More Than A Diagnosis

You Know Your Body: The Exhausting Reality of Self-Advocacy

Den and Jes — Thu, 15 Oct 2026 01:41:49 GMT

Have you ever left a doctor's appointment feeling dismissed, confused, or questioning your own symptoms? You're not alone.

In this episode of More Than A Diagnosis, Den and Jes get real about the exhausting reality of self-advocacy when you're living with cancer, chronic illness, or unexplained symptoms. Drawing from their experiences as patients and Den's perspective as a nurse, they talk about medical gaslighting, learning to trust your body, asking questions without apologizing, and knowing when it's time to find a new provider.

Because looking fine doesn't mean feeling fine, and you shouldn't have to fight to be heard.

If you've ever been dismissed, doubted, or left an appointment feeling unheard, this conversation is for you.

💚 Keep the conversation going: Follow More Than A Diagnosis, leave a rating or review, and share this episode with someone who needs the reminder that their experience matters. What has helped you advocate for yourself in healthcare?

More Than a Caregiver: When Illness Changes a Relationship

Den and Jes — Wed, 07 Oct 2026 18:43:11 GMT

When illness becomes part of your everyday life, it doesn’t just affect the person who is sick. It changes relationships, too.

In this episode, Den and Jes have an honest conversation about the complicated reality of being cared for — and caring for someone you love. They talk about shifting roles, unpredictable symptoms, feeling like a burden, and the guilt that can come with needing help. They also get real about resentment, caregiver exhaustion, helplessness, and what happens when the relationship underneath the caregiver/patient dynamic starts to get lost.

But there’s another side to caregiving that doesn’t get talked about enough: the unexpected intimacy that can come from being seen at your absolute worst. They talk about learning to accept help without keeping score, having the hard conversations, communicating when you’re both exhausted, and finding ways to protect the relationship that existed before illness changed everything.

And then there’s the caregiver — the person who often gets overlooked while everyone checks in on the person who is sick. Who checks in on them? Who supports them? And what happens when both people are carrying more than they ever expected?

Whether you’re living with cancer or chronic illness, caring for someone you love, or navigating illness without the support you hoped for, this conversation is a reminder that everyone affected by illness deserves to be seen.

If this episode resonates with you, share it with someone who needs to hear it, and subscribe so you don’t miss the next conversation. Be sure to connect with us on social media or at our website morethanadiagnosis.org

There’s No Chapter for This | Parenting Through Chronic Illness

Den and Jes — Wed, 30 Sep 2026 07:00:00 GMT

Parenting is hard enough. But parenting while living with chronic illness, cancer, or unpredictable symptoms brings a whole other layer of guilt, fear, and uncertainty.

In this episode, Den and Jes have an honest conversation about what it’s really like to parent while sick. They talk about explaining illness to your kids, deciding how much to share, navigating missed activities and disappointing moments, asking your kids for help, and the guilt that comes with not being the parent you used to be.

They also talk about the unexpected things their kids can learn from watching them navigate illness—from empathy and understanding to asking for help, listening to your body, and taking care of yourself. Because being honest with your kids doesn’t mean you’re burdening them, and protecting them doesn’t always mean keeping them in the dark.

There’s no perfect way to parent through illness. No handbook. No roadmap. Just a lot of figuring it out as you go, one day, one conversation, and one appointment at a time.

✨ Connect with our community of survivors and folks living with chronic illness at morethanadiagnosis.org, and follow us on social media to continue the conversation. We’d love to hear about your experience parenting through illness.

We're Back - Making Space for the Messy Middle

Den and Jes — Wed, 23 Sep 2026 07:00:00 GMT

After a much longer break than we had planned, we're back and we're starting exactly where we are… right here!

In this Season 3 premiere, Jes and Den have an honest conversation about what happens when life doesn't follow the timeline you planned. We talk about stepping away, finding our way back, and the pressure to have everything figured out when the reality is that we're all still navigating the messy middle.

This season isn't about pretending we have all the answers. It's about creating space for the conversations that don't always happen—the complicated, vulnerable, and deeply human parts of living with illness.

From relationships and parenting to healthcare advocacy, identity, grief, and everything in between, Season 3 is about going deeper into the stories behind the diagnosis.

And now we want to hear from you. What are you carrying into this season? What conversations do you wish more people were willing to have? What topics do you want us to talk about?

Visit morethanadiagnosis.org or find us on TikTok, Instagram, and Facebook @MoreThanADiagnosis and send us a message. Your stories, questions, and experiences help shape this community.

We're so glad you're here.

