<![CDATA[I Think I Like You]]>https://ithinkilikeyou.buzzsprout.comRiverside.fm (https://riverside.com)Fri, 19 Jun 2026 01:28:12 GMTWed, 03 Jun 2026 16:57:47 GMT60Clara ArtschwagerA counterintuitive approach to navigating dating and building relationships in the digital age. This is for the woman who feels disenchanted by more common dating rhetoric and sometimes even questions if she wants a relationship at all. She already lives a rich, full life. She would like to share that with someone, but not at the expense of herself. What gives? That’s where we’re digging in.episodicClara Artschwagerclara.artschwager@gmail.comyes<![CDATA[How to Meet People in Person When You’re Terrified to Meet People in Person]]>How to Meet People in Real Life (When You're Done With the Apps)

You're not broken. You're just tired of the apps — and ready for something that actually feels like you.

This episode is part three of a series on in-person dating. (If you haven't listened to Episode 169 — Your Permission Slip to Stop Dating — and Episode 170 — Why You Can't Meet People in Person — start there first.)

In this one, we get into the part nobody talks about: what it actually takes to start seeing romantic possibility in your everyday life. Not a rigid plan. Not a list of places to go. Just a shift in how you're moving through the world — and what you're allowing yourself to want.

We cover:

  • Why your beliefs about meeting people are running the show (and how to change them)
  • Moving from fantasy to real-life action without forcing it
  • How curiosity beats perfectionism every time in dating
  • The subtle power of eye contact, small gestures, and letting things unfold
  • Why doing the inner work — especially around past relationships — is what actually builds confidence
  • How to stop overthinking and start honoring what you desire

Summer is a tender time for this. The stakes feel lower. The opportunities are everywhere — grocery stores, gyms, commutes. This episode is your permission slip to notice them.

]]>c38473f2-f463-4386-b105-5c047cb02c73Wed, 17 Jun 2026 07:00:00 GMT<p><b>How to Meet People in Real Life (When You're Done With the Apps)</b></p><p>You're not broken. You're just tired of the apps — and ready for something that actually feels like <i>you</i>.</p><p>This episode is part three of a series on in-person dating. (If you haven't listened to <a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="/content/episode-169" target="_blank">Episode 169</a> — Your Permission Slip to Stop Dating — and <a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="/content/episode-170" target="_blank">Episode 170</a> — Why You Can't Meet People in Person — start there first.)</p><p>In this one, we get into the part nobody talks about: what it actually takes to start seeing romantic possibility in your everyday life. Not a rigid plan. Not a list of places to go. Just a shift in how you're moving through the world — and what you're allowing yourself to want.</p><p>We cover:</p><ul><li>Why your beliefs about meeting people are running the show (and how to change them)</li><li>Moving from fantasy to real-life action without forcing it</li><li>How curiosity beats perfectionism every time in dating</li><li>The subtle power of eye contact, small gestures, and letting things unfold</li><li>Why doing the inner work — especially around past relationships — is what actually builds confidence</li><li>How to stop overthinking and start honoring what you desire</li></ul><p>Summer is a tender time for this. The stakes feel lower. The opportunities are everywhere — grocery stores, gyms, commutes. This episode is your permission slip to notice them.</p>no00:29:09171How to Meet People in Person When You’re Terrified to Meet People in Personfull<![CDATA[How overachievers shoot themselves in the foot with their careers, and what we can do about it | Ep 124]]>How in touch are you with your curiosity? How much do you listen to it and let it guide you? In life, but especially in your work?

Like many of you listening, I spent years in work and careers that I did out of obligation. A tried and true under fulfilled overachiever (who this book was made for), I moved towards anything and everything that looked good on paper. Many of us stay there — both out of necessity (I mean, we have to earn an income), but also because we get really stuck. We don't know where else to turn. We're encouraged to "find our passion," or consider what we really want to do, but that tends to get us nowhere.

Today's guest is a beloved return one, Megan Hellerer, because her new amazing book (have read it, can vouch) is out and I couldn't be more excited. And I'm giving away two copies to listeners, give a listen to learn how you can access!

In today's episode we're digging into:

  • The power of following our curiosity and why most of us don't
  • How when we stop trying to control and predict the future — new opportunities emerge
  • How success is about finding what's true for you, versus what's "right"
  • How to move towards what's "light and right," what makes you feel warm and like yourself, versus cold and hard.

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]]>Buzzsprout-15986699Fri, 25 Oct 2024 14:00:00 GMT<p>How in touch are you with your curiosity? How much do you listen to it and let it guide you? In life, but especially in your work?<br /><br />Like many of you listening, I spent years in work and careers that I did out of obligation. A tried and true under fulfilled overachiever (who this book was made for), I moved towards anything and everything that looked good on paper. Many of us stay there — both out of necessity (I mean, we have to earn an income), but also because we get really stuck. We don't know where else to turn. We're encouraged to "find our passion," or consider what we really want to do, but that tends to get us nowhere.<br /><br />Today's guest is a beloved return one, <a href="https://meganhellerer.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Megan Hellerer</a>, because her <a href="https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0593299272?tag=randohouseinc7986-20" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">new amazing book</a> (have read it, can vouch) is out and I couldn't be more excited. And I'm giving away two copies to listeners, give a listen to learn how you can access!<br /><br />In today's episode we're digging into:</p><ul><li>The power of following our curiosity and why most of us don't</li><li>How when we stop trying to control and predict the future — new opportunities emerge</li><li>How success is about finding what's true for you, versus what's "right"</li><li>How to move towards what's "light and right," what makes you feel warm and like yourself, versus cold and hard.</li></ul><p><a href="https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0593299272?tag=randohouseinc7986-20" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Buy Megan's Book</a><br /><a href="https://meganhellerer.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Visit Her Website</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no01:00:57How overachievers shoot themselves in the foot with their careers, and what we can do about it | Ep 124full<![CDATA[A former client of mine has a baby on her own, by choice, but still plans to "find love on her timeline." Here's her story. | Ep 150]]>Many of the women I work with fall into their late 30s and early 40s, that spot when if one desires children, things can feel a bit precarious. Will I meet someone in time? Will the eggs I've frozen actually function?

While I've had a few clients loosely entertain pursuing motherhood on their own, Megan was the first to actually do it. But it came much more from a place of pure desire, rather than something she felt forced into doing because time was running out. Her decision to do so brings up some great questions and points around the limitations of a traditional marriage, the freedoms found in having a child on one's own, and the desire to pursue motherhood in advance of meeting your partner. This is part one of our rich conversation.

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]]>Buzzsprout-18286227Wed, 10 Dec 2025 08:00:00 GMT<p>Many of the women I work with fall into their late 30s and early 40s, that spot when if one desires children, things can feel a bit precarious. Will I meet someone in time? Will the eggs I've frozen actually function?</p><p>While I've had a few clients loosely entertain pursuing motherhood on their own, Megan was the first to actually do it. But it came much more from a place of pure desire, rather than something she felt forced into doing because time was running out. Her decision to do so brings up some great questions and points around the limitations of a traditional marriage, the freedoms found in having a child on one's own, and the desire to pursue motherhood in advance of meeting your partner. This is part one of our rich conversation.</p><p>https://claraartschwager.substack.com/</p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:55:59A former client of mine has a baby on her own, by choice, but still plans to "find love on her timeline." Here's her story. | Ep 150full<![CDATA[The importance of rupture and repair — a client's story on how they broke up and did the necessary work to get back together| Ep 82]]>We toss around the idea of having to have the breakdown to have the breakthrough, but what does that actually look like? It's the main reason I wanted to sit down with my former client, Whitley, and discuss what the last few years of her relationship have looked like. There's been time together, there's been time apart, there's been working through a lot of stuff.

Before digging in, please know, this is *not* to be treated as a: Here's how I get my boyfriend back how to. 

In this episode we discuss:

  • The nature of their relationship and how breakups and time apart have served them
  • The internal work that made it possible for them to come back together
  • What that internal work consisted of, specifically, for Whitley 
  • What it looked like to fully surrender the relationship — i.e. release the idea that there was certainty in getting back together
  • How the work Whitley did reflects the necessary work anyone would need to do in order to enter into their next partnership in a different way (OR strengthen their current one)
  • How Whitley's life has changed drastically outside of the breakup (who she is, profession, how she sees herself, where her life is headed) and how that was/is deeply related to the overall health of the relationship

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]]>Buzzsprout-13877079Fri, 03 Nov 2023 15:00:00 GMT<p>We toss around the idea of having to have the breakdown to have the breakthrough, but what does that actually look like? It's the main reason I wanted to sit down with my former client, Whitley, and discuss what the last few years of her relationship have looked like. There's been time together, there's been time apart, there's been working through a lot of stuff.<br /><br />Before digging in, please know, this is *not* to be treated as a: Here's how I get my boyfriend back how to. <br /><br />In this episode we discuss:</p><ul><li>The nature of their relationship and how breakups and time apart have served them</li><li>The internal work that made it possible for them to come back together</li><li>What that internal work consisted of, specifically, for Whitley </li><li>What it looked like to fully surrender the relationship — i.e. release the idea that there was certainty in getting back together</li><li>How the work Whitley did reflects the necessary work anyone would need to do in order to enter into their next partnership in a different way (OR strengthen their current one)</li><li>How Whitley's life has changed drastically outside of the breakup (who she is, profession, how she sees herself, where her life is headed) and how that was/is deeply related to the overall health of the relationship</li></ul><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no01:20:04The importance of rupture and repair — a client's story on how they broke up and did the necessary work to get back together| Ep 82full<![CDATA[The most capable woman in the room is often the loneliest, whether she's single or in a relationship | Ep 159]]>The most capable woman in the room is often the loneliest. Not because no one wants her — but because she's spent years making herself so easy, so low-maintenance, so needless, that there's nothing for anyone to actually attach to.

But that's not a personality trait. That's a trauma response.

In this episode, I'm digging into hyper-independence — where it comes from, why it masquerades as "just who we are" when it's really a trauma response, and how it shows up in dating, relationships, and marriage in ways you might not expect. If you're single and wondering why things never quite stick, or partnered and sitting on a slow burn of resentment, this episode will give you a lot to work with.

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]]>Buzzsprout-18732569Wed, 25 Feb 2026 08:00:00 GMT<p>The most capable woman in the room is often the loneliest. Not because no one wants her — but because she's spent years making herself so easy, so low-maintenance, so needless, that there's nothing for anyone to actually attach to.</p><p>But that's not a personality trait. That's a trauma response.</p><p>In this episode, I'm digging into hyper-independence — where it comes from, why it masquerades as "just who we are" when it's really a trauma response, and how it shows up in dating, relationships, and marriage in ways you might not expect. If you're single and wondering why things never quite stick, or partnered and sitting on a slow burn of resentment, this episode will give you a lot to work with.</p><p><a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-40-portal/id1871903842" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Listen to The 40 Portal Podcast</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:33:21The most capable woman in the room is often the loneliest, whether she's single or in a relationship | Ep 159full<![CDATA[Episode 33: How Googling when to text back or polling our friends around whether or not we should entertain a second date is doing more harm than good.]]>2022 has been a year of growth for me, and a massive (consistently uncomfortable) one at that. One of the things that's coming up big for me is how I've put my direction, my next steps, my knowing, in the hands of other people. How I positioned myself as "not knowing," what to do when it came to my business, my life, and so much more. This happens consistently in the space of dating. We peg ourselves as "not knowing," or search outside ourselves for the answer to something that we either already know or are avoiding  knowing. Like most things of this kind, it's a defense mechanism—a way we hope to circumvent hurt and pain, though it never works out that way.

This episode will resonate if:

  • You tend to poll friends (and anyone who will listen) about what to do in your dating life
  • You tend to Google scenarios versus consider your own opinion
  • The red flags are always so obvious to you on the other side — and tend to be the same ones you ignore
  • You have a narrative like "I don't know what I'm doing," or "I don't know how to meet someone," or "I don't know how to date."

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]]>Buzzsprout-11699127Tue, 15 Nov 2022 17:00:00 GMT<p>2022 has been a year of growth for me, and a massive (consistently uncomfortable) one at that. One of the things that's coming up big for me is how I've put my direction, my next steps, my knowing, in the hands of other people. How I positioned myself as "not knowing," what to do when it came to my business, my life, and so much more. This happens consistently in the space of dating. We peg ourselves as "not knowing," or search outside ourselves for the answer to something that we either already know or are <em>avoiding</em>  knowing.<em> </em>Like most things of this kind, it's a defense mechanism—a way we hope to circumvent hurt and pain, though it never works out that way.<br /><br />This episode will resonate if:<br /><br /></p><ul><li>You tend to poll friends (and anyone who will listen) about what to do in your dating life</li><li>You tend to Google scenarios versus consider your own opinion</li><li>The red flags are always so obvious to you on the other side — and tend to be the same ones you ignore</li><li>You have a narrative like "I don't know what I'm doing," or "I don't know how to meet someone," or "I don't know how to date."</li></ul><p><a href="https://view.flodesk.com/pages/636feacd81bc8568aa6e6bd9" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">How to Date More Consciously --&gt; Get on the list!</a><br /><a href="https://view.flodesk.com/pages/6255906169d304440734a7ad" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Sign up for Clara's newsletter</a><br /><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Follow along on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:38:56Episode 33: How Googling when to text back or polling our friends around whether or not we should entertain a second date is doing more harm than good.full<![CDATA[How to know when it's time to take a break...from dating, hanging with a certain friend, or running a podcast | Ep 136]]>Today's decision is something I've been noodling on for the past month. I've decided to take a break from running this podcast. But I didn't want to do so without taking you behind the scenes of my decision, because while in this instance the decision to take a break centers around a creative project — my method and means of reflection could be applied to so much else. It's got me thinking about all sorts of priorities and projects in my life.... do I still want to engage with them? Are they for right now? How does one decide?

If you find yourself in any space of stuck-ness, I'll be sharing:

  • How I started to hear the whispers of this decision, like maybe it was something I should do, and how I went about determining if it was the right decision
  • Why I decided to label it as a break versus end the podcast
  • Wrestling with our own limitations around time, money, creative capacity
  • How to hold two things — the disappointment of having to let something go, but also the desire to do so
  • My desire to lean more into living life versus just accomplishing life
  • Where you can enjoy new content from me, including in audio and video form

While the podcast is going on pause, my work with clients, my online courses, and most importantly, my Substack is not!

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]]>Buzzsprout-17078899Mon, 12 May 2025 23:00:00 GMT<p>Today's decision is something I've been noodling on for the past month. I've decided to take a break from running this podcast. But I didn't want to do so without taking you behind the scenes of my decision, because while in this instance the decision to take a break centers around a creative project — my method and means of reflection could be applied to so much else. It's got me thinking about all sorts of priorities and projects in my life.... do I still want to engage with them? Are they for right now? How does one decide?</p><p>If you find yourself in any space of stuck-ness, I'll be sharing:</p><ul><li>How I started to hear the whispers of this decision, like maybe it was something I should do, and how I went about determining if it was the right decision</li><li>Why I decided to label it as a break versus end the podcast</li><li>Wrestling with our own limitations around time, money, creative capacity</li><li>How to hold two things — the disappointment of having to let something go, but also the desire to do so</li><li>My desire to lean more into living life versus just accomplishing life</li><li>Where you can enjoy new content from me, including in audio and video form</li></ul><p>While the podcast is going on pause, <a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/work-with-me" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">my work with clients</a>, <a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/courses" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">my online courses</a>, and most importantly, my <a href="https://claraartschwager.substack.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Substack </a>is not!</p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:39:54How to know when it's time to take a break...from dating, hanging with a certain friend, or running a podcast | Ep 136full<![CDATA[Episode 40: When you feel like you've "done all the work," and the relationship still hasn't happened.]]>I met Jeanne Grabowski in one of the most tumultuous times of your life. I've spoken of said time on the podcast— it happens to be one of the most popular episodes. As with all periods where we feel like our lives couldn't get any worse, Jeanne was a gift. She gave me strength and carried me in ways I wasn't able to carry myself. Since then, our relationship and friendship has blossomed into so much more.

I wanted to have her on the podcast because, like many, she found herself in her later 30s, having done much personal development work, coaching and therapy sans relationship. She wondered, deeply, what was really going down and if it was all worth it.

This episode will resonate with anyone who:

  • Feels exhausted by the work they've done on themselves
  • Wonders why all the work they feel they've done hasn't translated to something greater–namely in the form of relationship
  • How to look more deeply inward— get more honest with ourselves—when we've reached said points

Jeanne gets into all of what that looked like for her—including a major move, coming more deeply into her body, and shifts in her work. This is definitely an episode I'm taking notes from myself!

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]]>Buzzsprout-11903870Tue, 20 Dec 2022 13:00:00 GMT<p>I met <a href="https://www.jeannegrabowski.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Jeanne Grabowski</a> in one of the most tumultuous times of your life. I've spoken of said time on the podcast— it happens to be one of the <a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/content/episode-5" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">most popular episodes.</a> As with all periods where we feel like our lives couldn't get any worse, Jeanne was a gift. She gave me strength and carried me in ways I wasn't able to carry myself. Since then, our relationship and friendship has blossomed into so much more.<br /><br />I wanted to have her on the podcast because, like many, she found herself in her later 30s, having done much personal development work, coaching and therapy sans relationship. She wondered, deeply, what was really going down and if it was all worth it.<br /><br />This episode will resonate with anyone who:</p><ul><li>Feels exhausted by the work they've done on themselves</li><li>Wonders why all the work they feel they've done hasn't translated to something greater–namely in the form of relationship</li><li>How to look more deeply inward— get more honest with ourselves—when we've reached said points</li></ul><p>Jeanne gets into all of what that looked like for her—including a major move, coming more deeply into her body, and shifts in her work. This is definitely an episode I'm taking notes from myself!<br /><br />Links mentioned:<br />https://www.jeannegrabowski.com/<br />https://www.instagram.com/jeannegrabowski/</p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no01:10:14Episode 40: When you feel like you've "done all the work," and the relationship still hasn't happened.full<![CDATA[And one day, her husband just left (at the start of the pandemic). On Belle Burden's memoir "Strangers" | Ep 166]]>Did you read Strangers? The memoir that blew up....idk, everywhere...over the past few months. Here's the down-and-dirty, which is really not a spoiler alert because it's revealed in the first two pages of the book: Socialite Belle Burden's husband of 20 years, a few days into the pandemic, up and left. And never came back. 

There's obviously more to it, and well worth a read of the book. But why ARE people so obsessed with this book? It's not just because it has a media engine behind it. I had to discuss this, naturally, and did so with my dear friend Cath, who by the way is hosting an AMAZING retreat the June in the Hudson Valley.

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]]>Buzzsprout-19084897Wed, 29 Apr 2026 07:00:00 GMT<p>Did you read <em>Strangers</em>? The memoir that blew up....idk, everywhere...over the past few months. Here's the down-and-dirty, which is really not a spoiler alert because it's revealed in the first two pages of the book: Socialite Belle Burden's husband of 20 years, a few days into the pandemic, up and left. And never came back. </p><p>There's obviously more to it, and well worth a read of the book. But <em>why</em> ARE people so obsessed with this book? It's not just because it has a media engine behind it. I had to discuss this, naturally, and did so with my dear friend Cath, who by the way is <a href="https://www.the40portal.com/retreat" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">hosting an AMAZING retreat the June in the Hudson Valley.</a></p><p><a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-40-portal/id1871903842" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Listen to Cath's podcast, The 40 Portal</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:59:53And one day, her husband just left (at the start of the pandemic). On Belle Burden's memoir "Strangers" | Ep 166full<![CDATA["I don't want to waste time dating" --> How that goal is working against you | Ep 96]]>Here's something clients say to me all the time:

I don't want to waste time dating.

I totally get where they're coming from, but that desire and sentiment is totally working against them. That's what I'm unpacking in today's episode along with more legitimately helpful tools to reframe your dating life.

This episode will resonate if you:

  • Find yourself overly scrutinizing people's profiles
  • Tend to look at someone's profile or observe their behavior pre-date and make immediate and strict judgements about them (They used this emoji! They're a selfish human being!)
  • Blame yourself if you end up on a date that goes poorly, saying "I should have seen this coming!"
  • Identify as an overachiever
  • Place a lot of value on doing things well — being productive and efficient in all areas of your life

This episode will benefit anyone who:

  • Feels extremely frustrated and let down when they wind up on dates that are unenjoyable or don't go anywhere (You tend to be really hard on yourself or ruminate on what you could have done differently to avoid this outcome)
  • Finds the overall process of dating rather miserable and wish it were easier
  • Are constantly searching for a better way or easier way to discern whether someone is worth meeting in person, but never finding a solution
  • Fear getting hurt in the dating process
  • Have a historical fear of intimacy or have a history of choosing romantically unavailable partners

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]]>Buzzsprout-14516989Tue, 20 Feb 2024 08:00:00 GMT<p>Here's something clients say to me all the time:<br /><br /><em>I don't want to waste time dating</em>.<br /><br />I totally get where they're coming from, but that desire and sentiment is totally working against them. That's what I'm unpacking in today's episode along with more legitimately helpful tools to reframe your dating life.<br /><br />This episode will resonate if you:</p><ul><li>Find yourself overly scrutinizing people's profiles</li><li>Tend to look at someone's profile or observe their behavior pre-date and make immediate and strict judgements about them (They used this emoji! They're a selfish human being!)</li><li>Blame yourself if you end up on a date that goes poorly, saying "I should have seen this coming!"</li><li>Identify as an overachiever</li><li>Place a lot of value on doing things well — being productive and efficient in <em>all </em>areas of your life</li></ul><p>This episode will benefit anyone who:</p><ul><li>Feels extremely frustrated and let down when they wind up on dates that are unenjoyable or don't go anywhere (You tend to be really hard on yourself or ruminate on what you could have done differently to avoid this outcome)</li><li>Finds the overall process of dating rather miserable and wish it were easier</li><li>Are constantly searching for a better way or easier way to discern whether someone is worth meeting in person, but never finding a solution</li><li>Fear getting hurt in the dating process</li><li>Have a historical fear of intimacy or have a history of choosing romantically unavailable partners</li></ul><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:44:31"I don't want to waste time dating" --> How that goal is working against you | Ep 96full<![CDATA[2 clients recently entered relationships — here's what they did that did NOT involve dating that made all the difference | Ep 87]]>Any opportunity I have to debunk the myth that the fastest way to meet someone is by dating as much as possible, I love. So in today's episode, I'm breaking down the areas outside of dating that two lovely clients focused on that played a significant role when it came to  entering these beautiful new partnerships.

I'm specifically walking through how working on:

  • Family dynamics
  • Quality of friendships
  • Work/professional fulfillment
  • Taking consistent dating breaks plays

Plays an even bigger role than the act of dating when it comes to moving towards the relationship you want. 

If you find yourself:

  • Stuck in a dating rut
  • Burnt out with dating
  • Under the impression that the only way to "work on" your dating life or actually meet someone involves going on dates
  • Hungry for a period of rest and self care

Then I implore you to gift yourself the grace and wisdom of this episode, because seriously just dating and staying stuck in the same patterns is the absolute WORST.

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]]>Buzzsprout-14093898Tue, 05 Dec 2023 18:00:00 GMT<p>Any opportunity I have to debunk the myth that the fastest way to meet someone is by dating as much as possible, I love. So in today's episode, I'm breaking down the areas outside of dating that two lovely clients focused on that played a significant role when it came to  entering these beautiful new partnerships.<br /><br />I'm specifically walking through how working on:</p><ul><li>Family dynamics</li><li>Quality of friendships</li><li>Work/professional fulfillment</li><li>Taking consistent dating breaks plays</li></ul><p>Plays an even bigger role than the act of dating when it comes to moving towards the relationship you want. <br /><br />If you find yourself:</p><ul><li>Stuck in a dating rut</li><li>Burnt out with dating</li><li>Under the impression that the only way to "work on" your dating life or actually meet someone involves going on dates</li><li>Hungry for a period of rest and self care</li></ul><p>Then I implore you to gift yourself the grace and wisdom of this episode, because seriously just dating and staying stuck in the same patterns is the absolute WORST.</p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:49:142 clients recently entered relationships — here's what they did that did NOT involve dating that made all the difference | Ep 87full<![CDATA[How social media has bastardized the meaning of "blocks," a whole new way to look at codependency, and more with Bea Victoria Albina | Ep 154]]>Quick videos with quippy captions, over-simplified sound bites and energy influencers claiming they understand your body better than you do your own,  have seemingly made us all "somatic experts," completely on top of our individualized trauma and blocks...but has it?

That, and well, the release of her new book (!), was the main reason I wanted Bea to return to the show. If you identify as a type A, high-achieving, people-pleasing, good girl — essentially everyone who listens to this show — Bea's framing of these behaviors, our understanding of codependency, the buzziness of the terms "blocks" and "somatic" and how the popularity is leading us to misinterpret what we're actually feeling, will feel like a breath of fresh air. I walked away from this episode with a whole new understanding of how my own, personal, lived experience is still (in sneaky and subtle ways) in relation to my perceived sense of what's working and not working for someone else.

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]]>Buzzsprout-18507944Wed, 21 Jan 2026 08:00:00 GMT<p>Quick videos with quippy captions, over-simplified sound bites and energy influencers claiming they understand your body better than you do your own,  have seemingly made us all "somatic experts," completely on top of our individualized trauma and blocks...but has it?</p><p>That, and well, the release of her <a href="https://beatrizalbina.com/book/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">new book</a> (!), was the main reason I wanted Bea to return to the show. If you identify as a type A, high-achieving, people-pleasing, good girl — essentially everyone who listens to this show — Bea's framing of these behaviors, our understanding of codependency, the buzziness of the terms "blocks" and "somatic" and how the popularity is leading us to misinterpret what we're actually feeling, will feel like a breath of fresh air. I walked away from this episode with a whole new understanding of how my own, personal, lived experience is still (in sneaky and subtle ways) in relation to my perceived sense of what's working and not working for someone else.</p><p><a href="https://beatrizalbina.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Bea's Website</a></p><p><a href="https://beatrizalbina.com/book/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Buy Bea's Book</a></p><p><a href="https://beatrizalbina.com/workwithme/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Join her program, Anchored</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:59:56How social media has bastardized the meaning of "blocks," a whole new way to look at codependency, and more with Bea Victoria Albina | Ep 154full<![CDATA[Letting people go, pausing dating apps, saying 'no' — all ways of actually bringing *more* momentum to your pursuit of partnership | Ep 144]]>In the past few weeks clients of mine have:

  • Let go of people they really liked but ultimately weren't the right fit
  • Slowed down their dating practice to get more out of it (i.e. more ease, more fulfillment)
  • Practiced taking space in the early days of a new relationship to better discern how they were feeling

And in so doing, they're confronting pain, fear, grief, uncertainty....the meat of life :). Admittedly, I've been in a season of my life that has brought up a lot of those feelings, too. Today's episode is dedicated to the power of those emotions, those periods of life, as it relates to moving closer to what we want.

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]]>Buzzsprout-18056981Wed, 29 Oct 2025 13:00:00 GMT<p>In the past few weeks clients of mine have:</p><ul><li>Let go of people they <em>really</em> liked but ultimately weren't the right fit</li><li>Slowed down their dating practice to get more out of it (i.e. more ease, more fulfillment)</li><li>Practiced taking space in the early days of a new relationship to better discern how they were feeling</li></ul><p>And in so doing, they're confronting pain, fear, grief, uncertainty....the meat of life :). Admittedly, I've been in a season of my life that has brought up a lot of those feelings, too. Today's episode is dedicated to the power of those emotions, those periods of life, as it relates to moving closer to what we want.</p><p>Mentioned in this episode:</p><p><a href="https://www.petercrone.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Peter Crone</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:45:16Letting people go, pausing dating apps, saying 'no' — all ways of actually bringing *more* momentum to your pursuit of partnership | Ep 144full<![CDATA[We don't necessarily need our partners to come fully therapized, our confusion around settling, and the emotional labor necessary for us all in relationships w/ Kara Loewentheil | Ep 122]]>A few months prior, I caught the wedding announcement for my friend and colleague, Kara Lowentheil, in the NY Times. It wasn't the flowers or her dress (even though those were, of course, stunning) that caught my attention. It was the initial texting exchange she had with her now husband in the early days of dating. In short: It was pretty clunky.

I spend a lot of time working through and dealing with clients initial digital conversations — in the apps and via text. It can be SO EASY to make grandiose assumptions around a person based on their texting behavior. In this episode, Kara and I unpack:

  • The problematic nature of those assumptions and how they're really more reflective of our own conditioning and thought patterns
  • The confusion we have around what it means to "settle" and how Kara views giving in a relationship (this is SO good)
  • Kara's go to perspective on marriage from her relationship coach
  • The emotional labor Kara believes in necessary for us to do for our partner – and them for us (differentiating between caretaking versus a collaborative effort)
  • How we don't necessarily need to have our partners come "fully therapized" before we meet

....and so much more. This is definitely an episode I'll go back to and listen to again and again!

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]]>Buzzsprout-15737539Fri, 13 Sep 2024 08:00:00 GMT<p>A few months prior, I caught the wedding announcement for my friend and colleague, Kara Lowentheil, in the <a href="https://www.nytimes.com/2024/07/19/style/kara-loewentheil-matthew-eubank-wedding.html" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">NY Times.</a> It wasn't the flowers or her dress (even though those were, of course, stunning) that caught my attention. It was the initial texting exchange she had with her now husband in the early days of dating. In short: It was pretty clunky.<br /><br />I spend a lot of time working through and dealing with clients initial digital conversations — in the apps and via text. It can be SO EASY to make grandiose assumptions around a person based on their texting behavior. In this episode, Kara and I unpack:</p><ul><li>The problematic nature of those assumptions and how they're really more reflective of our own conditioning and thought patterns</li><li>The confusion we have around what it means to "settle" and how Kara views giving in a relationship (this is SO good)</li><li>Kara's go to perspective on marriage from her relationship coach</li><li>The emotional labor Kara believes in necessary for us to do for our partner – and them for us (differentiating between caretaking versus a collaborative effort)</li><li>How we don't necessarily need to have our partners come "fully therapized" before we meet</li></ul><p>....and so much more. This is definitely an episode I'll go back to and listen to again and again!</p><p><a href="https://www.takebackyourbrainbook.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Buy Kara's New Book</a><br /><a href="https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Visit Kara's Website</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:55:22We don't necessarily need our partners to come fully therapized, our confusion around settling, and the emotional labor necessary for us all in relationships w/ Kara Loewentheil | Ep 122full<![CDATA[On men being intimidated by your $$ career $$ and clients who make more money than their partners | Ep 145]]>Often women will come to me and say:

  • Men are intimidated by my career/how much money I make
  • I don't know how to meet someone who doesn't feel this way

Spoiler alert, it's not about "just meeting someone" who doesn't feel this way. Feeling this way has way more to do (per usual) with our past versus our present. I'm sharing my own experience, along with that of my clients who earn more money from their partners, and what we can do on our side of the fence to understand shift this dynamic, as well as better understand what wealth (well beyond financial terms) means to us.

Another episode you might enjoy: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dealing-with-money-in-relationships-ep-115/id1617901618?i=1000661149501

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]]>Buzzsprout-18132791Wed, 05 Nov 2025 08:00:00 GMT<p>Often women will come to me and say:</p><ul><li>Men are intimidated by my career/how much money I make</li><li>I don't know how to meet someone who doesn't feel this way</li></ul><p>Spoiler alert, it's not about "just meeting someone" who doesn't feel this way. Feeling this way has way more to do (per usual) with our past versus our present. I'm sharing my own experience, along with that of my clients who earn more money from their partners, and what we can do on our side of the fence to understand shift this dynamic, as well as better understand what wealth (well beyond financial terms) means to us.</p><p>Another episode you might enjoy: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dealing-with-money-in-relationships-ep-115/id1617901618?i=1000661149501</p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:29:02On men being intimidated by your $$ career $$ and clients who make more money than their partners | Ep 145full<![CDATA[Part II: Why eldest daughters/hero children can remain chronically single or just have so much resistance to dating | Ep 119]]>New Offerings!
The Situation-ship Soother
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We're back with part II of our eldest daughter/hero child series, and the impact this has on our dating and romantic lives. If you haven't yet listened to episode 118, I highly recommend going back and doing so before digging into this one.

In this week's episode I'm discussing:

  • Why the very traits of being the helpful, accommodating, rule following, good girl, who always did well in school, can also be the very thing/things that hold us back from deep connection and fulfilling partnership
  • How our conscious and subconscious brains work here — how we can consciously desire a relationships but subconsciously actually fear one, actually not want one
  • How our attachment patterns show up within all of this
  • How remaining single can feel really, really safe
  • How the fear of losing ourselves can cause us to push away healthy relationships, or attract people we can't get that close to
  • Why it's so difficult to operate authentically and express our wants and needs — but how we actually go about doing it
  • How remaining chronically single or being resistant to dating is often a means of protection

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]]>Buzzsprout-15556484Fri, 09 Aug 2024 12:00:00 GMT<p>New Offerings!<br /><a href="https://calendly.com/clara-artschwager/situationshipsoother?month=2024-08" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">The Situation-ship Soother</a><br /><a href="https://calendly.com/clara-artschwager/breakupdivorcereview?month=2024-08" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">The Breakup / Post-Divorce Review</a><br /><br />We're back with part II of our eldest daughter/hero child series, and the impact this has on our dating and romantic lives. If you haven't yet listened to episode 118, I highly recommend going back and doing so before digging into this one.<br /><br />In this week's episode I'm discussing:</p><ul><li>Why the very traits of being the helpful, accommodating, rule following, good girl, who always did well in school, can also be the very thing/things that hold us back from deep connection and fulfilling partnership</li><li>How our conscious and subconscious brains work here — how we can <em>consciously</em> desire a relationships but <em>subconsciously</em> actually fear one, actually not want one</li><li>How our attachment patterns show up within all of this</li><li>How remaining single can feel really, really safe</li><li>How the fear of losing ourselves can cause us to push away healthy relationships, or attract people we can't get that close to</li><li>Why it's so difficult to operate authentically and express our wants and needs — but how we actually go about doing it</li><li>How remaining chronically single or being resistant to dating is often a means of protection</li></ul><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:41:59Part II: Why eldest daughters/hero children can remain chronically single or just have so much resistance to dating | Ep 119full<![CDATA[How taking everything on at work, ignoring the dissatisfaction in your job, and just going through the motions of life influences the quality of your relationships | Ep 146]]>Are you the planner, the doer, the one who takes on everything? Maybe it's really hard for you to delegate, or you fear if you aren't the one doing it everything will fall apart or go to shit? 

The tricky thing about that behavior — while it makes us feel like we're in control — is that it dramatically limits the love and care we can receive from others, and the general pleasure we experience in our life. That includes the satisfaction we get from our work or the types of relationships (from friendships to romantic, and even professional)

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]]>Buzzsprout-18212174Wed, 19 Nov 2025 08:00:00 GMT<p>Are you the planner, the doer, the one who takes on everything? Maybe it's really hard for you to delegate, or you fear if you aren't the one doing it everything will fall apart or go to shit? </p><p>The tricky thing about that behavior — while it makes us feel like we're in control — is that it dramatically limits the love and care we can receive from others, and the general pleasure we experience in our life. That includes the satisfaction we get from our work or the types of relationships (from friendships to romantic, and even professional)</p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:41:57How taking everything on at work, ignoring the dissatisfaction in your job, and just going through the motions of life influences the quality of your relationships | Ep 146full<![CDATA[When you *know* there's something standing in the way of your growth but you can't put your finger on it | Ep 74]]>When my dear friend Katherine came to me a few months back and said "I did mushrooms and I need  to tell you what came up," it wasn’t the mushrooms that had me going; it was the way this modality fit within the larger frame of her work on herself.

So often I speak with folks about how tired they are — tired of reading all the books and doing all the therapy and trying all the things. They do and don’t want to keep working on themselves. It’s just….where is it getting them? Is it really making a difference? The relationship, the job, the body the person, still isn’t there. So what gives?

It’s so easy to hunger for a single solution (even if it's long term) to all our problems. But the journey is more like a six part play, with different acts and unexpected intermissions and many an understudy. Katherine and I break all this down in the episode. Even if you have zero interest in psychedelics — which is totally fine(!) — you’ll still benefit tremendously from understanding how the different puzzles pieces of healing fit together for your own evolution.

If you find yourself….

  • Feeling this pull to go deeper but not sure where to direct that energy
  • Going in circles of attempts to heal and feel like none of it is really  working
  • Are contemplating other modalities – be it psychedelics or simply an alternative form of therapy — I want to hear about someone else’s experience
  • Have been curious about exploring psychedelics and want to hear an account from someone who was incredibly thoughtful and sound in their approach
  • Are feeling generally stifled in your life, and unclear as to what’s really going on

Then this episode is for you! Huge thanks to Katherine for being so open and honest about this experience. If you'd like to learn more details about the program she underwent, shoot a DM to @ithinkilikeyou.co on Instagram.

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]]>Buzzsprout-13416463Wed, 16 Aug 2023 17:00:00 GMT<p>When my dear friend Katherine came to me a few months back and said "I did mushrooms and I <em>need</em>  to tell you what came up," it wasn’t the mushrooms that had me going; it was the way this modality fit within the larger frame of her work on herself.</p><p>So often I speak with folks about how tired they are — tired of reading all the books and doing all the therapy and trying all the things. They do and don’t want to keep working on themselves. It’s just….where is it getting them? Is it really making a difference? The relationship, the job, the body the person, still isn’t there. So what gives?</p><p>It’s so easy to hunger for a single solution (even if it's long term) to all our problems. But the journey is more like a six part play, with different acts and unexpected intermissions and many an understudy. Katherine and I break all this down in the episode. Even if you have zero interest in psychedelics — which is totally fine(!) — you’ll still benefit tremendously from understanding how the different puzzles pieces of healing fit together for your own evolution.</p><p>If you find yourself….</p><ul><li>Feeling this pull to go deeper but not sure where to direct that energy</li><li>Going in circles of attempts to heal and feel like none of it is <em>really</em>  working</li><li>Are contemplating other modalities – be it psychedelics or simply an alternative form of therapy — I want to hear about someone else’s experience</li><li>Have been curious about exploring psychedelics and want to hear an account from someone who was incredibly thoughtful and sound in their approach</li><li>Are feeling generally stifled in your life, and unclear as to what’s <em>really</em> going on</li></ul><p>Then this episode is for you! Huge thanks to Katherine for being so open and honest about this experience. If you'd like to learn more details about the program she underwent, shoot a DM to @ithinkilikeyou.co on Instagram.</p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no01:21:07When you *know* there's something standing in the way of your growth but you can't put your finger on it | Ep 74full<![CDATA[Ep 140 | How I would meet someone if I were single, right now, at nearly 40, that I know would absolutely work.]]>In about 6 weeks, I turn 40. I often meet clients on the precipice of 40. There, or a little ways after, and there are always (naturally), lots of feelings that come up around hitting that threshold.

  • Will I ever meet someone?
  • Now it REALLY feels too late
  • All the men have run out
  • Who wants to date someone 40+?

While I'm feeling really, really excited and emboldened about entering this new decade, I, too, would feel different if I didn't yet have a husband or baby. So I wanted to dedicate an episode to sharing exactly, and I mean exactly, what I would do if I were single, right now, at this very moment. Living in the country. Doing the work I do. Hungry for a family. 

While I'm honing in on this particular decade, this episode will absolutely apply to anyone feeling burnt out or tired in their dating life but hungry for connection.

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]]>Buzzsprout-17745039Wed, 01 Oct 2025 07:00:00 GMT<p>In about 6 weeks, I turn 40. I often meet clients on the precipice of 40. There, or a little ways after, and there are always (naturally), lots of feelings that come up around hitting that threshold.</p><ul><li>Will I ever meet someone?</li><li>Now it REALLY feels too late</li><li>All the men have run out</li><li>Who wants to date someone 40+?</li></ul><p>While I'm feeling really, really excited and emboldened about entering this new decade, I, too, would feel different if I didn't yet have a husband or baby. So I wanted to dedicate an episode to sharing exactly, and I mean exactly, what I would do if I were single, right now, at this very moment. Living in the country. Doing the work I do. Hungry for a family. </p><p>While I'm honing in on this particular decade, this episode will absolutely apply to anyone feeling burnt out or tired in their dating life but hungry for connection.</p><p><a href="https://www.catherinezack.com/india2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Cath Zack's India Retreat</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:38:40Ep 140 | How I would meet someone if I were single, right now, at nearly 40, that I know would absolutely work.full<![CDATA[Episode 62: On the crushes we just can't quit.]]>Do you have a crush you just can't let go of? It's as if they've got their proverbial teeth sunk soooooo far into you? Maybe they live in another state, maybe they're already coupled up, maybe you don't have the same life goals— and STILL, you're so into them! It's almost as if they haunt you in a way.

In this episode, I'm digging into not just the nature of this type of crush, but also the greater language of our crushes in general. What does who we're drawn to and how we're drawn to them say about our dating and relationship lives? What wisdom does that hold?

This episode will resonate with anyone who:

  • Feels inexplicably caught in a crush that they know won't ever work out
  • Tends to form crushes or attachments to people who are emotionally unavailable
  • Feels like they hold onto crushes "way longer," than they should

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]]>Buzzsprout-12914142Wed, 24 May 2023 22:00:00 GMT<p>Do you have a crush you just can't let go of? It's as if they've got their proverbial teeth sunk soooooo far into you? Maybe they live in another state, maybe they're already coupled up, maybe you don't have the same life goals— and STILL, you're so into them! It's almost as if they haunt you in a way.<br /><br />In this episode, I'm digging into not just the nature of this type of crush, but also the greater language of our crushes in general. What does who we're drawn to and how we're drawn to them say about our dating and relationship lives? What wisdom does that hold?<br /><br />This episode will resonate with anyone who:</p><ul><li>Feels inexplicably caught in a crush that they know won't ever work out</li><li>Tends to form crushes or attachments to people who are emotionally unavailable</li><li>Feels like they hold onto crushes "way longer," than they should</li></ul><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:43:54Episode 62: On the crushes we just can't quit.full<![CDATA[Episode 63: How I drastically mitigated my anxious attachment style.]]>Nearly a decade ago, on a the heels of life-altering breakup, swimming in self help, I landed upon the book Attached. Like many people, I was eager to take the quiz and find out "What was my attachment style???" But more so, how could knowing this information release me from my pain? I don't think I really needed the quiz to confirm I had an anxious attachment style, but even once it did — it didn't give me much to then do. I was aware, sure, of what was creating a lot of havoc in my dating life, but wtf was I supposed to do with that? How could I start to shift the way I felt?

In the decade since, through both my personal and professional work, I've developed an entirely new way of looking at anxious attachment styles. One that doesn't have us fearing the worst — but actually treating it with compassion and curiosity— and in doing so, taking simple, concrete action that legitimately shift this behavior and nervous system pattern:

This episode will resonate with anyone who:

  • Suffers from an anxious attachment style and/or codependency (though the two pretty much always go hand in hand!)
  • Feel like they have all the KNOWLEDGE and AWARENESS but they're still completely blindsided when someone doesn't text back or are terrified to express your needs in a relationship
  • Feels like they're constantly at the mercy of their anxiety in dating and relationships
  • Is hungry for a different approach— both in mindset and in action

Books Mentioned:
Attached
Setting Boundaries Will Set You Free 

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]]>Buzzsprout-12941090Tue, 30 May 2023 12:00:00 GMT<p>Nearly a decade ago, on a the heels of life-altering breakup, swimming in self help, I landed upon the book <em>Attached</em>. Like many people, I was eager to take the quiz and find out "What was my attachment style???" But more so, how could knowing this information release me from my pain? I don't think I really needed the quiz to confirm I had an anxious attachment style, but even once it did — it didn't give me much to then do. I was aware, sure, of what was creating a lot of havoc in my dating life, but wtf was I supposed to do with that? How could I start to shift the way I felt?<br /><br />In the decade since, through both my personal and professional work, I've developed an entirely new way of looking at anxious attachment styles. One that doesn't have us fearing the worst — but actually treating it with compassion and curiosity— and in doing so, taking simple, concrete action that legitimately shift this behavior and nervous system pattern:<br /><br />This episode will resonate with anyone who:</p><ul><li>Suffers from an anxious attachment style and/or codependency (though the two pretty much always go hand in hand!)</li><li>Feel like they have all the KNOWLEDGE and AWARENESS but they're still completely blindsided when someone doesn't text back or are terrified to express your needs in a relationship</li><li>Feels like they're constantly at the mercy of their anxiety in dating and relationships</li><li>Is hungry for a different approach— both in mindset and in action</li></ul><p>Books Mentioned:<br /><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Attached-audiobook/dp/B07ZJW6DWR/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2D9SPEC5N6XEL&amp;keywords=attached+book&amp;qid=1685462197&amp;sprefix=attached%2Caps%2C215&amp;sr=8-1" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Attached</a><br /><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Setting-Boundaries-Will-Set-Free/dp/B081VQG3XN/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=setting+boundaries+will+set+you+free&amp;qid=1685462215&amp;s=audible&amp;sprefix=setting+boundaries+will+set%2Caudible%2C106&amp;sr=1-1" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Setting Boundaries Will Set You Free </a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no01:13:10Episode 63: How I drastically mitigated my anxious attachment style.full<![CDATA[Should I stop dating this person? How do I know? (Plus a SUPER exciting announcement!) | Ep 88]]>Do I stay....or do I go? Do I keep seeing this person...is it worth it? Will things change? Will they develop into more? Ooooh goodness are those questions REAL, and that's exactly where we're digging in, in today's ep.

