should prepare for retirement. We talk about what is retirement and what the expectations of retirement are. If we should plan for retirement and what to think about financially.

Key Takeaways:

Retirement age is changing

Do we actually retire?

Planning Retirement and Finances

Timestamps:

•  [00:44] – Dissertation on Retirement

•  [02:33] – Who are you when you retire?

•  [05:31] – Prepare for retirement

•  [09:47] – What is retirement?

•  [11:47] – Expectations of retirement

•  [14:10] – Planning retirement

•  [15:54] - Finances

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Shall we take the kids on holiday?

Episode Summary: 

In this episode we discuss having holiday with the children now they are older and have moved out. We also talk about holiday with the pets as well and the 

difficulties of holidays with pets. 

Key Takeaways: 

Creating family holidays and memories 

Paying for older children to go on holiday 

Why do we take them on holiday

Timestamps: 

• [01:55] – Having holidays when you have pets

• [05:18] – Planning a holiday with older kids

• [08:34] – Annoyed at paying for the children

• [11:51] – Why are we looking to take the children on holiday

• [22:03] – The last swansong

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Kev’s First When The F**K Moment

Episode Summary:

In this episode we introduce our co-host Kev Stockbridge and we discuss in depth his When the Fuck Did I become Old Moment. We talk about people’s perception of age and why Jo has to vet photos that go on social media.

Key Takeaways:

Someone else’s idea of old isn’t always your idea of old

Memories in Photo

Perception of how you look and how you feel

Timestamps:

•[01:14] – Introducing co host Kev Stockbridge

•[01:28] – Kev’s When the Fuck Moment

•[03:45] – Perception of age

•[08:45] – What age is perceived as old

•[11:58] – Why does Kev document with Photos

•[22:01] – Jo’s view of photos of her being on socials

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Episode Summary: 

In this episode we welcome Dr Elmar Jung to discuss Holistic Dentistry. He 

explains what Holistic Dentistry is and how they work. We have a very 

interesting chat about toxins in our mouth and how these toxins can link to 

other things in your body. 

Key Takeaways: 

Can toothache relate to something else in my body 

1st step is the most important one

Dr Elmar Jung’s podcast 

Timestamps: 

• [01:10] – Introduction of guest Dr Elmar Jung

• [02:08] – What is Holistic Dentistry

• [07:38] – Mercury in my mouth

• [16:45] – What is in people’s mouths 

• [19:28] – Fluoride 

• [22:10] – Where can we do our research

• [23:47] – How do we start 

• [27:50] – Root Canal

Dr Elmar's podcast Tooth Talk https://open.spotify.com/show/2nLSiWifMMs1QjUoXdiCng?si=56e0b821c4994583+-+Tooth+Talk&nd=1&dlsi=eac902f460a543cb

Root Cause https://youtu.be/3s41QXReJ_4?si=uDlShJ7Bk4Aiyaf8

The Smoking Tooth https://youtu.be/fJVBYZEsqEU?si=UkeC1cuEhad3DAQH

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Episode Summary:

In this episode we talk about sex post menopause, dry vaginas, no libido  and sagging bits. We discuss how communicating your needs can benefit both parties. Introducing some toys and have some fun.

Key Takeaways:

Sex after Menopause.

How to have sex without a Libido

Communication about Sex is key

Timestamps:

·      [00:39] – Post Menopause

·      [08:01] – How to have to sex when you Lose your libido

·      [09:44] – Mumma Gena – Pussy book

·      [14:53] – Sex toys

·      [17:34] – How to have sex when you don’t feel sexy

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Episode Summary:

In this episode we have our guest Clare Hughes who is an outstanding estate agent, discussing ageing in the industry and being a woman in estate agency. Clare shows us how it is never too late to start again, in any industry and under difficult circumstances.

We talk about health issues and surgery that Clare has had and how this has changed her life and career.

Key Takeaways:

Ageing and being a woman in estate agency

Women in Estate Agency Facebook group

What makes your feel sexy and successful in your 60’s

Timestamps:

• [00:18] – Introducing our guest estate agent Clare Hughes

• [00:58] – How have you found ageing in this industry?