More Than a Diagnosis Trailer

Den and Jes — Wed, 29 Jul 2026 22:35:51 GMT

More Than A Diagnosis is a podcast created by our nonprofit to encourage, support, and empower people navigating chronic illness and cancer.

Join childhood best friends and non profit co founders Den and Jes as they explore the human experience beyond medical labels through honest conversations, inspiring stories, expert insights, and practical resources. Whether you're a patient, survivor, caregiver, or simply supporting someone you love, you'll find hope, connection, and reminders that you are more than your diagnosis.

Learn more and connect with our community at morethanadiagnosis.org because no one should have to face a diagnosis alone.

Season Finale "This Is Only the Beginning"

Den and Jes — Thu, 24 Jul 2025 07:00:00 GMT

In this season finale, we're looking back at everything Season 1 gave us — and everything it opened up. From raw conversations about survivorship and chronic illness to the unexpected laughter and the quiet moments of truth, this season was nothing short of sacred. We talk about what this space has meant to us, what we're still carrying, and the dreams we're not quite ready to say out loud. Yet. This isn't a goodbye. It's a thank you. Season 2 is coming — and trust us, it's going to be even more us. 💬 Got thoughts about the season? DM us on Instagram or TikTok. We'd love to hear from you.🎧 Catch up on past episodes anytime, and be sure to join out support circle at morethanadiagnosis.org so you're the first to know what's next.

Healing Isn't Linear - Setbacks, Plateaus & Showing Up Anyway

Den and Jes — Thu, 17 Jul 2025 07:00:00 GMT

This week, Jes and Den throw out the script and talk about what's actually happening behind the scenes — from health flares to the struggle of returning to "normal life." In this honest and vulnerable conversation, they unpack the messy middle of healing: the wins, the setbacks, the plateaus, and the pressure to be "better" even when your body or mind says otherwise. Together, they explore:

• How healing rarely moves in a straight line

• The guilt, shame, and internalized pressure to bounce back

• Why our culture gets survivorship and chronic illness so wrong

• The power of compassion, pacing, and community support

Whether you're in a season of relapse, reevaluation, or simply trying to stay afloat — this episode is a reminder that you're not failing. You're human. And you're not alone. 💬 Let us know how this episode lands with you — we're always reading your messages and grateful for your presence in this space. Connect with us on Instagram, Tiktok, or right on our website morethanadiagnosis.org

More Than a Diagnosis: Our Journey to Becoming a Nonprofit

Den and Jes — Wed, 03 Dec 2025 08:00:00 GMT

Today feels like a full-circle moment. More Than a Diagnosis is becoming a nonprofit! Jes and Den are joined by Nerisa and Karen — the four of them make up the board. In this episode, they give you a behind-the-scenes glimpse into who they are as a team, what brought them together, and what they're most excited to bring to this community. Follow along at morethanadiagnosis.org to stay updated, join the Support Circle, and be part of the journey as we grow together.

When Support Changes: After the Crisis, What Now?

Den and Jes — Wed, 18 Feb 2026 08:00:00 GMT

Support looks different after the crisis ends. In this episode, Den and Jes talk about how relationships shift once treatment is over but the reality of illness remains. We explore the difference between crisis support and long-term presence, what happens when people assume you're "better," and how your needs evolve over time. This conversation is about quiet changes, unspoken recalibrations, and learning to navigate support that doesn't look the way it once did.

Connect with us on our website or find us on social media.

We're Still In It: Season 2 Finale

Den and Jes — Wed, 04 Mar 2026 08:00:00 GMT

This Season 2 finale is an honest pause, not a resolution. Jes and Den reflect on what feels steady, what still challenges them, and what they haven't fully figured out yet. This episode explores ongoing questions, unresolved emotions, and the conversations they're still navigating. Den and Jes are leaving space for curiosity, tension, and the promise of more to come in the next season. In the meantime please be sure to connect with the community on our website morethanadiagnosis.org or find us on social media.

Revisiting Our Conversation with Lys (In Honor of Her Birthday)

Den and Jes — Wed, 26 Nov 2025 08:00:00 GMT

To hear the entire episode please tap to listen here.