But first, a very exciting announcement! The Big Dating Nap is here. The BDN is a four week period dedicated to rest and developing a deeper awareness around your dating patterns. It's nourishing, it's rejuvenating, it's all the things we DON'T ever associate with our pursuit of partnership. It will set you up beautifully to completely reframe your approach to dating in 2024. Instead of starting the New Year with tons of pressure to do dating right and meet your person, I highly recommend treating yourself to the BDN— and then getting to dating.  

The timing of today's episode was intentional, as there might be someone you're seeing that you do wanting to carry through the BDN (if you're partaking), or, you very much don't. Either way, it's always humbling and clarifying to discern: How do I know if someone is right for me?

Today's episode will strongly benefit those stuck in a situation-ship or some point in the first few weeks/months of seeing someone where you sort of feel like things are flatlining but you're afraid to let someone go.

I touch on 4 pillars to help answer the above conundrum for yourself, bring some new dating stories to the table from my own experience and walk through a listener's question around a summer fling that's resurfaced and whether she should reopen conversations or set a firm boundary of no contact. It's a juicy ep all around!


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]]>Buzzsprout-14128485Tue, 12 Dec 2023 22:00:00 GMT<p>Do I stay....or do I go? Do I keep seeing this person...is it worth it? Will things change? Will they develop into more? Ooooh goodness are those questions REAL, and that's exactly where we're digging in, in today's ep.<br /><br />But first, a very exciting announcement! <a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/thebigdatingnap" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">The Big Dating Nap is here.</a> The BDN is a four week period dedicated to rest and developing a deeper awareness around your dating patterns. It's nourishing, it's rejuvenating, it's all the things we DON'T ever associate with our pursuit of partnership. It will set you up beautifully to completely reframe your approach to dating in 2024. Instead of starting the New Year with tons of pressure to do dating right and meet your person, I highly recommend treating yourself to the BDN— and <em>then </em>getting to dating.<em> </em> <br /><br />The timing of today's episode was intentional, as there might be someone you're seeing that you <em>do</em> wanting to carry through the BDN (if you're partaking), or, you very much don't. Either way, it's always humbling and clarifying to discern: How do I know if someone is right for me?<br /><br />Today's episode will strongly benefit those stuck in a situation-ship or some point in the first few weeks/months of seeing someone where you sort of feel like things are flatlining but you're afraid to let someone go.<br /><br />I touch on 4 pillars to help answer the above conundrum for yourself, bring some new dating stories to the table from my own experience and walk through a listener's question around a summer fling that's resurfaced and whether she should reopen conversations or set a firm boundary of no contact. It's a juicy ep all around!</p><p><br /></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:49:06Should I stop dating this person? How do I know? (Plus a SUPER exciting announcement!) | Ep 88full<![CDATA[Why is friendship so hard + weird right now? | Ep 84]]>Are you satisfied friendship-wise? Are your friendships evolving in a way that you didn't see coming? Are you feeling out of sorts when it comes to how to handle all of that? You're very much *not* alone.

2023, in particular, has cracked me open to a whole new world of work and understanding in the area of friendship. Admittedly, I'd been so focused on improving my romantic relationships for the last decade plus, that I didn't see the same patterns surfacing in my friendships. That's been a bitter pill to swallow.

This episode will resonate with anyone:

  • Who feels like they don't have the community or friend group they desire
  • Who has experienced changes in friendships in the last few years they never saw coming
  • Is grieving the loss of major and minor friendships
  • Who isn't sure if they should or shouldn't sever ties with certain friends 
  • Has gone through significant friendship breakups (and are perhaps not sure how to process all that)
  • Hungers for people they can connect with more deeply but aren't sure who to go about that
  • Feels an emptiness, overall, in the space of friendship

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]]>Buzzsprout-13881251Wed, 15 Nov 2023 13:00:00 GMT<p>Are you satisfied friendship-wise? Are your friendships evolving in a way that you didn't see coming? Are you feeling out of sorts when it comes to how to handle all of that? You're very much *not* alone.<br /><br />2023, in particular, has cracked me open to a whole new world of work and understanding in the area of friendship. Admittedly, I'd been so focused on improving my romantic relationships for the last decade plus, that I didn't see the same patterns surfacing in my friendships. That's been a bitter pill to swallow.<br /><br />This episode will resonate with anyone:</p><ul><li>Who feels like they don't have the community or friend group they desire</li><li>Who has experienced changes in friendships in the last few years they never saw coming</li><li>Is grieving the loss of major and minor friendships</li><li>Who isn't sure if they should or shouldn't sever ties with certain friends </li><li>Has gone through significant friendship breakups (and are perhaps not sure how to process all that)</li><li>Hungers for people they can connect with more deeply but aren't sure who to go about that</li><li>Feels an emptiness, overall, in the space of friendship</li></ul><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:41:28Why is friendship so hard + weird right now? | Ep 84full<![CDATA[Episode 6: What dating (and relationships) looked like for me 18 months before getting engaged.]]>Lori Gottlieb's Maybe You Should Talk to Someone was a smash hit for damn good reasons. We relish knowing how the "expert," the person that seemingly "has it all together," actually lives. Is it that easy? Is it just different? Do they just float through life? Even though we know-ish that they don't, it certainly feels like they do. It's always both a relief and delight to know the nuances of their own struggle and suffering, largely as a means by which to feel more ok about our suffering. More human. Less alone.

That's the meat of this week's episode. A play by play of the year and half leading up to meeting my now fiancée. Admittedly, I don't like framing at that way, as if it was an awful experience and now I'm free! Truth be told, I'm just on another journey.  One that's testing me, challenging me and stretching me in new ways, but still very much to the tune of human evolution. 

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]]>Buzzsprout-10626391Tue, 17 May 2022 11:00:00 GMT<p>Lori Gottlieb's <em>Maybe You Should Talk to Someone</em> was a smash hit for damn good reasons. We relish knowing how the "expert," the person that seemingly "has it all together," actually lives. Is it that easy? Is it just different? Do they just float through life? Even though we know-ish that they don't, it certainly feels like they do. It's always both a relief and delight to know the nuances of their own struggle and suffering, largely as a means by which to feel more ok about our suffering. More human. Less alone.<br /><br />That's the meat of this week's episode. A play by play of the year and half leading up to meeting my now fiancée. Admittedly, I don't like framing at that way, as if it was an awful experience and now I'm free! Truth be told, I'm just on another journey.  One that's testing me, challenging me and stretching me in new ways, but still very much to the tune of human evolution. </p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:50:04Episode 6: What dating (and relationships) looked like for me 18 months before getting engaged.full<![CDATA[Episode 58: What our mom's careers have to do with our dating lives.]]>This episode was specifically recorded in follow up to the following reel I posted earlier this month. In the reel I talked about how if, in your family, your mom shifted her career (either took a step back or fully gave it up) in order to take care of the family — even if she didn't express any disdain for this, the experience can impact your dating life today. This episode breaks down the latter impact and how you can thoughtfully manage your beliefs to shift your dating patterns.

This episode will resonate with anyone:

  • Whose mother's career was impacted by getting married and/or having children
  • Who were encouraged to focus on getting a very good education and job— above all else
  • Who experience either dates that go no where or long term situation-ship like affairs

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]]>Buzzsprout-12742485Sun, 30 Apr 2023 12:00:00 GMT<p>This episode was specifically recorded in follow up to the <a href="https://www.instagram.com/p/CrQudlCvgCL/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">following reel</a> I posted earlier this month. In the reel I talked about how if, in your family, your mom shifted her career (either took a step back or fully gave it up) in order to take care of the family — even if she didn't express any disdain for this, the experience can impact your dating life today. This episode breaks down the latter impact and how you can thoughtfully manage your beliefs to shift your dating patterns.<br /><br />This episode will resonate with anyone:</p><ul><li>Whose mother's career was impacted by getting married and/or having children</li><li>Who were encouraged to focus on getting a very good education and job— above all else</li><li>Who experience either dates that go no where or long term situation-ship like affairs</li></ul><p><a href="https://view.flodesk.com/pages/643ecf8ffd6a96d17672b957" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Get on the waitlist for my first ever online course.</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:18:42Episode 58: What our mom's careers have to do with our dating lives.full<![CDATA[Episode 22: How to survive the grey area of dating.]]>The grey period primarily signifies the period in dating when you're seeing someone, things are going quite well, but you don't yet know where the relationship stands. Is it even a relationship at all?

This episode was inspired by an article Clara wrote back in 2019, of the same title, but with a new twist: https://thestripe.com/how-to-survive-the-grey-area-of-dating/

This episode will resonate with you if:

  • You find yourself incredibly anxious in the early stages of dating someone you actually like
  • You fear doing something or saying something to “mess up,” the potential for a relationship
  • You fear coming on “too strong,” and believe that will make you “less attractive,” in the eyes of this potential partner

If you're interested in private coaching, be sure to book your discovery call no later than September 12th: https://calendly.com/clara-artschwager/developing-a-conscious-dating-practice?month=2022-08

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]]>Buzzsprout-11180231Tue, 23 Aug 2022 10:00:00 GMT<p>The grey period primarily signifies the period in dating when you're seeing someone, things are going quite well, but you don't yet know where the relationship stands. Is it even a relationship at all?</p><p>This episode was inspired by an article Clara wrote back in 2019, of the same title, but with a new twist: https://thestripe.com/how-to-survive-the-grey-area-of-dating/</p><p>This episode will resonate with you if:</p><ul><li>You find yourself incredibly anxious in the early stages of dating someone you actually like</li><li>You fear doing something or saying something to “mess up,” the potential for a relationship</li><li>You fear coming on “too strong,” and believe that will make you “less attractive,” in the eyes of this potential partner</li></ul><p>If you're interested in private coaching, be sure to book your discovery call no later than September 12th: https://calendly.com/clara-artschwager/developing-a-conscious-dating-practice?month=2022-08<br /><br />Learn more here: https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/private-coaching</p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:48:50Episode 22: How to survive the grey area of dating.full<![CDATA[When your marriage starts to shift in your early 40s | Ep 158]]>In the last few years I've started to notice something in my peers, colleagues and clients who are a few years deeper into their 40s — and a few years deeper into their marriage and life as parents: Things are starting to crack and fissure. Things that were a whisper of an issue before are now all encompassing. But are these big, life-altering cracks, or obstacles meant to drive a couple into its next evolution? Not the easiest of questions to contemplate. Not the easiest of questions to answer.

I've been doing that work, asking those questions and surfacing those answers for years in my practice. I've now turned it into a formal program.

In today's episode I'm discussing:

  • Why things start to stir in our marriages/long term relationships at this point in life
  • The similarities I see between my single clients and married clients at this point in life
  • Why women, at this point in their marriages, wake up to how disconnected they can feel to their partners — how their role embodies more of 'Director of Operations' than a wife, partner or individual
  • Some ways to navigate next steps, if you find yourself in this season of life

Questions mentioned in podcast:

What version of myself am I missing right now?

What do I long to feel or experience in my days that I don’t have access to? What’s driving that?

In what ways have I been trying to get my partner to change — and what am I anticipating that change would do for me energetically, spiritually, emotionally? Is that something I could do for myself?

Episode w/ Kara Loweintheil

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]]>Buzzsprout-18692935Thu, 19 Feb 2026 00:00:00 GMT<p>In the last few years I've started to notice something in my peers, colleagues and clients who are a few years deeper into their 40s — and a few years deeper into their marriage and life as parents: Things are starting to crack and fissure. Things that were a whisper of an issue before are now all encompassing. But are these big, life-altering cracks, or obstacles meant to drive a couple into its next evolution? Not the easiest of questions to contemplate. Not the easiest of questions to answer.</p><p>I've been doing that work, asking those questions and surfacing those answers for years in my practice. <a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/marriedwomen" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">I've now turned it into a formal program.</a></p><p>In today's episode I'm discussing:</p><ul><li>Why things start to stir in our marriages/long term relationships at this point in life</li><li>The similarities I see between my single clients and married clients at this point in life</li><li>Why women, at this point in their marriages, wake up to how disconnected they can feel to their partners — how their role embodies more of 'Director of Operations' than a wife, partner or individual</li><li>Some ways to navigate next steps, if you find yourself in this season of life</li></ul><p>Questions mentioned in podcast:</p><p><b>What version of myself am I missing right now?</b></p><p><b>What do I long to feel or experience in my days that I don’t have access to? What’s driving that?</b></p><p><b>In what ways have I been trying to get my partner to change — and what am I anticipating that change would do for me energetically, spiritually, emotionally? Is that something I could do for myself?</b></p><p><a href="https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/dating-clara-artschwager/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Episode w/ Kara Loweintheil</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:26:50When your marriage starts to shift in your early 40s | Ep 158full<![CDATA[On life coming into bloom post-divorce with Melisa Russo | Ep 167]]>These days, I find myself with an insatiable hunger for stories (meaning, real-life human stories) of unexpected outcomes. Of having life go one way when you thought it was going to go another way, and what one does from there. Melissa Russo's story is one of my favorites.

I've followed Melissa since back in our 2010 blogger days. Her biting sense of humor, sharp wit, and talent as a writer has drawn me back to anything she's been doing. Whether it's been capturing the wildly entertaining lives of her two daughters, or launching her boutique social media studio, Golden Hive.

I loved talking to her about the unexpected beauty and pleasure of life post divorce, how she thinks about dating and relationships now, and where she wants her focus to be. 

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]]>Buzzsprout-19134850Wed, 06 May 2026 14:00:00 GMT<p>These days, I find myself with an insatiable hunger for stories (meaning, real-life human stories) of unexpected outcomes. Of having life go one way when you thought it was going to go another way, and what one does from there. Melissa Russo's story is one of my favorites.</p><p>I've followed Melissa since back in our 2010 blogger days. Her biting sense of humor, sharp wit, and talent as a writer has drawn me back to anything she's been doing. Whether it's been capturing the wildly entertaining lives of her two daughters, or launching her boutique social media studio, <a href="https://www.instagram.com/thegoldenhivestudio/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Golden Hive.</a></p><p>I loved talking to her about the unexpected beauty and pleasure of life post divorce, how she thinks about dating and relationships now, and where she wants her focus to be. </p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no01:01:42On life coming into bloom post-divorce with Melisa Russo | Ep 167full<![CDATA[This is how I coach my clients to use the dating apps + what does and doesn't matter | Ep 79]]>In the grand scheme of things, I spend very little time on a client's dating profile. Most folks are usually surprised to hear that, so I wanted to break down the what and the why in today's episode.

In this episode I'm covering:

  • The only two things I work to ensure are included in a client's dating profile
  • How your dating profile has little to nothing to do with your success in meeting someone — it's how you *operate* on said apps, along with how you carry yourself in the world
  • How certain behavior (outside of dating, in our everyday life) amplifies our experience on the dating apps
  • How much of our resistance to using dating apps has to do with our fear of owing our desires + insecurity around our lovability
  • Simple actions we can engage in to both shift these limiting beliefs and disrupt dating patterns

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]]>Buzzsprout-13751836Tue, 10 Oct 2023 23:00:00 GMT<p>In the grand scheme of things, I spend very little time on a client's dating profile. Most folks are usually surprised to hear that, so I wanted to break down the what and the why in today's episode.<br /><br />In this episode I'm covering:</p><ul><li>The only two things I work to ensure are included in a client's dating profile</li><li>How your dating profile has little to nothing to do with your success in meeting someone — it's how you *operate* on said apps, along with how you carry yourself in the world</li><li>How certain behavior (outside of dating, in our everyday life) amplifies our experience on the dating apps</li><li>How much of our resistance to using dating apps has to do with our fear of owing our desires + insecurity around our lovability</li><li>Simple actions we can engage in to both shift these limiting beliefs and disrupt dating patterns</li></ul><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:50:21This is how I coach my clients to use the dating apps + what does and doesn't matter | Ep 79full<![CDATA[Episode 5: The relationship that broke me in all the ways I needed to be broken.]]>This episode marks a story— a relationship story— I've been wanting to share for quite some time in its entirety. I've had two relationships in my life that I thought would lead to marriage and didn't. This one is the latter. Really, it's the more significant one. I was 34, and when things fell apart, my last attempt at making marriage and babies by 35 fell apart, too. I was more heartbroken over that reality and all I made it mean about me, versus losing this person in my life.

This episode is ideal for anyone:

  • Struggling with state of their relationship and wondering if they should stay or go
  • Feeling "behind," on life, romantically speaking, and grappling with what they're making that mean about themselves—as a person, as a woman, etc.
  • Have experienced any kind of relationship trauma or pain in the realm of gaslighting, codependent/narcissistic dynamics and emotional manipulation.
  • Desire a way to look at broken relationships and emotionally trying periods from a way of learning more about themselves. Essentially using it as fuel towards their healing.


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]]>Buzzsprout-10591634Tue, 10 May 2022 14:00:00 GMT<p>This episode marks a story— a relationship story— I've been wanting to share for quite some time in its entirety. I've had two relationships in my life that I thought would lead to marriage and didn't. This one is the latter. Really, it's the more significant one. I was 34, and when things fell apart, my last attempt at making marriage and babies by 35 fell apart, too. I was more heartbroken over that reality and all I made it mean about me, versus losing this person in my life.<br /><br />This episode is ideal for anyone:</p><ul><li>Struggling with state of their relationship and wondering if they should stay or go</li><li>Feeling "behind," on life, romantically speaking, and grappling with what they're making that mean about themselves—as a person, as a woman, etc.</li><li>Have experienced any kind of relationship trauma or pain in the realm of gaslighting, codependent/narcissistic dynamics and emotional manipulation.</li><li>Desire a way to look at broken relationships and emotionally trying periods from a way of learning more about themselves. Essentially using it as fuel towards their healing.</li></ul><p><br /></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:54:26Episode 5: The relationship that broke me in all the ways I needed to be broken.full<![CDATA[What are the "best" places to meet people? | Ep 99]]>Private coaching spots are now open! Apply here.

Oftentimes, in our dating journey, when things aren’t working out or we can’t seem to meet people….our minds go to someplace like: location. Location, location, location. Similar to real estate, we start thinking, It must be where I live. I just must not live in a great place to meet people.

I have worked with people from (literally) all over the globe. From big cities to small towns, and everything in between. And I’ve witnessed every single person, no matter their whereabouts, struggle with where they live and think that’s the reason they aren’t meet people.

In today’s episode I’m digging into:

  • Why it feels “helpful” to attach to the idea that our location, i.e. living in a place with not enough single people, is what’s holding us back
  • What we’re actually searching for when we say “Maybe I need to go to more bookstores and coffee shops to meet people?”
  • How beliefs like “Dating in my city is hard,” or “Not enough people in my city go out” are impacting us and influencing our behavior
  • How it has way less to do with where we live and more to do with how we carry ourselves through this world and what we believe is possible/accessible for us
  • How you actually can meet someone anywhere, and what matters when it comes to opening yourself up to those opportunities

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]]>Buzzsprout-14671078Tue, 12 Mar 2024 07:00:00 GMT<p>Private coaching spots are now open! <a href="https://calendly.com/clara-artschwager/developing-a-conscious-dating-practice?month=2024-03" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Apply here.</a></p><p>Oftentimes, in our dating journey, when things aren’t working out or we can’t seem to meet people….our minds go to someplace like: location. Location, location, location. Similar to real estate, we start thinking, <em>It must be where I live. I just must not live in a great place to meet people</em>.</p><p>I have worked with people from (literally) all over the globe. From big cities to small towns, and everything in between. And I’ve witnessed every single person, no matter their whereabouts, struggle with where they live and think <em>that’s</em> the reason they aren’t meet people.</p><p>In today’s episode I’m digging into:</p><ul><li>Why it feels “helpful” to attach to the idea that our location, i.e. living in a place with not enough single people, is what’s holding us back</li><li>What we’re actually searching for when we say “Maybe I need to go to more bookstores and coffee shops to meet people?”</li><li>How beliefs like “Dating in my city is hard,” or “Not enough people in my city go out” are impacting us and influencing our behavior</li><li>How it has <em>way</em> less to do with where we live and more to do with how we carry ourselves through this world and what we believe is possible/accessible for us</li><li>How you actually can meet someone anywhere, and what matters when it comes to opening yourself up to those opportunities</li></ul><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:36:48What are the "best" places to meet people? | Ep 99full<![CDATA[Episode 1: You're....a dating coach?]]>Welcome to the podcast! I’m kicking things off with some background around how I got into this work. It was by no means a clear path, and one which was largely informed by taking my own intuitive but messy action. From being labeled a ‘dating expert’ by friends, when that felt so far from the truth, to meeting lovely individuals with ease whilst grabbing my morning coffee (and the internal reckonings that motivated all of that), I’m sharing what really motivated this transformation. I also go into a bit about how I work with clients, why I think more traditional dating rhetoric isn’t serving us, and what the podcast will cover over the coming months.

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]]>Buzzsprout-10464456Tue, 19 Apr 2022 12:00:00 GMT<p>Welcome to the podcast! I’m kicking things off with some background around how I got into this work. It was by no means a clear path, and one which was largely informed by taking my own intuitive but messy action. From being labeled a ‘dating expert’ by friends, when that felt so far from the truth, to meeting lovely individuals with ease whilst grabbing my morning coffee (and the internal reckonings that motivated all of that), I’m sharing what really motivated this transformation. I also go into a bit about how I work with clients, why I think more traditional dating rhetoric isn’t serving us, and what the podcast will cover over the coming months.</p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:46:05Episode 1: You're....a dating coach?full<![CDATA[Episode 15: Your breakup Qs answered.]]>This episode expands upon episode 14. I cover the following listener questions:

How do you know when it is time to break up? What do you do when your relationship is in a standstill / the guy is afraid to commit?

What is healthy communication after if any? How does one regulate themselves without needing the other person? Tips to stay present vs mucking around in the past or future casting.

Is it possible/advisable to stay friends after a breakup? not just friendly but actually friends? even when physical attraction is still there...tho you don't have the faintest inclination to explore it ever again? this was a relationship that lasted the better part of 10 yrs. I'm just wondering is this one of those situations where the nostalgia leads to a friendship draw and is that good enough? 🤔

I would love if you have the time in the episode to address that feeling like you don’t have all the info when someone chooses to initiate a breakup with you. It still bothers me a year later that my ex wasn’t forthcoming with what thoughts or feelings sparked wanting to end our relationship. 

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]]>Buzzsprout-10964846Fri, 15 Jul 2022 01:00:00 GMT<p>This episode expands upon episode 14. I cover the following listener questions:<br /><br />How do you know when it is time to break up? What do you do when your relationship is in a standstill / the guy is afraid to commit?<br /><br />What is healthy communication after if any? How does one regulate themselves without needing the other person? Tips to stay present vs mucking around in the past or future casting.<br /><br />Is it possible/advisable to stay friends after a breakup? not just friendly but actually friends? even when physical attraction is still there...tho you don't have the faintest inclination to explore it ever again? this was a relationship that lasted the better part of 10 yrs. I'm just wondering is this one of those situations where the nostalgia leads to a friendship draw and is that good enough? 🤔<br /><br />I would love if you have the time in the episode to address that feeling like you don’t have all the info when someone chooses to initiate a breakup with you. It still bothers me a year later that my ex wasn’t forthcoming with what thoughts or feelings sparked wanting to end our relationship. <br /><br />https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/<br />https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/</p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:29:14Episode 15: Your breakup Qs answered.full<![CDATA[How do we sit with the desire for a relationship while also not knowing when it will happen? | Ep 123]]>This is a question I dance with, and often, with clients. How do we sit with our desire for something, and attempt to work towards it, but not know if or when or how it's going to come to fruition? How do we do so while we watch it happening for other people around us?

In this episode I'm addressing both how to sit with the unknown and tangible ways to move us closer to relationship. These are the exact practices I've walked my clients through over the past six years.

I'm specifically covering:

  • The inherent uncertainty of life
  • The value of confronting questions like: What if I never meet someone? What would I then do with my life?
  • The ways we put our lives on hold (or live in inauthentic ways) until we meet our partner that actually act to block our ability to meet someone
  • The two greatest obstacles I see for people who want to meet a partner really badly but it isn't happening
  • The similarities between people who date really manically and those that avoid dating completely
  • The exact thing I would say to anyone who said: “Clara— I want to meet someone and I want to speed up that timeline. What can I do?”

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]]>Buzzsprout-15774615Fri, 20 Sep 2024 13:00:00 GMT<p>This is a question I dance with, and often, with clients. How do we sit with our desire for something, and attempt to work towards it, but not know if or when or how it's going to come to fruition? How do we do so while we watch it happening for other people around us?<br /><br />In this episode I'm addressing both how to sit with the unknown and tangible ways to move us closer to relationship. These are the exact practices I've walked my clients through over the past six years.<br /><br />I'm specifically covering:</p><ul><li>The inherent uncertainty of life</li><li>The value of confronting questions like: What if I never meet someone? What would I then do with my life?</li><li>The ways we put our lives on hold (or live in inauthentic ways) until we meet our partner that actually act to block our ability to meet someone</li><li>The two greatest obstacles I see for people who want to meet a partner really badly but it isn't happening</li><li>The similarities between people who date really manically and those that avoid dating completely</li><li>The exact thing I would say to anyone who said: “Clara— I want to meet someone and I want to speed up that timeline. What can I do?”</li></ul><p><a href="https://claraartschwager.substack.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">My Substack</a><br /><a href="https://smittenkitchen.com/2016/10/pumpkin-bread/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Pumpkin Bread Recipe</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:48:30How do we sit with the desire for a relationship while also not knowing when it will happen? | Ep 123full<![CDATA[This is where the feeling "I'm never going to meet someone" comes from | Ep 131]]>Private coaching spaces are open.

Here's something I hear from clients all the time:

I'm never going to meet someone.

There's no one left.

All the good men are gone.

Therapist and coach Julia Zwerin is back to dig into this subject with me. In this episode we discuss:

  • What's behind the fear that you'll never meet someone
  • How your scarcity mindset has more to do with your past than it does the reality of the potential partners available to you
  • How holding this belief can serve as a form of protection from intimacy
  • Practical ways to shift your mindset around your potential for meeting someone
  • Why it's totally normal to see the same people on a dating app
  • The difference between a relationship meeting our ego's needs versus being emotionally available

And so much more. This is a JUICY one.

 Julia first came on the show a few weeks back to discuss why sex with toxic people feels so good.

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]]>Buzzsprout-16618496Tue, 18 Feb 2025 15:00:00 GMT<p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/work-with-me" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Private coaching spaces are open.</a></p><p>Here's something I hear from clients all the time:</p><p>I'm never going to meet someone.</p><p>There's no one left.</p><p>All the good men are gone.</p><p>Therapist and coach <a href="https://www.juliawermanzwerintherapy.com/services" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Julia Zwerin</a> is back to dig into this subject with me. In this episode we discuss:</p><ul><li>What's behind the fear that you'll never meet someone</li><li>How your scarcity mindset has more to do with your past than it does the reality of the potential partners available to you</li><li>How holding this belief can serve as a form of protection from intimacy</li><li>Practical ways to shift your mindset around your potential for meeting someone</li><li>Why it's totally normal to see the same people on a dating app</li><li>The difference between a relationship meeting our ego's needs versus being emotionally available</li></ul><p>And so much more. This is a JUICY one.</p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/content/episode-125" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow"> Julia first came on the show a few weeks back to discuss why sex with toxic people feels so good.</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no01:10:07This is where the feeling "I'm never going to meet someone" comes from | Ep 131full<![CDATA[On falling for colleagues and bosses who make us feel really 'seen.' | Ep 153]]>Years ago, I fell hard for a boss. Initially, I might have used the word love. That I fell in love with him. Now much older, knowing what love actually means and entails, it wasn't love. It was infatuation. But my feelings of infatuation were quite significant when it came to understanding my bigger romantic hunger and obstacles.

I have worked with many a client who has experienced the same thing — some merely admired male colleagues from afar, while some entered full**-blown relationships. The consistency of this pattern among my clients (and, well, myself), hard-**working, hero daughters, is key. The draw to these types of men in these types of scenarios is very reflective of the way we long to be seen and loved, but not helpful when it comes to securing a committed, fulfilling relationship.

In this episode I'm covering:

  • What drives our attraction in professional environments
  • What creates those heightened feelings of obsession and infatuation
  • How, even if the relationship isn't romantic, we get some emotional fulfillment, often causing us to not seek it elsewhere
  • How these "relationships," even when they result in affairs, feel "safe"
  • How we can break down this pattern to understand what's begging to be healed (on our own), and why it's serving as an obstacle to finding true partnership

Other episodes mentioned:

Ep 124 Why does sex with the people that are so wrong for us feel so good? With therapist Julia Zwerin.

Ep 5 | The relationship that broke me in all the ways I needed to be broken (AKA uncovering my father wound)

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]]>Buzzsprout-18454604Wed, 14 Jan 2026 08:00:00 GMT<p>Years ago, I fell hard for a boss. Initially, I might have used the word love. That I fell in love with him. Now much older, knowing what love actually means and entails, it wasn't love. It was infatuation. But my feelings of infatuation were quite significant when it came to understanding my bigger romantic hunger and obstacles.</p><p>I have worked with many a client who has experienced the same thing — some merely admired male colleagues from afar, while some entered full**-blown relationships. The consistency of this pattern among my clients (and, well, myself), hard-**working, hero daughters, is key. The draw to these types of men in these types of scenarios is very reflective of the way we long to be seen and loved, but not helpful when it comes to securing a committed, fulfilling relationship.</p><p>In this episode I'm covering:</p><ul><li>What drives our attraction in professional environments</li><li>What creates those heightened feelings of obsession and infatuation</li><li>How, even if the relationship isn't romantic, we get some emotional fulfillment, often causing us to not seek it elsewhere</li><li>How these "relationships," even when they result in affairs, feel "safe"</li><li>How we can break down this pattern to understand what's begging to be healed (on our own), and why it's serving as an obstacle to finding true partnership</li></ul><p>Other episodes mentioned:</p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/content/episode-125" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Ep 124 Why does sex with the people that are so wrong for us feel so good? With therapist Julia Zwerin.</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/content/episode-5" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Ep 5 | The relationship that broke me in all the ways I needed to be broken (AKA uncovering my father wound)</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:46:23On falling for colleagues and bosses who make us feel really 'seen.' | Ep 153full<![CDATA[Episode 52: Three of the most consistent practices I use with my clients + myself.]]>As we land on the spring equinox— a time rife with rebirth and renewal— I thought it a fitting time to walk you through three practices and principles I use often in work with my clients, as well as on myself when it comes to navigating the nuances of life.

These practices work really well if you:

  • Find yourself fixated on a particular outcome– be it in love, life, money, relationship, body, etc— and can't shake the feeling of "I just need this thing to happen!!"
  • Find yourself in a big life lull— where everything feels HARD. There's so much to do, change, fix, understand, that all your head and heart want to do is crawl under the covers.
  • Find yourself swinging between extremes— leave him! No, stay! Move...don't move! Take the job, leave the job. And so on and so forth.

This episode will help strengthen the voice of your intuition, connect you more deeply to yourself, and understand when your behavior + emotions are more reactive versus deeply felt.

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]]>Buzzsprout-12484439Tue, 21 Mar 2023 12:00:00 GMT<p>As we land on the spring equinox— a time rife with rebirth and renewal— I thought it a fitting time to walk you through three practices and principles I use often in work with my clients, as well as on myself when it comes to navigating the nuances of life.<br /><br />These practices work really well if you:</p><ul><li>Find yourself fixated on a particular outcome– be it in love, life, money, relationship, body, etc— and can't shake the feeling of "I just need this thing to happen!!"</li><li>Find yourself in a big life lull— where everything feels HARD. There's so much to do, change, fix, understand, that all your head and heart want to do is crawl under the covers.</li><li>Find yourself swinging between extremes— leave him! No, stay! Move...don't move! Take the job, leave the job. And so on and so forth.</li></ul><p>This episode will help strengthen the voice of your intuition, connect you more deeply to yourself, and understand when your behavior + emotions are more reactive versus deeply felt.</p><p>Links mentioned in this episode:</p><ul><li><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/content/episode-46" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Episode w/ Catherine Zack, my retreat cohost</a></li><li><a href="https://www.catherinezack.com/beyond-balance-podcast" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Catherine's Podcast</a></li><li><a href="https://view.flodesk.com/pages/640a182db83f7f2f30b80775" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Timeline Woes Download</a></li></ul><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:45:04Episode 52: Three of the most consistent practices I use with my clients + myself.full<![CDATA[When you wanted kids — and the time passed. On life now, as a woman. | Ep 165]]>Call it turning 40, call it the state of the world, call it....just life (?), but lately, all I am hungry for is deep, real, can't-put-a-bow-on-it conversations. People living with the big questions, getting deep into the muck, and thriving there. Not always, but often.

You know when you have a good friend, who is just good people, and then they bring more REALLY GOOD PEOPLE into your life? That's how I found my way to Alison Matheny. Alison is a writer, artist, and all-around legit creative. You're gonna wanna check out all the places to find her on the internet below.

But the main reason I wanted to have Alison on was to discuss a reality she lives every day — childless by circumstance. Alison wanted to bear children, and despite desires and intentions, that longing didn't become a reality. Now, at 44, we discuss what life looks and feels like. Yes, this is a conversation about wanting to become a mom and not becoming one — but it's mainly about this: What does one do when the things they wanted and longed for don't come to fruition? Because that, independent of the details, is a reality we will all face.

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]]>Buzzsprout-19060923Wed, 22 Apr 2026 23:00:00 GMT<p>Call it turning 40, call it the state of the world, call it....just life (?), but lately, all I am hungry for is deep, real, can't-put-a-bow-on-it conversations. People living with the big questions, getting deep into the muck, and <em>thriving</em> there. Not always, but often.</p><p>You know when you have a good friend, who is just good people, and then they bring more REALLY GOOD PEOPLE into your life? That's how I found my way to <a href="https://www.alisonmatheny.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Alison Matheny.</a> Alison is a writer, artist, and all-around legit creative. You're gonna wanna check out all the places to find her on the internet below.</p><p>But the main reason I wanted to have Alison on was to discuss a reality she lives every day — childless by circumstance. Alison wanted to bear children, and despite desires and intentions, that longing didn't become a reality. Now, at 44, we discuss what life looks and feels like. Yes, this is a conversation about wanting to become a mom and not becoming one — but it's mainly about this: What does one do when the things they wanted and longed for don't come to fruition? Because that, independent of the details, is a reality we will all face.</p><p><a href="https://www.alisonmatheny.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Alison's Website</a> | <a href="https://mayipleasebeexcused.substack.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Alison's Substack</a> | <a href="https://www.keepitbest.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Alison's Branding Studio</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:55:02When you wanted kids — and the time passed. On life now, as a woman. | Ep 165full<![CDATA[Oooooh ok this is how you ACTUALLY surrender, even when you still want something | Ep 163]]>Private Coaching Spaces Open

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A few weeks back,  I was perusing Instagram as one does, and I was fed Nikki Heyder's profile, based on a reel she had recently posted that went viral. And let's just say, it went viral for all the right reasons.

Nikki is a trauma-informed psychotherapist, business mentor, and author based in Bali. Her perspective is refreshingly wise and down to earth when it comes to all conversations that fall under the umbrella of, well, getting what we want out of life, understanding our obstacles and redefining who we are.

I could have taken our conversation many different directions, but my main interest was around the concept of surrender. Namely, what the hell is it and how the hell do we actually do it? How do we maintain a desire — like for a relationship— but surrender to the outcome of it?

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]]>Buzzsprout-18933149Wed, 01 Apr 2026 14:00:00 GMT<p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Private Coaching Spaces Open</a></p><p><a href="https://gatherhere.us/products/dating-in-your-30s-getting-out-of-your-own-way-women-only?variant=47494087213207" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Register for my Dating Workshop in NYC</a></p><p>A few weeks back,  I was perusing Instagram as one does, and I was fed <a href="https://www.instagram.com/nikki.heyder/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Nikki Heyder's</a> profile, <a href="https://www.instagram.com/p/DU9il_rkh4y/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">based on a reel she had recently posted that went viral</a>. And let's just say, it went viral for all the right reasons.</p><p>Nikki is a trauma-informed psychotherapist, business mentor, and author based in Bali. Her perspective is refreshingly wise and down to earth when it comes to all conversations that fall under the umbrella of, well, getting what we want out of life, understanding our obstacles and redefining who we are.</p><p>I could have taken our conversation many different directions, but my main interest was around the concept of surrender. Namely, what the hell is it and how the hell do we actually do it? How do we maintain a desire — like for a relationship— but surrender to the outcome of it?</p><p><a href="https://www.the-soul-institute.com/regulate-receive" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Use the code ITILY2026 to take $111.00 of Nikki's course Regulate &amp; Receive</a></p><p><a href="https://stan.store/nikkiheyder?utm_source=ig&amp;utm_medium=social&amp;utm_content=link_in_bio&amp;fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAc3J0YwZhcHBfaWQMMjU2MjgxMDQwNTU4AAGnQgXlUHKAYsd3jzWh4928-XCHP_cICjTO7mMHG11iFCmPmFMOLaspR4LK1v4_aem_eIm-M8LB71Cl084F65RU6g" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Nikki's Homepage: Access her courses, workshops, books and other offerings.</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no01:01:19Oooooh ok this is how you ACTUALLY surrender, even when you still want something | Ep 163full<![CDATA[Preparing for a relationship is not about knowing what you want and need. Here's what is. | Ep 142]]>A client will often say to me, "I've finally figured out what I want and need in a relationship," with the sentiment that the figuring out of that has been the piece that's missing and will now help them in finding a partner. And it's not that it won't. It is a piece of it. But the awareness of something, versus the ability to act on and integrate said thing, are completely different. And we're very often repeating behaviors in how we date, who we keep around, etc etc, that are the antithesis of what we want. So we can make those lists and even weave it into dating profile prompts, but none of that makes a difference unless the behavior in your life actually aligns with that which you say you want. And often/always that behavior is very confronting — because it requires confronting old wounds, old patterns, buried grief and trauma, and so forth. That's what I'm digging into in today's episode. 

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]]>Buzzsprout-18008925Wed, 15 Oct 2025 16:00:00 GMT<p>A client will often say to me, "I've finally figured out what I want and need in a relationship," with the sentiment that the figuring out of that has been the piece that's missing and will now help them in finding a partner. And it's not that it won't. It <em>is</em> a piece of it. But the awareness of something, versus the ability to act on and integrate said thing, are completely different. And we're very often repeating behaviors in how we date, who we keep around, etc etc, that are the antithesis of what we want. So we can make those lists and even weave it into dating profile prompts, but none of that makes a difference unless the behavior in your life actually aligns with that which you say you want. And often/always that behavior is very confronting — because it requires confronting old wounds, old patterns, buried grief and trauma, and so forth. That's what I'm digging into in today's episode. </p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:38:17Preparing for a relationship is not about knowing what you want and need. Here's what is. | Ep 142full<![CDATA[3 ways overachievers can remain chronically single or struggling in relationships | Ep 143]]>In this episode I'm discussing how our propensity to work hard and get things done, and specifically the way we:

  • Place high value on something that's hard to achieve versus finding ease in our life
  • Avoid rejection and failure at all costs
  • Label ourselves as the planner and like to be in charge

...are all wreaking havoc (i.e. not leading to the lived experience we want) in our relationships — romantic, platonic, professional, etc.

Mentioned in this episode:

David Deida: Intimate Communion

Sofia Adler Wellness

How Overachievers Shoot Themselves in the Foot with Their Careers

On Being Resistant to Ease in Your Dating Life

How our drive to be good, to be high achievers, to put other people's needs before our own keeps us single or stuck in unhealthy relationships


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]]>Buzzsprout-18052287Wed, 22 Oct 2025 07:00:00 GMT<p>In this episode I'm discussing how our propensity to work hard and get things done, and specifically the way we:</p><ul><li>Place high value on something that's hard to achieve versus finding ease in our life</li><li>Avoid rejection and failure at all costs</li><li>Label ourselves as the planner and like to be in charge</li></ul><p>...are all wreaking havoc (i.e. not leading to the lived experience we want) in our relationships — romantic, platonic, professional, etc.</p><p>Mentioned in this episode:</p><p><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Intimate-Communion-Awakening-Sexual-Essence/dp/155874374X/ref=sr_1_2?crid=3IIEMEPAN6UY6&amp;dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.JPiEryRlRHcbzEoYNrwTT6N9ujkTM0nv6viUNB2qW4x5PUOQutoq-0UTuXT7K3MvrnbmS2oOtGp3NITsmYAfd--9JL-TQGqplAN-j0eD802WmeoXLC6DzfYmkjA76sul0KAXC7A2bkrTmdiNwtXrkmjER_sTVN-knJu6ZbzRICvHY0mlF5fzxxubM-oxLKIIk3N836_6nn8kr18DkOkC1zn1lSSCRLRbaFut1dSpuQY.MATCS10zkqvQPatUeMRFfW9oqGi5UqKf9rWnuSXYDYE&amp;dib_tag=se&amp;keywords=david+deida+awakening&amp;qid=1761075876&amp;sprefix=david+deida+awakening%2Caps%2C104&amp;sr=8-2" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">David Deida: Intimate Communion</a></p><p><a href="https://www.sofiaadlerwellness.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Sofia Adler Wellness</a></p><p><a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-overachievers-shoot-themselves-in-the-foot-with/id1617901618?i=1000674454061" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">How Overachievers Shoot Themselves in the Foot with Their Careers</a></p><p><a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/on-being-resistant-to-ease-in-your-dating-life-and/id1617901618?i=1000657995298" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">On Being Resistant to Ease in Your Dating Life</a></p><h1><a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/part-iii-how-our-drive-to-be-good-to-be-high-achievers/id1617901618?i=1000665632083" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">How our drive to be good, to be high achievers, to put other people's needs before our own keeps us single or stuck in unhealthy relationships</a></h1><p><br /></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:50:543 ways overachievers can remain chronically single or struggling in relationships | Ep 143full<![CDATA[On being chronically single | Ep 138]]>This is one of those episodes that came in like a force — it started with a simple question from a follower, then ballooned into like 45 more, with other followers sending random messages, recurring themes in my client work, and admittedly, even the more recent lamenting on my own single life now in a marriage with a baby.

This episode will resonate if:

  • You find motivating yourself to date really, really challenging
  • You haven't dated in a very long time (be it 12 months or 12 years) — and if/when you do, it's only for a very short amount of time
  • You hold a lot of shame around this and might even blame yourself for "not trying harding" or "not putting yourself out there"
  • You've, perhaps purchased courses or tried to work on this in therapy, but nothing creates a big change

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]]>Buzzsprout-17671923Wed, 03 Sep 2025 14:00:00 GMT<p>This is one of those episodes that came in like a force — it started with a simple question from a follower, then ballooned into like 45 more, with other followers sending random messages, recurring themes in my client work, and admittedly, even the more recent lamenting on my own single life now in a marriage with a baby.</p><p>This episode will resonate if:</p><ul><li>You find motivating yourself to date really, really challenging</li><li>You haven't dated in a very long time (be it 12 months or 12 years) — and if/when you do, it's only for a very short amount of time</li><li>You hold a lot of shame around this and might even blame yourself for "not trying harding" or "not putting yourself out there"</li><li>You've, perhaps purchased courses or tried to work on this in therapy, but nothing creates a big change</li></ul><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:55:27On being chronically single | Ep 138full<![CDATA[Embracing a slow start to 2025 and my first few weeks as a mom | Ep 126]]>How are you all? It's been a minute! I'm slowly coming out of my cocoon of maternity leave. I'm only working part time, if that in January. In today's episode I'm sharing what the last few weeks have been like and how I'm embracing a slow start to the year, which seems to be a theme I'm seeing for other — motherhood or not — too.

