<![CDATA[The Hump Day Hotline Podcast]]>Welcome to The Hump Day Hotline, where your curiosity gets the respect it deserves.

I'm Ms. Julia Jewels, Certified Kink-informed Sex Coach, and this is your shame free space for real conversations about sexuality, relationships, consciousness and kink.

Every episode includes time for your real questions, answered by real sexperts! Vanilla, tantra-curious or full-on kink enthusiast, you belong here.

Let's go deep into consciousness, intimacy, presence and pleasure, with practical tools to own your sexuality and explore kink or your wilder side, safely and intentionally. This is the sex-ed you should have had, with an edge. Let's get Alive & Kinky.

]]>https://aliveandkinky.comRiverside.fm (https://riverside.com)Thu, 12 Nov 2026 18:31:10 GMTTue, 28 Apr 2026 23:35:48 GMT60Ms. Julia Jewels<p>Welcome to The Hump Day Hotline, where your curiosity gets the respect it deserves. </p><p>I'm Ms. Julia Jewels, Certified Kink-informed Sex Coach, and this is your shame free space for real conversations about sexuality, relationships, consciousness and kink. </p><p>Every episode includes time for your real questions, answered by real sexperts! Vanilla, tantra-curious or full-on kink enthusiast, you belong here. </p><p>Let's go deep into consciousness, intimacy, presence and pleasure, with practical tools to own your sexuality and explore kink or your wilder side, safely and intentionally. This is the sex-ed you should have had, with an edge. Let's get Alive &amp; Kinky.</p>episodicMs. Julia Jewelsjulia@aliveandkinky.comyes<![CDATA[Your "Darkest" Desires Deserve the Light]]>In this episode, Ms. Julia Jewels discusses the misconceptions surrounding kink and BDSM, emphasizing the importance of consent and safety in these practices. She provides a four-step protocol for engaging in kink safely, aiming to empower individuals to explore their desires without shame.


Takeaways

  • Real kink is not abuse. How to tell when abuse is happening vs real kink.
  • Consent is ongoing and essential

Chapters

  • 00:00 Understanding Kink and BDSM Misconceptions
  • 04:52 The Importance of Structure in Kink
  • 10:00 Four-Step Protocol for Safe Kinky Play
  • 17:09 Empowerment Through Kink and Consent
]]>0c9fab09-f56a-4689-a9e9-5761a1f53202Sun, 01 Nov 2026 20:11:37 GMT<p>In this episode, Ms. Julia Jewels discusses the misconceptions surrounding kink and BDSM, emphasizing the importance of consent and safety in these practices. She provides a four-step protocol for engaging in kink safely, aiming to empower individuals to explore their desires without shame.</p><p><br /></p><p>Takeaways</p><ul><li>Real kink is not abuse. How to tell when abuse is happening vs real kink.</li><li>Consent is ongoing and essential</li></ul><p>Chapters</p><ul><li>00:00 Understanding Kink and BDSM Misconceptions</li><li>04:52 The Importance of Structure in Kink</li><li>10:00 Four-Step Protocol for Safe Kinky Play</li><li>17:09 Empowerment Through Kink and Consent</li></ul>no00:19:11Your "Darkest" Desires Deserve the Lightfull<![CDATA[Rethinking Men and Sex (You Are NOT The Bad Guy)]]>So much of what we are told about masculinity and desire keeps relationships stuck in a cycle of blame and disconnection. Sex counselor Fran Frye joins us to unpack why nervous system regulation is actually the foundation for better boundaries and intimacy. We discuss how to move beyond the scripts that shame men and flatten women, replacing them with actual erotic intelligence and honest communication.

Julia and Fran unpack how shame, trauma, and bad sex education keep people disconnected from their bodies and from each other. From the “wheel model” of sex to the importance of sexual agreements, this conversation offers a more expansive way to think about pleasure, consent, and what it means to feel truly seen. Fran also shares how her own healing changed the way she sees men, what she learned volunteering in abuse, rape crisis, trafficking, and hospice settings, and why compassion is not the opposite of accountability - it’s what makes change possible.

Essential listening if you want a more nuanced, honest, and liberating conversation about sex, relationships, and the stories we tell ourselves about desire.

You’ll discover:

  • Why nervous system regulation is foundational to healthy sex and boundaries
  • The difference between spontaneous and responsive desire
  • How compersion can transform jealousy, insecurity, and relationship fear
  • Why sexual integrity matters more than labels like “sex addiction”
  • How couples can actually talk about sex without starting a fight


Fran Frye is a Sex Counselor who supports men online in getting more of what they want in the bedroom. You can find more of her practical, shame free guidance and free resources at FranFrye.com

Subscribe for weekly insights on intimacy and relationships, and let me know in the comments: what is one myth about male desire you are ready to let go of? ❤️

Stop believing that your desire makes you the bad guy. We are rethinking men and sex to move past shame and build healthier connections.