In honor of our friend Lys' birthday, we're re-sharing the conversation we recorded with her last season. This conversation is filled with love, transparency, and the kind of strength that has touched so many in this community. Lys is currently on hospice, and she and her family are navigating significant medical and end-of-life expenses. If you feel called to support, you can find the links to support financially below. There's no pressure, just an invitation to show up with love in whatever way feels right to you. And if you can not donate monetarily please consider sharing her story so that it can reach more folks. Thank you for holding space with us today, and for celebrating Lys' light right alongside us. Support Lys and her family:

https://gofund.me/26d9a97b9 https://venmo.com/u/AlyssaBurks https://cash.app/$ABurks11

https://www.zelle.com/ - Alyssa Burks albarado131@gmail.com https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/TNDSVN1PSOAU?ref_=wl_share

A Gentle Reset: Rethinking The New Year

Den and Jes — Wed, 07 Jan 2026 08:00:00 GMT

January comes with a lot of pressure to reset, restart, and reinvent yourself. But winter isn't built for urgency, and not everyone has the capacity for big goals or fresh starts right now. In this episode, Jes and Den have a real, honest conversation about letting go of resolutions and embracing a gentler way of entering the new year. They talk about why January often feels so heavy, how rest is not a failure, and the ways they're easing into the new year. This is an episode for anyone living with chronic illness, grief, burnout, or simply feeling behind. A reminder that you don't need to rush, you don't need a full plan, and you're allowed to move at the pace your body and life allow. Winter is not for hustling. You're not behind. And rest counts. Let's continue this conversation over in the support circle at morethanadiagnosis.org

How to Feel Your Feelings (Without Freaking Out)

Den and Jes — Thu, 22 May 2025 07:00:00 GMT

Ever find yourself saying, "I don't have time for this" when a wave of emotion hits? Or maybe you're more of a "shove it down and deal with it never" kind of person? Either way, you're not alone—and this episode is for you. In "How to Feel Your Feelings (Without Freaking Out)," we break down what it actually means to sit with your emotions without spiraling, overthinking, or pretending they don't exist. From the myths around "pushing through" to a practical, step-by-step guide for processing big feelings, this is your no-fluff, judgment-free zone to feel human. We'll also talk through common emotional roadblocks (like feeling too busy, overwhelmed, or unsure where to start) and offer gentle ways to meet yourself where you are. No therapy-speak required—just real tools for real life. 💛 Content warning: Light discussion of emotional overwhelm and mental health. Please listen with care.

— If this episode helped you feel seen, share it with a friend, subscribe to the podcast, and connect with us at morethanadiagnosis.org. Your support helps us keep showing up with honest, human conversations—because you're more than what you're going through.

Part 2: Missing Pieces — Redefining Femininity With No Boobs

Den and Jes — Wed, 11 Feb 2026 08:00:00 GMT

What happens to femininity after a mastectomy? And why is womanhood so often tied to certain body parts?

In part 2 of the Missing Pieces Series, Jes and Den have an honest conversation about redefining femininity after breast cancer. Jes shares why she chose not to pursue breast reconstruction, the reactions she's received, and how societal expectations often shape the way women are taught to view their bodies after something like breast cancer.

This episode explores body image after breast cancer, identity after mastectomy, and the pressure to "fix" while making space for all valid experiences—grief, acceptance, reconstruction, or going flat.

For anyone diagnosed with breast cancer, for survivors, and anyone questioning traditional ideas of femininity, this conversation is a reminder that missing something doesn't mean you're incomplete and your body doesn't need to be fixed to be worthy.

Medical Jargon for Dummies - Decoding Alphabet Soup

Den and Jes — Wed, 12 Nov 2025 07:00:00 GMT

Medical jargon can feel like a whole other language—but it doesn't have to be overwhelming. In this episode, Den flips into "nurse mode" to break down the alphabet soup of labs, cancer care, chronic illness, and pharmacy terms… while Jes tries her best to guess what they mean. Together, they decode acronyms, simplify confusing lingo, and remind you that it's always okay to ask for clarity in your care. 👉 Played along with the episode? We'd love to hear your score! And if you enjoyed the show, don't forget to rate, review, follow, and share with a friend who could use a laugh while learning a little too. Share your experience over in our Support Circle at morethanadiagnosis.org

Still Here: A Year-End Reflection

Den and Jes — Wed, 31 Dec 2025 08:00:00 GMT

In this mini episode, we pause to reflect on everything that's happened and everything we've carried as the year comes to a close. We've pulled together moments from some of the conversations that shaped our year, reflecting on friendship, grief, gratitude, humor, and the small, often overlooked moments that make life feel a little lighter. This episode isn't your typical "new year, new me" episode. It's us giving ourselves, and you, permission to feel everything this year has brought and step into a new year with honesty, heart, and a little more ease.