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]]>Buzzsprout-16410470Tue, 14 Jan 2025 08:00:00 GMT<p>How are you all? It's been a minute! I'm slowly coming out of my cocoon of maternity leave. I'm only working part time, if that in January. In today's episode I'm sharing what the last few weeks have been like and how I'm embracing a slow start to the year, which seems to be a theme I'm seeing for other — motherhood or not — too.<br /><br /></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:36:26Embracing a slow start to 2025 and my first few weeks as a mom | Ep 126full<![CDATA[This might be my go to marriage + dating advice for all of 2025 | Ep 129]]>The other week a friend sent me a clip from Instagram, and despite not being the biggest Logan Ury fan, I really got down with what she was saying here.

"Great relationships are built, they're not discovered."

This concept is top of mind as my husband and I work through a new phase in our marriage with the addition of a child. But it's also top of mind as I connect with clients at the forefront of the year and reflect on the inner work that's really calling to them in 2025.

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]]>Buzzsprout-16554218Tue, 04 Feb 2025 08:00:00 GMT<p>The other week a friend sent me a <a href="https://www.instagram.com/p/DDXG1YHIcRl/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">clip from Instagram</a>, and despite not being the biggest Logan Ury fan, I really got down with what she was <a href="https://www.instagram.com/p/DDXG1YHIcRl/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">saying here.</a></p><p>"Great relationships are built, they're not discovered."</p><p>This concept is top of mind as my husband and I work through a new phase in our marriage with the addition of a child. But it's also top of mind as I connect with clients at the forefront of the year and reflect on the inner work that's really calling to them in 2025.</p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:28:00This might be my go to marriage + dating advice for all of 2025 | Ep 129full<![CDATA[On Making, Maintaining and Letting Go Of Friends In Our 30s and 40s | Ep 114]]>On the heals of a very significant friendship ending for me in the last few years, the nature of friendship — what drives our friendships, what they look like, how our relational patterns manifest in this space (i.e. outside of romance) — has been of particular interest to me.

Today I'm joined by my dear Catherine Zack, a friend made in the last few years but a really close one (something we'll get into in today's episode). We dig into a variety of things around friendship, including:

  • How does friendship change in your 30s and 40s?
  • The role of friends in relation to our marriages (Hint: They're really necessary)
  • How connection and socializing looks different in the midst of really busy lives — and how that's ok
  • How friends can (and should) have different roles
  • The evolving nature of childhood, college and earlier life friends
  • How motherhood impacts friendship
  • The ending of friendships

....and more. It's a sweet, juicy, conversation between....dear, newish, friends.

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]]>Buzzsprout-15199519Fri, 28 Jun 2024 12:00:00 GMT<p>On the heals of a very significant friendship ending for me in the last few years, the nature of friendship — what drives our friendships, what they look like, how our relational patterns manifest in this space (i.e. outside of romance) — has been of particular interest to me.<br /><br />Today I'm joined by my dear <a href="https://www.catherinezack.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Catherine Zack</a>, a friend made in the last few years but a really close one (something we'll get into in today's episode). We dig into a variety of things around friendship, including:</p><ul><li>How does friendship change in your 30s and 40s?</li><li>The role of friends in relation to our marriages (Hint: They're really necessary)</li><li>How connection and socializing looks different in the midst of really busy lives — and how that's ok</li><li>How friends can (and should) have different roles</li><li>The evolving nature of childhood, college and earlier life friends</li><li>How motherhood impacts friendship</li><li>The ending of friendships</li></ul><p>....and more. It's a sweet, juicy, conversation between....dear, newish, friends.<br /><br /><a href="https://www.catherinezack.com/burnout-breakthrough" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Catherine's New Offerings</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:55:17On Making, Maintaining and Letting Go Of Friends In Our 30s and 40s | Ep 114full<![CDATA[Dealing with MONEY in relationships | Ep 115]]>Ya'll we are digging into all things MONEY today. This is a real doozy of an episode, so settle in for a long walk, a batch of laundry or whatever else you like to do while you're listening. In this episode I'm taking you behind the scenes of the financial picture in our marriage, how we've moved through really hard money conversations and how working on my own relationship with money has been the most impactful thing when it comes to finding ease around finance in my relationship. That said, it's definitely a work in progress!

I also specifically cover:   

  • Wanting our partners to make a certain amount of money, have a certain amount of savings, etc.
  • How to shift from operating your own budget to sharing expenses (both living and not living together)
  • The conditioning around men being the bread winner
  • Men being threatened by their female partners earning more
  • How do you discuss debt?
  • How do you deal with differences in upbringing — wealth vs. less wealthy/poor management of money?
  • On not making a lot of money and feeling like that makes you less desirable
  • Shame around money
  • Blue collar versus white collar work and how that influences partnership

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]]>Buzzsprout-15355288Thu, 04 Jul 2024 13:00:00 GMT<p>Ya'll we are digging into all things MONEY today. This is a real doozy of an episode, so settle in for a long walk, a batch of laundry or whatever else you like to do while you're listening. In this episode I'm taking you behind the scenes of the financial picture in our marriage, how we've moved through really hard money conversations and how working on my <em>own </em>relationship with money has been the most impactful thing when it comes to finding ease around finance in my relationship. That said, it's definitely a work in progress!<br /><br />I also specifically cover: <em> </em> </p><ul><li>Wanting our partners to make a certain amount of money, have a certain amount of savings, etc.</li><li>How to shift from operating your own budget to sharing expenses (both living and not living together)</li><li>The conditioning around men being the bread winner</li><li>Men being threatened by their female partners earning more</li><li>How do you discuss debt?</li><li>How do you deal with differences in upbringing — wealth vs. less wealthy/poor management of money?</li><li>On not making a lot of money and feeling like that makes you less desirable</li><li>Shame around money</li><li>Blue collar versus white collar work and how that influences partnership</li></ul><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no01:32:48Dealing with MONEY in relationships | Ep 115full<![CDATA[On trusting the (divine) timing of our lives + What's behind *feeling* behind | Ep 113]]>Private Coaching Spaces are Open

Do you feel behind in life? It's a question I face and contemplate with clients (and often myself) all the time.  Today's conversation isn't one geared towards telling you to "be grateful," or "just accept" everyone is on their own timeline. I'm going to the heart of what I believe rests beneath the feeling of being behind, whether we feel it in relationships, work, money, or simply life in general.

If you feel like....

  • Everyone else's life is so much easier or luckier than you're own
  • If you feel behind romantically and use that as evidence that you'll never have the relationship you want
  • If you find yourself continually striving to feel fulfilled or feel like enough — and seemingly never get there
  • If you get stuck trying to 'figure out' or 'fix' these feelings (fear, loneliness) by either working really hard to meet someone or endlessly analyzing areas of your life to come up with the what of what to do

Then today's episode will give you:

  • A new way to think about these feelings and better understand what's really coming up for you
  • Some key questions to ask yourself, no matter your area of struggle
  • A method for managing these feelings anytime they arise

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]]>Buzzsprout-15199523Mon, 24 Jun 2024 19:00:00 GMT<p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/work-with-me" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Private Coaching Spaces are Open</a><br /><br />Do you feel behind in life? It's a question I face and contemplate with clients (and often myself) all the time.  Today's conversation isn't one geared towards telling you to "be grateful," or "just accept" everyone is on their own timeline. I'm going to the heart of what I believe rests beneath the feeling of being behind, whether we feel it in relationships, work, money, or simply life in general.<br /><br />If you feel like....</p><ul><li>Everyone else's life is so much easier or luckier than you're own</li><li>If you feel behind romantically and use that as evidence that you'll never have the relationship you want</li><li>If you find yourself continually striving to feel fulfilled or feel like enough — and seemingly never get there</li><li>If you get stuck trying to 'figure out' or 'fix' these feelings (fear, loneliness) by either working really hard to meet someone or endlessly analyzing areas of your life to come up with the what of what to do</li></ul><p>Then today's episode will give you:</p><ul><li>A new way to think about these feelings and better understand what's <em>really</em> coming up for you</li><li>Some key questions to ask yourself, no matter your area of struggle</li><li>A method for managing these feelings anytime they arise</li></ul><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:57:48On trusting the (divine) timing of our lives + What's behind *feeling* behind | Ep 113full<![CDATA[On being resistant to ease in your dating life — and life in general | Ep 111]]>Did you grow up learning to work hard, get good grades, get into the best school(s) possible, hit any academic and professional achievement that you could? I did. And I learned to love it.

I learned to love, and thus value, hustle, hard work, striving, strain, stress. On the one hand, it's served me well in what I've accomplished. On the other hand — and I see this with women all the time — it's made me resistant to pleasure, enjoyment and rest in my life.

In today's episode, I'm breaking down how that resistance shakes out in our romantic experiences. If you're someone who identifies as type A, high achieving, really focused on academic and professional performance across your life, and you're now struggling to meet people you really like or have yet to manifest the relationship you want, this episode is for you.

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]]>Buzzsprout-15177309Thu, 06 Jun 2024 02:00:00 GMT<p>Did you grow up learning to work hard, get good grades, get into the best school(s) possible, hit any academic and professional achievement that you could? I did. And I learned to love it.<br /><br />I learned to love, and thus value, hustle, hard work, striving, strain, stress. On the one hand, it's served me well in what I've accomplished. <b>On the other hand — and I see this with women all the time — it's made me resistant to pleasure, enjoyment and rest in my life. </b><br /><br />In today's episode, I'm breaking down how that resistance shakes out in our romantic experiences. If you're someone who identifies as type A, high achieving, really focused on academic and professional performance across your life, and you're now struggling to meet people you really like or have yet to manifest the relationship you want, this episode is for you.</p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:44:45On being resistant to ease in your dating life — and life in general | Ep 111full<![CDATA[How much is enough? In life, money, career, love, etc. w/ Catherine Zack | Ep 109]]>Private Coaching Spaces are Open

This week I'm sitting down with Catherine Zack, a beloved friend of the podcast. She's been on numerous times before (I've linked those episodes below), and selfishly, these episodes always imbue me, personally, with a sense of relief and freedom. But I have a feeling it will do the same for you.

For her 38th birthday, Catherine gave up ambition. No she hasn't stopped working. No, she hasn't tossed away all dreams for her yoga studio. No,  she still has hopes and dreams and aspirations. That's not what she means by ambition. She means living life from a place of shoulds and external approval, versus our own compass.

If you find yourself in a space in life where you're....

  • So eager to step off the hamster wheel
  • Disenchanted with the idea you were sold that you can 'have it all' as a woman
  • Hungry for a relationship with work that gives you more freedom and space
  • Are thinking bigger isn't always better...

Then you will find so much solace, and probably a few personal epiphanies, inside this conversation.

Catherine's Previous Episode on the Pod (Busting the myths of marriage)
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]]>Buzzsprout-15110765Fri, 24 May 2024 10:00:00 GMT<p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/work-with-me" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Private Coaching Spaces are Open<br /></a><br />This week I'm sitting down with Catherine Zack, a beloved friend of the podcast. She's been on numerous times before (I've linked those episodes below), and selfishly, these episodes always imbue me, personally, with a sense of relief and freedom. But I have a feeling it will do the same for you.<br /><br />For her 38th birthday, Catherine gave up ambition. No she hasn't stopped working. No, she hasn't tossed away all dreams for her yoga studio. No,  she still has hopes and dreams and aspirations. That's not what she means by ambition. She means living life from a place of shoulds and external approval, versus our own compass.<br /><br />If you find yourself in a space in life where you're....</p><ul><li>So eager to step off the hamster wheel</li><li>Disenchanted with the idea you were sold that you can 'have it all' as a woman</li><li>Hungry for a relationship with work that gives you more freedom and space</li><li>Are thinking bigger isn't always better...</li></ul><p>Then you will find so much solace, and probably a few personal epiphanies, inside this conversation.</p><p><a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/episode-56-i-never-had-a-honeymoon-phase-busting/id1617901618?i=1000609470361" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Catherine's Previous Episode on the Pod (Busting the myths of marriage)<br /></a><a href="https://www.villageyoga.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Catherine's Yoga Studio in the Hudson Valley<br /></a><a href="https://www.catherinezack.com/workwithme" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Catherine's Personal Website<br /></a><a href="https://catherinezack.substack.com/p/you-cant-have-it-all?utm_campaign=email-half-post&amp;r=645pe&amp;utm_source=substack&amp;utm_medium=email" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Catherine's Substack</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:55:52How much is enough? In life, money, career, love, etc. w/ Catherine Zack | Ep 109full<![CDATA[On feeling like you're in a dating coma and wishing for a jumpstart | Ep 95]]>When I launched my most recent program, the Big Dating Nap, I had a few sweet followers reach out and say:

I don't need a nap. I'm in a dating coma! I need a jumpstart.

I thought it was so sweet, and true. So while I didn't dedicated a program to this predicament (though the Big Dating Nap really is designed to act as a gentle jumpstart), I did want to dedicate the episode.

This episode will resonate with folks who face a deep resistance to dating, and have so for an extended period of time. The idea of getting on an app, reaching out to that friend who wanted to set them up with someone, or engaging in conversation with someone they have a crush on fills them with dread. They tend to either suppress all the feelings or stay stuck in a state of rumination.

In this episode I talk about:

  • How claims like "I'm too old, I can't deal with the apps, there are no single people where I live..." is actually serving as a mask to the true resistance
  • Three common scenarios that I see fueling deep resistance to dating and what to do about them
  • How thinking we can just "jumpstart," our dating life is actually working against us, not for us.

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]]>Buzzsprout-14491696Tue, 13 Feb 2024 08:00:00 GMT<p>When I launched my most recent program, the Big Dating Nap, I had a few sweet followers reach out and say:<br /><br /><em>I don't need a nap. I'm in a dating coma! I need a jumpstart.</em><br /><br />I thought it was so sweet, and true. So while I didn't dedicated a program to this predicament (though the Big Dating Nap really is designed to act as a gentle jumpstart), I did want to dedicate the episode.<br /><br />This episode will resonate with folks who face a deep resistance to dating, and have so for an extended period of time. The idea of getting on an app, reaching out to that friend who wanted to set them up with someone, or engaging in conversation with someone they have a crush on fills them with dread. They tend to either suppress all the feelings or stay stuck in a state of rumination.<br /><br />In this episode I talk about:</p><ul><li>How claims like "I'm too old, I can't deal with the apps, there are no single people where I live..." is actually serving as a mask to the true resistance</li><li>Three common scenarios that I see fueling deep resistance to dating and what to do about them</li><li>How thinking we can just "jumpstart," our dating life is actually working against us, not for us.</li></ul><p>Previous episode on situation-ships mentioned: <a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/content/episode-78" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/content/episode-78</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:34:23On feeling like you're in a dating coma and wishing for a jumpstart | Ep 95full<![CDATA[I'm finally ready to talk about my wedding | Ep 86]]>In this week's episode, I'm opening up about what went down around my wedding in the fall of 2022. This episode has been a long time coming, and one that feels particularly vulnerable. That said, I feel lucky and proud to be standing where I am today. This internal work is *not* for the faint of heart, and I'm reminded of that everyday as I walk side by side with my clients. I'm also so freaking grateful for my husband.

I had my dear friend Michelle (we ALL need a Michelle in our life) join me for this conversation as she knew all the right questions to ask to get at the heart of the matter.

In this episode we dig into:

  • How my fear of intimacy and being loved manifested in cancelling my wedding
  • The nature of my own self sabotage
  • How the feelings of abandoning my own family impact/impacted my marriage
  • How I felt like I didn't have a right to be a wife or married woman — how the title just didn't fit for me

I'll be honest, I'm still in the *thick* of this work. It's a process,  every. single. day. This episode marks the beginning of taking you along on more of that journey.


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]]>Buzzsprout-14041842Tue, 28 Nov 2023 11:00:00 GMT<p>In this week's episode, I'm opening up about what went down around my wedding in the fall of 2022. This episode has been a long time coming, and one that feels particularly vulnerable. That said, I feel lucky and proud to be standing where I am today. This internal work is *not* for the faint of heart, and I'm reminded of that everyday as I walk side by side with my clients. I'm also so freaking grateful for my husband.<br /><br />I had my dear friend Michelle (we ALL need a Michelle in our life) join me for this conversation as she knew all the right questions to ask to get at the heart of the matter.<br /><br />In this episode we dig into:</p><ul><li>How my fear of intimacy and being loved manifested in cancelling my wedding</li><li>The nature of my own self sabotage</li><li>How the feelings of abandoning my own family impact/impacted my marriage</li><li>How I felt like I didn't have a right to be a wife or married woman — how the title just didn't fit for me</li></ul><p>I'll be honest, I'm still in the *thick* of this work. It's a process,  every. single. day. This episode marks the beginning of taking you along on more of that journey.</p><p><br /></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no01:15:55I'm finally ready to talk about my wedding | Ep 86full<![CDATA[On the fear of driving someone away by saying how you feel | Ep 83]]>Oh the fear of coming on too strong, or being too much, or being too....something, that ultimately drives our crush, love interest, or partner away.

What anxiety this creates!

In this episode I break down:

  • What makes it so hard to say how we actually feel in with someone we like/love/etc
  • What to do when you're facing this dilemma and how to shift your behavior
  • How the fear of losing someone (aka abandonment is real) and where that stems from
  • How we can actually work to grow our ability to express ourselves — in a way that doesn't make us so nervous and anxious
  • How suppressing how we feel drives us further from people, not closer
  • How the more authentically we operate, the more intimacy we build

This episode will benefit with anyone who struggles with:

  • People pleasing
  • Codependency
  • Passive aggressive behavior
  • Feels they stayed in relationships too long — or wreaked havoc by not saying what was actually going on with them
  • Struggles with communication in relationships


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]]>Buzzsprout-13876853Thu, 09 Nov 2023 23:00:00 GMT<p>Oh the fear of coming on too strong, or being too much, or being too....something, that ultimately drives our crush, love interest, or partner away.<br /><br />What anxiety this creates!<br /><br />In this episode I break down:</p><ul><li>What makes it so hard to say how we actually feel in with someone we like/love/etc</li><li>What to do when you're facing this dilemma and how to shift your behavior</li><li>How the fear of losing someone (aka abandonment is real) and where that stems from</li><li>How we can actually work to grow our ability to express ourselves — in a way that doesn't make us so nervous and anxious</li><li>How suppressing how we feel drives us further from people, not closer</li><li>How the more authentically we operate, the more intimacy we build</li></ul><p>This episode will benefit with anyone who struggles with:</p><ul><li>People pleasing</li><li>Codependency</li><li>Passive aggressive behavior</li><li>Feels they stayed in relationships too long — or wreaked havoc by not saying what was actually going on with them</li><li>Struggles with communication in relationships</li></ul><p><br /></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:24:50On the fear of driving someone away by saying how you feel | Ep 83full<![CDATA[It’s not your fault. It’s nearly impossible to leave a situation-ship. | Ep 78]]>While in more modern times we've coined the term 'situationship,' these types of relationships — ones where our desire something or someone to be something we know it never will — are nothing new. Modern culture would also advise us to "just drop" these individuals. Let them go.  Move on. It's that simple.

But it isn't.

In today's episode I'm breaking down:

  • What drives situation-ships — i.e. our obsession with or attachment to specific people
  • Why these scenarios are so challenging to let go of
  • The litany of emotions and romantic blueprinting that rests within who we choose and why we can't let go of them
  • Why we remain in endless cycles of saying "I'm done!" and then we go back
  • The immense wisdom about who we are, what we desire, what wounds were striving to fill, that situationships hold
  • How much we have to learn from these experiences — whether we're single or in long term relationships (I reflect back on mine ALL the time)
  • Specifically for long term relationships, how understanding our past situationships can help us mend and mitigate unhealthy patterns in love

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]]>Buzzsprout-13681153Tue, 03 Oct 2023 17:00:00 GMT<p>While in more modern times we've coined the term 'situationship,' these types of relationships — ones where our desire something or someone to be something we know it never will — are nothing new. Modern culture would also advise us to "just drop" these individuals. Let them go.  Move on. It's that simple.<br /><br />But it isn't.<br /><br />In today's episode I'm breaking down:</p><ul><li>What drives situation-ships — i.e. our obsession with or attachment to specific people</li><li>Why these scenarios are so challenging to let go of</li><li>The litany of emotions and romantic blueprinting that rests within who we choose and why we can't let go of them</li><li>Why we remain in endless cycles of saying "I'm done!" and then we go back</li><li>The immense wisdom about who we are, what we desire, what wounds were striving to fill, that situationships hold</li><li>How much we have to learn from these experiences — whether we're single or in long term relationships (I reflect back on mine ALL the time)</li><li>Specifically for long term relationships, how understanding our past situationships can help us mend and mitigate unhealthy patterns in love</li></ul><p>NEW! Work with me on your career transition: <a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/career-mentorship" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/career-mentorship </a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:41:56It’s not your fault. It’s nearly impossible to leave a situation-ship. | Ep 78full<![CDATA[Nancy Levin drops the knowledge on relationships for overachievers | Ep 69]]>Setting Boundaries Will Set You Free. I have purchased this book — I sh*t you not— 22 times for 22 different clients. And I have to be honest, I'm sitting here thinking: I know there are more clients— why haven't I sent it to them all?! It's THAT good.

Here's what we dig into in this episode:

  • A really simple way to understand codependency
  • The connection between being codependent and struggling to set boundaries
  • How linking our self worth to achievement is a form of addiction 
  • How when you're living without boundaries — you're living in reference to things outside of you — so you're not actually being your true self
  • How when we betray our own boundaries, it first starts with a betrayal of self
  • How Nancy's affair became her greatest teacher (and the catalyst to change in her life)
  • How Nancy's return to her art, to poetry, became a huge catalyst for her career
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]]>Buzzsprout-13202757Wed, 12 Jul 2023 12:00:00 GMTOn today's podcast I'm chatting with author and master life coach, Nancy Levin. I was introduced to Nancy by my own coach years ago, via her best selling book <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Setting-Boundaries-Will-Set-Free/dp/1401957579/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=setting+boundaries+will+set+you+free+nancy+levin&amp;qid=1689092206&amp;sprefix=setting+boundaries+wil%2Caps%2C109&amp;sr=8-1" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Setting Boundaries Will Set You Free.</a> I have purchased this book — I sh*t you not— 22 times for 22 different clients. And I have to be honest, I'm sitting here thinking: I know there are more clients— why haven't I sent it to them all?! It's THAT good.<br /><br />Here's what we dig into in this episode:<br /><br /><ul><li>A really simple way to understand codependency</li><li>The connection between being codependent and struggling to set boundaries</li><li>How linking our self worth to achievement is a form of addiction </li><li>How when you're living without boundaries — you're living in reference to things outside of you — so you're not actually being your true self</li><li>How when we betray our own boundaries, it first starts with a betrayal of self</li><li>How Nancy's affair became her greatest teacher (and the catalyst to change in her life)</li><li>How Nancy's return to her art, to poetry, became a huge catalyst for her career</li></ul>Want to make sense of your dating life so you can move towards the partnership you actually want? Check out my online course: <a href="https://courses.ithinkilikeyou.co/course/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">The Conscious Dater<br /></a><br /><a href="https://nancylevin.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Nancy's Website</a><br /><a href="https://nancylevin.com/coaching-academy/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Nancy's Coaching Course</a><br /><a href="https://www.instagram.com/nancy_levin/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Nancy on Instagram</a><br /><br /><br /><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no01:10:46Nancy Levin drops the knowledge on relationships for overachievers | Ep 69full<![CDATA[Episode 51: When you feel utterly and completely stuck (3 things to do)]]>There's a moment in time where you feel as if you have done—or are doing— all the things, and yet nothing is changing. The job, the partner, the house, the life you so deeply desire is nowhere near, and it feels harder and harder to keep believing (or doing any form of work) to bring you closer to that thing. It hasn't arrived yet, so why keep going?

In this episode I'm sharing three practices to help mitigate the frustration and fear we might be feeling at these points in life.

This episode will resonate with anyone who:

  • Feels like they're on a hamster wheel of self help practices
  • Can't get out of their own head
  • Struggles to relax or slow down— feels the pressure to be always on
  • Is carrying a fair amount of pain and disappointment around their life not feeling or looking a certain way

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]]>Buzzsprout-12439206Tue, 14 Mar 2023 17:00:00 GMT<p>There's a moment in time where you feel as if you have done—or are doing— all the things, and yet nothing is changing. The job, the partner, the house, the life you so deeply desire is nowhere near, and it feels harder and harder to keep believing (or doing any form of work) to bring you closer to that thing. It hasn't arrived yet, so why keep going?<br /><br />In this episode I'm sharing three practices to help mitigate the frustration and fear we might be feeling at these points in life.<br /><br />This episode will resonate with anyone who:</p><ul><li>Feels like they're on a hamster wheel of self help practices</li><li>Can't get out of their own head</li><li>Struggles to relax or slow down— feels the pressure to be always on</li><li>Is carrying a fair amount of pain and disappointment around their life not feeling or looking a certain way</li></ul><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:46:10Episode 51: When you feel utterly and completely stuck (3 things to do)full<![CDATA[Episode 44: A deeper dive on life timelines— what's at the root of feeling "behind."]]>Curious to work with me one on one? Schedule some time to chat.
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I've yet to meet a client, follower or listener who doesn't feel behind on life in some capacity. More often than not we're focused on the area of relationship, but that often entails family, the state of our homes, how much money sits in our bank account, and so on and so forth.

In this episode, I'm zeroing in on the patterning I see around two periods of life where those feelings of "being behind," can crop up: the space of our late 20s and early 30s, that first wave, so to speak of friends getting married and having babies. And then our late 30s/early 40s, more wracked with feelings of hopelessness and failure.

In this episode I go into:

  • The specific patterns I see across those two points in one's life, generally speaking
  • The core issue I see around each of these points, i.e. what's at the root, what's driving one's sense of feeling behind and how to find resolution
  • How the desire for relationship at these points in our life isn't actually rooted in a desire for intimacy or co-creating a life with a partner, but it much more ego based

If you're feeling behind relationship-wise (and generally speaking), you'll walk away with a clearer understanding as to how to work through those feelings and move towards what you crave in your life.

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]]>Buzzsprout-12060299Tue, 17 Jan 2023 16:00:00 GMT<p>Curious to work with me one on one? <a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Schedule some time to chat.<br />I Think I Like You on Instagram </a><br /><br />I've yet to meet a client, follower or listener who doesn't feel behind on life in some capacity. More often than not we're focused on the area of relationship, but that often entails family, the state of our homes, how much money sits in our bank account, and so on and so forth.<br /><br />In this episode, I'm zeroing in on the patterning I see around two periods of life where those feelings of "being behind," can crop up: the space of our late 20s and early 30s, that first wave, so to speak of friends getting married and having babies. And then our late 30s/early 40s, more wracked with feelings of hopelessness and failure.<br /><br />In this episode I go into:</p><ul><li>The specific patterns I see across those two points in one's life, generally speaking</li><li>The core issue I see around each of these points, i.e. what's at the root, what's <em>driving</em> one's sense of feeling behind and how to find resolution</li><li>How the desire for relationship at these points in our life isn't actually rooted in a desire for intimacy or co-creating a life with a partner, but it much more ego based</li></ul><p>If you're feeling behind relationship-wise (and generally speaking), you'll walk away with a clearer understanding as to how to work through those feelings and move towards what you crave in your life.<br /><br />Podcast music written and produced by <a href="https://www.instagram.com/james_j_maldonado/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">James Maldonado</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:51:58Episode 44: A deeper dive on life timelines— what's at the root of feeling "behind."full<![CDATA[Episode 42: If I were starting the year single, here's the approach I would take.]]>Happiest of New Year's! This episode came to me in the quiet I allowed myself (and am still reveling in) over the holiday. This episode will resonate with anyone who:

  • Is feeling the anxiety of "making partnership happen," as we enter the New Year
  • Feels burnt out with dating but obligated to do so
  • Wants concrete, nourishing action they can take to embolden their pursuit of partnership— but not punish themselves while doing so
  • Interested in a focused effort? Sign up for one of my 2 hour deep dive coaching sessions. Slots are open for January! 

Register for the January Group Session
My dance class: Ishtara Body
The first read of my book club: The Big Leap
My Book Recommendations (great for the New Year!)
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]]>Buzzsprout-11969766Tue, 03 Jan 2023 12:00:00 GMT<p>Happiest of New Year's! This episode came to me in the quiet I allowed myself (and am still reveling in) over the holiday. This episode will resonate with anyone who:</p><ul><li>Is feeling the anxiety of "making partnership happen," as we enter the New Year</li><li>Feels burnt out with dating but obligated to do so</li><li>Wants concrete, nourishing action they can take to embolden their pursuit of partnership— but not punish themselves while doing so</li><li>Interested in a focused effort? <a href="https://calendly.com/clara-artschwager/2hourcoachingintensive" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Sign up for one of my 2 hour deep dive coaching sessions</a>. Slots are open for January! </li></ul><p><a href="https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZMtd-uprTMpHNRh1jBF1uIWpI1wWbQXwuSZ" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Register for the January Group Session</a><br /><a href="https://www.ishtarabody.com/body-alchemy-women" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">My dance class: Ishtara Body</a><br /><a href="https://www.amazon.com/The-Big-Leap-Gay-Hendricks-audiobook/dp/B00282MRQI/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2LDSTGO3H0ARH&amp;keywords=the+big+leap+by+gay+hendricks&amp;qid=1672749157&amp;sprefix=the+big+leap%2Caps%2C124&amp;sr=8-1" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">The first read of my book club: The Big Leap</a><br /><a href="https://bookshop.org/shop/ithinkilikeyou" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">My Book Recommendations (great for the New Year!)</a><br /><a href="https://www.instagram.com/james_j_maldonado/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Music Credit: James Maldonado</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:49:32Episode 42: If I were starting the year single, here's the approach I would take.full<![CDATA[Episode 39: The correlation between love, money and receiving (w/ my personal coach!)]]>Today's episode is an interview with my longtime business coach and, in many ways, transformational healer, Meg Markey.  I wanted to have and share this conversation with Meghan to really pull back the curtain on the nature of my own internal growth. The work we did together, which translated to tremendous growth in my work as a coach, meeting my now husband and so much more, was not at all what I anticipated.

This episode will resonate with anyone who:

  • Wants to better understand the nature of our energy of what the universe is mirroring back to us
  • Wants to more deeply understand how our relationship with our caregivers, primarily our mothers, impact what we're willing to experience and receive in life
  • Is interested in the correlation between love, money and receiving

Links mentioned:
12/15 Sip + Swipe Register Here
ITILY's Community Group (Register for the January session + December office hours)
Megan's Instagram
Clara's Instagram

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]]>Buzzsprout-11857684Tue, 13 Dec 2022 12:00:00 GMT<p>Today's episode is an interview with my longtime business coach and, in many ways, transformational healer, <a href="https://www.instagram.com/megmarkey/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Meg Markey</a>.  I wanted to have and share this conversation with Meghan to really pull back the curtain on the nature of my own internal growth. The work we did together, which translated to tremendous growth in my work as a coach, meeting my now husband and so much more, was not at all what I anticipated.<br /><br />This episode will resonate with anyone who:</p><ul><li>Wants to better understand the nature of our energy of what the universe is mirroring back to us</li><li>Wants to more deeply understand how our relationship with our caregivers, primarily our mothers, impact what we're willing to experience and receive in life</li><li>Is interested in the correlation between love, money and receiving</li></ul><p>Links mentioned:<br /><a href="https://calendly.com/clara-artschwager/sip-swipe-how-to-date-more-intuitively" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">12/15 Sip + Swipe Register Here</a><br /><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/the-group" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">ITILY's Community Group (Register for the January session + December office hours)<br /></a><a href="https://www.instagram.com/megmarkey/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Megan's Instagram</a><br /><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Clara's Instagram</a><br /><br /><a href="https://www.youthtothepeople.com/skincare/superberry-dream-cleansing-balm/YTTP-12400.html" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Youth to the People Cleansing Balm<br /></a><a href="https://frenchpharmacy.com/products/hyaluronic-acid-cream-anti-wrinkle" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">French Face Cream</a><br /><a href="https://bookshop.org/shop/ithinkilikeyou" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Shop My Book Recommendations</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no01:22:54Episode 39: The correlation between love, money and receiving (w/ my personal coach!)full<![CDATA[Episode 41: A look back at 2022 and a look into 2023 with psychological astrologer Sofia Adler.]]>2023 Weather Report Readings: https://sofiaadlerastrology.thrivecart.com/your-2023-weather-report/

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]]>Buzzsprout-11938924Tue, 27 Dec 2022 22:00:00 GMT<p>2023 Weather Report Readings: <a href="https://sofiaadlerastrology.thrivecart.com/your-2023-weather-report/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">https://sofiaadlerastrology.thrivecart.com/your-2023-weather-report/</a></p><p>Book a session: <a href="https://www.sofiaadler.com/astrology-readings?category=Individual%20%26%20Relationships" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">https://www.sofiaadler.com/astrology-readings?category=Individual%20%26%20Relationships</a></p><p>Gift a session: <a href="https://www.sofiaadler.com/astrology-readings?category=Gift+Certificates" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">https://www.sofiaadler.com/astrology-readings?category=Gift+Certificates</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no01:02:19Episode 41: A look back at 2022 and a look into 2023 with psychological astrologer Sofia Adler.full<![CDATA[Episode 34: On dating intuitively (but for real).]]>This episode welcomes Anna Gannon, Energy Work and Intuitive Development Coach and Psychic. This episode will resonate if you:

  • Struggle to hear your intuition in dating
  • Feel like you have gut feelings in dating,  but then they lead you astray
  • Wish you had a better way to navigate the apps by using your intuition
  • Want to be able to most rely on yourself in dating, versus polling outside resources

The January 2023 Program— Get on the list!
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]]>Buzzsprout-11739010Tue, 22 Nov 2022 11:00:00 GMT<p>This episode welcomes Anna Gannon, Energy Work and Intuitive Development Coach and Psychic. This episode will resonate if you:</p><ul><li>Struggle to hear your intuition in dating</li><li>Feel like you have gut feelings in dating,  but then they lead you astray</li><li>Wish you had a better way to navigate the apps by using your intuition</li><li>Want to be able to most rely on yourself in dating, versus polling outside resources</li></ul><p><a href="https://view.flodesk.com/pages/636feacd81bc8568aa6e6bd9" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">The January 2023 Program— Get on the list!</a><br /><a href="https://www.annagannon.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Anna Gannon's Website</a><br /><a href="https://www.instagram.com/annagannonhere/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Anna on Instagram</a><br /><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Clara on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no01:20:57Episode 34: On dating intuitively (but for real).full<![CDATA[Episode 27: What does your gut imbalance have to do with the state of your relationships?]]>The first time I met Abby Hueber, founder of Above Health Nutrition, was over artfully roasted cauliflower and punchy green juices at True Food Kitchen in Scottsdale, Arizona. In hindsight I can't fathom us meeting any other way. Here is a sneak peek at what we get into in this episode: 

"When we have gut symptoms, SIBO, IBS etc., we often have a breakdown in our gut lining, which is a breakdown in our own boundaries as a human. That is often reflective in our outside lives, relationships, self-worth, people pleasing, codependancy, etc. Through healing out gut we are actually doing so much more, as it requires us to heal ourselves and our relationship to our own boundaries. Gut healing often requires us to value ourselves more and value that we are worth setting stronger boundaries to create our healing window and often find that on the other side of gut healing or healing in general we have transformed our relationship to ourselves, to others and found more alignment in many other unexpected but needed areas of our lives"

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]]>Buzzsprout-11264069Fri, 23 Sep 2022 18:00:00 GMT<p>The first time I met Abby Hueber, founder of <a href="https://www.abovehealthnutrition.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Above Health Nutrition</a>, was over artfully roasted cauliflower and punchy green juices at True Food Kitchen in Scottsdale, Arizona. In hindsight I can't fathom us meeting any other way. Here is a sneak peek at what we get into in this episode: <br /><br />"When we have gut symptoms, SIBO, IBS etc., we often have a breakdown in our gut lining, which is a breakdown in our own boundaries as a human. That is often reflective in our outside lives, relationships, self-worth, people pleasing, codependancy, etc. Through healing out gut we are actually doing so much more, as it requires us to heal ourselves and our relationship to our own boundaries. Gut healing often requires us to value ourselves more and value that we are worth setting stronger boundaries to create our healing window and often find that on the other side of gut healing or healing in general we have transformed our relationship to ourselves, to others and found more alignment in many other unexpected but needed areas of our lives"</p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no01:02:27Episode 27: What does your gut imbalance have to do with the state of your relationships?full<![CDATA[Episode 28: On being the martyr in my own relationship.]]>I have a story, and it goes like this:

I have to do everything on my own.

In this episode I'm joined by my fiancé James to discuss my long held tendency to play the martyr in my relationship. The traditional definition of a martyr is someone who victimizes themselves for the benefit of others.

But in the context of romantic relationships it can look like:

  • Overextending yourself (i.e. by what you do for the other person) as a means to maintain control
  • A deep rooted undeserving-ness that manifests as playing the caretaker role with your partner to make yourself feel needed
  • The resentment and pain that then builds by operating in this way

We talk about what this looks like in my relationship with James, as well as how this behavior shows up for James in areas outside of his life outside of our relationship.

Here is the first episode I did with James.

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]]>Buzzsprout-11389363Tue, 27 Sep 2022 12:00:00 GMT<p>I have a story, and it goes like this:<br /><br /><em>I have to do everything on my own.<br /><br /></em>In this episode I'm joined by my fiancé James to discuss my long held tendency to play the martyr in my relationship. The traditional definition of a martyr is someone who victimizes themselves for the benefit of others.<br /><br />But in the context of romantic relationships it can look like:</p><ul><li>Overextending yourself (i.e. by what you do for the other person) as a means to maintain control</li><li>A deep rooted undeserving-ness that manifests as playing the caretaker role with your partner to make yourself feel needed</li><li>The resentment and pain that then builds by operating in this way</li></ul><p>We talk about what this looks like in my relationship with James, as well as how this behavior shows up for James in areas outside of his life outside of our relationship.<br /><br /><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/content/episode-20" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Here is the first episode I did with James.</a><br /><br />https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/</p><p><br /><br /><br /></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no01:05:27Episode 28: On being the martyr in my own relationship.full<![CDATA[Episode 24: It's comfortable being single. Is dating worth disrupting my life?]]>Back in August a listener reached out with a question so rich, so spot, so chock full of pretty much every single conundrum and obstacle I address with every single client, that my immediate response was, "This has to be an episode." 

This episode hits on:

  • The fear of dating when your single life feels really, really stable
  • The assumption that online apps are terrible and you're better off not succumbing to them at all (and remaining single)
  • The idea that all men (of a certain age) who are secure, solid, partnership-worthy human beings are already taken— and thus it's not worth trying

If you:

  • Struggle to motivate yourself or believe it's worth it to date
  • Hold some semblance of belief that if it were meant to happen it would have already happened
  • But still hunger for connection, intimacy partnership—and don't know what to do with all of the above (!)

You'll dig this episode!
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]]>Buzzsprout-11306433Tue, 13 Sep 2022 13:00:00 GMT<p>Back in August a listener reached out with a question so rich, so spot, so chock full of pretty much every single conundrum and obstacle I address with every single client, that my immediate response was, "This has to be an episode." <br /><br />This episode hits on:</p><ul><li>The fear of dating when your single life feels really, really stable</li><li>The assumption that online apps are terrible and you're better off not succumbing to them at all (and remaining single)</li><li>The idea that all men (of a certain age) who are secure, solid, partnership-worthy human beings are already taken— and thus it's not worth trying</li></ul><p>If you:</p><ul><li>Struggle to motivate yourself or believe it's worth it to date</li><li>Hold some semblance of belief that if it were meant to happen it would have already happened</li><li>But still hunger for connection, intimacy partnership—and don't know what to do with all of the above (!)</li></ul><p>You'll dig this episode!<br />https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/</p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:42:40Episode 24: It's comfortable being single. Is dating worth disrupting my life?full<![CDATA[Episode 21: An exercise for getting back into alignment with yourself and your work.]]>In this episode of the podcast, Clara is running through her decision around shifting the structure and timing of her one to one coaching practice. This episode is great for anyone either looking to explore one to one coaching OR looking for insight into the exercise Clara did to bring her work more into alignment so she could better serve her clients while creating new opportunities. This would be a great exercise for anyone craving a fall refresh.

The next start date is September 19th. In order to secure your space you need to book a discovery call prior to September 12th to determine if this program is right for you. This is you getting to know me and me getting to know you to see if my approach meets your needs. 

Learn more about one to one coaching: https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/private-coaching

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]]>Buzzsprout-11155206Fri, 19 Aug 2022 13:00:00 GMT<p>In this episode of the podcast, Clara is running through her decision around shifting the structure and timing of her one to one coaching practice. This episode is great for anyone either looking to explore one to one coaching OR looking for insight into the exercise Clara did to bring her work more into alignment so she could better serve her clients while creating new opportunities. This would be a great exercise for anyone craving a fall refresh.<br /><br />The next start date is September 19th. In order to secure your space you need to book a discovery call prior to September 12th to determine if this program is right for you. This is you getting to know me and me getting to know you to see if my approach meets your needs. <br /><br />Learn more about one to one coaching: https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/private-coaching<br /><br />Book a discovery call: https://calendly.com/clara-artschwager/developing-a-conscious-dating-practice?month=2022-08</p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:26:54Episode 21: An exercise for getting back into alignment with yourself and your work.full<![CDATA[Episode 18: Am I *actually* feeling this in my gut? Or is this just old conditioning?]]>It's fairly safe to say that we've all had a gut feeling about someone or some situation before. But what makes a gut feeling different than a feeling based on old patterns?  And how can you break the cycle if an old pattern (a subconscious thought) is informing that feeling? In this episode, Clara explores how to differentiate between the two, and sheds light on how to start detangling the subconscious "web" and underlayer of our past.

Clara discusses how these subconscious tendencies thread their way throughout multiple areas of our lives (in romantic and family relationships, friendships, career choices, finances), and talks about how becoming aware of these patterns and behaviors is the real key to dismantling them. And while healing our wounds is an ongoing process (arguably a never ending one), understanding how and why we behave or feel the way we do is necessary to reprogramming and responding differently in the future.

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It Didn't Start With You, Mark Wolynn

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]]>Buzzsprout-11037189Tue, 02 Aug 2022 10:00:00 GMT<p>It's fairly safe to say that we've all had a gut feeling about someone or some situation before. But what makes a gut feeling different than a feeling based on old patterns?  And how can you break the cycle if an old pattern (a subconscious thought) is informing that feeling? In this episode, Clara explores how to differentiate between the two, and sheds light on how to start detangling the subconscious "web" and underlayer of our past.</p><p>Clara discusses how these subconscious tendencies thread their way throughout multiple areas of our lives (in romantic and family relationships, friendships, career choices, finances), and talks about how becoming aware of these patterns and behaviors is the real key to dismantling them. And while healing our wounds is an ongoing process (arguably a never ending one), understanding how and why we behave or feel the way we do is necessary to reprogramming and responding differently in the future.<br /><br />Mentioned in this episode:<br /><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Didnt-Start-You-Inherited-Family/dp/1101980389" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">It Didn't Start With You, Mark Wolynn</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:40:00Episode 18: Am I *actually* feeling this in my gut? Or is this just old conditioning?full<![CDATA[Episode 16: What I'm Working on Within Myself + Wedding Planning Conundrums]]>Coming to ya'll with a breakdown today of the work I'm doing on myself— how it reflects my greater, life long, journey with control, and how I give myself grace to grapple with that in an ongoing fashion. I'm explaining, too, how this shows up in all areas of my life, from relationship to work and everywhere in between. I'm also going into the conundrum that is wedding planning for someone that does, and doesn't, give a sh*t about this event. It's more complicated than just, "I don't want to fall prey to familial pressure clichés." And I manage to live coach myself in the process!

This episode will resonate with anyone:

  • Who hungers to just be DONE with "healing," and gets frustrated with themselves, thinking if XYZ were resolved they'd have....the relationship, the job, etc.
  • The complex process of planning a wedding you feel good about— one that's about you and not a fortune— when you don't feel naturally excited by the "go to" traditions
  • How to self coach! Full stop.