• [03:02] – Reinventing yourself

• [04:28] – Health issues

• [11:04] – Women in Estate Agent Facebook group

• [15:07] – After effects of surgery

• [22:51] – What are doing now that your younger self wouldn’t have done?

• [28:04] – What’s left on your fuck it list

• [32:54] – What makes your feel sexy, successful and strong in your 60’s

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Kev brings his experience as a UK Mental Health First Aider, sharing shocking statistics, the roots of men’s silence, why loneliness hits men harder later in life, the crisis of male social isolation, and why so many men fall off a social cliff after retirement.

From Movember moustaches to actionable support models, from suicide statistics to why men avoid support groups filled with women, this episode is equal parts enlightening, tender, funny, and necessary.

Key Takeawys

• Why November matters for men’s mental health
• Movember: where it started and what it funds today
• Suicide statistics and the shocking gender divide
• How men and women differ in social connection
• Why loneliness skyrockets for men over 50
• The “A.L.E.C.” model anyone can use to support someone
• Why retirement is psychologically dangerous for men
• How purpose protects mental health
• The rise of male-only support spaces (Men’s Shed, Andy’s Man Club)
• Creating social networks before retirement
• Practical, real-life ways to support the men in your life

Timestamps

01:57 – Why Men’s Mental Health Awareness Month matters

03:11 – Suicide; methods & how they differ by age

05:30 – Movember: the origin story (and the ridiculous moustaches)

06:34 – What Movember funds today

08:00 – The Distinguished Gentleman’s Ride

09:35 – International Men’s Day & this year’s theme

11.34 – Why men die younger than women

13.33 – The A.L.E.C. Model: Ask, Listen, Encourage, Check-in

14:10 – What problems men bring to mental health first aiders

15:50 – Loneliness: the hidden epidemic for older men

16:35 – Social isolation vs loneliness (they’re not the same)

18:00 – 911,000 men over 50 live alone, rising to 1.5 million by 2030

20:55 – Why men struggle socially after 50

22:17 – Why men avoid support groups run mostly by women

22:45 – Men’s Shed, Andy’s Man Club & male-only spaces

24:50 – Kev’s personal retirement plans (and my opinion)

29:12 – The importance of purpose, routine & brain stimulation after retirement

30:36 – Men need reasons to meet up, not just “a chat”

31:10 – Being kind, checking in, and supporting the men around you

https://uk.movember.com

https://internationalmensday.com

https://www.ageuk.org.uk/information-advice/health-wellbeing/loneliness/

https://menssheds.org.uk

https://andysmanclub.co.uk

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Unexpected Interests and Hobbies

Episode Summary:

In this episode Paul and I discuss the hobbies that we have both taken up and what we are looking to do to push us out of our comfort zone. We also talk about the difference between hobbies and interests and the importance of a community.

Key Takeaways:

Do what you want

Community is key

Timestamps:

[01:10] – Paul’s Hobbies

[09:01] – What’s the difference between hobby and interest

[14:25] – Silent discos

[19:04] – Learn to public speak

[21:42] – Knitting

[22:54] – Community

[28:37] – Our conclusion

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Episode Summary:

In this episode we discuss the difference between Men and Women aging. We talk about how men can still reproduce at older age, how the media perceives it to be allowed for Men to get old but not for Women and the grey hair look on both Men and Women.

Key Takeaways:

Men can still biologically still reproduce at older age.

If they can shame people into buying something then they are making money.

Grey Hair

Timestamps:

• [00:17] – Physical Appearance

• [03:22] – Why are men allowed to be older

• [04:16] – Biologically men can still produce • [09:48] – Men are more attractive when older than women

• [12:08] – It takes Women much longer to look better.

• [17:13] – The grey hair

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Summary:

In this episode we explore talking about sexual choices when you get old, we discuss wife swapping, polyamorous relationships and porn.

We talk about what partner’s needs are sexually, playing and having fun in sexual intimacy.

Key Takeaways:

Polyamorous relationships

How porn can affect relationships

Having fun with sex

Timestamps:

• [01:02] – Wife Swapping

• [05:15] – Do I feel confident enough

• [06:46] – Sexual intimacy

• [11:52] – Porn

• [16:51] – Playing in sex

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