Show Notes / Clips Featured:

When You Realize This Isn't Temporary - Living with Chronic Illness

Den and Jes — Wed, 14 Jan 2026 08:00:00 GMT

There's a moment that comes after diagnosis — and sometimes after survival — when you realize this might not be temporary. In this episode, Jes and Den talk about what it means to live with chronic illness from two perspectives: navigating long-term illness, and learning to live in a changed body after cancer. They explore the quiet grief no one prepares you for, the pressure to "stay positive," and the slow, honest work of acceptance that doesn't mean giving up. This conversation isn't about fixing or forcing hope. It's about gentleness, honesty, and learning how to build a life that fits the body you're in now. If you're living with chronic illness, cancer, or ongoing uncertainty — or if you're realizing you're not going back to who you were — this episode is for you. If this episode resonated, we'd love for you to share it with someone who might need it. And if you're looking for a space to continue these conversations, you're always welcome in our free Support Circle at morethanadiagnosis.org.

Happy in the Mailbox: Nerisa on Community, Healing, and the Power of Tiny Ducks

Den and Jes — Thu, 03 Jul 2025 07:00:00 GMT

What started as a small gesture of care turned into a ripple of joy that's touched hundreds of lives. In this episode, we're joined by our friend and fellow community-builder, Nerisa, the creator of Happy Mail—a crowd-funded program that sends love, support, and yes, tiny ducks to people living with cancer or chronic illness. We talk about the surprising power of something playful, how Happy Mail grew from a personal grief project into a movement, and what happens when community care shows up in unexpected places. You'll also hear the story behind our Worst Club Best Members t-shirt collaboration—and how you can support this beautiful work. 💌 Want to send or receive Happy Mail? Visit morethanadiagnosis.org/happymail 🫶 Looking for support? Join our free Support Circle at morethanadiagnosis.org

Radical Acceptance - Learning to embrace reality without judgment

Den and Jes — Wed, 05 Nov 2025 07:00:00 GMT

Acceptance can feel complicated, especially when life throws chronic illness, cancer, or unexpected challenges your way. Jes and Den dive into radical acceptance—what it is, what it isn't, and how it can transform the way we navigate difficult circumstances. They share personal stories of struggling with acceptance, discuss the psychology behind resistance and denial, and offer practical tools for embracing reality without guilt or shame. ✨ Join our free support circle at morethanadiagnosis.org to share your journey, connect with others, and explore strategies for radical acceptance together.

Grief, Gratitude, and Chronic Illness: How We're Really Doing This Holiday Season

Den and Jes — Tue, 09 Dec 2025 08:00:00 GMT

In this week's episode, Den and Jes slow things down and talk candidly about what it looks like to hold grief and gratitude at the same time especially when you're living in a body that's changed, tired, or still healing. Instead of trying to offer you a guide or tidy answers, this is a real-time conversation between two friends about the emotions that surprised us this season, the ones we're still unpacking, and how both the heavy and the hopeful can coexist.

We're giving ourselves (and you) permission to feel it all — the joy, the ache, the overwhelm — and permission to not be okay. If the holidays are bringing up more than you expected, or if you're still figuring out what this season means for you, this episode is a reminder that you're not alone in it.

Tune in and take what you need. Then come hangout with us over at morethanadiagnosis.org

More Than "Love Yourself": Redefining self-love when your body, capacity, and life have changed.

Den and Jes — Wed, 21 Jan 2026 08:00:00 GMT

In this episode, we talk about self-love in its most honest form: listening to your body, grieving who you used to be, setting boundaries without apology, and redefining worth outside of productivity. We explore what it means to care for yourself when "pushing through" is no longer an option—and why rest, community, and compassion matter just as much as resilience. This conversation is for anyone navigating illness, loss, or a season of life that requires more tenderness than motivation. If you're looking for a space to continue these conversations, you're always welcome in our free Support Circle at morethanadiagnosis.org.

Laughing Through the Breakdown: The Power of Humor in Coping with Mental Health Struggles

Den and Jes — Thu, 15 May 2025 07:00:00 GMT

We're not saying mental health struggles are funny—but sometimes, laughing through them is what keeps us going. In this episode, we dive into the role of humor as a coping tool when things get heavy. From the science behind laughter and stress relief, to the difference between laughing with yourself vs. at yourself, Jes and Den break down the beautiful, messy, and sometimes questionable ways we use humor to survive.

We're unpacking:

• Why we instinctively turn to jokes in the middle of chaos

• The healing and harmful sides of dark humor

• How to use humor to cope without ignoring your feelings

• And why patient/survivor spaces make space for the best (and weirdest) inside jokes

Whether you've ever turned a breakdown into a bit, or just need a reminder that it's okay to laugh and struggle—this one's for you. What's the funniest thing you've said or done during a rough mental health moment? We wanna hear it. Join our support circle at morethanadiagnosis.org to share! We might share it in a future episode.