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]]>Buzzsprout-10982648Tue, 19 Jul 2022 12:00:00 GMT<p>Coming to ya'll with a breakdown today of the work I'm doing on myself— how it reflects my greater, life long, journey with control, and how I give myself grace to grapple with that in an ongoing fashion. I'm explaining, too, how this shows up in all areas of my life, from relationship to work and everywhere in between. I'm also going into the conundrum that is wedding planning for someone that does, and doesn't, give a sh*t about this event. It's more complicated than just, "I don't want to fall prey to familial pressure clichés." And I manage to live coach myself in the process!<br /><br />This episode will resonate with anyone:</p><ul><li>Who hungers to just be DONE with "healing," and gets frustrated with themselves, thinking if XYZ were resolved they'd have....the relationship, the job, etc.</li><li>The complex process of planning a wedding you feel good about— one that's about you and not a fortune— when you don't feel naturally excited by the "go to" traditions</li><li>How to self coach! Full stop.</li></ul><p>https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/</p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:43:49Episode 16: What I'm Working on Within Myself + Wedding Planning Conundrumsfull<![CDATA[Episode 12: Dating isn't something to be "figured out." But what do we do when it feels that way?]]>What do we do in periods where we know we shouldn't be dating (and boy do those exist), but we still yearn for a relationship? This question was prompted by a listener note, sent in a few weeks back. It was specifically phrased as, "What do I do in the waiting and HOW do I not feel like I'm waiting?" Such a good, real and profound question. And one I know all of us face or have faced, be it in relationships or anything else, at some point in life. More simply put, what do we do in the between? When we're working on ourselves but not in a place to date? That's what I dig into in this episode. 

I think it will be *especially* helpful for anyone:

  • Craving a break from dating but carrying guilt around it— consider this your permission slip
  • Wondering how to leverage the much needed in between (I outline an exact exercise you can do)
  • Working to manage the fear and feelings that live within the "waiting," as if you're waiting for your actual life to start

Have a question or want me to cover something on the pod? Email me! clara@ithinkilikeyou.co.

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]]>Buzzsprout-10868347Tue, 28 Jun 2022 11:00:00 GMT<p>What do we do in periods where we know we shouldn't be dating (and boy do those exist), but we still yearn for a relationship? This question was prompted by a listener note, sent in a few weeks back. It was specifically phrased as, "What do I do in the waiting and HOW do I not feel like I'm waiting?" Such a good, real and profound question. And one I know all of us face or have faced, be it in relationships or anything else, at some point in life. More simply put, what do we do in the between? When we're working on ourselves but not in a place to date? That's what I dig into in this episode. <br /><br />I think it will be *especially* helpful for anyone:</p><ul><li>Craving a break from dating but carrying guilt around it— consider this your permission slip</li><li>Wondering how to leverage the much needed in between (I outline an exact exercise you can do)</li><li>Working to manage the fear and feelings that live within the "waiting," as if you're waiting for your actual life to start</li></ul><p>Have a question or want me to cover something on the pod? Email me! clara@ithinkilikeyou.co.</p><p>https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/<br /><br />Apply here to work together: https://calendly.com/clara-artschwager/developing-a-conscious-dating-practice?month=2022-06<br /><br />Schedule a two hour intensive with me: https://calendly.com/clara-artschwager/2hourcoachingintensive</p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:50:29Episode 12: Dating isn't something to be "figured out." But what do we do when it feels that way?full<![CDATA[Episode 11: On the comfort of being single.]]>We can want a relationship and also be resistant to intimacy, in ways that are really hard to see within ourselves. That's the crux of this week's episode. In it, I dive deeper into a period in my life (circa 2017) where I was "dating," someone. Really, we were just sleeping together. And while if you had asked me "Do you want a relationship?" I would have eagerly exclaimed, "Yes!" my internal world, my subconscious beliefs, were screaming the exact opposite. Largely because at the time, intimacy felt incredibly threatening. I didn't dare let another really see me. I wasn't even willing to really see myself.

This episode will be a great listen if:

  • You find yourself not really connecting deeply with anyone— or primarily connecting with people that aren't emotionally available
  • You're tired of more surface level dating advice, like "Just join a kickball league!" 
  • You feel at a loss for what you can "do" when it comes to consciously moving towards partnership
  • You have lingering insecurities in the realm of food, body image, self worth derived through work, etc.
  • You feel generally lost in your pursuit of partnership.

I've got one to one coaching spots open! https://calendly.com/clara-artschwager/developing-a-conscious-dating-practice?month=2022-06

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]]>Buzzsprout-10826857Tue, 21 Jun 2022 00:00:00 GMT<p>We can want a relationship and also be resistant to intimacy, in ways that are really hard to see within ourselves. That's the crux of this week's episode. In it, I dive deeper into a period in my life (circa 2017) where I was "dating," someone. Really, we were just sleeping together. And while if you had asked me "Do you want a relationship?" I would have eagerly exclaimed, "Yes!" my internal world, my subconscious beliefs, were screaming the exact opposite. Largely because at the time, intimacy felt incredibly threatening. I didn't dare let another really see me. I wasn't even willing to really see myself.<br /><br />This episode will be a great listen if:</p><ul><li>You find yourself not really connecting deeply with anyone— or primarily connecting with people that aren't emotionally available</li><li>You're tired of more surface level dating advice, like "Just join a kickball league!" </li><li>You feel at a loss for what you can "do" when it comes to consciously moving towards partnership</li><li>You have lingering insecurities in the realm of food, body image, self worth derived through work, etc.</li><li>You feel generally lost in your pursuit of partnership.</li></ul><p>I've got one to one coaching spots open! https://calendly.com/clara-artschwager/developing-a-conscious-dating-practice?month=2022-06<br /><br />And also, won't you join me for my fall retreat? https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/retreat</p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:44:51Episode 11: On the comfort of being single.full<![CDATA[Episode 9: It *is* possible to meet people in person. It's just time to shift your beliefs.]]>This week I dive deep, like real deep, into the process of meeting people in person— romantically speaking. As I relay early on in the episode, this is 99.99999% (if not 100%...) a mindset thing. 

I've written extensively about my experience and journey over the last decade, working to debunk the belief that one could only meet someone online or after several drinks at a bar. But this is the first time I really break down the mechanics and energetics when it comes to:

  • Why we don't believe meeting someone in person is possible in this day and age
  • Why we have such a limited lens around this approach to dating
  • How fear and shame sit at the root of our inability to approach dating this way
  • How to go about working through all of the above to integrate meeting people in person into your day to day life
  • And much more!

This episode is ideal for anyone who:

  • Holds a strong belief they CAN'T meet anyone in person...but very much WANTS to!
  • Would love to experience more agency and ease in realm of calling in potential partners in person
  • Hunger to not feel relegated to the dating apps, yet simultaneously not judge them
  • Wants to adopt a dating practice that fits more organically into their day to day life (less doing, more flow)


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]]>Buzzsprout-10750991Tue, 07 Jun 2022 10:00:00 GMT<p>This week I dive deep, like real deep, into the process of meeting people in person— romantically speaking. As I relay early on in the episode, this is 99.99999% (if not 100%...) a mindset thing. <br /><br />I've written extensively about my experience and journey over the last decade, working to debunk the belief that one could only meet someone online or after several drinks at a bar. But this is the first time I really break down the mechanics and energetics when it comes to:</p><ul><li>Why we don't believe meeting someone in person is possible in this day and age</li><li>Why we have such a limited lens around this approach to dating</li><li>How fear and shame sit at the root of our inability to approach dating this way</li><li>How to go about working through all of the above to integrate meeting people in person into your day to day life</li><li>And much more!</li></ul><p>This episode is ideal for anyone who:</p><ul><li>Holds a strong belief they CAN'T meet anyone in person...but very much WANTS to!</li><li>Would love to experience more agency and ease in realm of calling in potential partners in person</li><li>Hunger to not feel relegated to the dating apps, yet simultaneously not judge them</li><li>Wants to adopt a dating practice that fits more organically into their day to day life (less doing, more flow)</li></ul><p><br />Links from today's episode:<br /><br /><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/private-coaching" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Apply to work privately with me this summer</a><br /><br /><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/retreat" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Snag your spot for the fall retreat</a><br /><br /><a href="https://cooking.nytimes.com/recipes/1019693-slow-cooker-chipotle-honey-chicken-tacos" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">The honey chipotle tacos I made for dinner!</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:51:57Episode 9: It *is* possible to meet people in person. It's just time to shift your beliefs.full<![CDATA[Episode 8: The pain of female friendship.]]>Those middle/high school school wounds run deep, and very much still show up today. I remember a client once saying to me: Omg, I realized I STILL see myself as the 12 year old chubby girl with braces— and that’s what’s showing up in dating.

But it’s not just about dating, or the boyfriends/girlfriends we did or didn’t have as an adolescent. Those female to female dynamics play just as big of a role.

In the past few weeks I felt a shifting in some of my female friendships— some good, some challenging. The shifts have lead me to reflect upon past friendship wounds, things that still feel unfinished, but more so, what I want to feel now. How I want to feel now with the friends in my life— and how I want them to feel as well. This is a heart opening episode, to be sure.

This is a great episode for you if:

  • You’ve experienced loss as it relates to female friendship and still feel the sting of those losses
  • You felt bullied/singled out by girls at a young age— or was the one inflicting that on others
  • You hunger for deeper friendships now, especially with women navigating dating, relationships, and coming into themselves in their later 30s


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]]>Buzzsprout-10706106Tue, 31 May 2022 11:00:00 GMT<p>Those middle/high school school wounds run deep, and very much still show up today. I remember a client once saying to me: <em>Omg, I realized I STILL see myself as the 12 year old chubby girl with braces— and that’s what’s showing up in dating.</em></p><p>But it’s not just about dating, or the boyfriends/girlfriends we did or didn’t have as an adolescent. Those female to female dynamics play just as big of a role.</p><p>In the past few weeks I felt a shifting in some of my female friendships— some good, some challenging. The shifts have lead me to reflect upon past friendship wounds, things that still feel unfinished, but more so, what I want to feel now. How I want to feel now with the friends in my life— and how I want them to feel as well. This is a heart opening episode, to be sure.</p><p>This is a great episode for you if:</p><ul><li>You’ve experienced loss as it relates to female friendship and still feel the sting of those losses</li><li>You felt bullied/singled out by girls at a young age— or was the one inflicting that on others</li><li>You hunger for deeper friendships now, especially with women navigating dating, relationships, and coming into themselves in their later 30s</li></ul><p><br /></p><p>https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/</p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:37:28Episode 8: The pain of female friendship.full<![CDATA[Episode 4: What if going on the date wasn't always the actual goal?]]>We tend to think the only way we're either moving towards partnership or putting ourselves out there is to date. I.e. go on the dates (I suppose we could include swiping in there, too). That not only creates a lot of pressure, but this notion isn't true at all. There are so many more concrete things we can do  (and I'm not just talking about journaling furiously in your manifestation journal) to foster a better understanding of ourselves, as well as create a better relationship with ourselves, which in turn drives our ability to share our lives with someone. 

In this episode I break down what that means and what it looks like, through a recent example with one of my clients. Spoiler alert --> it was the canceling of the date, not pushing through it, that was the key move. 

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]]>Buzzsprout-10542955Tue, 03 May 2022 11:00:00 GMT<p>We tend to think the only way we're either moving towards partnership or putting ourselves out there is to date. I.e. go on the dates (I suppose we could include swiping in there, too). That not only creates a lot of pressure, but this notion isn't true at all. There are so many more concrete things we can do  (and I'm not just talking about journaling furiously in your manifestation journal) to foster a better understanding of ourselves, as well as create a better relationship with ourselves, which in turn drives our ability to share our lives with someone. <br /><br />In this episode I break down what that means and what it looks like, through a recent example with one of my clients. Spoiler alert --&gt; it was the canceling of the date, not pushing through it, that was the key move. </p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:36:5014Episode 4: What if going on the date wasn't always the actual goal?full<![CDATA[A psychological astrologer on the purpose of our relationships.]]>A true seer, the biggest of hearts, the wisest of words, and a tad witchy— Sofia Adler is all of these things and more. Forget what you know (or think you know) about astrology and love and listen in and up. Even though I've known Sofia for over four years, I learned things in our conversation that blew my mind. Blew my mind and then gave me such a new level of depth around my own relationship.

If you find yourself Googling, "what sign goes well with what sign," or consistently turning to a weekly horoscope to see what it has to say about your love life— but the effort always falls flat, you'll love this episode. It'll also be juicy for those in relationship. You'll walk away with an entirely new way to view your person and partnership.

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]]>Buzzsprout-11264051Mon, 05 Sep 2022 18:00:00 GMT<p>A true seer, the biggest of hearts, the wisest of words, and a tad witchy— Sofia Adler is all of these things and more. Forget what you know (or think you know) about astrology and love and listen in and up. Even though I've known Sofia for over four years, I learned things in our conversation that blew my mind. Blew my mind and then gave me such a new level of depth around my own relationship. <br /><br />If you find yourself Googling, "what sign goes well with what sign," or consistently turning to a weekly horoscope to see what it has to say about your love life— but the effort always falls flat, you'll love this episode. It'll also be juicy for those in relationship. You'll walk away with an entirely new way to view your person and partnership.<br /><br />Sofia Adler: https://www.sofiaadler.com/<br /><a href="https://www.sofiaadler.com/astrology-readings/book-a-reading-75-minute-love-session" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Book a Love Reading</a><br /><a href=" https://www.sofiaadler.com/astrology-readings/book-a-reading-1-hour-astrology-session" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Book a Regular Reading</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no01:04:05A psychological astrologer on the purpose of our relationships.full<![CDATA[Episode 49: We all just want to meet the one person that will deliver us from our shame and pain.]]>We all just want the whole *thing*— whether the thing is a person or a house or a job or a something to work out. To happen. To just....be there. And so we load ourself up with how tos and programs, hoping to skirt the timeline of life in some fashion. But it's the very timeline itself that helps us evolve into the person who will be the partner or the owner or the placeholder of a new position.

In this episode I go into:

  • A specific dating experience of mine from 2020 ( deep in a single period) where the person and series of dates, themselves, were never actually about developing something with that person– the purpose of our paths crossing fell entirely outside the realm of my romantic life— but served me tremendously
  • How my perspective on the scenario represents a greater philosophy I apply to my whole life, which translates to a whole lot more joy, freedom and agency

This episode will resonate with anyone who:

  • Hungers to just have their life, relationship, career, etc "figured out"
  • Feels a tremendous amount of disappointment after every date that doesn't turn out to "be the one"
  • Overanalyzes individuals, dating experiences, or simply experiences in life to extract their greater meaning– versus working to let go
  • Struggles to not see their life as one big ticking clock timeline

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]]>Buzzsprout-12291475Tue, 21 Feb 2023 08:00:00 GMT<p>We all just want the whole *thing*— whether the thing is a person or a house or a job or a something to work out. To happen. To just....be there. And so we load ourself up with how tos and programs, hoping to skirt the timeline of life in some fashion. But it's the very timeline itself that helps us <em>evolve</em> into the person who will be the partner or the owner or the placeholder of a new position.<br /><br />In this episode I go into:</p><ul><li>A specific dating experience of mine from 2020 ( deep in a single period) where the person and series of dates, themselves, were never actually about developing something with that person– the purpose of our paths crossing fell entirely outside the realm of my romantic life— but served me tremendously</li><li>How my perspective on the scenario represents a greater philosophy I apply to my whole life, which translates to a whole lot more joy, freedom and agency</li></ul><p>This episode will resonate with anyone who:</p><ul><li>Hungers to just have their life, relationship, career, etc "figured out"</li><li>Feels a tremendous amount of disappointment after every date that doesn't turn out to "be the one"</li><li>Overanalyzes individuals, dating experiences, or simply experiences in life to extract their greater meaning– versus working to let go</li><li>Struggles to not see their life as one big ticking clock timeline</li></ul><p>Links mentioned in this episode:</p><ul><li><a href="https://calendly.com/clara-artschwager/coaching-discovery-call-clone?month=2023-02" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">A Dating + Relationship Program for Women in Law, Finance + Biz Consulting: Apply Here</a></li><li><a href="https://calendly.com/clara-artschwager/developing-a-conscious-dating-practice?month=2023-02" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Explore Working with Me One on One</a></li><li><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/content/episode-20" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Episode 20: Get to know my husband, James.</a></li></ul><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:38:54Episode 49: We all just want to meet the one person that will deliver us from our shame and pain.full<![CDATA[Episode 13: Are we really dating right now?]]>In the webinar I ran last week, a very thoughtful and wise participant posed the following question (I'm paraphrasing):

Given the state of the world right now, and how it's weighing on us, do we really have the space for putting ourselves out there?

A.men. While her question was directed at dating, in this episode I speak more globally about the limited bandwidth we're all feeling (myself very much included), and how to make ourselves the expert in what we are and aren't capable of right now. I also touch on the scarcity mindset/timeline fears this creates, i.e., "If I stop doing xyz, I'll be behind."

This episode is great if you're:

  • Feeling obligated to date but don't have the emotional energy/bandwidth to do that
  • Wanting to bring more authenticity to dating, both in general and during a time like this
  • Hungering for some solace and support when it comes to managing these times

As I mentioned in the ep, my 2 hour strategy sessions are discounted through 7/15. You don't have to complete the session by then, you just have to book.  Learn more and book here: https://calendly.com/clara-artschwager/2hourcoachingintensive


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]]>Buzzsprout-10914224Wed, 06 Jul 2022 13:00:00 GMT<p>In the webinar I ran last week, a very thoughtful and wise participant posed the following question (I'm paraphrasing):<br /><br /><em>Given the state of the world right now, and how it's weighing on us, do we really have the space for putting ourselves out there?<br /><br /></em>A.men. While her question was directed at dating, in this episode I speak more globally about the limited bandwidth we're all feeling (myself very much included), and how to make ourselves the expert in what we are and aren't capable of right now. I also touch on the scarcity mindset/timeline fears this creates, i.e., "If I stop doing xyz, I'll be behind."<br /><br />This episode is great if you're:</p><ul><li>Feeling obligated to date but don't have the emotional energy/bandwidth to do that</li><li>Wanting to bring more authenticity to dating, both in general and during a time like this</li><li>Hungering for some solace and support when it comes to managing these times</li></ul><p>As I mentioned in the ep, my 2 hour strategy sessions are discounted through 7/15. You don't have to <em>complete</em> the session by then, you just have to book.  Learn more and book here: https://calendly.com/clara-artschwager/2hourcoachingintensive</p><p><br /></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:27:23Episode 13: Are we really dating right now?full<![CDATA[Episode 47: How your relationship with your job impacts the state of your romantic life.]]>Often the only air time that work gets in the space of dating is the notion that we've devoted so much time to our work and therefore can't date, didn't focus on the relationship, etc. Work, for myself included, can be a lovely place to hide and numb, and also a place to sit on necessary changes that feel too difficult to make. What feels easier is staying in the discomfort we know. But is it? And how the hell is that connected to dating? 

In this episode I explore:

  • The correlation between the state of our work— not just our work but our day to day lives— and the state of our dating life
  • How staying stuck in jobs that are really out of alignment with who we are feed certain dating outcomes
  • How it's less about the job and more about an ongoing state of inertia that perpetuates certain outcomes in our dating lives
  • What change can look like in the immediate (Hint, hint: It's not just leaving your job or radically changing up your work)

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]]>Buzzsprout-12188095Sun, 05 Feb 2023 19:00:00 GMT<p>Often the only air time that work gets in the space of dating is the notion that we've devoted so much time to our work and therefore can't date, didn't focus on the relationship, etc. Work, for myself included, can be a lovely place to hide and numb, and also a place to sit on necessary changes that feel too difficult to make. What feels easier is staying in the discomfort we know. But is it? And how the hell is that connected to dating? <br /><br />In this episode I explore:</p><ul><li>The correlation between the state of our work— not just our work but our day to day lives— and the state of our dating life</li><li>How staying stuck in jobs that are really out of alignment with who we are feed certain dating outcomes</li><li>How it's less about the job and more about an ongoing state of inertia that perpetuates certain outcomes in our dating lives</li><li>What change can look like in the immediate (Hint, hint: It's not just leaving your job or radically changing up your work)</li></ul><p><a href="https://calendly.com/clara-artschwager/developing-a-conscious-dating-practice?month=2023-02" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Book a Discovery Call</a><br /><a href="https://calendly.com/clara-artschwager/developing-a-conscious-dating-practice?month=2023-02" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Subscribe to the Newsletter</a><br /><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">I Think I Like You</a><br /><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect w/ Clara on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:39:53Episode 47: How your relationship with your job impacts the state of your romantic life.full<![CDATA[The career conversation I'm having with all my 38ish friends | Ep 112]]>Over the last few months I've had a series of conversations with friends/colleagues (some with kids, some without), that have gone:

  • I'm looking for a new job but I want it to be at a much smaller firm with a lot less stress/no working on the weekends, where I can really leave at 5 pm and go home to my kids
  • I just want a job where I come in, do good work, don't deal with a ton of drama, leave, and then it's done. It's just done. Until I go back the next day.
  • I'm intentionally not seeking a promotion because my current role is solid, provides so much flexibility, and allows me time to take voice lessons and write my new Substack...

And so on. I could rattle off a dozen more examples. I, too, have found myself in this camp — wanting to simplify and strip back what I'm doing, not be so hung up on making things bigger and better, and just live. Maybe I'll change my tune in a few years? But I have a feeling....not so much.

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]]>Buzzsprout-15177311Wed, 12 Jun 2024 14:00:00 GMT<p>Over the last few months I've had a series of conversations with friends/colleagues (some with kids, some without), that have gone:</p><ul><li>I'm looking for a new job but I want it to be at a much smaller firm with a lot less stress/no working on the weekends, where I can really leave at 5 pm and go home to my kids</li><li>I just want a job where I come in, do good work, don't deal with a ton of drama, leave, and then it's done. It's just done. Until I go back the next day.</li><li>I'm intentionally not seeking a promotion because my current role is solid, provides so much flexibility, and allows me time to take voice lessons and write my new Substack...</li></ul><p>And so on. I could rattle off a dozen more examples. I, too, have found myself in this camp — wanting to simplify and strip back what I'm doing, not be so hung up on making things bigger and better, and just live. Maybe I'll change my tune in a few years? But I have a feeling....not so much.<br /><br />If this topic is percolating for you, too, today's podcast will be great company.<br /><br /><a href="https://iwasjustthinkingabout.substack.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Check out Bethany's Substack</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:54:38The career conversation I'm having with all my 38ish friends | Ep 112full<![CDATA[Episode 43: On healing from cheating and coming home to ourselves.]]>This week I'm sitting down with fellow entrepreneur and Instagram friend turned real life friend, Diana Davis. While we touch on the work she does, we mostly cover her recent relationship journey— namely, weathering a major breakup in your early 30s, the wisdom of our bodies around cheating, and how to actually date casually (i.e. in a way that serves us) when we're not actually seeking a relationship.

In this episode we cover:

  • How we must (in many ways) lose ourselves in order to come back to ourselves
  • Weathering a big breakup in your early 30s
  • The gift of the rebirth by way of a breakup
  • The deep wisdom of our bodies
  • How to listen to yourself in the context of dating
  • Diana has a podcast, too! 

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]]>Buzzsprout-12008870Tue, 10 Jan 2023 12:00:00 GMT<p>This week I'm sitting down with fellow entrepreneur and Instagram friend turned real life friend, Diana Davis. While we touch on the work she does, we mostly cover her recent relationship journey— namely, weathering a major breakup in your early 30s, the wisdom of our bodies around cheating, and how to actually date casually (i.e. in a way that serves us) when we're not actually seeking a relationship.<br /><br />In this episode we cover:</p><ul><li>How we must (in many ways) lose ourselves in order to come back to ourselves</li><li>Weathering a big breakup in your early 30s</li><li>The gift of the rebirth by way of a breakup</li><li>The deep wisdom of our bodies</li><li>How to listen to yourself in the context of dating</li><li>Diana has a <a href="https://www.dianadaviscreative.com/blog/categories/pollen-podcast" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">podcast</a>, too! </li></ul><p>Links mentioned in the episode:</p><ul><li><a href="https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZMtd-uprTMpHNRh1jBF1uIWpI1wWbQXwuSZ" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">ITILY's January Community Session</a></li><li><a href="https://calendly.com/clara-artschwager/developing-a-conscious-dating-practice?month=2023-01" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Book a Discovery Call w/ Clara</a></li><li><a href="https://www.dianadaviscreative.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work w/ Diana</a></li><li><a href="https://www.instagram.com/dianadaviscreative/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Diana on Instagram</a></li><li><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Clara on Instagram</a></li><li><a href="https://www.myhumandesign.com/get-your-chart/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Get your human design.</a></li><li><a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/ie/podcast/matthew-mcconaughey-jay-shetty-on-how-to-turn-barriers/id1450994021?i=1000496908252" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Matthew McConaughey &amp; Jay Shetty ON How To Turn Barriers Into Green Lights &amp; Refuse To Let Challenges Defeat You</a></li><li><a href="https://www.dianadaviscreative.com/post/e6-building-your-cosmic-shopping-list" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Cosmic Shopping List Episode</a></li></ul><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no01:07:32Episode 43: On healing from cheating and coming home to ourselves.full<![CDATA[Episode 10: How sibling dynamics impact our romantic relationships.]]>We talk endlessly about our parents. Their marriage, their divorce, their relationship with us, their relationship with each other, but our siblings tend to get a little less air time. This has only become more and more apparent to me. Pretty much every single client I've support over the last few years has had a challenging sibling. From a younger sister with substance abuse issues to a life threatening illness, to simply an older brother who was deemed the "difficult one," such that everyone had to tiptoe around his moods and everything in between. 

In this environment, my clients learned to be easy and accommodating. They became experts at understanding what mitigated their parent's stress and what brought their parents joy. Their mode of operating was driven less by who they actually were or how they actually felt, and more so by working to maintain homeostasis—particularly in contrast to that sibling—within the family. Their identities became a performance.  This type of dynamic has a major trickle down effect on romantic relationships—from who you're attracted to the nature of your relationships and so much more.

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]]>Buzzsprout-10790368Tue, 14 Jun 2022 12:00:00 GMT<p>We talk endlessly about our parents. Their marriage, their divorce, their relationship with us, their relationship with each other, but our siblings tend to get a little less air time. This has only become more and more apparent to me. Pretty much every single client I've support over the last few years has had a challenging sibling. From a younger sister with substance abuse issues to a life threatening illness, to simply an older brother who was deemed the "difficult one," such that everyone had to tiptoe around his moods and everything in between. <br /><br />In this environment, my clients learned to be easy and accommodating. They became experts at understanding what mitigated their parent's stress and what brought their parents joy. Their mode of operating was driven less by who they actually were or how they actually felt, and more so by working to maintain homeostasis—particularly in contrast to that sibling—within the family. Their identities became a performance.  This type of dynamic has a major trickle down effect on romantic relationships—from who you're attracted to the nature of your relationships and so much more.<br /><br />Summer coaching spots available! Learn more here: https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/private-coaching</p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:36:53Episode 10: How sibling dynamics impact our romantic relationships.full<![CDATA[On going down ex boyfriend rabbit holes. And should I reach out? | Ep 141]]>In late August, whilst driving my 10 month old around, furiously throwing "organic" teething crackers in the back seat in hopes he would both stop crying and go to sleep (neither really happened), I mainlined a series of podcast episodes with an ex. He'd just come out with a new book and, thankfully (?), had a bevy of press for me indulge every stalking bone in my body. It was only after the fact that I though, "Oh, I must do a podcast episode about this."

Who doesn't stalk an ex!! No one, no one. Ok? Ok.

In this episode I'm digging in to:

  • What leads us to stalk an ex — what we're seeking out
  • How our perception of the ex has much more to do with our own personal narratives
  • How to leverage what might appear as just "bad behavior" into insight into your own needs, season and personal evolution

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]]>Buzzsprout-17985162Thu, 09 Oct 2025 20:00:00 GMT<p>In late August, whilst driving my 10 month old around, furiously throwing "organic" teething crackers in the back seat in hopes he would both stop crying and go to sleep (neither really happened), I mainlined a series of podcast episodes with an ex. He'd just come out with a new book and, thankfully (?), had a bevy of press for me indulge every stalking bone in my body. It was only after the fact that I though, "Oh, I must do a podcast episode about this."</p><p>Who doesn't stalk an ex!! No one, no one. Ok? Ok.</p><p>In this episode I'm digging in to:</p><ul><li>What leads us to stalk an ex — what we're seeking out</li><li>How our perception of the ex has much more to do with our own personal narratives</li><li>How to leverage what might appear as just "bad behavior" into insight into your own needs, season and personal evolution</li></ul><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:37:12On going down ex boyfriend rabbit holes. And should I reach out? | Ep 141full<![CDATA[Episode 30: The breakup that isn't a breakup. When they just ghost.]]>Many of us have been there, the guy that comes in hot, wants to label the relationship from the get go, even expresses how intimacy is a challenge for him but he's working on it (!)....it all sounds so good! He's in it! He's acknowledging his sh*t! And then....the bottom falls out.

In this episode we explore:

  • What leads people to "leave" a relationship in this way
  • How the tendency to do so isn't a core issue with men (or women), it's a dynamic between two people
  • What we can consider within ourselves if we experience relationship patterns of this kind, i.e. — how to move forward

This episode will resonate if:

  • You're struggling to find closure in something
  • Someone came in hot, and then completely went cold
  • They wielded "doing the work," or being conscious to their issues, but then reverted to those very patterns
  • Shouldering the pain of what we thought was going to be

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]]>Buzzsprout-11474960Tue, 11 Oct 2022 10:00:00 GMT<p>Many of us have been there, the guy that comes in hot, wants to label the relationship from the get go, even expresses how intimacy is a challenge for him but he's working on it (!)....it all sounds so good! He's in it! He's acknowledging his sh*t! And then....the bottom falls out.<br /><br />In this episode we explore:</p><ul><li>What leads people to "leave" a relationship in this way</li><li>How the tendency to do so isn't a core issue with men (or women), it's a dynamic between two people</li><li>What we can consider within ourselves if we experience relationship patterns of this kind, i.e. — how to move forward</li></ul><p>This episode will resonate if:</p><ul><li>You're struggling to find closure in something</li><li>Someone came in hot, and then completely went cold</li><li>They wielded "doing the work," or being conscious to their issues, but then reverted to those very patterns</li><li>Shouldering the pain of what we thought was going to be</li></ul><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:31:48Episode 30: The breakup that isn't a breakup. When they just ghost.full<![CDATA[My fertility journey is feeling like my dating journey — wildly unpredictable | Ep 100]]>In today's episode, I'm opening up about my fertility journey, and how the ups and downs, are reminding me a lot of my dating journey. Namely:

  • How do you keep going when you feel like nothing's working in your favor?
  • How do you deal when you feel like you're "doing all the things," but none of it is making a difference?
  • How do you long for something you feel like you don't have control over, or thought would go a different way?

Tune in to here: 

  • Why I was hesitant to even do this episode
  • The details over our struggle and journey over the last 2 years
  • How it's brought me back to the periods of defeat, exhaustion and unknown, in my dating life
  • The difficulty in maintaining self trust in these seasons
  • How I'm coping and how those lessons can be applied to periods of defeat and disappointment in dating 







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]]>Buzzsprout-14587362Tue, 19 Mar 2024 07:00:00 GMT<p>In today's episode, I'm opening up about my fertility journey, and how the ups and downs, are reminding me a lot of my dating journey. Namely:</p><ul><li>How do you keep going when you feel like nothing's working in your favor?</li><li>How do you deal when you feel like you're "doing all the things," but none of it is making a difference?</li><li>How do you long for something you feel like you don't have control over, or thought would go a different way?</li></ul><p>Tune in to here: </p><ul><li>Why I was hesitant to even do this episode</li><li>The details over our struggle and journey over the last 2 years</li><li>How it's brought me back to the periods of defeat, exhaustion and unknown, in my dating life</li><li>The difficulty in maintaining self trust in these seasons</li><li>How I'm coping and how those lessons can be applied to periods of defeat and disappointment in dating </li></ul><p><br /><br /><br /><br /></p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:29:50My fertility journey is feeling like my dating journey — wildly unpredictable | Ep 100full<![CDATA[On the comfort of being single (a fresh take) | Ep 155]]>Years ago, back when I first started this podcast, I shared an episode entitled "The comfort of being single." I will link to that podcast below. It's one of the most listened to episodes.

My clients, always serving as the greatest mirror, reminded me this topic was worth revisiting. I find it to be an extremely comment sentiment, but it often gets buried with feelings of: There's something wrong with me. I should just date more. If I want a relationship, why am I not trying harder?

This episode will resonate if you find yourself single and deeply resistant to dating, or stuck in a series of short or largely unsuccessful relationships, and can't seem to shake the pattern. 

In it I cover:

  • The deeper reasons as to why we resist dating or find our relationship attempts always fall short
  • How and why we shame and blame ourselves — saying we're too picky and not trying hard enough — and how that actually isn't true
  • How much of remaining single has to do with maintaining control
  • Ways you can better understand your own relationship patterns

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]]>Buzzsprout-18584392Wed, 28 Jan 2026 19:00:00 GMT<p>Years ago, back when I first started this podcast, I shared an episode entitled "The comfort of being single." I will link to that podcast below. It's one of the most listened to episodes.</p><p>My clients, always serving as the greatest mirror, reminded me this topic was worth revisiting. I find it to be an extremely comment sentiment, but it often gets buried with feelings of: <em>There's something wrong with me. I should just date more. If I want a relationship, why am I not trying harder?</em></p><p>This episode will resonate if you find yourself single and deeply resistant to dating, or stuck in a series of short or largely unsuccessful relationships, and can't seem to shake the pattern. </p><p>In it I cover:</p><ul><li>The deeper reasons as to why we resist dating or find our relationship attempts always fall short</li><li>How and why we shame and blame ourselves — saying we're too picky and not trying hard enough — and how that actually isn't true</li><li>How much of remaining single has to do with maintaining control</li><li>Ways you can better understand your own relationship patterns</li></ul><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/content/episode-11" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Episode 11</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:42:13On the comfort of being single (a fresh take) | Ep 155full<![CDATA[Episode 3: Dating Apps Makes Me Wanna #%$FCBJKH&@!]]>Nothing about online dating—despite what Hinge, Tinder, and the like may claim— is intuitive or seamless. That's not to say it's impossible, but it most certainly is an emotionally challenging and complicated environment (and that's putting it lightly). But there is hope. Yes,  hope! And it has less to do with/nothing to do with how to tweak your profile or perfect the algorithm and so much more to do with developing a deep self awareness around the nature of these tools, how the digital environment impacts how we relate to one another, and how our own sh*t around dating, relationships, intimacy desire, rejection and so much more, shows up in the online environment.  In this episode, you'll also gain access to a free download, Dating App Principles for Sanity and Resilience, to help bring the elements I talk about to life and integrate them into your own pursuit of partnership.

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]]>Buzzsprout-10506204Tue, 26 Apr 2022 13:00:00 GMT<p>Nothing about online dating—despite what Hinge, Tinder, and the like may claim— is intuitive or seamless. That's not to say it's impossible, but it most certainly is an emotionally challenging and complicated environment (and that's putting it lightly). But there <em>is</em> hope. Yes,  hope! And it has less to do with/nothing to do with how to tweak your profile or perfect the algorithm and so much more to do with developing a deep self awareness around the nature of these tools, how the digital environment impacts how we relate to one another, and how our own sh*t around dating, relationships, intimacy desire, rejection and so much more, shows up in the online environment.  In this episode, you'll also gain access to a free download, Dating App Principles for Sanity and Resilience, to help bring the elements I talk about to life and integrate them into your own pursuit of partnership.</p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>yes00:40:26Episode 3: Dating Apps Makes Me Wanna #%$FCBJKH&@!full<![CDATA[I've been in therapy for years but I'm still single. What gives? | Ep 128]]>Here's where I meet most of my clients: They've been in therapy for years, they have a tremendous amount of awareness around their stuff — their mom issues, their dad issues, their attachment style, their insecurities, how they attract the wrong men, etc etc. They know it all like the back of their hand! But their dating and relationship life remains the same. What gives?

Why can we have all the self awareness with zero change in our circumstances?

That's what we're digging into in today's podcast. I'm specifically covering:

  • Why we can do therapy for years but remain perpetually single or stuck in the same dating patterns
  • How awareness of "our stuff" isn't enough
  • Why the action and efforts needed to change our patterns is so hard and how we can tackle things slowly
  • The importance of bringing compassion and curiosity to our stuck-ness
  • A simple exercise to start to actually shift both your understanding of yourself, your dating patterns, your resistance to dating, and this overall conundrum.

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]]>Buzzsprout-16496822Tue, 28 Jan 2025 08:00:00 GMT<p>Here's where I meet most of my clients: They've been in therapy for years, they have a tremendous amount of awareness around their stuff — their mom issues, their dad issues, their attachment style, their insecurities, how they attract the wrong men, etc etc. They know it all like the back of their hand! But their dating and relationship life remains the same. What gives?<br /><br />Why can we have all the self awareness with zero change in our circumstances?<br /><br />That's what we're digging into in today's podcast. I'm specifically covering:</p><ul><li>Why we can do therapy for years but remain perpetually single or stuck in the same dating patterns</li><li>How awareness of "our stuff" isn't enough</li><li>Why the action and efforts needed to change our patterns is so hard and how we can tackle things slowly</li><li>The importance of bringing compassion and curiosity to our stuck-ness</li><li>A simple exercise to start to actually shift both your understanding of yourself, your dating patterns, your resistance to dating, and this overall conundrum.</li></ul><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:45:13I've been in therapy for years but I'm still single. What gives? | Ep 128full<![CDATA[Episode 38: If you moved to another place, would is be easier to meet someone?]]>Have you ever thought or wondered, "If I lived <insert dream location> it would be so much easier to meet someone"? This is a conversation and conundrum I cross with most clients. And it's one I, too, struggled with. I was fixated on the idea I had to live in New York City to meet someone — that I'd never meet someone upstate. Lo and behold, I met my husband upstate. In this quick episode I'm walking through how to unearth the location that best serves you, best aligns with your unique needs as a human, which in turn translates to meeting someone most aligned with your life.

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]]>Buzzsprout-11842394Fri, 09 Dec 2022 12:00:00 GMT<p>Have you ever thought or wondered, "If I lived &lt;insert dream location&gt; it would be so much easier to meet someone"? This is a conversation and conundrum I cross with most clients. And it's one I, too, struggled with. I was fixated on the idea I <em>had</em> to live in New York City to meet someone — that I'd never meet someone upstate. Lo and behold, I met my husband upstate. In this quick episode I'm walking through how to unearth the location that best serves you, best aligns with your unique needs as a human, which in turn translates to meeting someone most aligned with your life.<br /><br /><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/<br /></a><br /><a href="https://calendly.com/clara-artschwager/sip-swipe-how-to-date-more-intuitively?month=2022-12" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Join us for Sip + Swipe (12/15)! </a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:13:35Episode 38: If you moved to another place, would is be easier to meet someone?full<![CDATA[Part I: How Eldest Daughters/Hero Children Struggle in Relationships | Ep 118]]>Today kicks off a three part, maybe four (lots to discuss!), that goes deep into a subject I broached on Instagram a few weeks back: Eldest daughters/hero children – i.e. the good girls, the rule followers, the helpers, the peacekeepers of the family — and how playing that role impacts our dating and relationship lives.

In today's episode I'm digging into the what and the why:

  • What are the unique struggles of this camp of women — my main client — and why does it matter in our romantic relationships
  • The nature of the hero child and their consistent role of trying to fill in the emotional gaps for the family
  • How you can have a "great childhood" and feel "really loved" but still fall into this category and suffer the consequences
  • Different permutations of what being the "hero child" looks like based on parental and sibling dynamics
  • Why being people pleasers, perfectionists and good girls make relationships such a unique struggle


Books mentioned at top of episode:
Ambition Monster by Jennifer Romolini
Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel
Glynnis Macnicole: I’m Mostly Here to Enjoy Myself, No One Tells You
Catherine Newman: We All Want Impossible Things, Sandwich
Good Material by Dolly Alderton
That Summer by Jennifer Weiner
Old Flame by Molly Prentiss
Carrie Soto is Back by Taylor Jenkins Reid
After I Do by Taylor Jenkins Reid

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]]>Buzzsprout-15516384Fri, 02 Aug 2024 12:00:00 GMT<p>Today kicks off a three part, maybe four (lots to discuss!), that goes deep into a subject I broached on <a href="https://www.instagram.com/p/C9faeseuo9O/?img_index=1" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Instagram</a> a few weeks back: Eldest daughters/hero children – i.e. the good girls, the rule followers, the helpers, the peacekeepers of the family — and how playing that role impacts our dating and relationship lives.<br /><br />In today's episode I'm digging into the what and the why:</p><ul><li>What are the unique struggles of this camp of women — my main client — and why does it matter in our romantic relationships</li><li>The nature of the hero child and their consistent role of trying to fill in the emotional gaps for the family</li><li>How you can have a "great childhood" and feel "really loved" but still fall into this category and suffer the consequences</li><li>Different permutations of what being the "hero child" looks like based on parental and sibling dynamics</li><li>Why being people pleasers, perfectionists and good girls make relationships such a unique struggle</li></ul><p><br />Books mentioned at top of episode:<br />Ambition Monster by Jennifer Romolini<br />Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel<br />Glynnis Macnicole: I’m Mostly Here to Enjoy Myself, No One Tells You<br />Catherine Newman: We All Want Impossible Things, Sandwich<br />Good Material by Dolly Alderton<br />That Summer by Jennifer Weiner<br />Old Flame by Molly Prentiss<br />Carrie Soto is Back by Taylor Jenkins Reid<br />After I Do by Taylor Jenkins Reid</p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:54:46Part I: How Eldest Daughters/Hero Children Struggle in Relationships | Ep 118full<![CDATA[The friend zone isn't where someone put you. It's where you put yourself — and there's a very good reason why. | Ep 164]]>Register for my May 7th Event in NYC

Recently, a beloved follower DM'ed me and said, without any mincing of words, "I need an episode on the friend zone." I was happy to oblige since, to be totally frank, I don't think the friend zone is an actual thing. I think it's more so a way to stay stuck, but safe. Stagnant but comfortable. 

In this episode, I'm covering:

  • The root of why we end up in the friend zone, and why it tends to be a repeat pattern
  • How the friend zone acts like a permission slip to not actively date and instead wait for another person to act
  • How the obstacle we face here isn't with the other person, but our relationship to rejection and vulnerability, and the discomfort of putting oneself out there

If you've ever found yourself stuck in almost, this one's for you.

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]]>Buzzsprout-18975937Wed, 08 Apr 2026 07:00:00 GMT<p><a href="https://gatherhere.us/products/dating-in-your-30s-getting-out-of-your-own-way-women-only?variant=47494087213207" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Register for my May 7th Event in NYC</a></p><p>Recently, a beloved follower DM'ed me and said, without any mincing of words, "I need an episode on the friend zone." I was happy to oblige since, to be totally frank, I don't think the friend zone is an actual thing. I think it's more so a way to stay stuck, but safe. Stagnant but comfortable. </p><p>In this episode, I'm covering:</p><ul><li>The root of why we end up in the friend zone, and why it tends to be a repeat pattern</li><li>How the friend zone acts like a permission slip to not actively date and instead wait for another person to act</li><li>How the obstacle we face here isn't with the other person, but our relationship to rejection and vulnerability, and the discomfort of putting oneself out there</li></ul><p>If you've ever found yourself stuck in almost, this one's for you.</p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:15:10The friend zone isn't where someone put you. It's where you put yourself — and there's a very good reason why. | Ep 164full<![CDATA[Why we need to rethink our attachment styles (especially if we're anxious) | Ep 101]]>Private Coaching Spots are Open
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Are you obsessed with your attachment style and "fixing" it? Perhaps, even more so, if you fall into the category of anxious attachment? As a fellow anxious attachment sufferer, I believe we've got it all wrong. 