Subscribe for weekly insights on intimacy and relationships, and let me know in the comments: what is one myth about male desire you are ready to let go of? ❤️

]]>32381c35-a850-4bd6-a89f-67fa51986872Sat, 24 Oct 2026 19:00:23 GMT<p>So much of what we are told about masculinity and desire keeps relationships stuck in a cycle of blame and disconnection. Sex counselor Fran Frye joins us to unpack why nervous system regulation is actually the foundation for better boundaries and intimacy. We discuss how to move beyond the scripts that shame men and flatten women, replacing them with actual erotic intelligence and honest communication.<br /><br />Julia and Fran unpack how shame, trauma, and bad sex education keep people disconnected from their bodies and from each other. From the “wheel model” of sex to the importance of sexual agreements, this conversation offers a more expansive way to think about pleasure, consent, and what it means to feel truly seen. Fran also shares how her own healing changed the way she sees men, what she learned volunteering in abuse, rape crisis, trafficking, and hospice settings, and why compassion is not the opposite of accountability - it’s what makes change possible.<br /><br />Essential listening if you want a more nuanced, honest, and liberating conversation about sex, relationships, and the stories we tell ourselves about desire.<br /><br />You’ll discover:<br /><br /></p><ul><li>Why nervous system regulation is foundational to healthy sex and boundaries<br /></li><li>The difference between spontaneous and responsive desire<br /></li><li>How compersion can transform jealousy, insecurity, and relationship fear<br /></li><li>Why sexual integrity matters more than labels like “sex addiction”<br /></li><li>How couples can actually talk about sex without starting a fight<br /></li></ul><p><br />Fran Frye is a Sex Counselor who supports men online in getting more of what they want in the bedroom. You can find more of her practical, shame free guidance and free resources at FranFrye.com<br /><br />Subscribe for weekly insights on intimacy and relationships, and let me know in the comments: what is one myth about male desire you are ready to let go of? ❤️<br /><br />Stop believing that your desire makes you the bad guy. We are rethinking men and sex to move past shame and build healthier connections.<br /><br /><br />Subscribe for weekly insights on intimacy and relationships, and let me know in the comments: what is one myth about male desire you are ready to let go of? ❤️</p>yes00:59:27Rethinking Men and Sex (You Are NOT The Bad Guy)full<![CDATA[Shame, Secrecy, and What the Noem Story Really Reveals]]>Everyone’s laughing at the Bryon Noem story. I’m not.As a Certified Sex Coach and professional Dominatrix, I see something very different in this story — and the way we’re all reacting to it is doing real harm.In this video, I break down what feminization actually is, why it often has deeper emotional roots than people realize, and why every joke and mocking headline sends a dangerous message to the millions of people watching who have secrets of their own.This isn’t about defending anyone. It’s about shame, secrecy, and what happens when desire has nowhere safe to go.If you’ve ever felt that knot in your stomach thinking “what if people knew what I was into” — this one’s for you.

]]>https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/aliveandkinky/episodes/Shame--Secrecy--and-What-the-Noem-Story-Really-Reveals-e3hosup3fcd22dd-4b08-4805-ae0f-8b3f90268dd7Sat, 11 Apr 2026 21:51:42 GMT<p>Everyone’s laughing at the Bryon Noem story. I’m not.As a Certified Sex Coach and professional Dominatrix, I see something very different in this story — and the way we’re all reacting to it is doing real harm.In this video, I break down what feminization actually is, why it often has deeper emotional roots than people realize, and why every joke and mocking headline sends a dangerous message to the millions of people watching who have secrets of their own.This isn’t about defending anyone. It’s about shame, secrecy, and what happens when desire has nowhere safe to go.If you’ve ever felt that knot in your stomach thinking “what if people knew what I was into” — this one’s for you.</p>yes00:07:1711Shame, Secrecy, and What the Noem Story Really Revealsfull<![CDATA[Welcome!]]>I am so happy you're here! Chances are you got here because you’ve been searching for answers to all the sexy questions that maybe you’ve been afraid to ask or just not sure where to get the right information for you. Well, that’s exactly why I created this channel! You are in the right place, my friend. 😍 Now you can get the right, research backed answers to your questions and have the fun and turned on sex life you’ve been longing for. 👉🏼 📲 Be sure to hit that subscribe button and never miss a great video!

]]>https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/aliveandkinky/episodes/Welcome-e3ha2u143f7fe42-85da-490d-b9bd-2b9216639f0fWed, 01 Apr 2026 20:17:21 GMT<p>I am so happy you're here! Chances are you got here because you’ve been searching for answers to all the sexy questions that maybe you’ve been afraid to ask or just not sure where to get the right information for you. Well, that’s exactly why I created this channel! You are in the right place, my friend. 😍 Now you can get the right, research backed answers to your questions and have the fun and turned on sex life you’ve been longing for. 👉🏼 📲 Be sure to hit that subscribe button and never miss a great video!</p>yes00:03:25Welcome!trailer