Work, Hustle Culture, and the Sick Body

Den and Jes — Wed, 28 Jan 2026 08:00:00 GMT

What happens when your body can't keep up with a world that glorifies the grind? In this episode, Jes and Den unpack the pressure to "push through" while living with illness and how hustle culture shapes our sense of worth. Together, they explore what it means to rest without guilt, redefine success, and find peace in slower seasons. This conversation is a reminder that you are not your productivity—your value doesn't disappear when your energy does.

💬 Join the Conversation:

We'd love to hear how you're redefining work and rest in your own life. Share your thoughts in our Support Circle on the website morethanadianosis.org or connect with us on TikTok @MoreThanADiagnosis — let's keep unlearning hustle culture together.

Creating The Space We Needed

Den and Jes — Thu, 03 Apr 2025 08:23:00 GMT

When you're diagnosed with cancer or a chronic illness, the world around you shifts. Conversations get awkward, support can feel surface-level, and suddenly, you're navigating something huge with no real roadmap. That's exactly why we started More Than a Diagnosis—to create the space we wished we had when we were first diagnosed.

In this episode, we (Den & Jes) share our personal stories, how we reconnected through shared experiences, and why building community matters. We talk about the gaps in conversations around illness, why this podcast isn't just about medical facts, and what you can expect—real talk, guest interviews, and maybe even a little laughter through the chaos.

Hit subscribe, leave a review, and join us at morethanadiagnosis.org to keep the conversation going! You're not alone in this.

The Strength We Didn't Ask For: Navigating The You're So Strong Comments

Den and Jes — Thu, 10 Apr 2025 08:23:00 GMT

Ever been told, "You're so strong" and felt… weird about it? You're not alone. In this episode, we're unpacking the well-meaning but complicated praise that often gets thrown at people facing illness, grief, and hardship.

Jes and Den dive into why people default to calling us "brave" and "inspirational," how that can feel more like pressure than support, and what we actually need instead. From the myth of the "strong patient" to the emotional exhaustion of always having to perform resilience, we're breaking down the ways these narratives can isolate rather than uplift.

So, if you've ever felt like you had to be strong when you didn't want to be—this one's for you. Let's talk about what real support looks like (spoiler: it's not just saying the right words, it's showing up).

🎧 Tune in, share your thoughts at www.morethanadiagnosis.org and let's challenge the 'strength' narrative together.

Shining A Light On Rare Diseases: Why It Matters

Den and Jes — Thu, 17 Apr 2025 08:23:00 GMT

Did you know that 1 in 10 people lives with a rare disease? Despite this, many conditions remain underrepresented, misunderstood, and overlooked. Today, on Rare Disease Day, we're shining a light on what it really means to live with a rare disease—because awareness isn't just about facts and statistics; it's about real people, real struggles, and real stories.

In this special episode, Jes turns the mic to her best friend and co-host, Den, who lives with a rare disease called FAP (Familial Adenomatous Polyposis). Den shares her personal journey—from the long road to diagnosis to navigating a healthcare system that doesn't always have answers.

💡 In This Episode:
🔹 What Rare Disease Day is and why it matters
🔹 Den's story: What it's like living with FAP
🔹 The biggest challenges of having a rare disease (misdiagnosis, lack of research, finding support)
🔹 The reality of explaining your condition—sometimes even to doctors
🔹 How advocacy and community make a difference
🔹 What YOU can do to support rare disease patients

Rare disease awareness starts with conversations like these. If this episode resonates with you, 🔔 subscribe & leave a review to keep the conversation going at www.morethanadiagnosis.org

We see you, we hear you, and we're in this together.

Buckle Up: A Tribute to Danny and the Ones We've Lost

Den and Jes — Thu, 12 Jun 2025 07:00:00 GMT

In this special bonus episode, we honor our friend Danny—a Texas guy through and through, a fierce advocate, and one of the rare men diagnosed with metastatic breast cancer. Danny was more than met the eye. We met him on TikTok, where his bold voice, advocacy for cannabis, and signature phrases like "Best Day Possible" and "Buckle the fck up" made a lasting impression. But beyond the screen, Danny was tender, thoughtful, and unwavering in his fight to raise awareness for male breast cancer. Join us as we share memories, voice clips, and tributes from the community. We also hold space to name and honor others we've lost—because grief and advocacy live side by side, and remembering is an act of love. 🕊️ If you'd like to leave a tribute to Danny or someone else we've lost, visit: morethanadiagnosis.org/inlovingmemory

TW: language about illness and death

TNBC Awareness: Facing The Unknown

Den and Jes — Thu, 24 Apr 2025 08:23:00 GMT

Triple Negative Breast Cancer (TNBC)—three words that can change everything in an instant. It's aggressive, harder to treat, and often underfunded, leaving many patients feeling like they're navigating an uphill battle with limited options.