In today's episode, I'm bringing a reframe to:

  • How we think about our attachment styles
  • How it's not just our upbringing, but our current cultural environment and the way we date, that fosters less secure attachment
  • How we shift from an anxious or avoidant attachment, to more secure
  • How your attachment style it isn't a death sentence when it comes to relationships

You will benefit tremendously from this episode if you:

  • Struggle with an anxious attachment style and fear you'll never become secure
  • Have attempted to feel less anxious in the dating process or in a relationship, but nothing ever seems to change
  • Think you're "bad" or not as good, because you suffer from an anxious attachment style
  • Find you overanalyze your dates — are they secure? Are they not secure? Are they being avoidant?
  • Believe you just have to meet a secure person if you want a relationship to work — but also fear that the number of secure people are running out 


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]]>Buzzsprout-14751673Tue, 26 Mar 2024 08:00:00 GMT<p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/workwithme" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Private Coaching Spots are Open</a><br /><a href="https://view.flodesk.com/pages/6255906169d304440734a7ad" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Get on my email list</a><br /><br />Are you obsessed with your attachment style and "fixing" it? Perhaps, even more so, if you fall into the category of anxious attachment? As a fellow anxious attachment sufferer, I believe we've got it all wrong. <br /><br />In today's episode, I'm bringing a reframe to:</p><ul><li>How we think about our attachment styles</li><li>How it's not just our upbringing, but our current cultural environment and the way we date, that fosters less secure attachment</li><li>How we shift from an anxious or avoidant attachment, to more secure</li><li>How your attachment style it isn't a death sentence when it comes to relationships</li></ul><p>You will benefit tremendously from this episode if you:</p><ul><li>Struggle with an anxious attachment style and fear you'll never become secure</li><li>Have attempted to feel less anxious in the dating process or in a relationship, but nothing ever seems to change</li><li>Think you're "bad" or not as good, because you suffer from an anxious attachment style</li><li>Find you overanalyze your dates — are they secure? Are they not secure? Are they being avoidant?</li><li>Believe you just have to meet a secure person if you want a relationship to work — but also fear that the number of secure people are running out </li></ul><p><br /><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Attached-Science-Adult-Attachment-YouFind/dp/1585429139" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow"><em>Attached</em> the book</a><br /><a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/John_Bowlby" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">John Bowlby</a><br /><a href="https://www.verywellmind.com/mary-ainsworth-biography-2795501" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Mary Ainsworth</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no01:00:17Why we need to rethink our attachment styles (especially if we're anxious) | Ep 101full<![CDATA[A way to approach dating when you feel like you're never doing "enough." | Ep 93]]>Do you find yourself saying.... "I know I should be doing more in dating. I know I need to put myself out there." Most women I speak with do, and while there might be some truth to more strongly owning one's desire for partnership, the sentiment leaves us feeling stuck and hopeless.

Today's episode is an antidote to that stuck-ness. In it I'm breaking down:

  • Why we're such faulty narrators when it comes to determining when we are or aren't doing enough to meet someone
  • A helpful tactic to do instead that's not only dead simple but super specific to your dating needs (it's literally *tailor* made to better open you up to partnership)
  • A way to help breakup the cycle of rumination, guilt and resistance to dating

This episode will resonate with anyone who:

  • Tends to shame themselves for not doing enough or the right things in their dating life
  • Feels like when they do try, they don't have the results to show for it
  • Feels lost and disheartened when it comes to "next steps," or ways to change their behavior

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]]>Buzzsprout-14443417Tue, 06 Feb 2024 05:00:00 GMT<p>Do you find yourself saying.... "I know I should be doing more in dating. I know I need to put myself out there." Most women I speak with do, and while there might be some truth to more strongly owning one's desire for partnership, the sentiment leaves us feeling stuck and hopeless.</p><p>Today's episode is an antidote to that stuck-ness. In it I'm breaking down:</p><ul><li>Why we're such faulty narrators when it comes to determining when we are or <em>aren't</em> doing enough to meet someone</li><li>A helpful tactic to do instead that's not only dead simple but super specific to your dating needs (it's literally *tailor* made to better open you up to partnership)</li><li>A way to help breakup the cycle of rumination, guilt and resistance to dating</li></ul><p>This episode will resonate with anyone who:</p><ul><li>Tends to shame themselves for not doing enough or the right things in their dating life</li><li>Feels like when they do try, they don't have the results to show for it</li><li>Feels lost and disheartened when it comes to "next steps," or ways to change their behavior</li></ul><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:26:56A way to approach dating when you feel like you're never doing "enough." | Ep 93full<![CDATA[Episode 32: Jealousy towards ex-partners, anxious attachment style, the core issue around common dating advice, and more.]]>This episode here is like a holiday grab bag with legit goodies. Not one of those bullsh*t grab bags where you open it up and you're like "I really didn't need this keychain but ok." I've had a smattering of dating related things on the brain and today we're GOING there.

You'll be into this episode if:

  • You've struggled (or still struggle) with feeling jealous towards other women, specifically ex-partners
  • You don't know how you'll ever feel less anxious around your partner or in the process of dating
  • You tend to build resentment in relationships

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]]>Buzzsprout-11649557Tue, 08 Nov 2022 11:00:00 GMT<p>This episode here is like a holiday grab bag with legit goodies. Not one of those bullsh*t grab bags where you open it up and you're like "I really didn't need this keychain but ok." I've had a smattering of dating related things on the brain and today we're GOING there.<br /><br />You'll be into this episode if:</p><ul><li>You've struggled (or still struggle) with feeling jealous towards other women, specifically ex-partners</li><li>You don't know how you'll ever feel less anxious around your partner or in the process of dating</li><li>You tend to build resentment in relationships</li></ul><p>I mentioned a handful of links at the beginning of the episode:<br /><br /><a href="https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZcrce2hpjoqEt1rB5ILnT-rnvPK3RXyanVm" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">The Conscious Dater: The November 10th Session at 10 am EST</a><br /><br /><a href="https://join.slack.com/t/i-think-i-like-you/shared_invite/zt-1iqkwjw84-zC4rccqzSLT5FNkN1CRYlw https://join.slack.com/t/i-think-i-like-you/shared_invite/zt-1iqkwjw84-zC4rccqzSLT5FNkN1CRYlw" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Join The Conscious Dater Chat Group</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:56:06Episode 32: Jealousy towards ex-partners, anxious attachment style, the core issue around common dating advice, and more.full<![CDATA[Episode 54: Dani Beinstein on what we desire versus what we actually need.]]>Dani Beinstein has been a long time follow favorite of mine, largely for her unparalleled wisdom and grace, steeped in astrology and so much more. This episode begins with the question: Why do our conscious desires (I want a relationship!) always clash with our subconscious need (I fear intimacy)? And why can that be so hard to see?

In this episode we get into:

  • How Dani's rich life is exactly her— but looks nothing like her 20 something self thought it would
  • How a near death experience propelled a series of realizations and events that lead to deep fulfilling work and a rich partnership

This episode will resonate if:

  • You find yourself itching for big change in life but can't "make sense" of that change
  • You can't figure out why the same patterns keep presenting in your life
  • You feel behind in your 30s and are hungry for stories that reflect women coming to life in their late 30s and early 40s

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]]>Buzzsprout-12578126Tue, 04 Apr 2023 07:00:00 GMT<p>Dani Beinstein has been a long time follow favorite of mine, largely for her unparalleled wisdom and grace, steeped in astrology and so much more. This episode begins with the question: Why do our conscious desires (I want a relationship!) always clash with our subconscious need (I fear intimacy)? And why can that be so hard to see?<br /><br />In this episode we get into:</p><ul><li>How Dani's rich life is exactly her— but looks nothing like her 20 something self thought it would</li><li>How a near death experience propelled a series of realizations and events that lead to deep fulfilling work and a rich partnership</li></ul><p>This episode will resonate if:</p><ul><li>You find yourself itching for big change in life but can't "make sense" of that change</li><li>You can't figure out why the same patterns keep presenting in your life</li><li>You feel behind in your 30s and are hungry for stories that reflect women coming to life in their late 30s and early 40s</li></ul><p><a href="https://www.daniellebeinstein.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Dani's Website</a><br /><a href="https://www.daniellebeinstein.com/book-a-reading-danielle-beinstein" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Book a Session w/ Dani</a><br /><a href="https://www.daniellebeinstein.com/offerings-danielle-beinstein" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Deeper Coaching Work w/ Dani</a><br /><a href="https://www.trulyconnectedtravel.com/costa-rica-retreat" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Dani's Retreat</a><br /><a href="https://www.instagram.com/danibeinstein/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Follow Dani on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no01:05:09Episode 54: Dani Beinstein on what we desire versus what we actually need.full<![CDATA[The exact advice you need when you're tired, frustrated and feel like nothing is advancing in your life | Ep 134]]>March was a rough month for me. I found myself fighting the tail end of sleep training with Jude, my son. I was in a constant state of frustration around all I "wasn't" getting done. My husband and I were bickering like mad. 

I felt like everyday I was on a treadmill headed nowhere— and not advancing anywhere— but I was still sprinting. Constantly. I couldn't shut down.

I was lucky to have my dear friend and wise sage Catherine Zack by my side. Her heartfelt guidance was so good, I decided to turn it into a podcast episode.

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]]>Buzzsprout-16933978Tue, 15 Apr 2025 07:00:00 GMT<p>March was a rough month for me. I found myself fighting the tail end of sleep training with Jude, my son. I was in a constant state of frustration around all I "wasn't" getting done. My husband and I were bickering like mad. </p><p>I felt like everyday I was on a treadmill headed nowhere— and not advancing anywhere— but I was still sprinting. Constantly. I couldn't shut down.</p><p>I was lucky to have my dear friend and wise sage <a href="https://www.instagram.com/cathzack/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Catherine Zack</a> by my side. Her heartfelt guidance was so good, I decided to turn it into a podcast episode.</p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no01:12:08The exact advice you need when you're tired, frustrated and feel like nothing is advancing in your life | Ep 134full<![CDATA[On bringing back the genuine fun, whimsy and romance of dating (seriously) | Ep 162]]>Register for my March 29th Masterclass: For the High-Achiever Who Struggles in Dating

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Like many of you, I've been completely obsessed with Love Story, the dramatized JFK Jr. and Carolyn Bessette series. Along with making me want to revamp my entire wardrobe, rock a red lip, drill a land line into our wall, it's also completely lit up my intimacy with my husband ; ).

I've had to ask: What is that about?

In this episode, I'm unpacking that question — because I think you're hungry for it too. We've optimized, predicted, and controlled our dating lives so thoroughly that we've sterilized them. No feeling. No aliveness. No beautiful, terrifying uncertainty.

So today I'm walking you through three concrete ways to bring some of that back — without throwing your phone in the garbage. It starts with sending the bolder message, saying something out loud to a stranger, and finding one place in your life where you let go of the outcome entirely.

This one is a little bit of a manifesto. I hope it lights something up for you.

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]]>Buzzsprout-18900357Wed, 25 Mar 2026 07:00:00 GMT<p><a href="https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/w2lJU_nrTZSOqR4ERfS8AA" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow"><b>Register for my March 29th Masterclass: For the High-Achiever Who Struggles in Dating</b></a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow"><b>Work with Me Privately</b></a></p><p>Like many of you, I've been completely obsessed with <em>Love Story, </em>the dramatized JFK Jr. and Carolyn Bessette series. Along with making me want to revamp my entire wardrobe, rock a red lip, drill a land line into our wall, it's also completely lit up my intimacy with my husband ; ).</p><p>I've had to ask: What <em>is</em> that about?</p><p>In this episode, I'm unpacking that question — because I think you're hungry for it too. We've optimized, predicted, and controlled our dating lives so thoroughly that we've sterilized them. No feeling. No aliveness. No beautiful, terrifying uncertainty.<br /><br />So today I'm walking you through three concrete ways to bring some of that back — without throwing your phone in the garbage. It starts with sending the bolder message, saying something out loud to a stranger, and finding one place in your life where you let go of the outcome entirely.<br /><br />This one is a little bit of a manifesto. I hope it lights something up for you.</p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:29:08On bringing back the genuine fun, whimsy and romance of dating (seriously) | Ep 162full<![CDATA[On the ups and downs of dating, and now, a new, blooming relationship post-major breakup | Ep 157]]>Nearly four years ago, my friend and colleague, Diana Davis, went through a life-altering breakup. She and her then-boyfriend of over six years decided to part ways, with her later learning he'd had an affair during the course of their relationship. You can listen to that episode here.

For the last few years, she's hopped around the globe, living in different spots, dating different people (some good! some not so good!) and getting to know herself. Her work has also evolved, playing a parallel role in the evolution of her relationships. In this episode we discuss:

  • The big dating lessons and shifts that led to her now-blooming relationship
  • How burning out with her business correlated to changes in how she was dating
  • The key parallels between our work lives and our romantic lives

To learn more about or work with Diana, check out her website and Instagram.

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]]>Buzzsprout-18656166Wed, 11 Feb 2026 22:00:00 GMT<p>Nearly four years ago, my friend and colleague, Diana Davis, went through a life-altering breakup. She and her then-boyfriend of over six years decided to part ways, with her later learning he'd had an affair during the course of their relationship. <a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/content/episode-43" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">You can listen to that episode here.</a></p><p>For the last few years, she's hopped around the globe, living in different spots, dating different people (some good! some not so good!) and getting to know herself. Her work has also evolved, playing a parallel role in the evolution of her relationships. In this episode we discuss:</p><ul><li>The big dating lessons and shifts that led to her now-blooming relationship</li><li>How burning out with her business correlated to changes in how she was dating</li><li>The key parallels between our work lives and our romantic lives</li></ul><p>To learn more about or work with <a href="https://www.dianadaviscreative.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Diana</a>, check out her website and <a href="https://www.instagram.com/dianadaviscreative/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Instagram</a>.</p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/work-with-me" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Private coaching spots are open.</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no01:03:56On the ups and downs of dating, and now, a new, blooming relationship post-major breakup | Ep 157full<![CDATA[The thing(s) we miss when we're stuck in feelings of "I'm behind..." | Ep 147]]>The fear of running out of time or feeling behind (of peers, friends, societal perceptions) is valid, to be sure. But our focus on that feeling blinds us from what's actually there, i.e. what we actually need to address, feel, process, confront, work on, in order to change the direction and future of our romantic lives. 

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]]>Buzzsprout-18218347Fri, 21 Nov 2025 11:00:00 GMT<p>The fear of running out of time or feeling behind (of peers, friends, societal perceptions) is valid, to be sure. But our focus on that feeling blinds us from what's actually there, i.e. what we actually need to address, feel, process, confront, work on, in order to change the direction and future of our romantic lives. </p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:15:03The thing(s) we miss when we're stuck in feelings of "I'm behind..." | Ep 147full<![CDATA[If you want something new (the new job, the new partner), you're going to have to let something go| Ep 130]]>Private coaching spaces are open.

When we want to acquire something new, be it a new job, a new relationship, a new home, a new life experience, we tend to think of it as additive. We add items to our to do list, write down goals, consider how we want to do things differently.

But I find considering what we need to let go of —  be that a person, a way of being, a pattern, a way we VIEW ourselves, a desired outcome — to make space for the new thing even more crucial. It's in the letting go and shedding that we're forced to get *most* uncomfortable. 

"Your new life is going to cost you your old one. It's going to cost you your comfort zone and your sense of direction." Brianna Wiest

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]]>Buzzsprout-16599276Tue, 11 Feb 2025 08:00:00 GMT<p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/work-with-me" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Private coaching spaces are open.</a></p><p>When we want to acquire something new, be it a new job, a new relationship, a new home, a new life experience, we tend to think of it as additive. We add items to our to do list, write down goals, consider how we want to do things differently.</p><p>But I find considering what we need to let go of —  be that a person, a way of being, a pattern, a way we VIEW ourselves, a desired outcome — to make space for the new thing even more crucial. It's in the letting go and shedding that we're forced to get *most* uncomfortable. </p><p>"Your new life is going to cost you your old one. It's going to cost you your comfort zone and your sense of direction." Brianna Wiest</p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:36:03If you want something new (the new job, the new partner), you're going to have to let something go| Ep 130full<![CDATA[*Podcast Update* What's coming, where I've been, new courses, my maternity leave, etc.]]>Hello friends — it's been a minute since we've had a new episode! I'm popping in here with some updates to the podcast, my coursework, new coaching services coming and more as I prepare for my maternity leave.

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New course structure
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]]>Buzzsprout-15926386Mon, 14 Oct 2024 22:00:00 GMT<p>Hello friends — it's been a minute since we've had a new episode! I'm popping in here with some updates to the podcast, my coursework, new coaching services coming and more as I prepare for my maternity leave.<br /><br />Links mentioned in this episode:<br /><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/courses" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">New course structure</a><br /><a href="https://claraartschwager.substack.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">My Substack</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:23:21*Podcast Update* What's coming, where I've been, new courses, my maternity leave, etc.full<![CDATA[You're going to have to f*ck up a lot in your dating + relationship life | Ep 110]]>Private Coaching Spots are Open

"Dating apps have brought the promise of the business-like crispness of falling in love." Sherry Turkle

If you know my work, you know I live for this line. It's shown up in my podcasts and online courses for years. Why? Because it so eloquently hits on the faulty promise we've attached to these tools, and the subsequent hardships we endure (largely the way we obsess and punish ourselves) because our dating life or relationship future isn't falling together in a linear, succinct fashion.

We're wracked with questions of:

  • Should I stay? Should I go?
  • What does this mean?
  • Who is this person?

Versus being able to be with the lived human experience of it all.

If you're someone who....

  • Struggles with the inability to control your dating or romantic future
  • Feels anxious or frustrated in the throes of getting to know someone
  • Can't really stay present to the current experience, but instead is so focused on the future
  • Feels tremendous guilt and shame when things don't work out the way you wished they had, or thought they should

....you will benefit tremendously from today's episode.

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]]>Buzzsprout-15162808Thu, 30 May 2024 12:00:00 GMT<p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/work-with-me" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Private Coaching Spots are Open</a><br /><br />"Dating apps have brought the promise of the business-like crispness of falling in love." Sherry Turkle<br /><br />If you know my work, you know I <em>live</em> for this line. It's shown up in my podcasts and online courses for years. Why? Because it so eloquently hits on the faulty promise we've attached to these tools, and the subsequent hardships we endure (largely the way we obsess and punish ourselves) because our dating life or relationship future isn't falling together in a linear, succinct fashion.<br /><br />We're wracked with questions of:</p><ul><li>Should I stay? Should I go?</li><li>What does this mean?</li><li>Who is this person?</li></ul><p>Versus being able to be with the lived human experience of it all.<br /><br />If you're someone who....</p><ul><li>Struggles with the inability to control your dating or romantic future</li><li>Feels anxious or frustrated in the throes of getting to know someone</li><li>Can't really stay present to the current experience, but instead is so focused on the future</li><li>Feels tremendous guilt and shame when things don't work out the way you wished they had, or thought they should</li></ul><p>....you will benefit tremendously from today's episode.</p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:24:40You're going to have to f*ck up a lot in your dating + relationship life | Ep 110full<![CDATA[What do I do when I like someone and I'm not sure if they like me back? | Ep 103]]>Work w/ Me
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This week we are revisiting the grey area of dating — that sticky, stressful space where we're dating someone and we're not sure if they like us back.  I've written and spoken about this previously before:
Episode 22
Blog post: How to Survive the Grey Area of Dating

This episode will resonate if you:

  • Are in the midst of getting to know someone and struggling to handle not knowing where things are going
  • Feel like your anxiety is at an all time high, over fear of things not working out the way you want
  • Are overanalyzing every single text, move and exchange with this person, trying to decipher what's going to happen
  • Tend to expend a lot of energy (mostly worry) at this point in the dating process
  • Resist dating overall because you can't manage this part of the process

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]]>Buzzsprout-14849779Tue, 09 Apr 2024 07:00:00 GMT<p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/work-with-me" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work w/ Me</a><br /><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/sanity" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Sneak peek my next program launch</a><br /><a href="https://view.flodesk.com/pages/6255906169d304440734a7ad" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Get on my email list</a><br /><br />This week we are revisiting the grey area of dating — that sticky, stressful space where we're dating someone and we're not sure if they like us back.  I've written and spoken about this previously before:<br /><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/content/episode-22" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Episode 22</a><br /><a href="https://thestripe.com/how-to-survive-the-grey-area-of-dating/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Blog post: How to Survive the Grey Area of Dating</a><br /><br />This episode will resonate if you:</p><ul><li>Are in the midst of getting to know someone and struggling to handle not knowing where things are going</li><li>Feel like your anxiety is at an all time high, over fear of things not working out the way you want</li><li>Are overanalyzing every single text, move and exchange with this person, trying to decipher what's going to happen</li><li>Tend to expend a lot of energy (mostly worry) at this point in the dating process</li><li>Resist dating overall because you can't manage this part of the process</li></ul><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:32:46What do I do when I like someone and I'm not sure if they like me back? | Ep 103full<![CDATA[I think this is such a cool thing to put in your dating profile. | Ep 94]]>In today's short episode, I'm sharing something I love to have my clients add to their dating profiles to mix up the monotony.

This episode will resonate if:

  • You're feeling blah about your profile and limited by your photo options
  • You struggle to make your profile feel like you
  • You find dating apps kind of miserable and could use a playful activity to shift up the energy
  • You're down for out of the box thinking when it comes to dating

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]]>Buzzsprout-14443522Fri, 09 Feb 2024 11:00:00 GMT<p>In today's short episode, I'm sharing something I love to have my clients add to their dating profiles to mix up the monotony.<br /><br />This episode will resonate if:</p><ul><li>You're feeling blah about your profile and limited by your photo options</li><li>You struggle to make your profile feel like <em>you</em></li><li>You find dating apps kind of miserable and could use a playful activity to shift up the energy</li><li>You're down for out of the box thinking when it comes to dating</li></ul><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:11:05I think this is such a cool thing to put in your dating profile. | Ep 94full<![CDATA[The holidays are effing hard, a casual chat w/ my husband James | Ep 85]]>A fun episode for your holiday travels or time in the kitchen. xx Clara

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]]>Buzzsprout-13998045Sun, 19 Nov 2023 15:00:00 GMT<p>A fun episode for your holiday travels or time in the kitchen. xx Clara</p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:43:35The holidays are effing hard, a casual chat w/ my husband James | Ep 85full<![CDATA[*Fall Teaser* Here's what's coming in Sept! 🍁🍁🍁]]>A short preview of what's coming this fall.

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]]>Buzzsprout-13512549Fri, 01 Sep 2023 17:00:00 GMT<p>A short preview of what's coming this fall.</p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:06:54*Fall Teaser* Here's what's coming in Sept! 🍁🍁🍁full<![CDATA[The practice that is *actually* helping w/ my sex life (and so much more) w/ Ishtara Founder, Tracy Harward | Ep 70]]>I've spent the past decade trying everything from traditional sex therapy to "yoni massage," (yes, that's a thing), to bring more pleasure and freedom not just into my sexual experience, but my body.  Nothing has been as transformative as Ishtara. Join me for an intimate conversation with the founder to learn more about the practice, her story (what brought her to this work), and how it's played such an integral role in my own healing.

Join me for a retreat in the Hudson Valley!
~2 spots left~
September 12th to the 16th
Set in a gorgeous Nancy Meyer's-esque house, fit with a gourmet kitchen + pool
We'll write, rest, swim, do some yoga, laugh, play, eat the most delicious local food
(Registration closes 8/1/2023)

Other podcasts mentioned in this episode:
What a Real Sexual Journey Looks Like
When You Feel Like You've Done All " the Work," and the Relationship Still Hasn't Happened



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]]>Buzzsprout-13244726Tue, 18 Jul 2023 22:00:00 GMT<p>I've spent the past decade trying everything from traditional sex therapy to "yoni massage," (yes, that's a thing), to bring more pleasure and freedom not just into my sexual experience, but my body.  Nothing has been as transformative as <a href="https://www.ishtarabody.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Ishtara. </a>Join me for an intimate conversation with the founder to learn more about the practice, her story (what brought her to this work), and how it's played such an integral role in my own healing.<br /><br /><a href="https://www.catherinezack.com/retreat" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Join me for a retreat in the Hudson Valley!<br />~2 spots left~<br /></a>September 12th to the 16th<br />Set in a gorgeous Nancy Meyer's-esque house, fit with a gourmet kitchen + pool<br />We'll write, rest, swim, do some yoga, laugh, play, eat the most delicious local food<br />(Registration closes 8/1/2023)<br /><br />Other podcasts mentioned in this episode:<br /><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/content/episode-50" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">What a Real Sexual Journey Looks Like</a><br /><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/content/episode-40" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">When You Feel Like You've Done All " the Work," and the Relationship Still Hasn't Happened</a><br /><br /><br /><br /></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no01:12:38The practice that is *actually* helping w/ my sex life (and so much more) w/ Ishtara Founder, Tracy Harward | Ep 70full<![CDATA[Episode 61 (Bonus!) *Special Announcement*]]>Register for I Think I Like You the course, here.

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]]>Buzzsprout-12890594Sun, 21 May 2023 20:00:00 GMT<p><a href="https://courses.ithinkilikeyou.co/course/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Register for I Think I Like You the course, here.</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:15:27Episode 61 (Bonus!) *Special Announcement*full<![CDATA[Episode: 57: On letting go of the ones who can't give you all you need.]]>
  • Why it's so hard to let go of these almost there connections
  • What we fear slipping back into if we let someone go
  • How the hanging on hinders are long term pursuit of partnership 
  • And how, when you're ready, to go about releasing ties
This episode will resonate with anyone who's either struggling to let go of a situation-ship, questioning whether they should break up with someone or not, or seeking general clarity on how to shift the nature of their dating life.

Retreat details:
Retreat Dates

September 13th— 16th, 2023 (With the option to arrive September 12th, you'll have free access to the property)

Retreat Details

Intentionally set around the Fall Equinox and on the heels of summer (Though we're hoping for some warm days! That pool!), this retreat is dedicated to a remembrance of self. Who are you? Who do you hunger to be? Where is she in the midst of all of that? 

Our days will consist of locally inspired meals, yoga sessions led by Catherine, writing practices led by Clara, but most of all—space. Space to connect, space to be, space to see the hungers, truths and desires seated inside of you reflected in another. Prepare to walk away inspired and awakened.

9/12 + 9/13 Guest arrival, welcome dinner and ceremony

9/14 Full retreat day

9/15 Full retreat day

9/16 Leisurely brunch, closing ceremony

Rooms + Pricing: (includes all retreat programming, food & beverages during retreat stay)
Private Cottage (king bed, en suite bathroom, private patio) - $3,800.00
King Bedroom, with en suite - $3,700.00 
King Room, shared bathroom - $3,500.00 (SOLD OUT)
Queen room #1, shared bathroom - $3,500.00 (SOLD OUT)
Queen room #2, shared bathroom - $3,500.00 
Full bed, shared bath - $3,350
Twin bed #1 in shared room, shared bath - $3,250.00
Twin bed #1 in shared room, shared bath - $3,250.00

We only have space left for 6 wonderful women. The intimate nature of this retreat is intentional and designed to do deep work together. Your next step to join us? Simply hit reply to request your room. You can secure your spot with a $500.00 nonrefundable deposit.

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]]>Buzzsprout-12713358Tue, 25 Apr 2023 11:00:00 GMTWhy do we love to obsess over men who are nice, fun, kind, maybe there's a lot on paper that's just so damn good— and yet it just isn't fully there.  I know that dance and I know it well.  In follow up to Tuesday's ep from two weeks back all about my journey with emotionally unavailable men, this week I'm digging into:<br /><br /><ul><li>Why it's so hard to let go of these almost there connections</li><li>What we fear slipping back into if we let someone go</li><li>How the hanging on hinders are long term pursuit of partnership </li><li>And how, when you're ready, to go about releasing ties</li></ul>This episode will resonate with anyone who's either struggling to let go of a situation-ship, questioning whether they should break up with someone or not, or seeking general clarity on how to shift the nature of their dating life.<br /><br /><ul><li><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/content/episode-55" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Episode 55: My history w/ emotionally unavailable men.</a></li><li><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/content/episode-46" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Interview w/ Catherine Zack, my retreat cohost</a></li><li><a href="https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZEsdO2gqDouEtIuB6HPHYKaZtpImXpV1HTn" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Register for The Conscious Dater Launch Event (access exclusive discounts) | 3 pm EST May 15th, 2023</a></li></ul>Retreat details:<br /><strong>Retreat Dates<br /></strong><br />September 13th— 16th, 2023 (With the option to arrive September 12th, you'll have free access to the property)<br /><br /><strong>Retreat Details<br /></strong><br />Intentionally set around the Fall Equinox and on the heels of summer (Though we're hoping for some warm days! That pool!), this retreat is dedicated to a remembrance of self. Who are you? Who do you hunger to be? Where is she in the midst of all of that? <br /><br />Our days will consist of locally inspired meals, yoga sessions led by Catherine, writing practices led by Clara, but most of all—space. Space to connect, space to be, space to see the hungers, truths and desires seated inside of you reflected in another. Prepare to walk away inspired and awakened.<br /><br />9/12 + 9/13 Guest arrival, welcome dinner and ceremony<br /><br />9/14 Full retreat day<br /><br />9/15 Full retreat day<br /><br />9/16 Leisurely brunch, closing ceremony<br /><br /><strong>Rooms + Pricing: (includes all retreat programming, food &amp; beverages during retreat stay)</strong><br />Private Cottage (king bed, en suite bathroom, private patio) - $3,800.00<br />King Bedroom, with en suite - $3,700.00 <br />King Room, shared bathroom - $3,500.00 (SOLD OUT)<br />Queen room #1, shared bathroom - $3,500.00 (SOLD OUT)<br />Queen room #2, shared bathroom - $3,500.00 <br />Full bed, shared bath - $3,350<br />Twin bed #1 in shared room, shared bath - $3,250.00<br />Twin bed #1 in shared room, shared bath - $3,250.00<br /><br />We only have space left for 6 wonderful women. The intimate nature of this retreat is intentional and designed to do deep work together. Your next step to join us? Simply hit reply to request your room. You can secure your spot with a $500.00 nonrefundable deposit.<br /><br /><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:40:43Episode: 57: On letting go of the ones who can't give you all you need.full<![CDATA[Episode 56: I Never Had a Honeymoon Phase & Busting Other Myths About Marriage]]>Where do you share your deepest truths? Where are you able to breathe life into the things you feel but are afraid to utter? When my retreat co-captain, Catherine Zack and I, were discussing, "How do we explain to people what this retreat is about? What it's meant for?" we realized we had to bring it life by having our own deep, revealing, heart-felt conversations. So for our first one, we're digging into my experience in marriage. Namely, a lot of the over-romanticizing I didn't experience, but the beauty I did instead.

Here are the retreat details. DM me or drop an email (hello@ithinkilikeyou.co) to grab one of the remaining spots!

Retreat Dates

September 13th— 16th, 2023 (With the option to arrive September 12th, you'll have free access to the property)

Retreat Details

Intentionally set around the Fall Equinox and on the heels of summer (Though we're hoping for some warm days! That pool!), this retreat is dedicated to a remembrance of self. Who are you? Who do you hunger to be? Where is she in the midst of all of that? 

Our days will consist of locally inspired meals, yoga sessions led by Catherine, writing practices led by Clara, but most of all—space. Space to connect, space to be, space to see the hungers, truths and desires seated inside of you reflected in another. Prepare to walk away inspired and awakened.

9/12 + 9/13 Guest arrival, welcome dinner and ceremony

9/14 Full retreat day

9/15 Full retreat day

9/16 Leisurely brunch, closing ceremony

Rooms + Pricing: (includes all retreat programming, food & beverages during retreat stay)
Private Cottage (king bed, en suite bathroom, private patio) - $3,800.00
King Bedroom, with en suite - $3,700.00 
King Room, shared bathroom - $3,500.00 (SOLD OUT)
Queen room #1, shared bathroom - $3,500.00 (SOLD OUT)
Queen room #2, shared bathroom - $3,500.00 
Full bed, shared bath - $3,350
Twin bed #1 in shared room, shared bath - $3,250.00
Twin bed #1 in shared room, shared bath - $3,250.00

We only have space for 8 wonderful women. The intimate nature of this retreat is intentional and designed to do deep work together. Your next step to join us? Simply hit reply to request your room. You can secure your spot with a $500.00 nonrefundable deposit.

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]]>Buzzsprout-12673470Tue, 18 Apr 2023 11:00:00 GMT<p>Where do you share your deepest truths? Where are you able to breathe life into the things you feel but are afraid to utter? When my retreat co-captain, <a href="https://www.catherinezack.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Catherine Zack</a> and I, were discussing, "How do we explain to people what this retreat is about? What it's meant for?" we realized we had to bring it life by having our own deep, revealing, heart-felt conversations. So for our first one, we're digging into my experience in marriage. Namely, a lot of the over-romanticizing I didn't experience, but the beauty I did instead.<br /><br />Here are the retreat details. <a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">DM</a> me or drop an email (hello@ithinkilikeyou.co) to grab one of the remaining spots!<br /><br /><b>Retreat Dates</b></p><p>September 13th— 16th, 2023 (With the option to arrive September 12th, you'll have free access to the property)</p><p><b>Retreat Details</b></p><p>Intentionally set around the Fall Equinox and on the heels of summer (Though we're hoping for some warm days! That pool!), this retreat is dedicated to a remembrance of self. Who are you? Who do you hunger to be? Where is she in the midst of all of that? </p><p>Our days will consist of locally inspired meals, yoga sessions led by Catherine, writing practices led by Clara, but most of all—space. Space to connect, space to be, space to see the hungers, truths and desires seated inside of you reflected in another. Prepare to walk away inspired and awakened.</p><p>9/12 + 9/13 Guest arrival, welcome dinner and ceremony</p><p>9/14 Full retreat day</p><p>9/15 Full retreat day</p><p>9/16 Leisurely brunch, closing ceremony</p><p><b>Rooms + Pricing: (includes all retreat programming, food &amp; beverages during retreat stay)</b><br />Private Cottage (king bed, en suite bathroom, private patio) - $3,800.00<br />King Bedroom, with en suite - $3,700.00 <br />King Room, shared bathroom - $3,500.00 (SOLD OUT)<br />Queen room #1, shared bathroom - $3,500.00 (SOLD OUT)<br />Queen room #2, shared bathroom - $3,500.00 <br />Full bed, shared bath - $3,350<br />Twin bed #1 in shared room, shared bath - $3,250.00<br />Twin bed #1 in shared room, shared bath - $3,250.00<br /><br />We only have space for 8 wonderful women. The intimate nature of this retreat is intentional and designed to do deep work together. Your next step to join us? Simply hit reply to request your room. You can secure your spot with a $500.00 nonrefundable deposit.</p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:59:13Episode 56: I Never Had a Honeymoon Phase & Busting Other Myths About Marriagefull<![CDATA[Episode 53: How achievement does not lead to fulfillment and so much more w/ Megan Hellerer]]>This conversation with brilliant career coach Megan Hellerer was so rich, I found myself having to hold back from scribbling notes whilst recording.  Megan specializes in helping under-fulfilled overachievers build work and lives that are deeply aligned. In this episode she takes us behind the scenes of her own story and journey which is rife with so much wisdom!

In this episode we get into:

  • The way something can get hard before it gets better—and how that's ok
  • The power of following our curiosity
  • Megan's signature approach of directional living versus destinational living (it's going to feel like a breath of fresh air)
  • How Megan spent significant time doing the inner work— but little time actually dating, and subsequently met her life partner very quickly

This episode will resonate with anyone who:

  • Feels unfulfilled in some area of their life— be it dating, career, etc.— and aren't sure what to change or what direction to move in
  • Feel overwhelmed with change— the options and knowing the "right," one are too overwhelming
  • Subscribes heavily to the dating is a numbers game mentality, but it hasn't lead to the relationship they want
  • Is a token box checker— you do all the "right" things! But none of it feels good.


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]]>Buzzsprout-12495652Tue, 28 Mar 2023 07:00:00 GMT<p>This conversation with brilliant career coach Megan Hellerer was so rich, I found myself having to hold back from scribbling notes whilst recording.  Megan specializes in helping under-fulfilled overachievers build work and lives that are deeply aligned. In this episode she takes us behind the scenes of her own story and journey which is rife with so much wisdom!<br /><br />In this episode we get into:</p><ul><li>The way something can get hard before it gets better—and how that's ok</li><li>The power of following our curiosity</li><li>Megan's signature approach of directional living versus destinational living (it's going to feel like a breath of fresh air)</li><li>How Megan spent significant time doing the inner work— but little time actually dating, and subsequently met her life partner very quickly</li></ul><p>This episode will resonate with anyone who:</p><ul><li>Feels unfulfilled in some area of their life— be it dating, career, etc.— and aren't sure what to change or what direction to move in</li><li>Feel overwhelmed with change— the options and knowing the "right," one are too overwhelming</li><li>Subscribes heavily to the dating is a numbers game mentality, but it hasn't lead to the relationship they want</li><li>Is a token box checker— you do all the "right" things! But none of it feels good.</li></ul><p><br /><a href="https://view.flodesk.com/pages/640a182db83f7f2f30b80775" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Free Download: Get My 3-Step Ritual For When You Feel Behind in Life<br /></a><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Register for the Retreat: Shoot Me A DM<br /></a><br /><a href="https://meganhellerer.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Megan's Website</a><br /><a href="https://meganhellerer.com/wtf/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Megan's Online Course: WFT Am I Doing with My Life?</a><br /><a href="https://www.thecut.com/2019/10/megan-hellerer-career-life-coach.html" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Megan's Interview in The Cut</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no01:25:54Episode 53: How achievement does not lead to fulfillment and so much more w/ Megan Hellererfull<![CDATA[Episode 50: What a real sexual journey looks like (opening up about mine).]]>Why do I still have to work on this sh*t in myself?

This is a question I face often in session. But without a doubt, most certainly, to a T, in myself.  In this episode, I go into great detail around one of the greatest areas of work in my life— my sexuality. This entails my relationship with my partners, my own sexual pleasure and the dynamic with my partners. It has not been a straight and narrow road. 

This episode will resonate with anyone who:

  • Is exhausted by the process of "working on themselves"
  • Feels like they've tried so many resources, therapists, coaches, gurus to resolve something in themselves and nothing has been "resolved."
  • Has struggled with their sexuality— feeling sexy, feeling comfortable in their own skin, feeling connected to their body feeling confident in the bedroom
  • Related content: On not making 'the work' a competitive sport.

Link to Class: Ishtara

Related episodes:
Episode 40: When You Feel Like You've Done All the Work, But the Relationship Hasn't Happened.
Episode 24: It's comfortable being single. Is dating worth disrupting my life?






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]]>Buzzsprout-12291538Tue, 28 Feb 2023 08:00:00 GMT<p><em>Why do I still have to work on this sh*t in myself?<br /></em><br />This is a question I face often in session. But without a doubt, most certainly, to a T, in myself.  In this episode, I go into great detail around one of the greatest areas of work in my life— my sexuality. This entails my relationship with my partners, my own sexual pleasure and the dynamic with my partners. It has not been a straight and narrow road. <br /><br />This episode will resonate with anyone who:</p><ul><li>Is exhausted by the process of "working on themselves"</li><li>Feels like they've tried so many resources, therapists, coaches, gurus to resolve something in themselves and nothing has been "resolved."</li><li>Has struggled with their sexuality— feeling sexy, feeling comfortable in their own skin, feeling connected to their body feeling confident in the bedroom</li><li>Related content: <a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/content/onnotmakingtheworkacompetitivesport" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">On not making 'the work' a competitive sport.</a></li></ul><p>Link to Class: <a href="https://www.ishtarabody.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Ishtara</a><br /><br />Related episodes:<br /><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/content/episode-40" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Episode 40: When You Feel Like You've Done All the Work, But the Relationship Hasn't Happened.</a><br /><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/content/episode-24" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Episode 24: It's comfortable being single. Is dating worth disrupting my life?<br /></a><br /></p><p><br /><br /></p><p><br /><br /><br /></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:49:09Episode 50: What a real sexual journey looks like (opening up about mine).full<![CDATA[Episode 36: A quick thought on ghosting (i.e. what do when someone does it)]]>A client recently informed me of something she did when a guy ghosted her after a first date and I had to share it here. I thought the tactic was so brilliant, and really helpful in processing those feelings of frustration and disappointment.

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]]>Buzzsprout-11799363Sun, 04 Dec 2022 13:00:00 GMT<p>A client recently informed me of something she did when a guy ghosted her after a first date and I had to share it here. I thought the tactic was so brilliant, and really helpful in processing those feelings of frustration and disappointment.<br /><br /><a href="https://view.flodesk.com/pages/636feacd81bc8568aa6e6bd9" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">The January 2023 Program--&gt; Get on the list!</a><br /><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Follow I Think I Like You on Instagram</a><br /><a href="https://view.flodesk.com/pages/6255906169d304440734a7ad" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Subscribe to the Newsletter</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:09:19Episode 36: A quick thought on ghosting (i.e. what do when someone does it)full<![CDATA[Episode 29: On the tendency to mute ourselves when we're around someone we like.]]>"Just be yourself!" has got to be one of the most grating phrases known to mankind.  At least it is to me. And not just grating, but wildly unproductive.

Recently a listener DM'ed me with the following: I clam up when I don’t want a guy to think I’m interested.

The muting then left her feeling hollow and uninspired. What gives? Why do we do this?

In this episode we explore:

  • The roots of these edited versions of ourselves, be they a type of muting or some other performance
  • Why we tend to turn 'on' these version of ourselves when we're around someone we like
  • How we can work to dismantle these behaviors and settle more into ourself

This episode will resonate if:

  • You struggle to "Be yourself" slash question even what your "true self" is
  • You tend to clam up, feel awkward or become anxious around someone you're into
  • You've historically struggled with codependency, enmeshment and other tangled behaviors

I Think I Like You The Group (!), DM me if you're interested. 

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]]>Buzzsprout-11435427Tue, 04 Oct 2022 12:00:00 GMT<p>"Just be yourself!" has got to be one of the most grating phrases known to mankind.  At least it is to me. And not just grating, but wildly unproductive.<br /><br />Recently a listener DM'ed me with the following: <em>I clam up when I don’t want a guy to think I’m interested.<br /><br /></em>The muting then left her feeling hollow and uninspired. What gives? Why do we do this?<br /><br />In this episode we explore:</p><ul><li>The roots of these edited versions of ourselves, be they a type of muting or some other performance</li><li>Why we tend to turn 'on' these version of ourselves when we're around someone we like</li><li>How we can work to dismantle these behaviors and settle more into ourself</li></ul><p>This episode will resonate if:</p><ul><li>You struggle to "Be yourself" slash question even what your "true self" is</li><li>You tend to clam up, feel awkward or become anxious around someone you're into</li><li>You've historically struggled with codependency, enmeshment and other tangled behaviors</li></ul><p>I Think I Like You The Group (!), <a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">DM me if you're interested. </a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:42:16Episode 29: On the tendency to mute ourselves when we're around someone we like.full<![CDATA[Episode 20: A get to know you with my fiancé James + the story of how we met.]]>In this week's episode of the pod, Clara is joined by her fiancée, James. The two share:

  • James's background and schooling for the 20 years before he met Clara— from working at Applebee's one summer to save up money to move out West to selling digital billboards in Times Square and running trail rides in the Catskills
  • How they met via Hinge and how there was a 6 week gap between their first digital interaction and their first date
  • Where they were both at in their lives when they met and how this clarity made the dating process much easier

You'll dig this episode if: 

  • You're craving real, raw and candid conversation around individuals meeting later in their 30s
  • The pitfalls and benefits of online dating—especially amidst the pandemic—and how we navigated it
  • What our relationship *isn't* giving us, and why/how it can't give us everything

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]]>Buzzsprout-11129199Tue, 16 Aug 2022 10:00:00 GMT<p>In this week's episode of the pod, Clara is joined by her fiancée, James. The two share:</p><ul><li>James's background and schooling for the 20 years before he met Clara— from working at Applebee's one summer to save up money to move out West to selling digital billboards in Times Square and running trail rides in the Catskills</li><li>How they met via Hinge and how there was a 6 week gap between their first digital interaction and their first date</li><li>Where they were both at in their lives when they met and how this clarity made the dating process much easier</li></ul><p>You'll dig this episode if: </p><ul><li>You're craving real, raw and candid conversation around individuals meeting later in their 30s</li><li>The pitfalls and benefits of online dating—especially amidst the pandemic—and how we navigated it</li><li>What our relationship *isn't* giving us, and why/how it can't give us everything</li></ul><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no01:07:43Episode 20: A get to know you with my fiancé James + the story of how we met.full<![CDATA[Episode 17: On our obsession with healing.]]>Blocks, rewiring our subconscious, healing childhood wounds....are we all just too obsessed with fixing all this stuff? And is the fixation on fixing, just leading us to perpetuate the belief that we're broken?

 That's where I'm digging in this week. I discuss the larger conundrum around personal development work and the self help industry (while also actively participating in it) and how to answer more of these existential questions for ourselves.

Links mentioned:
Forever35 Episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/episode-229-interrogating-beauty-culture-with-jessica/id1329229319?i=1000570564190

Jessica DeFino: https://www.instagram.com/jessicadefino_/?hl=en

Solutionism: https://www.macmillandictionary.com/us/buzzword/entries/solutionism.html

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]]>Buzzsprout-11035981Wed, 27 Jul 2022 12:00:00 GMT<p>Blocks, rewiring our subconscious, healing childhood wounds....are we all just too obsessed with fixing all this stuff? And is the fixation on fixing, just leading us to perpetuate the belief that we're broken?<br /><br /> That's where I'm digging in this week. I discuss the larger conundrum around personal development work and the self help industry (while also actively participating in it) and how to answer more of these existential questions for ourselves.<br /><br />Links mentioned:<br />Forever35 Episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/episode-229-interrogating-beauty-culture-with-jessica/id1329229319?i=1000570564190<br /><br />Jessica DeFino: https://www.instagram.com/jessicadefino_/?hl=en<br /><br />Solutionism: https://www.macmillandictionary.com/us/buzzword/entries/solutionism.html<br /><br />https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/<br /><br /></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:41:35Episode 17: On our obsession with healing.full<![CDATA[Why You Can't Meet People In Person (It's Not What You Think) | Ep 170]]>If you've ever said "I never meet anyone," "I'm not brave enough to approach someone," or "dating apps just don't work for me" — this episode is going to reframe everything.

Dating coach Clara Artschwager gets personal about the real reason meeting people in person feels impossible: it's not a strategy problem. It's an identity problem — rooted in early experiences of desire, rejection, and shame that most of us have never fully examined.

In this episode, Clara walks you through:

  • Why AI dating tools and app shortcuts are making your love life harder, not easier
  • The childhood and adolescent moments that quietly shaped your beliefs about desire and desirability
  • How your sense of identity determines what you believe you're allowed to experience in love
  • A powerful self-reflection exercise to reconnect with the younger version of you who shut down around intimacy
  • Why meeting people in person is one of the most effective ways to rewire deep-seated beliefs about relationships

Whether you're burned out on dating apps, struggling to put yourself out there, or just feel like something invisible is keeping you stuck — this episode gets to the root of it.

Part two of a series on meeting people in person and building real-world dating skills.

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]]>Buzzsprout-19283222Wed, 03 Jun 2026 16:00:00 GMT<p>If you've ever said "I never meet anyone," "I'm not brave enough to approach someone," or "dating apps just don't work for me" — this episode is going to reframe everything.</p><p>Dating coach Clara Artschwager gets personal about the real reason meeting people in person feels impossible: it's not a strategy problem. It's an identity problem — rooted in early experiences of desire, rejection, and shame that most of us have never fully examined.</p><p>In this episode, Clara walks you through:</p><ul><li>Why AI dating tools and app shortcuts are making your love life harder, not easier</li><li>The childhood and adolescent moments that quietly shaped your beliefs about desire and desirability</li><li>How your sense of identity determines what you believe you're allowed to experience in love</li><li>A powerful self-reflection exercise to reconnect with the younger version of you who shut down around intimacy</li><li>Why meeting people in person is one of the most effective ways to rewire deep-seated beliefs about relationships</li></ul><p>Whether you're burned out on dating apps, struggling to put yourself out there, or just feel like something invisible is keeping you stuck — this episode gets to the root of it.</p><p><em>Part two of a series on meeting people in person and building real-world dating skills.</em></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:22:33Why You Can't Meet People In Person (It's Not What You Think) | Ep 170full<![CDATA[Your Permission Slip to Stop Dating (And What to Do Instead) | Ep 169]]>Dating feels harder than ever — and it's not just you. In this episode, I break down why dating burnout is so widespread right now, what AI dating features are actually doing to your ability to connect, and why the solution has nothing to do with finding the right app. If you're exhausted, disenchanted, or quietly wondering whether you even want to be dating right now, this episode is your permission slip to stop, reset, and approach it completely differently. Plus: my honest summer prescription for single women who are ready to feel like themselves again.

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]]>Buzzsprout-19241965Wed, 27 May 2026 07:00:00 GMT<p>Dating feels harder than ever — and it's not just you. In this episode, I break down why dating burnout is so widespread right now, what AI dating features are actually doing to your ability to connect, and why the solution has nothing to do with finding the right app. If you're exhausted, disenchanted, or quietly wondering whether you even want to be dating right now, this episode is your permission slip to stop, reset, and approach it completely differently. Plus: my honest summer prescription for single women who are ready to feel like themselves again.</p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:43:09Your Permission Slip to Stop Dating (And What to Do Instead) | Ep 169full<![CDATA[I love my friends, but I’m also jealous that they’re married and have kids | Ep 161]]>Register for my March 29th Masterclass: For the High-Achiever Who Struggles in Dating

Here's something I hear a lot from my clients:

"I know this sounds terrible, but it's just really hard to be around my friends with kids right now" —  no, it doesn't sound terrible. It's actually very, very normal.

That's where we're digging in today.

I'm sharing why the impulse to shut down these feelings is actually making things worse, and what it looks like to let them breathe so you can move through them with clarity instead of staying stuck in a loop of comparison and pain.

In this episode, I'm talking about:

  • Why labeling your feelings as "mean" or "wrong" actually works against you
  • How to turn your full emotional landscape — rage, sadness, loneliness, all of it — into real insight
  • Practical ways to honor what you need right now, without blowing up your friendships
  • The question that matters more than "How do I make a relationship happen?"
  • Why suppressing your pain around your friends and your longing for what they have actually makes it worse

I'm also sharing a personal story from my own 30s, when the desire for a family felt like a weight I didn't know how to carry — and what finally helped me move through it.

Your desires deserve to take up space. Let's talk about why you keep making them smaller.

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]]>Buzzsprout-18868038Wed, 18 Mar 2026 14:00:00 GMT<p><a href="https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/w2lJU_nrTZSOqR4ERfS8AA" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow"><b>Register for my March 29th Masterclass: For the High-Achiever Who Struggles in Dating</b></a></p><p>Here's something I hear a lot from my clients:</p><p><em>"I know this sounds terrible, but it's just really hard to be around my friends with kids right now"</em> —  no, it doesn't sound terrible. It's actually very, very normal.</p><p>That's where we're digging in today.</p><p>I'm sharing why the impulse to shut down these feelings is actually making things worse, and what it looks like to let them breathe so you can move through them with clarity instead of staying stuck in a loop of comparison and pain.</p><p>In this episode, I'm talking about:</p><ul><li>Why labeling your feelings as "mean" or "wrong" actually works against you</li><li>How to turn your full emotional landscape — rage, sadness, loneliness, all of it — into real insight</li><li>Practical ways to honor what you need <em>right now</em>, without blowing up your friendships</li><li>The question that matters more than "How do I make a relationship happen?"</li><li>Why suppressing your pain around your friends and your longing for what they have actually makes it worse</li></ul><p>I'm also sharing a personal story from my own 30s, when the desire for a family felt like a weight I didn't know how to carry — and what finally helped me move through it.</p><p>Your desires deserve to take up space. Let's talk about why you keep making them smaller.</p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:33:09I love my friends, but I’m also jealous that they’re married and have kids | Ep 161full<![CDATA[When Everything Starts to Feel Like It Doesn’t Fit (and what to do about it) | Ep 160]]>Ever since I turned 35, my sense of self — who I know myself to be — has undergone a continuing, and in some ways quite rapid, evolution. Now, at 40, it only seems to be moving faster. Asking me bigger questions, pushing me to make bigger changes, and forcing me to stare more directly at all that no longer feels like a fit. From furniture to friendships — which can be scary AF, tbh.

When I came across Anne Benveniste's Substack, and found her writing about things like burning down her entire social life in her late 30s, or getting an MBA simply because she thought it would make her look good, I was hooked. Shortly after, I emailed her and asked if she'd come on the show.

If you're feeling stuck — in any facet of your life — today's episode will be a breath of fresh freaking air. You'll fall in love with Anne and want to follow along with everything she's doing, from her upcoming group course to her weekly tarot pulls and more. You'll walk away with wisdom, insight, and concrete next steps for wherever you feel stuck.

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]]>Buzzsprout-18781570Thu, 05 Mar 2026 21:00:00 GMT<p>Ever since I turned 35, my sense of self — who I know myself to be — has undergone a continuing, and in some ways quite rapid, evolution. Now, at 40, it only seems to be moving faster. Asking me bigger questions, pushing me to make bigger changes, and forcing me to stare more directly at all that no longer feels like a fit. From furniture to friendships — which can be scary AF, tbh.</p><p>When I came across Anne Benveniste's Substack, and found her writing about things like burning down her entire social life in her late 30s, or getting an MBA simply because she thought it would make her look good, I was hooked. Shortly after, I emailed her and asked if she'd come on the show.</p><p>If you're feeling stuck — in any facet of your life — today's episode will be a breath of fresh freaking air. You'll fall in love with Anne and want to follow along with everything she's doing, from her upcoming group course to her weekly tarot pulls and more. You'll walk away with wisdom, insight, and concrete next steps for wherever you feel stuck.</p><p><a href="https://www.annebenveniste.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Anne's Website</a></p><p><a href="https://annebenven.substack.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Anne's Substack</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/singlewomen" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Private coaching spots are open.</a></p><p>If you liked this episode, you might also like:</p><ul><li><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/content/episode-130" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">If you want something new in your job, your career, you're also going to have to let something go.</a></li><li><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/content/episode-114" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">On making, maintaining and letting go of friends in our 30s and 40s.</a></li></ul><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no01:09:18When Everything Starts to Feel Like It Doesn’t Fit (and what to do about it) | Ep 160full<![CDATA[Here's what 2026 is asking of you with psychological astrologer Dani Beinstein | Ep 152]]>Psychological astrologer and general fountain of wisdom, Dani Beinstein returns! 

In this episode we talk about:

  • How the struggles, obstacles and general ways we were all put through the proverbial wringer in 2025 was a "pregame" (Dani's words) of sorts. Dani breaks down the what and why of last year.
  • What 2026 is asking of us and how we can apply this to our lives
  • Dani's and my own current philosophies of the state of romantic relationships (Hint: our expectations of what they'll fulfill are way too high) and ways in which we see people could find more freedom, joy and fulfillment in their relationships

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]]>Buzzsprout-18461236Wed, 07 Jan 2026 08:00:00 GMT<p>Psychological astrologer and general fountain of wisdom, Dani Beinstein returns! </p><p>In this episode we talk about:</p><ul><li>How the struggles, obstacles and general ways we were all put through the proverbial wringer in 2025 was a "pregame" (Dani's words) of sorts. Dani breaks down the what and why of last year.</li><li>What 2026 is asking of us and how we can apply this to our lives</li><li>Dani's and my own current philosophies of the state of romantic relationships (Hint: our expectations of what they'll fulfill are way too high) and ways in which we see people could find more freedom, joy and fulfillment in their relationships</li></ul><p>Links mentioned in the episode:</p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/work-with-me" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work Privately with Me</a></p><p><a href="https://www.daniellebeinstein.com/about-danielle-beinstein" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Dani's Website</a></p><p><a href="https://www.daniellebeinstein.com/book-a-reading-danielle-beinstein" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Book a Reading with Dani</a></p><p><a href="https://danibeinstein.substack.com/?utm_campaign=profile_chips" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Dani's Lives with Steph Sembari</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no01:03:17Here's what 2026 is asking of you with psychological astrologer Dani Beinstein | Ep 152full<![CDATA[How to mine your past or current (I do this in my marriage!) relationships for limiting patterns | Ep 148]]>Tis the season to REFLECT. That's the heart of today's episode. I love this time of year for getting cozy, sipping something delicious, and reflecting on the year. In today's episode I'm walking you through the exact exercise I use with clients to mine their current and past relationships, crushes, flings, etc, for patterns. Once we know our patterns, we can work to shift them to achieve, essentially, more of the life experience we actually want.

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]]>Buzzsprout-18259883Wed, 26 Nov 2025 20:00:00 GMT<p>Tis the season to REFLECT. That's the heart of today's episode. I love this time of year for getting cozy, sipping something delicious, and reflecting on the year. In today's episode I'm walking you through the exact exercise I use with clients to mine their current and past relationships, crushes, flings, etc, for patterns. Once we know our patterns, we can work to shift them to achieve, essentially, more of the life experience we actually want.</p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:25:06How to mine your past or current (I do this in my marriage!) relationships for limiting patterns | Ep 148full<![CDATA[An argument for swiping left more. Yes, more. | Ep 133]]>In a recent Instagram post, I spoke about how many of my clients hold a fear that a relationship will swallow them whole. This isn't a misconception, as many of them have completely lost themselves in prior relationships. Also identifying as people pleasers, they've historically had a hard time operating authentically in their relationships, be they romantic, platonic, professional or (most of all) familial.

Because of this, it's crucial, when it comes to dating, that we double down on their ability to authentically express themselves. One of the first and most common areas that can be worked on is in the act of swiping. And with that, I'm a proponent of leaning into swiping...left. Yep, left. Listen to find out why I find it to be so empowering and how to differentiate between an authentic "I don't want to swipe right on this person," versus the ever elusive "being too picky."

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]]>Buzzsprout-16933960Tue, 08 Apr 2025 07:00:00 GMT<p>In a recent Instagram post, I spoke about how <a href="https://www.instagram.com/p/DH6LNz2gYct/?img_index=1" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">many of my clients</a> hold a fear that a relationship will swallow them whole. This isn't a misconception, as many of them <em>have</em> completely lost themselves in prior relationships. Also identifying as people pleasers, they've historically had a hard time operating authentically in their relationships, be they romantic, platonic, professional or (most of all) familial.</p><p>Because of this, it's crucial, when it comes to dating, that we double down on their ability to authentically express themselves. One of the first and most common areas that can be worked on is in the act of swiping. And with that, I'm a proponent of leaning into swiping...left. Yep, left. Listen to find out why I find it to be so empowering and how to differentiate between an authentic "I don't want to swipe right on this person," versus the ever elusive "being too picky."</p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:33:41An argument for swiping left more. Yes, more. | Ep 133full<![CDATA[The season in life where I thought "Maybe I just don't want a relationship" | Ep 132]]>There was a moment about five years ago, around age 34, where I thought to myself: Maybe I just don't want a relationship.

Clients will say a similar thing to me, often using language like: I'm not even sure I want to be in a relationship.

In today's episode I'm exploring what rests beneath those words (what they meant for me, what they mean for others) and what it means to intellectualize our pain. I specifically discuss:

  • How a debilitating breakup made me never want to try to have a relationship again
  • How I very much wanted a partner and a family but struggled so deeply to believe I'd ever have those things, that it made it easier to tell myself I didn't want them
  • How and why we intellectualizing our pain
  • How focusing on being grateful can serve as a mask to what we want to change in our lives
  • What's involved in letting our deep longings and desires breathe

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]]>Buzzsprout-16663597Tue, 25 Feb 2025 21:00:00 GMT<p>There was a moment about five years ago, around age 34, where I thought to myself: <em>Maybe I just don't want a relationship</em>.</p><p>Clients will say a similar thing to me, often using language like: <em>I'm not even sure I want to be in a relationship.</em></p><p>In today's episode I'm exploring what rests beneath those words (what they meant for me, what they mean for others) and what it means to intellectualize our pain. I specifically discuss:</p><ul><li>How a debilitating breakup made me never want to try to have a relationship again</li><li>How I very much wanted a partner and a family but struggled so deeply to believe I'd ever have those things, that it made it easier to tell myself I <em>didn't</em> want them</li><li>How and why we intellectualizing our pain</li><li>How focusing on being grateful can serve as a mask to what we want to change in our lives</li><li>What's involved in letting our deep longings and desires breathe</li></ul><p><a href="https://claraartschwager.substack.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Read My Substack</a></p><p><a href="https://open.spotify.com/episode/0xA7EjphUZdMGLQomeoByx" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Dani Beinstein Episode Referenced</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:31:31The season in life where I thought "Maybe I just don't want a relationship" | Ep 132full<![CDATA[Why you don't need to (and shouldn't) go on a million dates to meet someone in 2025 | Ep 127]]>Work with me privately
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January tends to be a month rife with a lot of "I'm going to do this and that and goals goals goals!" And if that feels good to you, then great. But I find most of us stack ourselves with a litany of to dos, only to feel massively let down a few weeks later. Dating tends to be one of those areas. Early in my single years I often began January with a lot of goals/plans around how many dates I was going to go on that year, largely stemming from a fear of never meeting someone.

In today's podcast episode I'm breaking down:

  • Why solely focusing on going on dates won't actually bring you closer to developing rich partnership
  • Why it's so crucial to pair action around dating with our inner work
  • How the inner work makes up 90% of our ability to meet and connect deeply with someone, and the actual dates themselves are far less important
  • Why we face so much resistance to dating and how to reframe your perspective, as well as give yourself more grace
  • How the areas of work, family and friendship impact your ability to meet someone and how to gently tend to those areas (i.e. in a way that makes you feel good!)
  • Examples of this inner work from clients so you can implement your own


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]]>Buzzsprout-16450028Tue, 21 Jan 2025 13:00:00 GMT<p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/work-with-me" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me privately</a><br /><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/courses" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Take one of my online courses</a><br /><br />January tends to be a month rife with a lot of "I'm going to do this and that and goals goals goals!" And if that feels good to you, then great. But I find most of us stack ourselves with a litany of to dos, only to feel massively let down a few weeks later. Dating tends to be one of those areas. Early in my single years I often began January with a lot of goals/plans around how many dates I was going to go on that year, largely stemming from a fear of never meeting someone.<br /><br />In today's podcast episode I'm breaking down:</p><ul><li>Why solely focusing on going on dates won't actually bring you closer to developing rich partnership</li><li>Why it's so crucial to pair action around dating with our inner work</li><li>How the inner work makes up 90% of our ability to meet and connect deeply with someone, and the actual dates themselves are far less important</li><li>Why we face so much resistance to dating and how to reframe your perspective, as well as give yourself more grace</li><li>How the areas of work, family and friendship impact your ability to meet someone and how to gently tend to those areas (i.e. in a way that makes you feel good!)</li><li>Examples of this inner work from clients so you can implement your own</li></ul><p><br /></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:50:04Why you don't need to (and shouldn't) go on a million dates to meet someone in 2025 | Ep 127full<![CDATA[Do you believe yourself to be desirable? Do you expect to be asked out? A sneaky way you could be self sabotaging your dating life | Ep 121]]>What's your perception of yourself? How do you view yourself? Based on that, what do you believe is or isn't available to you? What do you think you can have? What do you think you deserve?

I'm posing these questions in relation to romance and relationship in today's episode. We often don't realize how the identities we've formed keep us limited in what we can receive, well, in any area, but specifically relationships. This is an area I look at closely when clients of mine have been perpetually single, struggle to meet people, or feel like they never connect deeply with anyone.

This episode will resonate if:

  • You feel like you're never going to meet anyone
  • You've been on tons and tons of dates, but connect with few people
  • You face a lot of resistance to dating — you might get on an app and swipe, maybe go on one date, but your effort never gets that far
  • You're in a perpetual story of "This is never going to happen for me."

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]]>Buzzsprout-15628895Fri, 23 Aug 2024 12:00:00 GMT<p>What's your perception of yourself? How do you view yourself? Based on that, what do you believe is or isn't available to you? What do you think you can have? What do you think you deserve?<br /><br />I'm posing these questions in relation to romance and relationship in today's episode. We often don't realize how the identities we've formed keep us limited in what we can receive, well, in any area, but specifically relationships. This is an area I look at closely when clients of mine have been perpetually single, struggle to meet people, or feel like they never connect deeply with anyone.<br /><br />This episode will resonate if:</p><ul><li>You feel like you're never going to meet anyone</li><li>You've been on tons and tons of dates, but connect with few people</li><li>You face a lot of resistance to dating — you might get on an app and swipe, maybe go on one date, but your effort never gets that far</li><li>You're in a perpetual story of "This is never going to happen for me."</li></ul><p>Links referenced in this episode: <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Dark-Side-Light-Chasers-Reclaiming/dp/1594485259/ref=sr_1_1?crid=19P6KHOTG16BT&amp;dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.HN8v-Z3ZKvMdOEHnY_tTPZzznzF85i3MAB02umzlTLWpxWez3c0U4lJgTkJX-Pvr8EFqzRKTxpuooI4Nnuj48f6VLHarOdzW62oWKDcfpZia0ESWMLwud2Ns2i4-ZhB0tmvHMQbgnXs145NkzCK5ETmlfuhOuj9rZXZh1tXnMqXqpOMTKC1457qBGIJ9rblkPVpuFJitFC6iGpUE5QVEqw.HUSUjNQAMZkANItfE7Nb0Nu3M9pFTm6kKurEQfKrDgo&amp;dib_tag=se&amp;keywords=dark+side+of+the+light+chasers+by+debbie+ford&amp;qid=1724415758&amp;sprefix=dark+side+of+the+light%2Caps%2C110&amp;sr=8-1" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Book on Shadow Work</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:32:38Do you believe yourself to be desirable? Do you expect to be asked out? A sneaky way you could be self sabotaging your dating life | Ep 121full<![CDATA[<Mini Ep> Go ahead, be hopeless. You don't need hope for your dating life.]]>Hello, friends. Popping in with a short and sweet episode — something I plan to do more of — digging into the following question I received from a follower in an 'Ask Me Anything' poll I did on Instagram earlier this week:

What if I feel deep down that I'll be single forever?

I'm answering this listener's question and touching on the following:

  • How we conflate our hope for something with the likelihood that it will actually happen
  • Why we can be absolutely hopeless about the potential for something and still go after it
  • What we really mean when we say 'I'm going to be single forever'
  • Why it's our desire — and bring action to our desire — that matters most
  • Areas in my own life where I've gone after things I've felt completely hopeless about

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]]>Buzzsprout-15509519Wed, 31 Jul 2024 19:00:00 GMT<p>Hello, friends. Popping in with a short and sweet episode — something I plan to do more of — digging into the following question I received from a follower in an 'Ask Me Anything' poll I did on Instagram earlier this week:<br /><br /><em>What if I feel deep down that I'll be single forever</em>?<br /><br />I'm answering this listener's question and touching on the following:</p><ul><li>How we conflate our hope for something with the likelihood that it will actually happen</li><li>Why we can be absolutely hopeless about the potential for something and still go after it</li><li>What we really mean when we say 'I'm going to be single forever'</li><li>Why it's our desire — and bring action to our desire — that matters most</li><li>Areas in my own life where I've gone after things I've felt completely hopeless about</li></ul><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:14:49<Mini Ep> Go ahead, be hopeless. You don't need hope for your dating life.full<![CDATA[How do we know if we're settling? How did I know my husband was the one? Should I do a prenup? And more in this Q+A Episode |Ep 117]]>It's the thick of summer and we're digging into a Q+A episode this week. Thank you so much to those of you who submitted questions!

In this episode I'm talking about:

  • Prenups. Do we get them? Not get them?
  • How did I know my husband was "the one?"
  • How does one handle dating during a transitional period in their life — in between jobs, moving, etc?
  • How do I feel about meeting my husband on a dating app versus in person?
  • How does one find the sweet spot between accepting someone's flaws versus settling on a partner?
  • I'm in my 20s and I feel lost. Can you provide guidance?

Links mentioned in this episode:
Unf*ck Your Brain Prenup Podcast Episode


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]]>Buzzsprout-15355284Fri, 26 Jul 2024 15:00:00 GMT<p>It's the thick of summer and we're digging into a Q+A episode this week. Thank you so much to those of you who submitted questions!<br /><br />In this episode I'm talking about:</p><ul><li>Prenups. Do we get them? Not get them?</li><li>How did I know my husband was "the one?"</li><li>How does one handle dating during a transitional period in their life — in between jobs, moving, etc?</li><li>How do I feel about meeting my husband on a dating app versus in person?</li><li>How does one find the sweet spot between accepting someone's flaws versus settling on a partner?</li><li>I'm in my 20s and I feel lost. Can you provide guidance?</li></ul><p>Links mentioned in this episode:<br /><a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/everyone-needs-a-prenup-other-money-mistakes/id1229434818?i=1000558946938" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Unf*ck Your Brain Prenup Podcast Episode</a></p><p><br /></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:54:46How do we know if we're settling? How did I know my husband was the one? Should I do a prenup? And more in this Q+A Episode |Ep 117full<![CDATA[A Transparent Look at My Journey Into Pregnancy (1st Trimester) | Ep 108]]>Private Coaching Spaces are Open

In today's podcast I'm sharing what the first few months of my pregnancy have been like.  My husband and I are so excited, and also, the first trimester was quite difficult for me. Per usual, I'm sharing all we experienced — the bliss and hardship, the highs and lows, the unexpected, and where I am now. 

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]]>Buzzsprout-15107892Wed, 22 May 2024 11:00:00 GMT<p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/work-with-me" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Private Coaching Spaces are Open </a><br /><br />In today's podcast I'm sharing what the first few months of my pregnancy have been like.  My husband and I are so excited, and also, the first trimester was quite difficult for me. Per usual, I'm sharing all we experienced — the bliss and hardship, the highs and lows, the unexpected, and where I am now. </p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:45:22A Transparent Look at My Journey Into Pregnancy (1st Trimester) | Ep 108full<![CDATA[On being the girl who never got asked out and *now* desiring a relationship | Ep 107]]>Spring/Summer private coaching spots are open!

Available for folks single and seeking partnership, single and seeking space/work to go inward, and folks who are couple and struggling within their relationship.

This week's episode:
A few weeks back, I was driving through the parking lot of my former middle/high school, when my eyes happened upon a sign for the spring fling dance. I shuddered, flashing back to those lonely middle (and high school) days where upcoming dances brought on so much dread. They really only served as a reminder of all the things I was not: pretty, popular, desirable, dateable. I'd shut down the desire for that thing, and instead, poured myself into my academics, years prior.

This week's episode explores that shared history among token good girls and highlights how that identity is still running the show in our dating and relationship lives — no matter where we find ourselves on the journey or the spectrum.

This episode will resonate if:

  • You learned early on it wasn't safe — or you weren't one of the girls — to desire a boyfriend
  • You hid this desire while focusing on your academics and all you could achieve
  • Good grades and other accolades became your way of securing love, praise and attention
  • You know you aren't that girl anymore, but you still feel tethered to that identity — it's hard to perceive yourself as desirable. That you're allowed to have partnership.

If you like this episode you might also like:
On the fear of driving someone away by saying how you feel
On not getting asked to the dance and how it's showing up in your love life now
Most dating advice does a great job of making us feel like we're not doing enough

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]]>Buzzsprout-15068797Tue, 14 May 2024 20:00:00 GMT<p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/work-with-me" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Spring/Summer private coaching spots are open!</a><br /><br />Available for folks single and seeking partnership, single and seeking space/work to go inward, and folks who are couple and struggling within their relationship.<br /><br />This week's episode:<br />A few weeks back, I was driving through the parking lot of my former middle/high school, when my eyes happened upon a sign for the spring fling dance. I shuddered, flashing back to those lonely middle (and high school) days where upcoming dances brought on so much dread. They really only served as a reminder of all the things I was not: pretty, popular, desirable, dateable. I'd shut down the desire for that thing, and instead, poured myself into my academics, years prior.<br /><br />This week's episode explores that shared history among token good girls and highlights how that identity is still running the show in our dating and relationship lives — no matter where we find ourselves on the journey or the spectrum.<br /><br />This episode will resonate if:</p><ul><li>You learned early on it wasn't safe — or you weren't one of the girls — to desire a boyfriend</li><li>You hid this desire while focusing on your academics and all you could achieve</li><li>Good grades and other accolades became your way of securing love, praise and attention</li><li>You know you aren't that girl anymore, but you still feel tethered to that identity — it's hard to perceive yourself as desirable. That you're allowed to have partnership.</li></ul><p>If you like this episode you might also like:<br /><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/content/episode-83" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">On the fear of driving someone away by saying how you feel</a><br /><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/content/episode-80" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">On not getting asked to the dance and how it's showing up in your love life now</a><br /><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/content/episode-76" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Most dating advice does a great job of making us feel like we're not doing enough</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:44:21On being the girl who never got asked out and *now* desiring a relationship | Ep 107full<![CDATA[When you're not getting any matches on dating apps | Ep 104]]>Work w/ Me
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In today's episode, I'm digging into two patterns I witness again and again in my private coaching practice:

  • Clients who are swiping and receiving zero matches
  • Clients who are swiping and landing plenty of matches, but they're lost in a sea of first and second dates that never go further

In today's episode I'm breaking down the potential causes behind these patterns.

This episode will resonate if you relate to the above two patterns and find yourself:

  • Unsure of what to do differently
  • Swimming in shame over the state of your dating life
  • Attempting to just keep dating more, but nothing ever changes
  • Fearing the above just means you're meant to be alone forever (not the case)

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]]>Buzzsprout-14849790Tue, 16 Apr 2024 07:00:00 GMT<p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/work-with-me" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work w/ Me</a><br /><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/sanity" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Sneak peek my next program launch</a><br /><a href="https://view.flodesk.com/pages/6255906169d304440734a7ad" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Get on my email list</a><br /><br />In today's episode, I'm digging into two patterns I witness again and again in my private coaching practice:</p><ul><li>Clients who are swiping and receiving zero matches</li><li>Clients who are swiping and landing plenty of matches, but they're lost in a sea of first and second dates that never go further</li></ul><p>In today's episode I'm breaking down the potential causes behind these patterns.<br /><br />This episode will resonate if you relate to the above two patterns and find yourself:</p><ul><li>Unsure of what to do differently</li><li>Swimming in shame over the state of your dating life</li><li>Attempting to just keep dating more, but nothing ever changes</li><li>Fearing the above just means you're meant to be alone forever (not the case)</li></ul><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:42:14When you're not getting any matches on dating apps | Ep 104full<![CDATA[Dani Beinstein is back with thoughts on the state of the world + what's coming with 2024 | Ep 91]]>Danielle Beinstein, one of my favorite thinkers and creators is back with a mish mosh of 2024 perspective. Grab a cup of something good and cozy up to this one.

Use code ITHINKILIKEYOU at checkout to get 15% off one of Dani's readings.

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]]>Buzzsprout-14314816Fri, 26 Jan 2024 01:00:00 GMT<p><a href="https://www.daniellebeinstein.com/about-danielle-beinstein" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Danielle Beinstein</a>, one of my favorite thinkers and creators is back with a mish mosh of 2024 perspective. Grab a cup of something good and cozy up to this one.<br /><br />Use code ITHINKILIKEYOU at checkout to get 15% off one of Dani's readings.</p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no01:03:54Dani Beinstein is back with thoughts on the state of the world + what's coming with 2024 | Ep 91full<![CDATA[The 3 concepts that are guiding my work, my marriage, and my overall life in 2024 | Ep 89]]>In today's episode I'm sharing three things I recently heard + read that stopped me dead in my tracks, and have really shaped my perspective for the New Year. Think: less social media, more solitude and stillness, more space, deeper, deeper, work.

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The Big Dating Nap
This article on parenting in the Cut.

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]]>Buzzsprout-14267635Mon, 08 Jan 2024 01:00:00 GMT<p>In today's episode I'm sharing three things I recently heard + read that stopped me dead in my tracks, and have really shaped my perspective for the New Year. Think: less social media, more solitude and stillness, more space, deeper, deeper, work.<br /><br />Links mentioned:<br /><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/thebigdatingnap" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">The Big Dating Nap</a><br /><a href="https://www.thecut.com/article/gentle-parenting-and-the-accidentally-permissive-parent.html" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">This article on parenting in the Cut.</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:47:05The 3 concepts that are guiding my work, my marriage, and my overall life in 2024 | Ep 89full<![CDATA[On not getting asked to the dance + how it's showing up in your love life now | Ep 80]]>Oooooh adolesence. YEESH. I was recently binging "The Summer I Turned Pretty," and it was giving me all the feels. Namely because. I never had a summer I turned pretty! I just stayed....staying in the identity of being the girl that didn't have the boyfriend, didn't get asked out, wasn't the pretty girl.

I know I'm not alone in this. Client after client tells me of tender stories from middle and high school years of never feeling like the pretty girl, knowing they weren't going to be the ones to be asked out, focusing heavily on their schoolwork and performance in order to individuate, etc etc.

The thing is, those identities that do and don't get formed, can have a significant effect on our dating and relationship patterns and trajectories. In short, the stories are still playing out. It can often be the why behind:

  • No matches
  • Never deeply connecting with anyone
  • Experiencing tremendous anxiety around dating
  • Fearing you'll never meet someone

If you relate to that young identity and you're not facing obstacles in your dating and relationship life, today's episode is going to be SO clarifying. In it we'll cover:

  • How these ways we learn to relate to ourselves and the world (at such an impressionable age) have reverberating effects on our future romantic life
  • How actually then receiving love and praise can land as quite threatening and uncomfortable
  • How these beliefs we hold about ourselves serve as an invisible barrier to attracting the person we want to meet
  • How we can go about reversing these ways we view ourselves and start to create comfort, familiarity and safety in adoration, love and praise

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]]>Buzzsprout-13802525Fri, 20 Oct 2023 17:00:00 GMT<p>Oooooh adolesence. YEESH. I was recently binging "The Summer I Turned Pretty," and it was giving me all the feels. Namely because. I <em>never</em> had a summer I turned pretty! I just stayed....staying in the identity of being the girl that didn't have the boyfriend, didn't get asked out, wasn't the pretty girl.<br /><br />I know I'm not alone in this. Client after client tells me of tender stories from middle and high school years of never feeling like the pretty girl, knowing they weren't going to be the ones to be asked out, focusing heavily on their schoolwork and performance in order to individuate, etc etc.<br /><br />The thing is, those identities that do and don't get formed, can have a significant effect on our dating and relationship patterns and trajectories. In short, the stories are still playing out. It can often be the why behind:</p><ul><li>No matches</li><li>Never deeply connecting with anyone</li><li>Experiencing tremendous anxiety around dating</li><li>Fearing you'll never meet someone</li></ul><p>If you relate to that young identity and you're not facing obstacles in your dating and relationship life, today's episode is going to be SO clarifying. In it we'll cover:<br /><br /></p><ul><li>How these ways we learn to relate to ourselves and the world (at such an impressionable age) have reverberating effects on our future romantic life</li><li>How actually then receiving love and praise can land as quite threatening and uncomfortable</li><li>How these beliefs we hold about ourselves serve as an invisible barrier to attracting the person we want to meet</li><li>How we can go about reversing these ways we view ourselves and start to create comfort, familiarity and safety in adoration, love and praise</li></ul><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:47:38On not getting asked to the dance + how it's showing up in your love life now | Ep 80full<![CDATA[My husband and I chat about our childhoods, how those experiences show up in our marriage now, and how we navigate the differences | Ep 75]]>I'm delighted to bring my husband, James, back on the podcast today for an open conversation around what I believe to be one of the most crucial areas of understanding within a relationship — your varied background and history. Your childhood, yes, but we pull the lens out a bit father than that. This is one of many conversations I hope to have of this kind. 

For me, when I was seeking a partner, one of the most crucial elements I desired in another individual was someone who had an introspective relationship with themselves. Could be through therapy, could be through other personal development channels. But essentially I was looking for someone who took a curious and consistent lens to themselves, their past, and how it was showing up now both on an individual and collective level. It's one of the things I value most about James and our relationship.

In this episode we dig into:

  • Our differing childhoods and how they manifest emotionally in our relationship
  • Navigating our biggest triggers
  • The shared practice that fills our relationship with a lot of ease
  • How anger, as an emotion, plays a really unique role in our relationship
  • How we move through conflict in our relationship
  • How we navigate our differences on an ongoing basis

And much more. I'm excited to share this intimate convo with you all today.

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]]>Buzzsprout-13527535Mon, 04 Sep 2023 19:00:00 GMT<p>I'm delighted to bring my husband, James, back on the podcast today for an open conversation around what I believe to be one of the most crucial areas of understanding within a relationship — your varied background and history. Your childhood, yes, but we pull the lens out a bit father than that. This is one of many conversations I hope to have of this kind. <br /><br />For me, when I was seeking a partner, one of the most crucial elements I desired in another individual was someone who had an introspective relationship with themselves. Could be through therapy, could be through other personal development channels. But essentially I was looking for someone who took a curious and consistent lens to themselves, their past, and how it was showing up now both on an individual and collective level. It's one of the things I value most about James and our relationship.<br /><br />In this episode we dig into:</p><ul><li>Our differing childhoods and how they manifest emotionally in our relationship</li><li>Navigating our biggest triggers</li><li>The shared practice that fills our relationship with a lot of ease</li><li>How anger, as an emotion, plays a really unique role in our relationship</li><li>How we move through conflict in our relationship</li><li>How we navigate our differences on an ongoing basis</li></ul><p>And much more. I'm excited to share this intimate convo with you all today.</p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no01:04:42My husband and I chat about our childhoods, how those experiences show up in our marriage now, and how we navigate the differences | Ep 75full<![CDATA[4 Common Pitfalls in Dating Where I See People Getting Stuck | Ep 72]]>On a recent walk with my pups, I was marinating on the shared habits and characteristics of my clients who are now in long term relationships. It got me thinking about the inverse behavior — less of what people actually do and more of what people don't do that blocks them from growth and change. Not just in relationships, but in any area of their life.  In todays episode I'm digging into those four common pitfalls.

They center around:

  • Circumventing your pain
  • Being obsessed with the how of dating (i.e. how to meet someone) versus looking closely at the nature of your dating life
  • Not picking up on the cues surrounding your obstacles, that live outside of your dating
  • Treating your dating life as if it operates in a vacuum

If you've been single or dating for a while and find not much has changed in terms of the type of people you meet, today's episode should illuminate some areas of change.

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]]>Buzzsprout-13343173Thu, 03 Aug 2023 13:00:00 GMT<p>On a recent walk with my pups, I was marinating on the shared habits and characteristics of my clients who are now in long term relationships. It got me thinking about the <em>inverse</em> behavior — less of what people actually do and more of what people don't do that blocks them from growth and change. Not just in relationships, but in any area of their life.  In todays episode I'm digging into those four common pitfalls.<br /><br />They center around:</p><ul><li>Circumventing your pain</li><li>Being obsessed with the <em>how</em> of dating (i.e. how to meet someone) versus looking closely at the nature of your dating life</li><li>Not picking up on the cues surrounding your obstacles, that live outside of your dating</li><li>Treating your dating life as if it operates in a vacuum</li></ul><p>If you've been single or dating for a while and find not much has changed in terms of the type of people you meet, today's episode should illuminate some areas of change.<br /><br /><a href="https://courses.ithinkilikeyou.co/the-conscious-dater-august/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Explore my online course</a><br /><a href="https://courses.ithinkilikeyou.co/meditations/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Explore dating meditations</a><br /><a href="https://www.catherinezack.com/retreat" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Come to my retreat this fall!</a></p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:31:424 Common Pitfalls in Dating Where I See People Getting Stuck | Ep 72full<![CDATA[A dating Q+A w/ Amy Nobile | Ep 68]]>Amy Nobile is the founder of Love,  Amy, a dating coaching service that marries the holistic view of human-to-human energy and connection with the technology of modern-day dating. We had so much fun when I was guest on her podcast, we decided to do it again, but this time as a listener Q+A episode.  

Here are the questions we dig into: 

  • What's our perspective on manifesting soulful, romantic love into your life and purely focusing on that versus getting onto apps and swiping away?
  • How do you deal with shame around feeling like you haven't been in a long term relationship in a while? (This listener was last in a long term relationship in 2018, but this question could apply to anyone who holds this shame no matter the timeline).
  • How does one move past the fear of dating and getting hurt again? This listener thought she and her then partner were on the same page in their last relationship, but turns out they weren't. She's afraid to put herself out there again and endure the same hurt.
  • How do you put yourself out there when you're coming out of financial hardship and/or debt?
  • How do you put yourself out there when you're coming out of a difficult bout, be it depression, anxiety, etc? (Note, we reference how to work with a therapist here.)

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]]>Buzzsprout-13159238Tue, 04 Jul 2023 22:00:00 GMT<p>Amy Nobile is the founder of <a href="https://www.loveamy.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Love,  Amy</a>, a dating coaching service that marries the holistic view of human-to-human energy and connection with the technology of modern-day dating. We had so much fun when <a href="https://open.spotify.com/episode/7cmW4cdWuejhegEIuPgeLU" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">I was guest on her podcast</a>, we decided to do it again, but this time as a listener Q+A episode.  <br /><br />Here are the questions we dig into: </p><ul><li>What's our perspective on manifesting soulful, romantic love into your life and purely focusing on that versus getting onto apps and swiping away?</li><li>How do you deal with shame around feeling like you haven't been in a long term relationship in a while? (This listener was last in a long term relationship in 2018, but this question could apply to anyone who holds this shame no matter the timeline).</li><li>How does one move past the fear of dating and getting hurt again? This listener thought she and her then partner were on the same page in their last relationship, but turns out they weren't. She's afraid to put herself out there again and endure the same hurt.</li><li>How do you put yourself out there when you're coming out of financial hardship and/or debt?</li><li>How do you put yourself out there when you're coming out of a difficult bout, be it depression, anxiety, etc? (Note, we reference how to work with a therapist here.)</li></ul><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no01:10:58A dating Q+A w/ Amy Nobile | Ep 68full<![CDATA[Episode 64: How to meet met who actually want to commit.]]>On the heels of last week’s episode that blew the pants off everything we know to be true about anxious attachment style, this week’s episode is very much a part two. Why is it that those of us who are most hungry for partnership, most hungry to connect deeply with someone, keep finding ourselves in brief, one off, go nowhere scenarios, or relationships where we completely lose ourselves?

It all has to do with our capacity for receiving. I.e. our capacity to let someone in and let them actually love us. You might be thinking, “Um yeah, of course, Clara, that’s exactly what I freaking want.” Except, your subconscious, has another story. You subconscious, isn’t used to being in the role of receiving and being supported and not having to do all.the.things.

This episode will resonate if you’re struggling in dating/fulfilling relationships and:

  • You struggle to ask for help
  • You find yourself always carrying the conversation on dates
  • You consistently meet people who are nice but don’t want to commit
  • You’re hyper-independent
  • You’re pretty damn successful in your career and your proud of it, but you also work way more than you should
  • You’re constantly the friend to plan and prep, but rarely the one to receive
  • You hunger, deeply, to co-create a life with someone, but nothing is moving in that direction

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]]>Buzzsprout-12990805Tue, 06 Jun 2023 19:00:00 GMT<p>On the heels of <a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/content/episode-63" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">last week’s episode</a> that blew the pants off everything we know to be true about anxious attachment style, this week’s episode is very much a part two. Why is it that those of us who are most hungry for partnership, most hungry to connect deeply with someone, keep finding ourselves in brief, one off, go nowhere scenarios, or relationships where we completely lose ourselves?</p><p>It all has to do with our capacity for <em>receiving</em>. I.e. our capacity to let someone in and let them actually love us. You might be thinking, “Um yeah, of course, Clara, that’s exactly what I freaking want.” Except, your subconscious, has another story. You subconscious, isn’t used to being in the role of receiving and being supported and not having to do all.the.things.</p><p>This episode will resonate if you’re struggling in dating/fulfilling relationships and:</p><ul><li>You struggle to ask for help</li><li>You find yourself always carrying the conversation on dates</li><li>You consistently meet people who are nice but don’t want to commit</li><li>You’re hyper-independent</li><li>You’re pretty damn successful in your career and your proud of it, but you also work way more than you should</li><li>You’re constantly the friend to plan and prep, but rarely the one to receive</li><li>You hunger, deeply, to co-create a life with someone, but nothing is moving in that direction</li></ul><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:46:24Episode 64: How to meet met who actually want to commit.full<![CDATA[Episode 65: Should I settle for this? How do I know?]]>SETTLING. We're so rattled by it. We want rules and directions. Just tell me what I should and shouldn't ok in a partner in order to have it all work out perfectly! In order to meet someone sooner rather than later!

The thing is, knowing what we do and don't need in a partner is such an inside job. The more we look elsewhere for the answers, the more we drive ourselves crazy.  If you often find yourself in dating wondering:

Am I doing this right? How do I know if this person is or isn't right for me? What should I do?

This episode is going to quiet A LOT of that mental chatter and anxiety, and help you better navigate and choose the people best suited for you. If you like the content and want more of it, check out our online course:  https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/course

Links mentioned: Barbara Stanny

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]]>Buzzsprout-13032455Wed, 14 Jun 2023 14:00:00 GMT<p>SETTLING. We're so rattled by it. We want rules and directions. Just tell me what I should and shouldn't ok in a partner in order to have it all work out perfectly! In order to meet someone sooner rather than later!<br /><br />The thing is, knowing what we do and don't need in a partner is such an inside job. The more we look elsewhere for the answers, the more we drive ourselves crazy.  If you often find yourself in dating wondering: <br /><br />Am I doing this right? How do I know if this person is or isn't right for me? What should I do?<br /><br />This episode is going to quiet A LOT of that mental chatter and anxiety, and help you better navigate and choose the people best suited for you. If you like the content and want more of it, check out our online course:  <a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/course" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/course</a><br /><br /><a href="https://www.barbara-huson.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Links mentioned: Barbara Stanny</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:41:01Episode 65: Should I settle for this? How do I know?full<![CDATA[Episode 60: What your adolescent + teen identity have to do with your dating + relationship life NOW.]]>I Think I Like You, the course (save $100 if you register by 5/22)
Register for my Free Webinar on 5/19— The 6 Things That Made All the Difference When I Was Dating

How did you identify as a kid? Better yet, in middle school, high school, and so on? We're you rife with young crushes and boyfriends? Did you go to school dances? Did you feel like you could just hang— with anyone and everyone? I certainly didn't.  And most of my clients sit in a similar position, but completely unaware of how that sense of self is playing out in their romantic life now. That's what we're digging into in today's episode:

If you identify as....