On Triple Negative Breast Cancer Awareness Day (3/3), we're flipping the script. Den interviews Jes, who knows firsthand what it's like to be diagnosed with TNBC, go through treatment, and face the uncertainties that come with it. Awareness isn't just about facts—it's about real people, real struggles, and real stories.

💡 In This Episode:
🔹 What TNBC is and how it differs from other breast cancers
🔹 Jes' personal journey—from diagnosis to treatment and beyond
🔹 The biggest challenges of TNBC, including lack of targeted therapies
🔹 Why funding and research for TNBC matter, especially for younger women and Black women
🔹 How YOU can support TNBC patients and advocate for change

TNBC awareness starts with conversations like these. If you're looking for more information about Triple Negative Breast Cancer check out tnbcfoundation.org.

If this episode resonates with you, share it, tag us, and help us spread the word. And if you're looking for support, join us at MoreThanADiagnosis.org in our Support Circle—because no one should have to face TNBC alone.

🔔 Subscribe & leave a review to keep the conversation going at www.morethanadiagnosis.org

We're in this together.

You're Not Being Difficult: Medical Dismissal, Informed Consent, and Self-Advocacy

Den and Jes — Wed, 17 Dec 2025 08:00:00 GMT

In this week's episode, Jes shares about a recent GI appointment that left her needing more information and clarity which is something that, after cancer, doesn't feel optional. Wanting to understand your symptoms, your options, and your plan isn't refusal. It's informed consent.

Den brings both clinical and lived-experience insight, breaking down why clear explanations matter in chronic illness care and sharing a practical list of questions you can take with you to your next appointment to feel more prepared and empowered.

This conversation is for anyone who has ever left an appointment feeling rushed, dismissed, or unsure — and is learning how to advocate for themselves without apologizing.

💬 Stay Connected Follow us on TikTok and Instagram, and join our free Support Circle for people who've been touched by cancer or chronic illness.

📝 SHOW NOTES:

Questions to Bring to Your Next Appointment

• What is the working diagnosis right now?

• What are we ruling out?

• Why are you recommending this medication or treatment?

• What benefits should I expect?

• What are the risks or side effects?

• How will we know if this is working?

• What should improvement look like, and in what timeframe?

• What's the plan if this doesn't help?

• Are there alternative options?

• What follow-up or monitoring will be done?

• When should I reach out if symptoms change or worsen?

We hope these questions help you at your next apt.

📅 Scheduling - There will be no new episode next week, Dec 24. We'll be back December 31st with a final episode to close out the year.

Living with Advanced Gastric Cancer: Advocacy, Loss, and Love with Lys

Den and Jes — Thu, 01 May 2025 07:00:00 GMT

In this heartfelt episode, we speak with Lys, a fierce and compassionate advocate living with advanced gastric cancer. Lys opens up about her journey from misdiagnosis to living without a stomach, and the challenges that come with disease progression. Her story is one of resilience, love, and advocacy, reminding us all that we're more than our diagnosis. Listen in as she shares her truths, the lessons she's learned, and the deep connection she has with her family and community. Content warning: This episode includes discussions of advanced illness and emotional topics. Please listen with care. To hear more from Lys, follow her on TikTok: @lys_beee If this episode resonated with you, please subscribe, share it with someone who needs it, and connect with us at morethanadiagnosis.org. Your support helps us continue amplifying voices that matter.

When Your Friends Disappear After Diagnosis: Why People Ghost Those with Chronic Illness or Cancer

Den and Jes — Thu, 08 May 2025 07:00:00 GMT

One of the hardest parts of a diagnosis isn't just the illness itself—it's watching people you love slowly fade away. In this episode, we dive into a painful but all-too-common experience: losing friends after a chronic illness or cancer diagnosis. Why do people ghost us when we need them the most? Is it fear, guilt, or simply not knowing what to say? We open up about our own experiences with fading friendships, break down the psychology behind why it happens, and explore the emotional toll it takes—from grief and self-blame to the loneliness that follows. We'll also talk about how to cope, when to let go, and how to find the kind of support that actually sticks. If you've ever felt abandoned or invisible after your diagnosis, this one's for you. You're not alone—and the friendships that do survive? Those are pure gold. ✨ Join the conversation and find your people. Visit MoreThanADiagnosis.org to join our free Support Circle. It's a safe, inclusive space for those navigating chronic illness or cancer to connect, heal, and be seen.