  • Any sort of late bloomer
  • Not the chosen one
  • The one who came to relationships later/thought for a period— "This just isn't for me"

Today's episode will really resonate and likely bring some newfound clarity around your history and the intimacy/relationship patterns in your present.



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]]>Buzzsprout-12858802Tue, 16 May 2023 12:00:00 GMT<p><a href="https://courses.ithinkilikeyou.co/course/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">I Think I Like You, the course (save $100 if you register by 5/22)</a><br /><a href="https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZIvceitqjoqEtzJxdsNikrAOqaPNdyfAu2j" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Register for my Free Webinar on 5/19— The 6 Things That Made All the Difference When I Was Dating</a><br /><br />How did you identify as a kid? Better yet, in middle school, high school, and so on? We're you rife with young crushes and boyfriends? Did you go to school dances? Did you feel like you could just hang— with anyone and everyone? I certainly didn't.  And most of my clients sit in a similar position, but completely unaware of how that sense of self is playing out in their romantic life now. That's what we're digging into in today's episode:<br /><br />If you identify as....</p><ul><li>Any sort of late bloomer</li><li>Not the chosen one</li><li>The one who came to relationships later/thought for a period— "This just isn't for me"</li></ul><p>Today's episode will really resonate and likely bring some newfound clarity around your history and the intimacy/relationship patterns in your present.</p><p><br /><br /></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:45:42Episode 60: What your adolescent + teen identity have to do with your dating + relationship life NOW.full<![CDATA[Episode 59: How social stalking is hurting more than helping (and what your tendencies say about YOU).]]>I Think I Like the Course: Peep the Curriculum
6 Things That Made All the Difference When I was Single

Do you get the urge to stalk? Maybe he's linked his Instagram to his dating profile, or maybe you just know enough to suss out his account (and it happens to be public!) because, well, it's 2023.

Here's the tricky thing though: The information we glean from stalking ends up consisting more of our limiting beliefs, insecurities and projections than it does any actual helpful information about our potential suitor. Even more so,  if we've got some blocks to intimacy, then we can actually create false beliefs about people that really act as a way of protecting ourselves from getting too close to them. I know, complex stuff. This episode breaks down these tendencies in simple terms, so you not only learn to navigate the digital space with more ease, but most of all, learn what this pattern signifies around your tendencies in love, attachment, intimacy, etc.

This episode will resonate with anyone who:

  • Struggles to not go down an internet rabbit hole when they're just getting to know someone
  • Experiences a lot of anxiety or worry when looking at someone's profile
  • Uses someone's online presence as a way to create distance between themselves and actually getting to know someone

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]]>Buzzsprout-12837202Fri, 12 May 2023 15:00:00 GMT<p><a href="https://courses.ithinkilikeyou.co/preview/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">I Think I Like the Course: Peep the Curriculum</a><br /><a href="https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZIvceitqjoqEtzJxdsNikrAOqaPNdyfAu2j" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">6 Things That Made All the Difference When I was Single</a><br /><br />Do you get the urge to stalk? Maybe he's linked his Instagram to his dating profile, or maybe you just know enough to suss out his account (and it happens to be public!) because, well, it's 2023.<br /><br />Here's the tricky thing though: The information we glean from stalking ends up consisting more of our limiting beliefs, insecurities and projections than it does any actual helpful information about our potential suitor. Even more so,  if we've got some blocks to intimacy, then we can actually create false beliefs about people that really act as a way of protecting ourselves from getting too close to them. I know, complex stuff. This episode breaks down these tendencies in simple terms, so you not only learn to navigate the digital space with more ease, but most of all, learn what this pattern signifies around your tendencies in love, attachment, intimacy, etc.<br /><br />This episode will resonate with anyone who:</p><ul><li>Struggles to not go down an internet rabbit hole when they're just getting to know someone</li><li>Experiences a lot of anxiety or worry when looking at someone's profile</li><li>Uses someone's online presence as a way to create distance between themselves and actually getting to know someone</li></ul><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:35:25Episode 59: How social stalking is hurting more than helping (and what your tendencies say about YOU).full<![CDATA[Episode 55: My journey with emotionally unavailable men.]]>We tend to think just because we want a relationship that we're emotionally available. But one does't automatically equate to the other.

Most women I work with, despite their deep-seated desires for partnership, aren't emotionally available themselves. What we typically pin on men who, "don't want to settle down," exists in trickier ways within ourselves. 

If you find you consistently attract men who:

  • Say they're not looking for a serious relationship
  • Are flaking about following up
  • Seem wishy washy on their desires

Or you simply endure experience after experience where things just dissolve, this episode is for you.


In this episode I cover:

  • What emotional availability and unavailability actually looks like
  • Why the pattern of consistently attracting emotionally unavailable men says more about you than it does about them
  • Where emotional availability stems from
  • How to become more emotionally available to yourself, and, subsequently, to others
  • How to shift the pattern of consistently meeting men who aren't seeking relationship
  • How emotional availability, like strengthening any muscle, is something the grows over time.

This episode will resonate if you really desire a relationship but keep dating or attracting individuals who are flakey, non-committal, or have no interest in long terms partnership.

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]]>Buzzsprout-12621708Tue, 11 Apr 2023 12:00:00 GMT<p>We tend to think just because we want a relationship that we're emotionally available. But one does't automatically equate to the other.</p><p>Most women I work with, despite their deep-seated desires for partnership, aren't emotionally available themselves. What we typically pin on men who, "don't want to settle down," exists in trickier ways within ourselves. </p><p>If you find you consistently attract men who:</p><ul><li>Say they're not looking for a serious relationship</li><li>Are flaking about following up</li><li>Seem wishy washy on their desires</li></ul><p>Or you simply endure experience after experience where things just dissolve, this episode is for you.</p><p><br />In this episode I cover:</p><ul><li>What emotional availability and unavailability actually looks like</li><li>Why the pattern of consistently attracting emotionally unavailable men says more about you than it does about them</li><li>Where emotional availability stems from</li><li>How to become more emotionally available to yourself, and, subsequently, to others</li><li>How to shift the pattern of consistently meeting men who aren't seeking relationship</li><li>How emotional availability, like strengthening any muscle, is something the grows over time.</li></ul><p>This episode will resonate if you really desire a relationship but keep dating or attracting individuals who are flakey, non-committal, or have no interest in long terms partnership.</p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:53:32Episode 55: My journey with emotionally unavailable men.full<![CDATA[Episode 48: What's the difference between coaching and therapy? How do we feel about matchmakers? And more.]]>I consistently receive the following questions in my conversations with clients and coaching discovery calls:

  • What's the difference between coaching and therapy?
  • What are your thoughts on matchmakers?
  • I heard this rule or formula (like "Wait three dates to sleep with someone")...what are your thoughts on that?

While these might seem like completely disparate subjects, they actually all overlap in a pretty helpful way. A hint: they're rooted in self trust. How we deny it and how we foster it.

In addition, I go more in depth in this episode on my recently launched (and upcoming!) group program, specifically for women in law, finance and business consulting. I've put more details below. I'd love to chat with you if the angle and purpose resonates.  

Spring Group Program

A Conscious Dating + Relationship Program | Book a Discovery Call

Specifically tailored to women in the fields of law, finance and consulting, primarily in their 30s and 40s, who may have done therapy or other personal development work but still struggle in the areas of dating and relationships.

This experience is for you if:

  • You feel a bit/ a lot worn out in dating and relationships and struggle to “figure out” what the issue is.
  • You have experienced a lot of success in your career (maybe it lights you up, maybe it doesn’t) but it feels certain and structured. You feel like that area of your life is “under control.”
  • You have struggled to connect with/find people that you feel are intellectually at your level, who you also find to be attractive and/or have just struggled to date in general.
  • You’re eager to understand the why and what behind each of the first three bullets.
  • You crave a more thoughtful and integrated approach to dating. You’re eager to gain clarity on your own patterns and blocks to intimacy.

Program Elements + Cost

The course will run for 8 weeks, from early March through April 30th (the exact dates will be determined once the cohorts are in place).

  • We’ll meet each week for two hours where you’ll receive individual coaching and group coaching. Folks are often worried they won’t get enough individualized attention, but I promise you, 1) You definitely will, and 2) The combination of group and individual support is even more powerful. Being able to witness others be individually coached on the same things you struggle with will illuminate your journey. The exact call time will meet the needs of everyone’s schedule.
  • Once you sign up, you’ll receive preliminary onboarding work to get you started.
  • Written work will be assigned between each group coaching call that will inform each week’s lesson and the focus of our time spent together. You’ll receive detailed individual feedback on this area of your work.
  • You’ll receive ongoing digital support via our intimate group chat. I’ll be there to answer short questions in between sessions and then you’ll have each other to lean on for support as you enter into this space of deep self discovery.
  • We will be looking intimately at each other’s stories, patterns, and histories, which will make the learning all around so much more powerful.

If you’re curious to learn more, ask specific questions or get to know me, Clara, schedule some time to chat here.

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]]>Buzzsprout-12249695Tue, 14 Feb 2023 14:00:00 GMT<p>I consistently receive the following questions in my conversations with clients and coaching discovery calls:</p><ul><li>What's the difference between coaching and therapy?</li><li>What are your thoughts on matchmakers?</li><li>I heard this rule or formula (like "Wait three dates to sleep with someone")...what are your thoughts on that?</li></ul><p>While these might seem like completely disparate subjects, they actually all overlap in a pretty helpful way. A hint: they're rooted in self trust. How we deny it and how we foster it.<br /><br />In addition, I go more in depth in this episode on my recently launched (and upcoming!) group program, specifically for women in law, finance and business consulting. I've put more details below. I'd <em>love </em>to chat with you if the angle and purpose resonates.<em> </em> <br /><br />Spring Group Program<br /><br />A Conscious Dating + Relationship Program | <a href="https://calendly.com/clara-artschwager/coaching-discovery-call-clone" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Book a Discovery Call</a></p><p><em>Specifically tailored to women in the fields of law, finance and consulting, primarily in their 30s and 40s, who may have done therapy or other personal development work but still struggle in the areas of dating and relationships.<br /><br /></em><b>This experience is for you if:</b></p><ul><li>You feel a bit/ a lot worn out in dating and relationships and struggle to “figure out” what the issue is.</li><li>You have experienced a lot of success in your career (maybe it lights you up, maybe it doesn’t) but it feels certain and structured. You feel like that area of your life is “under control.”</li><li>You have struggled to connect with/find people that you feel are intellectually at your level, who you also find to be attractive and/or have just struggled to date in general.</li><li>You’re eager to understand the why and what behind each of the first three bullets.</li><li>You crave a more thoughtful and integrated approach to dating. You’re eager to gain clarity on your own patterns and blocks to intimacy.</li></ul><p><b>Program Elements + Cost</b></p><p>The course will run for 8 weeks, from early March through April 30th (the exact dates will be determined once the cohorts are in place).</p><ul><li>We’ll meet each week for two hours where you’ll receive individual coaching and group coaching. Folks are often worried they won’t get enough individualized attention, but I promise you, 1) You definitely will, and 2) The combination of group and individual support is even more powerful. Being able to witness others be individually coached on the same things you struggle with will illuminate your journey. The exact call time will meet the needs of everyone’s schedule.</li><li>Once you sign up, you’ll receive preliminary onboarding work to get you started.</li><li>Written work will be assigned between each group coaching call that will inform each week’s lesson and the focus of our time spent together. You’ll receive detailed individual feedback on this area of your work.</li><li>You’ll receive ongoing digital support via our intimate group chat. I’ll be there to answer short questions in between sessions and then you’ll have each other to lean on for support as you enter into this space of deep self discovery.</li><li>We will be looking intimately at each other’s stories, patterns, and histories, which will make the learning all around so much more powerful.</li></ul><p>If you’re curious to learn more, ask specific questions or get to know me, Clara, <a href="https://calendly.com/clara-artschwager/coaching-discovery-call-clone" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">schedule some time to chat here.</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:51:40Episode 48: What's the difference between coaching and therapy? How do we feel about matchmakers? And more.full<![CDATA[Episode 37: When, deep down, you don't believe a relationship is ever going to happen for you.]]>Sip + Swipe: How to Date More Intuitively (12/15 Masterclass)

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]]>Buzzsprout-11823243Tue, 06 Dec 2022 13:00:00 GMT<p><a href="https://calendly.com/clara-artschwager/sip-swipe-how-to-date-more-intuitively?month=2022-12" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Sip + Swipe: How to Date More Intuitively (12/15 Masterclass)<br /></a><br /><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/the-group" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Join ITILY's Free Community Group— Register for our January Session</a><br /><br /><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdatergroup" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Register for The Conscious Dater (save over $500 by joining before 12/31/22)</a><br /><br /><a href="https://view.flodesk.com/pages/6255906169d304440734a7ad" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Sign Up for the Newsletter</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:28:20Episode 37: When, deep down, you don't believe a relationship is ever going to happen for you.full<![CDATA[Episode 31: On meeting in your 30s vs your 20s. Is it *that* different?]]>Recently a listener wrote in with a question regarding meeting and forming a relationship in your 20s vs. your 30s. We tend to adopt the notion that meeting and developing a relationship in your 20s involves more "growing together," versus blending two more "complete" lives ( a product of your 30s).

In this episode I explore:

  • Why we attach to these types of generalizations
  • My own personal experience based on the relationships of my 20s and 30s
  • The level of growth that we didn't know existed and, subsequently, regardless of age, surfaces by way of *any* relationship
  • The element of choice within it all.  Namely what two people have to choose, together.
  • Where I was in my 20s versus my 30s at the onset of new relationships


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]]>Buzzsprout-11607656Tue, 01 Nov 2022 11:00:00 GMT<p>Recently a listener wrote in with a question regarding meeting and forming a relationship in your 20s vs. your 30s. We tend to adopt the notion that meeting and developing a relationship in your 20s involves more "growing together," versus blending two more "complete" lives ( a product of your 30s).<br /><br />In this episode I explore:</p><ul><li>Why we attach to these types of generalizations</li><li>My own personal experience based on the relationships of my 20s and 30s</li><li>The level of growth that we didn't know existed and, subsequently, regardless of age, surfaces by way of *any* relationship</li><li>The element of choice within it all.  Namely what two people have to choose, together.</li><li>Where I was in my 20s versus my 30s at the onset of new relationships</li></ul><p><br />Join the ITILY 'The Group': https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/the-group<br /><br />Book a 2 hour strategy session: https://calendly.com/clara-artschwager/2hourcoachingintensive?month=2022-11</p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:39:18Episode 31: On meeting in your 30s vs your 20s. Is it *that* different?full<![CDATA[Episode 25: On falling in love with women when you've historically only been with men.]]>Exactly three years ago, Lauren McBrayer and I crossed paths at a writer's retreat in rural Connecticut lead by Dani Shapiro. It was an intimate 48 hours, and in the midst of it all, a seed was planted for two things: Me revealing to her that my first romantic relationship had been with woman, her revealing to me she was in love with a woman but married (to a man) with three kids. In the weeks and months following the retreat, we talked endlessly on the phone, left long and windy voice notes, and started to build a friendship around this shared knowing in our hearts: I'm straight but I don't always feel straight. 

A lot has changed since then, and I'll leave most of it in today's podcast for you to find out, but know that what came out of that experience was not only a beautiful friendship but a stunning book. That would be Lauren's novel, LIKE A HOUSE ON FIRE. 

Get to know Lauren and buy her book here: https://www.instagram.com/laurenmcbrayerwrites/

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]]>Buzzsprout-11264056Fri, 16 Sep 2022 12:00:00 GMT<p>Exactly three years ago, Lauren McBrayer and I crossed paths at a writer's retreat in rural Connecticut lead by Dani Shapiro. It was an intimate 48 hours, and in the midst of it all, a seed was planted for two things: Me revealing to her that my first romantic relationship had been with woman, her revealing to me she was in love with a woman but married (to a man) with three kids. In the weeks and months following the retreat, we talked endlessly on the phone, left long and windy voice notes, and started to build a friendship around this shared knowing in our hearts: I'm straight but I don't always feel straight. <br /><br />A lot has changed since then, and I'll leave most of it in today's podcast for you to find out, but know that what came out of that experience was not only a beautiful friendship but a stunning book. That would be Lauren's novel, LIKE A HOUSE ON FIRE. <br /><br />Get to know Lauren and buy her book here: https://www.instagram.com/laurenmcbrayerwrites/</p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:54:36Episode 25: On falling in love with women when you've historically only been with men.full<![CDATA[Episode 19. Why we *think* dating is a number's game—but why it actually ISN'T.]]>Ever been stuck in that cycle where you go on a bunch of dates (you’ll literally say yes to anyone), feel like they all go horribly, swear off dating for some number of time, find yourself yearning to find someone again and then say, “Well, it is a numbers game so I better just start dating again?” 

Here’s why it’s not a numbers game, though; the people we bring into our world - whether we simply cross paths with them or find ourselves drawn and attracted to them - is driven by old patterns that thread their way through our lives from a very young age. 

We attach to the “numbers game” concept to give ourselves a veiled sense of control about our romantic outcomes, as if going on more dates “increases our chances.” It’s a way to rationalize and make sense of the situation rather than zooming out, looking at the big picture, and making sense of the patterns that are keeping us in the cycle we’re so ready to get out of.

If you want to hear more about how old conditioning affects dating and how to start breaking these patterns, tune into last week’s episode: Am I *actually* feeling this in my gut? Or is this just old conditioning?

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]]>Buzzsprout-11068768Tue, 09 Aug 2022 10:00:00 GMT<p>Ever been stuck in that cycle where you go on a bunch of dates (you’ll literally say yes to anyone), feel like they all go horribly, swear off dating for some number of time, find yourself yearning to find someone again and then say, “Well, it is a numbers game so I better just start dating again?” </p><p>Here’s why it’s not a numbers game, though; the people we bring into our world - whether we simply cross paths with them or find ourselves drawn and attracted to them - is driven by old patterns that thread their way through our lives from a very young age. <br /><br />We attach to the “numbers game” concept to give ourselves a veiled sense of control about our romantic outcomes, as if going on more dates “increases our chances.” It’s a way to rationalize and make sense of the situation rather than zooming out, looking at the big picture, and making sense of the patterns that are keeping us in the cycle we’re so ready to get out of.</p><p>If you want to hear more about how old conditioning affects dating and how to start breaking these patterns, tune into last week’s episode:<a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/content/episode-5-25cxd-8ncwd-rh65g-m4d52-3ybdh-wc5j4-cwtjz-dp3m8-4sgpw-ts32a-na6p7-tebth-bcalw" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow"> Am I *actually* feeling this in my gut? Or is this just old conditioning?</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:32:00Episode 19. Why we *think* dating is a number's game—but why it actually ISN'T.full<![CDATA[Episode 7: When all your friends are getting married and it's just you that's single (and other later bloomer, woes).]]>I didn’t have sex until I was 21 years old, but does that make me a late bloomer? And does it really even matter?

Recently, a listener emailed in, saying she, too, was a late bloomer, and that struggle was still manifesting in her life (well into her 30s).

Today’s episode is all about that — shaking loose the identity of being a late bloomer, but even more so, understanding how these identities that date way back still directly impact the way we live right now. From the job we have to our relationship status to the food we eat (and everything in between).

We’ll also get into the evolving nature of friendships in our late 20s and early 30s—how some folks branch off and others stay close, and the grief that comes along with that.

This is a great episode for you if:

  • You struggle with feeling left out from friend groups that are already engaged or married
  • You still feel like the odd man out, the “different,” one, similar to the vibe you carried in high school
  • You’re curious to learn how a “late bloomer,” transitioned to feeling radically confident in dating— and how doing the same for other people

Finally! A few things mentioned in this episode:

  • There are a few new private coaching spots open for summer: https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/private-coaching
  • I’m hosting my first ever retreat! This fall, in the Hudson Valley. It’s going to be beautiful and stunning and all the things. Learn more here: https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/retreat 

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]]>Buzzsprout-10671599Tue, 24 May 2022 13:00:00 GMT<p>I didn’t have sex until I was 21 years old, but does that make me a late bloomer? And does it really even matter?</p><p>Recently, a listener emailed in, saying she, too, was a late bloomer, and that struggle was still manifesting in her life (well into her 30s).</p><p>Today’s episode is all about that — shaking loose the identity of being a late bloomer, but even more so, understanding how these identities that date way back still directly impact the way we live right now. From the job we have to our relationship status to the food we eat (and everything in between).</p><p>We’ll also get into the evolving nature of friendships in our late 20s and early 30s—how some folks branch off and others stay close, and the grief that comes along with that.</p><p>This is a great episode for you if:</p><ul><li>You struggle with feeling left out from friend groups that are already engaged or married</li><li>You still feel like the odd man out, the “different,” one, similar to the vibe you carried in high school</li><li>You’re curious to learn how a “late bloomer,” transitioned to feeling radically confident in dating— and how doing the same for other people</li></ul><p>Finally! A few things mentioned in this episode:</p><ul><li>There are a few new private coaching spots open for summer: <a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/private-coaching" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/private-coaching</a></li><li>I’m hosting my first ever retreat! This fall, in the Hudson Valley. It’s going to be beautiful and stunning and all the things. Learn more here: https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/retreat </li></ul><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:41:01Episode 7: When all your friends are getting married and it's just you that's single (and other later bloomer, woes).full<![CDATA[Episode 2: You don't need to be good at flirting.]]>A few weeks ago, my editor at mindbodygreen reached out about an article related to flirting. She was curious to get my thoughts on it as it related to new ways of flirting (as we slowly rise from the pandemic), old ways that needed to go and so forth. It got me thinking about the act in general. Was it learned or inherent? Could someone become better at flirting by way of words or content? I never even thought of myself, a Dating and Relationships Coach, as skilled at flirting, and yet I’d had successful relationships….so what gives? In this episode, we’ll dig into these questions, along with:

  • What flirting is really about
  • How reading about flirting ‘tactics’ doesn’t actually make anyone better at flirting
  • How more traditional dating content + rhetoric can pull us further from ourselves
  • How to actually find more ease in flirting

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]]>Buzzsprout-10464460Tue, 19 Apr 2022 12:00:00 GMT<p>A few weeks ago, my editor at <em>mindbodygreen</em> reached out about an article related to flirting. She was curious to get my thoughts on it as it related to new ways of flirting (as we slowly rise from the pandemic), old ways that needed to go and so forth. It got me thinking about the act in general. Was it learned or inherent? Could someone become better at flirting by way of words or content? I never even thought of myself, a Dating and Relationships Coach, as skilled at flirting, and yet I’d had successful relationships….so what gives? In this episode, we’ll dig into these questions, along with:</p><ul><li>What flirting is <em>really</em> about</li><li>How reading about flirting ‘tactics’ doesn’t actually make anyone better at flirting</li><li>How more traditional dating content + rhetoric can pull us further from ourselves</li><li>How to actually find more ease in flirting</li></ul><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:28:15Episode 2: You don't need to be good at flirting.full<![CDATA[I Think I Like You: The Trailer]]>Coming April 12th, 2022. Hosted by Clara Artschwager, I Think I Like You is a podcast for the woman who is worn out by traditional dating advice. She's hungry for a conversation that explores questions like:  What has made dating so hard?  Why, despite all the therapy I've done, am I still in the state I'm in? How do I co-create a life with another without losing myself? What if I'm not even sure if I *want* a relationship in the first place? And so much more. 


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]]>Buzzsprout-10359514Fri, 01 Apr 2022 11:00:00 GMT<p>Coming April 12th, 2022. Hosted by Clara Artschwager, I Think I Like You is a podcast for the woman who is worn out by traditional dating advice. She's hungry for a conversation that explores questions like:  What has made dating so hard?  Why, despite all the therapy I've done, am I still in the state I'm in? How do I co-create a life with another without losing myself? What if I'm not even sure if I *want* a relationship in the first place? And so much more. <br /><br /><br /></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:04:40I Think I Like You: The Trailerfull<![CDATA[Choose your partner based on their flaws, not the qualities you love about them and so much more with Kerry Docherty | Ep 168]]>I didn't know Kerry's name until a few weeks ago, when I, thankfully, caught wind of her soon-to-be-released memoir, Selfish. After reading a brief description of the book, I pre-ordered it and tore through the pages in a week.

Kerry is not just the writer, but the founder of the beloved clothing brand, Faherty. While I adore the brand's pieces hanging in my closet, I'd say I'm even more thrilled to have a dog-eared copy of Kerry's book tucked in my bookshelves. Much is written about marriage these days, but few books pull back the veil with such raw honesty. While Kerry's book is largely a story of self-discovery, personal evolution, and what it looks like for us (as women) to live into our fullest selves, the picture she paints of her marriage is a true gift.

For anyone, at any stage of the relationship journey, I cannot recommend this book enough.

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]]>Buzzsprout-19166687Wed, 20 May 2026 16:00:00 GMT<p>I didn't know Kerry's name until a few weeks ago, when I, thankfully, caught wind of her soon-to-be-released memoir, <a href="https://kerrydocherty.co/books" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Selfish</a>. After reading a brief description of the book, I pre-ordered it and tore through the pages in a week.</p><p><a href="https://kerrydocherty.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Kerry</a> is not just the writer, but the founder of the beloved clothing brand, <a href="https://fahertybrand.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Faherty.</a> While I adore the brand's pieces hanging in my closet, I'd say I'm even more thrilled to have a dog-eared copy of Kerry's book tucked in my bookshelves. Much is written about marriage these days, but few books pull back the veil with such raw honesty. While Kerry's book is largely a story of self-discovery, personal evolution, and what it looks like for us (as women) to live into our fullest selves, the picture she paints of her marriage is a true gift.</p><p>For anyone, at any stage of the relationship journey, I cannot recommend this book enough.</p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no01:03:11Choose your partner based on their flaws, not the qualities you love about them and so much more with Kerry Docherty | Ep 168full<![CDATA[On choosing your hard in life, the power of your ability to tolerate uncertainty and more with Megan Hellerer | Ep 156]]>This week I've invited my dear friend and colleague, Megan Hellerer, back on the podcast. Megan was on the podcast in the fall of 2024 for the launch of her first book, Directional Living. Here's that first episode.

I wanted to have her back on to discuss:

  • What life is like as a 41 year old mom with a 2.5 year old, a year after writing her book
  • Have her discuss how the life she's living feels like her dream, but never one she would have imagined
  • The unique let down she experienced (as many authors do) after putting her big project into the world

We also dig into a rich discussion around this generation and younger generations' inability to tolerate uncertainty, and how the ability to do so is crucial when it comes to pursuing and experiencing that which you want in this precious life. I found myself furiously taking notes and contemplating my year ahead in a whole new way.

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]]>Buzzsprout-18598790Wed, 04 Feb 2026 08:00:00 GMT<p>This week I've invited my dear friend and colleague, <a href="https://meganhellerer.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Megan Hellerer</a>, back on the podcast. Megan was on the podcast in the fall of 2024 for the launch of her first book, Directional Living. <a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/content/episode-53" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Here's that first episode.</a></p><p>I wanted to have her back on to discuss:</p><ul><li>What life is like as a 41 year old mom with a 2.5 year old, a year after writing her book</li><li>Have her discuss how the life she's living feels like her dream, but never one she would have imagined</li><li>The unique let down she experienced (as many authors do) after putting her big project into the world</li></ul><p>We also dig into a rich discussion around this generation and younger generations' inability to tolerate uncertainty, and how the ability to do so is crucial when it comes to pursuing and experiencing that which you want in this precious life. I found myself furiously taking notes and contemplating my year ahead in a whole new way.</p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/work-with-me" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Private coaching spaces are open.</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no01:11:18On choosing your hard in life, the power of your ability to tolerate uncertainty and more with Megan Hellerer | Ep 156full<![CDATA[Two things I wish I'd done when past relationships, situation-ships, and flings came to an end | Ep 151]]>Tis the season, or so it seems, to reflect on all I wish I'd done differently. While these breakups and ruptures I speak of are from a few years back, the things I wish I'd done around them to better integrate the pain and learn from my own mistakes, still (very much) ring true in life. First and foremost, I wish I hadn't mainlined so much self help content, such that I drowned out my own lived experience from the loss. Second, I wish I'd had more intimate and difficult conversations with those that I hurt, those I faced conflict with, and those that I was losing.

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]]>Buzzsprout-18357171Wed, 17 Dec 2025 08:00:00 GMT<p>Tis the season, or so it seems, to reflect on all I wish I'd done differently. While these breakups and ruptures I speak of are from a few years back, the things I wish I'd done around them to better integrate the pain and learn from my own mistakes, still (very much) ring true in life. First and foremost, I wish I hadn't mainlined so much self help content, such that I drowned out my own lived experience from the loss. Second, I wish I'd had more intimate and difficult conversations with those that I hurt, those I faced conflict with, and those that I was losing.</p><p>Connect with me on Substack: https://claraartschwager.substack.com/</p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:23:52Two things I wish I'd done when past relationships, situation-ships, and flings came to an end | Ep 151full<![CDATA[Let your (dating) life hurt. Like really, really hurt.| Ep 149]]>It always astounds me how often clients will say to me: "I know, I know. I just need to get OVER this." To which I reply, "It sounds like that really hurts. I don't think you do."

Our ability to override and deny the truth of our inner worlds and emotional landscapes in this heavily systemized dating world is doing more harm than good. Frankly, it's not doing any good at all!

If you're someone who hops from date to date (or relationship problem), loves to busy yourself with work, social engagements, etc, to keep any more messy feelings at bay, this episode is for you.

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]]>Buzzsprout-18267101Wed, 03 Dec 2025 08:00:00 GMT<p>It always astounds me how often clients will say to me: "I know, I know. I just need to get OVER this." To which I reply, "It sounds like that really hurts. I don't think you do."</p><p>Our ability to override and deny the truth of our inner worlds and emotional landscapes in this heavily systemized dating world is doing more harm than good. Frankly, it's not doing any good at all!</p><p>If you're someone who hops from date to date (or relationship problem), loves to busy yourself with work, social engagements, etc, to keep any more messy feelings at bay, this episode is for you.</p><p>https://claraartschwager.substack.com/</p><p><br /></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:17:41Let your (dating) life hurt. Like really, really hurt.| Ep 149full<![CDATA[What if my job/ travel schedule/lifestyle makes it *impossible* to date? | Ep 98]]>This was the question that slid into my DMs a few weeks back. Well, a portion of it. It was two fold:

  • How do I date when I literally travel all the time for work?
  • How do we all date in a way that works best for us?

The answer(s) here, might seem simple, but I think this episode will very much surprise you. It surprised me!

If you're someone who:

  • Travels a lot for work
  • Works odd hours
  • Works ridiculously long hours!
  • Works regular hours + and a "regular" job but is still utterly exhausted and turned off by the idea of dating...

...this episode is going to resonate. It's also going to take a macheté to your mindset, and give you a whoooole host of things to chew on, well beyond "How do I make time to date?"

This episode will also hit home if you feel like they way you're being "told" to date feels like you're a square peg being forced into a round hole. Sit back, relax, and prepare to have your heart soften.

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]]>Buzzsprout-14620455Tue, 05 Mar 2024 08:00:00 GMT<p>This was the question that slid into my DMs a few weeks back. Well, a portion of it. It was two fold:</p><ul><li>How do I date when I literally travel all the time for work?</li><li>How do we all date in a way that works <em>best</em> for us?</li></ul><p>The answer(s) here, might seem simple, but I think this episode will very much surprise you. It surprised me!<br /><br />If you're someone who:</p><ul><li>Travels a lot for work</li><li>Works odd hours</li><li>Works ridiculously long hours!</li><li>Works regular hours + and a "regular" job but is still utterly exhausted and turned off by the idea of dating...</li></ul><p>...this episode is going to resonate. It's also going to take a macheté to your mindset, and give you a whoooole host of things to chew on, well beyond "How do I make time to date?"<br /><br />This episode will also hit home if you feel like they way you're being "told" to date feels like you're a square peg being forced into a round hole. Sit back, relax, and prepare to have your heart soften.<br /><br /></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no01:02:57What if my job/ travel schedule/lifestyle makes it *impossible* to date? | Ep 98full<![CDATA[Why it's so damn hard to build confidence + self trust in dating, relationships + sex (and how we actually go about doing it) | Ep 81]]>Recently a listener reach out with the following question:

"Hey Clara — I'm 35 and have never been in a relationship or had sex. I find most content around self confidence and self trust to be over simplified, somewhat condescending, and bordering on toxic positivity. Do you have a way you work through this with your clients?"

The short answer, yes. 

In this episode I dig into:

  • How I help my clients build more self confidence and self trust in the space of dating, sex, and beyond
  • How I help my clients understand why they lack such confidence and trust in these areas — and how those feelings are completely valid
  • How attempting to just build more confidence and build more self trust — especially through social media platitudes — only works against us
  • How validating your lack of self confidence and self trust in these areas is the key to lessening their power
  • How understanding the root of your low confidence and weak self trust will unlock the ways in which you can shift how you feel in these areas
  • How shame plays a role 
  • How to change our internal narratives such that feelings of, "I don't know what I'm doing," "I don't know how to date," "I'm doing it al wrong," become less and less powerful 


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]]>Buzzsprout-13876807Wed, 01 Nov 2023 00:00:00 GMT<p>Recently a listener reach out with the following question:<br /><br />"Hey Clara — I'm 35 and have never been in a relationship or had sex. I find most content around self confidence and self trust to be over simplified, somewhat condescending, and bordering on toxic positivity. Do you have a way you work through this with your clients?"<br /><br />The short answer, yes. <br /><br />In this episode I dig into:</p><ul><li>How I help my clients build more self confidence and self trust in the space of dating, sex, and beyond</li><li>How I help my clients understand why they lack such confidence and trust in these areas — and how those feelings are completely valid</li><li>How attempting to just build more confidence and build more self trust — especially through social media platitudes — only works against us</li><li>How validating your lack of self confidence and self trust in these areas is the key to lessening their power</li><li>How understanding the root of your low confidence and weak self trust will unlock the ways in which you can shift how you feel in these areas</li><li>How shame plays a role </li><li>How to change our internal narratives such that feelings of, "I don't know what I'm doing," "I don't know how to date," "I'm doing it al wrong," become less and less powerful </li></ul><p><br /><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/content/episode-50" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Episodes Referenced: What a *Real* Sexual Journey Looks Like</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:27:28Why it's so damn hard to build confidence + self trust in dating, relationships + sex (and how we actually go about doing it) | Ep 81full<![CDATA[Most dating advice is doing a bang up job of making us feel like we're not doing enough | Ep 76]]>Have you ever read a bit of dating advice, only to implement what it said and have it either a) not work, or b) make you feel worse about yourself? #raiseshand

To be clear, this episode is not about throwing anyone under the bus, nor saying that MY advice is perfect. Hardly. Rather, it's to illuminate the landscape of dating wisdom, how most of it only scratches the surface of our intimacy and romance obstacles, but delivers big promises. You'll meet you person! All will work out! And then you don't and tell yourself you're doing it all wrong.

Much like a crash diet that delivers flat abs in three days, none of this stuff really gets at the root. I.e. the core issue that's making your pursuit of partnership both not feel good and not shake out how you would like. But it isn't all doom's day over here — I'll be working you through how to get to more of the foundational obstacles you're facing *and* work through them. This one's a juicy one!

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]]>Buzzsprout-13528298Mon, 04 Sep 2023 21:00:00 GMT<p>Have you ever read a bit of dating advice, only to implement what it said and have it either a) not work, or b) make you feel worse about yourself? #raiseshand<br /><br />To be clear, this episode is not about throwing anyone under the bus, nor saying that MY advice is perfect. Hardly. Rather, it's to illuminate the landscape of dating wisdom, how most of it only scratches the surface of our intimacy and romance obstacles, but delivers big promises. You'll meet you person! All will work out! And then you don't and tell yourself you're doing it all wrong.<br /><br />Much like a crash diet that delivers flat abs in three days, none of this stuff really gets at the root. I.e. the core issue that's making your pursuit of partnership both not feel good and not shake out how you would like. But it isn't all doom's day over here — I'll be working you through how to get to more of the foundational obstacles you're facing *and* work through them. This one's a juicy one!</p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:37:44Most dating advice is doing a bang up job of making us feel like we're not doing enough | Ep 76full<![CDATA[On stepping into marriage and motherhood in your 40s | Ep 77]]>In today's enlightening episode, join me as I have a deep conversation with Kerri Keaton, a corporate executive turned human design specialist, a devoted mother, a thought leader, and a change maker. Kerri's unique journey is a testament to the possibilities that exist beyond societal norms, as she entered into marriage at 41 and embraced motherhood at 45. Her story is a beacon of hope for the many women in their late 30s and 40s who yearn for the experiences of partnership and parenthood, but rarely see these paths modeled beyond their mid-30s.

In this episode, we explore:

  1. Kerri's Relationship History: Discover what led Kerri to a fulfilling and deeply aligned marriage, even after crossing the age of 40.
  2. The 20+ Year Desire for Children: Learn about Kerri's unwavering desire for children and the transformative journey she embarked on to fulfill this dream.
  3. Divine Timing: Gain insights into how Kerri now perceives the divine timing of her journey into motherhood, offering inspiration to those who may be on a similar path.
  4. The Power of Intention: Delve into Kerri's experiences with dating and how she successfully called her husband into her life through intention and alignment.

This episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking wisdom, inspiration, and a fresh perspective on love, family, and the pursuit of one's deepest desires. Join us as we navigate the remarkable journey of embracing marriage and motherhood in your 40s.

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]]>Buzzsprout-13656626Tue, 26 Sep 2023 14:00:00 GMT<p>In today's enlightening episode, join me as I have a deep conversation with Kerri Keaton, a corporate executive turned human design specialist, a devoted mother, a thought leader, and a change maker. Kerri's unique journey is a testament to the possibilities that exist beyond societal norms, as she entered into marriage at 41 and embraced motherhood at 45. Her story is a beacon of hope for the many women in their late 30s and 40s who yearn for the experiences of partnership and parenthood, but rarely see these paths modeled beyond their mid-30s.</p><p>In this episode, we explore:</p><ol><li>Kerri's Relationship History: Discover what led Kerri to a fulfilling and deeply aligned marriage, even after crossing the age of 40.</li><li>The 20+ Year Desire for Children: Learn about Kerri's unwavering desire for children and the transformative journey she embarked on to fulfill this dream.</li><li>Divine Timing: Gain insights into how Kerri now perceives the divine timing of her journey into motherhood, offering inspiration to those who may be on a similar path.</li><li>The Power of Intention: Delve into Kerri's experiences with dating and how she successfully called her husband into her life through intention and alignment.</li></ol><p>This episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking wisdom, inspiration, and a fresh perspective on love, family, and the pursuit of one's deepest desires. Join us as we navigate the remarkable journey of embracing marriage and motherhood in your 40s.</p><p>Work w/ Kerri: https://kerrikeaton.com/<br />On giving up ambition: https://www.instagram.com/p/CvhkaJ6uk9E/?img_index=1</p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no01:31:42On stepping into marriage and motherhood in your 40s | Ep 77full<![CDATA[Part III: How our drive to be good, to be high achievers, to put other people's needs before our own keeps us single or stuck in unhealthy relationships | Ep 120]]>Today's episode marks part three in our series exploring patterns of the eldest daughter/hero child, and how that either leaves us chronically single or in really unfulfilling relationships — or some mix of the two!

Today's episode gets into how the behaviors we adopt, that initially serve as forms of self preservation and receiving love, like accomplishing a lot professionally, suppressing our own emotions and prioritizing others, always being on and striving — all things that have helped us advance in life — are, in many ways, in direct conflict with the behaviors and skills that build healthy partnership. That allow us to connect deeply with others, be supported and loved by others, be seen and witnessed in our authenticity.

In the episode I'm breaking down: How we do this, why we perpetuate this cycle, why changing these behaviors can be SO uncomfortable, but how we go about doing so.

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]]>Buzzsprout-15593329Fri, 16 Aug 2024 13:00:00 GMT<p>Today's episode marks part three in our series exploring patterns of the eldest daughter/hero child, and how that either leaves us chronically single or in really unfulfilling relationships — or some mix of the two!<br /><br />Today's episode gets into how the behaviors we adopt, that initially serve as forms of self preservation and receiving love, like accomplishing a lot professionally, suppressing our own emotions and prioritizing others, always being on and striving — all things that have helped us advance in life — are, in many ways, in direct conflict with the behaviors and skills that build healthy partnership. That allow us to connect deeply with others, be supported and loved by others, be seen and witnessed in our authenticity.<br /><br />In the episode I'm breaking down: How we do this, why we perpetuate this cycle, why changing these behaviors can be SO uncomfortable, but how we go about doing so.<br /><br />Ways to work with me right now:<br /><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/work-with-me" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Private Coaching</a><br /><a href="https://calendly.com/clara-artschwager/situationshipsoother" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">The Situationship-Soother</a><br /><a href="https://calendly.com/clara-artschwager/breakupdivorcereview?month=2024-08" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">The Breakup/Post-Divorce Review</a><br /><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/sanity" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Online Courses</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:38:47Part III: How our drive to be good, to be high achievers, to put other people's needs before our own keeps us single or stuck in unhealthy relationships | Ep 120full<![CDATA[<Mini Ep> Why do women who don’t do the work, who are are just as messed up as the rest of us, find great people? Why does it just never happen for me?]]>I love this question and even more so, this listener for asking it. In this quick mini ep, I'm expanding upon the following points below — i.e. reasons why I think this is the case:

  • There are people (men/women alike) who say or think they’re doing the work,  but they’re just skirting issues, not really looking squarely at themselves, playing the victim – and that’s why they don’t have the relationship they want. It’s very comfortable to stay stuck in our sh*t.
  • A lot of people’s relationships look way better or more fulfilling from the outside. We’re a culture steeped in performative behavior. People stay because it’s more comfortable, perhaps, to face the “devil you know,” versus risk change.
  • A lot of people get into relationships that seem good from the outside looking in, but just repeat the same patterns of their past, and they’re miserable.
  • Some of those people repeat the same patterns and they don’t care— and that is totally fine. That’s sufficient for them. 
  • With that, I think there’s a way of being TOO steeped in working on ourselves, which ultimately holds us back from allowing ourselves to connect deeply to anyone, because we have this strict notion of what a person and relationship is supposed to feel like. We’re projecting all our needs for safety and fulfillment onto another person and circumstance, versus creating that for ourselves.
  • Not all people are meant to be in long term relationships — marriage is, in many ways, a dated institution. Single life can be a great life.
  • People think they want a relationship that looks a certain way, a certain type of partner, but their desires are more rooted in ego rather that truth, authenticity and desire. So they never meet anyone.

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]]>Buzzsprout-15532932Mon, 05 Aug 2024 15:00:00 GMT<p>I love this question and even more so, this listener for asking it. In this quick mini ep, I'm expanding upon the following points below — i.e. reasons why I think this is the case:</p><ul><li>There are people (men/women alike) who say or think they’re doing the work,  but they’re just skirting issues, not really looking squarely at themselves, playing the victim – and that’s why they don’t have the relationship they want. It’s very comfortable to stay stuck in our sh*t.</li><li>A lot of people’s relationships look way better or more fulfilling from the outside. We’re a culture steeped in performative behavior. People stay because it’s more comfortable, perhaps, to face the “devil you know,” versus risk change.</li><li>A lot of people get into relationships that seem good from the outside looking in, but just repeat the same patterns of their past, and they’re miserable.</li><li>Some of those people repeat the same patterns and they don’t care— and that is totally fine. That’s sufficient for them. </li><li>With that, I think there’s a way of being TOO steeped in working on ourselves, which ultimately holds us back from allowing ourselves to connect deeply to anyone, because we have this strict notion of what a person and relationship is supposed to feel like. We’re projecting all our needs for safety and fulfillment onto another person and circumstance, versus creating that for ourselves.</li><li>Not all people are meant to be in long term relationships — marriage is, in many ways, a dated institution. Single life can be a great life.</li><li>People think they want a relationship that looks a certain way, a certain type of partner, but their desires are more rooted in ego rather that truth, authenticity and desire. So they never meet anyone.</li></ul><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:14:28<Mini Ep> Why do women who don’t do the work, who are are just as messed up as the rest of us, find great people? Why does it just never happen for me?full<![CDATA[How making a list of all the things you want in a partner is working against you, not for you | Ep 102]]>In today's episode, I'm digging into a recent question from a listener:

Hey Clara! What are your thoughts on a long list of requirements for a partner?