Life After Breast Cancer: Ashley's Journey with Breast Implant Illness, Explant, and Healing

Den and Jes — Thu, 05 Jun 2025 07:00:00 GMT

When Ashley was diagnosed with breast cancer, she chose reconstruction, like many women. But after years of unexplained symptoms, she made the courageous decision to explant. In this episode, Jes and Den sit down with Ashley to talk about her experience with breast implant illness (BII), navigating explant surgery, and her healing journey after cancer. They also discuss self-advocacy, trusting your body, and the emotional and mental aspects of recovery, all while embracing a more holistic view of health. Ashley's story is one of empowerment, self-discovery, and the ongoing journey of healing—not just physically but emotionally, spiritually, and mentally. If you'd like learn more about Ashley's story you can find her on TikTok-https://www.tiktok.com/@ms.afj and Instagram-https://www.instagram.com/ms_afj. And if her story resonated with you, please share this episode with someone who may benefit from it, leave a review, and connect with us on our Support Circle at morethanadiagnosis.org. Your support helps us continue sharing important stories like this one.

Breast Implant Illness resources and support:

Not Putting on a shirt

https://notputtingonashirt.org/

Dr. Khan -signs and symptoms

https://executiveplasticsurgeon.com/bii-signs-and-symptoms-checklist/.

GPAC United

https://www.gpacunited.org/

Support Groups:

FB-Breast Implant Illness Support by Keri

https://www.facebook.com/groups/589777154882928/

FB- BII Support By Dr. Khan

https://www.facebook.com/groups/biisupportbyDrKhan/

The Weird Things Folks Say When You're Sick

Den and Jes — Thu, 19 Jun 2025 07:00:00 GMT

You know the comments — the "but you don't look sick" or "everything happens for a reason" type of stuff. 😬 In this episode, Jes and Den share the most unhinged, awkward, and straight-up bizarre things people say after you've been diagnosed with cancer or chronic illness. Spoiler: we've heard it all — and so have you. We're reading comments from Jes's TikTok, swapping stories, and laughing through the discomfort… because sometimes the only way to deal with the weirdness is to talk about it out loud.

TW: Language about illness and death.Light-hearted, real talk — just how we like it.

If this episode helped you feel seen, share it with a friend, subscribe to the podcast, and connect with us at morethanadiagnosis.org. Your support helps us keep showing up with honest, human conversations—because you're more than what you're going through.

"So You Had Cancer, Now What? Navigating Life After Treatment"

Den and Jes — Thu, 26 Jun 2025 07:00:00 GMT

The end of cancer treatment often comes with mixed emotions. While there's relief in finishing, many cancer survivors face a whole new set of challenges in adjusting to life after treatment. In this episode, Jes, a cancer survivor, and Den, a nurse with deep ties to the cancer community, discuss the emotional, mental, and physical shifts that come after active treatment ends. They dive into the pressure to "move on" and how to navigate the feelings of guilt, fear, and the struggle to return to "normal." With a focus on self-compassion, creating a new normal, and finding the support you need, they offer advice for those still adjusting to life post-cancer. Plus, they highlight resources like the Support Circle at morethanadiagnosis.org, where listeners can find community and support.

"I don't want to. I Get To": The Mantra That Carried Me Through Chemo

Den and Jes — Thu, 10 Jul 2025 07:00:00 GMT

In this episode, Jes and Den unpack the mantra that helped Jes survive the hardest parts of chemo: "I don't want to, but I get to—because some folks don't get to." What started as a way to get through treatment became a perspective shift that still resonates today. Jes shares the origin of this mantra and how it helped her reclaim power in moments that felt impossible. Den reflects on how gratitude, when rooted in truth instead of pressure, can hold space for grief and resilience at the same time. Together, they talk about the difference between choosing perspective vs. forcing positivity, and how phrases like this evolve with us over time. It's real, reflective, and full of those quiet "me too" moments you only get from people who've lived it. 🎧 Whether you're in the middle of treatment, navigating chronic illness, or just having a hard week—you are so seen. And you don't have to do it alone. 🫶 Join our free Support Circle—a private forum for people living with cancer and chronic illness. Find connection, community, and people who just get it.👉 morethanadiagnosis.org

From the Other Side of the Bed: When the Nurse Becomes the Patient

Den and Jes — Wed, 04 Feb 2026 08:00:00 GMT

What happens when the caregiver becomes the one needing care? In this deeply personal episode, Den shares her experience of moving from life as a nurse to life as a patient—navigating illness with both medical knowledge and human vulnerability.