Oooh this is *such* a good one, and while I'm all for getting clarity on what you desire and need in a partner, I find when we start talking lists (and very specific ones), they're not that helpful.

A list can give us a false sense of clarity and control. It can also keep us from the deeper work we're being called to do that will actually  lead to change in our romantic status. 

This episode will cover:

  • Why the feeling of making a list about what we desire in a partner feels so good but often has little impact
  • How having a really tight and restrictive list has less to do with being clear about what you want in a partner and more to do with a fear of getting close to someone of beliefs that you aren't deserving of what you want
  • How our lists can often be informed by societal or parental conditioning and not our true needs
  • How there's a greater wisdom, a medicine, so to speak of that which we need in a partner— that can only really be experienced, not written in a list
  • How to not (too quickly) write off potential partners 
  • How to maintain your standards but remain consistently curious in your pursuit of partnership


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]]>Buzzsprout-14763245Tue, 02 Apr 2024 08:00:00 GMT<p>In today's episode, I'm digging into a recent question from a listener:<br /><br /><em>Hey Clara! What are your thoughts on a long list of requirements for a partner?<br /><br /></em>Oooh this is *such* a good one, and while I'm all for getting clarity on what you desire and need in a partner, I find when we start talking lists (and very specific ones), they're not that helpful.<br /><br />A list can give us a false sense of clarity and control. It can also keep us from the deeper work we're being called to do that will <em>actually</em>  lead to change in our romantic status. <br /><br />This episode will cover:</p><ul><li>Why the feeling of making a list about what we desire in a partner <em>feels</em> so good but often has little impact</li><li>How having a really tight and restrictive list has less to do with being clear about what you want in a partner and more to do with a fear of getting close to someone of beliefs that you aren't deserving of what you want</li><li>How our lists can often be informed by societal or parental conditioning and not our true needs</li><li>How there's a greater wisdom, a medicine, so to speak of that which we need in a partner— that can only really be experienced, not written in a list</li><li>How to not (too quickly) write off potential partners </li><li>How to maintain your standards but remain consistently curious in your pursuit of partnership</li></ul><p><br /></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:44:48How making a list of all the things you want in a partner is working against you, not for you | Ep 102full<![CDATA[The over-therapized nature of social media + how it’s effing with our expectations of life and relationships | Ep 97]]>Are you easily absorbed by therapeutic claims on social media? Do you read a post and then think...

  • I think I have a disorganized attachment style
  • I think the person I'm dating is love bombing me
  • I think my boss is a narcissist

Perhaps there's truth to all these claims. But in my opinion, we're caught up in an era where the information we're being fed — and the ways our brains are processing it — isn't always helping us. Isn't always allowing us to see clearly. I believe it's distorting our understanding of people and experiences in the dating processes, and limiting our capacity for fulfillment in relationships.

This episode will resonate with anyone who:

  • Finds themselves overanalyzing individuals they're dating, thinking they can "catch" something to figure this person out and avoid hurt
  • Is quick to label people as narcissists, relationships as toxic, etc
  • Is highly focused on things like fixing their attachment style, dating in the right way, controlling the outcome of a relationship — but is distant from their emotional experience
  • Gets lost in the specifics of a person — if they have this job, if they look this way — they're safe, they're good to date, they won't hurt me


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]]>Buzzsprout-14584926Tue, 27 Feb 2024 12:00:00 GMT<p>Are you easily absorbed by therapeutic claims on social media? Do you read a post and then think...</p><ul><li>I think I have a disorganized attachment style</li><li>I think the person I'm dating is love bombing me</li><li>I think my boss is a narcissist</li></ul><p>Perhaps there's truth to all these claims. But in my opinion, we're caught up in an era where the information we're being fed — and the ways our brains are processing it — isn't always helping us. Isn't always allowing us to see clearly. I believe it's distorting our understanding of people and experiences in the dating processes, and limiting our capacity for fulfillment in relationships.<br /><br />This episode will resonate with anyone who:</p><ul><li>Finds themselves overanalyzing individuals they're dating, thinking they can "catch" something to figure this person out and avoid hurt</li><li>Is quick to label people as narcissists, relationships as toxic, etc</li><li>Is highly focused on things like fixing their attachment style, dating in the right way, controlling the outcome of a relationship — but is distant from their emotional experience</li><li>Gets lost in the specifics of a person — if they have this job, if they look this way — they're safe, they're good to date, they won't hurt me</li></ul><p><br />Links mentioned:<br /><a href="https://markmanson.net/podcast/lori-gottlieb" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">https://markmanson.net/podcast/lori-gottlieb</a><br /><a href="https://markmanson.net/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">https://markmanson.net/</a><br /><a href="https://lorigottlieb.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">https://lorigottlieb.com/</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:46:07The over-therapized nature of social media + how it’s effing with our expectations of life and relationships | Ep 97full<![CDATA[Everyone is IN it and here's the deal w/ Psychological Astrologer Dani Beinstein | Episode 67]]>" Real love stories are inconvenient. As a culture we’ve thrown away romanticism in favor of extreme practicality. "

Earlier the year, on the heals of my convo w/ Dani Beinstein, we said "Let's connect in August and record again late summer!" And left it at that.

But then, in the last few months, the consistencies arising in myself and my clients was so profound, I had to reach out again. Those consistencies weren't just housed in relationship but in this grander evolution of safely. Namely:

  • The death of our "good girls"
  • Breaking from conditioning in even more radical ways
  • Dropping into the body and into the feminine

There's an overarching energy of "There's no going back. Things can't continue the way they have been." But in a good way. Truly. At the end of my conversation with Dani it felt like all the stress had drained from my body. I hope this episode does the same thing for you.

Themes discussed in this episode:

  • Coming to terms with patterns + ways of being/living that are really no longer serving us — like we've been aware of them for a while but it's finally like this has to go
  • The greater "sea change," as Dani puts it, we're seeing as a society, but predominantly as women in the careers we've built, the lives we've built, and what our hearts are craving
  • How the love stories we attach to, are mostly ones of inconvenience — star crossed lovers, complete opposites, the city girl who surrenders to the cowboy, etc.

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]]>Buzzsprout-13116899Wed, 28 Jun 2023 00:00:00 GMT<p><em>" Real love stories are inconvenient. As a culture we’ve thrown away romanticism in favor of extreme practicality. "</em></p><p>Earlier the year, on the heals of my <a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/content/episode-54" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">convo w/ Dani Beinstein</a>, we said "Let's connect in August and record again late summer!" And left it at that.<br /><br />But then, in the last few months, the consistencies arising in myself and my clients was so profound, I had to reach out again. Those consistencies weren't just housed in relationship but in this grander evolution of safely. Namely:</p><ul><li>The death of our "good girls"</li><li>Breaking from conditioning in even more radical ways</li><li>Dropping into the body and into the feminine</li></ul><p>There's an overarching energy of "There's no going back. Things can't continue the way they have been." But in a <em>good</em> way. Truly. At the end of my conversation with Dani it felt like all the stress had drained from my body. I hope this episode does the same thing for you.<br /><br />Themes discussed in this episode:</p><ul><li>Coming to terms with patterns + ways of being/living that are really no longer serving us — like we've been aware of them for a while but it's finally like this <em>has</em> to go</li><li>The greater "sea change," as Dani puts it, we're seeing as a society, but predominantly as women in the careers we've built, the lives we've built, and what our hearts are craving</li><li>How the love stories we attach to, are mostly ones of inconvenience — star crossed lovers, complete opposites, the city girl who surrenders to the cowboy, etc.</li></ul><p><a href="https://www.daniellebeinstein.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Dani's Website</a><br /><a href="https://www.instagram.com/danibeinstein/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Dani's Instagram</a></p><p><br /><br /></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no01:18:31Everyone is IN it and here's the deal w/ Psychological Astrologer Dani Beinstein | Episode 67full<![CDATA[The unique struggles overachievers face in dating + relationships | Ep 71]]>I meet so many women —often in their later 30s— who say something along the lines of "I focused on my career, that's why I'm single." They're no stranger to hard work. They're the quintessential over achiever and they've been that way for as long as they can remember.

But is their "focus on work," really the reason they're still single? This isn't about pointing fingers or laying blame, this is about getting curious to the consistent pattern and narrative.

In this episode, I'm digging into the learned behaviors of overachievers and how that actually comes in direct conflict with meeting someone who is emotionally available and ready for a relationship. 

This episode will resonate with anyone who:

  • Identifies as an overachiever and also struggles to find the relationship they want
  • Finds a lot of safety in work — whether it's a job or schoolwork, they've always been the one to work hard
  • Either struggles to meet someone or is in a relationship but they feel like they're always the one giving more, making sacrifices, etc
  • How the nature of our nervous system is actually attuned to repel the thing we say we want
  • How are hyper-independence — our ability to do "everything on our own," the thing we often pride in ourselves in serving as a major obstacle in our ability to meet someone
  • How finding our worth in doing — working, achieving, etc, isn't helping us

And so much more. This is suuuuch a juicy episode ya'll.

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]]>Buzzsprout-13286397Tue, 25 Jul 2023 23:00:00 GMT<p>I meet so many women —often in their later 30s— who say something along the lines of "I focused on my career, that's why I'm single." They're no stranger to hard work. They're the quintessential over achiever and they've been that way for as long as they can remember.<br /><br />But is their "focus on work," really the reason they're still single? This isn't about pointing fingers or laying blame, this is about getting curious to the consistent pattern and narrative.<br /><br />In this episode, I'm digging into the learned behaviors of overachievers and how that actually comes in direct conflict with meeting someone who is emotionally available and ready for a relationship. <br /><br />This episode will resonate with anyone who:</p><ul><li>Identifies as an overachiever and also struggles to find the relationship they want</li><li>Finds a lot of safety in work — whether it's a job or schoolwork, they've always been the one to work hard</li><li>Either struggles to meet someone or is in a relationship but they feel like they're always the one giving more, making sacrifices, etc</li><li>How the nature of our nervous system is actually attuned to repel the thing we say we want</li><li>How are hyper-independence — our ability to do "everything on our own," the thing we often pride in ourselves in serving as a major obstacle in our ability to meet someone</li><li>How finding our worth in doing — working, achieving, etc, isn't helping us</li></ul><p>And so much more. This is suuuuch a juicy episode ya'll.</p><p><a href="https://courses.ithinkilikeyou.co/meditations/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">https://courses.ithinkilikeyou.co/meditations/</a><br /><br /><a href="https://www.catherinezack.com/retreat" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">https://www.catherinezack.com/retreat</a><br /><br /></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no01:00:07The unique struggles overachievers face in dating + relationships | Ep 71full<![CDATA[Kris Wylder on Navigating Relationships + Motherhood Not Looking Like What You Thought It Would | Ep 73]]>I've had the pleasure of knowing Kris for over a decade, and boy have our lives changed within that timespan. What began as two fellow food bloggers bumping into each other at events in the city (pre-Instagram days), has transitioned into a know ya from afar digital connection, with those early influencer roots.

Recently turned 40, Kris has had her fair share of ups and downs in relationships (which we dig into in the episode). Her life looks nothing like what she thought it would, but she embraces it — and the growth and evolution — with such grace.

If you:

  • Struggle with the current realities of your life and how to move through them
  • Are wrestling with a major career change and wondering how to move through it
  • Feel like you wear multiple hats and identities in this life and are stuck on how to embody them all
  • Hungry for some real talk around the not so shiny parts of motherhood

...and so much more, you will love today's episode


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]]>Buzzsprout-13379009Wed, 09 Aug 2023 20:00:00 GMT<p>I've had the pleasure of knowing Kris for over a decade, and boy have our lives changed within that timespan. What began as two fellow food bloggers bumping into each other at events in the city (pre-Instagram days), has transitioned into a know ya from afar digital connection, with those early influencer roots.<br /><br />Recently turned 40, Kris has had her fair share of ups and downs in relationships (which we dig into in the episode). Her life looks nothing like what she thought it would, but she embraces it — and the growth and evolution — with such grace.<br /><br />If you:</p><ul><li>Struggle with the current realities of your life and how to move through them</li><li>Are wrestling with a major career change and wondering how to move through it</li><li>Feel like you wear multiple hats and identities in this life and are stuck on how to embody them all</li><li>Hungry for some real talk around the not so shiny parts of motherhood</li></ul><p>...and so much more, you will love today's episode</p><p><br /><a href="https://courses.ithinkilikeyou.co/the-conscious-dater-august/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">The Conscious Dater Online Course</a><br /><a href="https://courses.ithinkilikeyou.co/meditations/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Dating Meditations</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no01:03:51Kris Wylder on Navigating Relationships + Motherhood Not Looking Like What You Thought It Would | Ep 73full<![CDATA[My ultimate goal with clients isn't marriage | Ep 116]]>Private Coaching Spaces are Open
Join the Big Dating Nap // Dating Sanity Capsule combined program

One might assume from the nature of the work I do, that every effort, every intention would be dedicated to helping my clients meet their husband — but it's not. It's both not that and so much more than that.

In this episode I'm discussing:

  • A parallel vision I hold for my life in which I could see not being married
  • The way in which relationships are really, really confronting, and how I'm not sure we all (really) desire to face that
  • How I view my choice to get married
  • Our soul's journey versus our conditioning
  • Our hyperfixation on healing and how I don't think a constant attempt to fix or heal ourselves is "better"
  • What my ultimate goal for client's actually is

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Cheryl Strayed Article
Podcast episode about my wedding
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]]>Buzzsprout-15399931Fri, 12 Jul 2024 07:00:00 GMT<p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/work-with-me" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Private Coaching Spaces are Open</a><br /><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/dsc-bdn-joint-program" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Join the Big Dating Nap // Dating Sanity Capsule combined program<br /></a><br />One might assume from the nature of the work I do, that every effort, every intention would be dedicated to helping my clients meet their husband — but it's not. It's both not that and so much more than that.<br /><br />In this episode I'm discussing:</p><ul><li>A parallel vision I hold for my life in which I could see <em>not</em> being married</li><li>The way in which relationships are really, really confronting, and how I'm not sure we all (really) desire to face that</li><li>How I view my choice to get married</li><li>Our soul's journey versus our conditioning</li><li>Our hyperfixation on healing and how I don't think a constant attempt to fix or heal ourselves is "better"</li><li>What my ultimate goal for client's <em>actually </em>is</li></ul><p>Links referenced in this episode:<br /><a href="https://therumpus.net/2011/04/21/dear-sugar-the-rumpus-advice-column-71-the-ghost-ship-that-didnt-carry-us/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Cheryl Strayed Article</a><br /><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/content/episode-86" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast episode about my wedding</a><br /><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/content/episode-10" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast episode about siblings</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:40:58My ultimate goal with clients isn't marriage | Ep 116full<![CDATA[Why is sex with the people who are so wrong for us so good w/ therapist, Julia Zwerin | Ep 125]]>We've all had the guy (or....guys ; )) who don't communicate well, who leave us in the dark, who aren't looking for commitment or exclusivity. Maybe they're clear about it, maybe they're not. Either way, they're like a drug we can't quit — quite literally (more on that in the episode). A text flies in, we're in their presence, all sense of clarity and judgement is lost. I very vividly recall these seasons of my life.

Today I'm joined by my dear friend Julia Zwerin, therapist and coach, to dig into this question: What is it about the toxic, avoidant, unable to commit guys who are just sooooo tantalizing? What causes us to get caught up with them — be it for weeks, months, or years? She spells it out so beautifully in this convo. I can't wait for ya'll to listen.

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]]>Buzzsprout-16085256Thu, 21 Nov 2024 21:00:00 GMT<p>We've all had the guy (or....guys ; )) who don't communicate well, who leave us in the dark, who aren't looking for commitment or exclusivity. Maybe they're clear about it, maybe they're not. Either way, they're like a drug we can't quit — quite literally (more on that in the episode). A text flies in, we're in their presence, all sense of clarity and judgement is lost. I very vividly recall these seasons of my life.<br /><br />Today I'm joined by my dear friend <a href="https://www.juliawermanzwerintherapy.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Julia Zwerin</a>, therapist and coach, to dig into this question: What is it about the toxic, avoidant, unable to commit guys who are just sooooo tantalizing? What causes us to get caught up with them — be it for weeks, months, or years? She spells it out so beautifully in this convo. I can't wait for ya'll to listen.<br /><br /><a href="https://www.juliawermanzwerintherapy.com/services" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Explore Working with Julia</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no01:28:13Why is sex with the people who are so wrong for us so good w/ therapist, Julia Zwerin | Ep 125full<![CDATA[Episode 14: On the way you miss someone post-breakup (and what to do with those feelings).]]>Brrrreeeeeaaaakups. And not even just official breakups, where you actually were in a relationship with the person your heart desires, but any sort of situation where the person you hoped to be with is no longer a healthy component to your life. That's where we're digging in today. I'm specifically getting into the slew of feelings that come post breakup, and not just the disappointment or loneliness, but the real NUACE. Nuance in all caps, because I really don't think we make space for it.

This episode will be helpful if:

  • You've recently gone through a breakup and are in the midst of processing those feelings
  • You're experiencing lingering feelings for an individual and wondering what to make of that
  • You're in a new relationship, which you're delighted with, but find yourself reflecting on old relationships and wondering what that's about

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]]>Buzzsprout-10947421Tue, 12 Jul 2022 12:00:00 GMT<p>Brrrreeeeeaaaakups. And not even just official breakups, where you actually were in a relationship with the person your heart desires, but any sort of situation where the person you hoped to be with is no longer a healthy component to your life. That's where we're digging in today. I'm specifically getting into the slew of feelings that come post breakup, and not just the disappointment or loneliness, but the real NUACE. Nuance in all caps, because I really don't think we make space for it.<br /><br />This episode will be helpful if:</p><ul><li>You've recently gone through a breakup and are in the midst of processing those feelings</li><li>You're experiencing lingering feelings for an individual and wondering what to make of that</li><li>You're in a new relationship, which you're delighted with, but find yourself reflecting on old relationships and wondering what that's about</li></ul><p>Links mentioned in this episode:<br />I've got 2 private coaching spots available, and then they won't open up again until September! So if you've been thinking about working with me or eager to dig in now, <a href="https://calendly.com/clara-artschwager/developing-a-conscious-dating-practice?month=2022-07" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">grab some time to chat</a> and see if my programs align with the support you're seeking.</p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:38:37Episode 14: On the way you miss someone post-breakup (and what to do with those feelings).full<![CDATA[The practitioner that healed my gut, but really, changed the trajectory of my life | Ep 135]]>Eight years ago, I landed myself in the office of a nurse practitioner/functional medicine specialist who specialized in gut health. I had been inexplicably bloated and exhausted for months and didn't know why. Little did I know that woman would go on to not only remedy my body, but change the overall trajectory of my life and career.

Flash forward to today, while she's still an expert when it comes to our bodies, our nervous systems, and how the two speak to one another, her work is primarily focused on helping folks rid themselves of codependent, people-pleasing tendencies. And candidly, all the physical issues I suffered from back in 2017 were really just a manifestation of mental and emotional turmoil. Namely, living a life that was more based on external approval than internal fulfillment.

She brings a really fresh perspective to codependency, and what she refers to as "emotional outsourcing."

Beatriz (Béa) Victoria Albina, NP, MPH, SEP (she/her) is a UCSF-trained Family Nurse Practitioner, Somatic Experiencing Practitioner, Master Certified Somatic Life Coach, author of the forthcoming "End Emotional Outsourcing: a Guide to Overcoming Codependent, Perfectionist and People Pleasing Habits" (expected Sept 30, Hachette Balance) and Breathwork Meditation Guide with a passion for helping humans socialized as women to reconnect with their bodies, regulate their nervous systems and rewire their minds, so they can break free from codependency, perfectionism and people pleasing and reclaim their joy.

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]]>Buzzsprout-17078851Mon, 12 May 2025 23:00:00 GMT<p>Eight years ago, I landed myself in the office of a nurse practitioner/functional medicine specialist who specialized in gut health. I had been inexplicably bloated and exhausted for months and didn't know why. Little did I know that woman would go on to not only remedy my body, but change the overall trajectory of my life and career.</p><p>Flash forward to today, while she's still an expert when it comes to our bodies, our nervous systems, and how the two speak to one another, her work is primarily focused on helping folks rid themselves of codependent, people-pleasing tendencies. And candidly, all the physical issues I suffered from back in 2017 were really just a manifestation of mental and emotional turmoil. Namely, living a life that was more based on external approval than internal fulfillment.</p><p>She brings a really fresh perspective to codependency, and what she refers to as "emotional outsourcing."</p><p><a href="https://beatrizalbina.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Beatriz (Béa) Victoria Albina</a>, NP, MPH, SEP (she/her) is a UCSF-trained Family Nurse Practitioner, Somatic Experiencing Practitioner, Master Certified Somatic Life Coach, author of the forthcoming "End Emotional Outsourcing: a Guide to Overcoming Codependent, Perfectionist and People Pleasing Habits" (expected Sept 30, Hachette Balance) and Breathwork Meditation Guide with a passion for helping humans socialized as women to reconnect with their bodies, regulate their nervous systems and rewire their minds, so they can break free from codependency, perfectionism and people pleasing and reclaim their joy.</p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no01:15:58The practitioner that healed my gut, but really, changed the trajectory of my life | Ep 135full<![CDATA[2 on the surface helpful ways we can bypass the truth of our (romantic) lives | Ep 139]]>The obsession with healing ourselves is real, and these days, more often than not, I find myself guiding clients to pull back on all the materials and content they're ingesting in order to stop perpetuating this idea that they're "broken" or that there's always "more" to do.

From the endless cycle of self-help books and courses that promise to "fix" us, to using gratitude as emotional white-out, these well-intentioned strategies can become sophisticated forms of self-avoidance. Because really the medicine you need is hidden in the very behavior you're trying to avoid—whether that's having the really hard conversation, making the financial decision you've been putting off, or finally facing the rejection you've been running from.

If you're someone who perpetually feels stuck but also like you've done so much work or all the right things, etc etc, this episode is for you. Today's conversation will challenge you to look at where you might be choosing comfort over truth—and what becomes possible when you stop.

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]]>Buzzsprout-17592815Wed, 10 Sep 2025 12:00:00 GMT<p>The obsession with healing ourselves is <em>real</em>, and these days, more often than not, I find myself guiding clients to pull back on all the materials and content they're ingesting in order to stop perpetuating this idea that they're "broken" or that there's always "more" to do.</p><p>From the endless cycle of self-help books and courses that promise to "fix" us, to using gratitude as emotional white-out, these well-intentioned strategies can become sophisticated forms of self-avoidance. Because really the medicine you need is hidden in the very behavior you're trying to avoid—whether that's having the really hard conversation, making the financial decision you've been putting off, or finally facing the rejection you've been running from.</p><p>If you're someone who perpetually feels stuck but also like you've done so much work or all the right things, etc etc, this episode is for you. Today's conversation will challenge you to look at where you might be choosing comfort over truth—and what becomes possible when you stop.</p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:33:212 on the surface helpful ways we can bypass the truth of our (romantic) lives | Ep 139full<![CDATA[Episode 35: The holidays are hard as sh*t. Let's talk about that.]]>On the heels of my Thanksgiving holiday with family, which was equal parts blissful and challenging, I wanted to share how distinctly different those two sides can be. How we can have holidays and familial experiences that from the outside looking in appear so joyful, but from the depths of our interior, can paint quite a different experience.

This episode will resonate with anyone who:

  • Struggles with the realities of their holiday/holiday season
  • Wishes they could make things look or feel different— for themselves, for their family, etc
  • Hungers for greater acceptance of their family
  • Hungers to find their own personal joy in this nuanced season

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]]>Buzzsprout-11799346Fri, 02 Dec 2022 11:00:00 GMT<p>On the heels of my Thanksgiving holiday with family, which was equal parts blissful and challenging, I wanted to share how distinctly different those two sides can be. How we can have holidays and familial experiences that from the outside looking in appear so joyful, but from the depths of our interior, can paint quite a different experience.<br /><br />This episode will resonate with anyone who:</p><ul><li>Struggles with the realities of their holiday/holiday season</li><li>Wishes they could make things look or feel different— for themselves, for their family, etc</li><li>Hungers for greater acceptance of their family</li><li>Hungers to find their own personal joy in this nuanced season</li></ul><p><a href="https://view.flodesk.com/pages/636feacd81bc8568aa6e6bd9" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">The January 2023 Program--&gt; Get on the list!</a><br /><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Follow I Think I Like You on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:40:38Episode 35: The holidays are hard as sh*t. Let's talk about that.full<![CDATA[Episode 26: What if he says he's not sure about kids?]]>A client of mine recently faced the following dilemma: Things were going swimmingly with the guy she's seeing, but then he, very kindly so, dropped the following: I'm on the fence about kids.

He might want them. He might not.  When we ourselves want then or think we want them but aren't ready for them, which way do we turn?

In this episode we touch on:

  • What to do in those early days of getting to know someone when you're really into one another but unsure if your values or long term life plans align
  • How to view dating experiences —when healthy— as additive and necessary, versus feeling like you're settling or crossing your own boundaries (and how to tell the difference)
  • How to grapple with the greater questions of children, job locations, education, future path planning and more in the early stages of getting to know someone

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]]>Buzzsprout-11346161Tue, 20 Sep 2022 11:00:00 GMT<p>A client of mine recently faced the following dilemma: Things were going swimmingly with the guy she's seeing, but then he, very kindly so, dropped the following: <em>I'm on the fence about kids.<br /><br /></em>He might want them. He might not.  When we ourselves want then or think we want them but aren't ready for them, which way do we turn?<br /><br />In this episode we touch on:</p><ul><li>What to do in those early days of getting to know someone when you're really into one another but unsure if your values or long term life plans align</li><li>How to view dating experiences —when healthy— as additive and necessary, versus feeling like you're settling or crossing your own boundaries (and how to tell the difference)</li><li>How to grapple with the greater questions of children, job locations, education, future path planning and more in the early stages of getting to know someone</li></ul><p>https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/</p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:32:00Episode 26: What if he says he's not sure about kids?full<![CDATA[Sunday Stories: Volume I]]>This is the start of a new podcast series! Each Sunday I'm going to be reading and revisiting a piece of writing. This week's is the following essay: No, He Doesn't Want to Get Back Together.

Each week I'll be reading the essay aloud and then sharing my perspective now, considering most of my essays share romantic experiences that were many years prior. It was really fascinating to see what came up.

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]]>Buzzsprout-12094528Sun, 22 Jan 2023 17:00:00 GMT<p>This is the start of a new podcast series! Each Sunday I'm going to be reading and revisiting a piece of writing. This week's is the following essay: <a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/content/no-he-doesnt-want-to-get-back-together" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">No, He Doesn't Want to Get Back Together</a>.<br /> <br />Each week I'll be reading the essay aloud and then sharing my perspective now, considering most of my essays share romantic experiences that were many years prior. It was really fascinating to see what came up.<br /><br /><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">I Think I Like You</a><br /><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/podcast" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Other Podcast Episodes</a><br /><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/workwithme" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with Me</a><br /><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">I Think I Like You on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:19:51Sunday Stories: Volume Ifull<![CDATA[Episode 45: Your marriage and the Enneagram (among other things...)]]>Christa Biegler and I first crossed paths just about a year ago. I was least interested in her work as a dietician, though she’s quite incredible in that regard, and most interested in the fact that her life appeared to be somewhat of an inverse of mine: She’d had her first child at 18, got married in her early 20s (shortly following college), across her 20s had two more children, and now in her mid 30s found herself looking at colleges with her first daughter and, in many ways, on the other side of her motherhood journey. Or at the very least, not nearing the beginning, which is where I found myself. I wanted to bring Christa on to discuss her experience entering motherhood and marriage at an earlier age and learn more about what that experience was like for her. 

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]]>Buzzsprout-12094588Tue, 24 Jan 2023 11:00:00 GMT<p><a href="https://www.christabiegler.com/podcast" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Christa Biegler</a> and I first crossed paths just about a year ago. I was least interested in her work as a dietician, though she’s quite incredible in that regard, and most interested in the fact that her life appeared to be somewhat of an inverse of mine: She’d had her first child at 18, got married in her early 20s (shortly following college), across her 20s had two more children, and now in her mid 30s found herself looking at colleges with her first daughter and, in many ways, on the other side of her motherhood journey. Or at the very least, not nearing the beginning, which is where I found myself. I wanted to bring Christa on to discuss her experience entering motherhood and marriage at an earlier age and learn more about what that experience was like for her. </p><p><a href="https://www.truity.com/test/enneagram-personality-test" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Enneagram Test</a></p><p><a href="https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/type-descriptions" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Enneagram Institute</a></p><p><a href="https://www.christabiegler.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with Christa</a><br /><a href="https://www.christabiegler.com/podcast" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Listen to Christa's Podcast, The Less Stressed Life</a></p><p>Curious to work with me one on one? <a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Schedule some time to chat.<br />I Think I Like You on Instagram</a><br /><a href="https://bookshop.org/shop/ithinkilikeyou" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Shop My Book Recommendations</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no01:38:12Episode 45: Your marriage and the Enneagram (among other things...)full<![CDATA[When You Just Need to Put Everything Down | Ep 106]]>What happens when you just hit a hall? What does that 'wall' tend to look like for you? These are questions I'm contemplating and exploring in today's episode.

Across the month of April I was gearing up to launch the Dating Sanity Capsule, a collection of potent lessons and videos designed to decrease the misery and anxiety we associate with online dating. I.was.pumped. I'd loved putting together the course, was so jazzed about the content — I couldn't wait to get it in the hands of followers and listeners who could benefit from it most.

And then, the wall. 

In today's episode I'm talking about an unexpected season I hit towards the end of the month — one I'm still very much in — where I was forced to slow down, reassess elements of my life and business, and start to pull apart how I got off course in the first place. I'm specifically sharing:

  • How my new approach to marketing my digital products started to feel out of integrity
  • My larger struggles with the way digital products are promoted on social media and the broader nature of the coaching industry
  • The decision to pull back on scaling my business
  • Desires and wants driven by our ego, which very much applies to relationships
  • Other efforts, outside of working, that I'm also "putting down," after hitting the wall
  • My desire for a simpler summer filled with slowness and rest

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]]>Buzzsprout-15041042Fri, 10 May 2024 01:00:00 GMT<p>What happens when you just hit a hall? What does that 'wall' tend to look like for you? These are questions I'm contemplating and exploring in today's episode. <br /><br />Across the month of April I was gearing up to launch the <a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/sanity" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Dating Sanity Capsule</a>, a collection of potent lessons and videos designed to decrease the misery and anxiety we associate with online dating. I.was.pumped. I'd <em>loved</em> putting together the course, was so jazzed about the content — I couldn't wait to get it in the hands of followers and listeners who could benefit from it most.<br /><br />And then, the wall. <br /><br />In today's episode I'm talking about an unexpected season I hit towards the end of the month — one I'm still very much in — where I was forced to slow down, reassess elements of my life and business, and start to pull apart how I got off course in the first place. I'm specifically sharing:</p><ul><li>How my new approach to marketing my digital products started to feel out of integrity</li><li>My larger struggles with the way digital products are promoted on social media and the broader nature of the coaching industry</li><li>The decision to pull back on scaling my business</li><li>Desires and wants driven by our ego, which very much applies to relationships</li><li>Other efforts, outside of working, that I'm also "putting down," after hitting the wall</li><li>My desire for a simpler summer filled with slowness and rest</li></ul><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:39:32When You Just Need to Put Everything Down | Ep 106full<![CDATA[How did you know you wanted to marry your husband? (Slash how I called in my husband) | Ep 105]]>Preview My Upcoming Program
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A few weeks back a client said to me: "How did you know your husband was the one?"

While I don't believe in 'the one,' (which I share more about in the episode), her question made me realize I hadn't gone too deeply into the first few months of dating my husband, namely the period of uncertainty and unknown. Were we right to move in the direction of marriage? Were we in the same place in life? Did we want the same things? How could we be sure?

In this episode I discuss:

  • How I navigated those early weeks and months to discern what direction I wanted to move in within the relationship
  • The specific questions I asked my now husband AND the specific things I shared about myself in order to determine if this was a relationship I wanted to pursue
  • The natural (and very normal) speed bumps and hurdles that came up
  • How I show up within my marriage now and how that mirrors my behavior at the beginning
  • How meeting my husband reflected one of the greatest acts of surrender

This episode will resonate with you if :

  • You're wondering what that feeling of 'knowing' something is right or 'knowing' someone is the one is like
  • You're stuck in a bit of a scarcity mindset around your potential to meet someone who you could (actually) envision sharing your life with

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]]>Buzzsprout-14856388Tue, 23 Apr 2024 07:00:00 GMT<p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/sanity" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Preview My Upcoming Program</a><br /><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/work-with-me" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a><br /><br />A few weeks back a client said to me: "How did you know your husband was the one?"<br /><br />While I don't believe in 'the one,' (which I share more about in the episode), her question made me realize I hadn't gone too deeply into the first few months of dating my husband, namely the period of uncertainty and unknown. Were we right to move in the direction of marriage? Were we in the same place in life? Did we want the same things? How could we be sure?<br /><br />In this episode I discuss:</p><ul><li>How I navigated those early weeks and months to discern what direction I wanted to move in within the relationship</li><li>The specific questions I asked my now husband AND the specific things I shared about myself in order to determine if this was a relationship I wanted to pursue</li><li>The natural (and very normal) speed bumps and hurdles that came up</li><li>How I show up within my marriage now and how that mirrors my behavior at the beginning</li><li>How meeting my husband reflected one of the greatest acts of surrender</li></ul><p>This episode will resonate with you if :</p><ul><li>You're wondering what that feeling of 'knowing' something is right or 'knowing' someone is the one is like</li><li>You're stuck in a bit of a scarcity mindset around your potential to meet someone who you could (actually) envision sharing your life with</li></ul><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:53:16How did you know you wanted to marry your husband? (Slash how I called in my husband) | Ep 105full<![CDATA[Episode 46: How alignment in career connects to depth of partnership, and confronting the ongoing stress of a long term relationship w/ Catherine Zack]]><Register for the Free Masterclass>
Conscious Dater Masterclass: Understand Your Patterns in Order to Date Less

A beautiful thing happened by way of the pandemic: all of these amazing people moved to my neck of the woods (the Hudson Valley), Catherine Zack being one of them.

Catherine is equal parts breath of fresh air, and like a living, breathing weighted blanket (listen and you'll know what I mean). In this episode we cover:

  • How she left her career as a corporate lawyer and transitioned to what she does now, also putting to rest some of those "box checker," tendencies
  • The correlation between our "stress stories," and how we date and show up in relationship
  • Navigating the stress that parenting brings to a romantic relationship

As referenced in the podcast, the seven ways to complete the stress cycle:
1. laughing

2. crying

3. physical movement 

4. physical touch 

5. meaningful social connection 

6. creativity

7. deep breathing

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]]>Buzzsprout-12154183Tue, 31 Jan 2023 14:00:00 GMT<p>&lt;<a href="https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZUudO6uqDwrH9eWmhTih47cl7sG5XtRnWZG" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Register for the Free Masterclass</a>&gt;<br /><b>Conscious Dater Masterclass: Understand Your Patterns in Order to Date Less</b><br /><br />A beautiful thing happened by way of the pandemic: all of these amazing people moved to my neck of the woods (the Hudson Valley), <a href="https://www.catherinezack.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Catherine Zack</a> being one of them.<br /><br />Catherine is equal parts breath of fresh air, and like a living, breathing weighted blanket (listen and you'll know what I mean). In this episode we cover:</p><ul><li>How she left her career as a corporate lawyer and transitioned to what she does now, also putting to rest some of those "box checker," tendencies</li><li>The correlation between our "stress stories," and how we date and show up in relationship</li><li>Navigating the stress that parenting brings to a romantic relationship</li></ul><p>As referenced in the podcast, the seven ways to complete the stress cycle:<br />1. laughing</p><p>2. crying</p><p>3. physical movement </p><p>4. physical touch </p><p>5. meaningful social connection </p><p>6. creativity</p><p>7. deep breathing</p><p>Links from Catherine:</p><ul><li><a href="https://www.catherinezack.com/stress-school" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Stress School</a></li><li><a href="https://www.catherinezack.com/beyond-balance-podcast" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Catherine's Podcast</a></li><li><a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/beyond-balance/id1594940090?i=1000596166483 " rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Parenting Episode One</a></li><li><a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/beyond-balance/id1594940090?i=1000586740155 " rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Parenting Episode Two</a></li></ul><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">ITILY on Instagram</a><br /><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/workwithme" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with Clara</a><br /><a href="https://view.flodesk.com/pages/6255906169d304440734a7ad" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Subscribe to the Newsletter</a><br /><a href="https://www.instagram.com/james_j_maldonado/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Music Written + Produced by James Maldonado</a></p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no01:10:30Episode 46: How alignment in career connects to depth of partnership, and confronting the ongoing stress of a long term relationship w/ Catherine Zackfull<![CDATA[My husband and I talk about our exes all the time, and here's why | Ep 90]]>In today's episode I'm sharing one of my most prized elements of my marriage: our ability to talk about our past. Specifically, our past relationships. It was one of the things that most drew to my husband in our first few weeks of dating.  I also share what's coming up for me personally (this surprised me!) in our marriage and what I'm working on as a partner, and how I'm struggling to do the Whole30 with my husband —something that happens to be so beneficial to his health.

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]]>Buzzsprout-14314673Tue, 16 Jan 2024 01:00:00 GMT<p>In today's episode I'm sharing one of my most prized elements of my marriage: our ability to talk about our past. Specifically, our past relationships. It was one of the things that most drew to my husband in our first few weeks of dating.  I also share what's coming up for me personally (this surprised me!) in our marriage and what I'm working on as a partner, and how I'm struggling to do the Whole30 with my husband —something that happens to be so beneficial to his health.<br /><br /><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/workwithme" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Private coaching spaces are open.</a><br /><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/thebigdatingnap" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Join us for the Big Dating Nap (!)</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:41:33My husband and I talk about our exes all the time, and here's why | Ep 90full<![CDATA[Ep 137 | This is what healthy dating actually looks like (Pssst we're back!)]]>What if everything you think dating should look like is actually keeping you single? Or constantly thinking you're doing something wrong or that it's not enough?

It seems most of us are in the quintessential "messy middle," in every sense of the word. So as my comeback episode it felt even more appropriate to dig into why these spaces are so potent. It's exactly where the real work happens. And while the primary focus will be on relationships, I'll share how these seasons occur — and benefit us — in all areas of life.

You'll be into this episode if:

  • You're very critical of your dating progress/don't feel like you've made any at all
  • Really struggle with the uncertainty of your romantic future
  • Have felt stuck in the same or similar spot for quite some time

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]]>Buzzsprout-17592774Wed, 27 Aug 2025 11:00:00 GMT<p>What if everything you think dating should look like is actually keeping you single? Or constantly thinking you're doing something wrong or that it's not enough?</p><p>It seems most of us are in the quintessential "messy middle," in every sense of the word. So as my comeback episode it felt even more appropriate to dig into why these spaces are so potent. It's exactly where the real work happens. And while the primary focus will be on relationships, I'll share how these seasons occur — and benefit us — in all areas of life.</p><p>You'll be into this episode if:</p><ul><li>You're very critical of your dating progress/don't feel like you've made any at all</li><li>Really struggle with the uncertainty of your romantic future</li><li>Have felt stuck in the same or similar spot for quite some time</li></ul><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:35:24Ep 137 | This is what healthy dating actually looks like (Pssst we're back!)full<![CDATA[Sunday Stories II: Dating Without Texting is the Absolute Best]]>Original Essay
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]]>Buzzsprout-12188084Sun, 05 Feb 2023 19:00:00 GMT<p><a href="https://www.thecut.com/2018/10/its-complicated-dating-without-texting.html" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Original Essay</a><br /><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">I Think I Like You</a><br /><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/workwithme" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work Together One on One</a><br /><a href="https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZUudO6uqDwrH9eWmhTih47cl7sG5XtRnWZG" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">2/6 Free Masterclass</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:20:56Sunday Stories II: Dating Without Texting is the Absolute Bestfull<![CDATA[3 clients who have found flow in their dating lives | Episode 66]]>In light of some new one to one coaching spots opening up (pssst, I'd love to work with you!), in today's episode I'm walking you through the three consistent patterns and habits I see in clients who are finding flow in their dating life. By flow I mean,

  • They're finding ease in the process of dating
  • They're not wracked with a scarcity mindset or fear of never meeting someone — they've truly surrendered to the process and the timing of their own romantic journey 
  • They're able to make sense of their dating trajectory and larger romantic history

The consistent behaviors fall well outside the realm of dating. This episode is going to highlight how these women are approaching their overall lives, and with that, dating.

If you're feeling worn out by the dating process and hungering for other ways to achieve clarity, resilience and direction, to meet more frequently with people you actually enjoy and connect with, this episode is for you. This episode will illuminate other areas of your life you can look to, to create overarching change. 

If you're in working together, this episode sheds more light on what it's like to work with me privately.

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]]>Buzzsprout-13077043Tue, 20 Jun 2023 22:00:00 GMT<p>In light of some new one to one coaching spots opening up (pssst, I'd love to work with you!), in today's episode I'm walking you through the <b>three consistent patterns and habits I see in clients who are finding flow in their dating life.</b> By flow I mean,</p><ul><li>They're finding ease in the process of dating</li><li>They're not wracked with a scarcity mindset or fear of never meeting someone — they've truly surrendered to the process and the timing of their own romantic journey </li><li>They're able to make sense of their dating trajectory and larger romantic history</li></ul><p>The consistent behaviors fall well outside the realm of dating. This episode is going to highlight how these women are approaching their overall lives, and with that, dating. <br /><br />If you're feeling worn out by the dating process and hungering for other ways to achieve clarity, resilience and direction, to meet more frequently with people you actually enjoy and connect with, this episode is for you. This episode will illuminate other areas of your life you can look to, to create overarching change.  <br /><br />If you're in working together, this episode sheds more light on <a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/workwithme" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">what it's like to work with me privately.</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:49:243 clients who have found flow in their dating lives | Episode 66full<![CDATA[What to do with all the feelings of, "I'm behind in life. I'm never going to meet someone." And so forth. | Ep 92]]>Do you feel behind in life? Do you wrestle with feelings of...if I just had:

  • That job
  • That house
  • That relationship
  • That money

Then I'd be....golden (insert sunglasses emoji).

I wrestle with these feelings consistently, and while they've waned in nature as I've gotten older, I'm still every so often hit with that swirl of anxiety, fear and shame, that my life just won't ever look like how I want it to look. But more so, that it won't take a shape that others deem good and successful. 

I've touched on this subject before, but I wanted to come out it from a different angle, with some new tactics thrown in, at a point in the year when we can all be a little (overly, perhaps) focused on BIG GOALS and MAKING THINGS HAPPEN. I'm all for it, but we want to check the motivation. Where is it coming from? Is it driven by genuine desire or a wound?

This episode will resonate with you if you:

  • Fear you'll never meet your person and will be chronically single
  • Can't shake the feeling that if you just had this ONE THING (be it love, be it money), everything would be ok
  • Struggle to cope with the feelings of 'being behind' and either number out with social media or go through feverish spells of dating

Enjoy! xx Clara

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]]>Buzzsprout-14387995Tue, 30 Jan 2024 23:00:00 GMT<p>Do you feel behind in life? Do you wrestle with feelings of...if I just had:</p><ul><li>That job</li><li>That house</li><li>That relationship</li><li>That money</li></ul><p>Then I'd be....golden (insert sunglasses emoji).<br /><br />I wrestle with these feelings consistently, and while they've waned in nature as I've gotten older, I'm still every so often hit with that swirl of anxiety, fear and shame, that my life just won't ever look like how I want it to look. But more so, that it won't take a shape that others deem good and successful. <br /><br />I've touched on this subject before, but I wanted to come out it from a different angle, with some new tactics thrown in, at a point in the year when we can all be a little (overly, perhaps) focused on BIG GOALS and MAKING THINGS HAPPEN. I'm all for it, but we want to check the motivation. Where is it coming from? Is it driven by genuine desire or a wound?<br /><br />This episode will resonate with you if you:</p><ul><li>Fear you'll never meet your person and will be chronically single</li><li>Can't shake the feeling that if you just had this ONE THING (be it love, be it money), everything would be ok</li><li>Struggle to cope with the feelings of 'being behind' and either number out with social media or go through feverish spells of dating</li></ul><p>Enjoy! xx Clara</p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/consciousdater2026" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Work with me Privately</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Connect on Instagram</a></p><p><a href="https://www.ithinkilikeyou.co/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Website</a></p><p><a href="https://jamesjorge.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">Podcast Production by James Jorge</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:40:20What to do with all the feelings of, "I'm behind in life. I'm never going to meet someone." And so forth. | Ep 92full