Together, we explore identity shifts, grief, self-advocacy, and what compassionate care truly looks like when you're on the other side of the hospital bed. This conversation isn't about diagnoses or timelines. It's about what illness teaches you when you've spent your life caring for others—and how being cared for can change everything.

A gentle listen for patients, caregivers, clinicians, and anyone learning how to hold both strength and softness at the same time.

For more resources please visit us at https://morethanadiagnosis.org

Surprise! Mid-Break Check In

Den and Jes — Thu, 14 Aug 2025 07:00:00 GMT

We're supposed to be on break… but we couldn't resist popping in for a little bonus episode because we're actually together in person. So we thought, why not record while we can? We talk about life lately, relive some of the best moments from our community beach meetup, and tease a few things coming in Season 2. Grab your beverage and hang out with us, have some laughs, and get a little peek behind the scenes.

Be sure to follow us on Tiktok, Instagram and connect with us right on our website for the latest updates on when we'll be dropping season 2!

Missing Pieces (Part 1): Life Without a Colon – Den's Story

Den and Jes — Wed, 19 Nov 2025 08:00:00 GMT

In this first episode of our Missing Pieces series, Den gets real about how a mysterious abdominal mass led to a FAP diagnosis, a desmoid tumor, and eventually having her colon removed. Along the way, hundreds of precancerous polyps were discovered during a colonoscopy in her mid-30s — and her life hasn't been the same since. Den keeps it honest and hilarious, talking about everything from bathroom habits and food struggles to what it's like being a nurse with… let's just say, gas. But this episode isn't just about the messy stuff — she also shares how she's found acceptance, joy, and a sense of wholeness even after all she's been through. Funny, real, and surprisingly uplifting, this conversation is a reminder that even when our bodies are missing pieces, our lives don't have to be. 🩶 If you're living with cancer, chronic illness, or just want to hear stories from folks who get it, visit morethanadiagnosis.org to join our Support Circle, connect with others, and check out resources for living your best life even when life throws curveballs.

Anxiety or Intuition? Learning to Trust Yourself Again

Den and Jes — Thu, 29 May 2025 07:00:00 GMT

Have you ever wondered, "Am I overreacting—or is this my intuition?" When you've lived through trauma, chronic illness, or medical gaslighting, it can be hard to tell the difference. In this episode, Jes and Den talk about how trauma and illness can shake our self-trust, blur the lines between anxiety and intuition, and make decision-making feel impossible. They share personal stories, break down how anxiety shows up differently than intuition, and offer real, doable tools to help you rebuild that inner trust—one step at a time.

In this episode:

• How trauma and chronic illness disrupt self-trust

• The difference between anxiety and intuition

• Ways to reconnect with your body and inner knowing

• Practical tools for confident decision-making If you've been second-guessing yourself, this one's for you.

✨ Please join our free support circle for people living with cancer or chronic illness at morethanadiagnosis.org and connect with us on our socials. You don't have to navigate this alone. ❤️

Fatigue: It's More Than Just Tired - How to honor your energy without guilt

Den and Jes — Wed, 29 Oct 2025 07:00:00 GMT

Living with chronic illness, autoimmune conditions, or post-cancer fatigue can leave you feeling completely drained—but fatigue is far more than just being tired. In this episode, Jes and Den share their personal experiences with chronic exhaustion, break down the science behind why our bodies get so depleted, and offer practical strategies for pacing yourself, validating rest, and reclaiming your energy. Join them for a warm, honest conversation about why rest is resistance, why you don't have to earn it, and how to navigate life when your energy is limited. ✨Connect with our community of survivors and folks living with chronic illness at morethanadiagnosis.org, share your experiences with fatigue, and follow us on social media to continue the conversation.

Boundaries & Saying No: Breaking the People-Pleasing Habit

Den and Jes — Thu, 26 Feb 2026 04:30:00 GMT

Boundaries are hard and sometimes saying no is even harder. In this episode, Jes and Den explore the ongoing challenge of people-pleasing — why we do it, why it persists, and how illness or long-term health challenges make it even trickier. They share reflections and strategies for recognizing your limits, holding your boundaries, and saying no without guilt. This conversation is for anyone who struggles to put themselves first while staying connected to others.